I wish they taught kids about relationships in schools. The more I see Matthew's videos, the more I realize that there's so much to learn about creating and maintaining relationships. You can't just go into a relationship and expect things to naturally work. Our childhood programming has so much effect on how we act in relationships.

@armandotrenton194

2 жыл бұрын

You all prolly dont give a damn but does someone know of a way to log back into an Instagram account? I somehow lost the login password. I would love any help you can offer me.

I'm finally in a relationship where when he says he loves me I can actually feel it. When we sit across the room from each other and observing each other its amazing. Just like Matt said the butterflies are still there.

I can hear some of Ester Perel’s words on this matter :)

@giuliatraverso-breakingthi7003

4 жыл бұрын

So.Asmâa me too! Desire is de-siderea, looking at the starts from apart 😉

@wanjiruchelagat6565

4 жыл бұрын

@@alexandra-px9nz really? I didn't hear that but it's soo cool. I adore both of them

The butterflies for me would be to feel that he genuinely cares for people around them and will also care for me..😇

I'm in an amazing relationship now with the right man, followed matthew for years ( in the non stalker sense ha ) he's taken me from the wrong things to the right things. Now I'm in something amazing, building for a future with a man who has already planned me into his future and it feels amazing. At 33 had my fair share of heartbreak ( we all have ) to any watching who thinks it's never working for them or the advice doesn't seem to change anything stick with it . I've realised now all of his advice really does really work, I Still watch the videos as I love to stay refreshed as it's important even being with someone not to lose or forget the things you have learned along the way. Thanks Matthew xxx

@Whoeverwhateverwhenever

4 жыл бұрын

You found your good man at 33?

@charlottesmith5760

4 жыл бұрын

Great point on staying refreshed in your relationship, we all forget the even small things that matter the most in building successful relationships. Much Happiness to you and Thanks for sharing your experience. ❤👏

@1forlive1999

4 жыл бұрын

This one is the best compliment. Stay happiness! ^_^

@Jazzybluemia

4 жыл бұрын

@@Whoeverwhateverwhenever I am blessed too and I think a positive attitude and lots of Matthews videos have helped with that wish you all the best too

@Jazzybluemia

4 жыл бұрын

@@travisl9201 me too that made me laugh me too!

I know this girl. She came from the same college as mine. She is still the confident girl that I know. Good for her that she now in a long term relationship. :)

@lawansuksyiemlieh4848

4 жыл бұрын

Aww 💕

Desire exist in space. Thank you so much❤️

Even in a content and happy relationship, Matt always finds a way to teach me new things about relationships which is still relevant to me.... thanks matt!!!

Single and working on being so much of a person so my future parter gets lost in butterflies😌🦋

@LunarEdge7

4 жыл бұрын

That is a beautiful goal to have there.

Hi Matthew, please tell us about green flags. Not just what to avoid, but for what to search in the other person 🙂 Like, a whole video dedicated to that would be awesome.

@erinthompson7517

4 жыл бұрын

I think he chooses not to because what we want in a person varies from person to person

@TaMarAaQ

4 жыл бұрын

Chuck and what exactly is your problem? As if every woman is the same... Some women did not get a healthy example of what to look for in a relationship growing up, which is why they are choosing the wrong guys. I think it has fairly little to do with them looking for a retirement plan most of the time. Wouldn’t it be a good idea then, to show these woman what to look for if they want a healthy relationship?

@cristal_spark

4 жыл бұрын

​@@erinthompson7517 I understand that we all have preferences, I meant general things. Like .. the ability to willingly change. - you tell your guy to stop calling you pumpkin and he stops doing that because he sees it is irritating you. Or similar goals - he wants to build a house, you do too .. etc.

@tamikajade7927

4 жыл бұрын

Chuck you alright mate? “You women” this “you women” that. Sounding like an incel 😪👏🏼 Take a fucking seat and chill x

@erinthompson7517

4 жыл бұрын

@@cristal_spark then watch his videos "top 6 traits to look for in a high value man" ??

Best questions ever. Thank you to the woman who was bold enough to get up and ask this. His answer was simple yet insightful.

I really love the advice you give. I love that I (as someone on the austistic spectrum) can now better navigate through life (and social situations) due to the things I have learned through your videos, for the 8 years since I have discovered this channel, like communicating your standards and feelings, knowing when to let go of someone, and learning how to see your value and create a life worth living... So glad to have access to that sacred knowledge You're magical (And not because you look like David Radcliffe)

This was such a fun and informative event! Matthew was so charming and smart during his talk. I'm so glad I went

What a spot on, my God I needed this without even realizing.

Honestly... SO simple yet SO freaking effective. I’m amazed. lol

Keep up the excellent work Matt! Great stuff!

Love the way you explain that, Matthew 😊

Another Great video Matthew, keeping it Real for your audience. Looove this! ❤👏🤗

I love the "fire of desire" analogy

Great question with greater answer!! Thank you!

Omg! Until now i can't believe i was part of this life changing event! Can't wait for your retreat to be held here. We have Coron, Panglao and loads of beaches to offer. Please consider our lovely country.. Ppppplllleeeeaaasssseeee 🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏

@FreelancingwithFaith

4 жыл бұрын

#jealous ... didn't know he visited. It was too late when I found out.

@coneyteston5738

4 жыл бұрын

@@FreelancingwithFaith I'm so sorry to hear this. I just got the notice thru his IG story. Are you following him in IG as well?

@FreelancingwithFaith

4 жыл бұрын

@@coneyteston5738 I don't follow him on IG and I don't use the platform that much. But I watch all his videos here so I was surprised he didn't say anything about it on his videos. =( Thanks for replying to this message though.

@coneyteston5738

4 жыл бұрын

@@FreelancingwithFaith your welcome! 😊 That's sad to hear but based on what i noticed, he's more active in IG than here. He posts most of his activities there and put a link there for his videos here. I hope you can consider checking his IG as well. 😉

Mindset is changeable,its all about awarness,consciousness,how we see ourselves.Getting detached from thougths,not react to feelings to get into the place of neutrality.Only from that place we can tap into unknown,into uncertainty.From that point on we are changing ourselves,our subconsciousness.You are full and complete allready.Stop chasing and wanting.If you overreact to butterflies and want to force a moment and reality to happen thr way you intend its from ego.Your gona be your own enemy if the things dont go your way,the ressistance is build.Instead know there are biliom realities,it doesnt have to be your way.What is your way anyway?Its just the power given over some beliefs.Dont trust yourself on some levels,be bold to let go.Its so easy to choose your vibration or to have high awarness about your partner if you are there at "let go",flexible with thougths and not forcing anything.Thats the flow state.Stop using avatars "im this,im fat,im lazy" stop believing in the own story!The problem can not be solved from the same level of consciousness it was created.Change the feelings,thougths,behaviours slowly and see how your awarness is raising.

At a moment, I felt he speak Ester Perle's idea on space and desire.

@sqoishicasette

4 жыл бұрын

Yes he is, he has stated other times that he said he follows her work.

Love this! Can you please do a video about how to tell if there is too much teasing too much in a relationship? My boyfriend makes fun of me sometimes, like if I tell a lame joke. I really don't like it, but I don't know how to tell him so in a kind and constructive way. And I don't know what kind of teasing is okay and when it starts to hurt and annoy me. Thanks, Matthew!

I really really needed to learn this. At my age!

Manila loves you Matthew! 🇵🇭😍😉

Another great Video ❤️

Wow!!! You were in Manila?? I didn’t know about it. 😭 I would have loved to attend one of your talks too.

Love the analogy you gave. Fire needs oxygen to breathe

Perfect point👌🏻👌🏻❤️

Thank you for the advice

I love your videos Matthew! 😸😸

Love it. Love it. Love it.

get to the question lady!

Love this content, should me more tips for people in recent or even long term relationships :)

keep it up mathew..

Waaahhh! I miss you in manila! 😔

Yay its in Philippines!? Also this is so good!

Omg! 😮 Mathew my love 😍😍😊 Did you just come here in the Philippines? 🇨🇿

Great Job 👌👌👌

Interesting love this ❤❤❤ seperation can cause desire but in the right way ...

Ugh he is so handsome

@matthewhussey Anyone else low-key crushing on the Matthew - Jaimeson bromance? 😏🙊 Love the shared sense of humour between you both, that combine to achieve the perfect balance of hilarity & authenticity apparent in every message conveyed through your videos 👌🏼 🎥 2019 and still nailing it... Even in watching these older videos - the unique style, tone and quality have remained consistently entertaining and informative, year in and year out ✅♥️ Collaborative partnership on point💯 The pertinent themes, and idiosyncratic spirit of their delivery, have continued to maintain an essence of avant-garde originality I have come to fervently associate with all of your work Matt- all the while auspiciously and perpetually evolving 🔄⏳Evolving conjointly with the incredible community you have built, and additionally - in your own awareness & understanding with regard to relevant academic literature, the latest theoretical concepts & philosophies, popular ideologies, and the contemporary social climate 🔀 ☮️ 🌏 The resultant achievement is both impressively clear and clearly impressive 🤩🙌🏼 And as a consequence of the amazing dedication & tenacious hard work that is visibly discernable throughout the years, it is unequivocally evident ~and undeniably deserved~ that not only will your community invariably innervate & expand its growth (whilst remaining enthusiastically & avidly loyal❕) but this channel (in addition to the business as a whole ™️Ⓜ️♓️™️) will without doubt, both augment and expand exponentially - as well as categorically thrive in the process 😎🔝 Hence it is with a quietly presupposed countenance that I feel confident in articulating an assertion on behalf of your audience as a whole, and proffer our earnest appreciation - with a stupendously sincere, genuinely grateful and notably necessary THANKYOU‼️🤗 Thankyou for the aforementioned dedication & hard work that has ardently kept us laughing, learning, and LIVING 🎭📚🌀 Living purposefully, with a positive mindset and as zoetically as possible - without EVER letting us forget our own intrinsic value 🥰✨❄️ Furthermore, I would also like to express a personal THANKYOU... 🙏🏼 Thankyou for your commitment to (pun intended 😂), and transparency with, your own drive for personal growth & development 💪🏼🤓 I find this both inspirational AND aspirational❣️💡📖 It serves as reinforcement for my own conviction that my interest in the same area, & the enjoyment I derive from investing in this field, is personally beneficial as well as conducive to my pursuit of ‘overall well-being and happiness’ ~or, more accurately, "Eudaemonia"~ 🙃 Moreover, observing a professional that I admire (whose vocational purpose really resonates with me) place such value on that which I personally also value very highly, helps to provide that extra dose of encouragement & motivation that can, quite often, be indispensable - especially on the occasions where I find that my own motivational levels have manifestly decided on an obstinate attitude & their waning appears imminent 🧠🔋 ⏸🆙▶️ 🔛 Sooo... apologies for the above dissertation 🤭😬 I tried to temper the thesis-ness with some emoji accents to keep it fun - noone enjoys dry brainal right? 😝 I just felt compelled to send some love and gratitude your way 💞 For a number of reasons that I've most likely (definitely) mentioned, AND, because genuine quality is becoming harder & harder to find these days - and therefore, needs to be recognised accordingly and shown authentic appreciation as often as possible... And in as much detail as possible. Obviously. 🧐😍 💜 - An overly loquacious Australian, who maaay have a tendency towards the verbose, but whose heart is in the right place - and always has the best of intentions 🇦🇺🤓😊 💌 Alarna x

When did you visit the Philippines? I am clueless where to know about these kinds of interactions/events live. I am even subscribed to the newsletter.

@skYt9139

4 жыл бұрын

Oct 19th. I was there. A very down to earth guy... Waaay better in person!

You will give good advice but how much do you follow your own advice Mathew? I have been watching your videos for a while and you help so much.

Omg why did I miss this???? So sad... Huhuhu I wish I could be there...

OKAY I CANT FOCUS U LOOK GOOD AS HELL IN MANILA

Personally I think butterflies happen at the beginning of a relationship and that they die later on. Too many people probably think their relationship isn't good enough because they don't experience the butterflies. We shouldn't be in a relationship to get a selfish experience. Instead we should be showing gratitude for our partner and ourselves and make lovely memories together. Having said that when desire dies down, I've found this to be when i live with my partner, of course it sucks and we want to reignite the fire. I think being practical all the time and sometimes being so comfortable with each other that we might let our egos get the better of us, that's a desire killer. You're right that desire needs space to breathe, and to remember our partner is a separate person to us. In my relationship I have a lower sex drive, even though when I'm single I have a high one. I felt about this the other night and tried to create intimacy, but as I was forcing it to please my partner I just couldn't so we had a chat. He's very supportive and understanding about it, and then after our conversation I think because we connected emotionally I was up for it lol I guess we're all different, but I have a strong belief that when you're around your partner a lot and the relationship becomea more practical, creating space and finding more time to connect emotionally can help that desire.

This !🙌🤗🌠

Cant wait for you to come back to Manila! ♥️

When is the next Manila session????

When are you coming to Brisbane , Australia Matt?

@firenzeong317

4 жыл бұрын

May I know who liked my comment?

@IPoopOnYouEveryLastOneOfYou

4 жыл бұрын

No. Case closed.

@rouamamoun9867

4 жыл бұрын

🤣🤣That's mean

what video is she talking about where matthew crossed out all the other guys?

I really don't think I'd have this issue if I ever get in a relationship again. But will remember this for future reference if I'm wrong. Lol

I believe this is in Manila? hahaha Filipino here. :)

I miss the novelty in my long term ldr relationship.

OMG YOU WENT HERE???? I DIDNT KNOWWWW

“I like when you engage with me . If you are interested. Chit chat with me so I get to know you.. I would love to hear about your day 🥰”. Is that a good response?

He was in Manila?!! Omg..😔😔

What vid was she referring to?

Yaaaas ! 18th like 💚✅🍀🌴

HELP and advice please! i asked my long time bf to have space..were long dstance for 3years never meet in person but i accepted the fact tha we have to wait more than six years cuz of his probation..We used to be a happy couple contented or i should say i used to be a happy fiance..after all my failed relationships finaly i cound him someone who stays who commit to the point that he tells me every little detail that lately i find it unaattractive anymore..I only see my self response as a habit and duty as a fiance..We have good future plans weve hone through alot but theres no more happiness and butterflies..his a nice respecting kind of person too nice that even if i asked him to show me his angry or upset about my doings towards him he refused to..His becoming too needy that i felt suffocated cuz i have my own problems here too..He tried not to bombard me with his problems and just make sure to give me the i love yous and how are you daily trying to communicate but i d9nt have the interest to give it back..i cared for him realy and he makes me happy feel needed and appreciated and loved that i wanted to stay but i cant help it i still dony have the feeling of needs to do it to return his love..i didint know what changes when at first we are like this already..our first year was a struggle our second year is a bliss but this year is a confussion i wanna see wats wrong can i still save this relationship can i bring back the spark and butterflies? my fiance descicion and life got limited and controled becaude of his probation ehich startedin in the half of our first year we get through it but after 2 and half years my feelings is falling apart what should i do? im desperate i wanna save it..i dont wanna leave him behung feeling alone and lonely...Were like the mirror of each other with same personlities ethics and goals..can i do some thing to save us or should i let go? please i need help..

This is in Philippines for sure, as noticeable in their accent

When was he in the Philippines?! 😭😭😭 I wish I knew.

-loveyou-

I think that those butterflys always go away and agape comes .. that Is called evolution of a relationship, first you have all those quimics going on, AND then you construct a friendship and Trust, there Is where you cant act as a friend, you must mantein the flame on... Keep desire on sex, ve creative, and dont Let youself lose on that, mantein details, good sex AND adventure turn on.

@anapmora1

4 жыл бұрын

By the way, @mattheyhussey do you ever think coming to latín América? Uruguay Is waitiing for you, and me...

@LolSnimci

4 жыл бұрын

There is a way around but its all in guys hands.The guy can keep the relationship on the point,but he needs a lot of awarness and never taking the things for granted,rather appriciating everything they have build up together.There is a guy on yt who is like a eye opening for the men.Most of the guys dont have the idea its all in their hands,they can choose.

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Hello , Was wondering if someone could help me with this current dilemma I’m going through .... So I was in a serious relationship with my first love but it was toxic and went through a lot in the relationship and we ended up ending it mutually because we could both see things weren’t going well and his depression progressed to the point where he didn’t even want me around anymore ... so I had the worst time on my own for the next four months and decided to move to another country to work and I did and after that 2 weeks settling in I meet this guy and he was so sweet but it seemed like he only wanted a good time .... I met this other guy a few days after and we spend a lot of yime together because we part of the same group so I started liking him but he told me he’s not ready to be in something serious as he was in a very serious relationship aswell and wants to find himself etc ... what do I do ??

I want the link to the video with the red Xs...anyone know?

♡

i really need help Matthew how can we talk

He is so handsome and hot ❤️💕💕❤️😍😘 love you Matthew

@barbarawilson3153

3 жыл бұрын

Why can't all men be like Matthew hussey and it'd be so much easier for us women

Jameson is HOT!!

❤️👍

Nah i Will try hold my desire

Why she bring her daughter with her?

This is my problem. I lose interest so easy.

Can you marry me ? And we build a big family with 5 children

Matthew, ur doing a great job but ppl are different mentally and emotionally! The rules ur mentioning don’t apply to everyone

The fact that he pedestalizes her is the problem.

Ok so this guys broke up with me after 2 years of dating through a text message , this was the second time he it . I respected his wish which was that he needed space , did not look for him talk to him nothing . After a month he texted me , he wanted to hang out and I did if . Of course I should’ve known better , nothing came out of it , he kept initiating the invitations to hang out but we weren’t together he still kept me at a distance . Until 2 weeks ago when he posted a picture with another girl , of course I asked and he said she’s a friend and yes they do hook up and that I shouldn’t be mad because he cares about me but that me and him aren’t dating and that we don’t work out as a couple according to him . Soooo what the fuck ???!! My heart wants to bother and still try and get him back but my brain and everyone else are telling me he is a pile of shit . What do you suggest ? And also whoever’s reads this what do you guys suggest ?

@TheOnlyFairee

4 жыл бұрын

You deserve better than that. Do you want a guy that could leave you over text again? If he prefers to casually hook up with someone than be with you, he doesn't want you. And you deserve someone who gives you all their love!

@crisp7575

3 жыл бұрын

You need to respect yourself otherwise no one will respect you

Men constantly treated and portrayed like pigs and criminals for exhibiting sexual intentions, then the same women advocating for this shit turning and taking courses to get men feeling desire for them, approaching them, etc.. yet not a word on that, because this business thrives on telling women what they want to hear instead of what they need, despite of it working on their detriment.

Getting into his mind by expertly knocking down his psychological walls and making him tingle with feelings of pleasure, means you're going it right. There are many "canned phrases" to make it happen, but maybe go’ogling something like Celestine Dessike's ideas can hit the nail on the head.

Well, try go'ogling Celestine Dessike's Words of Desire for one example that never fails. Even if you were able to speak halfway like a trained pro, it would make such a huge difference... as long as you're also into it lol.

When I find the one i don’t want to live with him so we won’t lose the desire. How can I marry someone without living with them I wonder lol

@leviogle7228

2 жыл бұрын

Find a partner that travels for a living

This whole butterfly thing long term isn’t real.

@LolSnimci

4 жыл бұрын

It can be.One needs to change his awarness and approach.Dont let something become overused even in your mind.Go slowly with flow of the moment itself without forcing different realities.If you are able to see different reality each day you wake up and spend that day with your partner,your world is a huge possibility in quantum field of possibilities.The life becomes like a dream.It all comes from the inside but the problem might be when our percepcion gets diluted after stress,works,mental exaustion,lowering our own consciousness and changing self image to worse.Then reality starts to look diferently and we tend to panic the things are not going as planed and we see this person as a problem or as a wasted potential and we connect from lower levels of consciousness and then it looks differently.I tend to take some things for granted but then i remember how gratefull i am for them,i start to appriciate others,life and myself in general and then you see your partner with the same eyes as before.Id say to connect only from place of neutrality or pure joy.Those bonds last for long.Maybe im delusional but the reality is only how we percieve it.

@amberdrake4916

4 жыл бұрын

Been going 7 plus years for me

@haileyfortson8362

4 жыл бұрын

It is.. lpl

Why don't u give clear ideas

Keep desire alive? Try to be many different women at once, I dare you. In our world with facebook, instagram, fake lips and fake asses, he will always look and fantasize about other women.

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