How Narcissist, Borderline Overperceive YOU (and Reality) (Conference Presentation)

Video presentation in the 35th International Conference on Psychiatry and Mental Health, Osaka, October 2023.
Overperception bias:
Sexual (men)
Intimacy (histrionic)
Threats (paranoid ideation)
Slights (hypervigilance and referential ideation)
Narcissistic supply (grandiosity: when bias meets distortion)
Abandonment-Engulfment (borderline personality organization)
LITERATURE
Brady, W.J., McLoughlin, K.L., Torres, M.P. et al. Overperception of moral outrage in online social networks inflates beliefs about intergroup hostility. Nat Hum Behav (2023). doi.org/10.1038/s41562-023-01...
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  • @Savage852
    @Savage8522 ай бұрын

    Love your videos. My next intimate partner will be chosen wisely🙂

  • @michaelanedvedova9691
    @michaelanedvedova9691 Жыл бұрын

    I'am bordeline in long recovery, its a hell ish life really, my ex partner is narcissist....thank you for videos it helps a lot

  • @JJones-nr2pl
    @JJones-nr2pl Жыл бұрын

    MY "mother" was a Covert malignant psychotic narc. In her mind, she and her cult "family" were perfect and had no mental illness at all. After being repeatedly beaten up as a child by her and now as a young adult, things just just got worse. My father got killed when I was 20 years old. Mom and her "family" then really started to increase the abuse, invalidation and harassment. Any attempts by me to earn money were secretly sabotaged by her or one of her evil family.This way, I was stuck living there and used to do work like some sort of slave. Mom played the poor pitiful role well and got some neighbors as well as others she knew as narcissistic supply. Various repair or other work was done for her and being the cheap narc never wanted to pay for it. Any money or any "help" she gave me was done grudgingly; never in a loving way. I was seen by her as a loser; she had the same contempt for my father. One of her brothers got a LOT of money from his dad and became very well off financially. She was impressed by his success and was in denial about receiving a beggar's portion of money from her father. SHE had to have furs (she purchased TWO mink garments; one jacket and ANOTHER full length coat!) These furs spent most of their time hanging in a closet in their storage bags). She also coveted/desired a luxury automobile (a reliable vehicle wasn't good enough for her). She bought a large Cadillac automobile that was expensive to maintain and operate. Money was also spent buying jewelry and taking trips. When her home needed repairs, she hesitated and procrastinated. The roof on her home had repeated leaks. Only when a hurricane blew the roof completely off did it get repaired. Most of this was paid by an insurance settlement. Otherwise, the roof would not have been repaired. This sneaky, evil, manipulative, lying, thieving and narcissistic bitch went to her grave never being held accountable for all the crimes she perpetrated in her home to me and my father. At her funeral, her wealthy brother was of no consolation to me. He was angry and upset that I was in control and complained about my choice of casket remarking "I don't want my sister buried in a wooden box." The casket was more than adequate and proper. His reaction was typical of his mean, condescending and contemptuous attitude he always had of my family. Moms entire family was never of any help to my family; we were always the poor losers and were the but of everyone's jokes. GET AWAY AND STAY AWAY FROM NARCS. STAY NO CONTACT AND NEVER GO BACK AT ALL!!!!!

  • @auntkaren3803
    @auntkaren3803 Жыл бұрын

    How you perceive yourself greatly influences how you perceive others.

  • @annetgreen2295
    @annetgreen2295 Жыл бұрын

    Prof Sam Vaknin, Your informational videos are so brilliant and amazingly insightful; all packaged in a box of factual wisdom and wrapped in unique humor. Much appreciated! Your information has given me much- needed understanding. I can listen to your videos over and over and learn more every time. Many thanks from NZ :)

  • @sandragalloway3275
    @sandragalloway32759 ай бұрын

    Love your sense of humour... makes these lectures so much fun. Yet another great video

  • @KikoSolaris
    @KikoSolaris Жыл бұрын

    Never heard of over perception before, but now hearing it, it explains a lot. Thank you for sharing!

  • @michaelnoding
    @michaelnoding Жыл бұрын

    Prof Sam Vaknin, Thank you so much for sharing your riches. Exodus 3:7 The LORD said, “I have in fact seen the affliction (suffering, desolation) of My people who are in Egypt and have heard their cry because of their taskmasters (oppressors); for I know their pain and suffering. Blessing to you! Proverbs 10:22

  • @waterbabe759
    @waterbabe759 Жыл бұрын

    Thankyou Professor Vatkin. Interesting.

  • @samvaknin

    @samvaknin

    Жыл бұрын

    Vaknin.

  • @soniaprovard8259
    @soniaprovard8259 Жыл бұрын

    As always, Dr. V, you explained that difference between Cog. Bias & Cog. Distortion (the narc) so well that I had one of those “eureka A-ha!” moments. Have a lovely day😎

  • @JasonKanellis
    @JasonKanellis Жыл бұрын

    Happy birthday 🎉

  • @jeannfav2921
    @jeannfav2921 Жыл бұрын

    Your intro made me laugh! Good way to start the day (with coffee of course)!😊

  • @amyp60
    @amyp60 Жыл бұрын

    Looking forward to read Daniel Kahneman’s book “Thinking fast and Slow”

  • @cathleen_s
    @cathleen_s Жыл бұрын

    Very informative!❤

  • @sukkar5200
    @sukkar5200 Жыл бұрын

    I like your sense of humor.

  • @user-zg9dr9hf7n
    @user-zg9dr9hf7n Жыл бұрын

    Coukd you please coment recent tragedy in Belgrade. We can only suppose that parents are with narc issues but nobody destroys character as a cold mother.

  • @Julie-ns3vh
    @Julie-ns3vh Жыл бұрын

    This explains a lot! Thank you

  • @toomanymodz
    @toomanymodz Жыл бұрын

    Every time I watch these videos, I want to grab me a glass of cabernet sauvignon

  • @123321ooohyeah
    @123321ooohyeah Жыл бұрын

    I would like you to go more into decision making

  • @ernieredwood9023
    @ernieredwood9023 Жыл бұрын

    Good day sir

  • @sakshikaura2024
    @sakshikaura2024 Жыл бұрын

    Do such people also believe that other "normal" people overperceive things just like they do?

  • @lovelysosweet8386
    @lovelysosweet8386 Жыл бұрын

    I think men do this more that’s why they murder!

  • @MaxSweet1
    @MaxSweet1 Жыл бұрын

    Your hands are white white.

  • @Prashant131090

    @Prashant131090

    Жыл бұрын

    Professor's response: get your mind out of the gutter. It's 'P' for psychology not 'P' for p**n.

  • @ameemehrsinclair2684
    @ameemehrsinclair2684 Жыл бұрын

    🤣🤣Exodus