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Tis the season to have a meltdown because you're alone, isolated and unable to see family and friends. Is this the worst #Christmas ever? If you find yourself alone during the holiday, I'll give you some easy, real-world tips on how to beat the holiday blues and deal with feeling lonely! #shallonlester #shallon
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Got a love, dating or friendship question? You've come to the right place! I'm Shallon Lester, a two-time published author, NYC magazine editor and star of Howcast's viral kissing videos. I spill the tea on celebs like Kylie Jenner, the Kardashians, Beyonce, Shawn Mendes, Justin Bieber, Hailey Baldwin, Rihanna and more, breaking down their relationships, scandals and psychology to see what lessons WE can learn, and give you no-nonsense advice and real-world tips on everything from dating apps and players, to family and friends!
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Stay with this hair color. You look: elegant,sophisticated, young,clean, lively,passionate,well put together, no wrinkles....suits you.
@shallonlester
3 жыл бұрын
you had me at no wrinkles 😂 thank you so much!
@MindyBeee
3 жыл бұрын
Hahaha she looks great with any colour!!
This hair color is it. Love!
@TOBZMONEYBAG
3 жыл бұрын
Cydnee Black cydddddddddddd
@TOBZMONEYBAG
3 жыл бұрын
Cydnee Black love that u watch shallon
@dajanalulaj8974
3 жыл бұрын
How are you not verified yet 🧐
@sharadwardekar2372
3 жыл бұрын
@@dajanalulaj8974 I was wondering that like bruhh... What
@whatsonhermind1768
3 жыл бұрын
Cydnee!!!! Omg I love when youtubers I love watch each other’s videos :) 🥰
Girl none of us live in a country with competent leaders, they all went crazy. Greetings from Germany
@a.k-6903
3 жыл бұрын
bin auch hierrr!
@d.s.3225
3 жыл бұрын
Willkommen! 🙋Gemeinsames Leid ist halbes Leid😅😅
@chloeschmid1312
3 жыл бұрын
Hahah living in New Zealand!
@Anna-ht6sz
3 жыл бұрын
Ja Servus :D
@kourtenayt1927
3 жыл бұрын
Hello from Canada... we are fucked here too lol
These warm tones are everything. Hair looks luxurious and fab, like an actress!
I will be staying home with my foster kittens this Christmas! I won’t be lonely or bored but I’ll be very happy and helping them out is always a plus ❤️✨
@jasonpikachu7091
3 жыл бұрын
Be my friends
Shallon. You’re making me look at being alone in a whole different way. Why not celebrate my birthday by being alone in Paris than alone in my apartment feeling sorry for the myself. Good points.
@Stephmac2403
3 жыл бұрын
Celebrate Yourself, with Yourself!!! ❤❤❤
@wildcatste
3 жыл бұрын
I understand you can get used to what you have, but I am here to remind you that you are in Paris! You go enjoy the delicious food and beautiful scenery! And Happy birthday! Sincerely, someone stuck in Florida.
@janicehull8017
3 жыл бұрын
@@chrisauh do you feel better about yourself by this comment?
@chrisauh
3 жыл бұрын
@@janicehull8017 Just stating facts.
@janicehull8017
3 жыл бұрын
@@chrisauh I hope that 2021 makes you a better person. Bye
I've been single for 10 years after a long relationship, and I started travelling Greek and Spanish islands in summer, alone. That was real luxury.
@markhatfield2724
3 жыл бұрын
What places . Are they affordable and safe. I’d love to travel
I want more of this type of videos of just shallon sitting with us for a nice talk and share her wisdom rather then her sharing her wisdom through celebritiy lifes.
still cant believe how beautiful your hair color is😩
@anjumajajopa2352
3 жыл бұрын
Samee
Right on time! My divorce just got finalized & my life looks unrecognizable. I know it’ll get better, but this sucks 😞
@liplock000
3 жыл бұрын
Oof. I’m so sorry. Don’t forget to be extra kind to yourself during this time!
@debranobles
3 жыл бұрын
Better to be alone than have an enemy in the gate.
@hernandez7659
3 жыл бұрын
Hang in there, hope you find your way through this ♡
@jennahope4353
3 жыл бұрын
it will.... cultivate a romantic life. it changed the game. this time trusting God's timing.
@becca6867
3 жыл бұрын
I hope things get better for you and that you can find peace with your new life ❤️
Shallon! Thank you ssoooo much for my cameo! It was about making friends in college and I took your advice and forced myself into a new friendship group! Now they’ve asked me to move in with them next year! THANK YOU!
@shallonlester
3 жыл бұрын
OMG YESSSSS! I'm so happy to hear this!! Fortune favors the bold!
I live in Europe (currently in Central Europe, before I was living in Southeastern part) and personally, I feel like here people are used to being alone, travelling alone, eating alone, being in a bar alone, walking around town alone, living alone, ... I have witnessed so many people do so and I am doing it myself too. In America, however, I get a sense of everything moving so fast, walking fast, you're pretty much forced to always be surrounded with people and talk to people, you're online 24/7, have to be available at all times and at all costs. It sounds so exhausting... That's why I feel the quality of life in America is lower. You guys can't seem to catch a break and even if you do, it's like you're judged and side-eyed from others... it is kinda sad. But I encourage you to take your life into your hands, take a break when you need to and do it alone, if you feel like it. If you ever feel unease, simply call someone on the phone. Or play some music, listen to podcast. It is going to help you. Being alone is oftentimes in a lot of ways more transformative than being constantly surrounded by people.
Important topic to cover. Also, that hair color makes me want to dye mine as well 😊
@jasonpikachu7091
3 жыл бұрын
Lia K your stunning
@mirelaelisabetamihai1007
3 жыл бұрын
What colour from L'Oreal would match it?Asking for a friend...
@jasonpikachu7091
3 жыл бұрын
@@mirelaelisabetamihai1007 what colour would match what 😋
@CuteNP
3 жыл бұрын
@@jasonpikachu7091 wow thank you :)
@CuteNP
3 жыл бұрын
@@mirelaelisabetamihai1007 I wish I knew
Playing with makeup and taking long hot bubble baths! Thats all i have ever wanted my whole life and it is my indulgence, and has been an amazimg during the whole pandemic thing!
Being in solitude, instead of feeling lonely. The word solitude has a great meaning, the joy of being with yourself. I write a thankful journal everything day. Of things, persons and situations, capacities, etc. that I feel blessed to have everyday. Not always I will have the same persons, things or oportunities in my life. I share this, if it helps you.
@kourtenayt1927
3 жыл бұрын
Being grateful is a great way to get out of loneliness 🌝
@thequeenofwitches7943
3 жыл бұрын
@@kourtenayt1927 Totally agree.
@thequeenofwitches7943
3 жыл бұрын
My thing is that I hate holidays and don't celebrate them except for Holloween. I can't stand the decorations, music, and the craziness in the stores lol.
I needed this right now , especially from brunette Shallon 😅💓
@terran6055
3 жыл бұрын
love is ginger haha
@laprincesa3608
3 жыл бұрын
@@terran6055 good thing brown is just dark orange anyway 😎 thanks love
23:50 - "There is freedom in restraint"... I learned this by finally budgeting and managing my personal finances in the past few months. Initially I thought that allocating funds for certain things would be hindering, however I'm richer than I've ever been - fiscally and mentally. Also agree that the lockdown has provided amazing opportunities to go into hermit mode, it's amazing 😎
Your hair colour is shiny and beautiful! I think if you wear Emerald green clothing it will complement your hair colour and skin tone!
Shallon I love the way you make me think about if I am really happy. When I was a little 9 year old, I used to have "meghan time" which was shrimp abd cocktail sauce, a kiwi and a tub of ben and jerries while watching my favorite show and I was left ALONE. It was the best. And I love my boyfriend so much, but hes not home right now so i made popcorn, licking the butter off the bag and watching shallon. I love that you make me think!
The hair suits you Shallon!!! You look like Jessica Rabbit ❤️❤️❤️🤣👍
Thank you Shallon for this video. I really needed it. You’re so right ! We gotta reconnect to our innocent self at times, it feels like it’s our internal compass. Happy holidays to you & cowboy xo
Love you Shallon! Your videos are like talking to a friend and also like therapy! This topic is also perfect timing. Xoxo from germany 💜
@anaxo1971
3 жыл бұрын
I love Germany xxx
@jenni230
3 жыл бұрын
Ana Xo ❤️
Shallon, I couldn’t agree with you more, being alone is a huge luxury most of the times! I’m about to spend Xmas alone this year, so I’m planning to do that by loving myself first of all and giving me whatever I want and need :) Good music and peace will be some of my good presents!
I’m so grateful for all the content you’re creating! It makes my day to get ready in the morning to your videos! Loving the warm brunette look 💗 You’re seriously gorgeous
@agent_procrastinateur
3 жыл бұрын
I'm in the bathroom putting my face on and listening to Shallon right now 🥸
This makes me want to go book a nice hotel in my city and just spend a day by myself
@shallonlester
3 жыл бұрын
Do it! It's really so therapeutic and indulgent to just BE and explore and hey even if you dont love it, that can be stimulating too!
You all are only feeling lonely during the holidays? Not all the time?? I needed this video since I was born, lbvs😭 Topic suggestions! Retro Bae Leo and Gisele, from how she dumped him because he couldn't grow up and now he stays at the age she froze him at Scott Disick and dating men with kids Michelle and Barack!!! Would actually love your take on popular romantic comedy movies Your life as a blonde vs brunette Where is the Cowboy puppy video about being a first time puppy mama?? I love you. ♡ Thank you for this constant content!
Loooooooooving your new hair!! Such a beautiful colour too. It gives you a "vintage glamorous Hollywood actress" vibe. It's very "christmassy" too :-)
Can you please make more videos like this, Shallon? They really help. Can you make a video on how to not take impulsive decisions like contacting guys when you don't want anything to do with them?
Supporting Shallon even though I don’t get lonely and enjoy being alone.
I came here for the new hair.
The top, the makeup, the hair, the decor. GIRL. You’re always doing it 100. But in this case you’re doing it at 110!
"God knows it's not physical fitness" sent me! 😂😂
I looove solo travel -it’s amazing and yes, you can do what you want when you want. It’s so freeing and peaceful. I think EVERYONE should do it at least once in their life
Shallon looking awesome. Love the fact that you match colours ❤️ and im getting emma stone vibes w this hair color 🤩
I have to admit, I wasn’t sure about the hair but girl you’re rocking it!!
Love a coordinated queen! You look beautiful Shallon! ❤️✨
Speaking of loneliness: i used to be the one who eats alone at a restaurant and feel horrible because i thought “i’m the only one in the world like this”... but now i don’t feel ashamed or weird
And I love how your hair is matching with your decoration
Can you do a video on what helped you with your depression? Or correct me if I am wrong but I remember that you said that you used to take antidepressants and probiotics helped you to get off of them. Could you please talk about some strategies or tipps?
@shallonlester
3 жыл бұрын
Yes! Probiotics made an immense difference and I was able to wean myself off Lexapro. But last year I had someone stalking me, and my doctor said I was going into a tailspin that I wasn't going to be able to pull out of, so I went on Trintellix. Depression can be like that--one thing kicks it off and then, IDK, it's like you get caught in this mental quicksand. But working out helped a LOT, it was the only time my brain and anxiety shut off, and the endorphins kept me more stabilized for hours after. Really just streamlining my life helped too. I sleep more, I drink a TON of water (that made a huge difference, which I didn't expect, it's like my body didn't have the nutrients or hydration to combat the depression), and I say no to thing way more often. If something is going to give me anxiety, I don't do it. Because small anxious situation will tip into a LARGE anxious fiasco; it's a domino effect. And of course, therapy therapy therapy. Yes meds make a difference, but they work best with therapy so you build that emotional toolbox to cope with things NOT using pills. The body leads the mind. If we're being busy, using cognitive behavioral therapy strategies to stay in control, etc, then our mind is more likely to say "Ok, we're doing this. We're moving in a direction of happiness. Fine." Taking pills but not changing your life, mindset, or habits will only take you so far. Like getting physically healthy; working out is good but you have to eat right too, and vice versa. Same with the mind.
@jenni230
3 жыл бұрын
Shallon Lester Thank you for your explicit answer! I am glad you‘re doing better now. I hoped you would not say working out (jokes). But yeah I agree. For me its very hard working out from home. I simply don‘t have the energy. I know it‘s an excuse. But before the lockdown I did muy thai and I was forced to workout for a specific time. At home I can stop the workout whenever I want to. Yes, therapy helped me alot, but it is such a long process. I am doing therapy since 2017 already and sometimes I am wondering, will I ever be happy and mentally healthy? I see progresd but it seems like it will always be this way. (Btw I can‘t believe you really answered lol. Saved my day)
Ahh i just love you! I think all the time about the people bitching that they are stuck at home with their kids. I bet the second everyone is back to work and school they will just complain that they miss their kids lol humans are so messy. Great video and message as usual
Giiiiirl your new hair color looks so good on you, damn
Thank you so much for this video! Just got out of a two year relationship. That,plus this whole year has thrown me into a depression. Keep up the great content!!
I’m an only child, so I can totally relate! We get creative and flourish being alone. I can go to the movies alone, I prefer it.
Just watched 2 videos in a row. I failed in a very important exam a month ago which now I have to repeat for another year... :( It's been a really really hard month and a very lonely one ofcourse... This video is a blessing. ♥️
@ruzaruza6286
3 жыл бұрын
Good luck❤
@sharadwardekar2372
3 жыл бұрын
@@ruzaruza6286 🙏 thank you
Beautiful! Shallon, what are your favorite lipstick brands and eyeshadows? Your makeup is always 💯
@shallonlester
3 жыл бұрын
Shadows are Huda Beauty (they're my baes) and lipstick is MAC liner in Soar with NYX butter gloss in fortune cookie or creme brulee over it!
You look gorgeous with that hair. LOVED your point about why you guys have such a tough time with the pandemic. When everything shut down in Denmark, we were OK. Probably because freedom isn't our brand. You gave me insight. And damn girl, what a perspective on loneliness, travel and so forth. Well done with this video
Love your notion of travelling = challenge, so staying home can also be travelling in a way. Love how you always look at things in another perspective.
I am currently writing in my journal feeling lonely and then... Shallon uploads about the thing that I am feeling. I feel like the Universe answered me. Love you Shallon and btw, look pretty
@shallonlester
3 жыл бұрын
Maybe its not the universe, maybe i'm in your house. Under the bed. I like your top, you look pretty today.
@airasenju2997
3 жыл бұрын
@@shallonlester oh thank you Shallon, you made me smile 💕💕
You look so good!! It’s very fresh and vibrant which matches your personality :) Blonde is also beautiful but this just pops!
You're nu lewk is AMAZING!!!
ADORE YOUR HAIR. NEXT LEVEL. 🔥🔥🔥
The background color story matching your awesome new hair and the top is *chef’s kiss*
You have been a ray of positivity in all of this. Love you, Shallon!
The new haircolor and your eyes remind me of Rose from Jane the Virgin :P
@katherinesalem
3 жыл бұрын
That’s so funny, I just started watching that show and thought Shallon looks like Petra!
@Makingmsmindset
3 жыл бұрын
@@katherinesalem yes the blonde shsllon does 😂
I LOVE this colour on you. You are giving me some major Bree Van de Kamp vibes and I am living for it!
I'm an only child too raised by a single mother so I see where you're coming from. You have to learn to entertain yourself 🙂
Actually.. being quarantined cured my loneliness because my husband had to stop working and spent his time at home and now that he is back at work (i am not from the US) I struggle to find balance again and i needed this video. I will try to enjoy my loneliness n'y doing all of the things I couldnt do with people around. Great advice 💜
Great pep talk Shallon. These are the traits of resilience, and this is what we needed to hear. 💋
Haha I'm alone in Paris. Bc I live here. Can't complain.
Hey Shallon! Can you do a video on what we should expect from a guy in each phase in our life? I’m a teenager and I honestly don’t know how to adjust my standards to be more realistic for my age. Are there several versions of an alpha male at different ages? If so I would love to hear more about it!
@starryeyed777
3 жыл бұрын
I know you asked Shallon...but I’m going to say...please always expect respect at each and every phase of your life ✌🏼✌🏼✌🏼
@KG-ud9ki
3 жыл бұрын
@@starryeyed777 of course🥰
@starryeyed777
3 жыл бұрын
@@KG-ud9ki 🙌🏼🙌🏼🤗🤗
LOVE HOW SHALLON PLAYS WITH THE AESTHETICS IN THE BACKGROUND!!😍😍😍😍😍😍😍
Shallon you look sooo hot with this new hair color 😍
I'd love a video about something like 'too ugly to date' cause i really think my appearance is the only reason why i'm single..
@allypallygally
3 жыл бұрын
Firstly, you look lovely in your pic. Secondly, there’s really no such thing as too ugly to date 🙂 There are perpetually single amongst the most beautiful and plenty of happily married people who are less than perfect. I promise you it’s all in the mindset 🌻
@nazarisreyes6037
3 жыл бұрын
@@allypallygally the pic a Kim K meme On the other hand, appearance is definitely is definitely not the only thing about dating, I think I'm attractive and I have been single for a long time, is ok to wait until something that is worth the time and the effort comes along ❤️
@user-vv7nm4le4l
3 жыл бұрын
@@allypallygally Ahah it's not me in the picture but thank you for you kind words but time goes by and i tend to think appearance is all that matters now, men won't approach a woman (not even as a friend) if they don't find her at least a little bit cute...
@user-hp5mr4yz8h
3 жыл бұрын
Honestly you're right. It's the reason you're not dating. But it's because YOU see it that way. There are many times I see people that I can admit are not good looking but they have something that makes them attractive. And I'm not going to lie, appearance does matter, but every single human being is beautiful. You are beautiful, don't think otherwise.
@lilliabibby7006
3 жыл бұрын
@@user-hp5mr4yz8h You're so right. People can be magnetic with the right attitude and disposition. Accentuating your good features helps too. Find ways you can get to know people on more than just a superficial level. I know it's hard during Covid. I felt the same way for awhile but you don't want to be with someone who is only interested in you for your looks.
This color is perfect for your new life and this winter season. Looking great Shallon it really makes your eyes pop!
Can you talk about health anxiety with the current situation and how to enjoy holidays when your health is not 100% perfect
Shallon: hopefully you live in a country with competent leaders Me: *lives in spain*
Shallon i swear you're my fairy god mom like you cover the theme of my week evrytime you upload. I just left my husband before Thanksgiving and we had all these plans for Christmas with my step daughter and I was literally just bawling my eyes out in target right now 😭 Because I'm alone AF Never lonley but I WANNA WRAP PRESENTS and wear matching pjs 🎁 😩
@riturao6565
3 жыл бұрын
We all are in same boat, I was engaged last year in Christmas, turn a out my ex fiance was sociopath and he physically abused me in June, so yess I am too alone AF, but its a new adventure and yeah he was my take away card
Shallon, I can relate to this topic because being an only child I was alone alot of holidays in the past. My late mother was a nurse so she had to work nights, weekends and holidays, I didn't have a closeknit family so even as an adult I've spent holidays alone. I've learned to adjust to it over the years, though but it's never easy. I would love to see a show on inexpensive gifts as you mentioned in closing. Hugs to your pup, Cowboy. Take care 💫
This hair color fits you perfectly.
I Love your hair! It’s good to have a change with the seasons, unleash your inner creativity.
Thank you for your sassy videos. Your hair colour rocks. This topic is so spot on for this time in the pandemic era, no family Christmas this year and travelling so far.
It’s time to prep for singleness in cuffing season!
Your eyes with this hair colour are ✨Glowing✨ I loved this video. I try to keep myself super busy with my hobbies as much as i can. Now that i'm thinking about it, i can do it because i'm single. So maybe i shouldn't be longing for a partner so much, while watching hallmark Christmas movies 😂. I'll try improving in writing/drawing/sewing/singing/playing the guitar/gaming. Maybe i should even learn about gardening.
The hair: It's a yes from me.
Thank you Shallon ❤️ I wish I could travel alone and get away from college and family. But that will have to wait. This video helps me to feel normal.
Hair is truly luminous. That is the best description!
@chimichanga87
3 жыл бұрын
Also might I add, I appreciate that you don’t actually edit cut your videos at all. Very very rare for KZread.
Love everything you said. Before the pandemic I travel all over South America by myself. I love solo traveling. I recommend it. It is not expensive if you choose wisely.
Love this hair! So young and fresh!!
I'm LOVING those fuzzy trees behind You!!! 😍😍😍 Ur hair looks Amazing too 😉
Like the older sister I never had ♡
Maybe that's why I'm abnormally ok with being alone- I'm an only child. I agree...boredom is worse. Btw, you should do a video on how birth order affects relationships. Just moved to France, living alone in an Airbnb hole in the wall during a strict lockdown. When the restaurants were open, I had crepes and wine alone- pure LUXURY!! And I've been doing good! My father once said, "if you don't enjoy your own company, then you're in big trouble!"
Wow. This made me tear up. This video resonated with me so much! Thank you always for your words.
Your hair looks amazing!! It makes you look so young and more beautiful 😍
Thank you for your wisdom. Also this hair color on you is perfection omg.
Your hair color is great on you. Love all the glory in the shine!
You look so much like Joan from Mad Men! 😍
This is my favorite Shallon video EVER!!! Love the perspective ❤
The advice that “ what would 9yr old you do?” Is amazing .. groom my dog(aka play dog salon) I used to call hikes in any non urban areas “adventures” so looking to do more of that 😂
You just proof a point ....that pretty people look great in any hair colour 😍
YOUR HAIR LOOKS FABULOUSLY SHINY SHALLON, GREAT JOB
You said so many enlightening things in this video, I bet if the camera moves down you are sitting on a cloud ☁️
Needed this video more than anything else
HAIR GIRL. YES YES YESSSS 😍😍😍 looks fresh and healthy! Love you!
I just want the holiday cuddles
@markhatfield2724
3 жыл бұрын
I just want to be somebody’s somebody
A nice restaurant in Paris on my birthday alone sounds wonderful to me..
Loved you with blond hair ❤ You're still the beautiful Shallon, it's just my opinion.
I really needed this, you made me look at it differently. Thanks :) BTW Your hair is stunning, that colour!
Love your look, from make up and haircolor to your shirt ❤️ Perfect!
Truly profound!!
I really needed this right about now. Thank you so much for this!