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Everyone loves to be greeted with warmth.

This is one of the things I love the most about history, especially the 17th and 18th century, and Japanese history. There were specific social protocols and traditions that you were supposed to follow. People think these are just stuffy, meaningless traditions, but they serve a really important purpose.

@alexanderlyon

5 ай бұрын

Agreed. There's a reason for those greeting norms and traditions. It's sets up the rest of the conversation/interaction/relationship.

Great conversation! Thanks for this Dr. Lyon! Book marking this one for certain.

thank you very much so helpful

When I was an administrative assistant, I would visit all the people I supported to say “Hello” and to check if they needed support that day or week. It was always nice when they would stop by me on their way to the office in the mornings. Even “Shout Outs” were fun! My group had a close and tight relationship. I’m in a different office with a different role now. We are all super busy and I suspect some people are shy. When we were allowed to go back to the office a year ago, especially for Staff meetings, I began to make it a point to break around 9:30 or 10 in the morning and cruise the office to say a quick “hello” with EVERYONE! I tell people I am on a drive by “Hello” cruise. This helps me not to linger for more than a couple of minutes. I always make sure to make eye contact and flash a smile! I don’t work with everyone in the office but I still feel connected with them. The office cruise takes about 10 - 15 mins of my time ( the office is small). I am glad I saw this video. Going to keep up with this practice.

@alexanderlyon

5 ай бұрын

Excellent example! Thank you for sharing.

Thank you ❤️ ❤❤

Thank you Alex, your channel is really helpful and useful in the process of improving communication and social skills

@alexanderlyon

5 ай бұрын

Thank you!

So clear! As I'm reading the book and watching this video. I can't wait to watch the next videos. Thanks to these wonderful professors.

@alexanderlyon

5 ай бұрын

Thanks for getting the book! BTW, if you get a chance to post a review on Amazon, that would be much appreciated.

Thank you for the inspiring content - simple fast and clear delivery

@alexanderlyon

5 ай бұрын

Glad it was helpful.

What a great topic mister Lyon, greetings from Guatemala.

Thank you so much. So helpful.

@alexanderlyon

5 ай бұрын

Thank you, Connie. Great to hear from you.

Thank

Thank you alex 👌🇮🇳🇮🇳

Stevie Wonder covered this subject.. "I just called too say I love you"

Great ❤

If someone says "Hi how are you?" I'll usually respond with "The best I can, yourself?" Or "I can't complain, if I did it wouldn't matter". If they respond with "I'm well instead of good" I know they're really trying or have been told well is a better response then good before.

G,day mate,how they hanging? Great video l will watch and learn.

excellent my friend, Thanks for that teaching, greeting from Venezuela, you speak so clear and I would like to speak with that fluency. thank you

@alexanderlyon

5 ай бұрын

Thank you for the compliment!

This is great, thanks Alex! I see a trend in more and more companies where the responsibility to connect with leaders is placed on the employee being managed. The weekly or monthly one on one meeting doesn't happen unless the managed employee schedules and drives the meeting. I think this is a mistake and agree that driving the connection makes a more effective leader.

@alexanderlyon

5 ай бұрын

Yes, that's a total mistake. There's a ton of research on the reluctance employees have to approach leaders. It's called the "mum effect" and it's hurt many companies. That's especially true if there's a problem or issue on employees' mind. Expecting the employee to drive those conversations almost guarantees that leaders will grow increasingly out of touch with reality.

vidéo importée dans ma tête trilingue.

excellent tips

@alexanderlyon

5 ай бұрын

Glad you think so!

@MrMario477

5 ай бұрын

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00:00 🌟 Greetings are crucial in both social and professional settings, acknowledging others' existence and signaling a desire to connect. 01:25 🌐 Greetings initiate high-quality connections, vital in fostering positive outcomes for individuals and their environments. 02:20 🤝 Greetings open communication sequences, define relationships, affirm individuals, and set the stage for collaborative tasks. 03:43 ⚠ Lack of intentional greetings can harm relationships, causing discomfort, feelings of disrespect, and a lack of care. 05:08 🎯 Elements of a good greeting: authenticity, verbal and nonverbal communication, and patience in delivery. 06:06 💡 Personal example highlights the impact of neglecting greetings on leadership and relationships. 08:03 📞 Practical challenge: Reach out to two specific people, greet them intentionally, engage in conversation, and plan for follow-ups to build connections.

@ramanathanvedakumari875

4 ай бұрын

8:51

Love this series! Bought the book and look forward to finishing it. In this video you mentioned connecting with others. How vital is being on camera in order to connect with others? The reality is some people can feel extremely uncomfortable being on camera. Others insist they need to see someone’s face any time they speak to them in order to connect. Somehow, we all conducted business and connected with each other before video conferencing existed and yet some managers insist on their employees being on camera regardless of how it makes them feel. Curious to hear your thoughts on this topic.

@alexanderlyon

5 ай бұрын

You mean in a Zoom call? If you're not on camera and most others are, it will barely feel like you are attending the meeting compared to everybody else. It'll instantly shrink your impact. It can give the impression that you're doing other things rather than really participating in the meeting. If a supervisors wants you to turn your camera on, then I'd turn the camera on. That's just some tough love advice. Most people don't feel comfortable on camera. They just get used it and/or accept that they'll feel uncomfortable.

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any tips for utilizing this strategy in a virtual environment?

@alexanderlyon

5 ай бұрын

Like Zoom? The tips are almost exactly the same. Take a moment at the beginning to greet people intentionally. If it's a group, you can do a very brief ice breaker that helps you acknowledge each person. If it's email, be sure to start with a greeting if it's your first email of the day to the person.

Is the book on Audible? And if not, when?

@alexanderlyon

5 ай бұрын

Nope. Not sure when. More of an "if" right now.

I really fumble at the small talk step at times. I also struggle to know how to transition out of the conversation at times, I don't know if I'm being rude leaving early or lingering and being inauthentic.. if that make sense? It's not all the time but one on ones by the coffee machine make me nervous at least a few times a week. Maybe just social anxiety.

@alexanderlyon

4 ай бұрын

I hear you. Many people struggle with this and with social anxiety. We did a video right after this one (linked in the description) about how to ask questions. That makes small talk much easier.

it has sth to do with personality as well

Can I greet multiple people all with one big wave and “hey guys” if I am arriving and they’re already set up?

@alexanderlyon

5 ай бұрын

Sure. Just be sure to make eye contact with each person as best as you can.

So saying ‘I was doing fine until you came over.’ Is that bad? I am being authentically impatient, patient with them being needy, and stare hard at them, so eye contact-intention. My verbal and non-verbal communication seems to intimidate people. What am I doing wrong?

@alexanderlyon

5 ай бұрын

I'll take your questions seriously just in case you meant it that way. We do assume in the video/book that you genuinely like people and care about others. But if you fill in this blank, then that may tell you how you feel about others. "From my view, people are *_[blank]_* ." How would you fill in that blank? What is your gut response?

Biggest secret of a good greeting, is to widen your eyes when you see them. (neuroscience say widening of eyes is to allow the eyes to take as much light, because the person is surprised/excited) As if you are a dog seeing his owner returns from work. That surprise and eyes widening behavior makes you look happy to see the person you are greeting. Which makes them love you, even more if you have a good smile on you

@alexanderlyon

5 ай бұрын

Yes, as long as it's not a trick or tactic and it's authentic.

@noirangel8292

5 ай бұрын

@@alexanderlyon I fail to see the issue if it's a trick or tactic, genuinely asking from what I understand and also my personal experience, I do tactics/ tricks to be better in social situations, Shout out to Charisma on command YT channel. I use tactics/ tricks till they become second nature. they then turn to "authentic" if it has to be authentic before implementing, I would just struggle to apply the useful knowledge. 🤷‍♀

hmmm,HR ought to listen maybe. For example, I enter a doctor's office and, guess what.... no greeting. There is a dude behind a glass partition and I fill out a little questionaire on an iPad. I feel much better when someone greets me with this, 'Hello. How can I help you'. thanks Guys.

@alexanderlyon

5 ай бұрын

Yes, agreed. We've really slipped on the basics in the last few decades. When I don't receive a greeting in situations like that, I feel unwelcome and even as if I might be in the wrong place.

I'm afraid to go greet people in the office space, I always end up having to help them with an issue. Like, they just want to benefit through that interaction, when though my intention is just to genuinely say morning to them. So, yeah, I'm not in a leadership position, but greeting... That's a no for me 😂

@ratgirl13

5 ай бұрын

So tell them just that ‘I’m greeting you to be polite, not to help you resolve your problems-I’m not in the leadership position here otherwise I wouldn’t speak to you at all.’ Works for me.😂

Thank you Prof. Alexander and Dr. Julian 🫡 “And when you are greeted with a greeting, greet [in return] with one better than it or [at least] return it [in a like manner]. Indeed, Allah is ever, over all things, an Accountant.🤲 Chapter 4: V. 86 Al Quran