The first 1,000 people to use this link will get a 1 month free trial of Skillshare: skl.sh/mrseats12211 How many of these things apply to you? Please don't think Japanese hate foreigners because of it! Japanese people are very easy going and won't fight you or anything for these things! But they might be surprised by it happening, especailly if they don't have a lot of experience around non-Japanese people!

@Gardenofstardust

2 жыл бұрын

If you like jojo, are you excited for the new episodes coming out soon?

@MrsEats

2 жыл бұрын

Yes!! But I don't have Netflix to watch it!!

@butterbruhh

2 жыл бұрын

Thanks for the one month free, looks exciting!

@bladeofdarknessfromblood4807

2 жыл бұрын

Would you use black lipstick 😁 Please 🙏🥺

@Timbone07

2 жыл бұрын

Mrs Eats looks like Mr Seats in the Patreon link

I'm an American. I used to visit Japan ever summer back in the 1990s. Once, I was on my own and got terribly lost on the train. I asked a businessman who was commuting home at the end of his day for directions. He didn't "give me directions." Rather, he interrupted his journey home and kindly showed me the way... meaning, he went out of his way to make sure I reached my destination. He actually accompanied me so I wouldn't get lost. Then, he resumed his trip home in the other direction. That blew me away. What courtesy and kindness. Says a lot about a people. I've never forgotten that.

@ilikemilfsandcougars

5 ай бұрын

We would all benefit by being more like the Japanese. I learned this when passing through. having lived in the Philippines for five years I met quite a few Japanese in transit and before that I had always heard they were stuck up racist elitist assholes- I found out through my interactions that was a completely false narrative and they turned out to be the most courteous, respectful and intelligent people I have ever had the pleasure of meeting. I never felt so honored as the time they saw my passport and immediately bowed to me. I was in the smoking room in the airport when a Japanese suit (business man?) Walked in and noticed that every available seat was taken up by someone's luggage even the one next to me which was my backpack so I removed it and he immediately bowed in respect. No one else would do that for him and it was then I realized that we, as foreigners, were the real stuck up entitled elitists. Further on in my travels the courtesy I received from other Japanese travellers was beyond compare and it changed my world view forever.

@mrnoone8852

5 ай бұрын

I am also American, I have born in America, in south America to be more precise. In Brazil. And guess what? Most of countries in America are composed of unites states. But they use to have a name. Why your united states of middle north America doesn't have a name?

@user-vb4kr7xq2i

4 ай бұрын

Ur probably white or american

@pappapappi9177

4 ай бұрын

I'm compelled to ask, did he accompany you just until the bus/train door.. or traveled with you . !!? Excuse me 😅😂

@pappapappi9177

4 ай бұрын

​@@mrnoone8852I can understand what you think.. but the former Soviet union didn't have a name, the UAE don't have a name, south Africa doesn't have a name.. Try to get over ambiguities, that's all.😅

It's funny how "rest of the world" usually just means "United States" for the japanese. It's neat because the rest of us can have a look at two weird wacky places at once.

@madhukarjonathanminj2772

2 жыл бұрын

lol so true

@mono9196

2 жыл бұрын

Apparently when Hollywood heroes try to save the world, the map of the world seems to be only the shape of America. And when Japanese think about foreigners somehow the same map above applies.

@Thincastle

2 жыл бұрын

Limrasson - So what are unwierd unwacky place do you live in?

@JackassTMP

2 жыл бұрын

@@michaelallen2971 not just white people, forgeins in general, even other asians, black/dark skinned people def have it the worst tho

@Limrasson

2 жыл бұрын

@Rachel Forshee Weirdly enough exactly that's what would want me to go there. But I'm from eastern(ish) europe so probably that's why. Still weird for a lot of reasons.

I lived in Japan for a year 30 years ago. One of the first things I did at work was to ask (repeatedly) my colleagues to tell me if I do or say something that goes against Japanese customs. It took a while, but once they realized that I was serious about it, that i wanted to fit in, that i took this serious, everything went much smoother. I can only recommend this approach.

@jack015

2 ай бұрын

良く出来ました!

@CiceroSapiens

2 ай бұрын

What are some things you learned?

@jack015

2 ай бұрын

@@CiceroSapiens a lot of things

@Jeremya74

2 ай бұрын

​@@CiceroSapiensand a few would be????

@CummiesnFarties

Ай бұрын

@@Jeremya74I worked with him. One was he need learn to fart out window and not stink up office. Whole floor smell like Hakone.

The first time I visited Japan we got a goodwill guide on the first day and he really set us on the right track for a wonderful trip. My Japanese was limited to numbers and a few very basic phrases. The goodwill guide taught me a few basic conversational phrases to start a conversation. He also told me to talk to the younger people because it gives them an opportunity to practice their English. Every Japanese person I met was kind and if they didn’t understand English they would politely wave me off. Every young person I talked with would carefully listen as I stumbled through my limited Japanese, and after listening to me attempt to speak in Japanese they opened right up. After all their English was much better than my Japanese.

I went for the first time to Japan before this coronavirus thing started. I am not a fan of big cities so i went down south of Osaka in the Wakayama-shi prefecture for its architecture and access to the beach. Long story short i got lost trying to find a toy store. I asked a few girls i saw in the bus for directions to head back to the train station and then later on i heard them running behind me towards me. They were worried that i won't find the way back so they walked with me half way there. I then came to an intersection and got a bit worried if i understood which way was right so i asked the only grandma i saw on the street in front of her house for directions. My japanese is not great but i made sure to learn the most politest forms when addressing people. This grandma smiled at me while i was making train sounds (chu chuuu) in hopes she understands me. She started walking with me with the same smile on her face for about 10 to 15 minutes until we got the train station. I was about to pay for the ticket but the train was already there so the grandma told the ticket booth guy something and both of them smiled at me and politely told me to hurry up and get in the train. I didn't forget to respectfully bow to both of them and thank them. That memory will forever stay with me and it is my reason to visit Japan at least once every few years. The kindness of people goes along way.

@isthatajojoreference6248

2 жыл бұрын

That's such a nice story

@Ranteray

2 жыл бұрын

this is really lovely.. makes me think about my experiences in Ireland, where people are really kind too..

@recodegamesstudio

2 жыл бұрын

I had a similar story when visiting New York. I asked some young folk how to get to the nearest subway, and they surprisingly kindly showed me and walked with me, even showing me the quicker shortcut through nearby alleys and junctions. Then they sucker punched me and took all my belongings. When I regained consciousness I asked an old lady, the first person I saw, to call help as my phone had been taken. She went to pull her phone out the bag, or so I thought, instead it was pepper spray and she maced the hell out of me.

@Ranteray

2 жыл бұрын

@@recodegamesstudio is this true?

@kawaiiqueee3489

2 жыл бұрын

ok that's very adorable

Crazy, as an American I'm considered quiet, I couldn't imagine going to Japan and suddenly being considered too friendly.

@Talhn

2 жыл бұрын

To be honest- if I were in Japan I'd probably be next to mute just because I do not speak much Japanese and would not expect them to speak much, if any, English. I would be nervous and self-conscious trying to speak poor Japanese lol. I will do as much as possible without talking

@marvinhoffmann4288

2 жыл бұрын

you wont be considered friendly

@giin97

2 жыл бұрын

@@marvinhoffmann4288 friendly as in *open, affectionate, and personal,* not as in *kind and well-mannered.*

@kristiansundsfjord4095

2 жыл бұрын

hm, as an European I've never heard someone calling americans quiet. Do you mean you're quiet compared to your American counterparts?

@sebastiancalvey1226

2 жыл бұрын

@@kristiansundsfjord4095 You Need to Meet more People from the US then

I was in osaka and at the bars and people were chatting me up and even in small areas in tokyo. I was surprised on how so many japanese people talked to me while I was there, I loved it. We even used google translate at one bar and we still had a great time communicating! I will be back there this month, I cant wait!

@nikoolay

8 ай бұрын

how much did it cost you?

@Attackplaya

7 ай бұрын

@@nikoolay 2 weeks make sure u have at least 3k$

@SuperJuvent

5 ай бұрын

Wow fantastic story !

@ronin-gt

5 ай бұрын

Well.. how was it this time? Same nice experience? In also planing to ho 😁

@drudle

6 күн бұрын

​@@Attackplaya This very much varies. I spent maybe 2.5K with both airbnb and flight of $1,300 included and I was there for a month. $3K for 2 weeks seems .. a bit much, lol.

Thank you so much for making this video! This information is great, I have been watching many other videos on etiquette and rules in Japan and have not heard about any of this!

I have opposite experience in Japan where elders were the ones often initiate small talk regardless where I was (big city or countryside) or what I did. Their constant curiosity and kindness always made my day!

@ignacia3628

2 жыл бұрын

One of my friends had the same experience! And she didn't even speak fluent Japanese, but people went as far as using their phone translators to try talk to her 🥺 even little kids would ask her questions

@RalphinaLy

2 жыл бұрын

@@ignacia3628 Positive curiosity can go a long way!

@rons3634

2 жыл бұрын

I had the same experience as well. I found that some of the older folks were more likely to initiate a conversation than a younger person.

@RalphinaLy

2 жыл бұрын

I'm very happy to hear that there are shared positive experiences in the face of diversity!

@webmailtje

2 жыл бұрын

Same experience, no matter where I went (country side) old or young generation, Japanese are interested in a conversation. You just need to learn few Japanese words, and then they feel comfortable to speak English. Also they suggested to do something together afterwards.

It’s funny as a foreigner that has been living in Japan for about a decade, I find that on the trains in Tokyo, many young Japanese people wear strong perfume and cologne. I wear scent less deodorant and as an American, I’m surprised at how strong their scent is lol. Also when I wear my Pokémon tie to work and I go out for lunch, I often get comments from the Japanese cashier or waitress. They’ll say things like “your tie is very cute.” So maybe things are changing in Japan or maybe Japanese people know that they can act differently when interacting with foreigners.

@Altrantis

2 жыл бұрын

It is possible that, if you look like an obvious foreigner, they figure "If I talk to this person they won't mind because they're foreigners and foreigners talk to strangers."

@mikeingyu580

2 жыл бұрын

A lot of these recent "we're not xenophobic buttttt" videos are made by people KZreadrs who are a little out of touch. This is the 3rd one to cross my recommend for some reason. Most of these are just strange. Most of the younger people don't care if you're a foreigner. The people that are the hardest to deal with are the older crowd but if you speak Japanese to them, most of them will become your best friend. I don't know where these points are coming from. Maybe rural areas?

@HideMyStuffPls

2 жыл бұрын

@@mikeingyu580 It's a shame that Japan is very much xenophobic whether they admit it or not. Most people if not all people I know in America including myself love the idea of visiting Japan or just meeting and befriending Japanese people in general, but literally every single video of a Japanese person trying to explain why they treat foreigners so cold translates to "they don't look, sound, smell or act like us so I want nothing to do with them". Even a lot of the rules they enforce on themselves essentially scream "I hate diversity". Even if you happen to speak fluent Japanese most people you speak with show body language like they're extremely uncomfortable talking to you and can't wait to get away.

@hogatiwash7750

2 жыл бұрын

@@HideMyStuffPls diversity is not really a big thing amongst Asians.

@mikeingyu580

2 жыл бұрын

@@HideMyStuffPls The craziest part about these claims is that it IS xenophobic. I am a happa (half Japanese) and my name is very much Japanese. I was almost worse off for it. Japan is a great place to visit but a terrible place to live if you are not Japanese. It's getting easier but it's lacking a lot. In my opinion, Korea is a lot more friendly towards foreigners and are more open than Japanese about having foreigners visit and even live there. There's some roadblocks (old people = still xenophobic) but you can easily open bank accounts and rent if you want. Plus the cost of living is cheaper than the insane prices of living in a large city in Japan. And on a real note, You can learn Hangul (Korean writing system) in a day.

This is amazing! I have learned a lot and laughed so much!

Thank you for sharing these insights!! Much appreciated

America is interesting regarding smells because there's definitely STRONG feelings around them, but rather than wanting to not smell at all, Americans want to smell GOOD. Body odors are offensive, so products are made to provide strong, pleasing scents instead. Scents communicate femininity or masculinity, even wealth at times. Interesting cultural differences.

@chelseaoocandy

2 жыл бұрын

Those products should be used to enhance your nice smell, not mask it. Good hygiene is most important.

@orti1283

2 жыл бұрын

I so much prefer that to the european approach. OMFG I had to hold my breath when I had to dance with this french girl at salsa class, also in a hostel in japan there was a somewhere-in-europe guy (german or french maybe) in our room who smelled like hell too, thank god we had planned to go to the beach for the very same period he stayed. I'm so glad in my country most people take a shower and use deo every day

@shorthopdoublelasers4168

2 жыл бұрын

Idk. I'd much rather smell nothing than smell artifical crap that smells "good".

@WrenBird449

2 жыл бұрын

@@chelseaoocandy Of course! I just think this is the reason behind strongly scented shampoos and soaps. Good smells carry the connotation of good hygeine, even if that's not the case. I'm not sure why that's the case, culturally.

@WrenBird449

2 жыл бұрын

@@shorthopdoublelasers4168 A lot of people would agree with you. I've heard many complaints from Americans who are sensitive to strong smells and get headaches from them, so they avoid malls or other places with strong perfumes. It's such an interesting phenomenon!

Yes when I was in Osaka I was on the train and my ticket was all in Japanese. A man next to me saw me trying to figure out where to get off he spoke great English and helped me out. He translated my ticket and showed me my next train. Amazingly great guy.

@awfan221

2 жыл бұрын

They may be nicer than Canadians and Scandinavians on average.

@armando19

Жыл бұрын

Something similar happened to me, the man even got off with me and showed me where the connecting train terminal was. It wasn't even his stop but he still got off to show me.

@mygenshinrecording9623

Жыл бұрын

That person could be a foreigner who lives in Japan tbh

@myname-mz3lo

Жыл бұрын

in most countries that is normal hospitality in japan it is a one in a million

@desireer6915

Жыл бұрын

Aww!! Thats so nice! Im glad he helped you out! 😄

This video is helpful information. Thank you for this lesson.

Such a refreshing video. Living in Australia its nice to have this choice to have these manners with out the stress of doing something overly wrong

If only "perfume harassment" was a thing in my country. I have a few coworkers who smell like they took a bath in perfume.

@PrimoStracciatella

2 жыл бұрын

Just say to the offending person: "Nice perfume. Must you marinate in it?" Maybe they get the hint.

@boogaloo2.017

2 жыл бұрын

Even in the US, people who use really strong perfume can be seen as a douches or are trying to hide the fact that they didn't shower

@AlexanderGieg

2 жыл бұрын

You could tell them. I was the offending part in this myself, but I didn't know it. A work colleague and a friend both told me my deodorant wearing was too strong, which surprised me. I later discovered my sense of smell is weaker than that of most people, so what for me was a weak scent, for others was strong. Hadn't they told me, I wouldn't have known this. My solution then was simple, I switched to a no-fragrance deodorant and have used that one since them, which was a pure win-win: I keep sweat-free, and no one smells anything.

@dg-hughes

2 жыл бұрын

I grew up in the 70s/80s and perfume/cologne was a thing most people wore it OK but older ladies wore more probably couldn't smell as well so were not aware. But even into the mid 1990s there was a big CK Be/CK One cologne trend. I don't mind it if it's done well, but in the US and Canada as with coffee most people go overboard. Perfume can be a good thing even recall my first grade teacher if I smell that perfume. Scent is a powerful thing for memories good or bad.

@SemperOcultus

2 жыл бұрын

Trust me it's better than having no perfume at all. My colleague smells like a fucking hobo

"It's actually easier to move away from someone that's making you uncomfortable than it is to tell them directly." I felt that in my soul.

@jC-kc4si

Жыл бұрын

Sounds like dating. When no response means you have been dumped.

@STANKONIA24

Жыл бұрын

Coward

@gustavo320

Жыл бұрын

That's sad

@Very-ImportantPerson

Жыл бұрын

@@gustavo320 No it's why Japan is better than most countries by a mile. Avoiding conflict as there's never any good that comes off of it.

@gustavo320

Жыл бұрын

@@Very-ImportantPerson your perspective. I'd rather go to a happy place

Wow wonderful video! Thank you for the advice!

What an incredible video! I enjoyed the editing, humor, your perspective of being Japanese and going to a more western country. It was also very interesting for someone who likes Japan and is interested in the differences to more western countries

I've lived in Japan over 20 years. When I decided to grow a beard, I first asked my boss if it was okay with them, and told them that if it looked bad, they could tell me and I would shave, but my boss just laughed said her father had had a long beard, so she had no problem with beards. In fact, after I grew my beard, I had a lot of compliments from Japanese people, many of whom said I looked better with a beard.

@sqgysqgy7551

Жыл бұрын

😂😂😂 bro they were yanking your chain. More beard less face

@rufiredup90

Жыл бұрын

I think it’s cuz you’re white? Are you white though?

@Omizuke

Жыл бұрын

I wonder this myself. If its a specific type of beard, like been unkempt, that is the problem. Cause passing by Japan, I had something between short boxed beard and a 5 o' clock shadow. And got complemented. Even hit on, and one of the things considered an attractive quality was my beard. When in reality I simply didn't have razors, my small trimmer, I leave the battery inside and it blew up traveling. So only had the bigger one that can't give me the fully smooth shave, and those dots annoy me more. So kept a groomed beard. But, then again, been a foreigner probably just make me looked "exotic" to them. Which that alone could change someones perception. After all, I only remember 2 other persons with facial hair. A middle age men with a stubble beard, and petite goatee, similar to the one the guy in the video stocked to his face... Now I'm wondering if it was fake as well. XD

@gokuvegeta7770

Жыл бұрын

@@rufiredup90 i know people of all races that have long beards 🙄

@TheMrmango69

Жыл бұрын

@@gokuvegeta7770 he meant Japanese hold white people in higher esteem than darkies of other races, its just facts

These rules are very interesting! Here in Italy, for example, colognes/perfumes play a huge role in shaping a person's sex appeal. Wearing perfume is synonym of elegance, attractiveness.

@danielbroome5690

2 жыл бұрын

Which is funny because a lot of North Americans/parts of Europe consider excessive cologne to be tacky and low-class.

@MichelleVisageOnlyFans

2 жыл бұрын

I agree. It is also recommended for uplifting your mood. They say to use a little perfume or cologne before you go out to feel better about yourself, to get a better self-esteem. Using a personal scent is considered an expression of self-love and self-care. It's a mood enhancer.

@liiliies_

2 жыл бұрын

@@danielbroome5690 They said wearing perfume, not taking a bath in perfume. I'm Italian and I can say we like 1 puff of perfume, too much and you'll just annoy everyone. Excess are always a bad thing.

@soulhazegaming

2 жыл бұрын

@@danielbroome5690 note how you wrote 'excessive' and also how she didn't mention 'excessive'.. don't compare frogs and rocks please

@JudgeJeana

2 жыл бұрын

True, but in Italy they do that, like almost everything, with style and class, so the amount of perfume is appropriate.

Thankyou, very informative. Fun and friendly presentation :)

Thank you, Mrs. Eats! Love your videos!

About shopkeepers talking to strangers, there are exceptions. I bought a suzuri (ink stone) and some other calligraphy material in Kyoto, and the shop owner, an adorable old lady, was so surprised she asked me where I am from and what I was doing (she then confessed she thought I might have been a foreign Buddhist monk visiting some local monastery, as I do have le physique du role 😀), but then we went on talking for about half an hour, and she sort of told me all about her family and her life! Of course, fluent Japanese, with also some grasp of the Kandai dialect, is a must to unlock this kind of experience.

@Jordan-inJapan

2 жыл бұрын

Nice! 😆 I’ve had similar experiences with older people, especially if they are the owner of the establishment. I think the ‘no chitchat’ rule is mostly true for chain places though - staff have a manual with specific rules about how to talk to customers. (One exception to this is Starbucks. They actually chat with customers, from my experience.)

@chelseaoocandy

2 жыл бұрын

I've noticed the further from Tokyo the friendlier. Or at least they are pretty friendly in Kyoto and Osaka.

@Jordan-inJapan

2 жыл бұрын

@@chelseaoocandy Have you spent any time In Shizuoka? In my experience that was one of the friendliest places in Japan, at least as far as complete strangers talking to you.

@chelseaoocandy

2 жыл бұрын

@@Jordan-inJapan I haven't, sounds wonderful! I'll be sure to

@krissydiggs

2 жыл бұрын

The combini near my work all of the employees make small talk. Sometimes they give me gifts even! They’re the nicest people. I wonder though if it’s because I don’t live in Tokyo. I think Kanto people are generally less warm towards strangers.

the first time I visited Japan, I expected everyone to be kind, but I also understood that they may not be super talkative to a foreigner. I was very surprised when I had a ton of people asking me where I was from, and trying to talk to me all the time. When I told people I was from Texas, my most common response was, "oh, danger!". Everyone was very kind and my first meal in Japan was payed for by a man who saw me struggling with a japanese menu and helped me order. They are especially talkative when you join them for drinks. So much fun!

@mariap.894

10 ай бұрын

Thank you for sharing your experiences. We'd love to visit Japan but we are afraid of offend while we visit😊❤

@KetchupSuicide

9 ай бұрын

That's the same experience I've had.

@hollum1648

8 ай бұрын

“Oh, danger” is a perfect representation of Texas 😂 (speaking as a born and raised Texan)

@aarizmushtaq4301

7 ай бұрын

Hmm may I ask which part of Japan did you visit?

@MassRez1

7 ай бұрын

@@aarizmushtaq4301 I visited Tokyo, Kyoto, Osaka, Kobe, Nara, and Hakone. Talked mostly with people in Tokyo, Kyoto, and Osaka. Actually made a few friends in Osaka and Tokyo that I still talk to and meet up with when I’m in town.

Great video. As a Canadian I feel your pain with overly scented/smelly people and places in the western world. Schools and many work places have a no perfume rule, but some people don't follow the rules. In fact, many people break rules in the west bc they don't really care how others are affected. Japan culture sounds lovely

Thank you so much! This was fantastic

“We are not racist! We are merely disgusted by foreigners in a passive-agressive way! Except if they are Chinese. We are pretty open about being disgusted by them.”

@williamrice6770

Жыл бұрын

HAHA I don't blame you really the world is a vulgar place, and as an American I vouch for us being the worst, I will be more mindful about my scent from now on it was an enlightening video.

@boxing388

Жыл бұрын

@@williamrice6770 speak for yourself. I’m American, and I am Gods favorite son. The bees knees. And my body odor is subtle and alluring.

@SHEAFYD

Жыл бұрын

KZread open

@DHGxMcFlurry

Жыл бұрын

@@williamrice6770 We're not the worst

@Wbliss

Жыл бұрын

Really, for yr info, the Chinese are also bluntly disgusted by the attitude of some foreigners esp., if they are Japanese & we won’t hesitate to tell them off.!, bro.

During my visit to Japan a few years ago I was abiding to all these rules, and it was ok. I was able to not annoy anyone (at least to my perception) until I went to a music venue to listen one of my favorite composers of all time... and the show organizer (a japanese dude around his 30s) received me with hugs and cheers. He broke every single of these rules, invited me beer, talked to me about random things, laughed and introduced me to his friends... it was... surreal. I think the shock was so big that I kinda got glassy eyes. That interaction was so unexpected and "out of place" that it became the highlight of my visit there. Hope one day I can go back...

@jjryan1352

2 жыл бұрын

These "rules" seem to be subjective. I've met plenty of extroverted Japanese who care nothing about such rules. As the lyric goes "rules are alright, if there's someone left to play the game."

@BancigodD9

2 жыл бұрын

Haha, I encountered a couple of men with free hugs sign at Shibuya. They were enjoying themselves, but when I approached for a free hug, they jumped back all scared. Lucky my friends told them that I was with them and that I'm familiar with environments where free hugs are offered (like cons). The men relaxed. I got my hug and they got this story of that foreigner they met that's even weird than themselves.

@iloveme4life

2 жыл бұрын

@@jjryan1352 Ive never heard that before and I love it!

@robertsantiago953

2 жыл бұрын

The show organizer told everyone that he's a big shot who even hired a foreing celebrity for that day . It costed him only a beer LOL

@187btokes

2 жыл бұрын

Wait till you realize that in Shibuya and Shinjuku all those dudes standing around especially in Kabukicho, are usually selling and carrying Methamphetamine, needles, cocaine, and marijuana. Also LSD and MDMA is super easy to get in Japan. Actually getting hard drugs in Japan is easier than it is in America. You literally can find thousands of dealers in Twitter if you search for the slang terms in Japanese. Its the most hilarious shit even

Informative, entertaining and pleasantly funny!

Fascinating, thank you for sharing.

My grand mother is Colombian and she lived in the us for a few months while studying. She met a Japanese girl named Yuka. When she learned her name, my grand mother told her that in Colombia there is a vegetable called yuca (which is pronounced the same). They were friends for weeks and then one day they were passing through a market, my grand mother saw some yucas and showed them to her. Yucas look like a big ugly brown carrot or potato. My grand mother meant no harm but the girl was so offended that she compared her name to the ugly vegetable that she never talked to her again. 😭😭😭too different cultures

@givepeaceachance940

Жыл бұрын

That’s the saddest story I have ever heard omg

@JayPrinceReacts

Жыл бұрын

That’s not 2 different cultures, that’s a sad woman that needs to get a Grip

@tonyfrancisco370

Жыл бұрын

Sounds funny to me

@gustavo320

Жыл бұрын

Your grandmother should be happy to end relations with someone so stupid

@latinlil

Жыл бұрын

Some Japanese people are so delicate and yuca is yumiii no ugly 😅

as an italian most of these things are perfectly understandable (especially the smells, god i hate those super strong perfumes), except for the eye contact one, here people teach kids it's very important when talking to others to look them in the eyes since it's seen as a way to show respect and if people look away or keep their gaze low it probably means they're feeling uncomfortable and would rather not talk to you.

@giin97

2 жыл бұрын

@@Sandstimes the majority of communication is nonverbal, built upon centuries of development, much like verbal communication. A radical switch in nonverbal communication is the same as expecting a country to completely change its spoken language in that same span of time. It is unfortunate to have a disability hinder your ability to act according to societal norms, but unfortunately the most one can reasonably expect are accommodations and understanding. We haven't renovated all buildings to have entrances level with the ground, we've added handicapped ramps. Likewise, it's unlikely and unreasonable to expect people to change their nonverbal language to accommodate the few people they encounter per year that can't communicate that way, but awareness and understanding can be promoted so that we can properly accommodate you. That said, try not to stress so much about it. Sure, people will recognize it as unusual behavior, but as long as you aren't outright ignoring someone they'll dismiss it as a personality quirk at the most. Demanding Karens are a once in a lifetime encounter, so you'll likely never meet someone who has a Reddit-level freak out on you. Just be you 😊

@cooleyzz

2 жыл бұрын

@@Sandstimes I had issues from anxiety but thankfully practiced and got pretty good at it. If you are upfront about your situation most people are more than understanding!

@giin97

2 жыл бұрын

@@Sandstimes fair enough 😊

@sarahgummybears3135

2 жыл бұрын

@@Sandstimes i don't know you, but you seem a very sweet and genuine person, so here's a *virtual hug* for you and i wish you a pleasant day ☺️

@MrHitomiplum

2 жыл бұрын

@@giin97 I'm sorry not to engage with the substance of your post (I did read it all!), but I'd like to correct one thing: autism is not a disability. In fact this incredible program you're using was made by many people with autism and it is in my opinion one of our very best creations...and so complex that to me it may as well be magic.

Such a cute vid and also great advice. Thank you!

I'm an Australian and you made me laugh all the way till the end.

Reading the comments made me realize how nice people are in Osaka. I remember being lost in Osaka and this nice older gentleman stopped to help me. He was so nice and said “I know a little English, I can help you. You look lost” as a Mexican it scared me at first. (In Mexico people that approach you usually want money or to scam) But when I realized he was going out of his way to help a random stranger, it completely warmed my heart ❤️ Thank you 🙏🏻 stranger 🥰you were a blessing ☺️

@novanettle7497

Жыл бұрын

For me it was Hiroshima. I was walking alone down the street looking for a place to eat, but every sign was in Japanese and I felt shy. All of a sudden a middle aged couple stopped me in the street asking me where I was from and if I wanted to come eat sushi with them (they knew the chef). At first I was a little nervous, but they often spoke to and guided foreigners around. They had themself lived abroad for many years and enjoyed speaking to foreigners. They were so friendly towards me and sooo hospitable! They showed me around Hiroshima and I will treasure those memories and their friendliness for the rest of my life ✨

@konstantinosaka

Жыл бұрын

Osaka is beeing known by beeing free talk people on the streets. If they see you are having problem, as a foreigner, before you come to them they will come to you first and ask where you want to go or such questions. And ,as long, as you good enough, they will stick to you and help!)))

@MrGyngve

Жыл бұрын

Y si algun dia Usted va a visitar Escandinavia (de donde soy yo), es lo mismo situacion aqui. Si alguien quiere ayudarle, seguramente es que les encantan ayudar

@kirakishoushirobara2898

Жыл бұрын

Ok thank you for spreading bad stereotypes about your own people. Not all foreigners are so marvelous and not all people in your own country are bad.

@lapinchechismosa

Жыл бұрын

WOWWWW Mexico is full of hospitality, it may have been your attitude

This explains a LOT about how the two Japanese classmates I had in college acted. Never making eye contact, the terrified expressions when I'd say "what's up bro" in the mornings 😂. And all this time I thought it was the general fear a lot of people have around a big black dude (I'm 6'4" 245lbs)

@HighwayPancakes

2 жыл бұрын

Big boy gang 💪

@jonathanhendrix2925

2 жыл бұрын

Asians are intimidated by black people alot bro

@levihague1483

2 жыл бұрын

S T R O N K

@jasonallen28227

2 жыл бұрын

That's all in your head bro...

@kngston20

2 жыл бұрын

oh they likely fear you too, don't be fooled. Likely call you Bob Sappu when you are not around.

I’ve been around the world, but never to Japan. I really would love to spend a year there. A quiet year immersed in the culture. Work all day, every day on a graphic novel. I’ve always been so impressed and inspired by Japanese, culture.

Very informative...thank you.

Here in Germany we don't talk to total strangers without a reason. Small talk is very unusual here and if you don't have anything to say important or interesting to each other, you usually don't say anything. and our direct way of speaking is considered rude by many other cultures.

@GUITARTIME2024

7 ай бұрын

As an American in NL and Northern Belgium, it was generally easy to start random conversations because the English is pretty good. (even though my 2nd language is Dutch). Lol. They just have to warm up a bit.

@tommyzeus2802

7 ай бұрын

Gen Z cannot communicate effectively and lack social skills anyway.

@feelingveryattackedrn5750

6 ай бұрын

@@GUITARTIME2024yeah being in belgium and denmark alcohol really helps things along haha. Though I was also with a fairly young cohort both times, and younger generations tend to be in general more open with each other foreign or otherwise

@Yammy560

4 ай бұрын

Bro what!? I live in Austria and people talk to themselves and are offended most of the time if you don't say Hi or make eye contact 🥲💀 but the last part is kinda true even after 10+ years living here 😂

@ingenium5831

4 ай бұрын

​@Yammy560 I think that within the germanic culture, Austrians are on the more talkative end than e.g. people from the north sea or saxony. Not a huge difference, but noticeable, imo.

I've only been to Japan once in my life. It was when I was in the service and I was on leave. A Japanese man just came up to me to ask for something and started chatting with me. Before the evening was done he took me on a walking tour of Yokota, by night, and introduced me to some of the nightlife. It was delightful and that was 55 years ago, but I still remember it fondly. We had octopus from a food cart, and had drinks in several different clubs. Granted, I paid for it, but I was just delighted with how outgoing and friendly this man was. Okay, he was a little drunk when I first met him, but before the evening was over, so was I. He must have been the an unusual example of a Japanese man to be so outgoing. All in all it's one of my better life memories.

@themrbob737

7 ай бұрын

That's awesome

@witchhazel4135

6 ай бұрын

Sounds like that Japanese guy was running a good hustle.😄 Glad you both enjoyed it though.

@cherihoffer1129

5 ай бұрын

What a wonderful memory. I was in Japan for the three months of spring this year, 2023 and my guess is that this fellow was hungry to break out of his rule bound upbringing and that you were just as refreshing a change for him as he was for you, different from most of Japanese society. A perfect union to cherish. In case you have any inclination to revisit, fairs are cheap to Japan right now and currently the US dollar is very strong against the yen.

@geraldtrudeau3223

5 ай бұрын

@@cherihoffer1129Thank you for that reply. It's always gratifying to know that somebody is actually reading the things that I post. I'm 77 years old now, and these videos on KZread trigger a lot of memories. Mostly good ones like this, and I like to share them in the hopes that somebody might enjoy hearing them, even if they are just personal memories.

@Nesssaa.07

4 ай бұрын

stories like these are so heartwarming, so many stories in the world

I really enjoyed this video. Japan is on my travel wish list and I love learning about local culture

This was informative and amusing.❤️🇯🇵🇬🇧

i had a japanese friend who told me about the scent thing in japan before i went there for a time, and as someone who really hates strong smells, i was very delighted about this. however, it is a little bit different in reality, a lot of times when taking the train esp during rush hour, workers in suits would have this distinct smell: ALCOHOL STENCH.

@Ridnarhtim

2 жыл бұрын

And tobacco, and oftentimes sweat. Crowded Tokyo metro was often an amalgamation of disgusting scents.

@shaggyrogers9028

2 жыл бұрын

I hate strong perfume, literally get headaches from it, there's a certain perfume scented like a flower whose name I don't remember that instantly gives me headaches and makes me wanana throw up. I'm not even exaggerating.

@g.i.brandon7560

2 жыл бұрын

@@shaggyrogers9028 Same, it drives me crazy when someone near me is wearing certain kinds of scents. It makes me feel like their is heavy smoke in the air clogging my nostrils.

@localextremist2839

2 жыл бұрын

@@shaggyrogers9028 Especially If it's in a car like bruh wtf

@eufrosniad994

2 жыл бұрын

Japanese preferred scent is BO from the LOCAL line 😉

No eye contact? 😂 Please tell that to all the people who stare at foreigners on the train and bus.

@dearthofdoohickeys4703

2 жыл бұрын

To be fair that’s different from _direct_ eye contact.

@joshuageckles802

2 жыл бұрын

I was thinking the same thing! During my first trip to Japan, there was a gentleman on a train staring at me for the entire ride. I would look over and find him staring, look away and mind my business, only to look back and find him still staring. I was wondering what I had done to offend him. lol

@Pepe-ri2wu

Жыл бұрын

@@dearthofdoohickeys4703 thing is, they do stare directly into your eyes, sometimes even with a mean look when you catch them staring 😭

@chasechiamulera7704

Жыл бұрын

@@joshuageckles802 you gotta have a staring contest at that point bro

@natasanj6472

Жыл бұрын

Stare back at them until they look away lol

Great video!! Thanks for the info!!! 😂

Thank you for this hilarious and informative video! 😂

I definitely find people in Osaka to be more approachable and more likely to initiate a conversation (older people in rural areas seem to be like this as well). My favourite encounter was an older gentleman outside Osaka Castle who told me he rides his bike there every day to meet and talk to people. His children all live overseas and his dream is to visit them someday, so he liked to practice English with foreigners (and he was obliging in helping me practice my Japanese).

@mkross9214

2 жыл бұрын

i agree! me and my wife went to Osaka too. the old lady tending a tiny food shop was so sociable! she was the one initiating a convo. i really felt at home.

@rymc3437

2 жыл бұрын

People from Osaka are way more friendly compared to Tokyo and others city. It’s well-known

@itsDjjayy

2 жыл бұрын

@@rymc3437 shoot how's the dating

@eulalawrence1222

2 жыл бұрын

@@itsDjjayy I wanna know too

@FlightX101

10 ай бұрын

Osaka is the more "western" american-ish city of Japan. Younger crowd too etc

A rather large, bearded (American) gentleman went to Japan as part of an employee exchange program for a car company. His beard was initially considered a big issue at the car plant (there were complaints), until it was explained to management that he portrayed "Santa Claus" at Christmas for children, and as such, it was a necessary part of the look for the character. He was granted an exemption for this public service, but a public announcement actually had to be made so that all employees would understand and have no further issues.

@midnull6009

10 ай бұрын

lol what dicks. He should just have said "for religious" reasons lol and started filing complains about the lack of body hair on ppl lol

@davidchosewood647

9 ай бұрын

😂

@cienbiswas5140

8 ай бұрын

This is so crazy and absurd 😳🫣😆

Great video. I learned some new things. I’ve been to Japan several times and love it. I wish we had the concept of smell harassment in the US and Europe!

Thanks for these informations senjumaru

I find the scent discussion interesting. When I moved back to Japan about seven years ago, I was overwhelmed by all the artificial smells. The first time I lived in Japan, the overwhelming smell every where was usually things like incense, cedar chips, and tatami. But my second time living in Japan, everything smells like artificial grape, melon, apple, strawberries (department stores, women's shampoo, lotion, soap, laundry detergent, etc.) The smell formulas are different than those in the US, but I find them to be just as obnoxiously strong. I imagine that Japanese people might find an artifical yuzu smell to be more relaxing than an artifical apple pie smell, so I understand why smells from the US might be annoying. There are also really strong deoderant smells in Japan, too. Like those body and face wipes lots of people use in the summer, I find those smells hard to handle. Not saying that Westerners (or people from other parts of the world) don't overuse scents, but I think Japan is doing a pretty good job of catching up to everyone else.

@stviz87

2 жыл бұрын

Do you think they're used to their smells and anything foreign is strong to them? When i moved to the US, I moved to a dry area and my sense of smell went down, I smelled less things than in a humid area

@GuitarGod666

2 жыл бұрын

@@stviz87 That is a good question, probably any Japanese viewers (or even Mrs Eats herself!) could answer with more authority than I. I grew up around cigarettes, and smoked until I was about 30, within a year or two after that, I became hyper aware of my sense of smell. I can't stand artifical scents like laundry detergent, deodorant, or cheap cologne at all in any country anymore. I think most people are more comfortable around the scents they grew up with, so probably that is the same in Japan. The only other comment I can think to make is around deodorant. If you have ever ridden a crowded train during summer in Japan, you would unfortunately discover that Caucasians are definitely NOT the only people who try to mask body odor with deodorant.

@litchtheshinigami8936

2 жыл бұрын

@@GuitarGod666 personally it relies more on if i like the scent or not.. also how much of it is there.. if it's just a small amount i don't mind it as much but if they have sprayed their entire body with whatever it is they are wearing it tends to be too much for me.. now i do need scented deodorant myself because unscented doesn't help at all.. (i sweat too much so i will just sweat straight trough.. so something with a scent actually helps longer..)

@mm-yt8sf

2 жыл бұрын

i've been to a couple japanese book stores outside of japan and they have a distinct smell which i think is nice, but i wondered why would japanese books have their own smell? i wouldn't mind having a room scent like that if they made one :D

@Gnasheress

2 жыл бұрын

I used a body sheet recently and I couldn’t stop sneezing the smell was so strong.

I am a Norwegian, and we are probably more reserved than many other Westerners. During a holiday in San Francisco I was surprised and delighted that random people would stop me in the street just to have a conversation. An unusual experience to me, but I really liked it.

@clairruckman7674

9 ай бұрын

That is a very, very regional/ state and even city level difference. In my area in Ohio waiting in lines, etc... We'll kick up conversations, but about 30 minutes west not so much. Suggestion look up early 1900's immigration settlement maps. It is really cool, because with new immigrants they pool together. For instance Deerfield, MI a large Muslim population, so when people are immigrating if first generation they go to a like minded area. It is around 3rd generation that people are fully integrated and move outside of ethnic migration spots. My area very German, Polish, and Hungarian. Plus, whenever I meet someone visiting from another country. I genuinely care about knowing more about their culture from a first hand experience. Plus, I know how much travel costs, so if even here on business I'm happy to make recommendations to help people enjoy the area better. I ask questions so as to find the person's interest to recommend according to their preferred interests.

@daveyyoutubey5686

8 ай бұрын

I would be interested to find out how your feelings/thoughts would change or evolve with time, if you were to live there, etc. Typically one's attitudes evolve with length of stay and the nature of the stay.

@gunkanjima3408

7 ай бұрын

Be real, most people here are absolutely annoyed by workers with the constant “is there anything I can help you with?”

@clairruckman7674

7 ай бұрын

@@gunkanjima3408 I disagree. After I've been greeted, yes other attempts annoying, but if I'm not acknowledge I won't spend my money there.

@codytownsend3259

7 ай бұрын

As an American, I hate people stopping me and talking to me. Or giving me compliments as I walk the streets. Like just leave me alone. It makes me feel like they want something from me

I’m autistic, and I love the lack of small talk. Here in Aotearoa/NZ people talk about nothing as a matter of course. It’s considered polite. It’s friendly, but I don’t like it. Eye contact too.

@Nakkisesonki

6 ай бұрын

Dumbass culture, in Finland we dont do those things, if some stranger start talk to me i think is this person mentally ill what do they want from me why are they talking to me, do they wanna rob me

@Aiken47

5 ай бұрын

I’m Aspie, holidays in Japan are awesome. Generally ASD standards of politeness are very compatible if you do some basic research. We do tend overshare too much though, but Japanese people politely say it’s straight forward and refreshing. Lack of direct eye contact is great in Japan whereas in Australia they need it to feel comfortable. Aspies love structure, we have to play by other peoples rules that don’t always make sense (NTs understand them instinctively) so once you know the rules it’s fine. We also have sensory issues so the lack of heavy scents is great. Eat simple Japanese food and your sense of smell sharpens, unfortunately when you go home the smells hit you and it takes some getting used to.

@Hongsebaoshi

5 ай бұрын

Yeah, Fully Agree. I, also, hate eye contact but doesn't mean that I'm not listening the amount of social pressure and over-friendliness in the west is not that good for autistic people in my opinion... they just want to be understood or want to be alone for at least a few hours, so speaking for long hours feels more of a chore than a fun time. that's why i like East-Asian (Japan but also including Korea, China and Taiwan) Culture. It depends on the person, but i truly feel that Asian people won't put many pressure on you if you don't want to talk that much. I don't know a lot about NZ, but in my country (Israel) people just being WAY to open to the point it's just creepy they will say whatever they want to you even if it's insulting and act like a cicada in your ears until you listen to them... trust me, there's nothing more annoying than to listen for long long hours to a conversation you hate..and when you ignore the person he just won't shut up until you reply. Also, favorite countries in the world top 5 are.. 1th, Japan 2th, Taiwan 3th, Thailand 4th, China (Mainland, As for Hong Kong i like it but it's really expensive there) 5th, South Korea Last thing though, Before I'll move to japan for the working holiday (and from there change my nationality) I'm going to reside in Chengdu or Chongqing for half a year Sorry this comment is really long, but please wish me luck!

@edm3784

5 ай бұрын

That's interesting, I've heard other autistic people say the same but personally I'd find that polite formal vibe really unsettling, I need clear feedback not hints. I'm from Yorkshire UK where strangers do chat, usually superficial but friendly. Tbh I felt more at home socially in Russia where people only start conversation if they are genuinely interested (no small talk) and seemed very direct / blunt.

@Hongsebaoshi

5 ай бұрын

@@edm3784 Yea that's another way to look at it

Well done Mrs Eats and thank you. I was in Japan for a month in 1985, as part of a UN multicultural youth celebration. I returned 4 years later for another "Japanese culture research trip." These experiences completely opened me to exploring how Japanese and other cultures "meet" - I even made a Masters Degree study of it in the UK. Your video is excellent and it touches on just a tiny amount of "cultural differences" that we all need to learn about, be aware of and respect. あけましておめでとう

There is such a contrast between Japanese people preferring unscented stuff for the body, but smoking being so ubiquitous. OK, so I left Japan 30 years ago, but I recall the most unpleasant scent of people was that of cigarette smoke. It lingers on the body and in the clothes even if you carefully smoke outdoors. I loved the scent-free world there, save for the stink of cigarettes.

@zammich3649

2 жыл бұрын

Cigarette smoke in restaurants and public places was very common even in the early 2010s until suddenly it disappeared. I think there was some legislation over the issue that cleared it up, but I didn't really notice until recently when I smelled the cigarette smoke of a person walking in front of me and realized it had been a number of years.

@toromei

2 жыл бұрын

It’s still very much a thing, though it’s been decreasing as fewer and fewer places allow smoking. The smell is less noticeable because smokers have to go further out of their way to smoke in most places, literally, so some of it wears off - in contrast to when it used to be common for someone to smoke in a crowd on the way to the station and then immediately get on the crowded train smelling of smoke, for example. All of that still happens, but is more spread o it and isolated…except for the “manner spot” (for smoking) right in the small pedestrian island when crossing the street in front of Toho Cinema Namba. (－‸ლ)

@angiebell3123

2 жыл бұрын

I was in an izakaya yesterday. One old Japanese guy was smoking at the bar, then the owner started too.

@banzaileah

2 жыл бұрын

Yep, five years ago in Tokyo I had to hold my breath for a little while on my way to the train stop to get to class. I had to pass a smoking area but to be fair the (majority business men) did stick to that area

@mysekai7240

2 жыл бұрын

30 years ago it was BAD. People smoked EVERYWHERE and places had tiny non-smoking sections that smokers still used. International flights were horrible because the back of the plane was a wall of smoke. NOW... The only cigarette smoke I smell comes from people in cars who drive by. A few decades back the country suddenly changed policy and people quickly followed. No more smoking anywhere because no one said anything. Malls have encased smoking rooms. Even in the downtown where I live there are only a few smoking areas but they are outside. No one just lights up anywhere. I just heard last week that even pachinko parlors are smoke free.

Japan has many things to learn from the world, but one thing I really like about some Japanese educational systems is the fact they make the children clean after themselves at school (like mop, sweep, clean the dishes and organize all the desks and utensils), to serve eachother food and be grateful for those who produced the food.

@HYPERxSONICxFANx2012

Жыл бұрын

i don't like the cleaning after school. when school's over i would rush out the door as fast as i could

@electrictroy2010

Жыл бұрын

My elementary school made us do some cleaning. Like going outside & clapping the erasers to remove chalkdust (which is actually very unhealthy)

@smefour

Жыл бұрын

Sounds very Montessori

@MN12warbird

Жыл бұрын

Its one of those multi asian tenets outsiders are not aware of. "You must serve others before serving yourself"... the whole helping the community attitude first. Being a team member or goal achievement 1st before your own. Which apparently i was shocked in awe when i saw my Mexican brothers and sisters who were all stopping what they were doing when the earthquake struck Mexico city. No they did not seek shelter or run away! Soon as the ground stopped shaking, every man woman and child started digging into the piles to save their countrymen. Some countries have a stronger belief in the power of their unity. Japan is definitely oriented into this manner. Filpinos are as well. Especially when it comes to family, maybe moreso because of the shared calamity we face being part of the pacific ring of fire. I believe samoan/ maori/ new Zealanders also the same

@magnarcreed3801

Жыл бұрын

I wouldn’t do the cleaning thing for after school but maybe put time aside during it. Serving each other food is cute and my friend groups would do that (US). And I promise almost everybody loved the people serving food and were friendly af.

This was interesting, cute and funny. Thank you for sharing, i love learning about the world.🙂

I am coming to Kyoto at the beginning of March, I know this is one of the most traditional areas, which is also why i chose it, but your video has at least made me aware that if I had to ask directions or something, that people just might not answer and now i understand why, thank you. I do plan a couple of visits to Osaka so it'll be interesting to see if there's any difference with the local people as I will be travelling alone.

Dang .. I'm starting to understand why there is such an epidemic of loneliness, depression and suicide in Japan. Some of these societal norms sound like they would be EXTREMELY brutal if you had a lack of social skills or if you were dealing with something like Asperger syndrome and had trouble making friends and interacting with others

@kriscrossender4525

2 жыл бұрын

Actually, as someone diagnosed with aspergers (though I prefer to identify as autistic due to aspergers being a term invented by nazis to weed out which people were socially acceptable enough to not be killed) and has difficulties with socialization, japanese culture is increeeedibly appealing to me BECAUSE of all the rules- theres a system to it that's just easier to understand than living in america and having to guess all the time and the pressure having to pretend to act naturally, yet in a "socially acceptable" way. Japanese culture expects a mask too but it's being polite and respectful, which I already am to a higher degree than everyone around me because of my life experiences being chastised and bullied for being outside of the norm. Japanese social culture is practically set up in a way that I fully understand and already embody more than the cultures I was born into. And being from a latinx family, japanese norms about not touching and not speaking to strangers sounds like a breath of fresh air- because those things already make me uncomfortable in the first place. Things like the "overwhelming scent" rules are really just icing on the cake

@drinnerd8532

2 жыл бұрын

@@kriscrossender4525 I shut my mouth and crawl into a hole of ignorance! Your points are super solid and I hadn't even thought of anything that you said. I was thinking of a friend who has aspergers and struggled a great deal connecting with others because of social awkwardness here in the states and knowing him and his personality, I assumed that he would be having a bear of a time trying to understand the "rules" as you put it. However, I had not even considered how helpful having official, societal rules would probably be for him. I apologize for the ignorance of my previous comment!

@kriscrossender4525

2 жыл бұрын

@@drinnerd8532 I appreciate the apology, but there definently is merit to your point too! A big deterrent for me away from living in japan is how they treat mental health issues and disability, so in a way you are right that living in Japan would also be difficult as an autistic person- and even in the points you made you're right that Japan would be quite lonely and that could exacerbate feelings of depression, it's just that for me my identity as an autistic person makes me already feel that way, even in a friendly culture like America and my Latinx family- so it isn't as much of a deterrent. I'm definitely glad I could open your eyes to the ways Japan does sound appealing in some ways to those of us on the autistic spectrum!

@georgeperione4506

2 жыл бұрын

You are absolutely right, I can not believe a person living I a society not been able to interact with others just because is not their tradition… it’s just one person seen others in the street or wherever that is just focusing in his or her Only World…that is so sad.

@theglitchcounter264

2 жыл бұрын

As another autistic person, it sounds like paradise. You go to work, follow strict rules, keep to your self, go home.

That's interesting about "not talking to strangers". I knew about that, but when I went to Japan a bunch of people did talk to me- usually cashiers in stores ("Where are you from?" they would ask, then say "ah, Beautiful country!" or something in response). One time in a train station in Osaka some guy stopped on his bike to ask me where I was from, then started talking about his own trip to my country. I was not expecting that, lol. I wonder if they knew about the differences in expectations and just liked talking to people and used my being foreign as an excuse!

@miwamika

2 жыл бұрын

This also happened to me in a Tokyo supermarket and my japanese friend was like WHAT. 🤯🤯🤯🤯🤯

@darassylmoniakam

2 жыл бұрын

they're creepy

@commentbot9510

2 жыл бұрын

Or maybe you don’t look Japanese so they were more curious

@di3486

2 жыл бұрын

I adore the Japanese politeness! It is sincere, not like the hypocrite American politeness.

@di3486

2 жыл бұрын

@@DJPaulgee1 that is being prejudiced. Racism is something else.

Very interesting, thank you.

this is a great video funny and informative.

As a person who has lived in Japan for over 20 years, I can truthfully say there’s little that is more impolite than expecting other people to understand your culture without explaining it to them.

@greatfullmage4084

2 жыл бұрын

well said.

@fumomofumosarum5893

2 жыл бұрын

It is also very impolite to go and live in a country without studying up on their culture first...

@poijnve3912

2 жыл бұрын

@@fumomofumosarum5893 it's even more impolite saying youshouild study up a culture that is not explain to foreign, as you should study something that do not exist

@stix_0910

2 жыл бұрын

IMHO it's up to the vistor to find out about the culture, expecially if you are going to live there for any period of time. In my experince when you make the effort to find out its recieved better by locals, than expecting them to adjust to foreign ways.

@DGE123

2 жыл бұрын

@@fumomofumosarum5893 its also impolite to be racist and not admit it right?

I'm Arab, we LOVE perfumes, that would be really strange for me. Men grow beards in general. We also make friends easily, and talk to anyone because we believe if you don't talk you are strange😅

@WayneLyons

2 жыл бұрын

Arabic people are usually very sociable and love to talk, but even by western standards the perfume is a bit too strong. Less is more guys! 😜

@4_4_4..

2 жыл бұрын

@@WayneLyons I'll try😁😁👍🏻

@aryankarcii1157

2 жыл бұрын

I got into the habit of wearing strong perfumes because of my Arab friends.

@jaykay5838

2 жыл бұрын

There is a word in English for someone who does not have a beard. Woman.

@aleli6407

2 жыл бұрын

@@jaykay5838 so rude 🤣🤣🤣

As a Swedish/Finnish guy, I LOVE that you guys are why and quiet, because so am I. I hope I one day go to Japan, it has been my dream to do so ever since I can remember.

Visited Japan a while back. I had people accompany me to show me where to go when I was looking for a place and could not find it. Had a gentleman see me looking at books in a bookshop and when he saw I was interested in a certain kind of subject (haiku poetry,) he came back to me a while later, and gifted me a book and told me "This is the best Haiku poet in Japan." Love Japan, Japanese culture and Japanese people! Such good taste, politeness and kindness. Even by the end of the day, drunk business men who accidentally would bump into me on the streets, would apologize non-stop -- never aggressive. Beautiful country, beautiful people, such an amazing sense of aesthetics... and the food is the best in the world (unless you have something against raw fish, that is. 😁 ) Great cinema, art, traditional fashion, pottery, architecture, wood working... a little corner of heaven on earth indeed! Oh, and I literally hate strong scents, especially perfumes and colones, they give me headaches, so that was another nice thing in Japan... no offensive odors!

It has its pluses. I lived in Tokyo for about a year. As a 6'3" white gaijin, people stayed well clear of me. I commuted to work using the bus every day. In that entire year, not ONCE...not ONCE...did anyone sit next to me. The bus could be packed, with every other seat taken and lots of people standing, but still, nobody would sit next to me. A rough estimate would be somewhere like 400 journeys. Once, my friends and I were looking for somewhere to sit in Starbucks. The place was really busy and there were only a few seats left. I saw 1 seat in between two salarymen at one of those long seating bars. I sat down and waited. It took probably no more than a minute before both of them got up and left. Then my friends came and took the newly empty seats. I just want to clarify that in no way did I ever threaten anyone or do anything to stand out in any way other than simply be a tall white guy. My existence simply made people uncomfortable. But, rather than be offended by it, I just tried to use it to my advantage.

@carollynt

4 ай бұрын

I think it was the beard.

@mariefellensteinhalerealto6263

4 ай бұрын

When I was in Japan visiting (I'm a white American woman & was traveling with my 17-year-old son who was at that time at least 6 ft 2 in). I remember being on a subway and an older Japanese woman looking over at my son, who was near her, and she was gazing up and up till she got to the top of his head and then she looked over at me and smiled. A very cute exchange. No words were spoken but clearly she was saying, "Goodness! He's really tall!"

@vinman8143

3 ай бұрын

I totally understand where you're coming from. They don't want to call it "DISCRIMINATION" because they have these excuses to justify their actions. I live in Osaka, and despite her saying in this video that the people here are friendly, ironically, I've experienced more rudeness here than in any other part of Japan that I've been to.

@janc8199

2 ай бұрын

Your height scared them because they are petite people. Maybe towering over a man especially may make them feel inferior, and they are a proud race. Just making a observation, because cannot figure what else it could be. I feel bad how uncomfortable you must have felt.

I'm living in Japan now, and I follow these rules and many others. However, I feel so suffocated by all the rules and indirectness, and I've started feeling down. So I'm excited to return back home soon. I'm a little sad, because I love all the Japanese people I've met; my coworkers are amazing and my friends are wonderful. But it's just too much for me, unfortunately. I still love Japan though!

@PutinsMommyNeverHuggedHim

2 жыл бұрын

May I ask which rules affect you or bother you the most? I’m a pretty impulsive person, so I know I wouldn’t be able to abide by so many rules even if I tried. If I can’t act natural I get anxiety

@claytonbigsby9673

2 жыл бұрын

@@xLinksDreheRx I know someone that was working in Japan, the coworkers got him fired behind his back, they was nice to him in person, he took a day off which they said it’s cool, then came back to be told he can’t work there no more, it’s weird.

@xLinksDreheRx

2 жыл бұрын

@@claytonbigsby9673 exactly what i was talking about. honne and tatemae. sometimes u think u friends with someone but after 10 years u realize u are not. japanese are like that its astonishing. my brand managerin was also just fired 2 weeks ago out of the blue. its germany here but they still behave like that in foreign countries its insane. she had 2 weeks before her trial period of 6 months was ending and had no evaluation telling here she needs to step up her game or anything. japanese are very polite which is nice but hell they are fake "nice" and pretty devious behind their mask

@claytonbigsby9673

2 жыл бұрын

@@xLinksDreheRx yea that’s crazy, they are non confrontational people…hard to trust if it’s like that over there.

@aviendha1154

2 жыл бұрын

@@xLinksDreheRx can you please not use the R slur its very offensive and a source of pain for many people.

these are great tips! I think Japan is a very tricky country to navigate. Foreigners, generally are not made to feel uncomfortable often and tend to let foreign habits pass in their own country. I think the only thing that I found weird in China, was the obsession with a person's age😅

Cup noodle bag from Yokohama in your wall. I love it

That last one is especially amusing, as in the US we're raised to maintain eye contact and not to needlessly interrupt with vocalizations, lol. Interesting how cultures can clash in the most unexpected ways :P

@abrahammesrajecorrea2349

2 жыл бұрын

I still remember how when I used to work as part time in a fancy restaurant, my boss would get mad at me because I wouldn't speak loud enough for costumers to understand what I was saying and I wasn't making eye contact to them. According to my boss, that was just rude to them and would make them feel like I didn't care about them or something like that. Surprising how somewhere out there in the world, the opposite attitude is the polite one and the one you're used to makes you look like a creepy weirdo.

@crooked9210

2 жыл бұрын

I've always hated that. I can't stand making constant eye contact with people, I don't understand why it's considered a necessary part of communication

@Angel-qq1mv

2 жыл бұрын

Litterally. In schools they always tell us to make eye contact to show we are listenin

@giin97

2 жыл бұрын

@@crooked9210 cultural thing. Refusing eye contact is the equivalent to scrolling Twitter on your phone while someone is talking to you, from before Twitter (or smartphones) were a thing. Basically, making eye contact states, "I hear you, I'm attentive, and I respect your time and opinion," with the opposite being implied by refusing eye contact.

@capperbuns

Жыл бұрын

i think every country that i know of has the culture of looking people in the eye when talking to them.

I also hate the "perfume harassment" in the states. Everything here is scented: deodorant, lotion, hand soap, shampoo, conditioner, laundry detergent, dryer sheets, shower soap, cat litter, GARBAGE BAGS...

@rouster2

2 жыл бұрын

Same - I find freshly cleaned clothes to smell worse than when they were dirty from all the laundry perfumes, and changing garbage bags isn't fun. If it's a light smell I'm OK.

@marshmallow4646

2 жыл бұрын

I need unscented deodorant, I really hate the smell of most dishwash soaps, and I really hate most laundry detergent smells, I wish more stuff was unscented, or at least more natural scents vs chemical ones, strong chemically made smells are the worst

@soulfulwildflower3068

2 жыл бұрын

That garbage bag one is so true lol I actually used to love scented garbage bags until I bought some garbage bags that had a Fabuloso scent. Omg the smell was so strong my head started hurting horribly. Never again lol

@aphr0d

2 жыл бұрын

Sooooo true. Some scented garbage bags STINK and make garbage smell worse. And also the cat litter one is annoying to my cats as well. I quickly stopped buy that for them and got unscented crystals. Also why do menstrual pads have those annoyingly strong scents?? I hate them and i know many people who avoid them due to it causing irritation and allergic reactions.

@benharrison5816

2 жыл бұрын

Don't forget the guy who bathes in Aqua di Gio!

Just flew back from Japan today after spending 1 month there. I truly miss it and can’t wait to go back. The people and culture is so unique and beautiful

About the smell, my experiences were pretty odd when I lived in Japan. Yes I was told not to use hand sanitizer when I was sick because it had a smell - I was surprised because it was plain hand sanitizer, and the unavoidable medicinal smell should be welcome if you know your coworker has to come in to work sick. BUT most people in public transportation or out and about had a strong smell in Japan. This was usually cigarette smoke smell, or "sake sweat" (as I called the salary men smell after noon). I find alcohol sweat and cigarette smoke more offensive than hand sanitizer or perfume!

we don’t wear deodorant in the us to “cover stank up” lol, we use it to *Prevent* smelling bad. If you already stink, deodorant isn’t going to help. You shower, then apply after you dry off. 😘

@xcaluhbration

2 жыл бұрын

I wish you could explain that to some of the people at my job. Men and Women in their 40s that will proudly proclaim they only bathe once every 5 days because they don't want to remove the bodies natural oils and instead will apply perfume or cologne. 🤢🤢🤢🤢🤮

@danielbroome5690

2 жыл бұрын

@@xcaluhbration They're not entirely wrong. They should shower more though lol. Bathing is only going to make the issue worse. But it's also unhealthy to overly shower and/or wash your face because the oils do help your hair and skin. You will dry out your skin if you are over-cleaning it.

@ajp2223

2 жыл бұрын

@@danielbroome5690 That's true in the west we tend to over clean ourselves. However you can still shower daily but you can use less soap and don't scrub your skin every day.

@xcaluhbration

2 жыл бұрын

@@ajp2223 yeah I don't care if someone showers once a month, as long as I ain't gotta experience that FUNK 🤣

@itsDjjayy

2 жыл бұрын

@@xcaluhbration what kind of job u work

Just watching the bit about smalltalk etc. reminded me of the several weeks I've spent in Sweden. As a Canadian you'll often reflexively say hello to people you run across in less populated areas. My Girlfriend at the time scolded me for doing this on a hiking trail, saying to "Stop scaring the Swedes!" and the vibe feels very similar to what you're describing.

@bennyboiart7781

2 жыл бұрын

It makes them sound almost like timid specimens of wildlife that are poorly acclimated to the presence humans.

@AKDHFR

2 жыл бұрын

@@bennyboiart7781 yea thats why some japanese people are depressed especially if they work all week. humans are social creatures, you're supposed to connect in public matters not the private one. we dont know why they evolved that way maybe because their history.

@JannPoo

2 жыл бұрын

This reminds me of "The Onion" video: Northerner terrifies Londoners by saying "Hello"

@AKDHFR

2 жыл бұрын

@@JannPoo yea but london is better than socializing at the end of the day with their close friends in pub, well not until the stabby street came on.

@Ander83534

2 жыл бұрын

I hate that. Some people look you dead in the eye squeezing past you on small trail when you rarely see people and dont say anything. Its so weird. And its even weirder when you said hello and they dont answer. Like wtf is peoples problem

Wonderful video!!!

Very interesting. I am Nimesh from India and I found your video randomly after seeing videos on Geishas. Thanks for making the video. I'll remember these tips.

But here's the thing, People from mega cities usually aren't very open to strangers regardless of what country they're from. It's usually an overcrowding thing not default culture. Unless it's their job most people from big population centers arent very open to strangers...

@bmona7550

2 жыл бұрын

People are generally more personally connected back then. I think it is the new generations that are more stressed, too busy and awkward with small talk

@BromptonFamilyTime

2 жыл бұрын

I live in NY and thought the same thing as you, Bishop.But I kind of miss those small chat back in the time when I was in North Dakota. Friendly and open. When I first moved NY, to be nice, I said hi to total strander on the street and they looked at me like I was crazy. 😅

@uditabhattacharya2824

2 жыл бұрын

Come to India 😆

@G1NZOU

2 жыл бұрын

Yeah as a Brit I notice that in my own large town as well as when I visit London, but when I go to rural Norfolk to sail on the Broads strangers talk to each other and almost everyone waves when passing in boats on the river. Population density goes up, personal contact with strangers goes down it seems.

@winboxlionkingslots7657

2 жыл бұрын

Agreed.. Me in the city:mind ur own business... Me in my hometown/village: everyone including foreigners r my family..😆✌️..

I would personally love it if random strangers wouldn't always be trying to strike up a conversation with me. However, I feel it is actually a beneficial thing for the elderly because they may not get out much, so if two or three people stop and chat with them while they are out doing their grocery shopping that might help them feel connected to their community.

@scottw5315

2 жыл бұрын

That's a nice thought. I used to wonder why my widowed mother went to the grocery store so often but for seniors like her it's an outing to be enjoyed.

@thousanduniverses

2 жыл бұрын

In Germany (I think mainly on the countryside?) many elderly people try to strike up conversations with people they come across on the streets because of this reason.

@andymac6207

2 жыл бұрын

Where are you from? I wanna go there. I'm looking for a country to move to and I want some place where strangers would talk to me and touch me and I could do the same thing to them. I'm super extrovert and it kills me that it isn't the norm where I'm from. Out here, people will turn agressive if you try to talk to a stranger beyond something like asking for directions...

@awfan221

2 жыл бұрын

It's hilariously the opposite in East Canada. I'm originally from Ethiopia so when I moved here, I was astonished by how frequently strangers talk to you about the weather. Just small remarks you can make in passing and respond to in passing, not full out conversations. Then you just walk or bike on your way without any more interaction.

In Germany we dont talk to strangers either and the only time somebody will come up to you is probably an elderly person complaining about something

I'm so glad to hear about smell harassment. I hate when I'm at the office and you can smell someone's fragrance. It's never a good one either.

@BrotherHood-xh9sg

Ай бұрын

Better then the smell of sweat.

@_Just_Another_Guy

Ай бұрын

​@@BrotherHood-xh9sg Some colognes gives me migraines. Especially the strong smelling perfumes like musk.

@BrotherHood-xh9sg

Ай бұрын

@@_Just_Another_Guy cool. When that is the case for most people in a certain location, we can talk.

The small talk with strangers thing is honestly just 'We're both in this place right now, and I'm making the choice to greet and acknowledge you, rather than be awkward and just... pretend you don't exist'. That's what it is for me anyways.

@r3db0x

2 ай бұрын

Yeah, same here. It's weird to share a small space with someone and ignore them. Cut to me, a young Midwesterner visiting NYC and smiling and saying "hello" to everyone I passed in Times Square 😵‍💫

As a person from the American Midwest, I really enjoy the small pleasant exchanges with strangers throughout the day. Sometimes when we gather around the dinner table at the end of the night, my parents and I will share any nice interactions we had that day. My mother is especially friendly and warm, and I definitely picked that up from her.

@kyle4563

2 жыл бұрын

I’m from the west coast, I love the small talk with strangers, but I don’t think our hospitality isn’t the same as you or southerners.

@laurelsilberman5705

2 жыл бұрын

@@kyle4563 Oh they’re all the same level of hospitality, just different distinct flavors! My apologies. Major oversight to omit our west coast countrymen! Exceptionally progressive and easygoing; like I said-a very different flavor than the south or the Midwest, but delicious all the same.

@SaraSong-mw3zm

2 жыл бұрын

Yeah I live in the south and its nice having a tiny little conversation with ppl

Thanks for this! It will help me on my school trip to Japan 04/02/24! ❤️

Well, time to do exactly those things on my visit to Japan!

Actually the facial hair one was very similar here in the United States around the same time as in Japan. After world war 2 and into the 1950s more people were clean shaven and it was more socially acceptable to be clean shaven and beards were viewed the same as they are in Japan. But in the 1970s and 1980s beards became more socially acceptable again.

@BeautifulObscurity

2 жыл бұрын

Yeah beards fall in and out of fashion, and even then some US businesses don’t allow beards. Last place I worked at didn’t allow beards.

@bar-1studios

2 жыл бұрын

Beards & moustaches were never entirely in fashion in the United states during the 70s (dirty hippies), and only guys like Burt Reynolds carried a 'stache. Beards slowly came in with Goatee & Van Dyke stylings durung the 90s, but the beards of the modern era are actually a byproduct of the Global War on Terror. Both sides of the war became competitive beard cultivators because ain't no time to shave when you're operating it the sandbox.

@colonelarmfeldt8572

2 жыл бұрын

Beards became somewhat popular in the late 1960s onwards, due to the counterculture, but they only recently became mainstream, I'd say around the mid 2010s. I remember in the late 2000s to around 2013, most people were clean shaven too.

@bobbyantrobus1805

2 жыл бұрын

If you don't have a beard how can you call yourself a man

@randjan8592

2 жыл бұрын

@@bobbyantrobus1805 they are not men, simple.

I get that there are some people who follow these "rules" in Japan. Even myself being a foreigner, I have definitely noticed some of these things, but Japan is also changing as well with the younger generation and a lot of these "rules" have changed a bit as well. It's a good sign, considering Japanese society has been too strict on itself and it's nice to see people relaxing a bit more now.

@bigfrankfraser1391

2 жыл бұрын

im all for respecting society in japan, but when they cant give me the same level of respect back, just because i have my 3 late daughters names tattood on my chest, then i have a problem (drunk driver went head first into them on a country road, driver of the other car also died) japans stance on tattoos is disgusting

@javohnbdyer5456

2 жыл бұрын

@@bigfrankfraser1391 Then... don't go?

@bigfrankfraser1391

2 жыл бұрын

@@javohnbdyer5456 kind of hard when my wifes family is from tokyo

@kylbarry4466

2 жыл бұрын

Your choice to ink your body just don't go to Japan if u can't handle their stance on tattoos

@macrick

2 жыл бұрын

Yeah, any change to cater to the banjin's taste is a good thing

Ahahaha! The stick-on beard was hilarious! 😂

Thanks a lot for all these informations. I love japonese culture and wants to learn more. Respect the culture of the country seems essential and you help me on it. Thanks again

i don’t think i could handle all the indirectness and passive aggressiveness. i would go insane.

@michaelmichaelson6766

Жыл бұрын

Yes, you never know what is up, pepople can be pissed and you don't even notice or know why, sounds horrible. Japan is very interesting but i would never want to live there.

I'm not Japanese, but I definitely feel the avid aversion for small talk, especially with strangers. I loved living in Osaka, it was so quiet and calm, and everyone I interacted with was really nice and helpful. It was also so nice not to have to chat with store clerks...

@mysticwolfdog9553

2 жыл бұрын

I am Polish, and no one really talks to strangers here either. I was very confused by how talktive americans are to strangers. We can be very talktive as Well, but only to people you know very well

@jason-mp4uf

2 жыл бұрын

@@mysticwolfdog9553 in mexico its completely the opposite, it’s considered rude to not talk to someone😭

@leliavoinea9402

2 жыл бұрын

I am from Romania and in my country small talk with strangers in not a thing. I guess is why alot of us Romanians are a little awkward with small talk.

@KohenBlassingame

2 жыл бұрын

That’s interesting, I enjoy talking to people I don’t know, both as a customer, And as an employee in my job, in fact it is a large part of my job as I work for Chick Fil A, and people skills are required. I would feel ostracized if people refused to chat with me lol

@obiwahndagobah9543

2 жыл бұрын

@@mysticwolfdog9553 I am from Germany and here it is almost exactly the same.

Mrs Eats has great easily Eat-able channel. I love her personality. I wish to be openminded the whole japanese society and have willingness to learn languages.

I'm not used to being around Japanese people that could approach me and try to talk in there language towards me and make me uncomfortable.

In America, you actually can be told to shave by your company, depending on where you work. I worked for a privately held company, and they held their dress code to a high standard. They dictated hair colors must be natural, no visible tattoos, no piercings besides in the ears, no facial hair, etc., etc. Only in recent years has the company been called on its dress code. The company ran as though it were still 100 years ago. Enough push-back from the employees changed some of the restrictions. Looking clean and polished is one thing, but writing someone up for a five o'clock shadow and threatening firing them (which happened frequently) is another thing entirely.

@Outwardpd

2 жыл бұрын

For anyone in the US being forced to shave while suffering from Pseudofolliculitis Barbae: It is illegal for your employer to require you to shave unless it is legitimate requirement to perform the job, i.e. firefighters who need to be able to make sure their masks can seal properly.

@scintillam_dei

2 жыл бұрын

Dirty-shaven is a boring look.

@wesKEVQJ

2 жыл бұрын

I had a job once where I had to wear pants, dress shirt and tie. They let me have green hair, eyebrow ring, stretched earring, and a tongue ring. Most of my head was shaved. I worked in a cubical making phone calls. This was in 1997. I never understood why I had to wear the tie.

@alexs1640

2 жыл бұрын

@@Outwardpd I don't think that is true at all. Different states require different things, what might seem logical in one isn't in another. I bring this up because the more I dig into Florida, the more I realize what makes sense rarely makes it to Florida. Since Florida is a no cause state, they can fire you for pretty much any reason. And if they have you sign a contract, or at least agree before starting your job to certain rules like business casual and clean shaven, then they will make you shave or you will be fired. Edit: although yes, if you are suffering from medical issues, there may be a legal case there. But it is important to remember how vast the US is and how each state operates. Never a good idea to make a blanket statement about the whole of the US, just as making a blanket statement about the whole of the EU wouldn't make sense.

@hirahiro2331

2 жыл бұрын

or groom yourself too. like you said, it depends

To an American, it can be very off-putting to have someone not meet your eyes, and also make many sounds of acknowledgment. Many times in American culture, when someone is doing this they are indicating that they are annoyed because they already know what you're going to say, or don't care about what you're saying. The acknowledgements can be seen as sarcastic when said too fast, or in quantity, especially when not meeting someone's eyes. Cultures are weird. 😃

@carlozchv

2 жыл бұрын

You need to see people’s eyes so you can determine yourself if tthey telling the truth or not

@pamelaroyce5285

2 жыл бұрын

Among some people in the U.S., not making sustained eye contact is cultural, simply not congruent with the dominant culture. Also, people on the autism spectrum find it difficult (and emotionally painful) to make sustained eye contact. They are not necessarily dishonest. They might be honoring their tribal cultural norms, or autistic, or very shy.

@axilleass4762

2 жыл бұрын

Maybe a remnant of feudal Japan.

A lot of these are the same in Finland except the beard part but we also have signs on the public transportation not to wear strong perfume and we do not talk to people in public except in Sauna 😂.