How To Be The Type Of Person Everyone Wants To Know
Some people are simply a joy to be around. The conversation flows effortlessly. You laugh. You feel genuinely interested. You find yourself looking forward to seeing them, and you leave them feeling like their company was a valuable use of your time.
Obviously, this connection has something to do with how much you have in common, but I think there’s more to it than just that. I think they have a secret ingredient.
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It's easy to distinguish the traits in people we don't want to know, but much harder to recognise those same traits in ourselves.
@Emiliapocalypse
5 жыл бұрын
Alasdair McC well said.
@ardithasangjekaj1059
5 жыл бұрын
its called the shadow self in psychology
Never compare yourself to others. Compare yourself to yourself of yesterday ! [Really inspirational and clear videos. Thank you]
@abrahamnaranjo6408
Жыл бұрын
JOHN14:6❤️❤️❤️
These little lectures are my therapy. Thank you for addressing these difficult but human topics with such candor and insight.
@intagiblemist9676
5 жыл бұрын
Manda Panda Bear we can be friends
I feel like I'm a fixed mindset and I've been wanting to change this for years
I love improvement channels, but this by far lays it out the clearest and doesn’t over complicate. Well done sir. Subbed.
Good lord this just explained a very influential person in my life and how living with their fixed mindset made me afraid of mistakes. Again, thank you!
The description of each individual has been quote on point. Great video
Damn you just blew my mind😂. Someone's fixed mentality definitely stuck to me and ive been insecure about myself and being seen as fixed when im not but kinda am, just thinking that way🤔 self realization. Thank you!
You put words to my thougts. What's frightening to learn is that the crabs in a bucket mentality exists across family ties and friendships.
@cassielee1114
5 жыл бұрын
Yes! This is why independence is a wonderful thing.
Half of what you said about a fixed mindset applies to me! I thought this was normal and everyone was like that! You widened my field of view, so thank you
Thank you, Hazel, for adding this article to your KZread station. I have Dr. Carol Dweck's book and learning about a growth mindset changed my life for good.
She's right! I recognize these people almost immediately upon watching this video. Lots of musicians that I have auditioned are arrogant. They constantly talk about how great they are. I noticed that the arrogant ones are the ones who quit improving their skills and cannot take any kind of constructive criticism. This video was really eye opening for me!
This is an excellent video. Cut through all the layers of what makes a good personality to the core of it.
Growing like a beautiful flower to the light. Shine on crazy diamond.
Excellent video! Thank you very much!
this is a goldmine in youtube. thanx for making videos.. :)
I just love new simplifications, specially if I agree with it!!!
Amazing video! Everyone stay motivated and stay positive. Anything is possible
Very well said, ty
What a great video. Really nicely put together.
You can’t make a mistake. Words to live by.
@SoundJudgment
4 жыл бұрын
Don't make a single mistake. Make lots of them.
Thanks for the lesson ❤❤❤
To me forever to learn this ... better late than never
Woah this is enlightening.. I've been a fixed person for so long. Got to change -.-
I'm old enough to remember when "an ask" used to be called "a question."
Ur gonna be yt famous. Subscribed
Very good.
Your channel is great!
I will make sure I will perfect my own mind to do this.
I found myself some of those persons, people usually tend to drop me them private issues pretty soon after meeting me and I realized is for two fundamental things. Listening + Non Judging, when they talk about problem, mental issues, tendency to suicide, people don't want to listen the same thing : "Love your life, you good, I love you" or at least I wouldn't like, instead I just listen and do some jokes like: "So I am glad you failed that time because that Way I meet you" and you can feel the change
Fear of failure!!! Maybe that need a lot of courage and knowledge and to be among the right people. ,,,💕
Thank you
nice video :) i think i learnt something today
Wow! Hit they nail on the head!
Your videos are great :)
I hate liking my friends posts and now I know why 🤷🏼♀️ I’m so scared of people not liking me and that’s why I’m so insecure with myself:/
Those reality bullets though. More enlightening than painful.
True
Nice!
@TheArtofImprovement
6 жыл бұрын
Thanks
What you're talking about sounds eerily familiar to "The Power of Now" by Eckhart Tolle. However, you could add more material and insight in a followup video by reading that book.
I LOVE THIS CHANNEL 💕💜💖🥂💯👌
..Thank you
@TheArtofImprovement
6 жыл бұрын
You're welcome
Loads of people make this style of video - what program do you use?
@TheArtofImprovement
5 жыл бұрын
I've put a link to the software in the description
I have long said that it is ok to take what you are doing seriously, but never take yourself seriously.
So, is it for being among the people with the fixed mindset or those with the growing one? I don't think it is going to work if you are surrounded with the fixed minded ones.
But I have Asperger's. Once people start to get to know me, they run away.
@jaysan2674
5 жыл бұрын
Relatable
@Lady_of_Winds
5 жыл бұрын
Same. But. Have a "Growth" Mindset. I have Aspergers too but with lots of training I managed to have friends and even became the committee president of a youth parliament. All thanks to daily training and constructive critique from my parents (On the other hand I am not too deep into the spectrum)
@lisamcallister6534
5 жыл бұрын
Try cognitive behavior therapy. It helps, then you'll feel better about yourself. Take care.
He basically just described amorality. You're not aware of what's good or bad, you're just there. That is highly attractive and highly configurable. Especially around lower hanging fruit groups of people. I like the advice, it's good. But that's what it is
Culture of Narcissism (fixedness at 3:30-ish)
Lovely...
i feel attacked
I want to see the comments for this 1.
Thanks onion
I am still evolving, care less what people think of me.
just be hot and lie to people`s faces about everything and just tel em what they want to hear .
What is "maths"?
@TheArtofImprovement
5 жыл бұрын
Jayson T Mathematics
Possibly Some of Yous Could help Congress.
Thumbs up if this is your favourite youtube channel!
Eudaimonia?
It Seems Most People I Know Come To Me With Their Problems ! And Seek An Opinion From Me I don't Know Why Maybe Because I Take The Time To Listen ! But In My Head I Say Do You Really Want My Opinion!
FIXED people are Fools
@DaPoopIsInDaPudding
5 жыл бұрын
Anonymous nice attitude
Is that you Eudaimonia?
@Obtaineudaimonia
5 жыл бұрын
Yes, this is my second channel
I can't make people laugh. what's the opposite of being funny? ...not funny? anywho I'm an easy target to be the butt of others jokes. I'm fine with it. gives me some kind of attention. I know most people would say get away from a toxic person that does that to you. but I need attention. I'm hurting on the inside cause I'm so lonely
@2ashamed2change
6 жыл бұрын
:-(
@troywarren1075
5 жыл бұрын
I think your comment proves you have a sence of humor
@jamiesimms7084
5 жыл бұрын
If this is true then that's a shame. Everyone is cool
@abdsabiri6793
5 жыл бұрын
the only attention you really need is the attention of your true self your persona if you can keep yourself good companies give him treat when you both succed and forgive yourself when you f**k up then you wouldn't feel the necessity to seek attention.
@hangfried9429
5 жыл бұрын
Look me up we'll talk.
7:40 No cerebellum on that brain, don't trust this guy. :)
Ah. This further explains Trump's fixed mindset.