"I thought I had failed. In fact, though, I just hadn't succeeded yet." That is the wisest thing I've heard in a long time. Thanks, John.

@karlihigley1948

6 жыл бұрын

Maria Cargille +

@almsthvn

6 жыл бұрын

I had chill-bumps - and I'm way over 40 :)

@camelopardalis84

6 жыл бұрын

+Marie Cargille After "I'd tried going to things, I'd tried to make friends, and I thought I had failed. In fact, though, I just hadn't" I was so expecting his statement to continue with "tried hard enough". I'm really glad it didn't.

@afroceltduck

6 жыл бұрын

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@susumnasen4783

6 жыл бұрын

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"Towns are made out of people" is a great way to think of it. :D

@ragemaster0587

6 жыл бұрын

New york is made out of terrible apartments and cement

@crystalclare1000

6 жыл бұрын

Are paper towns made out of paper people?

@muhilan8540

6 жыл бұрын

Fancy seeing you here. Also, can you make a video about trains? Not any train specifically but like different types of vehicles on rails in cities

@CityBeautiful

6 жыл бұрын

It's on my list! I don't know when I'll get to it, though.

@czdaniel1

6 жыл бұрын

+RageMaster05 -- Yes, but the concrete _foundation the terrible apartment is built on_ contains Jimmy Hoffa. So it's _Kinda_ made of people

Guys the real answer is that you befriend an extrovert who is willing to adopt you. It’s your best chance.

@untappedinkwell

6 жыл бұрын

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@raraavis7782

6 жыл бұрын

IncipientBeauty Yep. That works. I was best friends for almost 3 with an extremely extrovert and popular girl in my late twenties. We sadly had a falling out at some point, but I have never had as much fun before or after with anyone else. Sigh.

@BbyPigeon

6 жыл бұрын

may we all rise to be that extroverted friend for someone else

@RomanZolanski123

4 жыл бұрын

IncipientBeauty amen sister

@ginge641

3 жыл бұрын

That's pretty much exactly what Miles did in Looking for Alaska.

"Old, like 40. And had kids and stuff." Hey now.

@nechma13

6 жыл бұрын

Ben Rollman john is old now

@BenRollman

6 жыл бұрын

N. J. Saroff Yup. We have club shirts.

This is a general "thank you" to all the generous people who make the first move and invite new friends over to watch TV and join Indie car fantasy leagues. I'm always too nervous to make those initial moves in a new friendship and I always feel so excited and wanted when someone thinks to invite me over 💕

@MsDogleaf

Жыл бұрын

Yes people like that are the best I try to be like that but it’s hard sometimes

@rowenq2489

Жыл бұрын

Relatable 😊

2:44 "I asked for Chris' number and he gave it to me" SO CUTE!!

@Hankblue

Жыл бұрын

Love the little proud smile he has when he says that 😄

Making friends as an introvert involves latching onto a more extraverted type and making more friends through them

@Alexis-jw7ot

6 жыл бұрын

Zoe S Or getting 'adopted' by said extroverts and having them drag you to everything

@M.M.Y.B

6 жыл бұрын

or find the little island or introverts and sort of sneak in there. Just don't talk at first, then start talking slowly, and eventually you will already be their best friend.

@milicakrunic4898

6 жыл бұрын

Zoe S I feel like I've been doing that my entire life

@fugithegreat

6 жыл бұрын

Yeah I would probably never see the light of day if it weren´t for my extraverted husband dragging me to stuff and forcing me to talk to people! haha

@breebell468

6 жыл бұрын

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"I thought I had failed. In fact, though, I just hadn't succeeded yet." My new motivational quote

@notsosmall2830

6 жыл бұрын

That is a poster-level motivational quote. Can someone get that onto the DFTBA store please?

@lizkasper

6 жыл бұрын

It reminds me of the quote attributed to Thomas Edison about how he didn't fail, he figured out a bunch of ways not to make a lightbulb. :-)

@lizkasper

6 жыл бұрын

YES!

@MattPalka

6 жыл бұрын

Truly, it takes your entire life to ultimately fail. Persistence is key. =)

It’s odd being in high school because you’re kind of “friends” with everyone, but only because they’re with you all the time. So many people call themselves friends but very few stick it out for the long run. Personally I do not believe I have many friends, even though people always say stuff like “oh my god but people are always around you and you know everyone.” But that doesn’t define friendship, it’s simply proximity. You have to get along with those around you otherwise you’d probably go crazy.

@brandon87281

6 жыл бұрын

Friends of circumstance

@aditi_05

4 жыл бұрын

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Why do you gotta make me cry every week, John???

@Alexis-jw7ot

6 жыл бұрын

I'm glad I wasn't the only one

@marieskee22

6 жыл бұрын

So sweet. Teary eyed over here, too!

@YourWorcesterGirl

6 жыл бұрын

I'm not crying, just something in both my eyes at the same time 😭😭😭😭

@susumnasen4783

6 жыл бұрын

+

@edenbru11

6 жыл бұрын

Same this video was so beautiful

I want to move out west to achieve something, and my biggest fear is not being able to meet people or make friends. Hopefully one day I’ll be able to look back and sigh, an old man with longtime friends and kids and stuff. Thanks for this discussion guys, it’s really enlightening.

@kiranspees6048

6 жыл бұрын

You can make it! Come out west; it's nice here.

@BestgirlJordanfish

6 жыл бұрын

The west is the best! I've been moving around the west coast most of my life and every city I land in is rad and magical

@waelwm4331

6 жыл бұрын

Yeah , now go make more fun of old KZread celebrities to validate your intellectual superiority

@Northbound040

6 жыл бұрын

I’m in Arizona, summers here are brutal but the rest of the year is great. Same with most out in the Southwest. It’s going to be tough to take that first step, but when you do, it will be that momentum that keeps you going. Hope you move out west someday.

@juzoli

6 жыл бұрын

Quinton Reviews You can always move back if it doesn’t work out. Any way you will be richer at least with lots of new experiences.

One way I have found to make friends as an adult is to look for people who could use a friend. It can be hard, especially if you are in a place of great enough need that it makes it difficult to look out for the wellbeing of others, but if trying to make friends with socialites hasn't worked for you then start looking on the outskirts. Who else is a wallflower at the social gathering? Who always shows up to things but leaves early after very little interaction? If you find another person who wants a friend then suddenly you're in position where you're rarely going to be rejected when you try to talk to or hang out with them. You may find that the person you meet isn't someone you want to spend a lot of time with, but more often than not, a good friendship just comes from two people who decided to like each other, regardless of what they have in common. Just a thought. :)

@kieyrahaywood8014

6 жыл бұрын

I'll have to try this. Sounds like it makes sense.

@LauraLumos

6 жыл бұрын

Kieyra Haywood It works for me. ❤️

@kieyrahaywood8014

6 жыл бұрын

I really like your channel, I love when people make stuff like what John and Hank do.

@LauraLumos

6 жыл бұрын

Kieyra Haywood Thanks! They are my biggest inspiration! I’ve been watching for more than 10 years.

@simonstanton5299

Жыл бұрын

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I really feel for what John is saying about making an effort and trying to be social, going to events by yourself despite how nervous it makes you hoping that you will connect with someone, but failing. It’s the worst feeling in the world because it’s like you’re alone in a crowded room and also because there’s no excuses anymore; you can’t blame your lack of friends on your lack of trying because you did try. It makes you feel like there’s something wrong with you. I struggled with that in college and it lead to extremely destructive thoughts and behaviors. But eventually I found my niche like John did. So just hang in there, keep putting yourself out there, remember there’s nothing wrong with you and that people do care about you more than you think.

@candycoatedcactus

6 жыл бұрын

That's very encouraging! Thank you :)

This is a classic example of the difference between the brothers and how they complement each other: one talks about how friendship is labor and what friendship is in a scientific, synthetic level, where the other on how it was for him in his life and his feelings about it, frustrations and inevitable triumphs.

This is the quality nerdy advice I subscribed for!

@AlthenaLuna

6 жыл бұрын

It IS, and it's no doubt going to be tempered by more dubious advice via the pod.

Hi John, I had a chance to speak with you a few times at VidCon US this year and you did a great job at being "friendly." While it may have helped that you had familiar people around and/or that VidCon puts you in a position of power, I'm sure it still takes an unbelievable amount of effort. I just wanted you to know that any anxiety you may have been harboring didn't show on the outside. 😊

I too often think about my deep connection with the bacteria in my body, I even have conversations with one. I named him E. Cole, what a bright fella.

@paigesilva23

6 жыл бұрын

Marc Shanahan I think you spelled E. Coli wrong

@sealofapoorval7437

6 жыл бұрын

Wow such an original name

@-Araina-

6 жыл бұрын

like J. Cole's less famous cousin

@6023barath

6 жыл бұрын

It's all fun and games until E.Cole's cousin, V.Chole shows up. I hear he dries the conversation to boredom....

@SwilyStaff

6 жыл бұрын

I cry every time I hear about E. Coli. Talking about the lac operon scarred me

Thank you for reminding me not to give up on trying to make new friends. People seem to float in and out of my life, which is normal, but I really need to get back into putting myself out there and trying to find ways to make friendships last beyond fracturing points (i.e. job changes, graduation, etc).

That was such a nice way to honor his friends.

@IrisGlowingBlue

6 жыл бұрын

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First week of university every old friend from school assured me how great I am and how much they love me and that I would for sure find new close friends. This September I will start my third year and I still haven't made more than 3 vague acquaintances. It's really difficult to form strong connections and I miss my old friends who were like my family.

@levihogan8314

6 жыл бұрын

Jam Brownies I went through my first three years of university thinking I had great friends (they were all just toxic relationships) then in my final year I made two friends who I'm still in contact with a year after graduating. Good friends are worth the wait, and like John said, you just haven't succeeded yet

@anw903

6 жыл бұрын

Jam Brownies I am also currently without deep friendships because I went abroad for a year during high school and it didn't click again when I got back. I think we just have to be patient and not lose hope.

@boredstephanie

6 жыл бұрын

Keep trying! You never know when you'll find someone you click with :) I really pushed myself to be more social and even pledged for a fraternity (despite my social anxiety) because I felt like I hadn't met enough people in university. I had some great experiences and I met my boyfriend of almost 6 years during that year.

@M.M.Y.B

6 жыл бұрын

eat with people. this gives you an excuse not to talk while you sit with them and get used to each others' presence. keep their numbers. because at least you have it. send them memes. because what else is their. shared humor is a good way to make friends and leads to more unusual situations that cement it.

@juliasutter6996

6 жыл бұрын

Mol Berry this is actually the best advice ever from personal experience. Food + strangers = much less awkward convos. And inside jokes are often what makes a friendship go beyond an acquaintance. Send all the memes!

The biggest thing I've found in making friends is to listen to them. I had such a hard time starting relationships in high school because I thought I could instantly make friends by saying or doing one interesting thing.

@autumn7809

6 жыл бұрын

I'm the opposite. I have to remind myself that it's ok to talk, and that not everything I say has to be planned out.

@fugithegreat

6 жыл бұрын

Excellent advice for any relationship!

@nomms

6 жыл бұрын

I wish I knew more folks like this. I enjoy silence sometimes. Not every lull in conversation needs to be filled with words.

@stephanie8009

6 жыл бұрын

I Agree.I love reading an sharing stuff but it also makes me seem like obnoxious. So listening and acknowledging others helps. Also, kindness is underrated. A basic 'the office has free coffee the cups are over there' or 'I can show you where that is' works. Its not deep but its a good way to start.

Teach me how to avoid awkward handshakes and make friends.

@General12th

6 жыл бұрын

Finger guns!

@CupOfJoeMedia

6 жыл бұрын

you can avoid awkward handshakes by turning it into a best grip contest. If the person on the receiving​ end doesn't get it then they're the one making it awkward.

@sourgreendolly7685

6 жыл бұрын

I make friends by finding people who have more awkward handshakes than myself. My people are the awkward people lol

@stella187

6 жыл бұрын

The same applies for hugs, most people will recognize a good hugger

@manuvillada5697

6 жыл бұрын

You just have to tank the awkwardness. It's all in your head, if everyone can do it so can you. Fake the confidence until it arrives, I promise you it will :)

John & Chris: A Star Wars Story

I've struggled similarly over the years in going to social events and developing a deep enough connection with people to make friends. It's nice to be reminded how common this is among introverts and that at least I'm not alone.

John I love and appreciate your videos, but do all of them have to be deep, relatable and cause me to re-examine my existence!? Seriously though, thank you for being you and sharing with us.

"In fact, though, I just hadn't succeeded yet." I need to remember that sometimes going to a party, or answering a question in class, or having the guts to talk to someone new, leads to success. It seems that I remember the failures much more than those successes, and I'm holding myself back.

Even John’s videos that are so minute and small, that he will forget in 5 years that he even made, mean so fucking much to me and bring tears to my eyes every damn time. I love being a nerdfighter!😭❤️

Thank you, sir. I am a late diagnosed autistic person and my particular problems seem to cluster in social areas. You remind me that it's not never, it's not yet.

We just moved up to Indy a year ago and I think I'm in a similar boat to the one you were in then - writer with a garden, not getting out much, trying to find a way to be social, living in a neighborhood of older people, just don't know anyone nearby. I just hope my life turns out even half as well as yours.

@weregretohio7728

6 жыл бұрын

Half as well, I'd settle for that. Not that I have any hopes for that left.

@aimeeaikins2990

6 жыл бұрын

I live in Indy too. Moved here in 2010 and now live on a street with mostly old people. We are the only family with a small child. This is the exact story I needed. Also, I met Chris once. I introduced myself and he was SO nice.

@EdwardVanWinkle

6 жыл бұрын

I'm on the east side and there's a library nearby that I bike to often, but I have a hard time just going up and talking to random people there... which is weird because that's kinda what I was known for back in college. lol Cities seem so much less friendly than a campus sometimes. That's cool you've met Chris - degrees of separation always fascinate me.

@aimeeaikins2990

6 жыл бұрын

I live on the west side. We go to the library near us a lot but my son LOVES elevators and the downtown library is so nice. We go there a lot too. They have a lot of free programs. I actually bought a ticket to Hank's book tour stop in Indy. Hoping to meet some local nerdfighters there.

@EdwardVanWinkle

6 жыл бұрын

Aimee Aikins I've thought about getting a ticket, but we're keeping a tight budget this month. That would be a good place to meet people though. Hmm. Something I'll have to consider. lol

I know this is not the main focus of the video, but Chris was in the peace corps? That is awesome!

@vlogbrothers

6 жыл бұрын

He was! In fact, he and Marina only met BECAUSE of the peace corps. But that's another story! -John

@milicakrunic4898

6 жыл бұрын

Okay, now that is amazing! I'm dying to hear that story

@mineola_

6 жыл бұрын

same! It sounds like a great one.

@fugithegreat

6 жыл бұрын

Now I want to know Chris´s PC story!!

@aimeeaikins2990

6 жыл бұрын

He is my friend’s boss and I got to meet him once. I introduced myself and told him I was a fan of 100 Days. I felt like a total geek but he was so nice.

I love these kind of videos. So real, so relatable. Friendships can appear in the most unexpected situations and those can also be the most beautiful and important ones. I met my dearest friend in a bookstore. We wanted the same book but there was only one left. So he suggested that I could buy it and that he could get my number so he could borrow it from me when I was done with it. This was four years ago and to this day we’re friends and I am for ever thankful for that book.

@notsosmall2830

6 жыл бұрын

He sounds great! What was the book?

@hum8la

6 жыл бұрын

He’s lovely. The book is called ”If I stay” and is written by Gayle Forman. As you can imagine it’s very special to me, but besides it being special to me, it’s also a wonderful book!

about to start my second year of college after not succeeding yet...thanks for pushing me to keep trying

As a Hoosier, knowing that somebody of your esteem is in Indianapolis fills me with hope for the future of the city. It's a wonderful thing to hear that our town has won you over, and I'm grateful to Chris for that. John, I'll see you and Hank in September

This video just makes me want to shout "friendship!" While wiping a tear from my eye. That's a lie, I don't just want to, that's what I did.

I love when the videos are more like responses to the last video, it feels more like a conversation and I think it’s awesome

@candycoatedcactus

6 жыл бұрын

Angie Wagner +

I can't wait (though I must) to be the old person with kids and stuff.

@TamarZiri

6 жыл бұрын

+

@IrisGlowingBlue

6 жыл бұрын

+

I had to show this to my mom. She's currently feeling those exact feelings you spoke of and is deeply discouraged about making new friends. "My God..." she said as she listened because she felt like she was alone (we live in Jamaica, where you go big or go home) Thanks John.

If Chris would be up for it, I'd love to know his point of view on making adult friends, particularly as a more outgoing person. As someone who ends up taking on that role to help my more socially anxious friends, it'd be great to hear his experiences.

John, this made me cry. It popped up on my feed precisely when I needed to see it. Thank you.

John, thank you so much for sharing this story...I have lived in Indianapolis my entire life, and for almost all of it I felt the way you did when you first moved here. I was homeschooled, then started a KZread channel and ended up working from home when I moved out at 19. The isolation I felt was crushing, and it felt impossible to break into everyone else’s groups they’d been forming since childhood. I tried to make friends just like you did and had become quite disillusioned with it. Finally early this year I was going to make my big move out to the west coast to pursue filmmaking (and get out of Indy), but to my dismay some things happened with my channel that cut income in half quite suddenly. No longer could I afford the west coast. I was devastated again, but then thankfully I decided to try one last time something that had failed so many times before. There was this guy who had taken my order at chick-fil-a every week for over 2 years...I was really interested in him but such an introvert I had never tried to talk to him. I got lucky one day and he wore a name tag with his full name on it. I started messaging him on Instagram. Most people would always ghost me eventually, so I had low expectations. But to my shock he actually asked me on a real date, and long story short we’ve been together 4 months now. Meeting him has opened me up to so many more friends and even business connections, and for the first time I feel at home in my hometown of Indy. Yes it’s so true, you just have to keep trying because one day you will succeed.

Great video! I am now 59 and still struggle to make friends and meet romantic partners. I take care of my elderly parents and their house in addition to my own home...It's a lovely job, but it's difficult to find time even for my few existing friends. Thanks for the kindred spirit feeling I find in your videos, especially today's.

@tomrogue13

Жыл бұрын

How's it going for you, 4 years later?

@laurak8240

Жыл бұрын

@@tomrogue13 Thank you for your concern. My father has passed away but I am still caring for my mother. Things are generally better. I have reached out to some old friends from school and have taken some time to visit them. My nephew has moved in with my mom. His wonderful sense of humor brightens a lot of days, and although he's busy, he helps me with many little tasks around her house. I am dating someone I met online. So far it's not serious, and perhaps will never be, but I do feel less isolated. The funny thing is that I feel more and more comfortable on my own, and treasure my solitude, whether backpacking or just taking an hour or so off to read in the afternoons. This past winter I made skiing a priority, and that has fired some passion for life in me that had been missing for quite a while. I hope you are doing well in your life. I glanced at your channel and enjoyed some of your music!

@tomrogue13

Жыл бұрын

@@laurak8240 I'm sorry for the loss of your father. I'm glad your nephew can help. Even if it's just with the little things. Those are often the things that are most appreciated but go unnoticed too often. I've always wanted to try skiing. It looks fun. Have you skied before or was this your first time? And thank you for the kind words about my music! I didn't expect you to check it out 😅

As someone currently living in Indy, may I say the assumption that everyone have known each other since elementary school is 100% true, but it makes me really happy you were able to still put yourself out there and find your Jenna (She is my Chris)

This has to be one of my favorite videos of yours so far. So perfectly wrapped up at the end :')

This is so sweet and now I want to go and rewatch all of 100 Days. I'm so happy that you found your people in Indianapolis, John.

I'm a weird person in that I still hang out with all of my best friends from highschool, 10 years on. Not just one or two, but around 9 or 10 of them.

@bubblegumplastic

6 жыл бұрын

Matt Roszak same here! i live in a big city so it's hard making friends, gotta hold on to the good ones :)

@raney150

6 жыл бұрын

I didn't even have 9 or 10 friends in High School lol

@corrda1993

6 жыл бұрын

Sounds like most people in Ottawa Canada

@cheina2907

6 жыл бұрын

Matt Roszak haha i still hang out with my friends from elementary!

@melissajennings996

6 жыл бұрын

My husband is the same, he has a solid group of 5-6 friends and as they all get spouses and start having kids it’s just getting bigger and bigger. Meanwhile I have one friend from high school that I’m close to 🤷🏼‍♀️ Sometimes it just works out that way.

As an adult who is almost "old" and without kids 'n stuff, I feel like I needed this. Thank you John.

@therunwaydiva89

5 жыл бұрын

I'm in that same boat too today I felt really alone surrounded by people if that makes any sense and he always knows what to say. He gives me hope about finding friends

The timing of this video is perfect! Love it!

It makes me so happy to hear your stories. It gives me hope to think there are people like you out there who really care for others and are ready to open up to new experiences

This is a lovely video that is also true to my experiences of making friends as an adult. I just kept trying until it happened somehow, and I am so grateful to the Chrisses in my life who kept inviting me to things so that now I have many friendships that are extremely precious to me.

@louloureads3953

6 жыл бұрын

Also, I know it was said in jest, but there are amazing friendships to be had with “old” people. I am 28 and one of my most beloved friends is 65, and you would not believe how much fun we have together.

@anw903

6 жыл бұрын

Hannah +

Great story! It seems like friends just show up in my life without me looking. Haha!

@alexh4935

3 жыл бұрын

I found the extrovert.

Oh God john I'd love to literally sit in a room and listen to you talk about stuff for hours You're so engaging and nice to listen to 💙

Thank you John, this is just the thing I needed to hear right now. I'm starting high school this September, and because it's so far from where I live and went to elementary school, none of my friends are going there. I'm terrified of suddenly being surrounded by people I've never met before and the new environment. I mean I've spent the last eight years with the same thirty people in my class, we've known each other since we were seven! But hearing your experience somehow helps, maybe it's just the fact that I'm not the first to go through this, nor will be the last. It's encouraging.

FINALLY the Chris/John Origin Story!!! DFTBA! I have no idea if this will be helpful nuit I’m gonna leave it here anyway because maybe somebody needs it. Once upon a time, I was a lonely chronically ill and disabled 23 year old who’d just gotten my own accessible apartment. Pretty much everyone in my building was in their 60’s or older and seemed very sad. I spent the first 6 months or so by myself because I thought I cannot possibly relate to any of these people. After a while, I got tired of that, and started getting to know people in the lobby. I made some pretty interesting friends in those years. Don’t put walls where you can put fences.

I love this story! I miss seeing Chris and John together on 100 Days!!

Okay this is without a doubt my favorite vlogbrothers video. Absolute wholesome. Didn’t know I needed this, thank you John

You gave me chills John. Thank you for sharing this, you cannot believe how much this means to me, and I'm sure many others

That's the sweetest video! In the end, friendship happens when you least expect, although it is really difficult to make friends in adulthood.

Chris from 100 days fame?

@gephc4

6 жыл бұрын

f***ing majestic

This video tugged by heart in a way I was not expecting. I nearly cried into my coffee just here that ’he knew I was lonely’ and the active role Chris took in making you a part of his life. How lucky you are to have found and furnished together 🌺

This was magic and vulnerable and just made me feel like I too can continue to make friends when I'm older. Thanks John for that great presentation of your story.

We are all your friends John!

Have you progressively gotten farther away from your book case in the back ground through the past few videos?

@vlogbrothers

6 жыл бұрын

I think I just switched lenses. But I am going to switch back because I liked the old way better! -John

Thanks John, I really needed this video. I'm a trailing not-quite-yet-a-spouse in a big city more than 20 hours from where I grew up. I've been here 6 months and still don't have any form of a social network. I've kept waiting for that 'aha' moment where it just falls into place, but your video has reminded me, even if subtlety, that if i'm not putting myself out there that moment can't come. It good to know it can feel this hard for others too- that makes it more bearable to think about going to more events where the possibility of meeting people is. And it reminds me that going to those events, in and of itself, isn't enough either- I have to be willing and proactive about engaging and being engaged by those potential friends. So thanks John, have a good one.

The more content I see you produce the more grateful I am that you are a public figure. I really enjoy your honesty and the vulnerability you choose to share!!!

“About how much I’m talking”... about 65% of the time on Dear Hank and John. (Or is it Dear John and Hank??)

Friends are an interesting concept!

You never cease to amaze me. Thank you as always for another moving vlog.

A very sweet and inspiring story! Thanks for sharing John!

Will you be my friend, John?

@adityakhanna113

6 жыл бұрын

Aren't all nerdfighters friends?

@ayushimody8382

6 жыл бұрын

Yes, yes we are :)

@UltraAssassin64

6 жыл бұрын

bwahahaha

@sanyukta2623

6 жыл бұрын

Hello friend, thanks for laughing at me.

@UltraAssassin64

6 жыл бұрын

SANYUKTA My apologies. Didn’t mean to laugh like that.

After 100 days, i wanna be friends with Chris too

This made me feel like there's hope. It may not come now but it could come when I'm not expecting it and I like it. Thank you 💕

I've been a subscriber for a few years, but this is the first time I've actually *needed* one of your videos. Good looking out, old people with kids and stuff.

29th comment? Wow. Now, on to the video for a real comment... "How did you do it?" "With great difficulty." (-Newt Scamander) Making friends as an adult isn't easy, so you should be careful with the friends you have.

Thanks John. Maybe there is hope.

Wow, I teared up near the end. Forever grateful for you, John and Hank.

I had been struggling with this since graduating and I'm finally making it to the point that John talks about in this video. So much of John's experiences in this hit home for me.

Showing this to my 2 adult sons.

Awhh John you gave me the warm fuzzies

I absolutely love this story, John! Thank you for sharing! This is giving me hope to make new friends in my area because I just recently moved!

Going through my favorite videos of all time to reconnect with my past self, and this one is especially striking a cord with me tonight. Thanks for all you've done over the years, you've inspired and guided me in ways that you'll never know, and that I wish I could tell you about face to face.

I make a lot of friends online because I rarely leave the house (working on it) and a while back I started to treat them as "real" friends and it's awesome - my latest friendship was formed on tumblr by messaging someone whose comment I liked and their response was "OMG YOU'RE NOT A PORN BOT LETS BE FRIENDS" 😂 Btw, if anyone wants to be friends say hi! I'm Margaret, disabled with big dreams, workaholic (how my friendships end oops), sarcastic and optimistic (I know, makes no sense together) and I like cats (dogs are cool too).

@AlthenaLuna

6 жыл бұрын

I laughed at not-a-porn-bot...because it's true. Of course, now I'm stuck thinking "not-a-porn-bot" is a good username. >_>

@HS-hk8mr

6 жыл бұрын

Hello! I'd be friends!

@margaret__todd

6 жыл бұрын

That' be a great username! 😄

@SWINDISA

5 жыл бұрын

I'm disabled too. Luv your username. I know my comment is belated, but feel free to message me. It's hard for me to meet like-minded disabled people irl :)

@vishalkron1259

5 жыл бұрын

Hi!Let's be friends😊

my kind of tutorial

I always appreciate your videos... But from time to time, they completely change my day. Thank you.

Great video! I really needed to hear those words of encouragement.

Good morning, Nerdfighters!

@ayushimody8382

6 жыл бұрын

Good morning!

@portentouslad5051

6 жыл бұрын

good night. :) it's almost 10PM here in Germany. Wait? where is it still morning? That's a clever user name dude!

@scoopsmcgoops

6 жыл бұрын

Portentous Lad - Haha yeah, it’s not really morning, being 4pm (I’m in Indianapolis, like John!). I was just mimicking the video. 😉

@milicakrunic4898

6 жыл бұрын

Yeah, it's night in Europe :| I like the morning so much better. 'Will there really be a Morning? Is there such a thing as Day?'

@nataliemccarthy9140

6 жыл бұрын

I hope everyone has a wonderful day/night :)

I’m crying cuz it’s sweet but also cuz I’m really lonely

@candycoatedcactus

6 жыл бұрын

thenormalstate it will turn out alright! If you're looking for people to talk to, there's usually active people on the Nerdfighteria Discord channel!

@windface7346

4 жыл бұрын

Can u accept me as ur friend....

That was beautiful John. Thank you for being so inspiring for those of us who have great difficulty with social interaction.

Perfect timing. We just moved to NC from CT. We left an amazing group of friends, so videos about how to make new ones will hopefully inspire me to shelve my introversion occasionally. 😊

I give having friends five stars.

Wow, I’ve never been this early to a Vlogbrothers video!

@haylee5461

6 жыл бұрын

Shut Up, Sprinkles! I’m early for me too!

I was having a really really bad day and this popped up, i can't be more grateful to you John ♡

Thanks so much for sharing this story, John. I moved to LA a couple years ago, and since then, my friends from college have either become distant due to a lack of physical proximity or have grown apart. Lately I’ve felt daunted and defeated by the prospect of building a new community, after a few failed attempts here already. I don’t have work to bolster my social life, and it’s really been getting me down. Its extremely comforting to see examples of people building new relationships as adults. This video makes me feel much more optimistic about trying.

Towns are made of people and not paper???!

Does anyone else ever wonder if John will eventually pull all of his hair out?

This is such an amazing video - I’m immediately sharing it with my boyfriend who just moved to NYC to be with me and knows no one else here. Thank you.

....why am I crying?... Beautifully genuine video, John. I so long for what you have.

Speaking of making friends, there's plenty of great Nerdfighter friends to be made over in Tuataria! (tuataria.com)

@ErinClements1

6 жыл бұрын

+

@JaneTheBrain.

6 жыл бұрын

friends and also tea!

@DaniellaTsang

6 жыл бұрын

+

@seanp4644

6 жыл бұрын

:electric_plug: Yes, it's wonderful 11/10

@catherine_dong

6 жыл бұрын

friends and also tea and also hugs!

John, have you seen Eighth Grade yet?

@andromedaj2894

6 жыл бұрын

Sean Bates he did! He tweeted about it

Every single one of your videos is like a story and I just cannot tell you how much awesome your existence has added to my life. So thanks.

A vlogbrothers video has never made me cry before this one. Thanks a lot John (and Hank for beautifully talking about this problem on Friday)!