How to Be a Better Friend to Yourself | Being Well Podcast

The most important relationship we have is with ourselves. You’re the only person you’ll be around every minute of every day for the rest of your life. And, unfortunately, that relationship is often our most difficult one. Today Dr. Rick and Forrest Hanson explore how we can become better friends to ourselves, and learn to like ourselves more.
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Key Topics:
0:00 Introduction
2:00 What does it mean to “like ourselves?”
5:20 Why don’t people like themselves?
11:50 Giving yourself the same breaks you give others.
14:30 Regulating impulses.
19:20 Does “liking ourselves more” make someone narcissistic?
23:30 What supported Rick in liking himself more?
29:00 Forrest’s process with liking himself.
33:00 The IFS model and the caring committee.
36:30 Our nurturing parts.
39:00 A practicing of being for yourself.
45:15 Recap.
Who Am I: I'm Forrest, the co-author of Resilient (amzn.to/3iXLerD) and host of the Being Well Podcast (apple.co/38ufGG0). I'm making videos focused on simplifying psychology, mental health, and personal growth.
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  • @charlesdaubner1017
    @charlesdaubner10177 ай бұрын

    What a beautiful father-son relationship.

  • @gilaprimak7554
    @gilaprimak75547 ай бұрын

    Another incredibly helpful episode. Rick is now on my own imaginary Caring Committee.

  • @Jim-BobWalton
    @Jim-BobWalton11 күн бұрын

    I believe that so much about our struggle to enjoy ourselves lies in the LIES of what our culture “expects” of us. If we don’t possess the traits - I won’t degrade Qualities or Character here - then it’s almost impossible to develop as a healthy human that lives, cares for, and values themselves It’s great that you’re creating material for discussion on the (and similar) themes. I remember looking for resources on self-forgiveness - a significant struggle throughout my life - and even I until last year there was NOTHING on KZread or even the broader interweb.

  • @jordanchiaruttiniREALTOR
    @jordanchiaruttiniREALTOR Жыл бұрын

    Jeeeeez. I wish Rick was my dad.

  • @angelinemariegosselin414

    @angelinemariegosselin414

    Ай бұрын

    Right?!

  • @anxen
    @anxen2 жыл бұрын

    I like almost everyone under the age of 4 which tells you everything you need to know 😂

  • @molotovrecords
    @molotovrecords25 күн бұрын

    Your dad is the rickest Rick of our dimension.

  • @MrJdsenior
    @MrJdsenior2 жыл бұрын

    Yeah, clinical depression accentuates this about a hundredfold. "You are the only one you will be with every hour of every day for the rest of your life". Thanks for that, bringing that to the fore was a big help (semi kidding). I'm not sure if my depression was the result of the problem you are discussing or the cause, but it sure turbo'd the issue when it blossomed to the point where I literally slept full time (about 23 a day) for about three months. Meds help, but they certainly do not fix the problem. Being raised by an engineer perfectionist dad that for some reason expected me to be adult capable as a fairly young child didn't help, but at least I've buried that hatchet. Apologies do wonders, especially from someone you love, and that loves you. Like everyone else alive, he screwed something up...go figure. Having a superb support structure is critical to getting through this at least to the point I have. Everyone tells me I'm likeable, I guess it's just me that doesn't see it. I wrote that before you said it, just so you know I'm not a parroting idiot.

  • @rainspiritflower2385

    @rainspiritflower2385

    Жыл бұрын

    I need a friend I have no support structure at this time what do y’all think about leaving your email here in the comments on KZread do you think that would be OK?

  • @barn_ninny
    @barn_ninny7 ай бұрын

    Comparing what I think of myself with what I would think of the same thing in another person does me little good. I hold myself to a higher standard than I hold other people to. It's how I was raised.

  • @gardeniabee
    @gardeniabee29 күн бұрын

    I particularly enjoyed the ending imaginative guidance by Rick!❤

  • @lindaelarde2692
    @lindaelarde26927 ай бұрын

    Every podcast is full of gems that I can use to enhance my experience , raise awareness of myself and others, and reframe in ways that let me try some personal upgrades with curiosity and self- compassion. Love what you do, and the father-son banter makes me smile!😊❤

  • @pvspeaks
    @pvspeaks23 күн бұрын

    Love the summary you do at the end. Plus the time stamps. Plus your relationship with your father. 💕

  • @drdevikakhanna4979
    @drdevikakhanna49799 ай бұрын

    Thank you Rick for emphasising the need for tender compassion as well as fierce 🌹🙏 Also, it’s occurred to me, when you’re both talking about news channels, that (with respect to our minds/brains), it’s not that there is more bad news; it’s that the “bad news” channels get more airtime 🌹🙏🙏

  • @pseko
    @pseko5 ай бұрын

    nice to see "The Boy, the Mole, the Fox, nd the Horse" on your shelf Forrest - lovely book!

  • @ebb8980
    @ebb898014 күн бұрын

    Beautiful. Thank you.

  • @wanderingpear
    @wanderingpear4 ай бұрын

    Thanks!

  • @judithedwards9228
    @judithedwards9228 Жыл бұрын

    Thank you, Forrest and Rick. It seems to me that this is one of the most important and useful teaching s that I have ever heard. I greatly appreciate this gift.

  • @finfoxwolfpack2542
    @finfoxwolfpack25422 жыл бұрын

    I’m so happy I found your podcast on Spotify. This was my first episode & what a treat to find so many more. Insightful, honest and such a lovely dynamic between the two of you. Thank you for sharing & for the content you make, I’ll be heading over to contribute 👍🏼

  • @dublingirl1691
    @dublingirl16912 жыл бұрын

    Really enjoyed your discussion on this topic. I recognized myself in it. Thank you!

  • @Cameron-qm6yp
    @Cameron-qm6yp23 күн бұрын

    Thank you

  • @esrasees
    @esrasees Жыл бұрын

    Thank you for this talk. I love this duo ;)

  • @through.a.barrel.she.breathes
    @through.a.barrel.she.breathes4 ай бұрын

    Another insightful amazing video xxx

  • @user-sq7zm1yr5w
    @user-sq7zm1yr5w9 ай бұрын

    Thank you for the amazing work you put out. Am really glad I discovered your channel. ❤

  • @LadyBug-bz2wo
    @LadyBug-bz2wo2 жыл бұрын

    Thank you so much for all of these amazing podcasts.

  • @niazmgh
    @niazmgh3 ай бұрын

    Very very informstive and great stuff for self development. Thank you so much.

  • @drdevikakhanna4979
    @drdevikakhanna49792 жыл бұрын

    Thanks Forrest

  • @barbaragould500
    @barbaragould50010 ай бұрын

    Ty..gamechanger..i was gonna move on to another video ..but glad I have this one a looksie😊

  • @catherinemanuele8352
    @catherinemanuele83522 жыл бұрын

    💙🌊🦭thank you both! this helps

  • @karenr5870
    @karenr58706 ай бұрын

    44:05 beautiful practice 🧘‍♀️

  • @zarasophia3714
    @zarasophia3714 Жыл бұрын

    Great podcast! I will benefit from this. thanks to both of you.

  • @eli7527
    @eli75277 ай бұрын

    20:00 great ideas

  • @capngrace84
    @capngrace84 Жыл бұрын

    Would love to dance with you some time!