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@WoziduranJahemter

Жыл бұрын

It's a mistake to any of them exes to take them back after their caves were ravaged and now they want something stable without them putting any effort into your evolution but rather causing hear hurts. That's why pair-bonding is done by stable mature men with other working decent women who aren't inconsiderate and indecisive because they want to exploit the market. Low misery people don't belong with consciouss people. They know what they choose and why they choose it, their intent is to profit to maximum and work the minimum. Say no to leeches narcissists exploiters! They come back usually with problems and dramas because their character didn't give them good results.

@1stdefenseinc

Жыл бұрын

He doesn’t know that women cause problems to get you to leave them so they can sleep around during that breakup. Then they get your dumbass back.

@WoziduranJahemter

Жыл бұрын

@@1stdefenseinc looks like sexual infested with promiscuity covert borderline narcs. With each of these transgressions acts they got lower and lower into their deserved holes of misery and degeneration. Sad.

@rogerfernandesgoa

4 ай бұрын

😊

@lewynz

Ай бұрын

@virtuousmen can you share the link for the full interview please?

I'm wishing all my Bros on here all the best on their journey.

@Jae_001

Жыл бұрын

You too brotha

@empyerful

Жыл бұрын

Wish you the best to brother. Stay strong, I’m trying.

@Nam3less2U

Жыл бұрын

Same to you bruh.

@user-uq7sk9yg9i

Жыл бұрын

🙏

@victorsuccess2448

Жыл бұрын

Wish you the same Brother.

Gold advice! He's talking about real men with emotions who want real relationships, not those who are content with one-sided relationships (where you might as well be alone).

@genytal2191

Жыл бұрын

Felt dat…man I have faith that the one for me is out there rn somewhere…

@Geromi87

Жыл бұрын

@@genytal2191 definitely is! There's someone out there for everyone.. That's for sure.. Just gotta put the effort it and keep searching

@treyyoungley6171

Жыл бұрын

Lmao common tate w

@r0n718

Жыл бұрын

Yeahhh. That first sentence is paramount!

@turbomunch

Жыл бұрын

rEaL mEn 🤤

My ex broke up 3 months ago, she was my first love, and it lasted 2 years long. I was a mess for like 1 month. Its inevitable to feel like that. Time will heal. Keep your heads up boys.

@sushmit.kishore

7 ай бұрын

Same situation bro🙌

@CpTn_QwRk

7 ай бұрын

How are you now?

@M4rt1n3z_43DYN_

7 ай бұрын

Same homie, was devastated the first month and things have gotten better and ofc I still think about her but eventually you realize hey its its okay I'll be fine. Just stay strong bro.

@succeedingtime

7 ай бұрын

@@CpTn_QwRk im fine dude, sometimes i still think about her, but not the way i used to. I think i let her go. I made progress in gym and social life, also i feel more confident and calm. No more worrying. How about u

@wassupbitchesitsmyouimina5641

7 ай бұрын

​@@succeedingtime that's amazing man. im going through a breakup as well. reading your comment made me feel relatable

This is true . .... You can't just force a person to love you by putting in efforts

When you walk, keep walking, there was a reason you walked.

@mathewkeen2356

Жыл бұрын

But what if you just walked for a pack of cigarettes? Is that what happened to all those dad's?!

@Pedro-of4tn

Жыл бұрын

@@mathewkeen2356 it's okay, if you need someone to talk to, you can chat with people in the comments or in real life.

@AB-sk4jl

Жыл бұрын

When you sleep, keep sleeping, there was a reason you slept.

@AaronLyons

21 күн бұрын

@@AB-sk4jlwhat does this mean

This is what I tell my homies all the time. “Either way, you are still going to hurt, So you might as well be the one walking away. Anything else you do is just an attempt at delaying the pain.”

@drleo6409

Жыл бұрын

True, a lot of pain or a little pain

@dimebagvinnie644

Жыл бұрын

Gold

@kaboom4986

Жыл бұрын

No...Tell her you want a deep connection and find out what she needs from a man. Be that guy.

@stuntcox5731

Жыл бұрын

@@kaboom4986 see you already fucked up, you shouldn’t have to ask. You are either the guy or not the guy.

@nblgranada

Жыл бұрын

king

Been there done that. And I ended up marrying the woman I walked away from, we broke up for two years and then we both came back together started dating again we were both a little more grown mentally and emotionally and started from scratch again. Now we are happily married going on three years with a daughter of our own

@sebastianmuller804

Жыл бұрын

Wow,inspiring! In these two years,did you have a new Girl or were you single for two years straight?

@JohnWick03

Жыл бұрын

That’s amazing man. Glad to hear it.

@Invictusion

Жыл бұрын

Thats amazing. My Girlfriend broke up with me. I have the hope that she will be come back. But if it will be in 2 years i dont really know how i can Deal With my mind that she eventually had Sex with other guys. Im sixteen years Old, we've been togehter since 2,8 years, nearly 3. That was my first love.

@russellrivero6356

Жыл бұрын

I’m in a similar situation. First girlfriend at 17 and we were together for over a year. We got into a disagreement and whilst both parties apologized for what happened, she said she wants to be on her own for the time being. I told her her that I respected the decision and walked away. If things are meant to be she will come back, if not there’s a better Queen out there. Keep your heads up brothers.

@montyklark1043

Жыл бұрын

This case is an a exception

This comment section is full of positive people and im glad, its something that is missing with youtube comment sections these days. Stay hard kings, yall got this!

@macyanderson7166

8 ай бұрын

hard as a rock rn

@suomisoturi123

8 ай бұрын

@@macyanderson7166 tremendous

@bodhi9464

25 күн бұрын

Tate breakup advice . 🐍 ♟️

I try and tell my 22 year old son this. He has a heart made of gold. And was just hurt recently.

@benjamin5726

Ай бұрын

He needs a man to tell him

@lolollolol5654

Ай бұрын

my biggest fear is dying alone with no family, and every birthday it comes closer i fear. really messes with my head. never had a real relationship at 27. fcks me up

@racebannon96

29 күн бұрын

@@lolollolol5654 What is worse than ending up alone? Being with someone that makes you want to be alone. I went through my divorce at 37. It was the gift that keeps on giving. I was married to a woman for 10 years that did not me touching her and I got no help with the kids and chores from her. Work on yourself and do things you enjoy.

@superstarritway

24 күн бұрын

reasons why he needs a father in his life

@AaronLyons

21 күн бұрын

@@lolollolol5654meditation will lead you to where you wish to go. Actual commitment to it. I recommend The Mind Illuminated + Breaking the Habit of Being Yourself + autobiography of a yogi I was in your position and then this path changed my life in every way for the better. I went from not compatible with anyone to being compatible with everyone. This shift from awkward discomfort in myself to confidence and freedom from negative thoughts gave me many options in terms of relationships. Exercise plus meditation friend. Conquer your mind and become a happier person more comfortable in your skin so people enjoy your company more

Things fell apart five months ago. I decided to walk away and grow from the situation. In just a few months I turned all my frustration and confusion into motivation, hunger, and drive. She is back now and we are both different people - better, stronger, mature, and ready for the future. Stay strong brothers.

Being alone kind of feels good sometimes

@M4rt1n3z_43DYN_

7 ай бұрын

It's TRUE, it does feel good to be alone. But once you get love and lose it, you realize hey I want that again, doesn't necessarily have to be with the same person but it can happen.

@racebannon96

29 күн бұрын

After living with a constant yelling and lying narcissist, I enjoy living alone.

If you love someone, you will always love them. Sometimes, as an adult, you realize that a romantic relationship just isn't working.

The person who usually wins a negotiation is the one who cares least about the outcome. Don’t ever force anyone to love you, express yourself like you’ve got nothing to lose and if its not reciprocated, wish them the best and ADIOS

@JMac-27

Жыл бұрын

If only this was always possible. Some people are stuck in abuse and due to no fault of your own are now dependent on that person

@rickurias8300

4 ай бұрын

I don’t think you can force someone to love you to begin with

@jaydenkeen1935

4 ай бұрын

@@rickurias8300Stockholm syndrome

Jocko is the only person on earth who uses the word procol when speaking on relationships.

I've watched a number of videos today to relieve my pain, but this short video has made me stronger, thanks

Currently dealing with a brokenheart. The video's message was great, but so is this comment section. Wishing all my brothers the best and to keep strong on your paths 👊

@marcprobert1444

2 ай бұрын

Did you get over the broken heart, its just happened to me and its devastating. I feel lost and so much anxiety !

@SpyOnDeck

Ай бұрын

@@marcprobert1444 Slowly, my brother. I "kept looking back" at first, the complete opposite of what Jocko talks about. Don't be in self sabotage mode. Move forward, day by day. But it has to be without contact, pictures or social media. Don't prolong it, like I did. We'll all get through this. We're all in this together

It’s my time. Not a for a girl in my life but for me to achieve the best version of myself. Slowly but surely.

@lewkis_sizzbell

Жыл бұрын

You got this brother I believe in you

This is the type of teaching we need for young men out here 👍🏽

@IkesPimpHand

Жыл бұрын

Absolutely. And don't ever take a woman's opinion on what to do as a man.

Funny thing, i did this with a girl i really loved. She was having 2nd thoughts in our relationship. I walked away and didn't look back. She made contact with me a few weeks after. Shes now my wife and we have a daughter. This is a solid advise.

I just wrote her a long note about wishing her luck and maybe we could get back together down the road. Relationship lasted 2 years. Now I think I’ll throw away that note and walk away and won’t look back

@bfdmod

Жыл бұрын

Anything happen later on? Happier now than before?

@nick_steele9790

Жыл бұрын

Good job man! I did the same but sent it and it just ended up drawing it out and making me feel worse. Keep your head up king!

@jermainepolk2849

Жыл бұрын

Throw it away brother I expressed myself to her not again not gone play myself just move on I am

@aidens.3192

Жыл бұрын

@@bfdmod yeah, actually. Way happier, and I’m very glad I didn’t ever look back. I’m doing pretty well for myself now, and feel much better about not only myself, but the whole situation

@jordangrygiel

10 ай бұрын

@@aidens.3192did u get a better girl

Did something like this with my ex fiance. I walked away from the whole thing after I found out that she was going on dates with other guys after I got out of the hospital. I dumped her and she ended up losing everyone else who had her back not long after. I saw her aunt the other week and even she wants nothing to do with her. Our mutual friends are still in my corner and I'm happy to have met the snake for the simple fact that I found the most solid people I know thanks to her.

@tobiasdontmatter1868

Жыл бұрын

And of course we don’t WANT that to happen to anyone. Not even a cheating ex. But that is Karma, and what goes around comes around. Good on you for moving on brotha

@user-kk5zq3dy9w

Жыл бұрын

Good shit brother. Fuck that bitch Karma is great

@BarnJ

Жыл бұрын

Good move man. Living well is the best revenge.

@shellshock8505

Жыл бұрын

Gotta respect yourself brother. Good move

Walking away after having no choice is hard and it hurts

Walked away from my Melissa for 9 years. She is and always was the love of my life.

I walked away a week ago, thank you for this because I was starting to struggle with those waves, but now I know that they will be less frequent

@Clash_royale_Gaming

Жыл бұрын

Same here bro

@adamsmith2315

Жыл бұрын

Same here brotha

@jmills9219

Жыл бұрын

How are you doing?

@jeremyking3986

Жыл бұрын

@@jmills9219 thank you, much better. I walked away, she’s still chasing me. But we live in different states and I’m concentrating on work so I doubt it will go anywhere, but since I’m not talking to anyone else right now, I don’t mind the calls.

@kaveix5398

9 ай бұрын

How are you now?

"If you love somebody, let them go, for if they return, they were always yours. If they don't, they never were." Kahlil Gibran

@johnk6534

Жыл бұрын

Why would you take her when she returned? She's back with more bodies! It's done! Move forward

@hermonymusofsparta

Жыл бұрын

If she loves you she won't leave. She leaves because she thinks she can get something better and when she figures out she can't she goes back and settles for you.

@Coffeendonuts

Жыл бұрын

Take her back after she got ran through and couldn’t secure a better deal no thanks

@terencejay8845

Жыл бұрын

'If you love someone, let them go. If they don't come back, hunt them down and kill them' T-shirt shop, Toronto, 1986.

@LostInTheSauce818

Жыл бұрын

@@terencejay8845 this the one

Never root through the garbage once you’ve taken it to the curb… It doesn’t change, and it will only get you dirty.

@Coffeendonuts

Жыл бұрын

All your neighbors see you doing it and when you find what you discarded you realize it had little to no value

@donquixote3292

Жыл бұрын

- Rollo Tomassi

@ejones7589

Жыл бұрын

@@donquixote3292 Yes sir!

I was once advised to not react from the heart when something crappy happens in a relationship If you are in a cafe or a bar situation and your girlfriend turns to you and says she thinks that things aren't working out and says she wants to end things..... don't get all teary eyed and start to plead your case...... just say " oh ok" and don't let her see what you really feel...... she is counting on being in control and fully expects you to be heartbroken........ He was totally right because if it is over you have denied her the dominant position and she will start to doubt herself and find you to be stronger than she thought... If it's over its over but if she has doubts later your position is much better if she comes back...... But if you call her or text her at all she has won.......

@subswithoutavideo-ee5mq

7 ай бұрын

But it is hard specially when you love her that much and afraid of being alone

@dominik2910

Ай бұрын

@@subswithoutavideo-ee5mq Same but that is what builds character. It was very hard for me but I wont text her ever again if she doesnt come back

@connorchalmers8089

17 күн бұрын

I Sent the heartfelt message after a month of no contact had to get it off my chest. deleted all photos and messages and binned it. Respond back if you want to talk if not adios

This is gold. It ain't easy to walk away but sometimes that's all it takes to make it work. Yes you'll definitely get those waves, cry if you have to. If there's something there for you two, she'll come back

Wisewords. Wish i had men like this around me when i was younger

@stupidfool7528

Жыл бұрын

How old are you.

@yoloswag_8172

Жыл бұрын

@@stupidfool7528 those waves he was talking about, had a hardtime dealing with them when i was a kid. Should have just have walked and not looked back , would have saved me a bunch of heartache. But then again it was a learning curve that gave me insight to how shallow and twofaced people are. Made my circle smaller also , better to have two solid friends than 100 halfass friends that really dont care about you.

@kittygent9612

Жыл бұрын

Yep.

True. Had to cut ties with a girl after 6yrs together. 1year later and I'm still going through the emotions. Still wish it wasn't like this and I didn't have to feel like this. But it was necessary and all I can do is hold my head high and keep on marching on.

@sloaiza81

Жыл бұрын

It gets better every year. By 3 your pretty much over it. By 7 you are Scott free

@andreasrasmussen6362

Жыл бұрын

3 years later i still miss her. had other girlfriends but they never feel the same

@johnpittscom

Жыл бұрын

They are all cunning conniving horses and cows. Don't be a simp. Stick to the mission soldier. They are only an accessory to a fully formed , self-sufficient man. Shes a luxury item.

@johnesaubreywalankhula9252

Жыл бұрын

@@johnpittscom thanks bro this really helps

@carey1foremmer

Жыл бұрын

I was with my ex for nearly 5 years longest relationship for me and it’s been over a year now and am still struggling to just move on and be happy bro she never leaves my head no matter what I do and I reckon it’s made worse and more heightened because of my adhd so like constantly in my own head and overthinking but the sad fact is that it’s all part of life bro if anything’s ever meant to be then it will certainly be!, keep ye head up broski🤛🙏✌️

I hardly ever give videos a like but this guy is talking directly to me right now. It’s hard wanting somebody who doesn’t want you.

@liveinthenow3571

9 ай бұрын

As a woman, a real one that us, I want to tell you that You're Enough! Grow from it but don't internalize it b/c her lack of wisdom. I gave mine up, 2wks ago, cause I was putting in more and explaining this fell on Def ears. Yes, I love him but love me more❤❤❤

@liveinthenow3571

9 ай бұрын

As a woman, a real one that is, I want to tell you that You're Enough! Grow from it but don't internalize it b/c her lack of wisdom. I gave mine up, 2wks ago, cause I was putting in more and explaining this fell on Def ears. Yes, I love him but love me more❤❤❤

42 years married to the same woman, and I had to do the same. Just walk away and don’t look back, even though the road ahead is shorter.

Yeah... That's a lesson I'm learning now

@lashodsavage8312

Жыл бұрын

Same and boy does it hurt

@kyle4627

Жыл бұрын

@@lashodsavage8312 it does man, I know it does. It sucks. But you're going to be okay man. It'll take some time but you're going to be okay.

@kyle4627

Жыл бұрын

@@lashodsavage8312 Look up for strength.

@EASH1

9 ай бұрын

Me too man dealing with it right now..

@samijourhmane3759

8 ай бұрын

Me too

I woke up in the middle of the night having one of these waves. So, I started watching yt to stop myself from looking back... And then I came across this. 😅

@samijourhmane3759

8 ай бұрын

Shiiit me tooo 😂😂

This is really facts. I got the best outcomes out of women when I just focused on me vs worrying so much about making them happy

Took me a bit to realize that, but it worked. She was having second thoughts, wanting to just be friends. She had commitment issue but didn’t wanna let go fully. Finally I said enough is enough I’m done. Week later, after begging me, I gave in and took her out to a chick fil a lol. We talked, here we are 3 years later living together. She’s been asking where the ring is. And I think she’s got me convinced that I’m the only man she wants. Some times they just need to be reminded what it’s like to not be with you to better appreciate why they loved being with you in the first place.

@victor-arnovisagie9356

Жыл бұрын

Almost like me now. Broke up after 5 years with my Fiancée. But it was a good breakup. Need to work on ourselves! Hope we get back together.

@masyvalorant

Жыл бұрын

@@victor-arnovisagie9356 same rn

@victor-arnovisagie9356

Жыл бұрын

@@masyvalorant a lot of things happened. we are still not together but i feel great. Last week Wednesday i was fully over the break-up. I am better of without her. Stay Strong Masy. Trust me, it gets better! There will be a day where you don't give a shit anymore. But feel your emotions and heal. You got this!

@john_pr2

Жыл бұрын

In the beginning God created Heaven and Earth. He created humans too to have a relationship with Him. That's our purpose as humans that have a relationship with God. Sin, however, messed that up because it made us imperfect and imperfect creatures cannot have a relationship with a perfect and holy God. That's why we so oftentimes feel empty, unsatisfied and unaccomplished because we're not in relationship with the God we were created to be in a relationship with. But that's where Jesus comes in. Jesus is God's son and He came down to earth in human form to live the same life we do yet unlike us He never sinned. Jesus is perfect. Yet despite the fact He is perfect He died on the cross for our sins and sacrifice Himself for us. The punishment for our sins is death but because Jesus took that punishment for us if we put our faith in Him and receive Him as Lord and savior we can be reconciled to God and be restored to that relationship we were created to have. And we can be sure that Jesus is the Son of God because on the 3rd day God raised Him from the dead and in that He defeated death and the grave, proving that He can do the same for us if we put our faith in trust in Him. That's how you get to Heaven. That's how you become full in your heart. That's how you become reconciled to the God who created you.

@ridiculous1755

11 ай бұрын

I wish God would speak to me the same way.

I actually did this with a girl who i thought was my future wife, it was the very last thing i wanted to do at the time and it was awful, ( this is like 15 years ago ) and no we didnt get back , but to this day i am delighted i did that - but it was really hard at the time, we never spoke again

@MbispingFan

Жыл бұрын

Same just happened to me. Been depressed in despair for 5 days but I think time will heal.

@tobiasdontmatter1868

Жыл бұрын

@@MbispingFan how ya doin buddy?

@MbispingFan

Жыл бұрын

@@tobiasdontmatter1868 Made the mistake of cussing her out Instead of moving on. Didn't feel any better just made myself feel like an asshole.

@tobiasdontmatter1868

Жыл бұрын

@@MbispingFan nah man don’t feel bad about it. From a strictly spiritual outlook the whole experience is a huge catalyst for you to learn from. The lesson here is that there is no judgement in someone making a mistake and there is no judgement when someone you had expectations of doesn’t align with your path. Going into it you judged her for being a piece of shit. And on the level of the mind that could very well be true. But that’s not the level where spiritual growth is inhabited, and it ultimately brought you down to her level. Look deeper within yourself and see where you felt you were lacking because something external from you was seemingly lost. That is ultimately the root of all negative experiences you’ll ever have, is the inherent belief in the mind that I am lacking. I am lacking love, I am lacking character, I am lacking humility, I am lacking stature that will impress and keep a woman and keep her loyal. It is BECAUSE I am lacking that she didn’t love me. It goes on and on and none of it is true ultimately. Your conceptual sense of self may have felt damaged but your essence, your being, who you truly are deeper than the level of the mind is wholly complete and perfect and wants nothing from another except THEIR highest good. All of these negative experiences that are strongly emotionally charged are catalysts that can be used for you to retreat from the nonsense of the mind and move deeper into your being where you want nothing and need nothing from other people. This is true love and it feels good. Recognize it is not a reflection on YOU if she didn’t treat you right or love you properly. It is a reflection on her. And the mind will have you think it is a reflection of you, in doing so your mind made sense of self feels diminished and has NO CHOICE but to defend itself and attack back. There is no humility in feeling guilty for something ultimately YOU did not do. It’s simple programming in the mind meeting stimulus like the toppling of a domino falling down and taking credit for knocking over the next one even though it was a simple chain reaction of the last 50 dominos. It was an unconscious reaction not rooted in love, which FEELS bad, FEELS like guilt and depression and manifests as anxiety and anger and it feels this way because it is not true to who you are on the deepest level. That’s why Love feels so good because something inside of you resonates with it like the two prongs of a tuning fork. This may not be what you needed to hear but it’s what naturally flowed from me when I saw your pain. This world is so full of hatred and condemnation but it doesn’t have to be. Love her not by accepting her actions as justifiable. But by understanding “she knows not what she’s doing” as Jesus said. She’s acting from a spiritually defined unconscious mind rooted basis of being. And there is no judgement in that. Love her by letting her go in the least judgmental way you know possible. She just wasn’t the one for you, and wish her the best and move on ❤️

@Ryan-eu3kp

Жыл бұрын

@@tobiasdontmatter1868 wow what a rant, I read 2 sentences.

Still getting those waves but I know it’s cuz I really loved her, and maybe one day that love is gonna be there for the girl that gives it back, or even better it’ll be there for me… thanks jocko, u remind me that I’m doing the right thing when I doubt myself

Its ok brothers. Stay strong and keep pushing. We got this far bro. No sense giving up now 💪🏻🏃🏻

I know he’s giving advice for guys but I’m gonna take his advice for me too. Cause I needed to hear that. Good luck to you all! 💕

@FalconEcho

Жыл бұрын

Hi Lindsay

@Lic.en.derecho

Жыл бұрын

It will work dear..I dido it...it will hirt but give sweet results...be strong...🙏

@itzdan0s477

Жыл бұрын

Uh what if he’s following the same advice? This only works if one party does it not both. Since he’s speaking to guys, maybe you sit this one out sweet heart

@lindsayrodrigues8495

Жыл бұрын

@@itzdan0s477 boy you don’t know me well enough to call me sweetheart and for the record it’s one word not two. Maybe you should have paid more attention in English class, sweetheart.

Wish I heard this at 21

@lanceh.aguilar7982

Жыл бұрын

Just hearing this at 21 after walking away. Guess I got lucky figuring it out early enough. It hurts though

@billyyager

Жыл бұрын

You're only 22... Chill

@metalband

Жыл бұрын

@@billyyager im 27

@PPE707

Жыл бұрын

Right

@PAKallman

Жыл бұрын

Same but it wouldnt have resonated then...

"If you love them let them go" age old and still golden

@ASAD_108

Жыл бұрын

😢

He’s right, I’ve learned this over time. Brothers stand and unite

“Absence makes the heart grow fonder.” Any friendships, relationships I have ever had in my life have both affected me in severe ways. If people want to leave you, let them go, eventually they will see what that let go and it was to late. If someone values you and the relationship they will keep you, no excuses. Walking away is better because you need the time to process things and the person that broke you and left you doesn’t deserve to know what your feeling. Period.

Went through this last October, girl straight up ghosted me and I was actually fucking tearing up at work... this was a short lived relationship but one that happened after being in a previous relationship for 4 years, so having someone again felt so good.

@odelekevictor3895

Жыл бұрын

Sorry man..let your heart be strong.

@dimitrijekrstic7567

Жыл бұрын

Just "having someone" shouldn't ever be the goal. That void must be filled with something else, or else we end up dependant on the other person for our happiness.

@GR-uc1gq

Жыл бұрын

@@dimitrijekrstic7567 that's the trick. To become self reliant on your own on all levels, in this case emotionally. But damn it's hard.

@mathewkeen2356

Жыл бұрын

There's many things about the modern world that I hate. But there's probably not a thing that disgusts me more than ghosting. It's worse then telling someone all their flaws. It's telling them their nothing, insignificant, not deserving of the slightest human respect. The inhumane nature of it blows my mind. I actually feel like theirs a shade of evilness to it. Like theirs a perverse joy they get out of the person not knowing. That texting "this isn't working out. Im going to stop contact. Bye" is to fast. That being abrupt or dismissive is not enough. That the real pleasure comes 2-3 weeks later when they are sitting in bed smiling at the fact that the person may still be wondering if it's really over. Convincing themselves that they are worthy of all this "pining" and "attention" whether if it's happening or not. Hoping, praying that they get a text from them a month later attempting some kind of closure "Ok, I guess that's it. Good Luck" confirming that it really was happening. The torment of another. Proving that they really are a gift from god. Or someone else.

@parkforest434

Жыл бұрын

@@mathewkeen2356 it’s a blessing to be ghosted, she saved you time to move on….I believe giving a women non-sexual attention cause deep emotional attachment. Just focus on faith,health and money while dating this helps me since I know women can leave anytime. Another question you should ask yourself is what do you really miss about her? It’s usually just sex, build your roster for a peace of mind. 💯

It’s extremely hard for dudes with few options NOT to have “oneitis”

@allouicious1885

Жыл бұрын

Wow, this comment breaks my heart. There's never just one option.

@donshifty

Жыл бұрын

what does this comment mean?

@nick_steele9790

Жыл бұрын

@@donshifty it means that it easy for guys who aren’t the best at finding girls who like them and they like back to latch on too hard when they finally do find one. They assume that this new girl has to be “the one” since the chances they have had so far are few and far between.

@donshifty

Жыл бұрын

@@nick_steele9790 thanks

If you want something or someone, declare it. Make it known and ask. If it tells you that you're not the one, then walk away. But if you teach yourself to abandon a woman without direct communication, know that you abandoning her is the picture you paint for her when she thinks of her potential future & children with you when things gets tough.

Just got divorced after 26 years together. I am still in love with her, and she doesn't want to hear from me ever again. Moving on has been so painful. I am trying my best.

Words of wisdom there

You also become stronger against that emotion. Love can't hurt you anymore, and you can now enjoy it to its fullest when shows up again.

@forknife326

Жыл бұрын

If the love can't hurt you was it for real?

@LostInTheSauce818

Жыл бұрын

If you’re unable to get hurt then you never truly loved.

He’s not lying about those waves cuz I’m going through it! 😮‍💨😩

Im into this situation rn. The 1st month is the hardest but I am now eventually moving on slowly but surely.

@bradtelepo

Жыл бұрын

Yeah that 1st month or 2 fucking sucks. The brain wants to do that Disney shit were you keep running after her.

Just went through something like this and I'm really hoping I can move on.

@marvinhunt1049

Жыл бұрын

Trust me, you can. Doesn't mean that it's not going to be painful but keep walking if they don't want you back. What Jocko is saying here is absolutely true.

@noyea1709

Жыл бұрын

You can brother

@dagneyraye6808

Жыл бұрын

Same :(

@kristiyanindzhev6454

Жыл бұрын

@Mrwompwomp Iam how long does it take?

@kristiyanindzhev6454

Жыл бұрын

@Mrwompwomp Iam thanks man, huge respect to you! I appreciate it!

Sometimes it’s hard to tell when she comes back, if she’s the one or she is completely insane.

This is accurate. Walk away from what’s not serving you. If she returns she’s truly yours.

1 week no contact with her, she messaged saying I'm in her thoughts everyday 😅... I replied mirroring simply saying youre in mine too, but I didn't chase, DO NOT CHASE THEM... they broke up with you, the ball is always in their court. Don't ignore when they reach out, but don't chase. If they don't reply to your reply it's likely they were testing to see where you were in your head... if that's the case, apply no contact again, DO NOT CHASE

This hits hard. Needed to hear this. God has it's mysterious ways

@eireann2894

Жыл бұрын

You'll find the strength within yourself to do what's best for your own life, no God included.. you're God my bro, so am I so is everybody.. you got this

@harrysmith3502

Жыл бұрын

Go away and give them a chance to miss you. By walking away, you force them to realise what they have just done and know you won’t be there when they need you.

@HRPufnStuf-tk8mm

Жыл бұрын

@@eireann2894, The point about the Nick's comment is, people needed to hear this message and GOD provided it to, help them heal and move forward on a positive healthy direction. What you posted shows we are not gods, just prideful and arrogant :-(

Yup, I did this and the next one was my wife. We started dating right after my Ex and we've been together ever since and that was in 2011.

Walk away, don’t look back, learn, and improve on yourself; this helped me deal with a breakup from a mutually toxic relationship and all I can say is I’m doing better, if she’s doing better then good for her, but if not then I have the strength to go back to that toxicity. All that’s left is too progress and be good to the next person in my life

This was awesome advice. Hang in there fellas. God has someone for everyone, Don’t give up , stay in prayer and when that right one comes you will know. 😊

Sage advice. I did exactly this and after a short time she came back. Married 20 years now.

@raealikaj7495

Жыл бұрын

This gives me hope

@danacabrera7117

Жыл бұрын

Tell us a bit about your story :)

Yes love is just another addiction like all of the others

@chucknorris9667

Жыл бұрын

No

@cadenorris4009

Жыл бұрын

​@@chucknorris9667 father, is that you?

This is good advice for the ladies as well. Walk away & don’t look back

As a woman I did that, wished him well today and now letting go but he is in my heart. He said he is emotionally unavailable, to busy. It hurts but I also realise I can't be selfish. He said it would be selfish to keep seeing me and he has romantic feelings for me but 'sometimes it doesn't work'. Wish I was not so open hearted it hurts but I did my best.

I wish I had seen this when my ex partner left me, I made it worse and worse the more I fought for her love. Now she hates me 💔

@EV-EV-EV

Жыл бұрын

The balme is solely on the Western degenerate culture

My uncle Kevin says that when a woman talks about leaving, just tell her, “You have my blessing.”

It’s true, when a man acts “cool” it makes you think twice. When he acts like he wants to cling, it reassures you and makes it even easier to leave him.

@jermainepolk2849

Жыл бұрын

Can I get your advice on something

@barbie6391

Жыл бұрын

@@jermainepolk2849 of course

@gabrielavelazquez7944

9 ай бұрын

Can I also have your advice on something that is eating me?

@barbie6391

9 ай бұрын

@@gabrielavelazquez7944 I’m sorry I did not see your comment and YES

I thought i would never be able to heal from it. Really thought and believed she was the one. Nothing harder in life than the feeling of betrayal. Gut wrenching.. but things do get better. You will have to get better. Do something new

Damn, this hit hard. Happened to me not too long ago, but like he said, the waves are becoming less frequent and not hitting as hard as time progresses and as I move forward.

Things in life that hurt the most like this makes you a stronger better person, in a strange way pain is good for you.

Absolutely 100% This happened between myself and my wife, 20 years ago. It took about two months.

Literally went through this, it worked. She needs to know you are strong enough to stand on your own. Never been happier, best relationship I've ever had. The key is to handle it with maturity, not attacking her because you are hurt.

This is very hard to do but when you do it you'll feel better. Look forward and be productive.

This is legendary! Thanks for sharing king!

My long-term partner decided he didn't want to try to make things work anymore. I wasn't the best at the time, and I realized that later. I begged him to talk to me so we could work things out, but he didn't want to. After 2 months of this, I started to focus on improving myself and nothing else. I stopped replying to him - it drove him crazy and he started trying harder to get my attention again. About 2 months later, he broke down and said he would do anything to be with me again. Those 4 months changed everything about our relationship. Our communication improved drastically, because we decided we never wanted to fight over stupid things again.

@eikmeer123

3 ай бұрын

So how’s it going now?

@karleyj9706

3 ай бұрын

@@eikmeer123 I'm cringing reading my old comment now... but we got married :)

Did this about a year ago and it’s one of the best decisions I’ve ever made it’s gonna hurt but I promise you it’ll make you stronger as a man

Exactly right!! It took me years to learn that. Absolutely true words

Best advice ever. Let it go and move on. Life will go on.

Thank you!!! As a girl, this is really the best way for a guy to deal with this situation.

The scary thing is that this is actually what the person i love wanted...

I needed to hear this right now man. What I been dealing with bro smh, draining bro. Glad I came across this when I did definitely needed to hear this.

This man with his continued reading and life experience with age is a wellspring of wisdom. Explaining the onslaught of emotions with heartbreak becoming strong tsunami’s to gentle waves to the eventual Placid Lake is spot on.. “ this too shall pass.”

I have recently been in a breakup of 3.5 years. This just happened about 2 weeks. The reason for this was bc I moved up to her state and been living with her for almost 11 months and didn’t have a job, didn’t want to go out, just didn’t want to do anything. And I brought her down with me so she broke up with me and now I wished I could do everything in my power to get back. I can’t sleep at night, can’t eat, constantly thinking about her. I keep telling myself to keep my head up but it’s really hard as I thought I was gonna be with her for the rest of my life😭

Important words. Especially for young men with no father in their life. I could have used this advice growing up.

Yep this is exactly what I did last week and feel absolutely free and amazing despite getting some of those thoughts and yet they’re feeding away quite well.

Wish I heard this when I was 22. I’m 30 now and had a hard time moving on from my first relationship

@blinkerz4676

Жыл бұрын

im 40 and have more money than you because i am ALPHA and you are poory poor

@harambe855

Жыл бұрын

@@blinkerz4676 *LOSER DETECTED*

To all my brothers that are here with me,thank you for all your advice.

Now I feel his words. I've never heard from the girl by herself for 2 years, I was foolishly thinking about her and sad but now I know it was for something better that is cooking slowly and steadily for my future. Thanks for real

This is tough, to walk away from the future you've set in front of you, from the life you've imagined and worked towards. Like where do you walk to, home is gone...😔

@thegraniteduck7956

Жыл бұрын

It's hard bro. Take notes and become the antifragile person she will motivate you to be

@shellshock8505

Жыл бұрын

Walk towards the gym and towards success and sooner or later she will come back around along with many other beautiful women and you can be the judge of whether or not she is worth your time anymore

@TheTruthKiwi

Жыл бұрын

Yes, it's a bit of a different story if you have kids, are engaged/married or she's lived with you for a long time. Each case is different so you have to be a bit selfish and work out what is best for you in the long run. It's your life, and a short one at that, so try and look at the big picture and decide what's best for you and your loved ones. It's not easy, I know.

@kuramq

Жыл бұрын

Literally made me shed a tear

@AV-kr6gc

Жыл бұрын

@@shellshock8505 why the FK would anyone want the old used up ex back anyway???? She done got piped by at least 1 -2 dudes before coming back to you anyway, why would you touch that lmao

It's hard to walk away from someone you loved hard and saw a future with. I can't seem to get over her even though she's gone for good, she's having fun and I'm left in the dust. Yeah I guess she didn't want it, but it hurts to know it.

@cheenie8524

Жыл бұрын

Chin up mate I promise it’ll get better. Focus on yourself being the best version of yourself

@MrBmwlover

Жыл бұрын

I agree man. Same situation here. Just gotta let time heal the hurt

@digz6813

Жыл бұрын

you're looking back. STOP! things will get so much better when you put your focus on bettering your future

@Stillflyer88

Жыл бұрын

definitely feel that going through it now. I truly feel that if it’s meant to be it would be tho. What’s not meant to be inevitably will come to and end.

Dude, Jocko is like a go to dad man.

Love is pain. We are all of us masochists, because the joy one feels is worth the sacrifice, but suffering is the price that must be paid to experience it.

Yes, if ,"she's not that into you," a book title. Just let it go. There's nothing else you can be do. Think clearly men!

@blinkerz4676

Жыл бұрын

you dont read only i read all the books

@blinkerz4676

Жыл бұрын

Mr Kurimski

Interesting to hear this from a strong man, discussing relationship emotions explained rationally, bravo

Mom and dad taught me this true love will always find itself back if it's not meant to be its not meant to be

Goddamn I need this on repeat right now.

Going through a break up as we speak and didn’t know how go about it… Man I really needed to hear this

@joesillamanrs7189

Жыл бұрын

Same brother, stay strong

@Henbone31

Жыл бұрын

@@joesillamanrs7189 you too my guy

@Kevvvinus1

Жыл бұрын

Stay strong , got same issue here

Big facts! Walking away is literally the hardest thing to do. One of two things will happen: she either comes back more submissive, or she doesn’t come back and you find a better girl that is willing to cooperate with your plan. Stay Focused!

@myfeelingsarehurt5062

Жыл бұрын

When walking away is the only thing to do, it’s not that hard.

@chipped79

Жыл бұрын

You know you sound crazy right 😂

@HB-wl3nv

Жыл бұрын

Submissive??? What the heck? Are you a control freak or something?

@focusedallday5620

Жыл бұрын

@@chipped79 thanks for your comment 🙏🏽

@focusedallday5620

Жыл бұрын

@@HB-wl3nv thanks for your comment 🙏🏽

Its why my wife and I are together. I asked her on a date, it went ok but she told me a day later that she wasn’t looking to be in a relationship. I wasn’t all that happy about it but I told her I understood and I wished her well. 8 months later she came asking me on the date, a year and a half after that we were married.