From the age of 12 till the age of 19 my mom was not a part of my life I had told my dad that her brother in law molested me and she called me a liar and slapped me. I distanced myself from her and she disappeared from our lives for 7 years during that time I helped my dad care for my siblings. My dad remarried and his wife was not loving to us and I moved out and rarely talked to him once he remarried. My mom defended my child molester till his death. Adapting to trauma was a way of life for me. My sister became an alcoholic and homeless and that was another blow to deal with and she had a accident and ended up with a traumatic brain injury and she passed away in 2018. My parents weren't very helpful after her accident. All this pain was unbearable. I don't think deep trauma goes away.I tried to spare my kids as much as possible.

@funkibloo3811

Ай бұрын

I'm so sorry...

@yourinnerchildmatters

Ай бұрын

I'm so sorry for all you've been through. It’s incredibly brave of you to share your story. The pain you've faced, from your mom's actions to losing your sister, is unimaginable. It’s understandable that you feel deep trauma doesn't just go away. Your strength in caring for your siblings and trying to protect your own kids is truly admirable. Please remember, it's okay to seek support and take care of yourself. You deserve healing and peace.

@mariellarobles3372

Ай бұрын

@@yourinnerchildmatters thank you I am working through all the negative issues in my life to lighten my heart and mind I feel I am recovering on a daily 💜🌼💐

@mariellarobles3372

Ай бұрын

@@funkibloo3811 thanks for your compassion 💐

@yourconnection9303

Ай бұрын

I wish you healing and strength.❣️

This is quite interesting and helpful to me. Thank you. At the same time, it's not really about "how to heal from deep abandonment pain," which is the title. It's about what causes that sort of pain. Is there a video with Dr Gabor that's mostly focussed on how to heal from deep abandonment pain? If so, I'd love to know the name of the video. Thank you.

@robynhope219

26 күн бұрын

No, he hasn't healed himself, so cannot tell us how to heal.

@1chipchap

13 күн бұрын

@@robynhope219how do you know

I tried to tell my ex husband how important it was that he is kind, in front of our child. He would not take it seriously. So now he is my ex husband. Our children are the furture. Safety and love are the bare minimum, not some extra cherry on top for the specially privileged.

@kathleendinsmore7588

Ай бұрын

What you say is so true!

@earthsign7568

Ай бұрын

good job! Priorities.

@yourinnerchildmatters

Ай бұрын

I appreciate your commitment to ensuring a safe and loving environment for your children. They deserve the best.

@robynhope219

29 күн бұрын

Stop calling him psychologist...it is a LIE!​@@yourinnerchildmatters

Thank you, thank you, thank you!

@yourinnerchildmatters

Ай бұрын

thank you for watching

Thank you for this ❤

@yourinnerchildmatters

3 күн бұрын

Thank you for watching and taking the time to comment!

Powerful reminder of attachment needs and the importance of knowing this in my own life been life changing and so healing for me ❤❤

Great insights and profound thoughts right here

Thank you. ❤

@yourinnerchildmatters

Ай бұрын

I appreciate your gratitude!

Thanks 🙏

@yourinnerchildmatters

Ай бұрын

You’re welcome 😊

Thank you!

@yourinnerchildmatters

26 күн бұрын

thanks for watching!

If you were abandoned as an infant ie. left in your crib for hours alone, not held, touched, rocked or soothed, then this would have been life threatening and you will feel it deeper than 'emotional pain.'

@yourinnerchildmatters

Ай бұрын

Thank you for sharing your insight on the deep effects of early childhood experiences.

@PaigeSquared

Ай бұрын

Emotional pain can feel like life or death

@earthsign7568

Ай бұрын

@@PaigeSquared That may be the case but people need to understand the difference btwn. abandonment that IS life threatening vs. that which is not.

@robynhope219

26 күн бұрын

That's what happened to me...I had to fight for my survival...and this feeling never goes away.

@robynhope219

26 күн бұрын

​@@earthsign7568for an infant it would be life threatening

In this powerful video, renowned psychologist Dr. Gabor Maté shares his insights on healing deep abandonment issues. He delves into the root causes of these issues and offers practical techniques for building resilience and finding inner peace. If you or someone you know struggles with abandonment issues, this video is a must-watch. Dr. Maté's expert perspectives on psychology and health education will provide valuable insights and actionable advice for overcoming these challenges. Don't miss out on this transformative discussion! #DrGaborMaté, #ChildhoodTrauma, #AbandonmentIssues, #AbandonmentTrauma, #InnerHealing, #Resilience, #Mindfulness, #AttachmentTheory, #EmotionalWellBeing, #ImplicitMemories

@robynhope219

29 күн бұрын

STOP calling him psychologist..he is a retired GP with an interest in psychology.

Herzlichen Dank! ❤

@yourinnerchildmatters

Ай бұрын

Thank you so much!

"Memory is energy" -Altered States, the movie.

@yourinnerchildmatters

26 күн бұрын

Thanks for sharing that quote, it's definitely thought-provoking.

💖

@yourinnerchildmatters

28 күн бұрын

thanks for watching

And how to heal this pain please? This is the important question and not solved in the Video! ???

@robynhope219

26 күн бұрын

Of course it isn't. He dances around issues without solving any.

kzread.info/dash/bejne/i4CfmJKMaZDFdJM.html Bessel Van Der Kolk: Your Body Keeps The Score (holds the trauma/shock)

Gabor Mate MD PhD CM ❤

NOW is the best time The past is gone The future is not here

@earthsign7568

Ай бұрын

The past is NOT gone in childhood survivors of neglect/brutality. It's in you, your body and soul until and if you can heal. Yours is a dangerous, naive and trite attitude that gets survivors into a lot of trouble.

@yourinnerchildmatters

Ай бұрын

Thank you for the reminder to live in the present and make the most of every moment.

@yourinnerchildmatters

Ай бұрын

Thank you for sharing your perspective. It's important to acknowledge the lasting effects of neglect and brutality and work towards healing.

@robynhope219

26 күн бұрын

She is always trite!​@@earthsign7568

@robynhope219

26 күн бұрын

​@@earthsign7568👍👍👍👍👍👍

pls quit the political commentary and stick to childhood trauma!!!!

@DeeDee-el8bd

29 күн бұрын

true!

That's untrue I don't trust this man