How to Be Happy Again (1/3): 4 Habits to be Happier in 1 Month

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You can learn how to be happy. It's a skill that you can develop. But trying to make yourself feel happy immediately usually backfires- either you end up just seeking momentary pleasures like food, drugs, buying stuff, hooking up, or distracting yourself…all of which can make your life worse in the long run. Or you end up putting so much pressure on yourself to be happy that you make yourself more stressed out and miserable.
But that doesn’t mean it’s hopeless…you really can increase your happiness in life, it’s a skill you can foster. you can learn daily habits of happy people that can change your life. It’s something I’ve been thinking about a lot because it seems like these last two years have sucked the joy out of life a little bit. I used to go places, and see people and do things. I’m pretty sure I used to laugh more. It’s like my emotions are compressed, smashed down, and it’s easier to feel apathetic, numb, low energy and not a lot of excitement…
So…here’s what I’ve been doing to get that joy back into my life, and I think it’s working!
How to be happy again- this is part 1 of 3.
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  • @laugt440
    @laugt4402 жыл бұрын

    One of my favorite gratitude practice that really works for me is this: everything that you don’t take the time to appreciate today will dissapear tomorrow. In this mindset, you end up being gratefull for the smallest things like the softness of your clothes, the smell of coffee, even the paint color of your wall. It also show me what i want to keep in my life and the things I don’t care about, value or want to change :-) hope it helps someone out there (english is not my first language sry if it was not clear) take care❤️

  • @i2250

    @i2250

    2 жыл бұрын

    No need to apologise, you wrote perfectly :)

  • @indigoblue4791

    @indigoblue4791

    2 жыл бұрын

    I love that. 😊💗

  • @Ana-cb2wb

    @Ana-cb2wb

    2 жыл бұрын

    Good One🎀

  • @joanryan2242

    @joanryan2242

    2 жыл бұрын

    Lovely..thank you!💕

  • @Lizzyliz1111

    @Lizzyliz1111

    2 жыл бұрын

    Beautiful. I will incorporate this into my gratitude practice 💕

  • @mariamnader2016
    @mariamnader20162 жыл бұрын

    🌸The habits to be happy 😄 1. Look for the good : *gratitude *3 good things exercise 2. Serve and connect with others 3. Slow down nd savor every moment: *take a picture of something beautiful 4. Laughter

  • @AlannaKingrose

    @AlannaKingrose

    2 жыл бұрын

    So glad you mentioned this. I've been doing the 3 good things exercise for close to 3 years now, in addition to trying to stick to a 30-day goal to start, and it's ok if I miss a day, I just restart the count on Day1, and again try to hit 30 days. But 3 good things is so little, it's one of the easiest habits I have that has made the biggest difference in my life. I recommend it to anyone of my friends that feel like they might need a little bit more daily happiness!! :) I call it my "Good Job Journal" with subtext ("only good things")

  • @mariamnader2016

    @mariamnader2016

    2 жыл бұрын

    @@PaleOpal21 u r welcome 🌸

  • @marthaduran6010

    @marthaduran6010

    2 жыл бұрын

    ❤THANK YOU❤

  • @f_rrah

    @f_rrah

    2 жыл бұрын

    How to cure depression..?

  • @debbieoaldon8332

    @debbieoaldon8332

    2 жыл бұрын

    Thank you for this!!

  • @joedominguez8064
    @joedominguez8064 Жыл бұрын

    I struggled with depression since my youth. I still do, but one of the big turning points to me getting more of a handle on it was beginning to work at Humane Society of Charlotte as an animal care associate and eventually adoption counselor. Caring for other beings can really bring you outside of yourself and help you find more joy

  • @Lonelyone1111

    @Lonelyone1111

    4 ай бұрын

    EHELPING SHELTER RESCUE KITTYS N DOGS IS THE MOST REWARDING TO GIVE LIFE HAPPINESS TO THESE SUFFERING FURBABIES IS A BLESSING. PLEASE DONATE HELP OUT WALK THE DOGGIES U CAN MAKE A DIFFERENCE

  • @survivor1313
    @survivor13132 жыл бұрын

    “Dishes are patient.” - Emma McAdam I love this!!! It’s so true. The things that feel urgent sometimes are just not as important as our kids/family or other relationships.

  • @lynettelink315

    @lynettelink315

    2 жыл бұрын

    My mom would always say to me whenever I was upset about not getting the dishes done, "it's okay, they'll be there tomorrow" lol and this would always make me feel better!

  • @frannyleyden7988

    @frannyleyden7988

    2 жыл бұрын

    @@lynettelink315 my mom said that too. Keeps things in perspective.

  • @kg9105

    @kg9105

    2 жыл бұрын

    @@lynettelink315 my mom is the opposite and stresses me out when I don't do the dishes

  • @inthedougout301

    @inthedougout301

    Жыл бұрын

    Do I have permission to tell me wife this? lol ... I will let you know how it goes.

  • @al19700212

    @al19700212

    Жыл бұрын

    So guilty of this try to fit as much in as possible

  • @fastfrankblack
    @fastfrankblack2 жыл бұрын

    She’s such a great presenter. Amazing that this is available for free on KZread; it would never have been on TV ❤️

  • @christacoffen7871

    @christacoffen7871

    2 жыл бұрын

    What?

  • @deliamason7844

    @deliamason7844

    Жыл бұрын

    😂

  • @lisamacdonald8579

    @lisamacdonald8579

    Жыл бұрын

    I know what you mean!! I agree:)

  • @stacirenee4122
    @stacirenee4122 Жыл бұрын

    This video has validated my efforts to engage more with people. I am PAINFULLY shy and an extreme introvert. In the last month I have literally forced myself to participate in at least one activity a week involving people that I have no choice but to have a conversation with. It has helped me so much and I’m starting to have less anxiety when I know I have to talk to people and I’m beginning to look forward to it. Even baby steps matter.

  • @sarac.3259
    @sarac.32592 жыл бұрын

    I couldn't agree more re gratitude. With what is going on lately, I could feel myself slipping into that sense of dread (like a cloud when you wake up), that so much is wrong in the world. That doesn't help anyone. Am now trying to consciously appreciate a hot shower, being served in a shop or cafe etc, also noticing what is around you - clouds, birds, leaves on trees.

  • @sami59165
    @sami59165 Жыл бұрын

    I have attempted to meditate many times in my life and prior to this CD the only success I've experienced is with live guided meditation. kzread.infoUgkxzpa8CIfZcihW4Z0F_ja0QF3W9KIatrsq This is the first CD I've used that cuts through my unmedicated ADHD and enables me to truly relax and experience a quiet and energizing interval. The instructors voice is very soothing and pleasant to listen to. I am easily able to sit successfully through the entire CD, and for quite some time after. I cannot adequately express how tremendously helpful this CD has been on my spiritual journey!! Two thumbs up and 10 stars!

  • @HappyAtHomeGirl
    @HappyAtHomeGirl2 жыл бұрын

    Gosh … just what I needed. As a very anxious introvert it’s easier to hide away but you are right about needing people. Wonderful video God bless x

  • @wildflowerwind6941

    @wildflowerwind6941

    Жыл бұрын

    Me too.

  • @hplifestylelessonsandfun9131

    @hplifestylelessonsandfun9131

    Жыл бұрын

    Same. But people need people.

  • @jackieconrad4500
    @jackieconrad45002 жыл бұрын

    Congratulations on your pregnancy. I totally agree with everything you say. My son has a heart condition and autism. He has started senior school (UK) and his anxiety levels have gone through the roof and is now having suicidal thoughts and hearing voices. I am looking at home schooling him, but being a single parent and running my own gardening business, this is going to be tricky, but I can do it. I always look at the positives. We have a roof over our heads, we have food in the cupboard, we have loads of great friends and family. We both have the same sense of humour and laugh at the same things. We both love the water and swimming under it and we love each other. He's at his Dad's today, so i'm going to the gym, that's my me time. Thanks for all your great videos.

  • @SUGAR_XYLER

    @SUGAR_XYLER

    2 жыл бұрын

    With all the depression and suffering in the world she decides to bring another baby into this cruel world ‼️ 🤦‍♀️

  • @janicetribbiani7535

    @janicetribbiani7535

    2 жыл бұрын

    @@SUGAR_XYLER Another baby to bring some light and happiness and make the world a little less cruel. And it's her prerogative. We need to do our parts to make the world a better place, my darling girl. You have a part, too!

  • @yasminevine

    @yasminevine

    2 жыл бұрын

    Sending prayers and light for you and your son.

  • @jennyweyman3039

    @jennyweyman3039

    Жыл бұрын

    Keep going with your son! Our son with ASD has his first full time job at age 33. He is happy and needed. Keep encouraging his passions and he may work in that field one day. Our was into computers, web design, music +sound engineering, IT. Did better in adult education than high school. Volunteered at 2 community radio stations to get skills and contacts.b Now works for a TV network.

  • @feanorian21maglor38

    @feanorian21maglor38

    Жыл бұрын

    Keep going, and pat yourself on the back for doing a great job being his mum. You sound like you're doing brilliantly. My 31-year old autistic daughter is happily married now, has her own home and a job. I'd never have thought it. It's wonderful you have supportive friends and family, I'd not have managed without them.

  • @donnacostarella4241
    @donnacostarella42412 жыл бұрын

    Everything you said I’ve been practicing omg it changed my life in a way I never imagined. I deal with chronic illness daily at one time I was so bad I wanted to die. Than I had a moment when I realized I had another choice and it was to change how I thought. Calm down my anxiety. Sap the negative thoughts right away. Laugh look at funny videos. Laughter really is the best medicine. I do random acts of kindness and did same thing you did. That makes me happier than anything I could ever buy for me. Like you I smile. Gratitude is very important. Did “ the magic “ 28 days of gratitude I loved it it was like a scavenger hunt for gratitude. I couldn’t wait for the next chapter. The law of attraction like attracts like. What you focus on gets bigger. Our brains are plastic we can refrain our brains. It works. Thank You for your videos. I share them with those I help and for me that is my happiness helping others just as you mentioned. It works ❤️❤️❤️❤️

  • @liasid
    @liasid6 ай бұрын

    When you talked about being grateful for zippers it made me laugh and I felt Genuinely positive for the first time in a long time. And then I started ugly crying. But in a good way. Now I actually feel a lot lighter. I can't believe zippers is what helped to break me out of that fog but hey whatever works. The world is a funny place. And for anyone else who needs to hear it: you never know what's going to help you feel better. Just keep going! For the zippers!

  • @lisagill3561
    @lisagill35612 жыл бұрын

    Omg as a Taiwanese person I was not expecting the mention of my country, and that absolutely gave me so much joy. Thank you so much. I am grateful for this

  • @renorrc7222
    @renorrc72222 жыл бұрын

    Connection, serving others, relationships... sounds like church! Proof going to church is good for you.

  • @lakishagoldsberry5246

    @lakishagoldsberry5246

    2 жыл бұрын

    Amen 🙏🏿 and absolutely 💯 If God word says it, it's foundational for sure and our guide 🙏🏿

  • @jeebuskryst9388

    @jeebuskryst9388

    2 жыл бұрын

    It's really not.

  • @rosemaryclarke2348
    @rosemaryclarke2348 Жыл бұрын

    I love the idea of letting the family around the table talk about the great things in their day; so many times mealtimes are for rowing it belittling and that's bad.

  • @fernkitten
    @fernkitten2 жыл бұрын

    Shifting one's perspective, finding the silver lining, acknowledging that desirable emotions are just as valid as the undesirable ones, and we have to be grateful for emotions because they help us.

  • @kenjohnson2543
    @kenjohnson25432 жыл бұрын

    "The dishes are patient" - a powerful reminder of what masters most. Thank you.

  • @alexandraclark5334
    @alexandraclark53342 жыл бұрын

    Thank you for another great video. Congratulations on your pregnancy!!! Wish you the best always!

  • @jan3718
    @jan37182 жыл бұрын

    Hi Emma, good videos today! Just saw a movie with Reverend Desmond Tutu, and he said or quoted something that I've begun to use that helps me... "You can have Heaven on Earth, or Hell on Earth. CHOOSE! The CHOICE IS OURS! SO CHOOSE! Congratulations on your pregnancy and next baby too! Thank you ❤️

  • @lenas5613
    @lenas56132 жыл бұрын

    Last 2 years...sucked the life out of everything ...alot! IMHO. NOW to recover and be grateful.

  • @frankducett9
    @frankducett92 жыл бұрын

    12 weeks working at an orphanage in Tanzania had an amazing effect on my gratitude. Thanks.

  • @Implosion-Gaming
    @Implosion-Gaming2 жыл бұрын

    These videos help me so much with my anxiety and honestly even figuring out my adhd as well which causes major issues with everything.

  • @medhachakraborty7474
    @medhachakraborty74742 жыл бұрын

    Let me start right now itself. I am really thankful to you for making such amazing videos. You are a boon to humanity. Each video you make goes a long way in instilling confidence and trust in people like us . I am thankful to have explored this channel 💐💞🌈 People like you make this world happy and beautiful 💘❤️

  • @nightcat569
    @nightcat5692 жыл бұрын

    My anxiety had gotten better it's still there but it doesn't affect my life as Much thank you for your videos 💕

  • @mamacitazfuentes8755

    @mamacitazfuentes8755

    2 жыл бұрын

    Hi my anxiety has gotten worse I’m constantly getting Panic attacks now 😞do you have any tips I’m desperate

  • @alanwilson2897

    @alanwilson2897

    2 жыл бұрын

    @@mamacitazfuentes8755 watch her video on reducing anxiety. I also use qigong to ad balance. Its a difficult thing to overcome and no I haven't got over it especially at night trying to sleep but it does help. Good luck

  • @SUGAR_XYLER

    @SUGAR_XYLER

    2 жыл бұрын

    @@alanwilson2897 she lost me when she said she was pregnant ‼️I guess she enjoys overpopulating the world....she needs better hobbies !

  • @alanwilson2897

    @alanwilson2897

    2 жыл бұрын

    @@SUGAR_XYLER Its a personal choice IMHO. I'm not going to judge. She is trying help people help themselves and I thank her.

  • @nightcat569

    @nightcat569

    2 жыл бұрын

    @@mamacitazfuentes8755 changed my daily routine: _healthy foods and water . _Spending more time with family and friends for reassurance . _Magnisum vitman. _Talking to a psychologist (only went once but it was nice to have someone validating my issue ) and talk about what was the reason or reasons it was happening . _Don't get scared of Ur symptoms so Ur system understand there is no threat.

  • @baigmahjabeen3338
    @baigmahjabeen333811 ай бұрын

    Each time I get stuck, you are the energy that pushes me to stand up and learn how to live it.❤❤❤

  • @karahowery6760
    @karahowery67602 жыл бұрын

    I love that you love zippers! I love my toothbrush! And I always scream "fax machines!" when something boggles my mind. My family thinks I'm a little nuts but we get a good laugh out of it.

  • @chelseapenguin6465

    @chelseapenguin6465

    2 жыл бұрын

    I love this!

  • @glendolynminxalyn

    @glendolynminxalyn

    Жыл бұрын

    Fax machines??

  • @karahowery6760

    @karahowery6760

    Жыл бұрын

    @@glendolynminxalyn It just boggles my mind how I can put a piece of paper through a machine and it will translate it into electrical impulses that can come out through a phone line in a different part of the world. Even pictures to some degree! Fascinating! And I still don't really REALLY understand how it works! 😂😂🤷

  • @Lyf-3276

    @Lyf-3276

    Жыл бұрын

    Fax machines are mind boggling!! Good point!! 😂

  • @kelli74

    @kelli74

    Жыл бұрын

    🤣 🙌🏼

  • @beautyamongashes8378
    @beautyamongashes83782 жыл бұрын

    I remember being pregnant with my 5th baby and how he got the hiccups inside my belly every night at dinner time. I decided to try to associate my “panic tummy rumble” to the memory of his hiccups and it automatically helped me get out of the symptom, anxiety, symptom, panic cycle. Thank you so much for your hard work in this field and for your willingness to share with us all so graciously. You are a gem and a light Emma! ♥️

  • @indigoblue4791

    @indigoblue4791

    2 жыл бұрын

    Agreed, Emma is a genuine light. She has a wonderful energy I enjoy watching her so much. 😊

  • @connieammerman8302

    @connieammerman8302

    2 жыл бұрын

    Wow! Thank you for sharing this. I have “painful bladder syndrome” and when I Feel that familiar twinge of pain come on it immediately triggers anxiety and thoughts of “oh no not another two week dealing with this pain again” which causes more pain from being anxious. I’m going to try your idea of remembering when I was pregnant with my babies and how it felt when they would kick my bladder rather than going to the negative. 💕

  • @SUGAR_XYLER

    @SUGAR_XYLER

    2 жыл бұрын

    You should change your name to Fertile myrtle ....5 kids,wtf 🤦‍♀️

  • @pixiedust6630

    @pixiedust6630

    Жыл бұрын

    ​@@SUGAR_XYLER There are people with 12 kids lmao. If you can take care and provide for the kids I say go for it😁

  • @mdiamond221

    @mdiamond221

    Жыл бұрын

    I know this is over a year old, but your comment made me focus on something that always makes me happy! I was lucky enough to have my first and only child two weeks before I turned 40. Every night around 7pm there were hiccups and it made me laugh every day. He’s 16 1/2 now, so memories like this help me get through the difficult teenage years.

  • @kathyannk
    @kathyannk2 жыл бұрын

    There’s nothing more important in life than constantly nurturing and validating our children emotionally. Dishes shmishes! Congratulations on your pregnancy! And thank you!

  • @Rizko505
    @Rizko5052 жыл бұрын

    That writing things down that are positive at each day really works! At first i found it kinda silly but yeah it absolutely noticed not only a change in my daily mood, but also i started just seeing things much more positive

  • @charlottetaylor4471

    @charlottetaylor4471

    Жыл бұрын

    You clearly don't suffer from serious mental health problems then.

  • @caspher_cipher5813
    @caspher_cipher58132 жыл бұрын

    This video really helped me a lot, I've been through a lot of negative things in my life, and being happy and thankful of little things is just such a good feeling. Thank you for this video :)

  • @theresajones8367
    @theresajones8367 Жыл бұрын

    It makes me feel happy to see your books arranged by color!

  • @CT1010101
    @CT1010101 Жыл бұрын

    The 3 good things thing really hit me. I'm having compassion fatigue caring for a sick relative. I feel awful that I'm so frustrated with her when she can't help being sick. It just really hit me that I'm still helping her a lot, even if mentally I have a decent amount of negative thoughts about it. I'm going to try to focus more on how I am helping, and less on how I wish I didn't have to.

  • @millax-ev6yz
    @millax-ev6yz2 ай бұрын

    I just want to be happy. I'll do whatever you say

  • @annap1909
    @annap19092 жыл бұрын

    Thank you Emma, you're the best. And thank you for thinking of us during this busy, but blessed time in your life. 🦋❤🦋❤

  • @Brian-rs4ug
    @Brian-rs4ug Жыл бұрын

    We are all good meditators. Unfortunately most are spending their day meditating on negativity, fear, anxiety, depression and the like. I was on depression medication for twenty years of my life. How did I get off of them? In short I changed my eating habits and cut out the processed food and processed sugar. (this help so much with mood swings and exhaustion) The second thing I did was turn off the Television and stop feed my mind on trash. The third thing I did was get the negative people out of my life. And the last thing that helped me get off the depression medication was meditate on the Promises Of God each day for about a half an hour each day. These are all practices I still do daily. I have been doing this for many years and have no intentions of stopping them anytime soon. The changes did not happen fast or easy, but on time, these things transformed my life.

  • @sigurdsonb5015
    @sigurdsonb50152 жыл бұрын

    I am grateful for you Emma. I journal every morning now, I process my dreams and follow the memories that haunt me embracing them and find such beauty and wisdom inside things i used to try to push away. ACT , and your help is getting me back on track ….Blessings Emma I feel blessed by your help.

  • @chandranelson2772
    @chandranelson27722 жыл бұрын

    I really appreciate this. I’ve been telling people, including my psychiatrist and therapist, that there needs to be more than just gratitude journals and noticing the moments to be happy. That there needs to be something to teach people who have been depressed all of their lives, who are now on meds that work, to even understand what the hell happiness is and what it feels like. This actually helped a bit more. I am certainly looking forward to the next one.

  • @orphansparrow2

    @orphansparrow2

    2 жыл бұрын

  • @tinaperez7393

    @tinaperez7393

    2 жыл бұрын

    Hi - I don't know if you've already hears about this or if you've tried it, etc. But a famous 20th century psychologist (and repeated and quoted by Stephen Covey I'm his books) said - and I agree with - that happiness comes from the pursuit of a worthy and meaningful goal. Probably feeling like or actually makes me making actual progress toward to that goal as well. But something I've noticed in my life is that I, and I believe people in general, need something meaningful to them and that positively excites them to look forward to and work toward. Basically, people need something to look forward to and work toward. I did this instinctively once by deciding I wanted to train for and run a marathon in a beautiful northwoods location (making a mini vacation out of it), I actually started out with the goal of training for and doing the Hawaii Ironman - so I could combine a challenge and goal with a vacation too to a place I always wanted to visit (so started with training amd running a marathon). This was actually reactionary to a desk job I hated with no windows and too many long hours and I could've done better things than the marathon project for my health, fitness, financial and career goals, but it WAS a great experience in pure goal setting and did get me outside. But my point is that I don't know, maybe you have things to work toward and look forward to already but if not, maybe consider that idea.

  • @veronicacobb8691

    @veronicacobb8691

    2 жыл бұрын

    Great response…. Sending lots of loving and positive mojo your way!

  • @wildflowerwind6941

    @wildflowerwind6941

    Жыл бұрын

    Totally agree.

  • @katiedefrankcounseling1654
    @katiedefrankcounseling16542 жыл бұрын

    LOVE your videos, Emma! Thank you so much for your content-super helpful!

  • @anandasimpson108
    @anandasimpson108 Жыл бұрын

    I just subscribed to your channel. You are amazing! I love that you share advice backed up with exercises that your audience can do immediately. You keep it real, no shaming, always respectful and from a place of genuine concern and love. I've never been one to write in the comments but your content is definitely worth writing about. Thank you for your sharing!

  • @DezzieYT
    @DezzieYT2 жыл бұрын

    Your opening felt like you were reading my mind or peering into my life. I've been dealing with similar struggles for the past several months that really came to a head recently. It's a relief knowing I'm not alone. Thank you. I'm grateful for your videos.

  • @betho.3542
    @betho.35422 жыл бұрын

    I LOVE THIS VIDEO!!! Thank you, Emma!!!! This video put a much needed smile on my face!

  • @shix0240
    @shix02407 ай бұрын

    For the past few days I’ve been so depressed, I’m miserable. I really hope these tricks work

  • @katarzynaludwikakowalczyk-8232
    @katarzynaludwikakowalczyk-8232 Жыл бұрын

    Emma, I have discovered your channel today, and I love it! Your proffesionalism, warmth and gentle charisma make want to become a permanent listener. Thank you for the helpful tips.

  • @mmitkova1
    @mmitkova12 жыл бұрын

    I love the new focus on the positive and the good, we need more of that

  • @aleniaharris5249
    @aleniaharris52492 жыл бұрын

    Just wanted to let you know that your videos have been very helpful to me. Keep up the good work!

  • @ayadessouky8459
    @ayadessouky84592 жыл бұрын

    I can’t thank you enough for your videos. Your content is super helpful, and you have such warmth in your delivery that you bring so much comfort. Sending you love from Egypt ❤️

  • @Moongazer17
    @Moongazer172 жыл бұрын

    I love your videos! They really make me stop and reflect and I appreciate how you put your knowledge out here in such a caring and relatable way! Your energy is so calming and I love how authentic you are! Congratulations on your pregnancy!!💜

  • @andreasrylander
    @andreasrylander2 жыл бұрын

    I am grateful for ... your videos. They are small rays of sunshine in my fairly lonely life, and they are making me feel better too. Thanks!

  • @ruthforsey3940
    @ruthforsey39402 жыл бұрын

    Absolutely ❤️ all your suggestions and wish there was KZread when I was raising my beautiful children 🙏. I am most grateful for discovering you! 🌹

  • @jhanimalluvr5932
    @jhanimalluvr5932 Жыл бұрын

    Glad I found your channel. It came up on my feed and the timing couldn’t be better. I’m a struggling meth addict in an abusive marital relationship so I’ve been trying to pull myself out and away. At 66 it’s hard to face starting over but I’ve been so blessed in my life by God that I feel it’s important to bless others now. I’ve been very selfish, isolated, and miserable lately. This reminded me that everything can change with one decision and one action. And it won’t change unless I make it change. The possibilities are infinite. This will be a great exercise for me. Thank you.

  • @shonaban474
    @shonaban4742 жыл бұрын

    Dear Emma, Congratulations on your pregnancy! Thank you for sharing your wonderful news with us! I have been a fan of your videos for several years and find them extremely helpful and reassuring. I've always appreciated your sincerity. Thank you so much and warm wishes to you and all your family. Shona x

  • @ThaMobstarr
    @ThaMobstarr2 жыл бұрын

    Thank you Emma for making videos even through pregnancy! I feel super down sometimes in the morning and watching a video of yours always makes my mood go up. I really appreciate all the work you have done for us here. I am so grateful to have found your channel. You are awesome, Emma! ♥️

  • @jend3457
    @jend34572 жыл бұрын

    Thank you. There’s plenty more feeling behind this than those simple words, but I needed this ❤️❤️

  • @debbiesivertson817
    @debbiesivertson8172 жыл бұрын

    Thank you, thank you, thank you! ❤️❤️❤️ Excellent advice and user friendly! So needed this. ❤️ Love back to you!

  • @canadianhorselink2312
    @canadianhorselink23122 жыл бұрын

    Emma, could you make a video for those of us that can already focus on the positives in life, but are dealing with severe trauma, i.e. divorce, cancer, legal trouble, etc. Thank you! 🙏

  • @robertgee1468
    @robertgee14682 жыл бұрын

    Emma, thank you so much for setting this out in such a clear way, including actionable things to do. I am really in need of more happiness at present. So pleased to hear about your latest pregnancy and I wish you well. You have a lovely family and I am finding joy in my grandson these days. We have a lot of laughs with him... and he's so cheerful ( well sometimes...😉☺️). His smile lights the day...

  • @mariawilliams7264
    @mariawilliams7264 Жыл бұрын

    I love watching videos like this and for a few minutes feeling like there is hope. Deep down, I feel like some of us are born and/or raised such that we will never be truly happy, no matter what we do.

  • @yipirinya1
    @yipirinya1 Жыл бұрын

    You are amazing. I’ve worked in mental health. Your motivation to helping others is genuine and may you and your family be blessed.

  • @noonevincecarterfan
    @noonevincecarterfan Жыл бұрын

    I am grateful for the amazing people around me - family, friends, social circle. Grateful for living in this modern day and age with so many posibilities that people didn't have generations back. Grateful for being young, healthy and fit. Grateful for my career, doing exactly what I love and learning new things every day, which can benefit other people.

  • @charlottetaylor4471

    @charlottetaylor4471

    Жыл бұрын

    I don't believe you, otherwise you wouldn't be here looking at mental health/trauma videos.

  • @thressagambrell2872
    @thressagambrell28722 жыл бұрын

    You are amazing! The way you explain things is with such simplicity that I get it! I have found you in a time in my life that I was ready to give up.I felt my life had no meaning or purpose.I'm 63 and just retired.I was ready to just close up and just exist.Thank you Emma for taking time to care about others.I love you.

  • @zahrasattari8738
    @zahrasattari87382 жыл бұрын

    I loved your zipper example:) I've been struggling with immense (physical) pain recently.. After getting passed the initial shock I decided to not let the pain paralise me and through internet (and not really the healthcare system's help) found my way back to getting decent night sleep within a couple months.. this last couple weeks every morning that I woke up more or less pain free and just the reminder that I was able to have a decent night sleep gave me the biggest smile to start my day.. It IS miraculous to have hot running water available!

  • @BlewJ
    @BlewJ2 жыл бұрын

    I love your channel and kindness and training (you training us). When I'm up the people are warm and inviting, but when I'm down, even the help that gets offered I swoosh away

  • @rubyjulivre1136
    @rubyjulivre11362 жыл бұрын

    Congrats on your pregnancy! You've been my happy pills, hope you get more than what you give ❤️

  • @Anna-tz5em
    @Anna-tz5em Жыл бұрын

    Thank you for the video. When you talked about that truthful fact that to make others feel good makes you happy, it made me thing about something that a dear friends often says: What you give to others you give it to yourself, what you don't give to others you take it away from yourself. Happy life for all 🌸

  • @DR-it9fm
    @DR-it9fm Жыл бұрын

    THANK YOU! 🙏 😊 Thank you for being here Emma, as I presume many others in this community, I appreciate the content you put out and many other good things here on KZread. 🤗

  • @anner.413
    @anner.4132 жыл бұрын

    I started making an effort to listen to funny and positive music instead only to Leonard Cohen - I love Leonard Cohen and no disrespect to the genius artist - but it is actually much more fun to wake up in the morning having "Happy" in your head instead of "You want it darker" 😊 So yes, from my side I can totally understand what you are saying and for me this absolutely works. It makes me a more positive person.

  • @OurgasmComrade

    @OurgasmComrade

    2 жыл бұрын

    I'm in a similar boat but instead of happy pop songs I like more upbeat instrumental groovy stuff. My brain can be sensitive to overly happy stuff so I have to ramp it up over time haha

  • @choosetolivefree
    @choosetolivefree2 жыл бұрын

    No, the gratitude thing is quite magical. I've been intensely sad my entire life basically. About 9 months ago I started doing the writing 3 things I was grateful for. I also meditated on the idea that I would unconsciously notice things I am grateful for throughout my day. And, that whenever I find myself feeling sad or negative, to immediately start thinking of things I have to be grateful for, instead. Within 3 months of consistently doing these exercises, my life was already in the process of absolutely transforming in so many ways. It's been another 6 months since then. And I keep flying higher and higher. Happiness is 100% something you can learn, although there are other pieces to happiness, such as knowing that your soul desires something of you, you must do it. For me, for example, I spent about 3 years at 230 pounds. But I love soccer and skateboarding with all my heart, and my soul will absolutely not allow me to remain overweight. So, I'm down to 163 thus far, and very muscular, it feels great, and I'm glad my soul would not allow me to do otherwise. Yea, it's a lot of work to begin with, if you're like me and you were raised to only see the dark things, it's not easy. It's actual work. It takes persistence to change habits. But human beings are very much programmable. You can change your likes or dislikes, you can change the way you eat, the way you think, anything. Your feelings will follow your repeated actions. The gym sucks as first, when you're 230 pounds of fat. But you just keep doing it regardless of your feelings. And eventually, you begin to love it. It gets easier. You've lost fat and gained muscle. You're getting strong, and building physical endurance. Now you enjoy it. Your feelings will follow your repeated actions, simple as that. I truly feel bad for the people that don't understand that happiness is in fact as simple as choosing it. I've had conversations with actual therapists here on KZread that truly believe happiness isn't a choice, and that's scary there are people out there feeding people that lie.

  • @jillknowles5015
    @jillknowles50152 жыл бұрын

    Emma, grateful for your video and the work you do, you're a blessing. I too think my emotions have been compressed by lifes' little dilemmas, and controlling people who are condescending, selfish and deceitful. No more, I'm allowed to feel happiness. Today's my birthday 🥳 and I'm going to put your points into action to best enjoy everything around me from here on. I've been organising a street party for the Quuens Jubilee and its been fun getting together with neighbours and doing something for everyone's greater good. Much love, God bless xx 💖

  • @theorbit7027
    @theorbit7027 Жыл бұрын

    Holy crap thank you for this. I felt more hopeful after watching the first few minutes of this video. ty

  • @Julierue
    @Julierue2 жыл бұрын

    Your enthusiasm is infectious. Thank you. Needed this right now 💖

  • @dee5356
    @dee53562 жыл бұрын

    Thank you for all of your excellent videos! I really enjoyed this one a lot and found it quite helpful.Your channel is by far my favorite.Congratulations on the upcoming addition to your family!

  • @rosemaryclarke2348
    @rosemaryclarke2348 Жыл бұрын

    What lovely ideas! Cleaning something helps too e.g. cleaning a cupboard and planning to put blankets in it, cleaning up the floor and making the room better. Helping others has kept me going through all of my bad traumas, it makes me feel warm inside.

  • @madelcarmencaleromolina2891
    @madelcarmencaleromolina28912 жыл бұрын

    Thank you so much. And congratulations for your new baby. A huge hug.

  • @Lsy955
    @Lsy955 Жыл бұрын

    my gratitude journal today includes watching your videos to know that actually life's not that bad when I smile a little. thank you for your work.

  • @iirislinnea
    @iirislinnea2 жыл бұрын

    I think a lot of us need more happiness again, thank you! And congratulations on your pregnancy 🙂💙

  • @lauraparker3939
    @lauraparker39392 жыл бұрын

    I'm grateful for this channel !!!! This is making a big difference for me!!

  • @tanufernando1348
    @tanufernando13482 жыл бұрын

    Gratitude gratitude gratitude it is. The more grateful I have become the more opportunities of gratitude seem to crop up in my life. The power of positive thinking. Thank you!

  • @louern123
    @louern1232 жыл бұрын

    Watching hundreds of cancer journeys on KZread and seeing them be positive, has brought so much gratitude to my life

  • @faystoermann94
    @faystoermann942 жыл бұрын

    I just wanted to thank you for doing these videos. I find them really helpful and appreciate all you share with us. God bless you and your family!

  • @AnneJutras
    @AnneJutras2 жыл бұрын

    Thanks for your advice! I don't know what it is, but there is something different, you are radiant and your good humor contagious.

  • @chipichipichapachapa733
    @chipichipichapachapa7332 жыл бұрын

    Your videos have been really helpful to me with my depression and anxiety symtoms I want to thank you for them❤️ Also congratulations on having a baby :) ❤️

  • @yasminevine
    @yasminevine2 жыл бұрын

    Wow I really enjoyed this video! Every morning with breakfast I watch something inspirational. Its usually Elizabeth Taylor or a motivational speaker but KZread recommended this and I think its one of the best videos Ive seen! I believe gratitude is a magic wand and I love that you said to also write on what things we are doing that is good!

  • @janjackson7732
    @janjackson77322 жыл бұрын

    This was such a good bunch of reminders. Heck, I even wrote them down this time! Speaking of dishes, I still have a pile of them waiting to be done. My kids? They are all grown up and about to have their own. Did I have a clean house and folded laundry when they were little? Rarely. But they did have my full attention when they asked for it and for that I am eternally grateful. Dishes we always have. Little ones, we don't. Great channel.

  • @vilaspatel8830
    @vilaspatel88302 жыл бұрын

    I hardly ever comment but i just wanted to say each and every one of your videos goes deep with the problem then the solution. I find its so very helpful to know why we do something which you explain in all your videos and then you give the solution. I'm learning so much about myself which then allows me to live consciously, its like im switched on so i catch myself doing what i do and instead of it manifesting into something big i can now catch it in my mental net and quickly apply the solutions given by you. So thank you so much for each and every one of your videos 🙏🙏🙏

  • @susanmiller4159
    @susanmiller41592 жыл бұрын

    I always smile when I see a notification that you’ve posted a new video. It may take a day or two to watch but for me it’s like I know I’ve got something pleasant, helpful and comforting waiting for me. It’s a great feeling. Thank you for being you.

  • @jypnotic
    @jypnotic2 жыл бұрын

    "Dishes are patient" may be a quote to save my life! My boyfriend and I moved into our first apartment where we don't share a common area with other people. When we first got here, I stressed getting dishes done and started argument after argument because of my anxiety of ensuring everything was neat. Now I've come to learn that the dishes aren't going anywhere, but my relationship with my boyfriend can always grow. Those dishes aren't listening to my problems, comforting me, or doing anything that my human partner does. Thank you for giving me my new mantra when I feel let material things overcome real human connection!

  • @amypola5903
    @amypola59032 жыл бұрын

    I love what you're doing with your kids. Ill be watching this video again Im sure. In the last few weeks my car was totalled and I moved, to a place that needs a lot of work its a bit of a slum, for more than its worth, and since I did delivery, lost my job because the insurance says my rideshare endorsement was vehicle specific. There have been a ton of blessings, but still its difficult. Today is full body inflammation and a very late start to a full day. I try to repeat gratitude in prayer often as I go about things. One thing also is that I decide on what I can do, work the problem. Like the new bathroom has mold in it that I didn't notice when I came to see the place. So every time im in the shower that barely has water pressure Im going to scrub a patch of wall. Lease is only 4 months, but I can't abide mold. I already washed the walls in my room. And Im not sitting here hating how dirty this place is, I did something about it. Feeling helpless and like I just have to accept bad environments is not something I do anymore. There was a bad vibe lets say in my mission apartment, I washed the walls there too. It changes the spirit of a place. Here Ive already seen bugs, so Im spraying the screens, the windows that have them, with pinesol hoping the pine oil will deter them. Many don't like peppermint oil either. What can I do rather than just accept a bad situation helps my mood, i suppose it could be a good thing I did that day. But also preparing to get out of it is another. On another note, Helen Keller in her own biography described how deaf and blind at age 5 she put away her own laundry. She had someone with her if I recall right. Many people just want their kids to just go do things, but they either don't know how sufficiently, or its associated with something negative and they don't want to, or subconsciously have resistance to it being negative. Even though I don't have kids, I know doing the chores with kids creates a positive experience as they learn it, and that they can learn it at very young ages. Do it with them, teach them how it's done, they and you get that sense of connection, they have a positive neural connection for the rest of their lives and the thing is easy to do. Dishes? Bins with water at their height. They learn to clean off dishes after dinner themselves and load into dishwasher, or rinse and dry. Anyway, something Helen Keller, and brain science taught me.

  • @juangarcia6473
    @juangarcia6473 Жыл бұрын

    first 15 seconds and i’ve been called tf out, i’ve been overeating, getting high, and distracting myself with video games to numb out and get away from the feelings I don’t want to face, it happens every time i cycle into depression, i lose presence and stop feeling gratitude among other things

  • @carmellasidwell3809
    @carmellasidwell3809 Жыл бұрын

    Thank you so much for this !!!! You are so uplifting!

  • @denisebaldwin4841
    @denisebaldwin48412 жыл бұрын

    Thank you for being a ray of light in some very dark days for me. I feel better and your videos always stop and make me think , I’m going to try to think of good things or do a good thing each day for 14 days , hopefully I can reduce anxiety ❤️

  • @trishsousa1387
    @trishsousa13872 жыл бұрын

    Oh my goodness… you explain things in a way I can digest… and apply your techniques. So very grateful that I found you !

  • @louisehorsfall9400
    @louisehorsfall9400 Жыл бұрын

    Thank you so much. Such simple but powerful ideas! You come across with such genuine warmth. I'm so grateful that I found your channel at a time when i felt like everthing was crumbling.

  • @intigniadickey2224
    @intigniadickey22242 жыл бұрын

    I've always found joy in serving/helping others. That feeling can last for days knowing that I did something good for someone. I don't need to know the person. Just see a need and fill it.

  • @davidmenke7552
    @davidmenke75522 жыл бұрын

    OMG I looove at the 6.10 mark where you say "If you didn't know, I'm pregnant right now" and you said in the most exhausted and over it tone it made me lol!!! I dunno when this video came out, but I hope you're feeling better these days and with an extra person to the family! Love the channel :)

  • @Lunay08
    @Lunay082 жыл бұрын

    Thank you for this video. Lately ive been seeking gratefulness in everything I do and honestly, its worked wonders for me. I looove making my cup of coffee in the morning. I even like doing household chores now, which is something I absolutely dreaded in the past. I love taking walks in the park and I also noticed that while I love traveling, they dont bring me the same satisfaction that going to my local park does, and thats wonderful considering 2 months ago I wanted to escape from my life and go backpacking. I just met with my friends yesterday and I was grateful for every conversation we had, every laugh. Ive finally gotten back to loving life. This has helped me sleep better, and has helped my 8 month old back pain heal tremendously faster than before. Ive also noticed a change in my weight, as I have been stressing less in life.

  • @mohsenhaghighi9750
    @mohsenhaghighi97502 жыл бұрын

    Thank you Emma, all your videos are great ! Sometimes I watch them ten times or more and each time I find a new point in it. I’m so excited about the contents that forget to push the Like button! Sorry!

  • @raquellefloch5805
    @raquellefloch58052 жыл бұрын

    Holy Moly....she's Amazing! The world needs more people like this !!! Thank you... for all that you do !

  • @blazejbch
    @blazejbch Жыл бұрын

    For me gratitude has to be natural. I used to be a guy who never says nice little things. But I learned that I actually enjoy telling them and it brings me closer to other people. And I'm not talking anything like fake compliments. I mean learning to see the good aspects of live.

  • @sandramillar9067
    @sandramillar9067 Жыл бұрын

    Oh this is SO good!!! Thank you!!!! I’m so happy you are expecting again ❤ 🥰😀 Your videos here are so helpful ❤

  • @rrmother3748
    @rrmother3748 Жыл бұрын

    Just wanted to say THANK YOU for this video!! You're amazing!!!