It's nice that you want to help singles. However, many singles are hurting deeply. So many like me have waited for years trusting God. The advice is very general. Singles need empathy and more recognition and help inside the church especially. Something is wrong when multiples of women in the church are singles for years and years. Mostly no men are in church. Singles are not prayed for in church or supported. Ultimately, only God can do it for a person. There is so much focus on preserving and healing marriages. Rightly so, but would anyone join singles and really, truly see their heartfelt issues and help them in their struggles? There is deep loneliness for years and weariness waiting for years. Also singles shouldn't be shamed and always telling singles that they shouldn't make marriage an idol. That is so unfair when many singles have waited for years and years and many others waited 2-5 years to get married with much less waiting.

@LovelyyOT

Жыл бұрын

This is true , singles need help too ❤

@TRUMPisOPPA

Жыл бұрын

I ditto your statement. There’s pain especially when a woman time is short, when many men accuse her of fooling around with many when that wasn’t even the case.

@eunicebediako4986

11 ай бұрын

THANK YOU SIS!!!! 👏🏿👏🏿👏🏿👏🏿👏🏿👏🏿👏🏿👏🏿👏🏿👏🏿👏🏿👏🏿👏🏿👏🏿👏🏿👏🏿👏🏿👏🏿👏🏿👏🏿👏🏿👏🏿👏🏿👏🏿👏🏿FOR SPEAKING THE TRUTH!!! THE CHURCH NEEDS TO STOP SHAMING SINGLE WOMEN FOR HAVING THE DESIRE FOR MARRIAGE AND START BRINGING MORE MEN IN THE CHURCH TO INCREASE HEALTH CHRISTIAN FAMILIES!!!!!!!!!

@lcjones4682

9 ай бұрын

Wish I could like this 100 times. Wish someone would minister to the hurting singles who desire marriage….many in their 50’s and 60’s.

@mightywomanofvalor956

9 ай бұрын

To me am so tired of just married people speaking about our singles whom have been singles for years upon upon. And the do's and don't. Losing weight, fixing your character, dressing ladylike . Keeping pure . We are tired of all that. Cause we are the ones who are suffering with loneliness, singleness and so on. And we are always getting lamblasted cause how we dress and how we have to submit to the men. And the make up and hair we wear. And when doctrines comes across like this men looks at us as we are the issues and look for the women in the world.

You're not reading this by accident this is a confirmation that everything is going to be alright GOD is making a way for you right now at this moment!GOD is working on your behalf. He is orchestrating things in your favor. There are blessings lined up just for you!GOD is so Good all the time GOD is so good!Get some Rest!GOD isn't going wreck His reputation on you.He's going to come through. It Will all work out!

@hildathomas5343

7 ай бұрын

Amen 🙏🏽 I receive it in Jesus name

@lindsay9139

7 ай бұрын

Amen

@Nikki7479

6 ай бұрын

Amen

@aburford3

6 ай бұрын

Amen!! Thank you!

@joyallen1043

6 ай бұрын

Amen

"Everybody has a list for the spouse they want. Nobody has a list about the kind of spouse they want to be." 🤯 #GEM

@ladyd6760

9 ай бұрын

This!!!!👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾

@t.jackson1926

9 ай бұрын

Come on here 👏🏽

@rhondaglanton613

8 ай бұрын

That’s so good! And true!

@michelleem

8 ай бұрын

Exactly 🤯 💜

@dr.robynn

8 ай бұрын

Soooooo gooood.

8 years ago I made a list of characteristics that I wanted in a husband it was characteristics that my great grandfather had and I prayed over it for 8 months and I believed God would answer those prayers and he did. My husband and I have been together for 8 years out of those 8 years we've been married for 3 years and he is everything that I prayed for.

@andreag8416

3 ай бұрын

Awesome!

Just subscribed! I’m still single at 44 and holding on! Pray for me y’all! 🙏🏾❤️💃🏾💍

@Daniel_Ryan453

9 ай бұрын

All his promises are yes and amen 🙏

@missmiinnieme

9 ай бұрын

In Gods perfect timing you shall have the desires of your heart ❤️🙏🏾

@naturallycandacemarie

9 ай бұрын

@@missmiinnieme thank you Queen 🙏🏾💕

@melliemel32

9 ай бұрын

I’m 48 and same thing! Blessings to you sister! There is purpose! 🙏🏽🙏🏽✝️

@Daniel_Ryan453

9 ай бұрын

I'm praying and believing God for a special lady in my life

1) Ask God for a spouse 2) BE a wife/husband NOW!! a. Learn to cook/clean b. Do your hair c. Dress the part d. Start your business e. Get out of debt d. LIVE NOW!!! 4) Spend time to determine whether to Date; keep it holy 5) NO pressure 6) Have standards

Very good topic. As a 45 year old single and saved woman, I’m still believing God for the spouse He has for me.

@melliemel32

9 ай бұрын

48 and me too! It’s becoming a bit more of a challenge…but I know the LORD has a purpose!

@shinespaceable

8 ай бұрын

47… ❤

@charlynminnie5921

8 ай бұрын

48 😊❤

@xristavongai

7 ай бұрын

43❤….. am wondering if any of you would be interested in a type of support group. I think it would be nice to have a community of women who are in the same situation and understand what you are going through.

@lashannawilliams7721

5 ай бұрын

About to be 47. Been practicing abstinence since 2015... While I think this couple is sweet. This wasn't helpful for me. I didn't hear the joy in this message. I heard a lot of don't but not a lot of how's. For example How to wait when you have been waiting and faithfully. How to stay encouraged when your discouraged in your wait. Imma stop there.

I pray for a spouse, but fix me first during this time so I’m ready for who you bring

@officialnonyenaija

7 ай бұрын

This is a VERY IMPORTANT prayer; so that we don't pray for what we're not ready for! 🙏

@eunicetsebe5627

7 ай бұрын

Extremely important what you have just said.

@Ubuntu-BC

6 ай бұрын

Amen....... Beautiful prayer

@benjaminetim3350

5 ай бұрын

We are praying the same prayer 🙏 Amen

@PurposefulLife123

5 ай бұрын

What If I'm the one for you, I'm praying and waiting for a man who is full of God's spirit and knowledge

Ladies be patient and wait on God! Marriage does not have to only be for the young!!!!

@oaklandsoldier8520

7 ай бұрын

What about for us fellas?

@tissaspeight3212

7 ай бұрын

The same applies 😊

@starrjohnson1327

5 ай бұрын

​@@oaklandsoldier8520definitely for the men too. 5 men in my church just got married.

@KA-qp5pr

5 ай бұрын

I needed to hear that

@cheryla.7682

3 ай бұрын

It does seem like everything is in favor of younger people, most guidance is targeting the young😢

I remember the day I gave up and gave it to God!! I was treated with so much disrespectful from the age of 4, the day I gave God control of my love life. I sit down outside on a sunny day in 2009 I was crying and I started to pray, "God, I am tired. Please help me, help me to be with a man that will love me and not hurt me. God I give you control of my life. Lord, send me a man that you want me to be with?! In your name Lord Jesus, I pray. Amen!" I gave it all to God to send me a husband and a man to treat me the way I should be treated. I met my husband in 2012, we started off as friends because, I was dating his old roommate. Then, the day that my old boy friend kicked me out of my car with my one year old at the police station, told me to fine my way home. I lived 4 hours from my parents house. I called my dad what happened and he dropped everything to come. It was going to be a long wait. So I texted my friend ( now husband) and he was going to drop everything to take me home. I told him that it was fine and my dad was on the way. He waited with me until my dad showed up. From that day, we started dating. He would drive that 4 hours to see me every weekend. Long story short we got married in 2015 and have been married 8 years now. So that day I gave God control, He open my eyes to a great man and husband. ❤

@eyethumfazwe

9 ай бұрын

Beautiful!

@tammywilliams9335

8 ай бұрын

Awesome 👏

@SheelahA74

8 ай бұрын

Wow, what a testimony but praise God 🙌🏽🙌🏽🙌🏽 much blessings 🙏🏽

@gloriaakano-williams7351

7 ай бұрын

I love your testimony. You let go and let God. God bless your marriage

@darrynelslaughter565

7 ай бұрын

❤

God..."What did you say that you want?" Me..."Well, I want..." God..."Never mind, I'll give you what you need!"🥰

@karenalara212

6 ай бұрын

😂😂😂that’s about how it goes.

I’m 38 and trusting God for my Husband

@ABiscuitandTea

5 ай бұрын

Same sis! Praying for both of us!

@antonnettedetermine8284

3 ай бұрын

Same here my sisters this is our year that our boaz will find us.

How is it that every Christian content creator found their spouse within months after praying. But so many others are begging God for years and nothing lol

@24pixiegirl

9 ай бұрын

It’s true for some. But this isn’t the reality for all Christian content creators.

@khandygurl01

8 ай бұрын

Mannnnn I promise you I’m thinking the sameeeee thing! Lol I’ve been praying FOR YEARS! Very much marriage-material. And nothing… lol

@lwinston5950

7 ай бұрын

Chile that's the question I would love to know the answer too . I've prayed , healed, fasted...nothing !

@desiresoul5359

7 ай бұрын

You are my people, I’ve tried everything and is making me more anxious and miserable 😩

@nettiemarie2556

7 ай бұрын

Yesssss, thank you!! It amazes me, too...

Am 25 and trusting God for my husband 🤲 God bless this union.

Perspective - I want to have a husband I can submit to and help as intended by God, and a husband I can do kingdom business with ❤

@_themade4moreshow

4 ай бұрын

Great Can we be friends

Watching you guys for the first time...I'm so blessed. Thanks a lot . I'm 50 and trusting God for my Man....❤

@AdornmentMinistries

7 ай бұрын

GOD Is faithful and able. HE just gave me a spouse at 58, a widow. May GOD grant you HIS choice in JESUS'S Mighty Name. Amen

@mailbericht5718

7 ай бұрын

Thank you God for connecting this beautiful woman with her husband, the man that is the perfect mate for her soul. Thank you for connecting her husband with this woman who is the perfect mate for his soul. May their love be a testimony of Your love dear God and glorify Your Love. Prepair them for each other so that they are able to Love one another in Your way, a Godly LOVE from your hand!!! ThankYouThankYouThankYou dear God! Amen!

@shadeadewumi4299

5 ай бұрын

P

I had a long list. And I prayed for 10 years. God sent me that person . I knew right away when I met him. He was also a very devoted christian. We had a heavenly relationship. But the 3 years into my marriage my husband died of sickness. I am doing very well right now thanks to the grace of god. But I sometimes wonder what it was God was trying to do..

@gcc906

7 ай бұрын

66 black women still waiting.

@naturalfay2798

7 ай бұрын

I am sorry for your loss and I hope if your desire to marry again, I pray God will send you wonderful Man of God❤❤❤❤

@TayTru3

7 ай бұрын

I am so sorry for your loss 🥺❤️ May God heal Your heart and Be with him

@ngreat4390

7 ай бұрын

May God comfort your heart

@EmpressLope

7 ай бұрын

Sending you Love. God will comfort and restore you! ❤️

I'm so blessed with this episode. I'm 31 believing God for a husband🙏

@Doinglifewithkenandtabatha

6 ай бұрын

Believing with you, for your future husband!

@Nothingbutdust92

4 ай бұрын

I'm 31 too and in the same boat 🙏🏻❤️

@priscillahela7997

Ай бұрын

I'm 31 too and trusting God🙌🏾

I'm single at 54 and trying to hold for God timing for me 😢🙏🏾

@therachelexchange

Ай бұрын

Hold on and don’t settle! God knows exactly what you need & want❤!

@gloriarobinson6820

Ай бұрын

@@therachelexchange Thank you so much

Please Please please do not settle. Not worth it! Someone i know married this man she settled. Found out 1 year later this guys entire life was a lie. I do believe God cares about our lives. I remember Hannah crying out to the Lord for a baby her husband thought she was loosing it. God fulfilled her desire. He will do the same for us. I feel for all of us singles. I will be 60 this month. 60 and waiting on the Lord some days i feel like Hannah and others days i feel so honored that i am married to the King of Kings. God Bless all of you Beautiful Kingdom Women! I declare your day is coming in Jesus Name!!❤❤

@jeanprinsloo2834

5 ай бұрын

Same here... 60 and waiting... We should not settle 👍🤗

@betglo8151

3 ай бұрын

One of my relatives is getting married this year to a woman who's 60 and has never been married. Don't give up!! God is faithful.

I'm open for restoration, I am ready for restoration, and I receive restoration in Jesus' Name. Amen.

“God, let me like whatever You bring into my life.” WOOOOOW 🤯🤯🤯 That’s IT! 💜

@dr.robynn

7 ай бұрын

This was the breakthrough

@IamROYALTY_

7 ай бұрын

Yeah- that was the part - I’m still trying to grasp this ❤❤

@itumelengmohlabula

7 ай бұрын

Amen!

Lord send me some one in due TIME with the LOVE OF GOD. The one that you Created only for me.

I loved this! I think shifting the focus from “this is the husband/wife I want” to “this is the partner/spouse I want to be” is an amazing shift of perspective. To add to one of the topics you covered- being pressed can look like only focusing on or over emphasizing being in a relationship so much so that you’re willing to date just anybody/someone well under your standards and/or it’s all you talk about. In my waiting season, I don’t want to always talk or focus on my “singleness.”

@Doinglifewithkenandtabatha

Жыл бұрын

Thank you so much for your feedback! Glad this was helpful. We look forward to do more topics on this

@sweetumsDenise

8 ай бұрын

I agree sis, you have one of the most relatable comments to me 🫶🏾blessings in your journey.

@brendaharding8010

8 ай бұрын

If I believe that I need a man to spiritually and emotionally fulfil me then I may be making an idol of this idea. I am 47 and thankfully enjoy my own company. It is only now that I am coming to that place. I am open however to meeting someone if it's in God's will for my life. Prayers for all here. God's will in our lives. May we be obedient to it 🙏

This is such a blessing for me to hear. I'm single 44 yrs old. I trust God totally to grant me a Godly husband for me if it is only in his will. The marriage will glorify and honor him. In Jesus name. Amen

I loved this conversation Pastors. As a [soon to be] 37 year old single woman, I definitely agree with the "don't be pressed" sentiment. A few years ago, shortly after coming out of a toxic relationship, I met a guy while hanging out with a friend. He seemed nice, but I knew I neither wanted a relationship, nor was I ready for it. I made that known to him, because I'm strongly against wasting people's time in that manner, but did offer friendship, as that is all I had the capacity for. The guy flipped out on me...and that turned me off from even thinking of him as a potential in the future. I think when one doesn't respect your boundaries, it demonstrates desperation, and that is never good. Thank you so much for this. Been following your ministry for about 3 years now and have grown in my walk with God, and I'm very excited about this extension!

@Doinglifewithkenandtabatha

Жыл бұрын

Wow, thank for sharing. So glad this episode blessed you! We are excited for this extension as well 🙌🏾

I am a divorced a year now. My ex husband left the marriage but I have always known I was a wife and believe the Lord will bless me with a believing life partner/husband . I want my children to see what a Godly marriage looks like

@katswoopes1

5 ай бұрын

Praying that God answers speedily!

I've felt ashamed to ask God for a spouse because i feel like im betraying God because He literally satisfies all my needs 😢 But I've been able to discern by the Grace of God that that feeling of shame is from the enemy. So im pushing myself to pray more intentional for a husband.

Actually, I had a list of the kind of husband I'd become since I was 15 (currently 39)!!! I also worked on becoming that man since.

@ayoogunlade

5 ай бұрын

That’s really interesting

I made a list but not a shallow list mine included integrity, patient, kind , loyal, god fearing etc But I always prayed Lord mold me for my husband and mold my husband for me . God gave me my desires and check every box on my list 🙂

@estherowo2706

5 ай бұрын

Thank you

I’m 42 and trusting God for my husband. I’m praying that God send me who he has for me. I’m praying for him just as much as he’s praying for me.

Thank you for this topic, I’m in a season of self-discovery and have really been praying for change and a wife whenever God feels i’m ready. In the meantime i’m gonna keep doing my best to be better and wiser

@Doinglifewithkenandtabatha

Жыл бұрын

Thank you for your feedback! So glad this episode blessed you

@rosameijering5161

Жыл бұрын

Wow amazing

@marilynkhasnabish7407

Жыл бұрын

Yes but you will have to go after her to get that spouse. Wait on God but when He tells you it's the season or she is the one, you'll have to do something about it. I'm sure it's not easy but too many men are not proactive as well.

@samtribble3981

9 ай бұрын

Same here! ❤

@ceciliambewe5470

9 ай бұрын

​@@rosameijering5161Oo oof oooooooooooooooo on 😅oo😊o

Man! Thanks guys! The “you’re too old now” lie is one the enemy keeps trying. I KNOW satan IS A LIAR! Thank you guys for calling these lies out. I just became a subscriber and I truly believe you all are blessed and anointed to do this. BLESS THE LORD!!! ☝🏽🙏🏽✝️

@Doinglifewithkenandtabatha

8 ай бұрын

Amen! Thanks for watching!

@childofgodtv3903

8 ай бұрын

I’m making 39 and I’ll be 40 in couple months and I’m starting to feel like it will never happen. I’ve been divorced since 2019 and separated since 2016 and I’m starting to cry wondering if I’ve been missed

I've been trusting God for a spouse for a very longtime. Have mercy Abba Father 🙏🏾

I think i will come back when i will have somebody in perspective. For now it's make me feel more single!!! I am in a covenant with God to stay pure before marriage but the struggle is real. I have cut so many things in my live in order not to fall into temptation. I don't like this version of me now. Few months before i was pretty confortable with this singleness. I don't know what have change but now i am unconfortable and don't like the fact of not being confortable. Lord i need your help!! Edit: i am back 3 weeks after to do an update. The Lord is so goooood!! He restore my mind. First of all he shows me that it was a wafare in my mind and then he brings me into his Peace. What a wonderful and mighty God we serve!!! ❤😊

@tajaforrester7407

7 ай бұрын

@michdesmich3036 Amen, Amen I am so happy for you ❤

I told God I gave my heart to you. So tired with dating now a days, it so ghetto. I ask God to prepare me for my husband. Teach me how you want to love and handle your son God. Because I do have certain qualities I ask God for! I just know and trust God! I know God got me. He knew me before I was born. So my abba father knows what I need. So surrender to God. Continue to let him mold you. Heal, grow, and desire what God wants for you.

This was good!! No disrespect but Ken be over talking a bit though. Just a little feedback🙂His wife is so patient. Great content!

God know what I need more than I know what I need🙏🙏

I'm 46 and still believing God for a husband. A man who will love me.

I’m currently at @3:11 I have to say…a list is nothing but standards, boundaries, and expectations. Black women should have MORE of it and actually enforce it. Please don’t discourage black women from practicing discernment when it comes to men. Historically we haven’t and look where that’s gotten us today. If men don’t meet those standards, that’s their problem that they need to confront.

Yes Lord❤The Lord put two people together for his purpose. I don’t have no list. I trust the Lord to give me what will work to accomplish his will😊I trust my Daddy.

I didn’t at first but now I def have a list of things that I think will make me an ideal wife in the future.

Her hair looks fantastic!

Being desperate can also open you up to counterfeits as well...That's why Paul says to be anxious for nothing...

I love the introduction: best friends 21 years but married 23. This is my first time watching you all and you have an instant new subscriber here!

This dating thing 😂😂😂 Date to me is gathering data… If we find we’re moving forward, with intentions on marriage we are exclusive ❤ Most people do not like the dating word, I see it as just what it is. Singles should be dating with a purpose anyway. Loved this episode

I love the nuggets you are dropping!!! Thank you!!

So many good nuggets!

I am single. Really enjoyed this session. God bless this union.

I made a list this year, but like a month later, flipped it around and started praying those things on myself. Why would I ask God for someone with qualities I dont realistically have myself? I'd love to be a good number of those things, before my king finally arrives.

this convo was needed !! thank you

Man this was soooo good. Thank you ❤

Yes, yes, yes! I needed to hear all of this❤

I have a list but what’s on my list are the same things I bring to the table. My list consists of negotiables, nonnegotiables, what I’m open to, and preferences. However, I believe age and experience plays a big part in your desires. I’ve been married before so I know what I bring to the table and the things I’ve had to work on to be a better spouse the next time. It’s my desire to be married again and I pray for all those who want the same🙏🏽.

Amen! This was so great thank you.

This was beautiful, thanks for sharing ❤ !!

I agree with Tabitha. The word “date” seems to come with expectation versus “hanging out” or “Meeting-up” gives buddy vibes with no romantic expectations. I like to think of it as a buddy outing as I am showing up for the experience and the opportunity to get to know you better. Changing the term simply takes the pressure off.

First time watcher and I loved it! Thanks and be blessed ❤

I love this couple! Thank you for posting this ❤

I love when Tab shares her life experiences. The are right on

i am so blessed to find this conversation. love this already! 🙌🏻

So much valuable nuggets. Thank you

God bless you for the teachings...

So good! I’m married and so many of these principles are still so true for a healthy strong marriage. Thank you Pastors❤

@Doinglifewithkenandtabatha

Жыл бұрын

So glad this episode blessed you!

I want to be the best version of myself, in order to be the best partner I can be. Everything I want in a partner, I also want to be that for my partner. I ask God to help me to love, honor and support my mate the way that God intended.

🙌🙌🙌 Great message. Thank you so much

Couldn't be more blessed! I feel put together!😊

Yes I don’t go on dates too! I go to meet up but not dates. I feel uncomfortable when they call it late I can’t loosen up. My bday is in January and God has it in my heart that I should go out and date! This video is what I needed to hear God is good.

Just came across this video. I needed this encouragement. I'm 53 and still waiting. Thanks for sharing these tools.

This was so encouraging and more important maybe true

Thank you all for this 🙏🏾

EXACTLY- I SUBMIT MYSELF (MY BODY) TO HOLINESS- AMEN

I'ma admit i definitely ain't ready for a wife still! Gotta alot to heal from work on and change so this is inspiring cz we singles aren't preached to so thank y'all!!

Very Helpful ! Thank You Both

Dope conversation… thank you both 🙏🏾❤️💪🏾

This was a gem!

@Doinglifewithkenandtabatha

Жыл бұрын

Glad you enjoyed it!

This is beautiful. Marriage in and of itself is a ministry. Serving each other.

I need this 😩 thank u Lord

Thank you! You guys inspire and are so sweet! God bless you both

Lord thank you for this. I am believing that God will send me my King!! 🙏🏾❤️

This is amazing, super helpful!

@Doinglifewithkenandtabatha

Жыл бұрын

So glad this episode blessed you!!

4 mins in and it’s already really good!!!

Wow....this has been so encouraging thanks to both of you!

Y'all are a beautiful couple God always knows what's best for us.

Ken, brother you have a gift. Solid teacher voice of a wise kind hearted father, the delivery of your messages and points hit like thunder. I pray God continues to bless y'all & y'all marriage.

Thank you so much you are such a big blessing Ken and Tab

Great message! Awesome couple. Love the white sweater.

First time viewer and the authenticity, transparency, and the realness of this conversation just landed you two another follower! And I would like to add, my list actually list character, morals, and values. I through out the physical list (mentally) a long time ago! lol. I'm open to whoever God has for me. Just let whoever you have for me be fine please and thank you 😂🙏🏽💛

AMEN! All marriages can succeed if we have the right foundation, culture nd identity!

Thank you to you both. You are such a gentle and tender couple.

Amen! God knows what we need and when we need it!

Thank you guys so much for Being Transparent and Really ministering To Me threw my single season even The Series behind closed doors 🚪 you guys are helping me prepare for My Kingdom Marriage that’s ordained By The Lord

I love Tabatha’s idea- just going out, going for coffee, etc. That also takes the pressure and nerves off what comes along with dates/dating- until you know it’s actual dating. And right, who wants to say/think I been on all these “dates”. ❤

@Monisolal

8 ай бұрын

So true

THIS REALLY BLESSED ME

I’m so glad I came across this video. Thank you for sharing 🤗

Thank you Ken & Tabatha for this! Also, Tabatha, your hair is absolutely gorgeous. You're beautiful! Thank you both for loving and serving God and the saints in this way. "Iron your pants" got me. 😂 True.

This was really good! I cried so hard when ya'll talk about the club story of meeting. I think I cried so because I closed off my mind in thinking that God works in mysterious ways and places. I was thinking "my meeting" will make sense when sometimes God's ways will shock us and not make sense. Thank you both for sharing and opening my mind to God's wonderfully mysterious ways for bringing people together. 🙏❤

The way you 2 gaze at each other is truly beautiful

This was a breath of fresh air! 👏🏾🎉 God bless you all

Hei Fam...I am 33 and a single parent.Still Praying for my spouse and I love your podcast.Bless the Lord🙏🙏🙏

@Doinglifewithkenandtabatha

8 ай бұрын

Believing with you for your future husband!