This is probably the most genuine advice and analysis I have ever heard and can relate 100%. We think we are what others tell us that we are. And we only gain true understanding of ourselves and the ability to teach our true potential when we realize that only our ideas and perceptions about ourselves are what really counts.

@ultrameticulous

Жыл бұрын

But if everyone you interact with constantly 'put you back in your mold', you can't be anything else around others. The improv class didn't seem to be the solution and answer to the title, but switching schools/people was. You can know yourself to be certain things, but if no one will see or allow those aspects, you're stuck being seen how they see you. I've realized this, that people only let you be how they perceive you. If you tell a great joke and Jennifer just thinks you're trying to be Lenny, you can't be the funny guy.

@marzoval9551

Жыл бұрын

​@@ultrameticulous It's essentially the advice of getting new friends if your current "friends" don't let you feel comfortable with who you want to be.

@PhunkyMunky10

Жыл бұрын

You may be right, but it’s been a long time since I was around those people who stuffed me in a figurative box, telling me who I was and… I’ve not been able to get out of that box. Ever. I’m 46 years old and still can’t be nice to myself, although slowly I’ve been improving thanks to my wife. Moving has never worked lol. But I do fight back at it daily

@fahimshahriar2441

11 ай бұрын

That's actually not very good advice the entire part of it relies on your ability to avoid/ deneutralise such people; or someone else to make a change. Well what if it's your family that actually puts you to your mold.

@1stworldrefugee443

11 ай бұрын

To fix all of this, he's playing on an old proverb that says, "you cannot be a property in your own land". The point is that if people are defining you and you don't like it, you have to leave and start over and redefine who you want to be, but it also takes practice. You all are overrunning the concept, or all live with your mothers or something... you can be great, but if you stay where everyone knows you, you will only be what THEY think you can be.

What really worked for me was to work as waiter in a almost fancy but not actually fancy restaurant. You can get to practise talking, how to be professional, how to be casual, trying to be funny, how to flirt, how to resolve issues multiple times a shift if you want to. You can use every table as a practise field with a slightly different tone or personallity until you don't feel awkward anymore and can settle with a version that you like.

@Zencba

Жыл бұрын

Yes, as a waiter you engage with so many people of different backgrounds, it helps you to learn to adapt. But it can also be mentally exhausting.

@askvinh

Жыл бұрын

Such amazing advice!!!

@Maxvids7

Жыл бұрын

I experienced a very similar process myself when I was a "bag boy" at a nice, rather busy, grocery store. I was quite an introvert and I moved from one city to another for college. I was able to keep the same job and transferred. Talking to old coworkers from both I realized I was able to drastically change, essentially extroverting myself, and get in touch with that side of me.

@oceanwonders

11 ай бұрын

YES! Me too.

@visualizeflow8450

11 ай бұрын

I do something similar as a flight attendant. I can practice a new persona with every city I visit. It also helps that we constantly work with different flight crew (pilots and flight attendants).

He's right about the new environment thing Growing up in my hometown, everyone had this preconceived notion of me being a quiet and nerdy guy. I left home at 21 and moved down south. I was able to come out of my shell and be the more extroverted side of me. I always knew I had a more extroverted side. It's just that when I tried to express it, people would just shut it down. After I moved, people I met for the first time all had this idea of me being a funny, no filter, fun type of guy. Yeah, I still had my introverted moments, but I could tell people genuinely liked being around me in my new environment.

@SimonLiftsLife

11 ай бұрын

amazing! I love your story

@aethericsx

11 ай бұрын

I get to study in other town, but now I'm afraid of going back to home and be quiet again.. because no one actually listen to me... In this new town I feel so happy I could crack some jokes and exchange thoughts with people, even with the waitress at fast food restaurant. No one knows me, I know no one judge me as who I'm before, such an energy boost. But time is almost over and I don't really know, I think I should have some jobs in another place again

@ashtonphoenyx

11 ай бұрын

@SimonLiftsLife thank you, my friend 🙏🏽

@ashtonphoenyx

11 ай бұрын

@amany00 Oh wow, let me tell you I 100% resonated with what you just shared. So recently, as of August of last year, I decided to move back home and man... I have literally resorted to the same person I was before I left. It honestly really saddens me, but it showed me that I was right to leave all along. There's just something about my hometown that's just so stifling. Believe me, the feeling of getting out of your comfort zone in any circumstance is such a great feeling. I'm not the type to give advice, but I'd say really think about your options and how you think you'll feel before you make your decision. Looking back, I wish I had just stayed down south. It's nice being back around family, but I feel that I have just outgrown this place. Like I'll always love my family and the memories here, but it just feels like there's no need for me here, you know? It's more important to follow your heart and what you desire in life. Whatever it is you end up choosing, just always remember to believe in yourself and try your hardest to keep that energy about you that you have in your new environment. Don't let anyone else take that away from you. I wish you the best of luck 🙏🏽

@aethericsx

11 ай бұрын

@@ashtonphoenyx You words really capture my thoughts, sometime I go home like in the holidays and when I look to the ceilings at my old room, I feel that I've outgrown this place. I'll think and plan carefully now on, yes comfort zone and family sure is felt warm and safe, but I realize I need all those circumstances to push me to grow. Thank you so much for your story and advice 🙏

This is legit. Went to college away and was treated SO different, i never realized just how stuck I was in a nerdy/loser role in school. I always thought I was just a loser but it was just that everybody else wanted be to be and expected me to be that way. Wild man

@realglutenfree

11 ай бұрын

Same for me. I always was the quiet weird girl with weird clothes. When I went to college I tried to be someone else the first day and it worked. People now perceive me as a kinda weird but funny and talkative girl and I found multiple friends here.

@manyavarshney512

10 ай бұрын

I am also moving to college this year. Hoping to develop a new me. Who is actually me. In school I was a quite girl who was good in academics, and thus, everyone was always jealous of me and thus I didn't have many friends. I will open up more in college.

@pendafen7405

10 ай бұрын

Didn't actually work for me. Guess I'm the unlucky one, or something. Actually, college/Uni only made me more depressed and introverted. I went from being known as the highschool nerd & weirdo to the College mute & freak. Didn't help that I was in a really bad place when I went, as well as emotionally young for my age. Honestly, if you aren't emotionally or socially prepped for higher education, it can be devastating.

@mr_anone

9 ай бұрын

That's why I was excited for college lmao.

@mr_anone

9 ай бұрын

​@pendafen7405 well just try to observe your behavior and try not to sound embarrassing. I guess I'm sort of in the same situation as you and whay I think could help is going on omwgle to talk to strangers.

I just finished my first improv class. I literally cannot recommend it enough.

@askvinh

Жыл бұрын

YESS!!!

@Hansprivate

Жыл бұрын

I start the second class in the series tomorrow night.

@covakoma1064

Жыл бұрын

What is improv class? Is that stand up commedy ?

@Hansprivate

Жыл бұрын

Improv is improvisational comedy. You and usually a partner go on stage, you’re given some sort of scenario, make the whole thing up as you go along and support each other in the process.

@covakoma1064

Жыл бұрын

@@Hansprivate 💀

Improv sounds absolutely terrifying as a very strong introvert.

@abel6298

10 ай бұрын

Read your bible! (KJV, preferably) ❤️😮❤

@tortture3519

9 ай бұрын

If it sounds terrifying, then that's probably not about introversion.

@mehlanie13

8 ай бұрын

​@@tortture3519yeah, it's more about shyness or social anxiety/repulsion. Introversion is just about having to recharge your energy often after being in social situations

@simso2990

3 ай бұрын

As someone who was akward and an introvert it was really scary, but every improv class I wennt to was great. Half of the people there were awkward and wanted to challanged themselves like me. The environment was always so supportive and genuine. I started with a close friend, what really helped. I know there is the fear of being in the spotlight and people making fun of you when you mess up, but in almost 10 years, this never happened.

@ayeshabibi4439

12 сағат бұрын

I feel you 😅

This is so damn true... tried and tested. I was an introvert (not shy) in high school but in university I purposely reached out and talked to people instead of just waiting for people to come talk to me. It also helped that I started to use my second name in uni so at first it felt like I'm playing a character until it started to intergrade to my overall persona.

@resentfulsidecharacter3713

Жыл бұрын

im more curious on how he could script so much of the assets. Is it really easy to make games on Roblox or something?

@theseangle

Жыл бұрын

​@@resentfulsidecharacter3713what the heII are ya talking about

@ScreenTheSun-mr9zm

11 ай бұрын

​@@resentfulsidecharacter3713Yes it is, Lua is the easiest code language you can learn

@zrATT_

11 ай бұрын

@@theseangle this video was made in roblox engine maybe idk

@theseangle

11 ай бұрын

@@zrATT_ 💀

For me, it was the realization, that, not everyone knows everything, they can be wrong so stop taking everyone so literally and just focus on basics(saying thank you, sorry or greetings). And it is ok to fail continuously because there's no winning in life, its just life. 😁 So fail faster and fail harder, earn those experiences. Two things i would suggest for confidence is - exercise & meditate.

@theseangle

Жыл бұрын

They can be wrong and they are almost always wrong. Murphy's law. Never assume anything

@yudeqs

11 ай бұрын

This is a real chad, true samurai of life

Actually this is true; I was in this school for nearly 6 years and was mostly seen as a guy you’d want to avoid and it was depressing but once I reached a new school I felt new and everything changed, I became a funny guy with so many ppl as my friends and the teachers respected me as a student.

@ananyap5108

11 ай бұрын

This was literally me, too!

@EST283

11 ай бұрын

@@ananyap5108 nice to know I’m not alone

@justaloserrr

8 ай бұрын

How did you do the change? For me even in new environments. I feel too scared to speak

@EST283

8 ай бұрын

@@justaloserrr well, u need to rlly tell urself this is vital or u might suffer which will most definitely lead to depression. So, you have to do it, just get up and talk to someone. It did help that everyone there were a bit cool

Thank you for honoring your dad in that story. That was powerful.

@abel6298

10 ай бұрын

Read your bible! (KJV, preferably) ❤️😮❤

I actually changed countries as an adult. Honestly, it feels amazing knowing you can walk the streets without anyone knowing you.

@hiranjana7474

9 ай бұрын

That's the kind of feeling I want to witness, people around my house usually most of them knows me and i don't usually come out of my house but when I do they just stares me weirdly and I get some " ur too skinny why don't u eat " from a few familiar people

I like the fact that you didn't put any bullshit into the advice like "be comfortable in who you are" or "just don't care what other people think" and actually gave some genuine, helpful advice that we needed. Thank you.

This blows my mind Vinh. I mold was the nerd kid in school, thick glasses, high pants, always holding a book, no friends. But when I went to US, I told myself, no one knows me here, I can be someone different. I became one of the most popular kid at school =) Though deep inside, I'm still the introvert, nerdy, geeky kid. I gained lots of new self confidence, and friends!

@PikSmores

9 ай бұрын

Bro is everywhere

Absolutely, I agree, in a school if you stay long enough people will start building preconceived ideas about you and that's the "mold" he's talking about and most of the time you can't really get out of that mold because of the pressure pushing you back inside. I relate to this a whole lot since I was a victim of this also, and his recommendation? I might wanna try it out now lol

@grolm8335

Жыл бұрын

That's true everywhere tho. Even if people look at u the way u want to be seen u will feel pressure to conform to that wven when u aren't in a good mood or feel fun. Its inevitable

I confirm. I had an improv lesson in my early 20s and it was amazing 👍🏻👍🏻👍🏻

@kajiko88

11 ай бұрын

Did you get more laughs from people you talked with after you got those lessons? I have trouble thinking of shit to say on the spot when having semi-formal conversations

I actually did this. Transferred to 3 different schools in a span of 4 years. I'm now a better human being capable of interacting with others. Before, I always look down and becomes anxious around people. You make life changing advices. I subscribed! Thank you for making me remember this experience

Yes, 💯 agree. And traveling. Being able to be your true self in other places you've never been before, even if it's just two towns or cities away from yours, can give you confidence in ways other experiences cannot.

Bro this is so true our society wants us to do good not better than them face the reality don't care what others think improve yourself constantly and become the best version of your selves I support you all guys keep improving if no one believes in you I belive in you just remember that this is atif a 16 year old boy

That was a breath of fresh air! We usually just told "Just bee yourself lol" if our social life was marked for doom, but this? Plain and brutal "Move out and start anew" , I've seen this actually works on my highschool friends too, I'd definetly recommend this if the situation arises. ❤

I am 54 now and won every fight against other people who wanted to put me in a mold. Even my parents. I can do and be whatever i wanted to be or do. I am free of that, finally❤

@ky4you

11 ай бұрын

congratulations friend. it's a truly freeing thing to realize you have the capacity for absolutely anything regardless of others expectations. the world becomes a lot less suffocating when you realize you're able to kill the cop in your head holding you to the standards of the past. working on it and can only hope to be truly free myself too 🙏

That is so true about “mold” everyone have for you. Even family. I wanna change and I know I have potential to be so much better, but when I’m around my family and relatives I behave the way I behaved around them. It’s hard to be the new version of yourself because you know they won’t accept you or understand you.

We all create an atmosphere or culture with each of our relationships, which can be difficult to shift and change. As he said, preconceived notions can drastically affect your reality.

I’ve always found environment to be less important, but that may just be because I don’t care what a bunch of other people think of me unless it has truth to it, and because of that focus on truth I can simply, but perhaps not easily, change it by effort if I choose to. I wouldn’t care at all if someone “put me back in my mold” because if I disagree with their statement or attempt and I find it untrue I won’t be affected by it. Never fallen to peer pressure, I sincerely don’t know what it’s like to feel the need to fit in except by the accounts of others, I’ve never been put in a place by others and accepted, ie as either already in that place so they were right or I wasn’t so they were wrong. Their opinions didn’t matter, only whether or not what they said was true did.

I actually had the same experience, once I got to a new school everything became just a bit easier and by the next one i completely got a hang of it, sometimes all you need is a fresh start

Totally right about the environment thing. I was in a school where everyone knew me since elementary school and most of them didn't like me, so I only had like 2 friends there. After moving, I had no shell or mold holding me back, and I made so many genuinely good friends in just a year.

OMG i've been doing improv classes and shows for the last 5 years, he's right, never had so much fun as an adult, i love it, you get to try different characters and just complete nonsense, stop feeling so scared or self conscious, i use it as a kind of therapy/meditation, how to be just totally in the moment and also noticing how i habitually behave and trying out the opposite, suggest everyone who wants to build confidence in a fun and safe space give it a go x

@resentfulsidecharacter3713

Жыл бұрын

whose asriel in this AU again?

I think once the realization that people are trying to keep you in a mold and shift happens on the inside and if you genuinely stay consistent with who your trying to become, by keep moving forward ,you can break yourself out of the mold in almost any environment. Once people see the change day in and day out they will eventually accept it. Sure when your first starting out on this journey of self improvement and growth , there will be negative voices both in your mind and from those around you trying to keep you in your comfort zone and mold ,but if you keep pushing and break into that next level, everything around you will slowly fall in line. Don't let them get to you, use the haters as fuel to keep improving. Changing environments is a choice you always have but it's not necessary. It may be a harder path but you will build resilience along with it, not just change in character.

the thing with me is, i always failed at breaking out of that mold. i changed environment many times, met new people, got new opportunities to better myself and create the version of myself that i always wanted, but in the end, i still failed. those new people still see me inside that mold i was in on the previous environment. im 23 now and kept thinking "is this really just how i am?" but i dont like how i am right now, i despise myself and deep down i knew i can change someday. hope i can take those improv classes after i graduate and actually break out of this long existing mold im in

I like this advice and I think it's working for me. I was an average student in high school, but due to some problems, I decided to stop going to college for a while. When I came back to university I have a new environment and new people around me and that help me to improve myself because people around me have no idea who I am, I can work on improving myself without the fear of judgment. Although embarrassing moments are still there, I feel a little pressure from those moments.

Dude this happened to me too, now I'm convinced you're genuine and not some sort of scammer

It's a really strange feeling, when you run into one of your old acquaintances from your school and you feel this need to get back to your old mold

God bless you, sir! Finally - Asians who are teaching us, from their authentic selves, how to live better lives.

Wow an actual practical advice you can actually implement... And not some mumbo jumbo psychedelic mind programming bs.... Great advice 💯💯💯

This brought tears to my eyes. I have been suffering alot in my current school and this brings hope that one day i can become who i asprire to be. Thankyou for your genuine advice. Idk who you are but you made my day, Sir.

Second that. Being a personal trainer is challenging when it comes to prospecting/drumming up leads. A veteran trainer suggested taking improv. I made a passing comment to a client, and he actually got me a gift card to a class. There was this sense of freedom I got from the class that I haven’t experienced since. It was uncomfortable at times. But some of the most fun I’ve had in a long time. It’s because I went so far from my comfort zone that everything else seemed like a playground. Go to improv. No matter what city you’re in. Just go.

One thing I would add, if you are able to. Start working as a contractor. You are somewhat forced to change jobs/environments and thus no one knows which ‘shell” you belong in.

This is so helpful! I did this a lot whenever I was working in retail, striking convos with random people and sharing different aspects of myself, sometimes it was met with welcome, sometimes absence but it was great; it helped me deal better with the reality that not everyone is going to take a liking to you and that's completely okay. I moved on and did cover supply in schools, where no two days r the same, similar in retail, but you have a tough transparent and innocent audience to deal with: kids. If they like you they do and they don't they don't and will show it either way. Cover supply is fun because it's a tough task trying to improv how I'm going to manage the class, and "pretend" like I know what I'm doing or the lesson plan that's assigned (sometimes I do which is a bonus) ; but a lot of the time towards the end, when I started getting more comfortable with talking to a random class of 20 plus kids, from all the year groups, it became less about me trying to force a personality through that I deemed acceptable, and really me just being myself, and sharing my adult person and the education and knowledge and life lessons that come with it, with a bunch of kids who are still very impressionable; sometimes it got scripted but after a while it was fun realising I could just relax get to know about the students armbd what their goals were in life etc. I really recommend it. Gave me a different kind of confidence because although kids with kids can be nasty (sometimes), I realised as I grew up that it's far less intentional and learned from adults, rather when adults are nasty, that's just become their personality and adults cna really suck; it was refreshing knowing that when a bunch of adults still try to socket people into different definitions, it took me going back to school as an adult, to feel the non judgemental liberation that came with showing kids - and hopefully inspiring them - that u can make it, and nothings that tough or a big deal, just let loose and have fun. I've been thinking of going to improv classes so thank you so much for sharing this!

Can confirm the take on improv classes. I was randomly assigned to a project of my school since we had a few days where everybody took Part in a project that they could vote for, but I missed the main voting, and it was improv theatre. I am kinda introverted, not that bad, but I do have my troubles getting into conversations with people that I don't know at all. So I wasn't thrilled at all when I got assigned to improv with none of my friends being there with me. But that course really made me break out of my shell that I was in and I was much more extroverted than I normally would be and I could get along perfectly with numerous people I barely knew or didn't know at all. It was awesome and I ended up not regretting a second of it, so I can totally recommend it. Even though it might seem as a hard decision as an introvert, it really is very worth it!

coming from a toxic household it was realizing that I had the power to get myself out of that situation, and that just cuz I was treated terribly and told I cant do certain things doesn't mean anything. cuz its not their life its mine. I'm the only one that could help and validate myself and strive for those goals and new connections. people can have their opinions but in the end you know yourself best and what it is you want. Also having a good support system that helps you grow as a person with similar ideals and morals as you do.

@Criticalnin

11 ай бұрын

Very relatable. Hope you’re doing fine now.

I couldn’t agree more. Even people close to you would want you to stay in your mold. Some people wouldn’t want to see you grow.

Weird, a video on confidence that actually works. This is very rare.

hands down one of the best pieces of advice I've heard. this is literally me in college.... way back in high school i couldn't really change myself because people around had this "preconceived" idea about me, and no matter how i try to be better, they would just look past it and see my "past". On the other hand, when i started going to college, i promised to myself not to repeat this same history again and it's working pretty fine so far. I'm still working on it but i made a resolution to myself to be the best person i can and not look back to that awful past again.

I just turned 31 this year and for the very first time I’m finally grasping the notion of who *I* am, not who I think others think I am. I’m making decisions based on what I want my values to be, not what I think fits others ideas of good values.

@Stephania006

11 ай бұрын

How do I achieve that?

I can totally resonate with what he shared. I was considered a reckless, spoiled, grumpy kid back in middle school and high school, but things changed drastically when I got into university as I had to move to a new city. I started to build up a new name for myself, infused with dignity, integrity, care, and responsibility. Ever since, I’ve always been respected by others to the point where they get flabbergasted if I describe who I was many years back.

This is me every time I go to a new environment. I always think “ok time to be myself!” And then I end up just faking a smile and kind personality for everybody and I’m never myself

That's actually practically very true .... In a new environment, no one knows or cares who the fock are you.... No one knows your Voice , your habits , Your body language, nothing. That's a Best place to practice and make try & make friends. For me personally I'm very reserved and shy. But I like to know people, but idk how to start conversation and make friends.

Dear Vinh, there are way too many of us who can relate to this sooooo much. And this is so so true. A new beginning really is a blessing. And that is what we all have to fully realize, for example, a very relatable sentence from here: “The moment I tried to break out of my mold, these people tried to put me back into my mold…” but having someone that clearly understands that and taking you OUT of that miserable state truly is a savior. Watching this also is freeing in a way, as we feel heavily understood.

This is what I did aswell, everyone knew me as the quiet kid and I once popped a joke no one heard and then the funny guy in class said the exact same thing and every body laughed. After a few years I changed schools and I told myself I'd be different from then, Now people actually see me standing in class and I see others who are in the position I was back then. I really love the new me I created but it still gets a little bit akward when I come across someone from my previous school because they still know the different me. Altough that wont stop me from being me anymore.

It seemed like he was gonna head into some generic non-actionable advise with that story but then it was so clear and precise

This is the real advice. I did it too.. it works like charm. If you're in life facing the same situation just change the place u live, like House, hotel or city or states if u can afford just change the country.

Funnily enough even just a little thing such as moving over to Threads (eg from Twitter) and starting fresh gave me a micro version of this. Starting from scratch with no followers is incredibly freeing.

I came to this exact conclusion by myself before watching the video, and watching this speaker summarise all my thoughts of the past couple of months in this video is brilliant. I am popular at my school and I have a lot of friends, but there are almost too many preconceptions about me that are too late to break : I am the typical funny guy but the byproduct of that is people not taking me seriously at all I’m just constantly the joker and I hate that. I think a new school is just what I need, I’ll see my current friends from time to time when I want some fun, but I’ll meet new and ambitious ones at a new school.

OH MY GOD my mother kept advising me to change schools after 10th grade so that you could get a new kind of environment and said EXACTLY THIS that everyone should not have preconceived ideas about me since I was studying in my school since the beginning! But I refused since I thought I had a lot of achievements and I had worked my ass off in my school so the teachers would definitely elect me as the head boy in 12th grade. But nope that didn't happen and that's why now I'm extremely shy, nervous, timid, self hating and a loser

A new environment is true. This is exactly why I want to study abroad for my Master and Doctorate degree (in the near future) not only for this but also for my mental health.

Heard many fancy speeches all over, but this one was fascinating & damn hard relatable.

His speaking style is so captivating with all the gestures and perfect pauses 👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻

The Challenging way is to devour them all in their field Like being more funnier or athletics than them Just make much louder noise so in their mind they has to reconstruct reality because of you (showing that you are there)

I love your videos! This really hit home for me! I have worked in my parents family business for 15+ years and for the last 5 years I have wanted change who I was and explore myself. I was unhappy in my job, my relationships at work (with some great people) were not healthy, and finally quit because I knew if I wanted to break out of the mold of who I was and work towards being someone who I wanted to be I had to quit. Thanks for sharing!

I started improv half a year ago because of this very video! Such good advice, the confidence it gave me to just be in front of a crowd is insane!

This is great advice! My version of this was travelling solo around Europe for 4 months and staying in hostels. You get new environments and new people constantly and can be whoever you want to be.

Idk but i find this mans speach so relatable as if my inner voice or thoughts was being exposed!

So true about the 'mold' that people fit us into. I feel that this can also be the case with people close to you. If you show behaviour that is not the 'usual' for you, they notice, and they find it strange. Whenever I do things that are 'unusual' for me, parents and siblings give me weird attention for it.

Great video, really enjoying Vinh's videos. He deserves more subscribers! it's tough when your family already have this 'mold' of you and trying to change their minds about you without improv classes.

This man is so genuine. I cried with his 30 min ted talk thingy when he told about his dad. 😢

I actually lived this. I was the loud kid no one took serious and everyone looked down on. After high school I moved to 4 different states by myself, met so many interesting people and built myself up to be someone I needed to be, and once I moved back for school, everyone who had me “figured out” was so hell bent on putting me back in that mold. Chained back up to the idea they had of me, and I’ve felt so good just being able to prove all these people wrong (most of these fuckers still live here lol) It’s very real. A different environment, by yourself, is what’s going to save you. After that, it’s all personal work.

Wow. This is the best advice I've honestly ever heard.

I did Improve classes before and it really works; that's the best advice.

Just be really who you want to be. If you want to be funny guy, then be funny guy. Don't give shit about people.

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What you said is true. However, Vinh is right in that if everyone sees you a certain way, it's hard to not care what others think and break out of that old person to practice a new characteristic. That's why he's suggesting to find people you don't know, especially in an improv class (where the whole point is to try something and see if it works). Once you've practiced a skill enough times, it will be easier not to care when others point out the different side of you (especially if you're good at it). So, you're correct, but Vinh is telling people how they can get to the point where they don't care.

This is the exact type of thing I thought to become a new ,better person and yes am on the way to that.

Can I just say that you're being used by God to speak to me and I'm so thankful thank you

I guess that's why University is SUCH a gamechanger for all of us young adults after graduation. Because it is a COMPLETELY clean slate. No one knows you, and you get to experiment new versions of yourself that you couldn't practice with In high school because everyone knows you as 1 personality, and ONLY that personality.

That part about moving school speaks so true to me because it’s what I did, no one knew who I was so I tried to be someone new and it worked. He’s speaking 100% facts

What makes this most genuine and relatable is he calling her name - Jennifer. It hits different

I've always been relatively extroverted but improv class was still an amazing experience and so fun!

Moving worked very well for me. And it was my Dad who did it as well. My life completely changed from that. I went from becoming no one to one of the most academic student, who now actually enjoys learning anything(not just school related subjects). Glad this happened and would recommend it to anybody else who is having these issues in their community.

I saw someone on SNS said that if you want to be successful and evolved get out of the place you've been born in and or living in... which is true as I see... Thank you for sharing this with us

This is so true. I was a textbook introvert who didn't know how to talk to anyone. Later I had an opportunity to do a six-weeks intensive summer course in another country. No one there had any preconceived notions of me and I was able to break out of my shell and talk to people for the first time. After that I went back to school but this time becoming a visibly different person, finally being able to talk to people who haven't talked to me for years

I did an outbound course, basically breaking the ice course for 2 days and I realised that me being serious and honest all the time is really funny for others and that's how I broke out of my shell

before I clicked I thought it was gonna be self-helpish advice, but it turns out to be quite useful and genuine advice, good job!

Yes absolutely, improv classes are FANTASTIC for building confidence! I still see myself as socially awkward at times but it's not a 24/7 thing like it used to be, and I can now act confidently even when I'm very anxious. I also like who I am a lot of the time now. I never ever showed my true personality to anyone except for my family. I was in lots of plays and musicals in school which did really help, but nothing did more for me than Improv. It was terrifying for a while but I really committed to it. One of the most basic rules in my Improv class was "Leave your ego at the door." Way easier said than done, but that's really what makes a great show. Being flat-out encouraged to set aside my "mold" was so freeing. Something that helped me to really commit to the character was my fear of looking like an idiot haha. Seems a bit counterintuitive, but it makes sense if you think about it. In every other part of my life, "not looking like an idiot" was easily achieved by quietly blending into the background. If you never show your personality to people, they can't judge you for it. BUT in Improv class, standing there quietly DOES make you look dumb because you're expected to be a weird, hyperactive lunatic. You're praised for energy, confidence, and personality. And even if you do say something stupid or cringey, it's fine because it literally happens to everyone in Improv from time to time. In conclusion, 10/10 would recommend Improv

This is a great video for personality development! I'm trying the exact thing without much success and this video just encouraged me to not give up and move out of my comfort zone. Thank you so much!

You're gonna change lot of lives man! Thank you for your valuable advice

I totally agree with this... Changing to a new school really changed me as a person. For the better.. Now. I didn't reach the version of myself cuz at the time I wasn't into self developing and trying to make myself better. I was still the fat introvert who sat with her novel in recess cuz I was too shy to go out and try to make friends. But I wasn't labelled as the kid who got into fights (w bullies[But no one sees that, do they??🤕]). I was now the quiet kid who minded her own business but still better than being hated as I was before. I felt more myself in less than a month, than I did in my previous school in 7 years. So yes. This does work.

This is very true! What helped me break out of my own shell was Dungeons and Dragons, which is the nerd's improv class. It allows you to explore different aspects of your being without judgement, and helps you figure out what is and is not "You". I urge anyone and everyone to try it, as you may be surprised at how much you can grow from it

That is one of the best advices I’ve hear from this guy

The best and most practical advice ever expected.

This was GOLD i needed this and it was definitely confirmation to start a new life else where!

This man just gave all that life changing advice on the spot for that one question

I love how he kept saying the lady's name so as to have her full attention. That is a genius idea 👍

I almost cried... For myself. Great men comes from difficulty

this is something I always had a theory in my mind that it's true, and I lived my life by it! so glad I was right!! ❤

I found you on reels and you are so good I literally loved how you break down problems 😮

Vinh, I just discovered your videos in the last week. They are all funny, interesting, engaging, and I learn something new in every video I watch. Many thanks, stay well.

I did this with drama class. Even though people knew who I was, it didn’t really matter. I took drama as an elective for all four years of high school because it gave me a chance to be a stupid idiot so that I wasn’t scared to be a stupid idiot in real life.

You’re smart with your examples Vinh. Everyone can relate, included me. I was fat back then at junior grades school. When I moved to a new senior grade school that a bit far away from my neighborhood. I was running and swimming the whole summer just to fix my weight with the hope of being a completely new me and impress the girls. It worked eventually. After that I realized things limit me is 99% myself.

Note the continuos use of Jennifers name to make it feel like a personal answer to her question while also projecting the story to the entire audience

Genuine!!! Genius!!! I always wondered why people going to different company or country change so much. Including me. Now I know. Their preconceived notion about you. But you also have the power to prove jt wrong only if you intend first and actions follow.

I'd tag myself if I could. Just yesterday or two days ago I was praying that I could find a way to improve my social speaking and help fix my social anxiety. Then just last night, a short pops up on to my KZread recommended about Vinh helping a guy work on speaking louder. I watched it thinking "Oh cool" before heading to bed, then just now I find this video, and it really applies to me and a situation I'm in right now. I now see why I feel so trapped in expectations, thank you to this guy that helped me realize the mold I'm being put in!!!! 😀❤️

My turning point from shy to popular was learning magic ✨ even became my profession and first business! 300 gigs in 3 years, it was awesome.

Genuine practical advice, people put limits on you.