So to sum it up: Don't be a flat character, be a dynamic character, who's well-rounded and interesting. Think of side characters in TV shows vs the main characters.

@KatherineHardie

3 жыл бұрын

Dear Lindsay, yes that sums it up… And, may I add, even more than being a “dynamic character…” It’s being true to the freak flag that you need to fly! And, if you’re in a rut, access your patterns of endorphins / “atta girl” hits from youth, which possibly keep you tunnelled in a narrow path. Those powerful emotions are quietly directing you, and -oops- maybe worthy of an armpit test? Busted: I raise my hand/ arm to that (sniff test)! 😝 thanks for inspiring my comment!

wow this hit me hard. Growing up, my source of validation was always getting good grades. After graduating, that was a rude awakening because all of a sudden, life wasn't just about submitting assignments and getting good grades

@IEVAKambarovaite

3 жыл бұрын

I totally get this. I for years got my self-worth based on my professional achievements. Writing a book, getting into the next fancy thing to do. But being a good friend and daughter, having fun in life and working on my channel and my little DIY projects is just as much important.

@kevinvanhorsing5141

3 жыл бұрын

@EMMANULE TV who is David..sorry l like Mathew

@lailahadouni2247

3 жыл бұрын

I was just like you!

@matthewwilliams6177

3 жыл бұрын

Same

@audraelynnegrimmelhaussen8808

2 жыл бұрын

Same here. Growing up in an Asian household I was taught that grades and being in top of my class makes me a good girl. But now I know it's not just about smarts.

You’ve evolved as well Matt, from a relationship coach into a life coach which makes me want to watch your videos more now

@farahshbeeb7954

3 жыл бұрын

He truly did!!! And it’s so inspiring omg

@mariyamarshad4836

2 жыл бұрын

Absolutely true!!!! So much growth, ma Sha Allah!

@sun_rose123

2 жыл бұрын

He has evolved in the last 4 years which has made him more humble in his advice and less strategic, which makes me feel relatable to him ❤️

@johnemmy3913

2 жыл бұрын

All you in here just losting after him; period!

Being in love, is the hardest thing for me, loving someone and one day they lose interest just like that. It cazy hurts, i just recently started watching his videos to change myself

@HouseMDaddict

3 жыл бұрын

Definitely make sure you're seeing the person as they are and not just how you want them to be. Sometimes we want to be "enough" for someone to change their ways (blame romance novels and movies for this kind of thinking) but in the end, it's "their ways" and either we either except them as they are or we move on. Matthew sums it up perfectly by saying that people often go after the "potential" in a relationship instead of the "reality" of the relationship.

@cheery-hex

3 жыл бұрын

you will succeed b/c you want to change yourself. change that thing in you that is attracting those who lose interest

@raineeem1677

3 жыл бұрын

U can do it giirl i hope u find ur inner peace and find yourself again, and know that everything is going to be just fine ❤️

@EadsB7002

3 жыл бұрын

Yes, remember it all starts with you! Bringing the focus back on yourself will enhance other areas. People don't lose interest in others who have a well-rounded life and who always love/respect/put themselves first. Sounds contradictory, but it is what works...in life and in romance!

@arrishdianne4007

3 жыл бұрын

Thanks for all the support and love

In summary: Put in the work to be multi-faceted, multi-dimensional -- interesting, passionate, skilled, confident -- in multiple areas! That will make you valuable, irreplaceable, and help build your confidence. Great advice!

Really appreciate this video. I was a ballet dancer, working in New York City. That’s an all-encompassing life since it’s so demanding. I developed a degenerative nerve disorder so I can’t dance like I used to anymore and some days even walking is hard. My confidence all came from my physical capabilities. Losing it was actually a blessing because it forced me to see myself in new ways. This was a great reminder of that 🙏🏻

@immers2410

Жыл бұрын

Thanks for sharing. I went through something similar after having Crohn’s disease in my late thirties. As a guy, I’m still finding it difficult to adjust to a the new way of being

"I'm a lot of things, but not being good enough is not one of them". Know your value which is ALL of who you are!

This rings so true. I lost my job last year in an almost violent way. During the very first lock down. So I was completely cut off from my work and colleagues. The only narrative I was hearing was one that was untrue and also extremely negative. As it was lock down I couldn't even see my family so there was no positive reinforcement or a chance for me to see myself through the eyes of those who love me. I had to reintroduce myself to myself. Who was I when what had validated me had been completely stripped away. This is an ongoing journey but I'm coming out the other side and am very careful on how I define myself. I am so many different things and am much more balanced in feeding the different parts of my soul. Thanks for sharing. Although it was a little late for me as my work ethic had already mutated, your video showed me I'm right in diversifying the parts of myself I feed.

This becomes extremely relevant as you move away from the grind of life and realize that major life events like a spouse dying or job loss or becoming an empty nester force you to have something other than the routine skills you honed in that former phase of life. Well done as always.

I really like this new direction you have taken. Dating tips are nice, but helping people BE better is much more helpful. You also seem much more passionate, grounded and mature when you talk in this topic. I like it for you.

“There are other legs under the table” - fabulous analogy. Thanks for another great video Matthew 😊💖

I agree…last year my right foot went numb…within two weeks I was numb up to my chest. Having been known for a strong body and always working out, I said Lord…at least my hands still work. I brought out my paints which calm my anxiousness about what was happening. Over the course of time, all my feeling came back in the same weird way it disappeared and I’ve now been in two art shows and I was successful. A full mri showed nothing so I was helpless but many other things kept me going! Develop skills, love people, listen to God and become well rounded!

You hit the nail on the head in the first two minutes! 🤯😩 This is why I LOVE your videos! 💖

YES!!!!! this is the big thing that is easily missed. you’re now officially Life Coach Matthew Hussey. ☺️

I feel like I really needed this video today. I've been a hard worker all my life and I realized it was my profession that really gave me meaning and purpose. But a year ago I decided to take a break because of the stress and just focus on learning more and now I'm looking to get back to working which is obviously hard with the Pandemic. I'm now struggling because I always got my "validation" through my work or through my merit and learning. Its odd because my friends and family see "the other legs under the table" in my personality but I am struggling to. Thanks for this Matt. Its lovely to see how your videos have morphed from dating advice to actually feeling more secure, confident and getting stronger as a person! Your videos are always so positive and helpful :)

This is so true. I think this why every time I can walk away from a person doesn't value me easily. Because their validation is not the only resource of my confidence. And I learned from past experience and provide a better unique package to the next.

I am SO glad your teaching has evolved to self-mastery, with relationships as an add-on. YES!

I just came here to say thank you, you saved my life, I went from being totally depressed because of someone that used me as a one night stand to someone more confident and I could finally get married with other man who really valued me. Now I am going through a similar fase but it’s more about my insecurities and jealousy from his past. But you and some other stuff really saved me from the burden of always being chasing a man. So thank a million again! :)

@francom6230

3 жыл бұрын

Hey cutie.. you are an adult now, it's perfectly okay to play.. times really have changed cuz noone cares how many guys you've known in this century.. not every event has to be magic. Honestly, y'all used each other this time. Maybe he wasn't a good man or just got scared. I'm old & nice, but true narcissist are the 3% Alpha men & women --- they make for bad relationships for regular nice people imo.

@marionkent1111

3 жыл бұрын

Hello

I cannot wait for the Virtual Retreat! Best thing I've done in forever. So excited!!!

MATTHEW HUSSEY, BY LISTENING TO YOUR VOICE ENOUGH TO DRIVE MY THOUGHTS TOWARDS POSITIVITY. THANK YOU SO MUCH 🥰

Just finished the virtual retreat in March. If anyone is on the fence about attending .... JUST DO IT! I am soooo grateful for everything I took away from it. Mathew and his team are absolute life changers! Make that decision and do something for yourself to take your life to the next level. Thank you Matt!

This video has just made feel so amazing. I was always ashamed of all the things I’m able to do, I would hide it from others. Not sure how I came about to thinking that way, but I like your theory way better than mine. I thank you. 🙏🏽

I totally hear you Matthew! Unique pairings are important. I have always got validation from work and missed out other areas. Thank you for your reminder and I am back to developing more legs of my table!

Thank you for introducing me to the concept of unique pairings. I now see it in people I absolutely adore

Yes!!!Our biggest strengths are our biggest weaknesses.❤ I've been following you for a couple years and love all your work. I would love to see you do a cooking video!!!Please!!!! Now that would be an amazing pairing😍

Thank you so much Mathew for changing our lives for the better. Greetings from California.

And you can be all of these things and then people start to feel threatened or " outshined " by you. So you find yourself minimizing aspects of yourself so that as not to threaten other. Someone I dated ... Complex story Said to me ... You are the full package ... Its not fair that you are so good at everything. You can rock an evening gown and run around naked in a waterfall. He actually said . Its not fair to other women. Then he left me ...with very little warning... Except when I looked back and pin pointed them could I see them. He tried to come back and get closure but I said no. Too much time and too much hurt. I guess he realized I was not a person who was in the dozen a penny category. I have a lot of unique pairings. I find that it intrigues people and it also threatens them. At the end of the day I have to feel good about my own authenticity. Finding someone whom we align and he walks in his has proven to be challenging. So you can have great pairings but it won't keep people interested if they don't know who they are.

@anjagoller

3 жыл бұрын

True... might also scare guys away, especially when one of the aspects is that you're intelligent and you know you are.

@clairemosier1274

3 жыл бұрын

That's crazy but I relate to it. Ive dated a few men who thought I was too good for them and they had a paranoia that I would realize that and leave them so they treated me with resentment as if Id already hurt them...which of course made me leave.

@anjagoller

3 жыл бұрын

@@clairemosier1274 At least you had a date. I can't even get that far. I don't think that men don't date me because of the fear I would leave them. It just lowers their selfconfidence for whatever reason. When I'm willing to date a guy with an intelligence a bit lower than mine then I'm doing it because I still think it could work out. It's not like I don't get he's less intelligent and I think intelligent women instantly know when a guy is less intelligent, but so what? Pretending doesn't work either way because we will know anyways.

@kagomeotilia

3 жыл бұрын

I feel every word... 'Struggled too many times to downsize myself to not intimidate... But I'm growing more to be authentic to myself... You made a wonderful point... "At the end of the day, I have to feel good about my own authenticity"... I just screenshoted your comment...

@anjagoller

3 жыл бұрын

@goose No, I don't. And I know that there are many different forms of intelligence. But I want to be able to have a balanced conversation with my partner. That doesn't mean that I want to talk about difficult subjects but I don't want to feel superior to a partner. Maybe it's not so much intelligence what I'm looking for but just the general feeling we're equal. That includes that I also must be sure that he's willing to treat me equally. I never said that I look at someone and judge his intelligence. But when you have a conversation you can find out quite fast if someone is just pretending and that for this reason pretending to be smarter than you actually are is pointless.

Wow... this is so powerful! Thank you so much. 💯

matthew i love you so much. you really are making my life better everyday. thank you

This is my fav video of all time, I just love hearing it again and again. thank you Matthew ❤

Powerful video Matthew, you always nail it with your content! 👏👏👏👏👏😀❤

LOVE YOU, MATTHEW!!! grateful for all this

Matthew, Matthew, Matthew! Awesome video today and I swear something I was just thinking about on my way to work. I rely on the fact that I am successful at work and anyone should want to be with someone like me, but lately I realised that I give this so much importance, that I have not developed other areas of who I am. I almost take it personal if a guy picks a girl that has a simpler job, perhaps not so brainy, and feel that, just because I have a better position, men should fall instantly for me. I have yet to learn to cultivate myself more. Thanks for addressing this so well!

Hello Matt. Thank you for sharing this concept. 😊 What I summed up from this mini seminar is to essentially diversify ourselves. Perhaps be multifaceted, not necessarily be 100% great all the things we do - be it hobbies in our personal lives, or goals in our professional - but simply be open to ideas and be able to merge them into our daily lives. Being diversified with different combinations of the unique pairings makes me feel it all boils down to having balance in our lives. A balance that may result in a certain image of us that gives that sense of being irreplaceable.

This is just FANTASTIC!!! Unique pairings... Your videos are simply presented with such a punch always! I have just been told I am "deep and intellectual yet have powerful kindred spirit"... I thought that was cool... Now I see the unique pairing in that... Thanks MH♥️

Be the truest you that You can be🙏💙

I am so grateful for myself I learned English so I have access to such amazing and eyes opening content! Thank you especially for this video!

I think I knew about this before now but it wasn't as straightened out as you've made it; thank you Mathew. Your videos have always been different; your unique pairing sure makes you different

Damn Matthew! This is the best thing I could listen to on a Monday morning! It's going to be hard to find another thing that beats this! You frigging nailed it! Ace👌👌👌

Possibly one of the best videos I have ever watched

I hid a lot of my qualities behind the easy routes of validation and still do but it got me half loves and short term happiness with women should have never been with …thank you for reassuring me of its perfectly okay to be goofy and light hearted with intellectual energy

0:15 ¡What a work of art!

Damn, you just made me realize my ex used to see me like that. I never understood what he meant when he said I was "very rare" and why he wouldn't let me go to the point I had to force him to.

Amen!! Hell no to building and focusing your identity on one thing... ♥️♥️♥️

Great content as always, Matthew

You do not know how much I needed this

Watching this gave me goosebumps

I really enjoyed this ☺️

Babe, you’ve got all the pairings, been here for 7 years 😘😘

I feel like that a lot of my legs broke since the pandemic. This makes me really sad sometimes. I value my relationship too much because of all this.

This is absolutely wonderful 👏👏👏 Thank You, Matt 🌷

SUPERLIKE Mathew! Loved it!

More videos like this please Matt, beautiful video 🙌🙌

Thank you so much for the reminder Matthew! During the pandemic, I had a rough time because of lockdowns and not being able to run my business, and I had a lot of anxiety about it. Having multiple legs under the table is such a KEY to life.

@marionkent1111

3 жыл бұрын

Hello

Clicked like before watching this video because i know Matthew will deliver content with value!

This really is the master key🍃

Dear Matthew G .This has so much to taught and so large to confine it in words .Your evolution to be on the Top globally which you richly deserve .All the ingredients to be confident to bring life in this life that makes irreplaceable and handle perfectly what comes along when you have one who have so much more to give . Thanks nd much care😘

@rartinderkaur3499

3 жыл бұрын

Thanks so much for your kind advice .I will surely go with your advice with help .

Nailed it once again man

Spot on. Nicely done, Matthew.

@Shean_1

3 жыл бұрын

I definitely agree with you

I remember you talking about “unique pairings” at your Sydney seminar a few years back - this one really struck a cord then and even now. So so good! 🤍

@marionkent1111

3 жыл бұрын

Hello

waaw Mathew this is it...wanted to hear this in long time...amazing.the pairing works for me waw

I can sense that you don’t want to be boxed in and neither should you be! I love your energy, wisdom and authenticity and so does everyone else. I’d listen to you no matter what area you decided to discuss! You’re so much more than a dating coach and I’m loving the life coaching angle. Thanks for always brightening up my weekends with your words Xx

@marionkent1111

3 жыл бұрын

Hello

very well said, matthew 👏🏻❤

i am unique , we just need to believe ourselves

Excellent advice

Immediately tugged on the strings of my heart when he referenced spending all day in the gym and getting injured.. 😅

It's super interesting content, made me think about it. And that's the content I like the most. Keep doing what you doing Matthew

This video got me emotional

Thank you that is such an insightful paradigm … thanks a lot Matthew … yes we wanna enjoy our life-story 🥳🙌 … stepping out of the comfort zone and being an adventurer of life

This is an amazing content. ❤️

Love this!

Matthew!!! I’ve been listening to you for almost 3 years now and you have helped me so much become the woman I want to be! I have a list of people and things that make me like myself more and you’re one of the people on my list🥰 Hope to be able to thank you and give you a hug in person one day! You’re a difference maker! 💗🤗

@erichappiness8816

3 жыл бұрын

I recommend you to a man who can help you manifest whoever you want to manifest within two-day ♥️♥️♥️

@erichappiness8816

3 жыл бұрын

He was the person who helped me manifest back my ex three days ago with out delay 💯💯

@erichappiness8816

3 жыл бұрын

Whtsaap him**

Love it ... unique pairing

Couldn't agree more!!❤️

Thank you!

That’s some spot on psychology 🙌🏼🙌🏼🙌🏼

Great advice😍😍😍

Re-subscribed, well done!

I certainly want a man like you to be in my life. Thank you for being Mathew 😊❤😍🙋

Brillant like always!! Thanks for your videos and time!

@virginiamaglier

3 жыл бұрын

Hahahahahah funny boot :)

@marionkent1111

3 жыл бұрын

Hello dear you seem adorable

Hi Matt, thanks for your thoughts presented in this video. You are right, of course, but there is also a trap which is good to be aware of. If you choose too many things which you like to do and you become good at that and you don't want to give up anything of your hobbies and interests, then you can end up at your Chinese acupuncturist hearing something like that: "your liver, your heart, your kidneys... are entirely depleted. Hey man, you should rest more!" :-D... btw I love your videos, it is always fun and wise together. What a unique pairing! :-)

Mind blowing.

Thank you gentleman 👍👍 Brilliant prologue, excellent research 👏👏👏

@jacklake2568

3 жыл бұрын

Text him on WhatsApp

It took me YEARS to realize this... but hearing it again is a good reminder. Plus, it reflects my personal growth for me. Maybe I'm doing better than I think. Thanks for this!

@erichappiness8816

3 жыл бұрын

I recommend you to a man who can help you manifest whoever you want to manifest within two-day ♥️♥️♥️

@erichappiness8816

3 жыл бұрын

He was the person who helped me manifest back my ex three days ago with out delay 💯💯

@erichappiness8816

3 жыл бұрын

Whtsaap him**

@erichappiness8816

3 жыл бұрын

✝2 3 4 9 1 5 2 0 5 2 0 6 3......

I have many unique pairings 🤩 And yes it is helpful and beneficial that your content is expanding from dating advice. Thank you for all you do for the community.

@marionkent1111

3 жыл бұрын

Hello dear

The is SO valuable. Please do meow videos on this & expand on this concept.

So good Matthew, so proud of you!

@erichappiness8816

3 жыл бұрын

I recommend you to a man who can help you manifest whoever you want to manifest within two-day ♥️♥️♥️

@erichappiness8816

3 жыл бұрын

He was the person who helped me manifest back my ex three days ago with out delay 💯💯

@erichappiness8816

3 жыл бұрын

Whtsaap him**

@erichappiness8816

3 жыл бұрын

✝2 3 4 9 1 5 2 0 5 2 0 6 3......

So great 🤩

Love this video! I followed you for advice on dealing with a partner (which I get from your dating advice) and stayed because your advice is actually life advice 🙏🏾❤️

Listening to Matthew talk about the unique pairings and realizing that’s my personality !! & frustrated because idk why I’m still single 😒

@catrina3909

3 жыл бұрын

Don’t worry love is everywhere you just gotta let go of expectations a bit and when you see an opportunity as they say go for it!

Mathew, thank you for explaining how I feel. I knew how i felt but I couldn’t completely identify it all the a problem with my momentum in life and I just want to thank you for helping me do that.

@erichappiness8816

3 жыл бұрын

I recommend you to a man who can help you manifest whoever you want to manifest within two-day ♥️♥️♥️

@erichappiness8816

3 жыл бұрын

He was the person who helped me manifest back my ex three days ago with out delay 💯💯

@erichappiness8816

3 жыл бұрын

Whtsaap him**

@erichappiness8816

3 жыл бұрын

✝2 3 4 9 1 5 2 0 5 2 0 6 3......

Hahaha yess I used to watch your videos 3-4 years ago, this title got me to watch you again (havent needed dating advice lol)

Wonderful

Dear Matt! LUVV this! Is this not a call to authenticity? And breaking out of the positive patterns from childhood?I I challenge you to come up with **even more unique** pairings; you know, pairs that are more unusual, not just tertiary add-ons. What about unique pairings where the stereotype is busted open wide? Like the -take an easy common media image-buff workout dude or gal who’s ALSO into... pick anything that seems SURPRISING to that… French poetry, arts and crafts, trips to Antarctica or space travel, as supposed to trips to the gym, etc., or blends caring for others with their caring of their own body, such as local, neighborhood activism, etc. Thanks for inspiring my comment! And I’ve been listening to you easily for the last eight years I would say. Keep growing! It’s beautiful to witness and be inspired by how you walk your talk! 🥰 And thanks to your team as well… Jamieson!

That’s why your number 1

Virtual retreat! I can't wait till we can do face to face retreats, again but this sounds cool

@marionkent1111

3 жыл бұрын

Hello dear

The excellent speech combined with this handwriting is also a unique pairing to me (thumb up)

@rutujaghanwat5864

4 ай бұрын

😂

Great video!

@doracabrita3194

3 жыл бұрын

@@Johnsmith-jv4sz actually I'm fine, I just like to look this Mathew channel, thank you for your suggestion.

Unique Pairing, that's the term I was looking for....I met someone with so many Unique pairings but his character and communication is off but I see your point. I need several Unique Pairings and desire to be seen the same.

I’m going to name my firstborn “Jameson”

@Quntah888

3 жыл бұрын

Is it Jameson or Jamerson? 🤔

@bellakim9404

3 жыл бұрын

Love it.. Sounds like old money. 💰 Rich..

@ceciliaramoscastillo2809

3 жыл бұрын

Love it

@leesteal4458

3 жыл бұрын

What if it is a girl? 😊

@TheLatonya999

3 жыл бұрын

@@leesteal4458 nickname “Jamie” 😊