How To Be The Type Of Person Everyone Wants To Know

Some people are simply a joy to be around. The conversation flows effortlessly. You laugh. You feel genuinely interested. You find yourself looking forward to seeing them, and you leave them feeling like their company was a valuable use of your time.
Obviously, this connection has something to do with how much you have in common, but I think there’s more to it than just that. I think they have a secret ingredient.
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  • @alasdair4161
    @alasdair41616 жыл бұрын

    It's easy to distinguish the traits in people we don't want to know, but much harder to recognise those same traits in ourselves.

  • @Emiliapocalypse

    @Emiliapocalypse

    5 жыл бұрын

    Alasdair McC well said.

  • @ardithasangjekaj1059

    @ardithasangjekaj1059

    5 жыл бұрын

    its called the shadow self in psychology

  • @77777aol
    @77777aol5 жыл бұрын

    Never compare yourself to others. Compare yourself to yourself of yesterday ! [Really inspirational and clear videos. Thank you]

  • @abrahamnaranjo6408

    @abrahamnaranjo6408

    Жыл бұрын

    JOHN14:6❤️❤️❤️

  • @pandalyn2267
    @pandalyn22675 жыл бұрын

    These little lectures are my therapy. Thank you for addressing these difficult but human topics with such candor and insight.

  • @intagiblemist9676

    @intagiblemist9676

    5 жыл бұрын

    Manda Panda Bear we can be friends

  • @tylergcole1727
    @tylergcole17275 жыл бұрын

    I feel like I'm a fixed mindset and I've been wanting to change this for years

  • @voltaire5427
    @voltaire54275 жыл бұрын

    I love improvement channels, but this by far lays it out the clearest and doesn’t over complicate. Well done sir. Subbed.

  • @allisonwilliams3714
    @allisonwilliams37145 жыл бұрын

    Good lord this just explained a very influential person in my life and how living with their fixed mindset made me afraid of mistakes. Again, thank you!

  • @ahmedaldarmaki8430
    @ahmedaldarmaki84305 жыл бұрын

    The description of each individual has been quote on point. Great video

  • @Demi.d3mi
    @Demi.d3mi5 жыл бұрын

    Damn you just blew my mind😂. Someone's fixed mentality definitely stuck to me and ive been insecure about myself and being seen as fixed when im not but kinda am, just thinking that way🤔 self realization. Thank you!

  • @SuperMutantSomething
    @SuperMutantSomething6 жыл бұрын

    You put words to my thougts. What's frightening to learn is that the crabs in a bucket mentality exists across family ties and friendships.

  • @cassielee1114

    @cassielee1114

    5 жыл бұрын

    Yes! This is why independence is a wonderful thing.

  • @tomislavvinkovic827
    @tomislavvinkovic8273 жыл бұрын

    Half of what you said about a fixed mindset applies to me! I thought this was normal and everyone was like that! You widened my field of view, so thank you

  • @DeborahGilson
    @DeborahGilson5 жыл бұрын

    Thank you, Hazel, for adding this article to your KZread station. I have Dr. Carol Dweck's book and learning about a growth mindset changed my life for good.

  • @ClassicJukeboxBand
    @ClassicJukeboxBand5 жыл бұрын

    She's right! I recognize these people almost immediately upon watching this video. Lots of musicians that I have auditioned are arrogant. They constantly talk about how great they are. I noticed that the arrogant ones are the ones who quit improving their skills and cannot take any kind of constructive criticism. This video was really eye opening for me!

  • @mrprimeconsigliere
    @mrprimeconsigliere5 жыл бұрын

    This is an excellent video. Cut through all the layers of what makes a good personality to the core of it.

  • @gregvangaasbeek813
    @gregvangaasbeek8135 жыл бұрын

    Growing like a beautiful flower to the light. Shine on crazy diamond.

  • @truthseeker4666
    @truthseeker46666 жыл бұрын

    Excellent video! Thank you very much!

  • @abhishekbhaskar7490
    @abhishekbhaskar74905 жыл бұрын

    this is a goldmine in youtube. thanx for making videos.. :)

  • @Arquiteto-em-Sao-Paulo
    @Arquiteto-em-Sao-Paulo6 жыл бұрын

    I just love new simplifications, specially if I agree with it!!!

  • @sergio3428
    @sergio34286 жыл бұрын

    Amazing video! Everyone stay motivated and stay positive. Anything is possible

  • @natesmith5778
    @natesmith57786 жыл бұрын

    Very well said, ty

  • @tonydark6
    @tonydark65 жыл бұрын

    What a great video. Really nicely put together.

  • @TripleTheat
    @TripleTheat5 жыл бұрын

    You can’t make a mistake. Words to live by.

  • @SoundJudgment

    @SoundJudgment

    4 жыл бұрын

    Don't make a single mistake. Make lots of them.

  • @junce723
    @junce7233 ай бұрын

    Thanks for the lesson ❤❤❤

  • @kingofwilcoxstreetkows8351
    @kingofwilcoxstreetkows83515 жыл бұрын

    To me forever to learn this ... better late than never

  • @JustHereToHear
    @JustHereToHear5 жыл бұрын

    Woah this is enlightening.. I've been a fixed person for so long. Got to change -.-

  • @DrumWild
    @DrumWild5 жыл бұрын

    I'm old enough to remember when "an ask" used to be called "a question."

  • @AldousHuxley7
    @AldousHuxley76 жыл бұрын

    Ur gonna be yt famous. Subscribed

  • @Michael-4
    @Michael-46 жыл бұрын

    Very good.

  • @TheFlyingReporters
    @TheFlyingReporters4 жыл бұрын

    Your channel is great!

  • @warrenbradford2597
    @warrenbradford2597 Жыл бұрын

    I will make sure I will perfect my own mind to do this.

  • @laeconomistablockchain8177
    @laeconomistablockchain81774 жыл бұрын

    I found myself some of those persons, people usually tend to drop me them private issues pretty soon after meeting me and I realized is for two fundamental things. Listening + Non Judging, when they talk about problem, mental issues, tendency to suicide, people don't want to listen the same thing : "Love your life, you good, I love you" or at least I wouldn't like, instead I just listen and do some jokes like: "So I am glad you failed that time because that Way I meet you" and you can feel the change

  • @dinelli630
    @dinelli630 Жыл бұрын

    Fear of failure!!! Maybe that need a lot of courage and knowledge and to be among the right people. ,,,💕

  • @afnanrazzak2280
    @afnanrazzak22803 жыл бұрын

    Thank you

  • @b.v.brian4479
    @b.v.brian44795 жыл бұрын

    nice video :) i think i learnt something today

  • @barryirlandi4217
    @barryirlandi42176 жыл бұрын

    Wow! Hit they nail on the head!

  • @pavlepetkovic3048
    @pavlepetkovic30486 жыл бұрын

    Your videos are great :)

  • @okay4567
    @okay45675 жыл бұрын

    I hate liking my friends posts and now I know why 🤷🏼‍♀️ I’m so scared of people not liking me and that’s why I’m so insecure with myself:/

  • @Shadowfoxx5
    @Shadowfoxx56 жыл бұрын

    Those reality bullets though. More enlightening than painful.

  • @serafinaobi
    @serafinaobi3 жыл бұрын

    True

  • @SoulWhisperer
    @SoulWhisperer6 жыл бұрын

    Nice!

  • @TheArtofImprovement

    @TheArtofImprovement

    6 жыл бұрын

    Thanks

  • @MoizRafay
    @MoizRafay5 жыл бұрын

    What you're talking about sounds eerily familiar to "The Power of Now" by Eckhart Tolle. However, you could add more material and insight in a followup video by reading that book.

  • @yamunajolicoeur2807
    @yamunajolicoeur28072 жыл бұрын

    I LOVE THIS CHANNEL 💕💜💖🥂💯👌

  • @anthonydmorse
    @anthonydmorse6 жыл бұрын

    ..Thank you

  • @TheArtofImprovement

    @TheArtofImprovement

    6 жыл бұрын

    You're welcome

  • @InnisSnelling
    @InnisSnelling6 жыл бұрын

    Loads of people make this style of video - what program do you use?

  • @TheArtofImprovement

    @TheArtofImprovement

    5 жыл бұрын

    I've put a link to the software in the description

  • @wolfsmith2865
    @wolfsmith28656 жыл бұрын

    I have long said that it is ok to take what you are doing seriously, but never take yourself seriously.

  • @opheosmedia7809
    @opheosmedia78095 жыл бұрын

    So, is it for being among the people with the fixed mindset or those with the growing one? I don't think it is going to work if you are surrounded with the fixed minded ones.

  • @DrumWild
    @DrumWild5 жыл бұрын

    But I have Asperger's. Once people start to get to know me, they run away.

  • @jaysan2674

    @jaysan2674

    5 жыл бұрын

    Relatable

  • @Lady_of_Winds

    @Lady_of_Winds

    5 жыл бұрын

    Same. But. Have a "Growth" Mindset. I have Aspergers too but with lots of training I managed to have friends and even became the committee president of a youth parliament. All thanks to daily training and constructive critique from my parents (On the other hand I am not too deep into the spectrum)

  • @lisamcallister6534

    @lisamcallister6534

    5 жыл бұрын

    Try cognitive behavior therapy. It helps, then you'll feel better about yourself. Take care.

  • @PaperRaines
    @PaperRaines5 жыл бұрын

    He basically just described amorality. You're not aware of what's good or bad, you're just there. That is highly attractive and highly configurable. Especially around lower hanging fruit groups of people. I like the advice, it's good. But that's what it is

  • @nicholasatom4563
    @nicholasatom45635 жыл бұрын

    Culture of Narcissism (fixedness at 3:30-ish)

  • @tomjackson2565
    @tomjackson25655 жыл бұрын

    Lovely...

  • @nuotykis6350
    @nuotykis63504 жыл бұрын

    i feel attacked

  • @intagiblemist9676
    @intagiblemist96765 жыл бұрын

    I want to see the comments for this 1.

  • @MilkySuit
    @MilkySuit2 жыл бұрын

    Thanks onion

  • @xcross8537
    @xcross85375 жыл бұрын

    I am still evolving, care less what people think of me.

  • @nictanghe98
    @nictanghe983 жыл бұрын

    just be hot and lie to people`s faces about everything and just tel em what they want to hear .

  • @JaysonT1
    @JaysonT15 жыл бұрын

    What is "maths"?

  • @TheArtofImprovement

    @TheArtofImprovement

    5 жыл бұрын

    Jayson T Mathematics

  • @ronniespain7142
    @ronniespain71425 жыл бұрын

    Possibly Some of Yous Could help Congress.

  • @k4temis
    @k4temis4 жыл бұрын

    Thumbs up if this is your favourite youtube channel!

  • @aeustimothymiguel8111
    @aeustimothymiguel81115 жыл бұрын

    Eudaimonia?

  • @aaronzywicki2688
    @aaronzywicki26886 жыл бұрын

    It Seems Most People I Know Come To Me With Their Problems ! And Seek An Opinion From Me I don't Know Why Maybe Because I Take The Time To Listen ! But In My Head I Say Do You Really Want My Opinion!

  • @gretawilliams8799
    @gretawilliams87995 жыл бұрын

    FIXED people are Fools

  • @DaPoopIsInDaPudding

    @DaPoopIsInDaPudding

    5 жыл бұрын

    Anonymous nice attitude

  • @aeustimothymiguel8111
    @aeustimothymiguel81115 жыл бұрын

    Is that you Eudaimonia?

  • @Obtaineudaimonia

    @Obtaineudaimonia

    5 жыл бұрын

    Yes, this is my second channel

  • @RS-io6vm
    @RS-io6vm6 жыл бұрын

    I can't make people laugh. what's the opposite of being funny? ...not funny? anywho I'm an easy target to be the butt of others jokes. I'm fine with it. gives me some kind of attention. I know most people would say get away from a toxic person that does that to you. but I need attention. I'm hurting on the inside cause I'm so lonely

  • @2ashamed2change

    @2ashamed2change

    6 жыл бұрын

    :-(

  • @troywarren1075

    @troywarren1075

    5 жыл бұрын

    I think your comment proves you have a sence of humor

  • @jamiesimms7084

    @jamiesimms7084

    5 жыл бұрын

    If this is true then that's a shame. Everyone is cool

  • @abdsabiri6793

    @abdsabiri6793

    5 жыл бұрын

    the only attention you really need is the attention of your true self your persona if you can keep yourself good companies give him treat when you both succed and forgive yourself when you f**k up then you wouldn't feel the necessity to seek attention.

  • @hangfried9429

    @hangfried9429

    5 жыл бұрын

    Look me up we'll talk.

  • @montesforeman5079
    @montesforeman50795 жыл бұрын

    7:40 No cerebellum on that brain, don't trust this guy. :)

  • @mestill6329
    @mestill63296 жыл бұрын

    Ah. This further explains Trump's fixed mindset.