I was shocked when she said shes been married for 19 years... she looks so young!

@James5_50

5 жыл бұрын

lipsohlips97 I thought she was 19 before she said that she been married for 19 years

@nianiah2212

5 жыл бұрын

Could because she got a man that love her . Did you see how she smile when Steve asked her about her husband

@necopolk2955

5 жыл бұрын

I agree!! She didn’t look a day over 19 herself lol

@diamaral3035

5 жыл бұрын

I know right!!! She loooks so young and good!! And by the way, she’s very beautiful!!

@lovelyyjae3340

5 жыл бұрын

SAME OMG

Steve is 100% on point! “Undisciplined boys end up in jail, hospital, or grave”. That’s a fact!

@rebeccalove2065

5 жыл бұрын

john blogs but sometimes strict parents make sneaky kids

@georgevan9581

5 жыл бұрын

I absolutely agree with Uncle Steve 💯💯💯💯

@chocolatenikki

5 жыл бұрын

Axha ‘ True. Hehehe🤭

@marcusmelton2295

5 жыл бұрын

Agreed but the way you discipline matters though.

@des8679

5 жыл бұрын

C.E.T clearly you were undisciplined because you are so offended when it wasn't meant to be taken personally

SHE IS JUST FLAT OUT "BEAUTIFUL" 😍😍

@BOBISMCHANNEL

5 жыл бұрын

yeaaaaaah

@makebachristchildfrancois7761

5 жыл бұрын

Yes she is

@evan3352

4 жыл бұрын

I'm sure you say that to every woman 😂

@ronniejackson9228

3 жыл бұрын

You need to educate yourself on what was being said. Rather then to focus on how that person look.. You make yourself appear dumb that way.. SMDH!!

@yazyh

3 жыл бұрын

And without makeup.

Straight facts. My father was harsh as hell on me and I hated it growing up. But at 26, fresh outta college, ready to make my way in the world, I realize that the reason I am who I am today is in large part because of him. And I Im blessed to have grown up with a father that taught me how to be a man

@safaril2949

5 жыл бұрын

👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽👍🏽👍🏽👍🏽👌🏽

@juliejuju7419

5 жыл бұрын

Cheers to your dad!🥂

@icetray2727

5 жыл бұрын

Especially military father like my father

@ChriS-tz9jm

5 жыл бұрын

Damn straight 🔥

@Getitgirlllll4717

5 жыл бұрын

Yes you are! Salute to you and your father! Be successful make that money young buck, make that money! Humility n hard work is the key.You got this!!!!!!

I just wish the husband was present with her to hear his side of this.

@d.joseph98

5 жыл бұрын

jay rod i agree

@terrancelivingston3304

5 жыл бұрын

Jay I was home with the boys that day but we discussed this prior to her attending the show.

@granturomiso05

5 жыл бұрын

@@terrancelivingston3304 wait you her husband

@Shabzana

5 жыл бұрын

@@granturomiso05 lol.

@pattylabell2166

5 жыл бұрын

Me too!!

Wow, undisciplined boys become undisciplined men!!

@RoyalMasterpiece

5 жыл бұрын

🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥

@richendeliltes2465

5 жыл бұрын

🔥🔥🔥

@jay3414

5 жыл бұрын

Fast girls, becomes fast women. That wasn't that deep

@jacquelineperry5873

5 жыл бұрын

No one started raising them early in in life you have to have guidance by one parent or both or someone has to step in with some guidances

@SACHKIGAL

4 жыл бұрын

The jail is full of them

You are right don't disagree front of your children!

@siahayezz3307

5 жыл бұрын

Charmaine Willaims I totally agree! 💕

@michaelenegrant

5 жыл бұрын

Extremely important.

@terrilister1478

5 жыл бұрын

I disagree with this. Children need to know how to work out conflict and resolve issues. If they dont see the parents doing it in a healthy way, where are they going to learn. And how are they going to know that its OKAY and normal to disagree? You just have to learn to resolve disagreements peacefully and constructively. I always said it is good to "hash things out". I do agree that it needs to be done at a later time if possible. There may be some things that need to be hashed out asap, however maybe privately. It depends on what the situation is. If its a husband being abusive, thats a whole different circumstance. What if he is a drunk or druggy? Or has anger issues and takes it out on his sons? Some things arent black and white and require much prayer and wisdom.

@laryanryan9170

5 жыл бұрын

@@terrilister1478. you are absolutely right. If the parents disagree they should let their kids see them peacefully work things out. Steve is like a lot of black men who think they have to be hard on their sons. You have to be hard on the knucklehead sons who do dumb $hit. But not all sons because i have three grown college educated sons who are respectful to everyone because I raised them right without being strict. They always knew right from wrong and they don't even use curse words ( at least not around me).My dad was very hard on me and my brother for no reason and to this day I still hate him for it. But it taught me the right way to raise my kids.

@Ideally_Shanna

5 жыл бұрын

Terri Lister I think what they meant was never let the children see you get into a fight where you both are verbally exhausting each other but don’t entirely shut the door to allow them to see you get into a respectful argument where both parties explain their sides of the story. And can move on without it dictating their day, relationship or interaction with the rest of the family

“Just don’t disagree with each other in front of the kids”, so many co-parents need to hear that!!

@Goodliving22

2 жыл бұрын

True. Very important

Straight facts. United front. You letting them play you sis.

@SSWBJC1

5 жыл бұрын

Exactly what I was going to say......

@rja9797

4 жыл бұрын

Peace&Tranquility you know it’s just not the dads place it’s hers too and her kids

@marclabrie6027

4 жыл бұрын

@@rja9797 it's both but sometimes mother's get offended o how hubby disciplines and if that's the case then she should not interfere

Let’s talk about her beauty 😱😍🌺🔥 omg! She is beautiful 🤷‍♀️

@cece9328

5 жыл бұрын

Right she don't like past 20

@lamorena3990

5 жыл бұрын

I'm saying and she didn't have no makeup!! I was mesmerized 😍😍😍

@kellymary2444

5 жыл бұрын

Ikr!!!!

@ramabelle6673

5 жыл бұрын

Right? So effortlessly beautiful

@patkickslogistics5030

5 жыл бұрын

she is...

‘You can disagree with your partner but don’t do it in front of the kids.’ I never thought of that but I absolutely agree. I don’t have children yet but this is definitely something I will always keep in the back of my mind when that day comes. Thanks Steve! 🙌🏼

@djenaboudiallo5701

5 жыл бұрын

So do I

@rja9797

4 жыл бұрын

Cristina Lebron no it’s ok to disagree or you won’t teach them how to resolve conflict

@anaalina5964

4 жыл бұрын

@@rja9797 Or more like sometimes it's ok to agree to disagree.

@cm5394

4 жыл бұрын

Rj A yes it’s okay to disagree. But if you disagree on discipline discuss it in private and then handle the kids together. Don’t undermine each other’s authority in front of the children

@pimphandstrong6620

2 жыл бұрын

People act like this is new ,if you've been in management it's the same, never disagree in front of employees duh

You must stand together, later you can talk about it.

@rja9797

4 жыл бұрын

What if it does to far? Sometimes a parent has to step in.

@marclabrie6027

4 жыл бұрын

@@rja9797 every parent knows when to stop before it goes to far

@texasgirl73goodjob46

3 жыл бұрын

@@rja9797 no not every parent knows that

@-DA-ONE-

2 жыл бұрын

@@texasgirl73goodjob46 it's really rare for a parent to willingly hurt your child especially men because they're like the thing we'll leave when we die

Unless they're being abused physically or mentally, she shouldn't intervene..

@seunosewa

5 жыл бұрын

Isn't being whooped physical abuse? If not, what's the difference?

@SuperBigdude77

5 жыл бұрын

If she's complaining about him being too harsh he's most likely abusive.

@StephanieTips

5 жыл бұрын

What's abusive?

@susanfurnish4132

4 жыл бұрын

Obviously, SHE felt he WAS being abusive to them..........

@susanfurnish4132

4 жыл бұрын

Well evidently, this wife thought that her husband's way of disciplining WAS border line abuse.....or she wouldn't have spoken up.

Nothing but facts. Let him raise them to be Men. Yeah he might be harsh but the world is Harsh. If they're prepared for that and they're disciplined , they will succeed

@patriciastraker8840

5 жыл бұрын

So true.

@tcalvin4196

5 жыл бұрын

You are so right. I couldn't agree with you more.

@AttonBrown

5 жыл бұрын

@lovemuffin2000 you act as though punishment and discipline excludes love and respect. It doesn't. If he's strict or harsh that's fine. No where did she say he was unloving, disrespectful, or abusive

@tcalvin4196

5 жыл бұрын

@lovemuffin2000 The question is my dear are you kidding!! Apparently you have been on Mars or somewhere lately. You have kids killing kids, parents teachers and anything and anyone who makes them mad or get in their way just because they can not have their way. The home structure is and has been broken because of the absence of a good male role model in a Dad or Father figure. You have Father's and Son's serving time. Boys are turning to gangs for guidance. It is so sad now.

@xhibit.6986

5 жыл бұрын

Exactly!

She should have elaborated on what she meant by, "too harsh."

@Shayvideos1

4 жыл бұрын

@b ray interesting.

@ronniejackson9228

3 жыл бұрын

Lady she doesn't need to Elaborate on being (Harsh) ? The Word speaks for itself The massage that Steve Harvey given to her was (Clear).. Nuff Said!!

@jansley4

3 жыл бұрын

@@ronniejackson9228 Some women cover up abuse their husband is inflicting on the children. Dont assume.

@ronniejackson9228

3 жыл бұрын

@@jansley4 First off I never assume anything, I stated my opinion. 2nd the guess on the show (NEVER) -(EVER) said anything about abuse. She simply said (HARSH) YOU need to educate yourself on the two Syllabus and stop ✋ being Dramatic.. Overall the only option that matter during the time of the Talk Show was. Mr Steve Harvey In that order!!

@jansley4

3 жыл бұрын

@@ronniejackson9228 lol you can calm down. And just as you did, I stated my opinion.

As hard as it is a wife shouldnt undermine her husband's authority in front of the kids. It will become a habit and sends a message to the kids.

With Steve we get advice, jokes, inspiration... In short everything. I love Steve

Steve is soooo right. A woman can nuture her boys but she can't show them how to be strong, and responsible men who are still allowed to cry. As an educator for over 40 yrs. mothers who keep doing this, are the ones who tend to be disrepected by the boys; and those boys remained 'tied to your breasts all their life.' Of course you have to speak up if anyone, family friend or foe, wants to abuse your boys....By the way I'm a mother of 2 girls and similar training is needed for girls.

@isaiahcaston4539

2 жыл бұрын

Are you kidding? Even grown men can't cry but we wanna let them teach the next generation emotional maturity?

@bidibidi1338

5 ай бұрын

I’m laughing here because I only have girls and as a mother my girls kick butt in karate. I probably teach them things most mom would not agree with but that’s because I want them to be strong and know to protect themselves. I wouldn’t say I’m rough on them but I do teach them to talk more, cry less. You can definitely teach strength without being a jerk parent.

I love watching Steve. Not only because he’s funny; but because he is also wise.

Steve is so right! As someone who did stop my son's father for being too hard on our son, I really wish I hadn't. My my precious little angel baby has turned into a hard headed smart mouth teenager. So should have let his dad beat his ass whenever he wanted to!

@jukejoint523jordan6

2 жыл бұрын

Men raise children, women ruin them

THANK YOU STEVE, THIS WAS ON TIME. MY WIFE AND I HAD THIS SAME CONVERSATION """"""THIS MORNING"""""""" I REALLY NEEDED HER TO HEAR THIS FROM SOMEONE ELSE!!

@necopolk2955

5 жыл бұрын

Dexter this is so good! These are what these videos are for 🙂👏🏾

@2thenext

5 жыл бұрын

@@necopolk2955 Yes!!!! My wife and I were hard up debating about this same topic this morning. She really thinks I'm to rough with our son. So now that this video happened at the same time we debated, she realizes that this was confirmation!!!

@duckdown9

5 жыл бұрын

@@2thenext the fact that Steve said it doesn't make it Bible. You gotta be strong in disciplining your children.... But You gotta do it with love and in love all the time. The word to use isn't harsh. Being harsh is no way to raise a son. I have two sons myself by the way. Been with my hubby for twenty years and we aren't forty yet. Our boys are amazing. And we aren't harsh with them. They are so well rounded and simply wonderful. Because we always correct them and raise them in love. That doesn't mean you shouldn't yell here and there once a while. But that shouldn't be the order of the day. Please make sure your wife sees this response too. Lol

@2thenext

5 жыл бұрын

@@duckdown9 My son is an athlete also. There are times when he wants to sit around and play video games all day...."NO NO NO", that's not happening around here. Being firm with him is the best way. I found out when you are soft and fuzzy with kids, they will walk all over you!!!

@duckdown9

5 жыл бұрын

@@2thenext ......Dexter i hope you get this message. I have thought about you and your son on occasion. I wondered if you were able to ever find a balance between being his Dad and being his disciplinarian. I wouldn't want you to get it wrong and completely miss out on having a great and wonderful relationship with your son in the future. Ofcourse playing video games all day isn't the way to go. But know that young kids and teenagers do go through phases in life too sometimes. They also have the ability to be depressed at some points in their growing up years. So assuming you are still having a few challenges with your son? My advice to you would be to sit him down and try to have an honest open conversation with him. About why he acts that way sometimes. And then, you tell him how much he means to you, why you want the best for him and therefore what your expectations of him are going forward. Talk to him like a father talks to his son. From the heart. Did you know Steve usually talks to his sons from the heart and therefore has a wonderful relationship with all his boys? Do you know Steve allows his kids to pretty much follow their heart including stop going to regular college if that's not what they want to do? He has said some of his sons did not complete college. In fact his youngest son stopped going to college and is into photography now. Which is very non traditional obviously. I am saying all this to say, you only heard two mins on TV of all that Steve's life truly entails. But we all don't know the rest of it and what the actual truth really looks like in his household. So don't go following these TV people blindly and end up destroying something good for yourself. They lie to us sometimes for the sake of making good TV and ratings. Besides everyone's household is different too. Economic status and other things come to play. Steve flies his boys all over the world and they get to see things and places your boy has probably never seen or experienced before. Who doesn't love a good life with not so much stress? Make sure you sit your son down and ask him from the heart and with love if playing ball is what HE TRULY WANTS TO DO and if he is happy doing it. He may have said so before, and he could have also changed his mind along the way. Because the last thing you want to do is to force your son into something which isn't his passion or his gift. Steve will tell you that too actually. Please find out again. And I hope you let your wife read my initial messages and i sure hope you let her read this one too. Lol. Remember it takes both parents to raise a responsible all rounded great adult, not just one. God bless you all and i wish you all the very best.

I understand her concerns. Too harsh punishment can be unreasonable and abusive. So we don’t know all yet

@Jm-le3iv

5 жыл бұрын

Exactly..If your kids r being bad in school or talking smart back to u then u have every right to whip them..but if the daddy comes in from a bad day and decide to cuss the whole house out for no reason then that is unreasonable and abusive

@theycallmestoosh

5 жыл бұрын

Note Steve asked at the beginning of his reply if she admired her man & wanted her boys to grow up to be like him. That was to discern if he’s a decent, reputable, reasonable man. An anger monger would be abusing them and not admirable and therefore her answer should have been HECK NO.

@denyss3476

4 жыл бұрын

Discipline is not abuse. Abuse is an extreme case. Discipline is correction to bad behaviour. The two are not the same..

@marclabrie6027

4 жыл бұрын

@@Jm-le3iv nothing wrong with spanking your kids in a living manner But it's not ok to come home from a bad day and cuss the whole house or discipline in anger

@marclabrie6027

4 жыл бұрын

@@denyss3476 I agree with you discipline is not abuse and spankings in the butt should not fall under that category it's correction

It's called "tough love". He's a parent, not a best friend. As long as he's not pounding their heads in the drawer because they failed to dry off the can opener properly, back him up.

@susanfurnish4132

4 жыл бұрын

Yea, & some people that depend on 'TOUGH LOVE' ALL THE TIME! don't know how to be gentle & kind.....Those are VERY important attibutes. Some of the FRUIT OF THE SPIRIT. In God's Word.

@susanfurnish4132

4 жыл бұрын

I know boys can be a bit more resistant than girls......but to hurt them; throw them up against a wall; beat them till they can't sit down; cuss em out; speak bad stuff over their lives; that's not beneficial & not good. At All. It wounds them on the inside, & it's because of those inward wounds, that people have so much struggle in life.

@susanfurnish4132

4 жыл бұрын

NO.

@enyonammm_

4 жыл бұрын

😂😂😂😂

@marclabrie6027

4 жыл бұрын

@Tiffany Moore I agree too

I agree with Steve but I think that there needs to be balance. I’ve seen unnecessary strictness border abuse. And they call it discipline. I think she shouldn’t be too sot on her boys but if the father goes too far, she’s there to keep him in check. That’s the beauty of having two parents.

@marcusmelton2295

5 жыл бұрын

Exactly, I've told some people in the comments the same thing. The way you discipline matters. Some parents are really extreme and will do what is unnecessary.

@AkinolaWilliams

5 жыл бұрын

She can check him behind the scenes. But they seem like a wonderful unit. Their children will be fine

@seunosewa

5 жыл бұрын

How is she going to keep him in check with her weak muscles? :-)

@wakamekuun8523

5 жыл бұрын

Seun who said it would get physical? The husband seems like a wonderful man who loves his wife, so im sure he will listen

@rja9797

4 жыл бұрын

Austin Emovon what if he starts to get physical?

Yes, Yes, Yes, how do we get this message out to more mothers?

@resolute1922

5 жыл бұрын

I posted this to a mother's group. You got to let these fathers guide these boys to be men.

@rja9797

4 жыл бұрын

Adrianne Sills you act like single women aren’t raising good men

@rja9797

4 жыл бұрын

Adrianne Sills ok i expect all the men in here then to but out and shut their mouths when it comes to daughter. If moms can’t have a say with their sons then dads have no say with their daughters

@marclabrie6027

4 жыл бұрын

@@resolute1922 I agree

@marclabrie6027

4 жыл бұрын

@@rja9797 some mother's are to soft or to scared to punish their kids

She’s so stylish & radiant .. beautiful

At first I didn’t see where Steve was going but when he finished I totally got it ,makes perfect sense

When hubby or I discipline our kids and if either of us disagree witg the method we wait till after the kids leave the room then talk to the other and give our respective opinions

@captkill3304

5 жыл бұрын

That's exactly how you do it.

@angelacarpentercarpenter7797

5 жыл бұрын

That's right Steve true facts..

@marclabrie6027

4 жыл бұрын

@@angelacarpentercarpenter7797 agreed

@ronniejackson9228

3 жыл бұрын

Well Said!! Every female needs to read and understand exactly what you just wrote.. And if they can't comprehend you're statement re-read until its understood..

Exactly. In my household, growing up, if mom said no,or dad said no,that's it,bottom line. It's no.

@yahviimichel5813

5 жыл бұрын

Period ❕❗❕❗❕❗❕❗

@nathanaelvalville9191

5 жыл бұрын

One time I tricked my dad, when mom had already said no. Let me tell you I never had the desire to do that again 😂😂😂😂

@robertlunderwood

5 жыл бұрын

@@nathanaelvalville9191 Got tore up?

@nathanaelvalville9191

5 жыл бұрын

@@robertlunderwood the ass whoopin was real

@Ravenex2

4 жыл бұрын

For one parent to gloss over what the other said is disrespectful to their partner, it's definitely a necessity to be aligned with the rules set fourth for the kids to follow.

I completely agree with Steve and empathize with her because I have been there. It’s gonna be hard girl but when he goes there with those boys, sit on your hands and let him deal with it. You will thank him later!

@markustx

5 жыл бұрын

You know what you're talking about

@marclabrie6027

4 жыл бұрын

@@markustx I agree with her

Is he the man of your Dreams?? She shuddered 🤣🤣🤣🤣

Bars! My father is one of my best friends….now. He’s was tough as hell on my brother and I, he’s proud of the men we became and I’m proud of the man that I am, I’d be nothing without his guidance and I plan to raise my son in that same image. We have a responsibility as parents to make sure our world still turns after our departure.

I wish my father was strict, the burden was all on my mother and now that I’m older and have my own kids I see how hard it must’ve been to be so tough all the time…it’s easier to let things slide but it’s soooooo hard to be tough with your kids so they don’t grow up to be assholes.

@mohamedadan6678

Жыл бұрын

that's why a strong masculine figure should be in the house

@T_con_Caballeros

11 ай бұрын

It’s easy

Never ever raise your hand against any of you kids, no matter if they are boys or girls. Hands always should extend love and never inflict any pain. Hitting a kid just reveals the helplessness and ignorance of guiding a kid the right way.

@pbennett13

Жыл бұрын

I agree, but I’m not sure she intimated that… he could be verbally harsh in his correction - but there should be limits there too

We need better ways to raise children than being harsh with them.

@zhana4518

Жыл бұрын

@Byron Payne Proven to do what? There are ways to communicate that respect both parties and both parties' needs. We don't have to make the same mistakes as our elders did.

I like that quote from Steve.. "an undisciplined boy becomes an undisciplined man." hope she gets it..

Steve is a well learned,wise man.🙏🏿💃🏿🙏🏿💯💃🏿

It's all relative with teaching kids. Some kids need to learn lessons a way that would devastate more sensitive ones - kids are different, every one of them. My big brother was a sensitive kid, the harsh way only backfired with him and led him to lash out (he's the oldest, so my parents weren't that experienced yet). My little brother is not sensitive at all, he still, as a teenager, needs clear rules, otherwise he'll outsmart the system to his own advantage. Big bro probably would have profited more from serious and personal father-son talks, little bro would have profited from stricter rules and punishments when he was little. They're both terrific guys, so my parents clearly didn't fail, and everything I say is just tiny details. You can always criticise little things. But it's what I take away from my family for when I have kids: learn what works for them. There are, of course, absolute no-gos for any and all children, but many things are relative. Son stole something from the candy box after brushing his teeth in the evening. Some kids might need an actual punishment: no candy at all for a week or even a month. Some kids might just need an explanation of the damage it can do to their teeth, or the material and emotional damage breaking rules and especially stealing can do. This might not be the best example, but you get what I trying to say. Obviously a young child couldn't care less about an explanation as to why something is wrong, but my point is just they're different.

For the first time ever, I agree with Steve. My mom disciplined us girls and my dad disciplined my brothers and even cousins. They turned out great. Respectful and wholesome, which is what women want to marry or have in their life. I know when I get married and have children, I plan on matching my discipline style of my sons with my husband, whom I hope will be tough not rough. There is a solid difference. Rough is bruising and humiliation. Tough is pain of losing privileges delivered with love and intent on building character.

@katiemmb2091

2 жыл бұрын

And how is a girl supposed to be raised?

@-DA-ONE-

2 жыл бұрын

@@katiemmb2091 a good mother ,a good wife ,a good person in general

My father was soft but the head of our family. He couldn’t even beat us...and when you were punished, you knew you deserved it! But he taught us to be strong and independent and to never let any man disrespect you. However both of my brothers have turned out to be lazy men with no direction, which is sad. Just glad he is not around to see it as all he wanted in life for us was to be self sufficient.

I don’t like dad who are too tough and I won’t be one. It doesn’t take all of that. You don’t have to be harsh, or mean about it, just be firm, make them understand without making them scared to even do anything remotely fun or childlike around you.

@danielpedersen1688

4 жыл бұрын

Exactly i completely agree with you! not everything involves being harsh or abusive or violent or whatever it is parents can come up with just need to speak to them and make them understand without scaring them

If she thinks hes being harsh she should talk to her husband behind the scenes NOT in front of them. Ever!

My dad was always in the process of mentoring, training, connecting and disciplining me, to create a desire and the skills needed for a boy to become a good man.

Didn’t stop Diddy tho Mr.Harvey 😂

My grandparents told me the same thing, never disagree in front of the kids

That was really valuable advice, I'll use that method when my kids get to talking.

One word about Steve’s advice to that beautiful lady, ‘PERFECT!!!’

@marclabrie6027

4 жыл бұрын

Agreed

Steve Harvey knows the words of wisdom. Im 23 and i do agree with what you are saying. Kids need discipline. I agree with you on disagreeing with your spouse in front of your kid or kids.

If you have a disagreement with the way your husband reacts or tries to discipline your kids wait until after he's done and say," I really would like it if you were a little more understanding,(yelled less), were more empathetic." Its a lot of things you can do and say without starting another argument and chiming in when he's disciplining them.

But yea this is why it’s important for parents to do discipline and unconditional love!!! ♥️♥️♥️

Thanks Steve. It's not easy being an old school kind of dad in this world. We have had this same issue in our household, but I'm hopeful she is beginning to see as our son gets older that he needs the tough love of a father. When moms try to be "lawyer" of their son defending him to the father, the son may end up needing real lawyers later!!

Most successful black men are mad deep down inside.They know what they had to go through to get where they are...and will often times treat their children...black boys... too harshly... Good intentions but bad behaviour! They need to learn balance! My ex husband was that way with his two sons. All that discipline and one ended up in prison and the other one came close but cleaned up his act when he started having children of his own... but ended up treating his kids the same way his father treated him...too harshly! Not all kids are created equally...some kids need more discipline and some not so much. Get to know your children as individuals and treat them accordingly!

@rochellebaskin4434

5 жыл бұрын

Exactly! Its not the discipline I disagree with its the mindset and methods. Manipulation , angry, and abusive, or just to be controlling ways are not healthy. Balance is key!! I’ve seen the scars entering adulthood.

@rainbowstarmced191

3 жыл бұрын

This comment 👏 excellent way to put it

This is the best advice ever I ever heard from Steve

I never had a father to teach me how to be a man, but my mom was enough for me, and she always said: "Your guide is your own mind". So, it was up to me deciding to be a good person or not. I thought I've chosen the right thing. I have a degree, I work, I pay my taxes, I treat people how I'd like to be treated. Anyway, thanks mom. You're awesome.

@victortaylor7737

Жыл бұрын

Ur a good guy.i had a father,but he never taught me about females or anything,same for my 2 brothers.i was 34 when I got a Godly woman in my life who taught me a lot about females.God bless you!

Wait..did she get married at age 10?!!! She looks so young. Dang, ma'am!!!

@princessliuz916

4 жыл бұрын

Shes probabsbly 40 its bot unvelievible

Wish I had a father figure like Steve...that’s why I’m lost...I’ve never been to prison or anything like that...but I just always sought guidance from older men cus I never had a father figure

@katiemmb2091

2 жыл бұрын

But u had a mother figure, god bless you :)

@oeao2841

2 жыл бұрын

@@katiemmb2091 she didn't teach me anything

@katiemmb2091

2 жыл бұрын

@@oeao2841 oh well thats sad :/ well god bless you and wishing you the best in life and if you do have a bad relationship with your mom, know that its all going to get better bye bye!

It's hard to know for sure without the details. Many times, when parents are too strict, the children rebel and act out as adults. Sometimes, being less strict and leading by example and letting your children learn from their mistakes is the best way for them to grow.

Our mother used to punish me badly and I'm proud of that because of the way discipline had been a part of my life because of her. I love you mom.

Preach it Steve..spot on

when you disagree, talk about that behind closed doors, but always support each other in front of the children! that's how I was raised!

Amen. Mam. If you disagree, think he's being too harsh...if you wait to point that out when you're not in front of the kids and you can come to an agreement on that issue (when you're not in front of the kids) they won't be so easily able to play you and your husband against each other. The minute they smell disunity in your relationship, the games have begun!

I really ,truly wonder who on earth would be at least as good as sir Harvey when he's gone.the level and quantity of wisdom this man displays in each of his shows is jawdropping...the next host will have to be incredibly smart....and frankly ...whatever ...

Steve said it exactly as i thought. Thats right. Talk BEHIND the scenes disagree there NOT in front

My goodness! Mr. Harvey's wisdom is 2nd to none! Always apt!!

Maybe his punishments are to harsh, we never knew what the punishments were

Damn Straight. I tried to tell this to my mom about my nephews FAILED. Now 20 year later she knows.

Yesssss!!! Thank you. You have to raise boys and girls different. Thank for honesty.

@katiemmb2091

2 жыл бұрын

Please, tell me how to raise and women and how to raise a man ?

Does not sound right, "going in on my boys he is rough." 🤔🤔🤔

I'm probably the opinion no one agrees with but i say follow your instinct. If the discipline is projection of anger, that's a problem.

Guuuhhhhh daaayyyyuuummm, Steve looks 10x better with a beard

👍👍 Thank you Steve me my never could agree on disciplining our boys ! But your one hundred percent right in what you told the nice lady !

“Kids are slick” 😌😌😂

Like Yanla Vanzant always said: you are raising someone’s else husband and someone else father. That’s a big responsibility! Your husband got it let him handle those boys - you won’t regret it.

Great advice, thank you for sharing this!

Not the answer she was looking for 😂

Great counsel.

Yup! Always have the same opinion in front of your kids even if you disagree with the way your partner is talking or dealing with them. When my son was below 10yrs old, he would ask or say something and I would say NO. He would walk away saying that he's gonna call his dad and ask him. Before he called, i would call my husband real quick and explain and tell him to just say NO. This happened just a couple of times and after few attempts, our son knew this ain't gonna work with the folks at all. My husband and I would discuss the issue later and just have a laugh. Since then, to our son, NO means NO... he's 16 now and he's super disciplined and humble and all that.... it just works, people. There is too much power when you agree and disagree on the same things when it comes to raising kids. One of the strongest points to raise disciplined kids.

Steve is a great example of a dad

I hope to age this gracefully

Ever notice how the crowd applauds for no reason

Steve was trying to give this sister "the wink" about what kind of boys need discipline...hope she caught the hint 😉

wow steve is on point 👏👏👏👏👏💪💪💪💪

WOW!! A man that got it figured out. I've been saying this for years. NEVER DISAGREE IN FRONT OF YOUR KIDS! NEVER! NEVER! He's dead on right. The moment you disagree in front of them.... they got you! They know how to play you two against each other. You never say it in front of them. And every single time you know they already asked the other parent, and now they are asking you, you replay "What did your father say? Do that." "What did your mother say? Do that." He is dead on right. That is exactly what you should do.

This episode is just AMAZING!

If the punishment is beating the crap out of them this was bad advice!

@morten1975dk

3 жыл бұрын

lol..Was thinking the same. We don't really know the details of the hardness here. I could actually be too harsh for all we know....

@cwhitley5007

3 жыл бұрын

@@morten1975dk right, she may not want to say how harsh it is in tv because she will be forced to do something about it.. and If she thinks it's to harsh she is probably right.

Steve is usually good with the advice, but no parent should become their child’s first bully. That is dumb af.

She is beyond beautiful 😍😍

I had to learn this one as well !!!! Well said Steve.

My father whooped me too ... me and him still don’t talk to this day I just don’t like him as a person 🤷🏾‍♂️ but everyday I wake up I’m grinding for what u want and I’m not gonna beat my child and tell them it’s wrong just because they made a mistake that ALL PEOPLE make

Also.....don't argue with each other before the kids. Do that in private...unless the disciplinary parent is ACTUALLY killing them. Lol

I will apologize to my son if I'm harder on him than life will be.

I loved Steve for this segment!!! That’s a whole WORD!!!!

I don't know how Steve the great announces any decisions without knowing any details.. Harsh as in... Definitely harsh like what... He straps and waks them.. What???

@terrancelivingston3304

5 жыл бұрын

The production team gives him the questions prior to taping.

I wholeheartedly agree with this. For once I agree with his advice.

I miss Steve’s show. He is so real and had so much great advice for anyone

Tell her Steve!! 💯💯💯

Lady look here you let your husband raise those boys. It is better he raise them in your home than they get raised by the gangs in the streets OR better yet, would you rather the WARDEN to raise them in THE BIG HOUSE where you WILL NOT have a say on anything. Plain and simple as that. Back off and let your husband be the MAN AND FATHER he was created to be for you and your sons.

@prncessbaby16

5 жыл бұрын

Right tho. She should be happy that she has someone to raise them that's the same gender as them because let's face it, yes single moms can try to raise their sons, but only a man can really raise a man like Steve said.

@tcalvin4196

5 жыл бұрын

@@prncessbaby16 Right on!!

@danielpedersen1688

4 жыл бұрын

But what does she mean by harsh it depends what he does to them right? is it physical or verbal, we dont know of course. At least from my point of view it wasn't that clear she said harsh but I would like to know what the dad actully does to them everyone has their own interpretation of what harsh is. Is he hitting them?

That's the problem right there today, dads can't say or do anything, if he get on the boys for their behavior and discipline them , you have the mom get up in the man's face and tell him you don't talk to him like that, or you can't do that, and when the kids see that, he won't have any respect for the dad.

@simplyyvey

5 жыл бұрын

The1baddman septentrional mizè. Fanm

@captkill3304

5 жыл бұрын

Exactly. She knocks the feet out from under him and makes the children think they only have to listen to her, not him

@marcusmelton2295

5 жыл бұрын

The way you discipline matters though.

@r.h.3084

5 жыл бұрын

I agree with you, but from the way she looks I'd like to know exactly what this man is doing. She's really upset about this.

@susanfurnish4132

4 жыл бұрын

But beating the kids isn't having any respect for the kids!

You hit the nail right on the head, Wise words Indeed.

Spot on Steve....you got this!!