They say 15-20% of all people can be considered highly sensitive. Are you one of them? Or are you here to understand someone else better? Let me know. 🤗👇

@DrJustininJapan

2 жыл бұрын

yes, one of my childhood friends falls under this category. really helpful seeing it from a different perspective in this video 🙏

@itsme-kw7tv

2 жыл бұрын

I'm sensitive :3

@feanorian21maglor38

2 жыл бұрын

Definitely me. On the negative side, friends keep recommending Netflix series I just can't watch because of the level of violence. I can't do crowds, and shopping centres and airports are my idea of hell. Can also hear annoying noises that others don't, and can smell any nasty smell or burning smell about 10 minutes before anyone else! More- picking up on repressed undercurrents of tension between people immediately. Overreacting (internally) to both praise and criticism. It can be exhausting. Am so glad that I learned from your vlogs that being hyper-sensitive is not uncommon, and that there are lots of people who have to deal with the same issues.

@Andromeda-md6ch

2 жыл бұрын

Thank you! You made me feel like i am not alone which in itself is a huge relief! 🙂

@bumblebee803

2 жыл бұрын

Thanks for this video, I always found it frustrating when I understood everyone around me, and no-one dared to care about how I felt. Now I see that other people aren't capable. But it doesn't mean that I have to put up with anything less than.

I am 73 and have never had the help I needed until I started watching you last year. I thought I was alone or the only one who felt the way I have. You presentation is lovely and you are wise beyond your years. Thank you so much.

@SimpleHappyZen

2 жыл бұрын

Thank you so much for your kind words Maggie and I'm so happy my videos have been helpful for you! :) I'm sorry to hear something didn't come on your path sooner, but there's no better time than today in the end :) Take care and have a wonderful day!

@laura5425

2 жыл бұрын

It feels wonderful to know that there are people with lots of life experience who share this trait. I hope you created a surrounding which nourished your sensitive nature, but the cat in the picture sure gives the impression :) Have a warm winter time

@micajahsmom

2 жыл бұрын

@@laura5425 I have been able to create my own little world in my beautiful apartment. The kitty, Micajah, is my lifeline along with his auntie Georgina. I spoil them rotten and get so much back from them. Thanks for your kind words. Til the next video....all my best.

@lindahill643

2 жыл бұрын

I am 56 and have felt I am different from other people as long as I can remember. Never understood why. Till now! The way you explain and talk about it is so familiar to me it made me cry, no one has ever understood me either. Perhaps now I can try and live the life I want instead of the life others want at the expense of my fragile inner self. I'm so glad I found your post and feel like you are more of a friend than anyone in my life as you get it. I am no longer the only person I know who feels the way I do, what a relief, honestly. Thank you.

@micajahsmom

2 жыл бұрын

@@lindahill643 you found the right channel for understanding. Vera is so good with her calm presentation and friendly attitude. All my best to you and be safe and well.

What I love about being an HSP is the ability to see beautiful things everywhere around me. For instance how a coloured leaf in the forest is being backlit by the sun. I know many people would walk past it and not notice, and I am very grateful for noticing the small, beautiful things like that. I consider it a strength because it makes my life so much more beautiful.

@SimpleHappyZen

2 жыл бұрын

Wonderfully said! :)

When animals or vulnerable people are treated badly it may as well be happening to me I feel it so much. I relate to everything you said

@SimpleHappyZen

2 жыл бұрын

Happy you found the video relatable Lynby :) Take care and have a nice day today!

@jessie9653

2 жыл бұрын

Totally agree

@aliciap4380

2 ай бұрын

Oh my goodness yes! I was taking care of about 10 feral cats at my last job. Always made sure they had the best quality food and filtered water. The one kitty got run over and lost his tail. Was a huge opened wound and looked terrible. I named him Thumper ❤ He did end up recovering. Even though he wouldn't let me pet him, he became my best buddy. I tried multiple times to try and rescue the cats but it never ended up working out. Moved across country and had to leave them it broke my heart and cried myself to sleep for a couple months. This all to say it non stop pained me to see Thumper injured, knowing they were out in extreme weather conditions and didn't know love. Coworkers could just come and go without thinking twice. This isn't about thinking highly of myself at all but sometimes I wish things that most people don't pay much mind to wouldn't affect me either. It can be so incredibly heavy.

It’s hard being a HSP sometimes but one of the things that I love about being like this is that we see beauty everywhere: the moon, seeing someone smile, a flower, a child laughing, seeing cute dogs on the street, etc. We’re light in a world where sometimes can be very dark.

As a very sensitive person, I like that I'm aware of nature; plants and animals and I enjoy quiet time and if someone needs to talk, I'm a good listener!

@SimpleHappyZen

2 жыл бұрын

Love it :) Thanks for sharing

@meinhendl

Жыл бұрын

don't you think we are too good listeners ? sometimes i think people become addicted to this property ? and they unashamedly dump us, use us downright and we're left completely broken afterwards?

OMG, you hit the nail on the head when you talked about being deeply affected by others' suffering, especially animals or vulnerable people (children, elderly). Wow!! This trait is SO strong in me!! I don't have a problem with physical sensitivity (itchy clothes, etc), but I can get SO SAD when I see suffering people or animals and as you said, these images can "haunt" me for days or weeks!! This trait exacerbates my depression, but on the other hand, I don't want to become hardened and lose my compassion. Just yesterday I was lamenting over all the sadness in the world and I thought the exact words you said. " I just wish that every person and living creature in the world could be healthy, loved, happy and thriving!!". Lol!! You get me!! Thank you for that!! I often feel so alone and not understood. 😊❤❤❤❤❤

@SimpleHappyZen

2 жыл бұрын

🤗🌺💖

Because I am so aware of changes, I found a lump on my dog's leg when it was no larger than an almond. It turned out to be cancerous and the vet was amazed that I had even felt it. Because we found it so soon, they removed it, no chemo and she is sitting here beside me seven years later. I sometimes get weighed down with it, but mostly I have learned to accept it and find ways to be grateful for being sensitive.

@SimpleHappyZen

2 жыл бұрын

That's such a lovely story Cara and I'm so happy to read you're doggy is still sitting beside you :) Give her a hug from me

@DoofenSpyroDragon16

8 ай бұрын

Wow, that’s amazing! Happy you were able to save your dog from something potentially deadly!! Yes, sensitivity can be a superpower like that sometimes 😃

Being sensitive allows me to make connections with other people. Another advantage is that I am aware of “bad situations” or negative intentions and avoid them.

@SimpleHappyZen

2 жыл бұрын

Awesome! :) Thanks for sharing

@Robert-qm1ld

2 жыл бұрын

Yes, that’s the main advantage to me, changing a bad situation or avoiding it.

It sometimes can feel like the world punishes the positive expressions (feeling more deeply, being sincere, thinking deeply and taking longer to make decisions), and many of us are left with only the negative experience for much of our lives, which can define us in such an unfortunate way. I find myself suppressing my positive HSP expressions on a daily basis because I'm so fearful of aggressive reactions to me just being who I am. The world can feel quite cynical at times. But, living with only the difficult parts of being sensitive makes for a very hard life. If possible, I want to lean into my positive traits more, and express them without fear. Luna Lovegood is a kind of a hero to me. She's very unafraid to express things others find weird or "inappropriate" to the situation. Good luck to everyone out there. You are not alone.

@lunalovegood9349

2 жыл бұрын

Thank u for this💙💙

@littlestbroccoli

2 жыл бұрын

@@lunalovegood9349 Haha 💕👏

@soph8164

2 жыл бұрын

Beautifully said-Thank you!

@kirstenvzumba9246

2 жыл бұрын

Yesssss!!!! I love your atitude!!! This is a blessing, not a curse!! The world needs us. Now more than ever. Thank you!

My grandmother knew I was different, she was the best protector I've ever known. As a child, the world is unknown, to a sensitive child it can be terrifying. God bless you, Emma.

@bumblebee803

2 жыл бұрын

You are soooo lucky to have such a positive person in your life. :)

I relate to everything you talked about. Working in an open floor plan office was very uncomfortable for me. And sitting in a room full of people all talking at the same time is torture. Sensory overload for sure. I very much enjoy your videos on this topic. Thank you!

@SimpleHappyZen

2 жыл бұрын

Haha yes! :) Thank you Ronda, take care and have a lovely day!

Yes, the wind! The constant noise in your ear, it is exhausting. Funny too hear I'm not the only one. I love the wind but some days it is just too much 😂. The best thing is enjoying the little things, like food, a beautiful sky or music. Little happy moments that bring so much peace and happines.

@SimpleHappyZen

2 жыл бұрын

Hahaha from reading the comments so far, it looks like we're definitely not the only ones who have a hard time dealing with wind :) Love what you said about enjoying the little things :)

When I learned about high sensitivity a few years back, it explained so much about my struggles in life. I stumbled onto Elaine Arons “the highly sensitive person” book and used it as a guide book to navigate my life as if learning life for the first time. I really appreciate channels like yours where people share experiences and tips, in this way we can help each other as a misunderstood minority 🙏🏽 Saludos from Curaçao 🇨🇼

@SimpleHappyZen

2 жыл бұрын

Thank you so much Shannon! :) I can relate to your experiences with finding out about high sensitviity and reading Elaine Aron's book :) I stil reread it frequently. :) Take care!

The best thing about being sensitive is it brings you more depth, better understanding of people, your environment, and earth as a whole. It helps us love more deeply and unite those around us. 🌠

@SimpleHappyZen

2 жыл бұрын

Well said Jennie! 😄

@bumblebee803

2 жыл бұрын

I used to dream of fitting in. Now I really don't want to. I see that the sensitive side is a super power to be proud of. So I agree, we see things in depth and not shallow like most people.

@lenadamrose7078

2 жыл бұрын

So true!

@NicolaJacksonOT

2 жыл бұрын

exactly, exactly!

I love being sensitive. I tend to be very reclusive until I feel comfortable. I’ve been chastised for it my entire life. I didn’t realize the strength of it until I was older. I realize problems and bad situations way before others. I feel pain and sadness gravely but it is balanced by love and great pleasure of the simplest of things. I’m often not understood but people are drawn to me for my soft nature. In life I’ve suffered from work politics the most. I’ve strived in being financially stable and having a rock solid marriage.

@SimpleHappyZen

2 жыл бұрын

Thanks so much for sharing your thoughts Shauna, loved reading your comment :) Take care and have a nice day today!

I’ve always felt that I feel EVERYTHING more strongly than most. What I love most about being sensitive is that I have so much empathy for others. I forgive people quickly and let go of anger because I feel their pain even when their actions or words were hurtful at the moment.

@SimpleHappyZen

2 жыл бұрын

I can relate to that :) Thanks for sharing

@mandyrichmond3989

2 жыл бұрын

So true!

@TheFrandall

2 жыл бұрын

Same here

Thank you so much for covering this, Vera 🪶 it is so validating and comforting to hear you speak on being a highly sensitive person. I only realised a couple years ago that this was my experience and it’s wonderful to find others who share and understand that depth of feeling. To answer your question, my favourite thing about being an HSP is our ability to deeply connect with animals and nature 💚🌊🍁🕊

@SimpleHappyZen

2 жыл бұрын

🤗💕

People have told me that I am overly sensitive for my entire life. I worked for 40 years as a critical care and ER nurse, challenging on a good day. I don't think that either marriage partner understood this about me, and maybe I didn't know it the way I now do. It's freeing to recognize this and do what I need to do to make myself comfortable first. Thanks for your channel.

@SimpleHappyZen

2 жыл бұрын

You're very welcome Lola, happy to hear you're experiencing some benefits of recognizing your sensitive trait :)

Vera, after watching you video on being sensitive; I realize that I am on the opposite side of this kind of sensitiveityscale. I don't mind sounds, traffic, smells, .....I can have a deep discussion on the phone standing in the main street or a giant mall, or ..... The reason I mention this is because that many of us who are UN -sencitive, shoud and must pay more attention to people in families, work areas, etc that ARE sensitive, but perhaps can't express it so well as you do. I hope your video gave us all that are on my side of the scale .....a really strong message; pay attention and be gentle with the one in the group, that might be sencitive!

@SimpleHappyZen

2 жыл бұрын

Love that, thanks for sharing your thoughts Bengt!! :)

You are telling my story word for word. So relatable. I have known I am HSP for a few years now and it unlocked so much for me. I finally understand that I’m not wrong. Just different! I shared this video with my husband to help him see more what I try to describe to him. Traveling in South America right now and I have been challenged every day. But I came prepared this time with earplugs and noise canceling headphones and it has made a big difference! One thing that makes me special as an HSP is that I feel things and help others to understand how they are feeling. I am a licensed mental health counselor and have the background and education to help explain, but had to give up my practice because it was too overwhelming to hold space for others at this stage in my life. Thank you for the video!

@OnTheSensitiveSide

2 жыл бұрын

I have had the same considerations and decided against it. Beautiful thing is that we remain open minded, we discover other ways of helping people that don’t drain is that much.

@maebychassit4973

2 жыл бұрын

@Cielo Vida absolutely! Sometimes i feel like I wasted so much time and money in grad school and obtaining my license. But I learned so much about myself and healed in the process. And I helped many clients on a deep level in the few years I practiced. Not a waste :) there are so many ways to help others without being their therapist. I now work as a professional organizer and I help clients in some really cool life changing ways

@maebychassit4973

2 жыл бұрын

@@OnTheSensitiveSide exactly.

@wendylee13

2 жыл бұрын

Me too! This is my life!

@cigel6952

2 жыл бұрын

I've got ear plugs everywhere! They're in my purse, my car, my weekend bag, my bedside table.... I always just thought I had sensitive hearing but of course I know now that's it's more than that. I hope that made the stimulation of travel, less intense :)

I learned recently through therapy and reading the book from Elaine Aron that I'm highly sensitive. I always knew kinda because especially during my childhood I was called out for being too sensitive and unfortunately also bullied for many years. In the present, I view my sensitivity more and more as a strength and learn better how to use it as a leader at a company. Truly connecting with people, without getting caught in their emotions, which is still a balancing act.

@SimpleHappyZen

2 жыл бұрын

Loved everything you shared Jeroen! :) Thanks, have a nice Sunday!

@laura5425

2 жыл бұрын

I can only imagine how tough the HSP trait becomes for a little boy. Even as a girl that is more likely to be viewed as sensitive, it hurt substancially to have people constantly step over boundaries or onto my "antennas". It took me a while to understand that they simply can't see the world as I perceive it and that they can't sense the unsaid emotions of their opposite. Have you found some strategies to better cope with less empathic people? I totally agree that meaningful connection to other friendly individuals can be quite healing and one of the major perks of this

@jeroenvw3204

2 жыл бұрын

@@laura5425 Thank you Laura, I appreciate your comment about being a little boy. It has been very challenging in the past. I learned to live with the past through therapy and it's still ongoing. I like what you said about "they simply can't see the world as I perceive it" That's actually one of my coping mechanisms being aware of people experiencing the world differently. Though I still find it difficult when someone says I'm too sensitive, which still happens once in a while. Also, protecting my feelings if that makes sense. Sometimes someone can be frustrated, angry etc. I try to be aware of that when I start to feel the same as that person and isolate my feelings. Especially with the world we live in now, it's hard sometimes to not take over feelings from other people.

Working in an office with an open floor plan for 2 years was one of the worst experiences of my life. I had to quit my job and have several months at home to recover my mental health. I can't handle driving in busy traffic, but in the middle of a quiet night I love driving. The wind and cold ears affects me too. Noise issues and strong (or toxic) smells upset me. Thank you so much for your HSP videos, it's the best thing I have ever watched on youtube. I don't have to blame myself anymore for being different or not as tough as other people. I love the fact that I am super observant, extremely self aware and empathetic/understanding towards others.

I could re-watch these videos over and over. It feels so good to know that other people are like me, and experience the same things!

Even though I am an empath, and it can be challenging, I wouldn't trade it for anything. As you said we pick up on subtleties that others miss and our compassionate nature is needed in this world.

@SimpleHappyZen

2 жыл бұрын

I agree, thanks Francine! :) Take care and have a lovely day today!

One of the best things about being sensitive for me is that I make friends easily and people really value my friendship!!

I have tears rolling down my face while watching this. How misunderstood we are, not only by others but by ourselves.

@SimpleHappyZen

Жыл бұрын

Let's start by understanding ourselves a little better and trying to take good care of ourselves :)

This is so spot on for me! One advantage that I realize is that because we have high levels of empathy and are good listeners, we can usually communicate well, in the other person's lingo and context. But being sensitive also rules out certain occupations for me, e.g. I do not think that I have the mental fortitude to be involved in humanitarian field work because I will be so overwhelmed.

@SimpleHappyZen

2 жыл бұрын

Exactly :) I can relate to certain jobs being too emotionally draining :)

@laura5425

2 жыл бұрын

This totally resonates with me. The whole separating your own thoughts, emotions and needs from those of other people. That's tough work sometimes ^^

I totally get what you said about getting frazzled and flutered when surrounded too! Much more focused and productive when by myself! Also being an overthinker, sometimes I beat myself up for this. Thank you for sharing your experiences and making us realize others feel the same x

@SimpleHappyZen

2 жыл бұрын

Thanks for sharing Claire :) No need to beat yourself up over it, and there are always some ways to practice with overthinking less if you'd like :)

I used to push myself to do things that I didn't enjoy because everyone would push me because they thought I wasn't having fun and I didn't want to be a wet blanket, for example going on rides when I am terrified of heights just to please people and afterwards I would be so sick. What I love about being sensitive is just the opposite of this I accept peoples limitations and accept them as they are. Being empathetic is a beautiful quality and now I'm very happy that I am 😊....your new mug does look greener on this video than it did on your patreon

@SimpleHappyZen

2 жыл бұрын

Loved what you shared Joan! :) And yes haha the color is different right? :D

@jessie9653

2 жыл бұрын

I agree 100 percent, I did the same things

Everything you touched on applies to me. Also I can’t sleep at night because of what is happening to the non-human animals every second of every day. My rage and grief are overwhelming. Thanks again for sharing. 🙏🏻✌🏻

@SimpleHappyZen

2 жыл бұрын

Thanks for sharing your thoughts! Maybe try thinking about the good and positive side of things. For example, I love sharing vegan food with people, to show them how nice it can be, and try to talk about things in a positive light. It also keep things way more positive in my headspace, because no one is truly helped if I feel angry and sad about it all the time. :) Take care and have a lovely day!

I really can relate to all that. I lost my father three weeks ago and while he was sick all I could think about was if he was scared, if he knew how sick he was, and all I wanted was to make him feel safe and happy. People always tell me that it’s beyond my reach, that I don’t have control over how a person feels, but it’s hard for me to understand that. Vera, you are a wonderful person! ♥️

@SimpleHappyZen

2 жыл бұрын

Thank you so much for sharing this. I'm so sorry for your loss, my sincerest condolences. Sending you a hug 🌷

@jmoufarrege

2 жыл бұрын

@@SimpleHappyZen thank you 🙏🏻 ♥️

Oh my, your comment about wind (noise)! You’re the first person I’ve found who feels the same way I do about it! No one understands when I say it’s overwhelming to my ears. It frazzles me to be outside on a windy day. I don’t like the feeling of it battering my skin, but more than anything, it’s how loud it is that bothers me the most. I’ve always had a sense I was more sensitive, although I didn’t know that term for it until I was trying to figure out why my (then) baby/toddler was so unhappy and crying all the time. As I learned more about her sensory sensitivity, I realized it all described me, too. I struggle with people not understanding me, but I still try to protect myself as much as I can, even when I get negative comments.

@SimpleHappyZen

2 жыл бұрын

Ah good to hear someone else's experience with strong wind! :) Happy you learned about your own sensitivity, as well as your child. :)

@gaylegillit672

2 жыл бұрын

You are not alone. I am sensitive to wind even if I am indoors. If it is a windy night, I don't sleep well, even if I can´t hear the wind. I do enjoy a gentle breeze on my skin, however.

@Robert-qm1ld

2 жыл бұрын

I use earplugs on windy days if I want to be out. Not perfect but they help.

@homethatilove4595

2 жыл бұрын

@@gaylegillit672 Yes, I get really tense when wind is strong. Gentle breeze is Perfect in my sheltered back patio

Another senior citizen here. I am 68 years old, and never realized that I was highly sensitive until just a couple of years ago when I came upon Dr. Aron’s book. As a child and young woman, my mother was always telling me that I was “too touchy” and I “need to get thicker skin.” I remember feeling like I didn’t belong anywhere. At my 20th high school reunion, some of the girls that picked on me actually came up and apologized to me for their behavior. They said that I seemed so wise just observing them from a distance. I got some much-needed therapy when I was in my late 20s and that helped a lot although the topic of highly sensitive didn’t come up because I didn’t have a clue about it. Now I have a granddaughter who is highly sensitive. I’m hoping that she will have more insight into this beautiful trait at a much younger age because of her grandmother.

You know me so well. Nice to see you. 🤗

@SimpleHappyZen

2 жыл бұрын

Nice to see you too Jennie 🤗🌷

I actually went to therapy last year to find out what is “wrong” with me because I always knew I was different than the general population. My therapist assessed that I am a “sensitive empath” and recommended that I do some research on it. I found your channel and wow, it’s such a relief to know there are others like me! Thank you so much for sharing and for helping us sensitive people manage our uniquenesses and with knowing there’s nothing wrong with how we are.

@ramzar7615

Жыл бұрын

Are HSP's clingy (in a good way)?

I feel as if this video was meant for me! I am 53 and I'm still learning about myself! I never felt understood, even by myself. Thank you from the bottom of my heart for this video!❤️ I think the most important part of being an HSP is the intuition aspect!

@SimpleHappyZen

2 жыл бұрын

🤗💕💕

I am still learning about myself and my sensitivity (definitely it's life long journey). I can relate to a lot of the points mentioned in the video. I can be a good listener and have a lot of empathy. I like art, music, nature and working on my passion personal projects. I am also learning to trust my intuition and "inner gut" feelings more. Because something inside me knows what is good for me (or the oposite) often earlier than myself :). Thank you Vera for the video, I enjoyed it a lot.

@SimpleHappyZen

2 жыл бұрын

Happy to hear you enjoyed the video and I love what you shared about learning about your sensitivity :) Take care and enjoy the rest of the weekend!

Dank je wel voor je openheid en de aandacht voor hoogsensitiviteit. Veel dingen die je vertelt zijn voor mij herkenbaar, zowel de positieve als negatieve kanten. Ik ben zelf hooggevoelig en heb inmiddels veel hooggevoelige personen als vrienden. Het valt mij op hoe oprecht en lief zij zijn. En puur en eigen.

@SimpleHappyZen

2 жыл бұрын

Graag gedaan Mariska, en mooi dat je ook hooggevoelige vrienden hebt gevonden! :)

That’s so interesting that you said about getting a headache in the wind. I have to always wear earmuffs in the winter or I get earache and a dizzy head. I often feel embarrassed to have to wear them but suffer if I don’t

@SimpleHappyZen

2 жыл бұрын

Yes! Me too haha :) I think I might get a cuter one though hihi, this one makes my head look like an easter egg

A wonderful video Vera. Yes, we do know what we know before many others. I believe it is intuition for want of a better word. I too am haunted by sad things I see and hear. I avoid the evening news except for the weather. I quickly turn off any of these upsetting commercials as soon as they start. I always need to rest after a dinner or event. I adjust my time to allow for the rest I need. I rest by reading, sketching, writing and listening to music. I function best when I live on a schedule. I aim to live on a schedule Eighty percent of the time. I like and understand myself and this is a blessing. Stay happy and humble. ❤️ Suzy

@SimpleHappyZen

2 жыл бұрын

Loved everything you shared Suzy 🤗🌷 Glad you enjoyed the video. Take care!

Vera, thank you for your wonderful and thoughtful videos. I love watching them, and they help me strive to live more simply (as I want it) and to feel better about me and life. Continue your good work, but also remember to take breaks for yourself.

After an office job of 17 yrs. it was a relief to move on to a smaller setting with less people and pressure. I was great at multitasking but realized as I got older that I was burning out.

Hi Vera! 😊. The best thing about being sensitive? Being safe, being aware of negative situations, not being a victim, acknowledging and staying away from or changing bad situations. I think that’s crucial if we want to experience the larger world. Otherwise we might as well be reclusive (which I want to be sometimes). ✌️

@SimpleHappyZen

2 жыл бұрын

YES! Well said Robert :)

I am a highly sensitive person…Once you acknowledge it and take care of yourself, it is truly a gift I’m thankful to have! 🙏🏼❤️ 🎁

@SimpleHappyZen

2 жыл бұрын

Love that! :) Thanks Bridget

@bridgetriley8239

2 жыл бұрын

@@SimpleHappyZen Thank you for all that you do!

This video really made me feel understood, so thank you very much 😍 I'm 22 and I've always experienced misunderstanding from people around me, especially when I was younger. I guess we're all trained to suppose that somebody's shy, or "too weak" because of their sensitivity and tend to say that you should change and get more tough around situations. Most people don't know much about this trait and I think this information you give is fundamental for raising children in the future and properly acknowledge that this is a proper trait, not a disadvantage. It's important that we all, as a society, accept it and make advantage of it.

Also Vera, you are someone I care deeply for and appreciate your time, patience and kindness. You are a blessing in my life. Thank you so very much.

That was a very informative video I'm 64 years old and have been sensitive all my life I wish I would have had your video when I was younger. I struggled with this all my life and now I'm disabled and I'm inside most of the time by myself. However I like to be by myself and I find myself closing myself off from everyone and I get mad at people very easily and I choose not to talk to them again because they get me so frazzled. I feel that is probably the wrong way to handle stuff but I think I'm too old to change can an old dog learn new tricks

@pigletsbank437

2 жыл бұрын

🙌

@jessie9653

2 жыл бұрын

😆 I'm 40 and feel the same way.

@annhatten1036

2 жыл бұрын

@@jessie9653 thanks for replying to me. I started thinking I was the only 1

@laura5425

2 жыл бұрын

It's hard to learn new tricks, but maybe if the people and situations around you change. Perhaps you can try to connect to other HSPs in your area?

I value most my enhanced intuition.. I can always sense when there is something wrong with my cats or my kid. Even when others dont notice it, even my husband.

In one sense it can be a lonely journey being a highly sensitive person as most people around us simply do to not 'get it'. It is a common perception that in life we must be tough and hard, to not show vulnerability. For years I hid my sensitive nature, but now I express my distaste and disgust of abuse towards children, animals, environment quite openly. I often need time-out from people and situations when the pressures start to crowd in and that's my way of coping and surviving. Thank you Vera for another wise and insightful message which will be immensely helpful to many of us. 😊🕊️

@SimpleHappyZen

2 жыл бұрын

Thanks so much for sharing your thoughts, loved reading your comment! 🤗🍵💖

The best thing for me is: seeing such strong beauty in simple things. Like colors in nature and an old beat up car. The worst: sensitivity to sound, and anger/sadness are so strong

I still have doubts if I am a HSP or not but I identified myself a lot with everything you said. for example the travel "issue" is so true to me too!! I'm finally planning to visit my family and despite I miss them a lot I am scared on how tired and drained I will feel afterwards. At the same time I'm learning a lot from you on how to take care and "protect" myself ✨

Thank you for the last quote, which I ironically use as my channel slogan: “you are your own person.” What I most am thankful for though is reminding me that just because I’m highly sensitive doesn’t mean I have to have all the traits that high sensitives usually have because we are all unique, and that shouldn’t be the sole focus of who you are, because there are other aspects about yourself! You are not just a label! Thanks for this reminder. ❤️

When I love someone, I love very deeply. When I’m hurt by someone I love, I hurt very deeply. Luckily, I forgive, but not forget. I learn to protect myself and heal but that takes time. I still allow myself to love but I’m very guarded. I may even choose to still love the person who hurt me but they will never have the key to open my heart to them ever again. I still think that when I was loving that person that I got more out of the relationship than they did because they had other agendas, and mine was only to 💕 love.

Watching your channel has helped me feel better about having this personality trait.Thankyou 🤍

You are true , I really get upset by watching sensitive news , wounded by crude behaviours.

Love this video, Vera! I stumbled across the book HSP also when I took myself on a solo date to the bookstore and suddenly things started to click when I read that being highly sensitive is a trait that others experience too! I always wondered if me noticing the subtle things or getting overwhelmed easily had an explanation to it but also makes me proud of the compassionate person it has also shaped me to be. Love you even more knowing we share this trait ❤️ cheers to more self acceptance coming into the new year.

@SimpleHappyZen

2 жыл бұрын

Oh I love that!! :) Thanks for sharing and YES, cheers to more self acceptance in the new year! :)

Oh my gosh I feel so validated and seen by everything you said, especially the last part! You are truly lovely and your videos are a gift 💖

Vera, I get a headache also from cold windy weather!! It never fails. I’m loving these sensitive person videos! I can so relate to everything you’ve shared! Especially my ruminating/overthinking mind. I’ll actually replay conversations over and over in my head! Drives me crazy. Thanks hon for being wonderful you❣️🌺🌼

@SimpleHappyZen

2 жыл бұрын

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To me doing things with passion and 100.% is a very big plus. So whatever I do, I will know I gave it my best. Thank you Vera, have a great week everyone! ❤️

@SimpleHappyZen

2 жыл бұрын

Well said :) You have a great week too!

@pigletsbank437

2 жыл бұрын

@@SimpleHappyZen 😊

Your channel is a blessing! Thank you so much for providing a positive spin on high sensitivity. I feel like whenever I'm upfront about my nature with people who don't know me so well, they assume they have to walk on eggshells around me in order not to offend/hurt me. I wish that wasn't the case, we can handle more than people expect!

@SimpleHappyZen

2 жыл бұрын

Haha yes I experience that too sometimes. Especially when you combine high sensitivity with burnout haha, sometimes people really didn't know how to act around me. Just act normal hihi :)

I never in my wildest dreams imagined I’d be watching a video like this, as a man. However, I am humbled to admit that this is spot on for me, and now I am thankful I found you. The over arousal part and empathy part is what made it click. I’m very in tune to others feelings and I notice small things nobody else does! Also, hospital settings make me hyper aroused and nervous with the sounds and smells and I expedience everything so much stronger. Thank you for this channel. I feel understood. 💙

As an artsy person, I see ALOT of details many people miss... That's why going out for long hours is so draining on me

Wow, you are so insightful!!! We have a lot of similarities. As an outpatient dietitian I think being a sensitive person helps me a lot at work to have the desire to learn where clients are coming from and their challenges/to be able to listen with empathy. I agree, there are pros and cons to Everything! Thanks for addressing this subject. You did an amazing job! 🙂

@SimpleHappyZen

2 жыл бұрын

Thanks so much Gina! I actually used to work as a dietitian before too, and I agree that being sensitive can be helpful in helping clients :)

Thank you, Vera, your videos make me feel seen and understood. I love how you are so honest and shine a light on these life experiences that not a lot of other people are talking about. Thank you for reminding me of the positive side of being sensitive. Your videos are wonderfully relaxing and very helpful, thank you for creating them! xo

@SimpleHappyZen

2 жыл бұрын

Thank you so much for your kind words and good vibes 🤗🌺💖

Thank you so so much for sharing this! I find I’m always having to ask people to turn the volume down on the tv, radio etc. or to turn any bright lights off and they never understand why. But one of my favourite things about being a highly sensitive person is the beautiful details I can appreciate in every joyous moment! 🧡

@SimpleHappyZen

2 жыл бұрын

Exactly! :) Thanks for leaving a comment, happy you enjoyed the video :)

I found out i was an HSP in the '90's but there never really was a community or a place where you could go to "normalize" the experience. You are doing a great job. Thank you.

Thank you for your videos, your voice and facial expressions are so calming and I love your authenticity. I think one of the best things about being an HSP is being able to love people well, we spend a lot of time analyzing relationships so we learn how to please the people in our life, how they best express and receive love. Unlike many other types of people we don’t want to cause anyone pain so we are careful to not hurt anyone and if we do we are quick to recognize and make ammends. I often struggle with trying to understand people who are deliberately mean, it just doesn’t make sense to me

@SimpleHappyZen

2 жыл бұрын

Loved what you shared Shelley and I agree haha, I can't figure that out either. :) I guess it speaks more about their experiences in life, that have contributed to their current actions.

Thank you for talking about sensitivity like this . So honestly and openly . Makes me not feel alone with my high sensitivity . Hope you can share more on this subject . Made my day 🤍

@SimpleHappyZen

2 жыл бұрын

You're very welcome Joana, happy you enjoyed the video :) Feel free to check out my other videos about high sensitivity in my HSP playlist if you want to see more :)

This video is so on point. Yes to all of this. As a sensitive person, I have found that my intuition never lies and will always guide me to the best way for myself. I follow how I feel everyday with almost every decision. Excellent video! Love your channel and your insights :)

@SimpleHappyZen

2 жыл бұрын

Thanks so much Jenny! :) Love that you follow how you're feeling with making decisions

Thank you so much for this wonderful video, Vera! I love your comment about not letting sensitive labels define us. I really appreciate that you addressed all sensitive people in general, not just HSP folks specifically. Everything you discuss here describes me perfectly, but I am diagnosed with ASD-Asperger's instead of HSP. I love all of your presentations on this subject- You are so insightful and wise, and your tips are very helpful! 💖😁

@SimpleHappyZen

2 жыл бұрын

Thank you so much for leaving this kind comment Meredith! :) I appreciate it. And I'm happy to hear you're enjoying my videos on sensitivity :) Take care and have a lovely Sunday!

Wow Vera! You just described me! Every word you said in this video resonate with my personality! This is insane! I've always been the black sheep in my family and grew up with low self-esteem but watching this video made me realized that I am unique and I love for who I am! Thank you so much for sharing this! It is greatly appreciated!

@SimpleHappyZen

2 жыл бұрын

Thanks so much for sharing your thoughts, so happy you're finding more appreciation for your sensitivity now :) Take good care!

Thank you, Vera. sometimes sensitive people are those who truly care to us the most.

@SimpleHappyZen

2 жыл бұрын

You're very welcome Verena, have a nice weekend!

I feel like being a highly sensitive person makes me a wonderful friend. I care deeply for my friends and listen to them. I also point things out when hiking my family wouldn’t normally notice, and they are always tickled with what I find. On the flip side, when you mentioned the open floor plan at your job, I realized why I get so overwhelmed at my house. I have 5 kids and a one story house with an open floor plan. It drives me insane. As soon as we get to our next duty station, my husband promised me he will get us a two story home, or at least a home with a very separate play area for the kids. I really thought it was just me, but finding your videos I realized I’m not alone.

Yes! I love this video Vera! It's a challenge for me sometimes to get the 'stimulation' balance, either under or over like you said. Also, knowing things about people that I don't even know how I know just blows me away...... and my friends too! Intuition in an HSP is so powerful. I also feel more productive and in the zone when I'm doing tasks like cooking, by myself. I seem to get flustered when people watch or help me but maybe this is a confidence thing too? I don't know. By the way I keep forgetting to tell you how amazing your English is. Loving your content. Sending love ❤

@SimpleHappyZen

2 жыл бұрын

Thank you so much Mandy! :) Actually I read in Elaine Aron's book that many HSPs get flustered when people are watching our actions, or when there's a time limit to what we're doing. :)

@mandyrichmond3989

2 жыл бұрын

@@SimpleHappyZen makes sense ! Thank you 😊💓

One quality I love about being sensitive is that I have a broad imagination and I believe that I can bring my imagination to life!!

@SimpleHappyZen

2 жыл бұрын

Love that!

I've felt all of the things you've discussed in this video. It really helps that you're talking about these things and really discussing how it can be difficult. For also discussing small ways to deal with it as well as how it's a good thing. I find that it is both good and bad to feel emotions over what is usual. If I'm happy or excited about something it's good. I smile, hum, and do things I enjoy. But when I feel upset, it's full on crying. It's all out negative self talk and depression. It's not good at all. The worst.

@SimpleHappyZen

2 жыл бұрын

It's definitely a spectrum, and a double edged sword sometimes. But overall, I think it's good to talk about ways it's helping us in life, as well as ways to deal with things in a better way. Since it's something we can't really change anyway :) And of course, you can always talk to a professional if you're experiencing mood swings like that, or if you just feel like it could be helpful in general. :) Take care and have a nice day!

It's so comforting to have you voice our experience as HSPs / empaths, Vera, and I am very grateful for you putting your message out so beautifully and clearly to the world. The wider world have the opportunity to gain better understanding of the HSP experience through you. Thank you

@SimpleHappyZen

2 жыл бұрын

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Wow you are right in point with this! Me totally...I appreciate the strong intuitive sense I have available to me .Thank you for covering this subject Vera💕

@SimpleHappyZen

2 жыл бұрын

You're very welcome Brooke, happy you enjoyed the video! :) Enjoy the rest of your weekend

Thank you Vera for making videos about sensitive people. I am almost highly sensitive and all the characteristics you explain resonate with me . Before listening to you I thought there is something wrong with me.family has always told me to be less sensitive and as much as I tried I couldnt change.now at 43 you have freed me.I now know I dont need to change. As you said there are good aspects of it as well like being able to feel what is happening around you at a deeper level. Thank you again for the wonderful inspiring videos⚘⚘🙏

@SimpleHappyZen

2 жыл бұрын

So happy my videos have partly been helping you to understand yourself better and appreciate your sensitive nature more 🤗🌺🍵 Take care my friend!

I never viewed my sensitivity in this way before! This was really helpful and positive. Thank you!

@SimpleHappyZen

2 жыл бұрын

So happy to hear it :)

Thank You for your Christmas letter! I had a good year, thank you 😊! And your videos are always inspiring!

@SimpleHappyZen

2 жыл бұрын

So happy to hear it!! 🤗💖

Hi Vera! What a great video. I'm highly sensitive too and can get really overwhelmed with my empathy towards others. I'm a huge overthinker too. But I have a great intuition wich has proven itself to be very useful. I hate strong winds as well, I'm always in a bad mood when it happens, stressed and it gets me really irritated. That's pretty much the weather we had all week in Northeastern France so I spent my day relaxing to recover from that. I wish you a nice weekend, take care!

@SimpleHappyZen

2 жыл бұрын

Thank you so much for sharing your thoughts Marine. :) From reading the comments so far, turns out we're not the only ones who have a hard time with windy days :) Have a nice day today!

Hi Vera thank you for all your tips 🤗 it has taken me a long time to really understand being sensitive, i think the most important thing is being aware of it and putting the correct boundaries in place! And protecting myself by not trying to solve everyone’s issues just the people that are most important to me ❤️

@SimpleHappyZen

2 жыл бұрын

That's a very important point, thanks Therese! Definitely somerthing I'm working on as well :)

@theresew9910

2 жыл бұрын

@@SimpleHappyZen ❤️

Your videos are by themselves very calming for me❤ Thank you🙏

As a pianist and composer who basically lives for the music of Bach I'm very glad I'm sensitive despite its downsides

I love that my sensitivity has helped me to slow down and enjoy the little things.

@SimpleHappyZen

2 жыл бұрын

Me too :) Thanks Charlene

I’m excited to see you covering this topic more, Vera! Thank you 💛

@SimpleHappyZen

2 жыл бұрын

You're very welcome Megan, happy to hear it! :) Take care and have a nice day!

Thanks for your information and insights, they are very validating🦋

I have always been highly sensitive …. I grew up during the 70’s when it really wasn’t acceptable ….. I feel like my misunderstood sensitivity manifested itself in Panic Disorder … which I was diagnosed when I was 27 years old. I am now 57 and still, even though managed through medication, have breakthrough bouts. I am blessed to have found your channel. I am learning more about myself and how to cope with being highly sensitive! Thank you so very much 😊

My favorite thing about being a highly sensitive person is having a natural ability to make others feel comfortable around me. People often open up to me and share with me their personal stories-i love it. one thing i don't like though, is that i cannot eat while people talk to me. I cannot focus on both tasting my food and hearing what people are saying to me. My family knows to not talk to me while i eat, if they do talk to me then i get up and walk out of the room with my food-finding somewhere else to eat. I want to actually focus on the flavor of my food not focus on conversation. Both at the same time is a major overload.

Thank you for this! It resonates so much. Just being understood is so valuable. 🙏🏻

@SimpleHappyZen

2 жыл бұрын

I agree, it really helps :) Take care!

I just learned, yesterday, that I am a sensitive person. The thing l love, the most, is that I am really happy!

Being "Sensitive" allows me to have meaning and purpose in everything that I do. It made me the best version of Entrepreneur that I can be. And a girl boss that is confident, capable woman who pursues her own ambitions instead of working for others or otherwise settling in life.

I’m a HSP and sometimes it’s embarrassing like when my hairdresser told me his dog had died and I burst into tears. I cry looking at Instagram too. I think my husband and cats benefit from it because I am more aware of what they want or are feeling. It’s difficult but I wouldn’t change it about myself.

@SimpleHappyZen

2 жыл бұрын

Thanks for sharing Tina, haha, the same thing happened to me when someone told me their pet died. Give your cats a big hug from me :)

@iCeleste7

2 жыл бұрын

I teared up, reading about you bursting into tears at the hairdressers! Lol. And then I start laughing. Being a HSP is a trait like no other.

I find that we are more into life when we are sensitive..All goes the way you want. When your on top of it. I do what my body needs. I work hard and need to sleep to recharge and it makes a big difference in my world. I function way better now. ❤❤❤❤

You are very wise and your advise is very helpful. I especially liked when you said it is sometimes hard for us to like ourselves and our sensitivity. Being more mature now I have learned to avoid upsetting things Thank you for all your videos.

@SimpleHappyZen

2 жыл бұрын

Thank you so much Helena :)

wow very powerful video!! you ALWAYS CHOOSE the most interesting topics

@SimpleHappyZen

2 жыл бұрын

Thank you so much Justin! :)

Thank you for your thoughtful and substance filled content. This was immensely helpful 🥰

@SimpleHappyZen

2 жыл бұрын

So happy to hear it :) Have a lovely rest of your weekend!

Oh, I forgot to say how much I enjoy being in and observing nature.