Dude's a better psychologist than most psychologists.

@sharpcanines3347

5 күн бұрын

If only he'd come to my ADHD clusterfuk and consolidate things into clear bins. I start to panic when MMC starts putting stuff in non-see-through bins. I definitely have ADHD and need to be able to see everything

@TMcLure100

4 күн бұрын

He is SO GOOD on ADHD! Way better than most psychologists. And not putting up with mooses.

@TeaRose9

3 күн бұрын

Yesss!! He’s so on point!!

@TeaRose9

3 күн бұрын

He’s so intelligent, intuitive and compassionate. 💯🎯

@ManuandMomma

3 күн бұрын

Just shew that Moose off the counter top 😂

OMG! ADHD moment. When my son was in highschool, his room was a disaster area. I challenged him and said to him that I bet he didn't even know where {a thing, I think it was a moose} was. He was lying on his bed, and without even breaking eye contact with me calmly reached under his bed, grabbed the thing and handed it to me. I never complained about his room again 😅😂🤣. He's awesome by the way. ❤

@elonna2186

13 күн бұрын

I did that to my mom when I was a kid. Organized chaos is the name of the game. Good on you for not reacting badly to the kiddo proving you wrong. Lots of people would take that poorly

@dovie2blue

13 күн бұрын

Yep they end up as the absent minded professor who has piles of papers stacked on every flat surface in their living quarters but they know what pile some paper from 20 years ago is in.

@MissSophiaSlay91

13 күн бұрын

This means he had order in his chaos.

@jacquicanham4756

13 күн бұрын

My daughter asked me to help find her brush. The first place I told her to look, she found it... and I DIDN'T PUT IT THERE!! She did.

@cindyburnes6659

13 күн бұрын

❤😊

"If your friend comes over with depression, you wouldnt yell at them for being depressed. And, if you do, they're the one that needs to find a new friend, not you." Beautiful!! Love how stern that line was delivered.

@stuartwaldrip9280

4 сағат бұрын

When did you meet my boss?

I'm 44, a mental health therapist, AND I have both ADHD and bipolar disorder. I have been shamed my whole life for the semi-organized chaos that I live in. The way that you approached this with such wonderful empathy and humor was, no lie, healing for me. I regret that I have only one account to subscribe with. You are truly a special person. Thank you!

@krb2448

3 күн бұрын

Same with me, except I'm not a therapist. This video brought me to tears.

@STR8L8CED

3 күн бұрын

A bipolar mental health therapist. Does your Patients even know?

@PlatinumIrishrose

2 күн бұрын

ADd, bipolar, depression, anxiety, PTSD. Now I'm getting Alzheimer's. I'll be praying for you all.

@thomasmaughan4798

2 күн бұрын

"a mental health therapist, AND I have both ADHD and bipolar disorder." I wonder if there's such a thing as a therapist without dysfunctions. My mother was a therapist but also needed, or could have used, a DSM version of her very own.

@DeltaNovum

Күн бұрын

🫶

I just wanted to tell you that after only two minutes into the video, I was already getting emotional. I have the worst ADHD and I am also a type A personality. I'm a perfectionist but because it takes caffeine for me to be productive and I don't drink it often because it affects my heart, I live with a messy house. I hate it and avoid it and am ashamed of it. It's weird, because I'm actually amazing at organizing and love to do it for other people and on my jobs. I just get overwhelmed and distracted in my own house. You really would think that I'm a hoarder but I'm not. Your approach and sensitivity to this destructive and very disruptive disability is beautiful. Thank you for sharing this video so other people can understand! ❤ I actually clicked on your video because I'm getting ready to clean my house and was procrastinating as long as possible before having to do it. You've really touched my heart because I don't hate myself as much knowing that other people struggle with these same issues! God bless you and God bless your business!❤

@emilyr2836

12 күн бұрын

I also like to organize but get overwhelmed when it's my house. If you haven't tried it already, the two best strategies I've found are to watch cleaning videos while I work and to do very small, focused tasks - things like find all the hairpins on my nightstand and put them in their box, then take a break. You're definitely not alone!

@Chrissyhappy

12 күн бұрын

I also have helped friends and family sort and clean but struggled at my house. It’s taken me many years but I now just have what’s loved or used in my house. Everything has a place. I make sure I touch things once. I don’t move stuff and think I’ll sort it later anymore. When I had an abundance of stuff I could never do that as there was never a place. I’d have to shift things to put stuff away. It was a very difficult process for me and the anxiety was real. But the end result is worth it. Good luck on your journey.😊

@rebeccasourpuss

12 күн бұрын

You might want to check out the Clutterbug channel - Cas has theories about why people struggle with organizing based on their "clutterbug type." I'm a "Bee" which means I need to be able to see my stuff, but have it very orderly. If it's put away behind closed doors or in containers that aren't clear it freaks me out, so things ended up being left out and that drove me nuts too. Now I'm working on getting things organized in a visual way that's still tidy and works better for me. Her way of thinking is really validating and might be helpful to you, too.

@cassieo

12 күн бұрын

My 76YO Mom suffers from clutter, probably undiagnosed AuDHD. I can see some things starting to happen in my house, I probably am AuDHD, as well. She landed in the hospital from a fall in her house three months ago, and has been in a specialized nursing wing for six weeks. During the last six weeks, I cleaned out 70% of her house with help from friends, with tips from MMC. Her home is in disrepair from negligence to maintenance. The house is unsafe, and she can’t live alone quite yet, so she is coming to my house for Home Health. And we will decide in a month if she will go to an Assisted Living place or will spend her money to repair her home and live there. I scheduled a Junk company to help me with her Garage next week. I am proud of you for doing the hard work yourself. I’m an only child, but I have neglected the time with my four children while cleaning out my moms house over the last six weeks. We filled an entire 20’ dumpster. Mom hates that she got too old to do it herself, and hates that I had to neglect my own children to take care of her. Small bites, and it will look terrible before the house looks better, but after three weeks, you should be able to breathe and see a finish line.

@AnApothecarysCorollary

12 күн бұрын

@@emilyr2836 Thanks for the tips! I’ve found that I have to listen to or watch something or I’ll get side-tracked. zit’s strange how opposite our brains are from others, isn’t it? I can do so many things at once, though and also notice things people never notice. I think God gives us the other abilities to make up for the deficits. I also have an eidetic memory (photographic), and that is a tremendous help because I have dyslexia, dyscalculia and an auditory processing disorder. It’s difficult to start new tasks because of this if I don’t have caffeine. All tips and tricks are much appreciated! 🙏🥰

I really appreciate that you don't just see the clutter, but the humans behind it. Respecting people the way they are is something we need a lot more of in this world. Thanks for spreading the word, man!

@CathyLoveFerguson-gl9ts

7 күн бұрын

My desk at work... same thing 😂

@bitrudder3792

5 күн бұрын

that is my absolute favorite part when I am invited to help other people with their clutter. To figure out the person and what they really want, and sometimes helping them through the part where they want stuff that they don't need, and if they don't get rid of it they might be evicted. To really help them drill down and figure out their highest values and try to help them get there. And that's how I walk myself through the process when I'm decluttering at home. it doesn't necessarily happen all at once, this epiphany of self understanding. And it doesn't necessarily all happen in one event of understanding. It's just good to do what you CAN do in the moment to understand how to help yourself better.

@patriciashears25

3 күн бұрын

Thanks for the explanation to help us. Adhders. I was diagnosed 2 years ago. I must have oicked up lots on my own. I always organized. Haha well i a learning!!! Thanks for you guys explaining!!

@CathyLoveFerguson-gl9ts

2 күн бұрын

@@patriciashears25 I've become so much better... I had no idea why I was the way I was and didn't find out until I was 73 🥰😘👍

@alexandercove1194

20 сағат бұрын

Did you just say throw away your mom?

For the first time in my life I feel like someone understands me.

God, seeing "rage" acknowledged as a common symptom of ADHD is so validating, thank you. People talk about ADHD like it's just "easily distracted and hyper" when it so often looks like "emotional rollercoaster with your seatbelt stuck on."

@mrandisg

11 сағат бұрын

That is a perfect way to describe it.

Well then. I’ve just been diagnosed.

@susannemallmann2018

Күн бұрын

same here

@kgerber

Күн бұрын

Me too

@ChooseCompassion

Күн бұрын

🫡

@RaiRaiBrown

Күн бұрын

Hahaha 😂

I live in an ADHD household, and I also keep my ninja weapons on the counter, my brother tried to put the moose on the counter today and I had to explain to him that the moose will become too confident and attempt to overthrow the household. It’s just too risky

@bridgetpavlick2447

13 күн бұрын

You have to watch out for the moose on the counter…..just saying😮

@babydahl9424

13 күн бұрын

I'm so glad you explained that to him! You really prevented a very bad situation.

@fancypanda4929

12 күн бұрын

@@babydahl9424 😂😂

@auntiegliz737

11 күн бұрын

😂😂😂

@melodyclark4347

10 күн бұрын

I heard that loud and clear ☺

"I spend up to $3k on these cleans, i don't care, i just want that gold plaque for 1M subscribers" - refreshing attitude and honesty!!

@Verysouthern

Күн бұрын

I need help! But don’t have adhd I have ptsd.

@Verysouthern

Күн бұрын

How can I get help with my house??

As an ADHD person. This isn't just how I keep my stuff; this is how I clean. I have my piles, I know where they are. I keep my important documents in a pile with unimportant stuff. But sometimes it get to be too much for me. I like having open spaces; I like having an uncluttered room. So it's great to see someone who validates me, my condition, my processes. Thank you.

This was my house four months ago. In November I was diagnosed with adhd at 37 years old. With medication and dedication every day I have finally sorted through a lifetime of my belongings. Decluttering, organizing, finally coming to terms with who I am and not who I thought I was. There is so much shame tied up in this type of mess, that's why adhd people get so defensive. "Why can't I just keep on top of things? Why is everything so hard to manage? Why am I so lazy?" It feels insurmountable. Thank you for this. I hope someone watching sees themselves in this and starts the process to diagnosis. You're not lazy. There's a reason you're this way and you don't have to feel shame about it. And there are ways to learn how to deal with it.

@autobotdiva9268

11 күн бұрын

google nest and alexas will help you big time. i only allow my 22 year old with adhd 2 comforters, 1 quilt, 1 heating blanket, 2 bed sheet sets. laundry is wonderful now.

@shevasativa2169

6 күн бұрын

How do you go about getting diagnosed? My daughter was diagnosed at age 5. But, I’m 50 & this video is exactly how my house looks, as well as he describes how I think perfectly. I just feel so overwhelmed.

@AshleyEllwood

6 күн бұрын

Coming to terms with who I am and who I'm not. Wow! Thank you for the help. I think I need to realize that I am NOT a crafter. I've been holding onto supplies for years and I don't think I have ever once actually used any of it. Thank you!!

@bitrudder3792

5 күн бұрын

I am fascinated by how a deeply ketogenic diet, and for some people a complete carnivore diet, is repairing depression, anxiety, and now I'm hearing that it is helping with dementia, autism and ADHD. I know that my brain works better if I stay far away from carbs, and my body doesn't hurt as much either. You might check out Dr. Anthony Chaffee MD, Dr. Ken Berry MD, Kelly Hogan, numeral five minute body, steak and butter gal, carnivore women and other KZread channels for inspiration and information. They're even treating cancer successfully with a combination of a deeply ketogenic diet, intermittent fasting and a low toxicity med (and over the counter options are available for that third item as well). Our mental issues are not our destiny, necessarily. And changing your diet this way will not stop you from being someone who is probably full of great ideas! It just might give you a better chance of executing them.

@bitrudder3792

5 күн бұрын

@@AshleyEllwood- I love that! That was one of my first realizations, but I'm not a crafter (although by necessity I do sew). my other crafting supplies went out the door! It doesn't mean I never do things like that. When I had old candles I gave a lot of them away and then some of them were for a "Craft" I did with my daughter because she makes candles. She made some candles and I made some tea light candles because I have tea light holders. We had a fun day and we might do it again someday. But I'm not a crafter. i'm coming to the terms that I am more of an armchair gardener than a real one, especially as I age. So I will be purging some gardening things after I purge/organize our tech stuff, connectors, surge protectors, charging cords, etc.

56 year old here who was diagnosed with ADHD/ASD at 52. Although I’ve always been “clean” (clean bathroom toilets showers and sinks daily, no dirty dishes in sinks, 2 loads of laundry daily-but sitting in folded piles on the table, never put away, sweeping vacuuming dusting regularly) my living area was always disorganized, cluttered and looked “messy.” I finally bought baskets and tubs for EVERYTHING, and stuck a label on it. Now not a single gadget or object gets set down anywhere UNLESS it’s in its proper basket

@hollyjobitner3285

13 күн бұрын

I hate folded clothes. I take them out of the dryer and hang up everything that I can except socks, underwear, and bras. My mom always dumped my dresser drawers, so now I don’t use a dresser. I hang our clothes on different color hangers and sometimes,(almost always), I have to warm up my clothes again to get the wrinkles out. 💙

@Joce123

13 күн бұрын

YES!! OUT IN THE OPEN..I DO NOT HAVE 1 THING IN MY CLOSET OTHER THAN 2 BOXES.I use coat trees & 1 tote for socks and the like

@Joce123

13 күн бұрын

​@@blondek767We switched so that our clothes are in the same mono chromatic colors and everything can be washed together without sorting

@Joce123

13 күн бұрын

​@@blondek767 10 pieces of clothing counting all seasons of clothes

@buckeyedav1

13 күн бұрын

@@blondek767 I am working now on hanging out of season clothes on a rack in the basement and getting rid of storage tubs, takes up so much less space and makes it more organized for me even though I would label my storage tubs the labels would fall off, the tub would get turned around and I wouldn't find seasonal clothes till they were out of season. I still have a lot of work to do with this but just wish I'd thought of it sooner. Anna In Ohio

Coming from a kid who didn't know she had ADHD and had to grow up through the names of being "lazy," "messy,” a "hoarder," thank you for doing this. It's very justifying and makes me feel like a human, and seen!! Thank you thank you thank you

@witchysam4273

4 сағат бұрын

This. I just had a cleaning company refer to me as hoardery with mental health issues. Which I do have mental health issues but it's the ADHD that's causing me the biggest issues and my limited mobility. Got a new cleaner starting on the weekend.

I wasn't expecting quality dry humor in an accurate how-to video for ADHD-friendly organization, but it was a pleasant and welcome surprise

Your empathy for adhd struggles almost made me cry. Thank you ❤

@KaylaJo96

5 күн бұрын

It's really refreshing and comforting to see someone who truly understands and views it as it is without any judgment.

@Tryforce8000

2 күн бұрын

I agree. I'm not even a quarter of the way through the video and I'm welling up at the amount of understanding this guy has for not only the struggles of ADHD, but how we are different from neurotypicals. And how that's not a bad thing. It's just different.

@CathyLoveFerguson-gl9ts

2 күн бұрын

I did cry... that was me until I found out I had ADHD at 73 and had grown up that way... my table where I keep my paperwork, like my desk at work years ago, could not be fathomed by anyone else but me... there's now way less clutter because you showed me how to tackle it... 😘👍

@courtneypayne9790

2 күн бұрын

Legitimately did... twice so far

@oldladyraver5909

2 күн бұрын

I cried as well knowning this is me and how I live. I hate it so much.

I settled down with my coffee to enjoy this, but the minute Jason started washing sink stuff, I remembered I’d left a herd of moose soaking in the sink. No self respecting woman can leave soapy meese in the sink while someone else is scrubbing, so I had to pause the video long enough to get the moose herd scrubbed & drying on the rack. 😂 Now I can enjoy my coffee & the rare sight of men cleaning a kitchen ❤

@juancena1259

9 күн бұрын

OMG THE LAST SENTENCE

@steviemichelle7271

8 күн бұрын

@@juancena1259right?!? 😂😂😂

@flyingumbreons

8 күн бұрын

Hope you have canned Moose face in the cupboard😂

@oleanderlove6113

8 күн бұрын

State of equilibrium reached ❤

@lindaalpp1446

7 күн бұрын

Too funny.

I have a grandson with ADHD that i nicknamed him INVENTORY CLERK. No joke he could always locate stuff at his house and my house. You are amazing.

I've never seen your content before and I cried through part of this video. I don't have a much clothing or shoes as them, but this is what my life is like. I'm in the middle of a divorce from someone with major personality disorders, but I am the one with ADHD and Bi Polar. I didn't know other people had the same struggles as I do. It was sort of a relief in a way, but also the way you spoke about your methods and the patience you exhibit with people is wonderful. I appreciate the fact that you said don't spend your money if you can't afford it. That blew my mind and I wanted to give you a hug. Thank you so much for this. I'm subscribed now.

I love how your autism awareness within yourself helps other people and your just able to be cautious of others feelings. 🤗

@carolynsimone8647

13 күн бұрын

I'll 2nd that..🥰

@nancybeattyjohnson1906

12 күн бұрын

I too love how he gets us.

@melissaladd3308

11 күн бұрын

Absolutely. Cool beans

@jhk3594

4 күн бұрын

Agree 💯 👍 🤩

Honestly the more I watch this the more it feels like it would be so helpful. Half of the time my issue with cleaning up my ADHD house is that looking at the piles is overwhelming and my brain decides that it can't handle it. But having someone come in and just organize the piles so they are a bit more orderly and logical so I can see everything and then go in after to organize it fully would be super helpful.

@MathewWoodard

12 күн бұрын

Try to pick one thing and one thing only, and do it on a timer. Maybe it’s picking up all the loose trash in a room. Take a break when the timer goes off and then either go back to the chore or be done, either way you made progress. Look up the Pomodoro technique, it’s been really helpful for me.

@autobotdiva9268

11 күн бұрын

i program my 22 year old google nest with all daily cleaning/washing for reminders

@zoeolsson5683

4 күн бұрын

Best decluttering session I ever had was getting help to clean up for a party after I put my back out.. The person I hired brought bags/boxes to me and I sorted them out and got them to put them away with similar items .... ADHD me uses up my executive function just determining what pile/location the item is to go.... Getting up and putting away to return to the next item too much distractions .... I have tried to explain this to people supporting me when I don't have backache and they just don't get it. ..

@katherinej51679

4 күн бұрын

Exactly! And I know that once I start, someone will interrupt me before I can finish and I’ll have to stop and never get back to it. So I don’t start.

@katarh

3 күн бұрын

The trick with the laundry he did is how I can actually fold mine as it's coming out of the dryer. I do a rough sort into pants, shirts, socks, etc. Then I sub sort the shirts into t-shirts, long sleeved, and such. Once my brain sees "oh, there's only four t-shirts" then the previously overwhelming basket of laundry is suddenly a tiny task I can take care of in about five minutes.

This is such a great educational tool. So many people need to understand their relative is not a "pig" but has ADHD and could use the RIGHT type of help.

I think recognizing the "out of sight, out of mind" principle in myself is what has allowed me to reorder my home in a way that's friendly to my ADHD. But I also think watching your videos has made me *want* to clean and made it fun for me! Un-piling my piles has become my new hobby. After all I have to make sure I didn't leave any of my live snapping wolves lying around on the floor

@cougarwomanmoorhead-dougla1772

2 күн бұрын

Me too

I am going to help a friend declutter and organize and she shared that she has ADHD. This is exactly the video I needed this week! Thank you so much for giving the respect and space to people with ADHD.

@julietchristen

12 күн бұрын

What you're going to do is called body doubling for us...having someone here helps keep me motivated to do what I need to do, and it's sooooo helpful--thank you on behalf of your friend!! :)

@Finkeldinken

5 күн бұрын

Send her the link to this before you two get going - maybe she needs different or even no accommodations in one or more areas. As a fellow ADHD’er who needs professional help to keep on top of things: thank you for being a good friend!!!

@horsepanther

4 күн бұрын

You are a good friend!

@rivenrime

3 күн бұрын

I wish I had someone like you who would help, but not judge. Thank you for your kindness!

As a sort of "Neatfreak", I appreciate all the info you gave in this video. I have loads of friends and family living with ADHD, and I realise now that some of the ways I was trying to "help" were not actually helpful. Mack out here savin' relationships and banishing Mooses!

@dovie2blue

13 күн бұрын

Yes, leave their piles alone!!! Never file anything away. Just love them and let them be!!

@kimberlymiller655

12 күн бұрын

Especially the wolf information! Very important!!

@torakfett3351

10 күн бұрын

I’m going to show this video to my husband so he stops “cleaning” by shoving things into plastic totes. It’s so unhelpful,

@jadeperlman3182

2 күн бұрын

I have ADHD 22-23 years now. And I was never messy, people get confused it’s the inside of the head that looks like this.

@stampandscrap7494

Күн бұрын

​@@jadeperlman3182 I wish I had your version. Its messy in both places with me.

I love how compassionate and educated you are about so many different disorders. And i love your sense of humour.

I came to this channel because I like watching cleaning things. I've stayed for the incredible mental health information and compassion that these guys show at every single cleaning they do. You guys are awesome ❤

I have been decluttering & purging my house for 3 months now. I have empty spaces everywhere. Please send all your unwanted mooses (?) over and I will take care of them and give them love❣️❣️❣️

@BF-cy5tf

11 күн бұрын

meese?

@marybartlett2375

11 күн бұрын

Meeses 😂

@viviennejordan215

9 күн бұрын

​@marybartlett2375 Love those meeses to pieces! 😊

@flyingumbreons

8 күн бұрын

I love canned Moose face.😂

@racheleagle6387

5 күн бұрын

I have absolutely NO ROOM FOR A MOOSE. BUT SEND ME 2

As someone with ADHD I had a strong visceral reaction when you said you couldn’t move plates from one cupboard to another. I yelled “oh hell no!!!” I would go ballistic if someone switched up my organization! Your level of understanding is appreciated and you’re not even cleaning my house 🤣🤣🤣

@themaggattack

3 күн бұрын

My MIL use to get into my drawers and cabinets and move my stuff around to where SHE thought it should be. It was SO INVASIVE. She would also cover everything up and put everything away constantly. And I do mean EVERYTHING. She wouldn't even let me leave the baby's high chair at the table, she would always put it in the closet. It was such an inconvenience to drag it out and set it up each time we ate. I could never find anything because of that woman. Everything took longer to do because of how she packed EVERYTHING up EACH TIME we used it. Several times I asked her to please not re-organize for me. To please leave things out where I put them. I asked her son (my ex) to please talk to her and ask her to stop it, and he said he would, but but he never did. One day I got out of the shower and couldn't find a towel and I F***ing SNAPPED! I screamed and cursed "WHERE TF ARE THE F'ing TOWELS?! SOMEBODY BRING ME A GD TOWEL!!!" She was shocked. Everyone was shocked. Idk why they were shocked, since I had basically BEGGED them both so many times to please not re-arrange my things. And this was my own personal items in my own damn bathroom, ffs! I told them either I had to move or she did, because I literally can NOT function with her constantly hiding my things from me in the name of "helping." He didn't understand why I was making such a big fuss about it. He is now my ex. Good riddance.

@HealingWarrior-ic6os

3 күн бұрын

@@themaggattack That’s awful!!! Some people have no concept of respecting other people’s boundaries. You don’t have to understand why it’s a big deal in order to respect it. I was at my sister’s house with my Mom a couple of months ago and had to act as referee between the two of them. My Mom thinks she has the best ideas about how something should be done or how it should be organized and my sister freaks out every time my Mom interferes. My Mom just can’t accept that she can make suggestions but can’t dictate how my sister does things.

@melindahajdin

2 күн бұрын

You feel entitled to abuse other people if they move something of yours? Get therapy.

@HealingWarrior-ic6os

2 күн бұрын

@@melindahajdin 🤣🤣🤣 I thought about explaining all the nuances but then I realized that if you actually listened to what Mac said and read what I wrote and came up with “entitled” and “attack” then you’re not going to understand even if I explain it to you.

@mrandisg

11 сағат бұрын

@@HealingWarrior-ic6os "You don't have to understand why it's a big deal in order to respect it." This hits the nail on the head! If only more people (ahem neurotypicals ahem) understood this concept...

My aunt has this to the point of hoarding, and while we do our best to keep things where they belong, we also have to bring our own recycling and trash bins when we do de-clutter, because if we throw things like expired food away in her own bins, she will literally dumpster dive to get it back. The state services are useless: after she had a stroke, the state services came to look over the house, saw how much of a mess it was, shrugged, and said it was "safe enough" for her to return to. Right after she got out of the physical therapy rehab, she was grateful we organized things for 12 hours, then started to panic and get angry because we threw out empty cat food cans she never threw away and expired food she never got around to eating. I'm glad to see you're able to help couples like this, that aren't quite as bad as it *could be*, because man, if I visited my aunt one day and it was as clean as this couple's house, I'd probably cry for joy.

@TDavis_333

Күн бұрын

It sounds like you're aunt is dealing with way more than just ADHD. she is a hoarder dealing and with mental illness. I'm glad she has you on her side. You sound very compassionate, but you need to get her professional help. If she can't afford it, read up on hoarding and dealing with hoarders online and watch and listen to hoarding videos on handling it to try to help her. It will make a difference. Good luck!

@mrandisg

11 сағат бұрын

@@TDavis_333 I agree. I highly recommend the channel A Hoarder's Heart. She has ADHD and hoarding disorder. She's been documenting her journey of decluttering her home for many years. If you compare some of her older videos with her more recent ones, you will be amazed at the transformation. But the key to her success has always been taking baby steps and being gentle with yourself. She's living proof that lasting change doesn't happen overnight, and it doesn't have to. Bottom line, she's a fantastic resource.

I've got autism and ADHD. Watching this video, listening to everything you're saying... I've never felt so understood!

This was the first one of your videos that made me cry...I was diagnosed at 51, and just hearing someone "see" someone like me...just, thank you.

@dta1329

5 күн бұрын

My goodness, bless you. I was diagnosed at 37 and it was like going through a mourning period of all my ‘failures’. I swear there should be a support group for late diagnosed adults. Being diagnosed is so validating but the emotions are overwhelming. It does get better.

Thank you for your respect for those of us with ADHD. For 70 years I have felt badly about myself because I can’t do what everyone else seems to know how to do so organically

This is THE BEST explanation I have ever heard and wished I could explain to my circle.

Your compassion when decluttering an ADHD-er's home brought me to tears. The way you described what you do and why it is important to do it in that way was so on point. I could not have identified more with a video if I tried. As an ADHD single mom living in my own personal hell, this was the best thing I've seen in a while. Wish I could get your compassionate, respectful, brilliantly shining, amazing self to help me, too. Please keep doing what you're doing. You are truly an angel and a gift to the world. ❤

I like to imagine that the “gerbil sounds” of your speeded up conversations are just non-stop sh*t talk back and forth and that Jason (Filth) surpasses his father in skill.

@marybartlett2375

13 күн бұрын

😂

@user-ho5mz7cu6j

13 күн бұрын

Funny, I like to think that's just how Jason sounds. Never heard him speak differently ...

@roseannseymour574

12 күн бұрын

😅

@lisa2000geese

12 күн бұрын

I wondered if younger people would recognize this sound. The 'gerbil sound' is how all video tapes used to sound during fast forwarding :)

@phoenixc7245

11 күн бұрын

2006 baby here. Yes, we know that that's just what fast forwarding is​@@lisa2000geese

As someone that has had ADHD for pretty much all her life but was not diagnosed until I was 48, let's just say that being called lazy for almost my entire life did things to my self confidence and self image that I am working on repairing right now. It is a disorder and trust me, if we had a choice, we would not have chosen to have ADHD.

@NiNitosix

13 күн бұрын

I feel like I wrote this! I was about the same age. I bet you probably went through the same thing at school too. The psychologist said I was one of the worst cases he’d ever seen. My dad and youngest sister suffer from it too.

@lilipurr7228

13 күн бұрын

I got diagnosed last year at 34! I totally understand you!!!!

@lilwarrioraleena

13 күн бұрын

I’m 36 and think I have it, but sadly my husband thinks it’s a made up by the drug companies. I told him they have literally compared brains and studied this disorder, it’s very real. I don’t know how to convince him.

@InAllGoodTime1970

13 күн бұрын

@@lilwarrioraleenayour husband sounds fun you should divorce him😂😂😂😂😂

@babydahl9424

13 күн бұрын

I am 29 and am working on getting diagnosed but it's hard to get an appointment at the moment. Being called lazy has DESTROYED my self confidence. My husband has been working with me for years now to try and help me and has learned I'm not lazy, I'm unmotivated or overwhelmed. Praise is necessary for me so anytime I do a task that to someone else would be simple, I show him what I did and he always tells me he is proud of me. He comments when he notices how good the house looks or if I do a chore that I hate without making a big deal about it. He goes out of his way to thank me, praise me and remind me that I am doing good. If I start to slack off he tries to help boost my motivation rather than comment that I am getting unmotivated. One time I got a huge burst of motivation and cleaned the whole house unexpectedly. He came home and took me out to eat to reward me for my hard work which I will never forget.

This video should go viral - maybe that would be the first time social media actually contributed to mental health. What a wonderful voice for sanity and compassion and good-natured humor! (And the decluttering is really inspirational!)

Thank you! Someone who thoroughly cares and understands clutter, ADHD, neurodivergence, Mental Health with such respect and grace! ✨☮️💜🕉️✨

I'm AuDHD and clean my friends houses. This is exactly what most their houses look like, yet some of them swear they're not ADHD 🙄 I tend to clean just like you do. I often put big labels on boxes/bins of like items and make a "can it be thrown away?" pile of things that I would trash. I love cleaning and organizing. Makes my autism happy to organize everything and make it all nice 🥰

@tybrown7112

11 күн бұрын

I’m also AuDHD and love cleaning my friends homes too. I get wildly uncomfortable in a mess. It becomes very hard to think.

@thesidneychan

4 күн бұрын

I'm AuDHD and I wish I had the cleaning part of autism. 😂

@lizyx211

2 күн бұрын

Can I hire you to help me organize my house😂?

This has definitely helped me understand my husband’s garage. I’ve stopped nagging him!

@lillianbarker4292

12 күн бұрын

My husband’s and my realization that he has ADHD may have saved our marriage. I had been accommodating it for decades but with resentment. He is a wonderful person who has enriched my life, but wowzers it ain’t easy.

@isJudgingYou

6 күн бұрын

Girrrl… it’s just in the garage??? Count your blessings! 😉

@MyOver50

5 күн бұрын

​@@lillianbarker4292Excellent!!

Just subscribed. I have tried over and over to hire people to help me and I almost always end up in tears, shaking with rage and frustration. Full blown autistic and adhd meltdown. Missing car titles, important bills, etc. You absolutely hit the nail on the head and deserve every gold plaque you can get your hands on. Thank you for being a kind member of society and doings such a huge service for people who need it.

Exactly this is what my friend did for me 15 years ago when I was a single mother of three little ones and undiagnosed and unaware of my adhd. Once in a while she came by and just rearranged my stuff and took out trash. She didn’t knew at the time but this meant SO much to me! Now 15 years later she had to be hospitalised for a while and I took care of her house and pets. She felt uncomfortable but then I reminded her of what she did for me and how this pulled me through. That’s what friends are for and if you don’t have a friend like that, find somebody who wants to throw out the moose for you.

@katec9893

19 сағат бұрын

You sound like you're both brilliant friends to each other.

It's funny because I have ADHD with really bad executive dysfunction, so my house is not too far from this (although my partner helps keep it to a certain standard) and if someone were to come in to clean I would probably lose my mind not knowing where everything is being put. But if I somehow get a blessed hyperfocus day for cleaning, I am likely to throw out 1/3 of the things in my house and not care at all about them. I just need the control over knowing what is where. And I have an art room dedicated solely to my projects where I store every hobby I have started for the past 10 years. It's full.

@brianaschmidt910

7 күн бұрын

I was told i was "ungrateful" when I had a meltdown over my family cleaning my room

@mindyhoward1505

6 күн бұрын

😂😂 "It's full." 😂😂

@Ryuusei924

5 күн бұрын

i’m the exact same way with the art storage room and needing to wait for days where i actually have energy to go on cleaning sprees. thanks for sharing!

@mkymse7

17 сағат бұрын

YES! If I want to throw it out, it's fine, but not when someone else does! More than once, I've gone digging through the trash because my husband threw a pile of papers in the trash without looking at them. He was cleaning the counter and assumed it was all junk. It made me feel panicked because there might have been something in that pile I needed.

Man, I never would’ve thought that rural Illinois would have such a big moose problem but you learn something new everyday.

@horsepanther

4 күн бұрын

Oh yeah, they are absolutely overrun with moose there. Mostly in the suburbs.

The first 20 seconds healed me in a way because you just straight up told people no, it's not what my family has screamed at me my entire life. And now I feel a little better about my situation.

As a person who has ADHD the "items become decorations" is huge for me! I've actually gotten into the habit of finding decorative bottles and trays to put my day to day things in so that it's still visually attractive (for example my spices and teas all have to be out but I'm working on making them look like apothecary bottles)

I think this guy is OUTSTANDING, how I wish he lived in Michigan, so I can hire him full-time! I love his jokes! 🤣

@DVD927

13 күн бұрын

Too many moose in Michigan. The spin kicks would be exhausting.

@reneeacosta4420

12 күн бұрын

​@@DVD927😂😂😂

The banter and empathy combined makes this channel unbeatable for me.

I have ADHD, and my dad used to get the cleaner to clean my room if I didn't clean it fast enough. I would beg them to stop but he'd say that she's doing it against his will, and she'd say that he told her to. My mom tried to help me in her house, but it was hard because of my ADHD and my dad's terrible parenting. In the end, I only managed to start improving when I left. I started learning to tidy in my own time and way, and I would ask friends to help me if it got too out of hand. All my college friends were very supportive, thankfully, and one of them had OCPD tendencies. Thank you for being so caring towards those of us with ADHD. It means a lot, as so most people tend to just bulldoze over any actual attempt at making progress.

The out of sight out of mind thing is absolutely spot on. - Adult with ADHD

@ChooseCompassion

Күн бұрын

Here too!

@TRMURRAYNY

22 сағат бұрын

Me too!!

I wish more people could be thoughtful, respectful, and kind towards those with ADHD, etc. Thank you for all you do ♡

This should be required viewing by all psychiatrists, psychologists, teachers, and parents, oh, and other cleaners of course!

Your comment about "others imposing a finish line on projects as seen as an insult" was spot on. One of my biggest pet peeves ever since i was a kid is when someone is trying to teach me something And then they just do it without giving me the time to try and finish it for myself Hands-On.

I personally find that moving the random moose off the counter makes all of the difference!

This is why I have so much trouble asking for help. I panic and feel so much shame when someone tries to help me organize. But I’m struggling to do it on my own. It’s a cycle but I’ve made a huge step forward by getting rid a lot of things. Minimalist mentality helps me tremendously.

@nodoboho

2 күн бұрын

Same. I am drawn to minimalism, efficient small-space living ideas, organization. My cubicle, desks, file drawers, computer files at work were always _the_ most organized. My home? Haven't let anyone in except landlords, maintenance guys, annual fire inspection guys, etc. in _years_ . I learned early on that asking for help with things that I "should" have been able to do myself made me feel shame...and then I didn't get what I needed anyway and felt more hurt and depression than if I hadn't asked. I have nobody in my social circle or family who is more functional than me (I often help others) AND is compassionate, patient, respectful, thoughtful. I need to find those people...I know they exist somewhere. I make progress on my own in fits and starts, then backslide. It's a lifelong struggle, although I still have hope that one day I will maintain a clean, organized, serene environment continually, rather than just for my usual period (six months maybe) after a fresh start/move.

I have ADHD and I used to live in what I called “organized chaos” Now that I’m medicated I’m much more sensitive to clutter and things being dirty (before I wouldn’t even notice) so I’m desperately trying to implement routines and organize my stuff in a way, where it works for me and is also easy to maintain. It’s proving to be very difficult! But I also know that when someone other than me tries to help by inventing new systems and putting my stuff in boxes, it actually feels violating! This video reminded me that my “organized” doesn’t have to look like anyone else’s.

I started crying halfway through the video. The clutter in my very small house has become unbarable and I've spend the last few years blaming myself for being " a failure". Me and my partner being diagnosed with autism and ADHD helped me understand a lot of things but nobody offers help with that kind of issue. Profesional cleaners's judgmental "tips" cannot be applied realistically in our household. Seeing you help this couple... relating to your sense of humour and analytical mind... it's like a window opened to let in fresh air. I feel the blame I put on myself lifting away. I feel like I can actually do something about this clutter instead of drowning in it. Thank you.

Thank you! For explaining this in a way that supports. My mom always told me just to "do it" when it came to cleaning or organizing. Still does, and I'm 43. Zero understanding of the diagnosis I've had since I was 7. Don't get me wrong, my mom is a loving, doting, and supportive mom. She just can't wrap her mind around the struggles we face (my 2 kids and husband also have ADHD). But thank you for validating and understanding the process. You are a certified bada$$. Sorry Jason is just filth, though. Can't win 'em all.

@horsepanther

4 күн бұрын

It can be near impossible for a lot of non-ADHD folks to wrap their mind around the struggles we face. Sadly, this leads to a lot of frustration, tension in the home, and for the ADHD person, tons of shame and discouragement.

@kitefan1

Күн бұрын

Show her the KZread short video "ADHD Paralysis Explained" by @olivialutfallah.

They call me Frivolous Franny in Alabama. No joke guys thanks for the assist. This family was in great need. I hope the moose finds a new dining room❣

@WomensTop20

12 күн бұрын

Another Bama gal! I live in Mobile.

@LP-mz8rc

12 күн бұрын

​@@WomensTop20I'm in Bham.🦋 I need need need them to help me! ADHD, OCD, Disabled🤦🏻‍♀️🙆🏻‍♀️

"shut up talking moose!!" 😭😭 great video by the way, i have audhd and this comforts me a lot

I really appreciate how that moose kept coming around. I hope it finds happiness in the sunset in a place it belongs.

Thanks for breaking down adhd for the people who don't get it. Sometimes, we get stuck. And normalcy for us is like that.

As someone who has AuDHD clean is... A massive struggle. I was basically living in a dump until I was remember able to get meds. I've spent my whole life living like this.. and it's not because of laziness like a lot of people think. We want to fix it. And we hate it. And we find it embarrassing Thank you for helping this person You absolutely get my subscription. (It all made sense when you said you're autistic too 😂. I appreciate this) I wish my special interest could be cleaning and organizing This has made me oddly emotional. Most people don't understand these struggles. And don't try to understand. So hearing validation like this is just.. thank you

I had a nervous breakdown a couple years ago. The person who helped me the most was a kind and neurodivergent-aware declutterer like you. I needed a neurodivergent self education, a trauma therapist, a psychiatrist, substance use counseling, and peer support, and all of those have ultimately helped me rebuild my life. But I couldn't even have gotten started on that journey without that declutterer, who understood my day to day ADHD challenges, met me where I was, helped me accept how I am, and helped me function enough at home to get to and survive between all those other services. Thank you so much for educating others about this. We need SO MANY MORE OF YOU.

After watching this, I am self-diagnosing as ADHD. I had thought so before, but this confirms it. I can declutter an area, and the next day it's back to square one. I have UFP's all over the place, (unfinished projects) that I was working on, got interrupted or distracted, and for one reason or another (can't find a tool or this or that thing needed to finish it, or too many things that need finishing that I don't know which one to pick up and finish first.) But if you ask me where something is, I know exactly where it is (except for that thing that I can't find to finish that project.) If I get interrupted, I put down whatever is in my hand right then and there, and later can't remember where I put it. I am in such a hurry to take care of the "emergency" or usually it's to help someone else, and then I have to back track to figure out where I put the thing. I don't know why black and empty spaces bother us, but that's obviously part of it. I have tried to do exactly what you did here, make decorations functional. So I made myself a rule, i can buy a decoration if it serves an actual purpose, like a basket or pretty container. No nick-knacks in my house, they are just dust collectors. Once a family member came over, and just decided to "help" me declutter. Took a picture of my living room (I don't know who she sent it to) like a before and after shot. I already felt invaded. I was sick. She and the kids went back to one of the bedrooms and came out with a shopping bag of "just trash", but I am not like that, I don't have ANY trash just lying around. So I still to this day don't know what she through away. So obviously it wasn't important, as I haven't missed it, but it's just the idea of her coming in and making that decision without my consent or knowledge. I was sick on the couch occupied with the other kids. Then she wanted to "organize" my spice cabinet. I don't have just one spice cabinet. I am a country girl with a tiny studio kitchen. I use lots of spices. So most are in a closet, some smaller bottles in the cabinet by the stove, only because they are the little bottles and they fit in there. To organize that one little cabinet would have been time wasted. I told her no, she got made, I felt invaded and frustrated, and she left. You just can't do that to anyone, much less someone who already knows they have a problem, are trying to deal with it, and didn't ask for you to come in and make decisions for them. Another time a different family member and I were chatting and I said something about needed to rearrange furniture to accomodate my activities, and her first words were, "well, you need to get rid of a bunch of stuff".....but I don't have anything in my home that i don't want.She works a 9-5, doesn't have kids, and her only hobby seems to be throwing away stuff. For example, to throw away my craft supplies would be like cutting out part of my brain. Statements like that just don't help.

@jeanene72

12 күн бұрын

After writing this, I think perhaps one of the causes of ADHD is when, as a child, your schedule is so controlled by others that you don't have time to be alone, to finish your little projects. I remember lots of times I would be doing something, some little project, and would have to put it down to go do another chore, or go somewhere with mom , or it's time to eat, and then it's bedtime or homework or whatever. We didn't get the chance to really develop that part of our brain that organizes stuff. I think this is true, because one of the things I love to do, is organize things. It's like an inner need to do that, but only after it gets messy. There is a feeling of satisfaction in de cluttering and organizing a space, but I don't know the first thing about how to keep it that way. I was a teacher, so can you imagine what my desk looked like?

@_BO.

11 күн бұрын

@@jeanene72 I am a late diagnosed women with Autism (ASS) and ADD. I love organizing things like you said, just like many others with Autism do (including Mack). When I was a kid I loved to organize my pencils in order of colours. Maybe you're both, AD(H)D and Autism have a lot of overlap and come often together in women, so I've been told. Your familymember overstepped a boundry: your house = your rules, right? The feeling of you feeling invaded while it happened I can totally really relate too: I would have felt unsafe in my own house! (Excuse me for my gramar: I don't live in an English-speaking country). Kuddo's to you

@ellehan3003

2 күн бұрын

Same thing happened to me in almost the exact same way. But now that family member is much much more understanding. She apologised too after other family explained that it was like an invasion. Her heart was in the right place. I was diagnosed with high functioning autism (though i function very poorly lol) not adhd but sometimes I wonder if its both. I get overwhelmed so easily. I'm clean and tidy in every other room but when people see my bedroom they see mess. My room is also clean just very cluttered. I try to keep the chaos there and have a shed for arts and crafts.

@thebosshouse

Күн бұрын

I feel your pain! A (former) friend offered to help me move and ended up throwing away half my stuff, saying I had too much of everything. She just threw stuff out the back door, into the snow. I'm still replacing things 2 years later. 😭

Doom Piles... Didn't Organize Only Moved

@dovie2blue

13 күн бұрын

Oh Lordy that's it!!!🤣🔥

@jeno264

12 күн бұрын

🤯 is that what that means?! 💖💖

@nodoboho

2 күн бұрын

My doom piles go into file boxes whenever there's an apt inspection or a move. I have had boxes labelled with the room or place ("Dining table") and the "era" ("c. ?/19-1/21"). I knew what was there...for a while, until remembering what was in my current boxes and piles pushed the old stuff out of my memory. Those boxes went on the very neat cement block shelves in my storage unit; they rarely got reduced/re-used, just added to. Now I stack new boxes neatly along a wall in my bedroom...and around other places, waiting to be filled...unlabelled...clutter overwhelm, depression, health issues, no car, etc. :(

i was gonna say that you have no idea how much it means to see someone who *gets* why cleaning is such a struggle for neurodivergent people and has actual strategies and tips that aren’t just “make a list” or “force yourself to do it even though it’s overwhelming”… but then you said you’re autistic, so i’m sure that you do. i’m autistic and adhd and cleaning is basically a traumatic process for me because there is so much social baggage around doing it the “right” way. i really like the idea of reframing things in terms of making items easier to access even if it doesn’t look “organized” to neurotypicals - i never feel better after cleaning because i can’t find anything and i know it’s not gonna stay like that, but i would probably feel a lot better if things were organized simply based on being able to find and to get to.

As someone with Autism and ADHD seeing your process validates my cleaning process and is giving me so many tips - thank you!!

34:30 "If you're looking to assign blame or fault in a situation like this, *you're* the problem." ❤❤❤

@melindahajdin

2 күн бұрын

Yeah, no. Everyone is responsible for their own feelings. No one is entitled to rage at others, regardless of their diagnosis. No one should be expected to walk on eggshells around you, because you think you deserve your own way in everything and brandish anger if you don't get it.

@kimwise5528

2 күн бұрын

@@melindahajdinEmpathy, my dear, just empathy. “And the greatest of these is love. . .” It’s ok for you to be the adult in the situation. Lord knows, SOMEBODY needs to be. 😅

This is hilarious, I was just yesterday talking to my therapist about my difficulties with de-cluttering as someone with ADHD, and why I don't trust other people to do it because then I don't know where anything is, and introduced her to this channel during the conversation as a useful resource I found. Still trying to work up the executive function to tackle these doom piles though...

@edennis8578

13 күн бұрын

I started out with this piece of advice from Break the Twitch years ago: one piece at a time. I got through stacks, 6 years of paper, by starting with one piece of paper. Same with everything else. Deal with one piece at a time; if you feel like doing more, that's good, but even if you don't feel like doing anything, do at least one item.

@misst1586

12 күн бұрын

​@@edennis8578Amen. I just did three years of papers. One piece at a time.

@brianaschmidt910

7 күн бұрын

Try boxes. 1 box for each room. You put things for those rooms into the boxes and move them to their rooms. But I recommend finding ways to ride a dopamine wave of motivation. How to ADHD Olivia Lutfallah Hayley Honeyman Are all great youtube channels.

@gloriarodriguez367

Күн бұрын

Does therapy make you feel better ?

@EF5Cyniclone

14 сағат бұрын

@gloriarodriguez367 Yes, I like my therapist, she's good at letting me articulate what I need to say so i feel understood, and offers good advice and useful perspective.

I love your dry sense of humor and the respect that you show these people while helping them out.❤

My ADHD mind was calmed by your compassionate comments.

Floordrobe! That is a great word! I may or may not have a chairdrobe 😂

@AnApothecarysCorollary

13 күн бұрын

Hahaha! Mine was an ellipticaldrobe.

@julietchristen

12 күн бұрын

I have a chairdrobe too! :)

@anneahlert2997

5 күн бұрын

I can't bring myself to see clothes from the floor as "clean," so I have my pile laying over the wooden end rail of my bed. I guess that would be a "bed-robe"?

@jenpink4298

5 күн бұрын

@@anneahlert2997 I like it! 😂👍🏻

Another comment regarding the shoes and clothes...😂😂😂 When covid hit and everyone was freaking out about not having toilet paper and cleaning supplies. I did an inventory of my house. 😮 I have not had to buy any toilet paper, paper towels, cleaning supplies, bathroom products, laundry products in 4 years. I am not sure why i had so much stuff before but since realizing the insanity I have at least become aware. I have also stopped buying clothes and shoes and given or thrown away the equivalent of 13 50 gallon bags of these. I have thrown away so many cooking items. It is still ADHD disorganized but at least the piles are much smaller. Just to give true credit to who it belongs my eyes were opened by the lady that cleaned my house. The impact folks like you have is everlasting and very much appreciated.

I have never experienced it before in my life, but I now find myself unmotivated, overwhelmed, and unable to bother unpacking because there is no payoff! I moved in 2022 to another state = big, exhausting and expensive move in order to buy a home for the first time after being screwed by the LAST recession only to lose half my income the SECOND I signed the lease on a temporary rental that I had planned to stay in while I got acquainted with the new state and find my dream home just to have the market prices shoot up 3 x the actual value as soon as I made the commitment. If I cannot EVER control my life or get ahead, I can't muster the energy to give a damn if there is dog hair in the corners or dust on the Christmas decor that is still not packed away. Add to this that my adult child with ADD lives with me and is like this all the time and now we both live with depression. Your video helps me see how you help others cope with clutter and was very insightful as to the mental issues at play. Thank you!

I've never seen anybody understand ADHD so well when it comes to cleaning and decluttering. You are amazing! Thank you!

Omg the way you described how someone with adhd functions and places things and how it would feel to have it moved… I’m realizing I may have adhd. It felt like you described me to a T!

@bottomofastairwell

4 күн бұрын

If the out of sight or of mind thing is relatable, that's a BIG one. Coz it's literally exactly like that. If I can't see or, I forget it exists. Set my coffee down to go to the bathroom, it HAS to be at eye level, coz if i don't see it, boom, thought gone, coffee forgotten. Bring those leftovers to work for lunch? Better leave my lunchbox in the middle of the bedroom floor the night before as a visual reminder, otherwise nope, won't remember lunch. Leftovers begins the milk in the fridge, don't see them, not there and they go bad. And don't even get me started on remembering to call people back. Or if you do that thing where you're finally gonna vacuum the floor, but then to vacuum the floor you have to pick up the stuff on it, and one of those things is the laundry basket, and to get that laundry basket off the floor you have to empty it, and to do that you have to fold the laundry, so you start folding the laundry to put it away. But to put it away you need to clear some room in the drawer, so you strt going through the shirt drawer to get rid of some old shirts so you can make room for the shirts you just folded. So you start going through the shirts and you see that the handle on the drawer is loose, and you've been meaning to fix that forever, so you go to get the screwdriver to tighten it, but it's in the junk drawer, and even you own the junk drawer, you see there's a weeks worth of mail that you haven't opened yet in there cuz you've just been dumping it in and meaning to deal with that matter too, so you start opening that mail and sorting it out and tossing the junk mail in the recycle bin. And then you remember tomorrow morning is trash day, so you have to take the trash and recycling out. And that's how you vacuum your floor. By taking the trash and recycling out. Yeah, if you do that thing, might be adhd

@kimwise5528

2 күн бұрын

@@bottomofastairwellOMGOODNESS!! That’s a right-on explanation. I love it. I’m cutting and pasting it to my notes right now. 😅

@kimwise5528

2 күн бұрын

😂🤣😅 And it was “edited” 😂🤣😅

@jamkemistry2069

Күн бұрын

I thought this was just how everyone cleaned...I mean, it makes sense for me because I feel like doing it this way is the "most efficient" 😭😔 I guess it's just adhd

@bottomofastairwell

6 сағат бұрын

@@kimwise5528 yeah, well, i have to edit lots of comments, cuz autocorrect just be screwing me over

Damn, I wish you could do my house. Three of the four of us have ADHD, so there are DOOM (Didn’t Organize, Only Moved) piles everywhere.

I have a very similar situation going on in my home. He has given me a whole different take on what is truly happening. Not just with my own mental health but that of my husband and my children. Even behind closed doors there is so much judgement and finger pointing going on. Watching this has given me hope and taught me to be a lot more mindful especially with my children with ADHD. I 100 % felt my son was simply lazy. I am guilty of only understanding that the adults are overwhelmed from work and the house. I never associated emotions for contributing to why my home is in its state of disarray!!! He is good!!

I am going to show this to my mom! I am currently trying to get her to understand that we all have adhd and that the way our brains work isn’t how everyone else’s does! My aunt keeps trying to clean for us and we can’t find anything anymore 😩😅 oh! And I live in the Midwest too!! You guys are amazing!!!

It occurs to me while I am watching you today...I do not have ADHD...that you make me comfortable with autism and ADHD in the best way. You help me understand others. That is always helpful and so very appreciated.

My hubby has ADHD. We just called it FOMO (fear of missing out). Didn't need sleep until nothing going on. Always keeps a pile of stuff next to where he sits. Stuff to clean glasses, medicine, pens, paper, towels etc. It drives me crazy. He cleans the toilet and sinks in the house dsily, makes the bed daily, so he isn't a messy person. I now see its his ADHD. Thx Mack.

I love this. I'm an older adult who is just now figuring out I have adhd. I found this video looking for motivation to clear out my never-ending "doom piles" 😂 I thought I was the only one, and just this year finally finding out I'm not alone. I appreciate everything you said about organizing for people with adhd. The funniest parts of this video were the million bags, shoe piles, and clothes. I literally always wear jeans and t-shirts, yet I keep buying clothes I'll never wear, so one day I can dress like a grown up. 😂😂😂 Also, your humor is the best! The cupboard of wolves and the counter moose had me crying.

Anyone else with adhd put this on to help them clean their home? I had a mountain of dishes that this vid helped me get through 😁

Im so proud of myself, i dont have a floordrobe atm, in fact i have 3 IKEA bags full of tried on and rejected clothes, whether style or size wise dont fit me anymore, i still have a ways to go, theres about 3 IKEA bags (ish, theyre not in one place) of clean or in the process of being cleaned laundry i still have to try on and decide on, but ive done so much! There maybe 2 IKEA bags in my closet of stuff that fits and all my clothes are on hangers, so ive turned all of them the 'wrong' way so that when my calendar event for August hits and things haven't been worn in that time, unless its for a special event(that is likely to happen within a year) i will get rid of it! No need to re-try it on, it just has to go, 4 months of not wearing it is too much! And someone on a buy nothing fb group asked for clothes in exactly the sizes im removing from my closet, their clothes got destroyed in a fire, so i get to do what someone did for me when all of mine was destroyed when i was 15

I wonder when he comes across a hoarded-looking apartment, but the owner isn't a hoarder or an actual prepper, but they require stuff because of a poverty trauma. They don't have an emotional connection to separate things, but a very serious connection with the stuff as a whole. I have a friend like this. I was helping her to clean, and while she had no problems donating some items, she had four or five pairs of very expensive hiking shoes because she wanted to start hiking at some point and when she found a pair in sale, she just had to buy them because of the feeling that she might not have the money later.

@SIC647

12 күн бұрын

You could suggest a set number of extras? That way she doesn't have to make too many decisions, but know that she can only have +2 of stuff. It is also wise to learn about scarcity mindset. Especially how it makes you stay poor, because you "save up" in things, rather than saving your money, and things obviously lose their value. I don't mean scarcity/abundance mindset the way influencers often portray it, which is simply designed to make you spend more of your money (the exact opposite of what you want). ClutterBug did a good video about how it actually works a while back.

Thank you! I've had ADHD and my whole family just thinks I'm messy and cluttered! It's organized chaos to me! I would love someone to help me like that without making me feel like a piece of crap. I also have three kids 17,6,8 and I'm going through treatment for stage four cancer and they still act like I'm just a lazy slob!!! Praying for a home of my own! Loving with family if awful! Keep up the good work!

I’ve been on TV twice as an adult with ADD before it was cliche. My oldest son also struggled ADD. As a child, I realized the relief I experienced when my mother would do a clutter dump to my room. It usually included a “wow” touch like some cool holiday or seasonal flare. As a dad, I learned to do the same for my son. I made a lot of the hard decisions to purge his room of things that didn’t matter. I was mindful of things I knew he was dear to but I did get rid of a lot. It was a big help to him and the relief he experienced shadowed the losses he used to think were so dear. I’ve always claimed that ADD was just a lower level Autism. I only use the terms ADD/Autism for familiarity of the readers as I do not like the labels used as a diagnosis. I believe ADD/Autism are more of a scale that people struggle with their organized thoughts than a black and white diagnosis.

Wonderful teaching video! You have helped me immensely in understanding my Asperger’s ADHD roommate, I had no idea! You have opened my eyes! I did not realize I was causing her stress by organizing and putting things away. Thank you a million times over for teaching us about all this!

Mack, that moose you kicked out of the house in Illinois, ended😂 up in my front yard in Indiana!

@SIC647

12 күн бұрын

That's how powerful his spinkicks are. He isn't joking about avoiding spinkicking the dust off houses, because the houses can't withstand it. 🤭

I broke down in the first minute… been desperately trying to *fix* and declutter and ask for help… but i would be so grateful to anyone who had this modicum of understanding. It seems so simple. But, yet a monumental task.. thank you

Oh my gosh this is the first time I've seen a decluttering video that makes SENSE. This just confirms my suspicions I'm more than a little neurospicy, but it gives me ideas to beat back the mess that's taking over my space.

This video got me motivated to finish working on my sewing table. I got up, got a drink, looked at the table, thought nope, and crawled back in bed. I wish we could bottle whatever you've got. I'm so overwhelmed....

WOW 😲😳....I just got recently diagnosed with ADHD.... The insight from this video has been more helpful than therapy. You taught me how to understand myself.... I traditionally have level 10 self criticism. And get overwhelmed. I feel like you just made sense of my whole life. This video definitely deserves an Academy Award. And should be a prerequisite for those willing to take this kind of thing on.

@MyOver50

5 күн бұрын

I was diagnosed years ago & only learned last week that I did not have any "self-management" plan. 63.. without a plan..😅. Google it & within minutes you'll understand it & see what's necessary. 😊

I’m going to be completely honest: the whole first five minutes of this video just made me gasp and cry, not in that sad way but in the “oh my god I have never felt so seen and understood before, thank you so much” way. I have ADHD and a wee bit of the tism, and I have struggled so much and worked SO so hard over the years to break some of my ADHD habits, but I’m 42 and I still rely on clear bins to store things so the object permanence (“out of sight, out of mind”) isn’t so hard to deal with; I still end up with the occasional Doom Pile, Doom Drawer, or Doom Bag; and it’s just SO HARD to organize things so that it stays in one place and doesn’t spread across the house like a hoard. Just…. I appreciate you so much, I know they appreciated your respect of them just as much… thank you. I feel understood.

As someone with adhd, i CANNOT thank you enough. You handled this with such compassion and sensitivity and kindness. I felt so understood and seen i could freaking cry. It's so obvious that you truly understand how we think and function, and I can't thank you enough for that. This is amazing and beautiful. (And also, a freaking dream. Like can you come do my place next? Coz I just did 2 strict weeks of work in a row with no days off and good lord, what a disaster)

I'm convinced I have it...but never diagnosed. (62 years old) I have read the ADD adult stories and felt they were telling my story my whole life. I've never been lazy, in fact I work harder and longer than most of my counterparts because I have to to stay ahead..because life sometimes is just harder and more confusing for us. Choosing between organizing my bills by month or type of bill..is the type of thing that can cause a full stop! leading to total disorganization of my bills. Yet some days I can clean off the whole table, pay bills, do some extra housework and still have time left for fun things. And even those days are sometimes not good mentally because I am so sad that I cannot function like this every day.

Mack..um..er..Fight Club. I bought one of your coffee mugs. Since canned moose face gives me a bad case of the toots, I decided to buy the Stupid Moose Face mug. It didn't disappoint. In fact, it is now the pride of my cupboard. Gotta love the moose❤. Kudos to Lil' Thug for capturing it's MMC moose essence.

@MidwestMagicCleaning

13 күн бұрын

Niiiiiice! ❤️❤️🫎