Watch the entire HSP playlist here 👉👉 kzread.info/head/PLpDAC25h6PC8v5bhadp2pKQrK_0e4sd55 Here's an index for the questions: Crying in public places 1:03, Getting anxious when overstimulated 3:07, Highly sensitive children 4:19, Feeling sad from the news 6:05, Relationships of two HSPs 7:14, Habits for self reflection 8:14, Explaining our sensitive trait to non-HSPs 9:27.

@tracy--4622

4 жыл бұрын

I am an HSP person and my boyfriend is SOOOOO not and he refuses to listen, read or anything about it. He thinks I am "broken, too sensitive and need to toughen up" (just like you said). What pointers do you have for dealing with this?

I remember being a child constantly worried about people seeing me cry. I wished to be able to control myself, so I could show a stronger me. When I was at 2nd grade in Elementary, I was sent to the school's psychologyst because I drew all the time, and I preferred to draw rather than play soccer or do other stuff. I'm 28, and life hasn't been an easy one. Certainly, I haven't had a lot of bad things like others, like diseases or losses, but the constant struggle of not fitting in, of not finding people who can relate to your words, of appreciating things and not be able to share the experience because for the others you're just weird, eccentric, crazy...well, that isn't a life I wish others to have. I've found recently about Character Strenghts, maybe you know about it by now. I think HSP is widely related with the Appreciation of Beauty and Excellence strength. You know about it? Greetings from Mexico.

Thank you sooooo much for answering the question about getting overloaded by the news but wanting to stay up to date! Most of my friends and family are news junkies, and I don't think most people today realize how many of us are! They act like I am so weird when I say I won't watch the news or get on social media! Thanks for the validation ❤️

I am highly sensitive as well. I love my family fiercely, can’t watch movies at the theatre, nor news articles. I also talk through things in my mind. I find I need time to myself, especially in my garden with a cup of tea. Loved the video. Danke.

@SimpleHappyZen

5 жыл бұрын

Thanks so much MrsPink64 😊 Tea in the garden sounds lovely ❤

@oliviabrandi5347

5 жыл бұрын

MrsPink64 I don’t like going to the movie theater, either. It’s too dark and too loud. I would actually run out of the theater when I was a child. Now I’ll only go to the movies if I know I’ll like it. How did you know you hated theaters too?

@MrsPink64

5 жыл бұрын

I have always hated the surround sound. I knew I was fine at Drive ins, which is the best way in the 70’s to take 7 kids, but have had to leave every time I go to a regular theatre. I feel shaky and anxious. All the nerves in my arms are jumping around. IMAX is the worst. I know others like the stimulation from it. I feel like I am stimulated 10x what everyone else is.

@oliviabrandi5347

5 жыл бұрын

Me too. IMAX is fine when the images are beautiful nature pics, but anything glitter than that (which is everything lol) I physically can't stay in the room. Anything in 3D or 4D is horrible, too. I never understood why that was a trend.

@MrsPink64

5 жыл бұрын

I am not alone then. Nice to know. ❤️

🤗 It feels so good to hear & see other HSP’s like me. I am also more of an empath & more introvert. Being misunderstood was painful, because I was labeled personalities I (wasn’t) and am not.

@SimpleHappyZen

5 жыл бұрын

I understand Naz 🙂 There are lots of people who are experiencing the same things you (we) are!

What a wonderful informative series. Thank you so much for explaining about HSP. I need to avoid the news ( I live in the US) and it’s so crazy right now some days I feel like I can’t breathe. Have a great weekend Vera. 💜

@SimpleHappyZen

5 жыл бұрын

Thanks Tina, happy you liked the series!! Avoiding the news sounds like a smart thing to do. Have a lovely sunday! 🙂🌿

I can relate to everything you said. The news affects me a lot so I try not to watch too much of it. It helps that I have lots of sensitive people around me so we understand and support each other well. I can see how that being a HSP affected my ability to handle my dad who did not express his anger appropriately. I would withdraw. We've improved our relationship thankfully. Now I'm working on assertiveness, communication skills and conflict resolution. Being a HSP and learning how to deal with conflict have made me a better person and therapist. Thank you so much for these videos. They are so validating and positive. ❤️

@SimpleHappyZen

5 жыл бұрын

Thanks so much for sharing Kat, and I'm happy you liked the series 💕 I think it's awesome that you're working on these things and growing in these areas as a person and a therapist, and investing time and energy into self development. I think these skills can really be very valuable. Keep it up and have a great rest of your week! 🌿

This series has been very helpful. I read The Highly Sensitive Person and it explained a great deal. I have frequently been told that I think too much, from friends and parents. I now realize that this is because I'm an HSP. I now silently tell these people that perhaps they think too little. If they are open to it, I will try to explain. If not, I just change the subject. It was just one more thing that made me realize that I am very different from most people.

@SimpleHappyZen

5 жыл бұрын

That's great Sue, so happy the HSP series was helpful for you. :) I love that you found this way of dealing with people who tell you that you think too much. Take care! 🤗🌱🌹

Nice video! 😊 The childhood part sounds familiar. Mostly the need for alone time. Well, I still have that 😛

@SimpleHappyZen

5 жыл бұрын

Thanks Miralci 😄 Yes me too haha

This is so useful. I find all your videos so kind and useful, thank you.

@SimpleHappyZen

5 жыл бұрын

Thank you Annabel 😄 Hope to keep seeing you around!

Thank you Vera, I have absolutely loved this series. Its been so informative and now I don’t feel as though there’s something wrong with me which I used to do. I had a similar situation to yours with the lady on the subway except it was an engineer that came to my home to repair my door intercom. His father had been taken into a specialist care home with dementia and as he was telling me about it he began to get upset so I started to cry and he was trying to apologise to me! I was so embarrassed so I had to pretend that I had experienced something similar with a family member which is why I had gone into a melt down 😢

@SimpleHappyZen

5 жыл бұрын

Thanks so much The other Alys, so happy you enjoyed the series 😄 And I'm glad you don't feel like there's anything wrong with you, cuz there isn't! 🤗✌ Haha yes I can imagine how you must have felt 😄 It's also a funny story to laugh about later 🌿

I am a HSP and it has been so hard long way through life but This series has been really helpful and enlightening thank you Vera love you

@SimpleHappyZen

4 жыл бұрын

So glad the HSP series is helpful for you Heba! :)

Very well said Vera than you. I would love to appeal on parents. This is appeal based on my real story. As a teenager I remember my father shouting at me frequently that I do belong to psychiatric unit and I was banned from crying, now and then being ridiculed in front of others. Of course, i developed depression. My mum loved me as I was but was too scared to back me up. I am 41 years old and still suffering from this "family treatment". Parents, please do not ever punish children for being sensitive or empaths!!! Ever! It will stay with them forever and make lots of damage. Please, take their needs seriously even if you don't understand them. It is real!

The choice of background score is also so soothing. It totally helps to calm down and understand things better. Thank you!

Ah! I’m late! Sorry! Thank you so much for answering my question! I agree, any type of physical movement can be wonderfully meditative for the mind. I love grooming my horse and cleaning his stall for that reason. No phones, no screens, just me and him and my thoughts. Also, I completely get you on seeing graphic images and listening to the news. I cannot do it more than once a day otherwise I get anxious. Thanks for another great video! This one was one of your best so far! ❤️💕

@SimpleHappyZen

5 жыл бұрын

Hahaha no problem Olivia 😃 Yes I can totally see how grooming your horse can be super calming and relaxing. I've always loved horses too, they seem so wise somehow 😊 Thanks so much for your compliment too, that's really cool to hear haha. Have a lovely day!!

I found your channel last night 🥰 You're very calming.......you make the information easy to interpret, and you don't overwhelm me in the slightest. That's a great combination for this hsp! Very happy to have found you 🥰 Thank you in advance for the..... future helpful videos 😊

@SimpleHappyZen

3 жыл бұрын

You're very welcome Sarah, happy you found my channel! :)

Even though I'm not a HSP myself, I really liked this video. I've got some of the aspects of HSP like crying easily in public and paying attention to details a lot. For example I can get really excited about a beautiful sunset or delicious food, in a way that other people think it's funny to see how I'm raving about something. The one thing I don't recognise is that I'm not easily overstimulated and I can shut off myself for stimuli real easy if I want to. So I think that's why I'm not a HSP, maybe a SP ;)

@SimpleHappyZen

5 жыл бұрын

Haha yes maybe you're right! 🤗🌻 Thanks for sharing MindOfMine, have a lovely sunday!

Thank you so much for answering my question. It was really helpful! Hopefully we would be able to understand a little better how the little sensitive child in our family

@SimpleHappyZen

5 жыл бұрын

You're welcome Lu! I read in the book that the most important thing is to not protect them too much (thus creating the belief that the world is scary and bad) and also not to push them over their limits. So that balance of letting them explore the world, and being there for them when they need it. 🌿

@Luciana927

5 жыл бұрын

Simple Happy Zen thanks again Vera! I already ordered the book. I can’t wait to read it!

@SimpleHappyZen

5 жыл бұрын

Hope you'll like it! :)

Love this so much, and I find a lot of recognition in it... I also talk things through within my mind and sense feeling wise what it means. Love also, when I am overwhelmed, to slow down and give myself extra Solitude en reflection time to decompress. Lately I've been reading in the evenings with a (tv) fireplace and some soft music and its so incredibly wonderful to do.

@SimpleHappyZen

5 жыл бұрын

Oooh that sounds lovely Rose Angel! 😊🌿

Thank you for the very calming b-roll! 😊🍂

@SimpleHappyZen

5 жыл бұрын

My pleasure Brenna 😊 Thanks for commenting ✌

Hi Vera I really enjoyed this one, nearly everything you talked about rings true with me especially sensitivity to the news, sad stories and the need to be alone quite a lot to switch off from over stimulation sometimes! I am finally learning to cope so much better in general by knowing and understanding why things affect me so much compared to others and just knowing this makes life so much easier! I will watch this again as there is so much information that can help I can’t thank you enough? It’s very liberating to realise you are not a big softy needing to harden up but a caring sensitive soul that can only make our world a much better place 🤗😀❤️

@SimpleHappyZen

5 жыл бұрын

You said it Therese!! 😃🌿 Thanks so much for sharing, and I'm happy you enjoyed the video!! Have a wonderful day

I can relate so much! Thank you Vera!!!

@SimpleHappyZen

5 жыл бұрын

You're very welcome MsRazno 😊 Thanks for your support 🌿

Thank you very much. Through this video I learnt that my child is HSP. At least now I can learn to deal with her sensitive feelings with a different approach.

@SimpleHappyZen

5 жыл бұрын

I'm so glad vidya n 😊🌿

Really insightful video Vera👌Everything you shared resonated with me😊 My non-HSP colleagues and friends are often surprised at how many subtleties, emotions and information I can pick up either by observation or spending brief amounts of time with another person. This has always come naturally and like you shared in your video I too need to put a 'wall' up as it can be too exhausting. The positive thing about this though is HSP's tend to notice the genuine and quieter people's inner qualities shine through😊

@SimpleHappyZen

5 жыл бұрын

Well said Sel Jav! 🙂🌿 Thanks so much for sharing

Love how knowledgeable and compassionate you are 💕 I learned a lot! High five fellow weird kid :'D Have a great week ahead Vera, peace ✌

@SimpleHappyZen

5 жыл бұрын

Thanks Jane, that's sweet 😙🌾 Hope you have a great week too!!

My daughter has some of the HSP tendencies but also has adhd. She is really tuned in to peoples emotions and what people say about her. There are others but they are associated with adhd. We have struggled but been coping and dealing with her learn to cope. Thanks for the advice, it will help us to develop her coping skills.

Thank you for explaining clearly what HSP really is! ❤ I am a HSP, but frankly I dont know any other who is, exept my eldest son. Tried to speak about this subject among some friends today, they didn’t have a clue…. Well, for me it is important to explain! The hardest thing being a HSP is taking in other peoples issues, I react deeply when friends/ others get sick, espescially life trethening illnesses… 😢 I have to hide myself sometimes, so to speak… 😊

I totally agree about how soul distroying it is to see pictures of abused animals on protests like these and I relate to how it sticks with me like a shadow!

@SimpleHappyZen

4 жыл бұрын

Yes it can be really challenging..

I loved this series. Thank you, I really enjoyed and learned a lot. 🙏💕

@kristenalbert2012

5 жыл бұрын

Btw: Thank for answering my question.

@SimpleHappyZen

5 жыл бұрын

Haha you're very welcome Siera, thanks for sending it in! 😊🌿 Happy you liked the series!!

You're VERY lucky to have supportive parents.

It’s like looking in the mirror listening to you. Found out in my fifties. I am 61 now. I seem very extravert but am really introvert. Some people think I’m very insensitive but that’s just my self protective mask. I don’t read newspapers. Don’t watch the news and get really down when KZread shows pictures of tortured animals when I open it. Looked how I could ban these but cannot find a way. I can get very agressive when eg someone touches me with their cart in the supermarket. Cannot stand flashing images on tv and wonder why everything they show on tv has to move constantly. I can cry with music but am not so touched by art. I think it is a burden because I get exhausted. Had a burn out at 60 and spent the entire year before retirement home to recover. I’m a perfectionist and nothing is ever good enough. I don’t allow many people to get close because then I can no longer hide it. Talking about it I tried once and the answer was : but oh I have those feelings too. So no more. My husband has a soft and very compassionate character but can stand everything, anything and anyone. Never gets fed up or irritated. In that respect it’s sometimes difficult for me because he says thing like : don’t focus on that or stop annoying yourself. I don’t HAVE to focus I AM always focused. We just are that way and “normal” people sometimes don’t understand. My one wish is them getting in my body for one day and me in theirs. Just to see how it feels not to be HSP.

Thank you for sharing and the links you provided helped

@SimpleHappyZen

5 жыл бұрын

I'm so glad 😄🌺

I believe that sensitivity in women is far more accepted and understood that it is in men, who are naturally competitive in nature, and as a result high sensitivity shows weakness particularly to females who in the majority would seem to look for stability, reassurance and strength of mind when choosing a partner. All my relationships to date have fallen apart to due to an overly sensitive personality that I've never understood or been able to overcome. It is a flaw that has cursed me on many occasions while also being an ally in life too. Currently its like sitting on a resource that I have no idea how to utilize in order to make my life stable and fulfilling. I do find your videos accurate to what I experience regularly and I want to thank you for them. Hopefully the more I research and learn the clearer the path will become.

Thank you for educating and put together viedo.i dont think i am highly sensitive, however i am sensitive. I can relate to some things like not watching the news

@SimpleHappyZen

4 жыл бұрын

Yes sensitivity is also on a spectrum, so non-HSPs might also recognize some of these things :)

Awesome content. Love from India.

@SimpleHappyZen

5 жыл бұрын

Thanks so much 😀🤗

@Nursingby

5 жыл бұрын

is hsp is normal?? or any strong connection between hsp and ocd . means does all hsp has ocd?

you are great

@SimpleHappyZen

5 жыл бұрын

Thank you Soheila :)

Mijn hoge sensitiviteit heeft opgemerkt dat je van Nederland afkomstig bent 😊

@SimpleHappyZen

4 жыл бұрын

Hahahahha jazeker :D

I was exactly like you as a child and lucky me has 2 of me (my kids) they are both HSP

mam in school i have bad friends that can tease me lot and i cried lot then how to stop to feel bad when some one tease you

What's your Myers-Briggs code Vera? Mine is INFJ

@SimpleHappyZen

5 жыл бұрын

Hi Helen! Mine was actually ENFJ 😊 I was surprised about that, until I read the personality description, which felt very true. It's an interesting test 🙂

Following the news is also not recommended for people with a tendency towards depression (what used to be called « melancholy »). Nowadays, news are showed down our throats with the only results of making us feel helpless and useless. I also hate cruelty against animal and do what I can to prevent it and support organised charities, but I don’t want to see any more images of animal abuse. I know it happens, it makes feel terrible, I actively support a cruelty-free lifestyle and I don’t think that seeing more atrocities will “toughen me up” in any way.

@SimpleHappyZen

5 жыл бұрын

I feel completely the same way MsJuliadanny! Thanks for sharing 🌿

Is it possible you could guide me to someone that could help me with this in my grief? My eight-year-old son died two years ago. You talked about intuition in one of these videos. Oddly I was warned of the danger around him and I knew he was going to die and so did he. I desperately needed to find your videos and I do need help dealing with not only grief but dealing with it as a highly sensitive person. I feel alone in this area surely I can find support please help me if you can guide me.

@SimpleHappyZen

3 жыл бұрын

Hi Jen, I'm so sorry for your incredible loss. That must be very hard to deal with... I recommend checking out online support groups for grief. I've heard that these also exist specifically for parents who've lost a child. You can also talk to your general physician about getting some help to deal with the grief, perhaps a grief counselor. I hope you'll find some help and comfort in dealing with your loss. Sending you loving vibes.

I will disagree with you abput News. In my opinion, we MUST be informed about what happens in the world in order to be able to protest if needed and save a situation.

@SimpleHappyZen

5 жыл бұрын

That is very true, I try to find a balance between being informed and getting depressed. But we need to be informed enough so we can make concious choices about where we spend our money as consumers (and therefore, which industries we help to promote)

2:30 - it's called Apathy. Don't do it.