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@idoracruzinofre2882

2 жыл бұрын

Everything you telling in this video is true but I really move on and I even I stay single after my ex boyfriend I just stay single and don't go with another relationship and he probably thought I have someone else because he listening to lie oh my I just keep on praying that for him to move on too and live me alone than keep on destroying my Facebook page because I'm not looking for him he must be so guilty lol...

@MeetStephanSpeaks

2 жыл бұрын

🙏 I hope he reaches the point of truly doing what is best!

@idoracruzinofre2882

2 жыл бұрын

@@MeetStephanSpeaks I don't know because all I know right now is someone keeps on using my identity to ask people and family I know for help without me knowing it and I really believe that using video call is important before someone send anything to a person they really helping please I hope you can get my point

@richiefaulkner5191

2 жыл бұрын

Hi, this is real testimony of a spell doctor who helped me bring back my finance, who left i and the kids for 9 month. i had lost all hope about my finance coming back home again. if you're going thr

@idoracruzinofre2882

2 жыл бұрын

@@ogbeborpeter6592 I don't need no boyfriend because for me if no man is for me why waist time to look for one but to stay single and do good things for living without headache and stress

When a ex moves on fast, it's actually easier to get over the breakup imo. He was probably entertaining that person BEFORE the breakup. So, that just confirms that I made the right decision to drop the relationship.

@MeetStephanSpeaks

2 жыл бұрын

Thank you for sharing your thoughts I appreciate your feedback!

@beefaye6861

2 жыл бұрын

RIGHT.... Bye clown ✌

@lilrascalish

2 жыл бұрын

Yes, it's totally true, however in my case, it doesn't stop me wondering what did I do wrong, or what was wrong with me. What does that other person has that I don't that made him stray

@dii-N-sd

2 жыл бұрын

@@lilrascalish Try to think about in the sense that you're free, and it's no longer your concern. Let the next woman deal with his bs. I know it's easier said than done but don't allow it to make you feel inferior or question yourself.

@jayc5756

2 жыл бұрын

True. But a lot of women...men too...but a lot of women tend to maybe want them more now that they found out they've moved on. So yeah...its all about your perception.

When someone moves on very quickly it’s usually done from a place of trauma & they haven’t healed from the breakup. They do so to avoid dealing with the feelings of a breakup, but eventually the feelings catch up to them and comes flooding to the surface & manifests in numerous ways. . So they are just dragging someone else into their mess & hurt. I know it’s hurtful to wonder why they moved on so fast, but the more you focus on your own healing eventually you get to a place where you’re healthier & in some cases, you end up feeling pitty towards your ex. It’s a classic “hurt people hurt people”.

@MeetStephanSpeaks

2 жыл бұрын

You're absolutely right hurt people hurt people!

@p994able

2 жыл бұрын

Definitely went through this with my ex this is spot on.

@erzascarlet5078

2 жыл бұрын

@@p994able same here sis! Same here!

@laptoplifestyleincome

2 жыл бұрын

I agree with you 💯 I’ve got experience of this. It’s most times nothing but just a rebound but deep within they haven’t healed a bit.

@markwhyte9100

2 жыл бұрын

My ex start dating 5 months after the break up I never contact her after we talk the 8 of this month

You are only overlooked, rejected & ignored by people who do not deserve you! It is their loss & there is better out there- much better.

@MeetStephanSpeaks

2 жыл бұрын

You're absolutely right!

@patricebeene646

Жыл бұрын

So true.

@tionneray8262

3 ай бұрын

Thank u I definitely needed to hear this

It’s never a good thing when an ex moves into a full blown relationship fast. Fast in terms of time is anything under 6-months to a year. A healthy person will isolate themselves, reflect and if possible, get therapy to help ensure the healing process yields a successful outcome. Hurt people absolutely hurt people.

@CITYOFSHOOTERS

7 ай бұрын

Men don’t need to do all that bra 😂

@Camroc37

7 ай бұрын

3.5 year relationship- She moved on while still with me. Cheated. 2 months later I'm talking to a girl that just went through a similar thing, so we are both relieved that we want to take it really slow. I'm working out, signed up for school, learning Spanish, getting back into hobbies and learning new skills. All to keep my mind off things.

@DesTiny-yg3nj

5 ай бұрын

@CITYOFSHOOTERS Yet yall wonder why you’ll never be happy. In fact, you do need to seek therapy. Y’all come to good women broken and don’t know how to keep them. Boys don’t need to but MEN do.

@sbecker334

Ай бұрын

My ex moved on in 2 days.

@lisavollaro

2 күн бұрын

Left me had some all ready discarded me

The fact that I loved that man so much that it’s taking me a year, and till this day I still have love for him. But, he walked away so easily already on dating apps after breaking up, and in a relationship with someone else. It breaks my heart to know that I meant nothing to someone that meant everything to me. 😢💔

@erynword

Ай бұрын

Me too😣

Moving on fast is not healthy and rarely ends well. The truth is, they were probably already entertaining that person while with you prior to the actual breakup. Healthy people, do not move on that fast especially after a committed relationship.

@Sevoflurane2014

3 ай бұрын

I wish I actually knew if this was true. I would never even try to get her back. But she, her dad and her friend swears this didn't happen

When you're ex moves on too fast. Means there was someone else the whole time.

@Bloodsport1337

7 ай бұрын

Not necessarily. Plenty of people just jump to anyone

@benstevens2164

3 күн бұрын

​@@Bloodsport1337 a study came out that 70% of women have guys on the back burner.

I believe from my experience that when your ex finds a new person, the fact of the matter is, that person was there all the time anyway and your ex is basically using them because initially the two of you were in a situationship all along and now the new supply is the new situationship. So my fam rejoice in the moment because in high sight God has done for you what you could not do for yourself. Heal & Move on too what’s for you!!!!💯💪🏽

We have got to learn how to let folks GO!!! We fights entirely too hard to hold on to the very thing that God is trying to pull us apart from. You can’t force nothing.

@MeetStephanSpeaks

2 жыл бұрын

Thank you for sharing, I appreciate your feedback.

@chantehowe7798

2 жыл бұрын

Alot of times they make you think they still want you

@p994able

2 жыл бұрын

AMEN

@whitewolf9547

Жыл бұрын

You are 100% correct. God see things we don’t see. God heard things we don’t hear. It’s hard to remember when you are in the hurt stage but it’s 100% true

@Unxpekted

Жыл бұрын

Amen

When you’ve fought for the relationship and argued to the point your frustrations pushed them into someone else’s arms, that’s where they need to be. Anyone that can join in the fight for the relationship, wasn’t worth fighting for.

@chantehowe7798

2 жыл бұрын

💯💯💯💯💯💯

@jaybee3426

Жыл бұрын

This quote needs to be in a book!

@zabercrombie24

Жыл бұрын

I wrote this down !

@jaybee3426

Жыл бұрын

@@zabercrombie24 I think they meant “cant join”

@xxvoid4

Жыл бұрын

Thank you, apparently I pushed her to her limit when I was never a bad person or toxic. All I did was call her selfish because she cheated on me and hurt me.

I find comfort in knowing the new girl ain't getting nothing special, he's her headache now lol. We've broken up so many times, I didn't cry this time, I don't have that urge to call him or any of the things I use to do just to have him back.

@MeetStephanSpeaks

2 жыл бұрын

I'm sorry to hear about that, but I'm glad you are now on a path to healing 🙌❤

@chinadoll534

2 жыл бұрын

Good for you… now that’s power

@TheShellybaybee

2 жыл бұрын

Same here. The crazy thing is the new girl doesn’t know he calls me all day and night complaining about her . Once I realized he went back to her the 2nd time .. I’m done.. when I say why u don’t have the new woman do this his excuse is it don’t trust anyone but you. Ughhhjj bye

@loombandz6722

2 жыл бұрын

On and off relationship?

@Lana-xf1qw

2 жыл бұрын

@@loombandz6722 yes, it was ridiculous.

I met my boyfriend 12 years ago. We were toxic for 3 years. He moved on immediately. He went into another toxic relationship for 4 years. I took those 4 years to work on myself and heal my own toxic behaviors and patterns with men. They broke up and we got back together but in a totally different way. A healthy way. We have been back together now for 5 years. But now in a healthy relationship.

@angeldust_4518

5 ай бұрын

bless you sweet😄

@jamesfuller6201

19 күн бұрын

Well, I have to say that is amazing that you were able to find the self awareness and do the work. I am working on detachment right now because my ex Will not see her part. three weeks out of me being the love of her life, she was In bed with somebody else. How's me questioning what I really meant After eleven years of showing up to try to make it work. Not only doing the work in therapy through books through accountability But also trying to research and get educated on her attachment. Her trauma to try to better communicate, just to end up with her leaving And suddenly she doesn't suffer from her bipolar anymore. Her depression anymore, her anxiousness or anxiety. It must have been all me. I'm happy for your happy ending. But it's back to therapy for me.

If the relationship isn't worth saving that's God showing you to let it go because we don't need the hurt and pain from this person and giving yourself time to heal so God can bring someone in your life that truly loves you unconditionally.

My thing is if he moved on fast, he already had someone waiting for him to make that move.

@MeetStephanSpeaks

2 жыл бұрын

Thank you for sharing your thoughts I appreciate your feedback!

@milagrosrodriguez4136

2 жыл бұрын

That's what I think n know it's just no any explanation

@milagrosrodriguez4136

2 жыл бұрын

That's how I'm thinking what happened to me 💔

@dantoinettetaylor1663

2 жыл бұрын

Not always true. I met a complete stranger 4 months after a devastating breakup

@shaheeda

2 жыл бұрын

Most likely true. Especially if he’s a narcissist.

I dont entertain my X and his bull. I blocked him and his family and social media. Im happy not being hurt, anymore by him. I pray🙏🏾 and keep it moving.

@MeetStephanSpeaks

2 жыл бұрын

I'm sorry to hear about that, I pray that you heal from all that you have been through, and be able to keep moving in faith 🙏 ❤️

This is exactly what I'm going through now. Thought we were soulmates. Broke my heart 💔

@MeetStephanSpeaks

2 жыл бұрын

I'm sorry to hear about that and I pray that you heal from all that you have been through 🙏

@antoniajarvi2217

Жыл бұрын

❤

@getitdone0010

Жыл бұрын

did they ever come back or said sorryyy...he is getting married soon and it hurts..2 months after breakup and he forgot me..i was with him for 4 years

@antoniajarvi2217

Жыл бұрын

No, a sincere sorry isn't in their vocabulary. To do that in person would reveal what a true coward they are. It's hard to move on with the 💔. Hard to put one step in front of the other, but we're worth so much more. Love & strength... 💞

@IslandGurl85

Жыл бұрын

I so feel you going through it now

Wow! “ Pray for them because we can’t receive our blessings if we curse them” That part!! That some grown-up stuff right there, mentally and definitely spiritually thank you Stephan!🙏🏾

I won't look at all...I'd given everything I had to the relationship. It apparently wasn't enough. So I will move on and never look back... I know my worth. Someone else will realize it one day. Until then, I'm ok with everything else God has given me.

@MeetStephanSpeaks

2 жыл бұрын

I pray that you receive the man who is truly best for you, the man God has for you 🙏

@lizzierose007

2 жыл бұрын

@@MeetStephanSpeaks Thank you Stephan 🙏

@lorenaramirez3437

Жыл бұрын

@@lizzierose007 how are you doing now? It's been 6 months....I'm going through the same. I'm just hoping to hear it gets easier

What doesn't kill you, makes you stronger. When my ex divorced me and moved on within weeks and married again. I felt my whole world collapse and I had a nervous breakdown. But God makes us humans resilient and now I see him going out of my life as a blessing. It was God's mercy on me.

@siengsreyleakhena7480

Жыл бұрын

I hope I can better just like you so soon❤️

@sanjmalik6282

Жыл бұрын

@@siengsreyleakhena7480 I am just hanging on. The heart ache is so much that its unbearable. What can we do but accept it.

@meditation8905

Жыл бұрын

Out of this relationship before you investing more into that person stay strong 💪 ..

@insky7435

Жыл бұрын

Any progress?

@theintern9722

Жыл бұрын

How are you doing now

I literally just broke up with someone today and it's just difficult to deal with that in itself.....I dont even wanna know how I would handle dealing with the fact that he has moved on. Thank you for this Stephan, I needed this, just incase I hear he has moved on. Break ups are very difficult. Even though you had good reasons to leave someone , it's just such a difficult emotional obstacle to get over. For me, Its not him moving on too fast, it's him not seeing my worth when I was with him.

@MeetStephanSpeaks

2 жыл бұрын

Thank you for sharing, I appreciate your feedback.

@tiadennis7148

2 жыл бұрын

Yes Ma'am, well Put 👌 ♥️

@rhondatremble611

2 жыл бұрын

Thank you Stephan for this message. I was a fool because I spent time with a man younger than me. He had gotten so tight and spending time I fell in love with him. He said he was but then he would say or we are just friends. We even started having sex a few times and him steady saying he misses me all the time and he was in love with me we went got breakfast but then would call another women with me sitting there after he gets off saying shes the boss and she knows all about you put I knew nothing about her. She knows we slept together. Which hurt me so bad. He had gave me his keys to his house but then said oh you have to call before you come. Steady hurting me.

@luyandankohla5341

2 жыл бұрын

@@rhondatremble611 You are not a fool, we all make decisions that we are not happy with sometimes and we learn a great deal from them. The best thing to do is just pick yourself up and promise yourself to never make that mistake again. Sometimes, some of us learn the hard way, but it's a good lesson nonetheless.

@jayc5756

2 жыл бұрын

You have to love yourself 1st. Once you Fully Love Yourself...you will avoid All of these issues ma. IJS

I agree that you need to give yourself a clean break, stop looking and remove contact. Your mind is powerful and will fill in blanks. So be kind to yourself

Great video, my ex broke up with me and immediately dating another guy. Well, it's obvious that she was already seeing him behind the scenes. It hurts a lot but I'm in a place of self awareness and maturity in Christ Jesus that I'm focusing on my self. Jumping from one relationship to another without self healing it's much more dangerous to handle, guys get the healing you need before jumping into another damage relationship.

@kimberlys347

2 жыл бұрын

I feel ya! Same exact thing happened to me, after he claimed to love me he was back on the dating sites and with someone within a few weeks. He even came back to tell me that just to hurt me. What I had to remember and hopefully it’ll help you too, the person they’re with isn’t getting a prize. In fact that rebound person is most likely being used to get over ppl like us. In that little bit of time there’s no way any self reflection or actual healing or transformation took place, so they’re literally the exact same person with more baggage trying again. Seems pretty silly. Hurts to see, I know but those of us who are strong enough to process the pain without jumping to a rebound are the actual winners. Nobody can heal like Jesus. I pray you heal quickly and that your pain eases quickly as well.

@MrShoman1212

2 жыл бұрын

@@kimberlys347 thanks Kimberly for sharing your experience and for your prayers, you're definitely right. No need of jumping into rebound relationships, unfortunately most people are using rebound relationships as a coping strategies. I pray that the lord heal you completely of the heartbreak and restore everything you've lost with someone that will value and cherish you in all ways physically, emotionally and spiritually🙏🏾. Stay strong and blessed, thanks...

@avon9100

2 жыл бұрын

I’m in the same boat. But I will heal and so will you

@matrix9046

Жыл бұрын

Well I guess almost same here...but in my case...i was the one working..well i was a student 2nd yr of degree it was during covid when i met her, we both got close to eachother, fell for eachother she wanted to meet and we had some future plans together like marry travel and made lot promises "infact she used to say that i never leave her" , we used to be on calls, video calls for 24 hrs literally gave alot time to her we were there for eachother she did the same she helped me alot mentally and emotionally we literally talked abt everything, i also used to tell her that "there will be people and times that won't be in our favour and i want you to stay strong and trust me coz i won't leave you" tbh i really wanted to take care of her look after her uno... but yeah covid got over, i was in my final year i had to work hard clear my exams.. focus on to do something so that i can get to her and meet and work on our plans and dream...well didn't get enough quality time as i used to with her b4, tho i would update what im upto and ofcourse ask abt her health made calls during nights make her laugh feel loved and do as much as i can... yeah sometimes i would feel low too she never was trying to help or understand me, she was possesive or attention grabber in which i wasn't able to pay attention to her at those days , but yeah i had hope & it was her...and she got fed up said i dont give enough time to her i wasn't there much as i used , i don't make her feel loved, she cutted herself (ik she was lying) says i used her 😂🤚🏻(like frl & how), she wants to breakup, even tho i explained her and she knows what i was going through like it was strange to see her change all of a sudden , she asked for space alot of things ik of her were just changed but anyways i tried not to contact her but failed kept messaging her calling her begged her to come back i was worried abt her, she said we broke up (from her side and i didn't even agree and i told her)...but yeah i found out she was talking to some other dude, just coz he spent more time with her and i was working hard for her for us...and shattered the hell out of me, no trust , no loyalty, disbelief heartbroken crying, all the promises.. she started say "our relationship was shit", "he is a better man than you" and even tho i satisfied sexually her, i started to Shake lot of grief and i am still going through it ..and as soon as we officially broke up the hour she went to this new dude... we were together for almost 3 years....we were in LDR was going to meet her this month Dec 2022 but 2 days b4 booking the flight this happend... and yeah she in LDR too with her new partner....it was love not a casual realtionship she knew it but she still went to him, sometimes i can't accept the fact that she is gone, i miss her, i immensely loved her alot....im really low and help?

@JDOUG757

Жыл бұрын

This just happened to me, why is it so common. People suck so bad bruh!

If he moved on fast,you did the right thing by leaving,he her problem now,and you can have the peace to heal and move on,,you new love is coming

‘View the breakup as an opportunity’. I love that!

I know for me , it takes time and I have absolutely NO contact with any ex. I think when a person moves on quickly, it shows (imo) they didn't care about you much, couldn't be alone, payback or something else.

@MeetStephanSpeaks

2 жыл бұрын

Thank you for sharing, I appreciate that ❤️

@504S

9 ай бұрын

I think its most about packback

Forgive them, pray for them and move on.

I've been in a mental breakdown for a week now. I watch this video on repeat.

@IsjahhSharifff

7 күн бұрын

How are you now?

Focus on you if you are focused on what they are doing your recovery will be much longer. Focus on the lessons learned from the experience clear your energy of the past and be ready to receive your restitution. You can't get that if you are focused on what you have lost. Keep your eyes on the prize and your back to the wind.. Great post...🥂

@MeetStephanSpeaks

2 жыл бұрын

Thank you for sharing, I appreciate that ❤️ 🙌

@tawfiqbailey4558

2 жыл бұрын

I really need to hear that your comment really caught me! 🙏🏾

@empress_tru

2 жыл бұрын

@@tawfiqbailey4558 🙏🏾

@mupicap7927

2 жыл бұрын

sometimes i get jealous honestly.

@WesAKAthemilkman

Жыл бұрын

@@mupicap7927 you’re human, it’s normal but know how to get past that

I just broke up with someone and he literally jumped on the dating apps the next day. 1)it confirm my decision was the corect decision 2) he needs to fill that void, i dont. I feel sorry for him. Also, he lost me and i know im a catch, he will never find another me. I can sleep happy at night.

Thank you Stephan! My ex and I have been broken up for 2 months now and that first month was one of the most difficult times but then I started getting better each and every day but deep down I had hope we would reconcile but she just got into another relationship about a week week and a half ago and it definitely set me back. I'm just like wow I loved her so much and she just quit on us so quick and seemed so easy for her but yet she was always worried that I would leave. Now I'm thinking wow you moved on that quick? Like we were nothing yet we were together for over a year and we were so close it just eats at me man like how? Why? Why wasn't I good enough to fight for? This video has helped me so much man I appreciate it! I'll be fine I know I will but it still hurts like hell. One day she'll realize she threw away a treasure and she will never get it back. Just in the comments alone I see that there are a lot of great women who love as hard as I do.

@rickraktor155

Жыл бұрын

How are you now??

@xxvoid4

Жыл бұрын

How haré you now? Same thing happened to me, we broke up last month and she told me two days ago that she got with her best friend. She said it just happened and I’m like wtf??? We were together for over a year too.

@theintern9722

Жыл бұрын

Hey any updates?

@miss.conduct

10 ай бұрын

Yah, I am here for an update. I wanna know if I will be over him anytime soon.

@carriegrier4032

10 ай бұрын

Just because she's in another relationship does not mean it will last. You might get back together after growing and healing.

Some people are meant to be mourned and others aren’t worth a tear. I moved on fast from the unworthy and met a great guy.

Great points brother. A lot of times we search for closure in order to answer the pain. God has so much better!

@MeetStephanSpeaks

2 жыл бұрын

You're absolutely right God had much better, thank you for sharing 🙏

I think it is easier to get over someone when things are amicable, when there hasnt been any cheating and when I keep in touch with the person. I struggle the most when they disappear from my life and/or when I doubt the feelings or the honesty of the other person towards me, almost like I’ve lived a lie. It is important to me to know that what they felt for me was real, what we lived was real and beautiful but it just came to an end, then thinking ‘he’s not worthy it, I deserve better’. This hurts me more. So I sometimes have to comfort myself and believe that they are suffering as much as I am and that everything we lived was beautiful and real so that I can move on in peace.

@MeetStephanSpeaks

2 жыл бұрын

I feel you it definitely isn't an easy situation but the focus should be on doing what is truly best 🙏

@carlyflower808

2 жыл бұрын

I love that you're comforting yourself with an amicable relationship afterwards but don't let that cloud your belief system because if he wanted to be with you in that way he would. If he wanted to love you and valued you over anyone else he would pursue you. If he doesn't care he could very well be a narcissist and just want you in their life to continue feeding their ego without having to give you what YOU need. Don't take his breadcrumb scraps just to be his "friend". You can be friends with the mailman, etc. Don't give him your energy or sweet love that he purposefully discarded. You are worthy but this personality disorder doesn't care. They just need something new to spike their internal/eternal emptiness. Walk away and give your heart and soul to someone who is worthy and won't take you for granted. People are spiritual energy to exchange that positivity through mutual love. They are not stepping stones to take all they have and then crumple them up and throw them away when they're bored or done giving what little love they actual have. They're empty and will always be. Know you're better and better off! ❤️‍🩹❤

@Betinhaac

2 жыл бұрын

@@carlyflower808 hey, I’m not going through this atm, but in the past the easier breakups where the ones ahere I kept in touch with them and eventually we lost contact. Especially the ex I lived with. We still had to keep in touch as we had loans and accounts together etc, but I like a gradual disconnection rather than a sudden complete death of the other person.

@WesAKAthemilkman

Жыл бұрын

Very understandable/relatable mindset, hope your doing better. I’ll get better within time as well.

@macsasmr6100

Жыл бұрын

This is some bulshit

I'm 😭😭😭😭😭 because you so dang it right. I don't want him back. And I'm trying so hard to let go of the hurt.

@MeetStephanSpeaks

2 жыл бұрын

I'm sorry to hear about that, I pray that you heal from all that you have been through, and be able to keep moving in faith 🙏 ❤️

@Claudia-yc8xk

2 жыл бұрын

This right here 😥😥😥😥

That’s what I had to do. I prayed for him. It helped me to get through the heartbreak. I have been able to focus more on my life goals. I realized that being with them wasn’t healthy.

@MeetStephanSpeaks

2 жыл бұрын

Thank you for sharing I pray that you heal from all that you have been through 🙏

What helps me get through those very tough moments is the reality. It didn't work out and he moved on because he found his mate. I truly believe there is someone for everyone and perhaps there is a genuine connection. You can't change who's not meant for you. As long as your honest and tried to resolve the problems with your love that's all you can do. You can't change how someone feels about you just how you handle your feelings. I look at a break up as a learning experience on the areas that I need to improve and what was lacking in the relationship for me. Also what clues did my ex give me that I can fix? You can't find who you're meant to be with holding on to someone that wasn't meant for you.

The lurking on the pages once it is over can cause more pain and prolong the healing process. It is best to send love, light, and pray that they find happiness. I hope the ex would reciprocate the same energy to their partner that they are in separation with. If you really care about someone, you want what’s best for them, even if that means setting them free so that they can find true happiness elsewhere. Stephan, we appreciate this and you. ❣

@drwho9319

2 жыл бұрын

I’m sorry you have to go thru that. No one deserves this.

My perfect love guru on the internet. Every word you say means gold and i am sometimes genuinely surprised at how wholesome your discussions are and how a certain topic is covered from all possible angles and aspects of it. I am also in a heartbreak. All my fault though. And trying to recover... listening to you gives me power & understanding

I love that you hold both parties accountable while providing the solution on what to do to heal and move on

Good one Stephan! Greatly needed! Enduring a relationship full of infidelity then ultimately resulting in an engagement with another woman was severely traumatic. I’ve learned so much about me during that experience it has to be divinely guided. Given myself closure and giving it to God was the best solution to heal. Blessings 🙏🏽

@MeetStephanSpeaks

2 жыл бұрын

Thank you for sharing, I appreciate that and I pray that you heal from all that you have been through 🙏

@luyandankohla5341

2 жыл бұрын

You empowered yourself, queen 👸

@jullietmburu9672

2 жыл бұрын

♥ hugs to you

True! I agree. Reevaluate what's happened and what you want and need! If, we can't get past what ended the relationship, don't worry about closure or trying again!! Keep moving forward regardless. Facts help me to not make decisions based on emotions!! Heal and move slowly and when final decision don't live in regret!!😉🧸

@MeetStephanSpeaks

2 жыл бұрын

Thank you for sharing, I appreciate your feedback.

Wow love ur channel. This video spoke to me because my ex from 11! Yes 11 years ago moved on sooo quick. I’m sure he was talking to his (now wife) while he was with me. It honestly messed with me for YEARS, feeling worthless and not good enough because he was happy and moved on so quickly. I always wondered if he ever truly did love me for dropping me like that and I hit depression for a while. Like I mentioned 11 years later, he’s now married and he has 2 kids with that same woman he left me for, and he STILL hits me up. He definitely portrays this good husband, good man, and happy marriage on social media, but definitely not true the fact that he still misses me. Unexplainable at this point but it made me realize what a POS he is. I dodged a bullet forsure. New sub and thank u for this!

What about us women, who were the “rebound women” and didn’t even know it and was lead on by that man and fell in love and we realized it and now they are on to the next woman right away?

@n26c88

11 ай бұрын

Exactly my case - 5 month rebound relationship, left because he couldn't be vulnerable/intimate and commit. A day after breaking up with me he's back on these dating apps looking for a serious relationship, despite telling me he was going to take significant single time to process his first 5 year relationship breakup.

@lovekimhyunjoong1

3 ай бұрын

​@@n26c88exactly the same with me. He told me he is not ready for a relationship and that he is not over his ex. That he felt relief when he ended things with me. Then, I saw him on dating apps the same night😂. And he is dating someone new now. I made the mistake of looking...

@user-sz3qm8hp9z

22 күн бұрын

​@@n26c88I dated a guy for 3 months.. my first time ever being in love. He came out of an 3.5 year relationship and actually wanted to marry that girl but it didnt work out. Four months after they broke up we got in touch but he said it was too early for him. I understood but also made clear that I dont want to continue talking if he's not ready yet. When I suggested more space between he reached out to me and told me he really wants this and felt like he actually was ready and didnt want to hang in the past as he did. So.. we eventually started dating. During our relationship I noticed that he was a bit blocked. He never showed any affection in public like holding my hand (because of a bullying trauma so he didnt want to put the attention on him/us when were outside). He also didnt want any photos of us together on social media. He eventually confessed that he didnt process the whole break up with his ex and I ended the relationship. How can I be with someone who doesnt show me they are in it 100% and still hung up on their ex? He never stopped me.. he even said that he wanted to go to therapy and all. He also said he was worried about what emotions will come out when he takes time to heal. I felt bad for him. But.. 7 months after out break up he MARRIED someone else (not even his ex). I was shocked and felt betrayed. Now I see pictures of him being affectionate with his wife and showing it all on social media. Eventhough I dont want him back. it hurts my heart seeing that. I guess I was the rebound then? I made the right decision... his actions show it all. Dont ever settle for someone who cant be fully yours. You deserve better❤

Hi SS, I love when you said..”🦋”Do not confuse what you decided to go through, with what God wanted you to deal with.”🦋 This is so true, and makes absolute sense. I agree 💯% Everything is on God’s timing not ours. I also love when you say “Pray” on it. This is huge, and is important and has had an impact in my life in so many ways. The moment I started praying to God and actually asking him to be involved, be present and allow what He sees for for me ….I saw his work, right before my eyes, And believe me, it’s life changing. Thanks SS! 🦋

@MeetStephanSpeaks

2 жыл бұрын

Thank you for sharing, I appreciate that ❤️

Thank you Stephan for sharing 100% facts and not sugar-coating things. What I love about you is that you give different scenarios and tackle both sides that we can relate to.. In depth explanation as always.

Love this!! It’s so important to heal. God puts us in situations for us to turn back to HIM. People come into our lives for certain seasons and lessons.

@MeetStephanSpeaks

2 жыл бұрын

You're absolutely right! You will find this video interesting 👉 kzread.info/dash/bejne/Y3Wtw6OLnKXWodo.html

I know a lot of these videos are older. But are speaking to me for just a time as now. Can't say it enough, thank you for your work.

The ladder analogy at the end wrapped up this episode perfectly. Ex and separated in July 2019. He said he was going to get a divorce, but didn’t. Maybe 15 minutes of conversations and a few texts over the next 18 months. I filed for divorce in November of 2020. The divorce was finalized in January 2021. A friend checked his social media a couple of months later, and he was already REMARRIED!!! Praying desperately and seeking God diligently for healing. 🙌🏼🙌🏼🙌🏼 there have been miraculous healings in major childhood wounds and traumas. Still fasting from seeking a “romantic “ relationship for awhile longer. But now I’m on God’s 500 foot ladder! Thank God for you Stephan! Much love, A.

He was one foot in and one foot out in his new relationship. Before he broke up with her, He didn’t break up with her until he was sure that he wanted to be with the new woman and that she would take him in.

We had a toxic relationship and didnt really respect eachother but we are good individuals and have big hearts just didn’t do much for eachother. We were together for 3 years have a 2 year old and am more than sure she already moved on. It was a huge wake up call that I needed to care and love myself. Onward and hopefully life works out for me

I loved how you spoke on multiple perspectives rather than the typical harsh, “let this go today or you are stupid”. I loved how you helped me realize/emphasize his business is no longer my concern.

Stephan, this video came at the perfect time. I thought relationship that ended a year ago was the one. Now as I reflect there were so many red flags that I overlooked. She is also dating a new guy. Thanks to you I won't assume anything about her new relationship and I'm letting go and moving forward in peace. Thank you!!

Haven’t cried in a while and this was so on point and a great breakthrough

@MeetStephanSpeaks

2 жыл бұрын

I'm happy this has been helpful to you 🙏

@marlobx7442

2 жыл бұрын

Deep

You're amazing. I must say i keep listening to you while i heal. Amen!

Great video and perfect timing. I have been struggling with this for months. I was the one who broke up because things could not move forward with the patterns that were at play (from both of us) he was being deceitful post break up and that really hurt. I have come to the realization that it really is more than just this relationship but many over the years. I also believe that weak people move on quickly because it’s too hard to really do the work. I don’t want a weak person to share my life with. I also see my part in the break down of the relationship. I had hoped that he was really being honest and doing the work. He wasn’t. I should not at all be surprised as the relationship was filled with disappointment after disappointment. Heal, learn and move on! ❤️

@MeetStephanSpeaks

2 жыл бұрын

Thank you for sharing, I appreciate that ❤️

Thank you for this and all the videos that help get over an ex. This is something I've been struggling with for a couple years and I'm just now learning to pray through it . It just hard . But I have to remember it's a man's world, not a woman's.

@MeetStephanSpeaks

2 жыл бұрын

I'm happy this has been helpful to you and I pray that you heal all you have been through 🙏

I think I held my breathe through out this entire video. I have some of your books and have been following you on social media for a while now. This video really hit home to me..... I don't even know what to say... So I'll just feel by crying and letting it all soak in. Thank you for all your time, dedication and effort you give to people like me. I appreciate you, your knowledge, passion and advice. Thank you. Thank you for helping me heal xox

@MeetStephanSpeaks

2 жыл бұрын

Glad I could help 🙏

My,my,my........Give God the glory that he and she moved on as fast as they did, therefore you can begin your "Peace"🙏😇🧚🙏😇🧚

Hi Stephan, i just wanted ti let you know i'm arabic and muslim, but your wisdom and love for god really speaks to be me and i listen to you, i appreciate your advice and i'm so thankful for everything you do ❤😊

@MeetStephanSpeaks

2 жыл бұрын

Thank you very much I'm happy to hear that 🙌

Whew!! This video explains so much, validates so much, & will help with the healing process!! I already feel a load of heaviness lifted!! 🙏❤️🙏

@MeetStephanSpeaks

2 жыл бұрын

Glad I could help 🙏

I'm going through it right now. It hurts so bad! Only 2months and now I found out she's with someone else. I tried talking to her but she insists there is no us. I am Christian. We both came to Christ together. As much as it hurts after I saw this video I asked the lord if she can get closer to GOD with this new man then let it be. You touched on everything I was thinking about and questioning. Now I know to trust in GOD and better myself. GOD is good!

@MeetStephanSpeaks

Жыл бұрын

I'm sorry to hear about that. I pray that you heal from all that you have been through and be able to keep moving in faith 🙏 ❤️

@benitoramirez9514

Жыл бұрын

@@MeetStephanSpeaks thank you! GOD bless

@benitoramirez9514

Жыл бұрын

Our prayers where answered. I'll leave at that. May GOD continue to use you helping the broken hearted! I got my miracle🙏🏼🙏🏼🙏🏼🙏🏼🙏🏼🙏🏼🙏🏼🙏🏼🙏🏼🙏🏼 !!

@benitoramirez9514

Жыл бұрын

Everything you said in your video was exactly truth. I didn't find your video by search it was a GOD sent! Blessings to you!

Some are just trying to make u jealous by moving on so quick....but all along that grl giving him hell on earth...... Karma clown ✌

@MeetStephanSpeaks

2 жыл бұрын

Thank you for your feedback, I appreciate hearing from you ❤️

@SheriCheri94

2 жыл бұрын

What's above so is below

I agree with everything in your message…. Thank you. Your honesty and clarity is 💯

@MeetStephanSpeaks

2 жыл бұрын

I appreciate that ❤

I just finished your book. Lord have mercy, this helped my mother and our relationship…thanks

@MeetStephanSpeaks

2 жыл бұрын

Glad to hear that, thank you for your feedback!

Thank you! This was a reminder of the pain I went through was valid and am in a better place ❤️

@MeetStephanSpeaks

2 жыл бұрын

Glad to hear that you are in a better place, thank you for sharing ❤ 🙏

@abcdefghijklmnopqrstuvwxyz2364

2 жыл бұрын

Your so beautiful.....if you ever need a friend . I'm here.

It gives me some inner peace when I listen to you. Thank you

this is the best video on this subject I’ve seen so far, I’m gonna bookmark it and come back to it when my thoughts are beating me up about his new relationship.

Thank you Stephan for your encouraging words!!

Alot of times they move on so quickly is because they were already dealing with that person while with you!

@MeetStephanSpeaks

2 жыл бұрын

You're absolutely right!

My wife filed for divorce in October, we'd not been getting on for a while. 4 weeks later and she's seeing another guy, spending nights at his house and after 3 months she even stayed the night at his house with our son! Words can't describe how hurt and disappointed I am with her. Struggling to get through this shit show, esp when I know I've got months of this left before the divorce is final. Trying to stay strong for my son's sake. Appreciate the videos my man.

@moneyvationreg6593

Жыл бұрын

Are things better

@jamspastic

Жыл бұрын

@@moneyvationreg6593 I'd so buddy, and thanks for asking. I've moved on and met lots of women in the process (I know most people don't recommend it but it certainly helped me, especially with my confidence. Plenty more fish in the sea boys 😁

@theintern9722

Жыл бұрын

Hope you're doing well bro. I wanted to marry my ex, but she left before I could and was in a relationship fast. So I'm sorry to hear

@jamspastic

Жыл бұрын

@@theintern9722 thanks for asking, I'm doing so much better now. Time does heal all, and seriously there's a million more fish in the sea! Don't chase someone that doesn't want you

💯 This video is really good I like how well you express and integrate everything that needed to be said!! The way you put it together is so great!!❤

this guy knows what he is talking about, my EX have used me to forget her EX and once he texted her she got so exited and left me with a broken heart, she used to tell me that she loves me so much and we were planning everything but everything was a lie. all i left with is "SORRY" and a broken heart. please dont date anyone if you just broke up, take your time to heal so you dont hurt the new person you'll date.

This is very good advice! I was listening to some other videos and saw this one and was interested in what advice that you are giving. I experienced this years ago and I broke it off with him because someone was interested in him and he didn’t seem to mind the attention and I noticed he was hanging out more after church. And I had a gut feeling that their was someone else that was peaking his interest. He didn’t tell me what his concerns were while we were together to me and we could have ended. And moved on our separate ways. But when I broke it off, I was tired in trying with someone that didn’t want me and it is okay. he and I were different then and I am different now. But God had to show me some things. When we at times think we failed in life wether it was my fault, his or both- you can’t look at it that way. Because there is ALWAYS a lesson in the temporary pain. And I am a different/better woman because of the lessons I have faced with God’s help. And failure is just pushing us to want we really desire, deserve, and worth having, because we are worthy! I Am excited where my life is taking me. This wasn’t overnight either,lol. But those that going through, keep pushing, keep loving on yourself! Listen and read uplifting things, get a mentor, and forgive yourself. Work on you, you know? Find ways to help others -at times that take your mind off of your worries when you help others. The lessons come to you unexpectedly. Keep your head up because it’s only gonna get better! 💔❤️‍🩹❤️💜💗💖 I am now going to finish listening 🙂

Wow my husband moved on soo quick i thought my world was ending until i heard you speak and it makes me realized this was all for me and my own healing.

This talk is AMAZING! You sir, are AMAZING as well. Thank you soooo much for this insightful post

Thank you for this, it's ironic, I am a life coach but I have really been struggling with the end of a 3yr relationship. So easy to advise others because I am detached but in my own life my emotions get in the way. I really think you addressed the root issue here and offered some solid thoughts. Keep it coming my friend ✌🏻

@WesAKAthemilkman

Жыл бұрын

Im only 18 so take my advice hwv you please, but we’re human and those feelings are inevitable my friend. All we can do is find the roots of those emotions within ourselves and deal with them in whatever way seems suitable.

@gastly123

Жыл бұрын

Pls help I need help. Literally the worst possible thing could’ve happened. Was watching my Minnesota Timberwolves, vs the Knicks last night. And I see my ex sitting court side with her new BF and his parents. Like wtf bro how do u script that. We’ve been broken up for awhile but i still had feelings for her. Definitely didn’t wanna see her cuddling with her new BF while I was trying to watch the game bro… shits fucked up

@WesAKAthemilkman

Жыл бұрын

@@gastly123 fuckk, it is what it is bro.. move on. Just keep faith in the fact that shit wasn’t meant to be, and you’ll find what you want eventually. Focus on you till the focus is on you.

@gastly123

Жыл бұрын

@@WesAKAthemilkman Ik bro I’ve been trying to move on tbh I can’t replace her tho. I’m only 19, (u said ur 18) so I’m still kinda attached to her she was my first love. Seeing that last night made me wanna hurl even tho we’ve been broken up for a while. Idk how I’m supposed to move on seeing shit like that man fuck, what are the chances in that even happening?? Anyways thanks for the reply bruh I appreciate it. It’s tuff out here 4 ya boy tbh

@WesAKAthemilkman

Жыл бұрын

@@gastly123 I feel you bro, those typa feelings are inevitable and that is pretty rare/fucked up. It’ll be alright in due time.

Amen to that Brother- “Confusing what God says and what you say!”

@MeetStephanSpeaks

2 жыл бұрын

Thank you for sharing, I appreciate that ❤ 🙏

The takeaway at the end was amazing 👏🏾 💞. It almost felt like an altar call lol ☝🏾🙌🏾. Keep up the amazing work!

@MeetStephanSpeaks

2 жыл бұрын

❤ 🙂 Thank you for watching, I appreciate your feedback!

Thanks! I needed to see this video. Mistakes, misunderstanding & bad decisions make us human. Focus on becoming a better person and trust God.

This communication heals me ,I see where I was struggling ,I hope I will be the better person .

Thank you for your encouraging words and genuine mission to help everyone willing to accept the opportunity to learn. *it just hurts and I feel like my eyes are allergic to crying, now.

Brilliant, thank you. It convinced me that I'm actually in a good place after a very painful healing process. ❤

Stephan, you are the best. Thank you for being so transparent with facts.

I wish I watched this before I got into a relationship. I was miserable, felt trapped. I felt alone for along time. I learned from experience first. Then, I began to educated me while in the relationship not knowing at the time. I was asking for help. Looking back, I see and feel growth. The things I tolerated when I felt something was wrong.

@MeetStephanSpeaks

2 жыл бұрын

🙏 I pray that you heal from all that you have been through!

Stephan thank you so much for this video it seems like you do these videos right on time to give me validation that my healing is on the way .. I was so stuck going to get my questions Answer when reality answered my own questions no longer need validation from him I believe God knows my heart and I will continue to work on this and my first step is to write down what you spoke about in this video so that will be my beginning thank you🙏🏾❤️😭😭

@MeetStephanSpeaks

2 жыл бұрын

I'm happy this has been helpful to you and I pray that you heal all you have been through 🙏

Great video, exactly what I’m going through at the moment, helped a lot thank you.

Love your wisdom, your insight and your truthfulness. I have some things I need to really reflect on. Thank you.

This is wisdom for me and helpful and I hear God in it. Its worth walking the path though painful

Thank you so much for this my brother! It helped me so much in this time of trouble

Best video on KZread concerning Rebound relationship

Me during the whole video…. “Yes, yes”amennnnnn aleluya 🙌🙌 you did it again!!! 🔥

That's what I always do is pray for all my exes because they be during bad after I leave them. Yes it started the process to healing

@MeetStephanSpeaks

2 жыл бұрын

Thank you for sharing, I appreciate your feedback.

Thank you for this. I just got out of a relationship in January; he had a new girl in February. he had to have been messing with her while me and him were talking, but it's a blessing in Disguise, and I've moved on💕💕💕

@MeetStephanSpeaks

2 жыл бұрын

I'm sorry to hear about that, I pray that you heal from all that you have been through, and be able to keep moving in faith 🙏 ❤️

@TheLibraQueen

2 жыл бұрын

@Stephan Speaks Thank You so much im doing so much better now 💕💕💕

@TT-er3dl

2 жыл бұрын

Oh god our relationship ended around the same time and he’s got a new girl by end of feb too and we’re both Libras… Libras are just getting the worst these few months

@TheLibraQueen

2 жыл бұрын

@@TT-er3dl yes we are I believe it will be better by the summer/fall time 🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾 for better days 💕💕💕💕

@milagrosrodriguez4136

2 жыл бұрын

I can totally understand almost ny the end of March he tells me he still has feelings for me n misses me he asked to be alone a little while but we was planning to do our lives together than BOOM in April posted he is in a relationship so he was talking to her while we was together 💔

Such a blessing, great video

Thank you for posting this video! I need this right now💯😭❤️

I love how you explained each step on how to deal with this painful situation but most importantly and the best advice is to talk to God. Trust and obey God. He is in the business of transforming lives. I so love you Stephan. Your life a gift from God to your subscribers. ❤🙏

I felt this one touch my spirit. Thank you for always providing amazing content

@MeetStephanSpeaks

2 жыл бұрын

I'm happy this has been helpful to you, don't forget to share so that others can receive love and healing ❤ 🙏

@authorlarhondanfelton9152

2 жыл бұрын

@@MeetStephanSpeaks I sure did share it. We can all use it. Thank you

Thank you Stephan. I really needed to hear this❤️

Thank you, you just opened my eyes to many things. I think we were just too young and we took things too fast and I just work on myself before I can move on with my life.