Peaceful, Nutritious, Fun! Love the pendulum analogy. I notice I struggle with middle ground eating because a "normal" meal compared to a binge feels like restriction. Brain tricks! Lol.

@TheBingeEatingTherapist

2 жыл бұрын

I get that. Every food decision feels,like it’s one or the other… Love your words ❤️

@sarahRA86

2 жыл бұрын

I’m exactly the same!

I so very much identify with you. I actually found myself saying out loud “yes”!! You touch upon things that no books or other therapists do! You are amazingly insightful and so very helpful! Thank you so much!!!!

Enjoyable, Nourishing, Free!! ❤🎉

Thank you for this video! I am an all or none thinker, and spent the the 1st 30 yrs in my life in the control zone and the 2nd 30 yrs in the chaos. The 3 words: moderation, free, nutritious

@TheBingeEatingTherapist

2 жыл бұрын

As long as you really know what those words mean to you and they support you. Eg how do you know if you’ve eaten in ‘moderation’? What counts as nutritious? Does that mean certain foods aren’t allowed? Worth reflecting on. Those words may be exactly what you need, but they wouldn’t work for me ❤️❤️❤️

Thank you for this wonderful video. I struggle to let go of the restriction mentality so am not a reliable judge of where the middle ground is. I am still learning to trust myself rather than looking to external sources to tell me what quantity and type of food is right. I look forward to a decrease in the feeling of guilt when I eat something I would once have forbidden myself to have. I hope some day I am no longer mourning the loss of my smaller body. The word guiltless is thus really resonating with me. I also like the idea of the word simple, both literally and psychologically.

Three more that came to mind…. Committed, Content, Disciplined … I am going to keep my list going so I can reference the thoughts and feelings I seek that align with my goals. Thanks to all for the great input here!

Needed this today, thank you Sarah!

I'm so happy to be hearing a new video of yours. I look forward to them all the time. I chose my 3. Freedom, Peace and Balance. Have you found that you've changed you anchor words throughout your process of healing? I love the visual of the pendulum and that a small swing is far better than a huge one. You called me out on the perfectionistic thinking of NEEDING to be in the center ALWAYS. LOL. Reminds me of my 12 step days with the saying of "Progress not perfection." Thank you!

Harmonious, Easy and thanks to you Free. I’m so very tired of chasing the middle.

Measured, Balanced, Steady. Thank you for your great and helpful content!

Freedom, peaceful, and satisfying. I had been doing really well with managing my binge eating, but over the last 2 weeks I’ve fallen into the binge eating again. It wasn’t as bad as it used to be though, and I’ve done much better today and yesterday.

Love your work! And your podcast series has been so helpful too! My three words are nourishing, balanced and freedom. In that order💚

@TheBingeEatingTherapist

2 жыл бұрын

🥰🥰🥰

fun , tasty , practical ! love your channel btw !!

Sarah, I'm so thankful for you. I have been a binge eater for 30+ years and I am learning how to put food in it's proper place in my life. I'm indebted to you for the changes you are teaching me to make. Thank you so much!!! My words are enjoyable. Calm. And Free 🥰

This is so helpful with bringing to life, concepts you just can’t express otherwise. Especially the pendulum example, that’s honestly great. Thank you Sarah 🙌🏽

@TheBingeEatingTherapist

Жыл бұрын

Thank you! xxx

peaceful, pleasurable, varied ❤️

@TheBingeEatingTherapist

2 жыл бұрын

😍😍😍

Peaceful, Unafraid, Balanced

Thanks! Mine are: mentally balanced, calm, energized, and free ☺️

Easy, nourishing, pleasurable! I am very much stuck a little right (compulsive) of center. I keep trying to move a little closer to the center. It’s tricky!

Joyful, peaceful, easy. Now I've got the eagles song in my head but I won't forget the words 😂

@TheBingeEatingTherapist

Жыл бұрын

Haha! Love it x

Thank you so much for this vid! B&W thinking is something, I ´ve struggled for many years. I ´ve recently realised this pattern is so unhealthy and that I ´ve gained it from my mum´s eating habits which are not healthy as well.

@TheBingeEatingTherapist

2 жыл бұрын

You are very welcome 🙂 Once you recognise it, it starts to have less control. You start to doubt the validity of catastrophic thinking and that’s the first step to a calmer mind ❤️

No new words here but I picked 4 (I struggled to choose 3 as they all seem important): nutritious, enjoyable, routine and peaceful 😊 This video was super insightful with the pendulum imagery, I definitely lie more on the right side of the pendulum!! Thank you Sarah

@TheBingeEatingTherapist

2 жыл бұрын

You are very welcome 🤗

Free, easy, joyful - to achieve this I’ll probably need to have an eating routine and it will definitely be balanced (because it’s not joyful to me to only eating less nourishing foods)

My words are Balanced, Calm, and completeness. The last word I choose it because I want to remind myself that more food isn't going to give something more. If I stop there I would feel beautiful.

Learning a lot from you... love from India 🌹

@TheBingeEatingTherapist

2 жыл бұрын

Y’know I’m half Punjabi? Sending ❤️ to the land of my ancestors 🇮🇳

Peaceful, Nutritious, Enough.

My three words are 1) Satifying, 2) Beneficial, 3) Peaceful

@TheBingeEatingTherapist

2 жыл бұрын

Lovely! ❤️

Sated; refreshed/energized; enjoyable/tasty

@TheBingeEatingTherapist

2 жыл бұрын

Love sated, energised, enjoyable, tasty ❤️❤️ I don’t think I’ve ever thought of food as refreshing, which is interesting as it is sometimes served as part of ‘refreshments’ 🤣

@mjgenualdi22

2 жыл бұрын

I am trying to picture food as fuel - so when I’m feeling low a quick refresh will help me to meet my goals.

14 days b/p free since 6 months of the cyclus. Im afraid of a relapse though. Couse it must be still recovery... ive been counting calories and restricting just a little bit. But nothing as intense as before. Is this still my ed?

@TheBingeEatingTherapist

2 жыл бұрын

Asking this is a binary way is the all-or-nothing thinking. Does the answer to is it my ED have to be yes/no? One possibility is that it is 90% you and 10% ED. I guess hear that the fear of relapse is around, but do you feel freer than went you were BPing? ❤️

@catesc9367

2 жыл бұрын

@@TheBingeEatingTherapist thank you for responding! Yes maybe youre right, maybe it is just a little bit of ed because its still a frequent used pattern in my brain to think that way. But i do indeed feel better and more balanced than before. Maybe it is the hard start of recovery

Hi Sarah, this video was really helpful! Also I have a question if you have time. I feel like I’m overthinking “satisfied.” I reintroduced a binge food but really struggled to find “satisfied” and felt like I was looking to make myself stop the whole time. Surely eating most of a tub can’t be right is along the lines of what I was thinking. Maybe it’s because I’m struggling to really let go of restricting and diet mentality to give myself full permission to eat. I’m normally a permissive binger and found your channel while fighting my way back into restriction (something I’ve only achieved twice in the last decade) and now that I’m back to restricting (not under eating just counting calories so feeling like I’m not free even if it’s “the appropriate amount of food”) I’m incredibly worried about giving myself “too much” permission to eat and not being able to stop and so slipping back into permissive binging and moreover a headspace of “this doesn’t work.” My mental health has really taken a hit getting back into restriction and I’m just really worried it’ll get worse if I feel like IE won’t work for me. I’m a bit at my wits end and just really want to recover without damaging my mental health any further. Any advice or video recommendations for how to identify and find “satisfied” and how to handle poor mental health while trying to recover would be very much appreciated. Thanks for all that you do, your channel introduced me to IE and gave me hope there might be another way when I so desperately needed to hear that. Now I just need to understand how to best apply the intentions to me and how to help my recently worsened mental health start to heal.

@TheBingeEatingTherapist

2 жыл бұрын

Thanks for your comment Amy. Let me have a think about ‘satisfied’ and I’ll see what I can do ❤️

@AmyLahr149

2 жыл бұрын

@@TheBingeEatingTherapist thanks Sarah! Won’t pretend my thoughts haven’t been churning about feeling I “messed up” or “IE doesn’t work on me” all because I didn’t know how to feel satisfied and when to stop eating ice cream on my first try all while I’m still partially restricting-trying to work on my thoughts and perfectionism somehow to break the cycle !

@TheBingeEatingTherapist

2 жыл бұрын

@@AmyLahr149 Have you ever listened to my Life After Diets podcast? Episode 4 is called But Intuitive Eating Doesn’t Work For Me. Might be helpful ❤️

@AmyLahr149

2 жыл бұрын

@@TheBingeEatingTherapist I have but haven’t come across that one yet. Will definitely look it up, thanks!

I was wondering if the same principles of your channel apply to food addiction? I definitely binge sometimes but I think a big issues is eating junk Food for every meal

@TheBingeEatingTherapist

Жыл бұрын

Some of it might. Some of it might not. See what resonates. You may be interested in hearing my stance on food addiction here: kzread.info/dash/bejne/c5p5pLOlnsmniNI.html

@megan5873

Жыл бұрын

@@TheBingeEatingTherapist thank you very much I really appreciate your channel. And actually it turns out I do belong in the former category 😂🫠

Peaceful /not causing me diseases in the future/tasty

I don't know what "free" means when it comes to eating. we are forced to eat or we'll die. if we don't eat our species specific diet or hit our RDIs regularly we'll experience suboptimal health. when it comes to nutrition, the more rigidly confined we make ourselves behave, the better the outcome

@TheBingeEatingTherapist

2 жыл бұрын

I think of it as a feeling. I need to feel free. When I feel confined or bound to rigid structure a part of my brain freaks out and my mental health suffers. If structure and rigidity works for you then I’m all for that ❤️

@taintmueslix

2 жыл бұрын

@@TheBingeEatingTherapist so far it hasn't worked for me, because I too want to feel free. but the fact of life is that we are born into a death sentence, imprisoned in these bodies that have expiration dates. and like within our societal prisons, there are consequences to breaking the biological rules. binge eating is akin to an escape attempt which is nothing more than the manifestation of a false sense of entitlement to be free. it seems that following the prison (nutrition science) rules is the only way to not swing back and forth, like it or not. addiction is never cured, it can only be contained tenuously through will power and strict discipline

@cristin794

2 жыл бұрын

I recognize myself in what you say. I have a child with very complex needs and found myself feeling that I needed to eat in a very particular way to optimize my health and longevity - I won’t get into specifics but I there was very little left that I could eat. But not only was that kind of eating extremely socially lonely - I could hardly eat outside my house - I also saw that it was really rooted in an eating disorder and what I wanted was control in a life where so much was out of control. Right now I’m trying to practice patience and self-love as the pendulum swings the other way for a while - and it swung HARD after such intense control. What I’m finding is that while I may not be prioritizing optimal nutrition (whatever that is, anyway), I’m happier and my life is fuller. I’m not at all saying that this is what’s happening for you. Just sharing. Good luck and wishing you peace, freedom and health.