3-C you Can’t control it , you didn’t Cause it ; You can’t Cure it .

Just found out my boyfriend is a heroine addict. I honestly suspected that he was getting high. I've offered help and he agreed but then played victim and manipulated me. I'm letting go and letting God bc I'm not going to lose myself in the process. He knows I love him but he is in a downward spiral and my kids need me more.

@jasonbachelor604

4 күн бұрын

Heroin is help

My dad is a functional alcholic. He doesn't think it's a problem. He feels enormous shame about it. Deep down. Everyone around him are pretty much alcoholics too, so his behaviour too him, is somewhat normal, masked in the culture of the place we live. I'm way beyond the "I wanna help you get better Dad" I wanna help me be OK having a Dad who completely abandon emotional accountability. I have struggled with low self esteem, eating disorder, depression, suicidal thoughts and all sorts of dark emotional responses to being child to someone who manipulates, shames, neglects, and violate the boundaries of an other all my life. As I've grown, and he's become elder, it's less severe. But he still hasnt admitted to it and it still destroys me having a relationship to my Dad. Cause sometime he act likea human, and we get close and I think its safe, and feels briefly, like I actually got the Dad back, late in life, that I never had - , and other times he's a real asshole. And everything we built up, just slips right away again. It' super sressfull and painfull to me, dealing with that. I don't wanna do it anymore.

@juliej7861

3 ай бұрын

I feel your pain. I won't say which family member it is, but it is someone who I'm supposed to be very close to. But for my own mental health, I have to keep them at an arm's length. It's like walking on eggshells around them. You never know what will set them off, but when it does, they're the victim and you're to blame. Just today that person blocked me on FB, but then texted me later as if nothing at all was wrong and asking me about some stupid show. I would love to just not have them in my life at all, but due to other family members, I can't just do that. They will always be in my life. It really sucks. And I know alcoholism is a disease and they don't think like a normal person, and I should be giving them grace, but I am really struggling to forgive them and act like it doesn't bother me.

@timallsopp9622

2 ай бұрын

Have you looked into ACoA, adult children off alcoholics? Don’t let the name “adult children” deter you.

Iam a mother of 3 son’s in addiction one of my son’s is already getting help, the other he is just living by day, I don’t see him that much, but the one that makes my life a living hell is my middle son, I don’t know what to do anymore I just kicked him out in the streets because it was causing me a lot of stress between my husband and my younger son would blame me for keep letting him stay in the house, but the reason is because I did not want him in the streets, I have told him many times to please get help, my son acts very wired when under the influence it’s scary, he hears voices and always wants to have a knife 🔪 when he would be home I would hide all the kitchen knifes, as a mother it is so hard for me to just not help my son , but I had enough of it it’s causing me to get anxiety and bad, I need to learn to let go, but my fear is knowing that being homeless could be dangerous, he keeps coming home and I will not open the door 🚪 everything you are saying is my story with my son, my son has gone beaten, stabbed at 14 yrs old, he has gone to prison, many times going to jail , gotten beat up by the police and has ended up in the hospital, but he still does not learn, he has lost everything his childern, and us his family, because he does not want to change, his addiction is affecting me so much because family blames me, I cry so much and feel lonely 😞 sometimes I ask god why me why do I have to go through this pain of my son going crazy little by little , sometimes I feel so hopeless with no way out, and the problem I have is when I hear the ambulance and the police 👮‍♀️ I feel like something happened to my son and I feel anxious and I run out like a crazy women to check, one time by my area they fund a dead person by an alley and I just went crazy thinking it was my son, but it was not I cried for that person and because it was not my son, and because all of this stress I have stomach problems and could not sleep well at night, glad I saw this post it helped me a lot ty🙏✨💖🤦‍♀️ I just hope my son changes and that he will be safe out there in the streets. The problem is that many rehabilitations want lots of money and that is something I don’t have, but I pray everyday for my son’s but mostly for my middle son who needs lots of help.

@garymurakami4867

6 ай бұрын

I pray for you and your son. I hope all the suffering stops.

@tinaberry2012

5 ай бұрын

I can relate so much to your comment. My oldest son is out there on the streets because of his addiction to heroin. We can't have him live with us as we've tried it and it doesn't end well. I pray that he will see the light and return to sober living that's really all I can do. The hardest part is watching them spiral. I have a very heavy heart right now 😞😢

@Iseeyou12332

5 ай бұрын

You and I are twins. Ditto on the shit you've gone through, I'm out 50k and hate myself for ever bailing him out.

@bingzou8200

2 ай бұрын

I pray that all the people who are suffering addictions a quick recognition of addiction and a successful recovery❤ my husband starts developing a chronic addiction to alchol. I did a bad job setting boundaries. My "help" isn't really help but to enable him to go farther. I need to learn let go. Allow God let him learn some hard lessons to wake up to a clear recognition. I hope that day will come. I feel lost, lonely, sad, mad, disappointment, leaving, all kinds of mixed negative feelings until I watch the video. Thank you very much for making this video. Thank you for sharing your experience as a loving mom. You all help me get stronger and starting realize loving myself is also important. I very much appreciate 🙏

@Kjsparadigm

2 ай бұрын

Oh God this resonated so deeply. The cost to get help is a barrier for the majority of Americans.

A close relative whom I will call Helene, who is now in her seventies, is raising her son's two children. He and his wife have both been addicts (drugs, alcohol and gambling) since they first met and have never tried to seek help. They've never held down a job and depend entirely on Helene for financial support. After years of squatting her house and having babies, Helene finally kicked them out, but doesn't have the heart to deprive the children of a safe and comfortable home. Basically the parents are both homeless, but Helene can't bear to see her grandchildren (5 and 10 yrs old) living on the street. After dealing with an addict son for the past twenty years, she now has to raise his children as well. Meanwhile her son and his wife are constantly breaking up, and then regularly re-bonding, as they binge on drugs and alcohol. Helene finally had to forbid her daughter-in-law from entering her house, since she can't stop stealing money from her mother-in-law and has even managed to hack her online bank numbers. Helene keeps having to change her accounts and credit cards. She won't press criminal charges because she wants to protect the grandchildren from the pain of seeing their mother in trouble with the law. The grandchildren can only see their mother outside Helen's house, which sometimes causes resentment against the only person who cares enough about them to give them a normal childhood. The stress of having an addict child reaches a much greater level when the children become parents themselves and can't even begin to take care of their own children. I'm worried about Helene's mental and physical health. Any suggestions where she can look for support?

@augustacorns

5 күн бұрын

She can try al-anon to start.

I THANK YOU SO MUCH FOR HONORING MOTHERS! Most moms love their children no matter what the age SO VERY MUCH!!! I rarely hear anyone share gratitude for their parents. Very healing especially from 2 strong men. ❤❤❤❤

You can not make someone do anything about an addiction. But, you can let them feel all the pain they bring to themselves by not enabling, don’t give them Money, food, bail them out of jail etc. you will drive yourself crazy trying to get anyone to stop their addictive behaviour. Other wise it is control, Let go, Let God and get on with your life. Welcome them when they ask for help.

@jacquelinehunt7794

6 ай бұрын

Your so right the person has to really want it.

@lala5061

6 ай бұрын

That's it that's all they gotta hit rock bottom by themself!

@awareness311

5 ай бұрын

Detachment with love❤

@kathleenschoultz

5 ай бұрын

yes.. you need to fall deep to get back up... not just in addiction... in depression etc

@tinaberry2012

5 ай бұрын

Rock bottom quite often means death. You can help your loved ones by getting educated about addiction, join a support group like ITC, SMART, Alanon. You can help your loved by letting them you love them. Don't do for them what they can do for themselves. If they want recovery, help them to access detox, rehab, therapy. Most of all look after your own needs too. You must live your life no matter whether your loved one recovers or not ❤

Today is Wednesday 15th Dec 2023. I am a parent dealing with my 33 year old daughter who, 5 days ago, informed me that she is a cocaine addict. She is attending a help group. I feel that I need to find a parents help group to allow me to understand what she has been doing and why. I am totally lost because I am in a situation that I have no experience of. I enjoyed your podcast and I will be watching more of them, thank you guys.

@kitimaboonmala4364

6 ай бұрын

Try smart recovery for family group

@richardselby6663

5 ай бұрын

As a recovering addict and alcoholic and a parent of a suffering addict, I can also suggest AlAnon. Praying for you and your daughter!

@freedomthrufaith

5 ай бұрын

I’ve recently heard about CRAFT

@okiegranny4844

5 ай бұрын

And some areas have NarAnon family groups

@RizztrainingOrder

5 ай бұрын

I sympathize, I pray you keep your sanity in the trenches of relative addiction. Ultimately you cannot save anyone, even loved ones. It won't work until they sincerely desire change.

Sadly I went on a bender from c15 Dec - 15 January. Not a bad effort. I knew deep down that this time I didn't have what it would take to stop on my own. I have always known I have a problem so - despite not wanting to do it all again - I got myself to hospital to detox safely, and this time during the four days there I was determined to leave with a structured plan. Inside I got the help I needed, I'm so very lucky. I do have a solid plan and and so far so good.

@tungstenanderson5991

2 ай бұрын

I know you don't know me from a hole in the wall, but I'm really proud of you.

@jennywilliams2483

Ай бұрын

@@tungstenanderson5991

Thank you for sharing. I'm the sister of an addict who feels he doesn't need help this was very informative

Addictions so painful. I’m 12 years clean and my best friend who was always there for me is now the one using daily and can’t admit he has a problem. Im finding it so hard as he lies, and boy is he good at it. He did admit he had a problem when he was ill many months ago but he said he stopped and continues to say his stopped but he hasn’t. Not really sure why I’m commenting. All I can do is be there to support him when he is ready to admit and accept help. I’m just concerned he’ll die before getting to that point. I’ve known so many die from addiction I’m terrified he will too 😢

@garymurakami4867

6 ай бұрын

Thank you for saying this because I've a friend in a similar situation. It's hard knowing they could die at any moment.

@tungstenanderson5991

2 ай бұрын

@@garymurakami4867 Sounds harsh but get away from him. Many times addicts will say "remember when I did this for you? " It's manipulative. If you know he lies, he's not good at it. You aren't responsible for him.

@garymurakami4867

2 ай бұрын

@@tungstenanderson5991 thank you. I finally had to leave the situation. I hope they help themselves.

You never get between an alcoholic and their bottom.. I also just had to bury a friend last week so his bottom unfortunately was death.. it's such a rough road

@restoringghettosforgotten455

25 күн бұрын

My condolences to you..

I tried to help my best friend but she ignored me. In the end I ended the friendship because the drugs made her go wild doing bad things. I told her that she can talk to me again and come near me when she is clean off drugs

They say the first step is admitting you have a problem. If that's the case I had the first step down right off the bat. The first time I realized I was dependent on opiates was the first moment I realized I had a serious problem on my hands.

As an adult child of a drug addict…this helped me with guilt. Thank you for sharing🙏

My situation is tough. My boyfriend does not want to stop. He thinks because he no longer blacks out, that his problem is fixed. He is high functioning. Even when he used to drink a lot (before we were together), he still went to work and supported his family. He owns a house and has money. There honestly aren't many consequences to his drinking other than health problems but nothing is presenting yet so he thinks he "is immune" to the issues others suffer from alcohol. I know he needs help but treatment has not worked in the past and he refuses to try again. I do not want to start a life and family with an alcoholic. I love this man so much. I don't know how long to support, not enable, while he works on it (and he is making improvements) and when to walk away. It's so hard

@ledererova

2 ай бұрын

Before you start a family with your alcoholic remember that alcoholism is hereditary. A child of a biological alcoholic parent has 40% risk of becoming alcoholic himself. Alcoholism is a progressive disease. All 'high functioning' alcoholics will turn into non functioning ones but before that they lose all their assets and probably get their family into debt. From all the alcoholics I came across in my life maybe 95% are in slow/fast destructive downward spiral. In the end stage - alcoholics are living zombies. This stage can last for decades.

@tungstenanderson5991

2 ай бұрын

Got a ring on that finger? You owe him nothing. This is harsh. I know. But you have a responsibility to yourself and future self. "and supported his family" So, he has another one? Girl. Run. It is hard. But do it for your own life and sanity.

@kellysnyder9108

2 ай бұрын

@@tungstenanderson5991 I was speaking about the relationship he was in before me, hence saying before we were together ...

@matthewwebb5070

Ай бұрын

Leave and tell him WHY you are leaving

Thank you for talking openly about your experiences.

Bless you both for what you do. You have no idea how many people you help with this podcast❤

Thank you for sharing your story!

Thank you so much i needed to hear this so bad

i love you guys. listening to this conversation came at just the right time for me, as a mom of an addicted daughter, and confirmed all the right things. thank you from the bottom of my heart. two strong men who went through self-destruction and came out the other side, stronger than before. good on you both.

Thanks guys!… good info from recovering people ❤

I just lost the freindship of one of my best friends because of alcohol, and blocked every one of us, and we are so scared for him and don’t want to lose him. Thank you guys

@jacquelinehunt7794

6 ай бұрын

You can’t stop him

This is exactly what I am going through with my 36 year old son.

This is the first time I have listened to you ! Thank you so much. I am the step mother of an addict. I too, went thru addiction and spent a year in treatment. My partner (addicts dad) is really angry right now. I want to help him understand what his son is experiencing but struggling a little bit on how to get the message across ! I will keep listening to you both. Thank you ❤

Thank you.

Thank you very much for the video! I feel much better that i found your help! My husband developes an addiction of alchol. Our trust is broken because of his lies. I feel disappointed, sad, angry, worry, anxious. My life becomes a 24/7 job of worrying and work. I lost myself and want to get out of this cage. I realized with my own power i'm not able to handle all these physically and emotionally. I start search help and found this video. I immediately feel much better and steonger. I very much appreciate your video!!!

Thank you for this video. Exactly what I needed to hear today. My qualifier doesn't want help and I'm trying to learn about my codependence and what actions are enabling vs what's helping the situation.

This was very informative. Thank you, guys, for sharing. A real eye opener into addiction. ❤❤

Thankyou guys for this content. You should have WAY more likes with what you are doing and what’s going on in this country

Really helpful, thank you

Thank you so much

Thank you guys so so much you give me hope God Bless i will be subscribing

5 years of lies. 5 years of devastation, with the man I love. I found his dead body and recesistated him. He tells me he needs me and begs me to come back everytime I try boundaries. How do you leave someone when theyre drowning? 😔

@christophermendeslarsen

6 ай бұрын

Imagine you are on a plane and suddenly there is no oxygen The masks fall from above you Who do you put the mask on first ? The man you love ? Your children ? No you must put the mask on you first or else you are useless. Yes he is in deep pain and suffering But so are you Can you control anyone or anything in this world but you? No. You know the answer Put yourself first THEN if you are feeling strong and free, you can help But guess who’s the ONLY person who can actually help him ? Himself.

@lala5061

6 ай бұрын

​@@christophermendeslarsenand that's the hard truth! Only he can save himself!

@lala5061

6 ай бұрын

You're not his mother, he is not your burden...yes it hurts, it's painful but u are not helping him get clean because u are his safety net and that's all u are to him right now the drug is number 1 in his life and u have to understand that! U gotta let him hit rock bottom and remove yourself from his life, if he loves u not having u ever again should be his motivation to get clean!!! Or else u just gonna hurt yourself in the process u aren't going to know if he actually loves u for real, cuz he using u right now!!! 😒 trust me I know the pain 😒 but I had to do it...cuz i started to drink after a while just dealing with him (which i stopped doing cuz it wasn't helping me trying to run from the fact that yes this is reality I chose this smh) and he hid the drug problem well until my son showed me his tablet his dad had been using it and i saw the text now message he sent to his dealer (i knew he smoked weed but the stuff he was talking about wasnt about no damn weed!) smh it was like God wanted me to know for sure yep his weird behaviors and outrageous mood swings this is why it's exactly what u been thinking 🤦🏽‍♀️ smh 😒

Well done guys for your honest and helpful advice for families. Bless you and stay strong!!

I bet if the US Gov. put more (OR HOW ABOUT SOME) importance on addiction recovery and made sure that drug counselors made more $$ like Drs do- we’d have less addicts on the streets and more places they could turn too! Drugs are killing this country in a major way and more focus needs to be put on this issue

Have a very young relative spiraling and drinking dangerous amounts of alchohol daily. He has refused multiple interventions, and at this point hes surrounded by enablers who interefere with the family who is a trying ro help him.

I am new to dealing with this. Yesterday was a bad day. Son knows he has a problem and admitted it. He was acting irratic and strange last night. I asked him if had been drinking today, he became instantly angry and confrontational. I'm now trying to figure out how to navigate this tense terrible situation. His GF is newly pregnant which adds to the stress. I am an abnormally strong person, been through a lot in my life. I am quite calm in stressful Situations. I can see this is going to be a rough journey for even me to deal with. He called me all kinds of names, said such terrible things, surprising it really didn't affect me, I guess cuz I knew he was not sober. Plan to talk to him tonight if he is sober.

@pattyhernandez6546

7 ай бұрын

I wish you the best and will have you in my prayers it’s so hard and painful to see how our son’s are turning into another person😭😞🤦‍♀️🙏

@ninashaffer2617

7 ай бұрын

I feel like I could have written this myself. I hope we can get our kids sober.

@jacquelinehunt7794

6 ай бұрын

I wish you all the best and your son.

@awareness311

5 ай бұрын

Its so hard. You did not cause is, you can't control it, and YOU can't cure it. Detachment with love ❤ read Codependent No More by Melody Beattie. Alanon is a great way to get support. "God, grant me the serenity To accept the things I cannot change, Courage to change the things I can, And wisdom to know the difference." We have to learn that we can live our own life, with boundaries, and thats OK

@FreshTopEnd

5 ай бұрын

I've done this to my family as I hit rock bottom and spiraled out of control. My family were EXTREMELY patient with me and eventually just planned a trip out of the country and just told me they needed me to come for family business. After returning from the month long trip I never looked back and I am now 3 years sober. I think the drastic change of environment really did the trick for me as well as a very supportive family.

Thank you!

Thank you guys so much, I have a sibling in this exact position and I have never dealt with this before. After listening to this I know now what to do and how to approach it. Wish me luck

35 yr old son in hospital now. Repeated severe alcohol withdrawal. Numerous hospital admissions.

How can you help someone with children? How do you “kick them from the house”? Do you take the kids away? What do you do then?

Relatable to me. But helpful as well.

Love your show, Tommy and Nate. Have you already done an episode that covers both of your turning points when you finally had enough relapses and said "No More".

Topic, MAT and having Dr Greer on to educate 😍

My best friend was kicked out too, her parents gave up. I still bring her food and clothes. She is a good person, i ask God to keep her safe and i will do my best. Wish i could get her an Ayuasca treatment, but i don't think that exists here. I haven't been able to convince regular treatment.

I don’t know what to do, my partner recognizes he has a problem but is unwilling to do anything about it.

I’m a single mother with a 33 year old son who Lives in Hawaii with his 14 year old son. He is a drug addict and his girlfriend died last year of an accidental overdose of fentanyl that she did not use. She only smoked marijuana. This has devastated my son to the point of complete self destruction. He has been offered help but will not take it. It is tearing our family apart. I don’t know how to handle this.

@michellegrande777

2 ай бұрын

Mother here of a 27 yr old daughter struggling with addiction since she was in high school. Her boyfriend since high school also had a problem and he passed away last July ‘23 from a fentanyl overdose. They were both in out of many rehabs, would do ok for a bit then relapse. Since his death she has also gone into self destruction and using fentanyl and other things. We have tried everything including a treatment called Ibogaine that has an over 90% success rate but she still couldn’t stop. She has come home and each time we try to help her she starts withdrawing and takes off to the point she’s hanging around a park in the middle of downtown LA and makes herself homeless and is around dangerous people and situations. She gets her drugs there. We try to get her to stay and not leave but she won’t. She knows she’s bad but says she does it cause she’s depressed. I have been through hell and back in this. I’m extremely scared for her. The only thing I have control over is taking cared of myself and my health and pray daily for her. To be there if and when she is ready for help. I would say try to find a support group like Al Anon or others. I’ve been to one awhile back but I’m going to start again. My heart goes out to you cause I’m here in it also. Stay strong and remember to take care of yourself.

Thank you ... enablers are really loving the addict to death 😢 listening to this gives me courage to set healthy boundaries with my partner of 15+ years who has a cocaine addiction... I am planning my exit plan this summer . Can no longer watch him slowly destroy himself 😢

It is but letting go for our own sanity is the best thing. I hope my daughter one day gets better but I’ll leave it in God’s hands

What if they want help but only on their terms?

I myself have recently tried to stop both of us are alcoholics. I was able to go about a week but when he drinks he is just miserable to be around . I did good for a while but went right back to it , it seems it is the only way I can handle being around him when he is drunk. Which is pretty much every night. Such a sad situation . I can’t leave him as I love him so and we made a commitment.

@Dan_Chiron

3 ай бұрын

14:11

Maybe if there was a content provider that has videos showing the love , pain, detriment, and loss that the families of addicts feel , it would help addicts see what they are causing to everyone else

Thanks for doing this, your content is truly valuable. I'd be so grateful if you could outline the researched chemicals, such as alpha-PHP or spice in one of the talks. How can I help my brother through a strong addiction with those cathinones? I don't know where to search for help. Thank you so much in advance!

I'm in the northeast. Can you recommend a contact for adict and parent in Syracuse, NY or Vermont?

My daughter has dual diagnosis bipolar plus substance abuse. We finally kicked her out after 4 years of hell. She doesn’t want to accept her diagnosis of bipolar plus she uses many substances and becomes the devil. She’s 28 and I finally accepted that unless she wants help I can’t help her. It’s so sad

@lindatshappat4973

16 күн бұрын

I have the same dilemma. Refuses to accept the bipolar diagnosis & self medicates with booze. I have tried to separate myself from alcoholics but they keep finding me. My dad, sister, former father in law, former spouse , a boss and now a 45 year old daughter all with alcohol issues. It is so sad.

And who should pay for treatment? Do you offer as the parent?

My daughter's father is a coke addict. While we arent together anymore, i care for him from a distance and we are in therapy together. I appreciate him opening up about his struggles with addiction; however, its extremely frustrating, disappointing and disheartening to watch him destroy himself, his health, etc. Hes a functioning addict and a parent to our 5 year old. I dont believe he has any desire to stop anytime soon, but he makes it sound like hes weaning himself off slowly. I will remain by his side from a distance as a friend, because i dont want him to drown. Its extremely difficult, though, because hes incredibly selfish, unreliable, not dependable and is so flaky. He lies a lot and refuses to pay child support. His parents also enable his behavior and his addiction; they dont really "support him." It feels like im kinda his only support system. Either way, addiction is hard for the user and for the ones watching from the outside. Id be devastated if i got a call saying he ODd or was found dead, and so would our daughter.

I have my fiance that has a drug problem he started saying I want to hurt him and just got so paranoid and he left I'm worried about him being out there how can I help him

I ask this all the time. Lets discuss this ..... I believe financial reasons play a huge factor in why people don't approach addictive behavior. What does a family do financially if that person that has addictive (alcohol or drugs) would go into financial ruins. People need to develop coping skills and have a network to fall back on financially. Most don't have the resources to approach and stop enabling. What's a person or family to do? Some people still function well enough to work. Other's are enabled by the system (government) for money etc etc. Its a BIGGER problem and treatment only works if the network financial or whatever is there. Usually it's not!

@user-bm4wk5ek1q

5 ай бұрын

mental illness is also a huge factor - people without coping skills or insurance use drugs to cope and use unhealthy behaviors.....

@user-bm4wk5ek1q

5 ай бұрын

Eventually people get arrested and the problem snowballs .... and the family or love ones suffer.

Hello, I am trying to deal with my 40 years old son, who was on opioids, lost his family, business, job and lives with me and my husband. He is sleeping most of the day and then plays games. Her has very poor insurance and we can't afford private therapist. Please help us to find right resources. We are in Harrisburg, PA. Thank you

What do you do when KIDS are involved? Is CPS the only option?

My sibling is using and denying use alltogether. How do you even help when they are in denial or wont be honest 😭

Where can I find resources in Hawaii for someone who doesn’t have the money to pay for it

out of the 15 years with my partner , he probably has been sober for 2 months out of 15 years weve been together ... I've cried, left him a couple times, we made up cause he promised me he would change and 15 years later ! rinse... repeat 😢

It's been 4+ years and I don't know what to do for him

He is a functioning alcoholic and said he loves the alcohol more than me.

@janesmith8050

2 ай бұрын

Oof that hurts.

Please help me to come to a conclusion that is useful for him.

Thank you . What about when someone wants help but insists his issues are mental health. But jail rehabs crimes drugs are past behaviors. And old behaviors coming back . Is advice same For if mental health is primary issue? How do you even know?

@pedro6248

5 ай бұрын

good point, sometimes it can start with trauma, a therapist before addiction treatment may be the answer

Where can someone in Dallas plano Texas find a support group

@lspag7415

7 ай бұрын

Google Narcotics Anonymous support groups

I don’t know what to do. My son is not only on methadone but also takes clonophine and steroids. He has had multiple wrecks and still tries to drive. He is mean from the steroids. In lala land from the pills and refuses help of any kind. So afraid of him killing himself or others driving. I don’t want to be around him at all anymore. What can I do?

@daphnekessel14

9 күн бұрын

You are obligated to report him driving under the influence. Refusing to is enabling. The discomfort this causes him is a step to turning on the light for him.

How do I tell my spouse to give up meth ??? If I kick him out he will be homeless,and I struggle knowing he is unwell.I am seeing a psychologist every week to talk about this situation.And it's breaking me.He is a long time user, works for his dad and trys to hide it .I'm concerned for his wellbeing and I have children and attempt to hide it from them.What do I do???

Where is a rehan or counselling place in Plano Dallas Texas

@Optimus19572

20 күн бұрын

I pray you have found help.

What is it with people saying “right” - “right” - “right” every other word?

@positivevibe7684

3 ай бұрын

"Right" is a filler word.

4:58

You cannot help an alcoholic only the alcoholic themselves can they won’t do it for you.

My boyfriend recently told me that if he has cocaine in front of him. Then it'd be a concern because he would take it. Should I be concerned?

When he said S-T-8 I thought he said S-T-ate 💅🏼anyways I hope to look back on this post February 18th, 2024 and say I have left my toxic household behind.

Hi how do you help an addict if you have no money which means no resources in South Africa

@AlysaMarieDawson-bs3zu

7 ай бұрын

You don't help an addict with money anyway, you're supposed to not give an addict money it helps them continue there addiction

@scenicworldtours

7 ай бұрын

I think she means not having money to get them treatment.

I can’t get my addicted son out of my house

@pattyhernandez6546

7 ай бұрын

I just kicked my son out tonight I just couldn’t take it anymore he was really stressing me out, he kept saying that the ground was moving and he kept hearing people yelling, and he would not stay still kept pasting back and forth, at 2:00 in the morning till 4:00 and would not let us rest, so I told him please leave or else I will call the police and got the phone , and with tears in my eyes told him and don’t come back till your normal, and he was angry but left😭

@pb4ugo19

4 ай бұрын

​@@pattyhernandez6546That's heartbreaking. How is everything going?

But what if you cant afford rehab? There are no resources. My child is going to die and no one cares.

So guys why do you do it? Like shooting yourself in the foot. You're doing horrific damage to yourself and your family.

BEEEEEEF CAAAAAKEE

Jail is probably the only way when they refuse help.

@pamelapearson4303

7 ай бұрын

That didn’t work

@groovyyaya737

7 ай бұрын

That is exactly what a local cop told me, he said past time ago they would be in jail for 30 days which gave them a chance when they would come out

@user-in8it1rx6l

6 ай бұрын

Unfortunately you can get anything you want in jail. With so much time to be bored they can come out worse .

@groovyyaya737

6 ай бұрын

If jail doesn’t work, rehab is a expensive crapshoot, she refuses to go to church with me or by herself, love and support doesn’t work, shame doesn’t work AND LAST BUT NOT LEAST: the love she has for her underage children doesn’t work***then what is left

@raymondingram2539

6 ай бұрын

@@groovyyaya737 Sounds like she belongs on the streets.

Why do I resent my drug addict son

Everyone’s thoughts on the legislation they’ve just passed in Canada starting in March 2024 where they will allow drug addicts to euthanasia?

@gailmartindale

5 ай бұрын

Is this for real? I’m a Canadian and I’ve not heard about this.

I’m a substance abuse counselor I have my CASAC and I also have a degree with smart recovery. It’s not your place to help anyone that doesn’t want help … that’s not re recovery works . You need to che k yourself and your ego!!! It’s not your place to dictate to someone what is good for them ! If someone hooses that what they want for their life and themself it’s not your place to interfere!!! Mind your business !!! You should t be in recovery, you’re causing more harm than good !

@jacquelinehunt7794

6 ай бұрын

When my sister came out of detox I comforted her but I couldn’t help her she passed a few months ago and broke my heart.

@SMB75-dh4rv

6 ай бұрын

This advice could be worded more kindly, with some understanding of how distressing it is for those witnessing someone destroying themselves and how dreadful it is to, as this guy says, 'pick up the shrapnel'. When it is your own child and anyone else we love, it is very very difficult to stand back, when it has been your job to love and care for them for years and also, not try to help when periodically they come out of denial and sob to you that they need help, to then go back using and not caring about it. I do understand the point being made and that working one's own program is so important, but it everyone in the family ends up unwell as a result of addiction.

@jacquelinehunt7794

6 ай бұрын

@@SMB75-dh4rv your right I will never get over losing my sister and my poor mum won’t either.

@SMB75-dh4rv

6 ай бұрын

​@@jacquelinehunt7794This is just an unbearable thing to go through. I am so sorry. Sending hugs.

@jacquelinehunt7794

6 ай бұрын

@@SMB75-dh4rv thankyou.

Treatment of addiction? Addicts treat themselves. They overdose and then there’s one less to worry about.

@jesshakola

8 ай бұрын

Clearly you’re hurting.

@kimdisaturd1409

7 ай бұрын

@@jesshakola You see helpless. I see hopeless. You see a disease. I see a choice. You see a daughter. I see a junkie.

@brittonyb5279

7 ай бұрын

@@lorimorman8480 my heart bleeds for you. I haven’t been in your shoes but have enabled someone very close to me who committed suicide while under the influence on drugs and alcohol that I possibly (unintentionally) bought. Please give yourself grace and forgive yourself. Tell yourself everyday that your worthy of forgiveness and you did what you did with good intentions. My thoughts are with you ❤

@lspag7415

7 ай бұрын

You have obviously never had a child, parent or loved anyone who is an addict.

@kimdisaturd1409

7 ай бұрын

@@lspag7415 Nope thank God. None of us are low life junkie scum.

Great video, thank you guys so much for your open candor and helping others struggling with addiction 🩵