True!! family meetings are a thing in South Africa. Both the husband or wife can report 😂 The whole family is invested in making the marriage work

@julietmelb5213

6 ай бұрын

Yeph 🤣

@jondo3817

5 ай бұрын

i like that

@cmartin5903

5 ай бұрын

Cool !

this guy spoke true about south africa, families dont take sides but rather come together to fix the marriages regardless who is wrong.

@BuckleBunny

15 күн бұрын

But they don’t want that they want you to take their side and still push the relationship back together

This episode was sponsored by High levels of Testosterone 😢😂

@nancymwale8507

4 ай бұрын

😂😂

So true. In South Africa the husband can report the wife to the family, and sometimes it involves uncles and aunties. THEN, they call you in for a meeting😂😂😂

@hassshoban8206

6 ай бұрын

That's true to Tanzania 😂

@shifrahmulumba

6 ай бұрын

That's being African

@Rhenadhis

6 ай бұрын

That happens in Kenya as well

@SherrieBumbray

6 ай бұрын

It's the same in Ghana.

@albertinaelavoco8705

6 ай бұрын

That's true to Angola 🇦🇴😭😭😂😂

I like the phrase “ambitious to be a wife” because that is legitimately the goal of some women regardless of their intelligence or earning potential, her goal is to take care of a husband and family.

@kbillingsley3

5 ай бұрын

Well said!

Very sad that black men are focused on oppressing black women instead of proving their worth.. sign of insecurity in my opinion

He doesn’t want a wife, he wants a slave without a brain😂. A leader doesn’t mean you’re controlling. it means you know how to guide and possibly come with a solution when none is available. He needs to understand the meaning of leadership, poor tink tink 😂

@justgoddessesonly

6 ай бұрын

It's giving Mister from the Color Purple. Getting yelled at just because you stepped out the door to check the mail...creepy.

@mistashortstroke443

6 ай бұрын

10000% INCORRECT He just said the quiet part out loud as he should.... Women talk they shit about what they want from a man using the only feeble leverage they have & once they become wilting divas it's time 4 them 2 reap the bitter harvest 😢

@user-ed7ne3dy5b

6 ай бұрын

Nah that is not it we just don't want to deal with a Boss B or Miss Independent. We do not want a matriarch for a wife! I want a woman that will respect me the sacrifices that I will and have done to create not only generational wealth but a foundation that not only for my kids but for also my grandchildren and many generations to come. Our community has been in dismay, and I no longer want this cycle to continue. At the same breath, my daughters will not in relationships with Ray Ray or Pookie either.

@justgoddessesonly

6 ай бұрын

@@user-ed7ne3dy5b Sure. Sounds good. When you build a country tht can compete then demand all you want, until then, your lack of discipline, money, and power is just as much of a turn off as a bossy woman. Women stay quiet when world leaders and builders enter the room. Blk men do not have the resources or power to talk the major trash they spew as of now.

@SmokeyThaLion

6 ай бұрын

i think if youre gonna use laughing emojis to make your point at least understand words ... you say a leader doesnt mean controlling then you make up your own definition of a leader LMAO go google what leader means! control is literally in the definition its a person who commands 🤣🤣🤣 poor tink tink try again sir

I am a man, and my wife is my partner, not my sex slave.

Zulu women want strongest man who will kill for her. 😂😂

@diopfifi4937

3 ай бұрын

That's right 😂😂

its easy to ask a woman to submit but we have to trust that you can lead. The fact is alot of us women have been lead astray by men wheather it be fathers, elders or partners so our guard is up to protect ourselves.

@E.P.7131

6 ай бұрын

I completely understand. I'm not sure what needs to be done to heal or correct that distrust, tho. We have to start somewhere. I see nothing wrong with traditional gender roles.

@ladylabyrinth6345

6 ай бұрын

​@@E.P.7131I suppose it depends on who's traditions we're following. Some are more reasonable than others.

As a man who has dated in Uganda, Ghanna, Zambia, Nigeria, Kenya etc., that is not my experience. Most fathers are not in the home, they typically leave. The women are quickly becoming westernized, they know everything from the latest fashion, music, KZread channels and relationship trends all courtesy of the internet and social media. South Africa is 10 steps ahead of the rest of Africa. Don't believe the hype, the world is shrinking very fast and the women worldwide will soon not be worth marriage. The female host's reaction to the guest's opinion is all the proof you need fellas.

@NoExcuseENT

4 ай бұрын

You're right. I went to South Africa after this interview and South Africa is just like the U.S. I was completely wrong. I do like what I saw in uganda.

@BuckleBunny

15 күн бұрын

Wait women won’t be worth marrying because there are westernize? But yet there are a lot of women that do become married that are western eyes. Honestly, I’m not sure why you label it that when England is actually the barometer on the change on which woman become, then second is France. Woman follow those trends and becoming independent in nature the way that they are. With that said, the woman in Finland are far more independent in the way they act and think and yet they are married. Maybe you may need to change and start to act like Men from Finland. Start helping take care of the children at home and do some housework. Men are better cookers than women anyway. I wash the dishes you cooked the meals. We actually could have a life.

True leadership in a man is about finding Divine love within himself FIRST. His Divine self love then becomes the GUIDE FOR BOTH involved. A TRUE man's leadership is ALWAYS gentle. (Gentleness is very powerful). The way the man communicates; tones in a man's voice; a man's creativity in ideas to go forward; a man's eagerness to be a father; a man's secureness in his I AM-ness (or relationship with the Divine). The globe is becoming westernized with relentless momentum. Men, NOW is the time to find God WITHIN yourself. Fear is the parent of the Red Pill and Feminism platforms.

Great guest. Good perspective

I would have liked to hear Joannita's perspective more in this discussion.

If you want protection you have to be able to take some orders.

As a South African woman, I hope he never finds what he's looking for in South Africa. Or if he does, unfortunately, I hope he meets a Minnie Dlamini like type of wife who leaves him quick.

@E.P.7131

6 ай бұрын

Why?

@Mr.Kabukicho

6 ай бұрын

People you never amount to anything 🤡

Men knows what happens in girls trip. You may say not all girls trip, correct. But for the "most" part, men knows what's up. You can scream insecure men all you want, doesn't change the fact.

@justgoddessesonly

6 ай бұрын

Not all girls trips. Smart women know not to ever trust a friend to see you swinging from monkey branches, thuggin' rounds, because tht messy b@t,$ will bring tht receipt out on a woman the first time her friend makes her mad or her husband buys her a house and a ring tht's bigger than said average at best friend. The only woman tht knows all a woman's scandalous secrets is her momma. And even tht can be shaky.

@maxsweet3000

6 ай бұрын

Thanks for the verification!

@obibomaye7785

6 ай бұрын

Very true ! I'm leaving in Paris, France (the most visited city in the world)... The extreme majority a tourist wants to find a "boyfriend" for the trip... (Every race of woman are like that)

@kelvinkenproduction1449

6 ай бұрын

@obibomaye7785 yup. And it's the same thing when they go to the Caribbean, South America, and other places. And they think we don't know.

Always Great to hear from Rob! Glad he was on 💯👍

A tyrant like this does not deserve a wife.

@E.P.7131

6 ай бұрын

Why not?

Brave guest... i only see him finding a woman who needs him as a sponsor.

@vendeverous886

4 ай бұрын

If she is submissive, and is attracted to him and give him children then that works too. Remember submission is the ultimate respect and that’s what he wants.

Joanita bless your heart; & you handled being on this episode with such grace!

@Knd238

6 ай бұрын

I couldn’t have stayed silent. She’s amazing

@justgoddessesonly

6 ай бұрын

Joanita needs a Nobel Peace Prize and a statue of herself next to Mandela for smiling thru this nonsense. This would drive most women to drink. This was like a bad psoriasis rash. 😂you go girl...😂

@mistashortstroke443

6 ай бұрын

Joanita got clapped on this one but it's okay I'm a fan of #angelfootmya

@joanitamaaya

6 ай бұрын

@@justgoddessesonly😅😅😅

@ginacoleman788

6 ай бұрын

Absolutely! Joanita: the father's loyalty is BLOOD .... she had to school the young genius lol

The FBA brother 👨🏽 is spot on.

Oshay, you have to reiterate that the man who is PAYING all the bills needs to be the decision maker in the home and the leader. This aint no 50/50 type of relationship. That's where the friction comes from. These American women are hearing us passport bros wanting control and yet they think we're doing 50/50 abroad. That's not the case. Understand we providers in thise foreign countries.

oshay, this is a very important video ! alot of us have a misunderstanding about latin america. thank you oshay for your work.

I don't fully agree with him, the podcast wasn't as bad nor did he say anything crazy as the comments make it seem. I enjoyed this episode.

@biorobot2

6 ай бұрын

Pay attention to who make those comments, very telling indeed …

@E.P.7131

6 ай бұрын

Yea, I'm puzzled reading the comments. I'm wondering if maybe "controlling" has somewhat of a different meaning or connotation in Uganda, Kenya, or South Africa 🤷🏾‍♂️

@ms.Waldorf

6 ай бұрын

atp they are too slow @@E.P.7131

I dont 100 percent agreee with everything but you know what at least hes honest with what he believes works for him ... even if he lives in a bubble

@laazucar2197

6 ай бұрын

I agree. I think it is important that people hear people like him out. He is not a good example as a married man & travels the globe to meet women. Perhaps I am misunderstanding. I am not sure that American women are their only problem. He might be his own problem. I'm not very religious, but he mentioned Adam & Eve. Well Eve was deceived , but Adam disobed. Adam knew what God instructed, but Adam chose to disobey.

Great interview and great guest. This is the defintion of a conversation starter. Whether you agree with him or not, this is a good litmus test for your relationship. Watch this with your girl and see if y'all have consensus on this or not.

@TRAVISJay-if8yh

6 ай бұрын

I'm sorry but this guy is boring. U know afro Colombian girl is cheating off this guy.

I'm Nigerian man. This brother needs to learn how to lead, otherwise African girls go show am propa pepper! Even village girls you can't basically force to do whatever you want, you got to listen to your babe o bros.

@lebo5281

6 ай бұрын

🤣🤣🤣Oh, he is about to FIND OUT.

@NIO623

6 ай бұрын

Ohh... he will learn.he will see.

@organimoptyltdorganimoptyl5101

6 ай бұрын

Lol The girl will seek freedom from a Local Guy,and probably turn the American Guy to a Trick..Have him on a spell to "shut up" and just "Give"..We all learn the hard way.

@Omar-kl3xp

6 ай бұрын

He is delusional he thinks that he can do whatever he wants lol

Education does not mean you know what you are doing. Also it doesn't mean that you cannot be wrong. This man is delusional.

@mistashortstroke443

6 ай бұрын

10000% INCORRECT He just said the quiet part out loud as he should.... Women talk they shit about what they want from a man using the only feeble leverage they have & once they become wilting divas it's time 4 them 2 reap the bitter harvest 😢

@blackpanther-kt7xx

5 ай бұрын

So you strive to go through educating yourself to make a better life for your family , to have your wife not on the same page 👀🤦🏽‍♂️

@sophiemclarke6556

5 ай бұрын

@@blackpanther-kt7xx You are surpose to ensure the wife you choose have the same values as you. Also bare in mind she or you may change during the marriage duration.

Shout out to No Excuse. This was a great episode.

Who told this dude that men in Africa control women. That's a wrong perception. Oshay knows it well as he has highlighted , men in Africa are leaders and heads of our families and women look at them as their leaders. So these passport bros think it's controlling. Nah that's our culture.

@E.P.7131

6 ай бұрын

I think the word 'controlling' in this context has more to do with giving direction & guidance as a leader. In the U.S., women call this "controlling". American women are often in constant competition & comparison with their own men for leadership role (om every context).

@diopfifi4937

3 ай бұрын

Don't mind him. They have no idea what a man place is in society. They are very confused.

@diopfifi4937

3 ай бұрын

​@@E.P.7131no wonder they are unhappy. There is no need to compete with your partner/husband

@E.P.7131

3 ай бұрын

@@diopfifi4937 I agree 100% and avoid women like that. There is no way I can build anything with a woman that's undermining me.

This brother looking for a submissive, non-ambitious women in South Africa? Then he's very ill informed about South African women. He spoke about lobola, did he know that all SA families hold in high regard and value a woman who is educated. Dude speaks as though South African women are a homogenous group that are all similar in behaviour, culture, tradition and customs, no sir. A Zulu woman is not the same as a Venda woman; A Pedi woman is not the same as a Xhosa woman, a Coloured woman is not the same as a Tsonga woman...etc etc. This passport Bro can get his ideal woman in Mali, Senegal, Mauritania, Guinea Bissau, Gambia, Somalia or Burkina Faso.

@jimbimedia

6 ай бұрын

If you think women in those places are floor mats, you would be wrong.

@HLGMD

6 ай бұрын

These people need to get submission in America first then can they talk about submission abroad. These passport bros want South African men to raise their daughters to be submissive for foreign men to just cherry pick the women when they (Passport bros/ foreign men) don't want to raise their daughters at all.

@PearlPrinces100

6 ай бұрын

@@HLGMD 👏👏👏👏You absolutely right.

@PearlPrinces100

6 ай бұрын

@@jimbimedia I'm not implying that they are door mats but Sharia law is highly esteemed in those parts. The very meaning of the word 'Islam' means submission and throughout Quranic texts it is the woman who has to submit more. Passport Bro will be right at home there. The women aren't highly educated and career driven, they have their role cut out for them. Getting a husband is the ultimate goal and objective of the woman in those societies. In SA its different, a woman is encouraged and expected to get an education, pursue a career and have a strong sense of entrepreneurship. A woman is always warned about always being financially savvy and educationally ready in case her husband is incapacitated or dies so she can continue taking care of her children and household responsibilities. For South Africans of all races the above qualities are a determining factor in getting a high value husband or even getting a husband at all.

@TRAVISJay-if8yh

6 ай бұрын

THEY ARE TOO DARK N UGLY. HENCE BRAZIL

He says he is successful, but IS HE? In life, your children are your legacy. They are the measure of success. It's NOT paper or degrees.....it's what you leave behind. This guy is in Africa claiming success at age FORTY and he has no children.....no LEGACY.

@sammiesmith6690

5 ай бұрын

Why are you hating on him? Why are you hating on Passport Brothers ? I Presume you are a B-Dubb or ABW?

@ginacoleman788

5 ай бұрын

I'm not hating. He described himself as a successful, intelligent man but he DIDN'T understand the culture he married into. HE admitted that, didn't he. He just met a nice, pretty woman and got married.

You would be disappointed, young man. I don’t want you near my daughter.

He's right we control!!!!! Everything flows through us

this interview was not a great look for US brothers. he honestly sounds traumatized from something in the past and is just using talking points to make his case. I know the purpose was to highlight interest in Africa, but this could have created a slight divide. and if there must be a divide I'd rather it be in South America or Asia, NOT Africa lol

Submissive and SA women in one sentence is not a thing... South African culture is extra Americanized

@PapBob-jg7rd

6 ай бұрын

There is no American culture . America is nationality . Just like there is no South African culture . South Africa is Nationality . Variations more than similarities . Population of South Africa 60 million . Latin America 650 million . More than 650 million behaviors . In US Black women different from white women different from Asian Women . At least 58% of Asian women in US married . Less than 26% Black women in US married . Different Cultures . Black men and white men different from Native American men different from Hispanic men and women . California different from Alabama and Alabama different from Wisconsin and Hawaii .

@user-qx6ko8lz1h

6 ай бұрын

Sa culture is not americanized. SA actually been around longer than FBA became present. FBA was just born 500 years ago. Africans been around waaaaaaaaaaaay longer than that.

@PapBob-jg7rd

6 ай бұрын

@@user-qx6ko8lz1h what is FBA

@ms.Waldorf

6 ай бұрын

American culture is popular because of media and is being adapted everywhere hence SA being americanized this has nothing to do with all that you said

@user-qx6ko8lz1h

6 ай бұрын

South Africa doesnt watch what goes on in america. They are independant and dont need support from outside. They built their nation what are you talkin about? Plus you never been to SA to see if they watch american media.Africans have their own news media and tv shows/movies.@@ms.Waldorf

Great discussion today 👊🏿👊🏿👊🏿

Women do not sacrifice your dreams for anyone especially a man. Alway have something for your self.

This brother did okay to to me but the woman he wonna marry, he might have to get someone to build her. He don’t want a woman that is close in his age because he want a young and naive girl that he can control, a woman don’t need a controller she need someone to lead her and if you have a wife she should be free to help you make some decisions.

@nanayaa.5325

6 ай бұрын

As it says in the Bible help mate.

@nevonthedaily

6 ай бұрын

@@nanayaa.5325 yes but the way he talking, is like he doesn’t need any help from her so he might as well stay single

@E.P.7131

6 ай бұрын

How can one lead without some sort of control?

@ObiohaNwaiwu-pf7pg

Ай бұрын

​@@E.P.7131why can't you apply that to your American women dude, remember that's why your out here because you can't control your own west women, you need to dominate them first before you rule the world

Finally Got a Kenganda video suggestion. 👍🏾✊🏾

Lies have been detected ❌❌❌❗

@AlkebulanJahmiah

6 ай бұрын

What's lies here

His life as a Passport Bro: I'm gettin a divorce.....I THINK

Forget about trips abroad. Even girls' night out should be a faux pas for any serious married man

Great interview

So, this young 20 year old should already be established in life. (Having her business and life together, etc..) And she should stay the same (mentally and physically) throughout the relationship ? Never grow in herself or the relationship? Dude, you are delusional. And, you as the man, feels that as long as you provide, you get control and submission , is always right (90% of the time), and you still do whatever you want because you are the man. Am I right on this?

@SherrieBumbray

6 ай бұрын

@alexxb7957 These PPB have convinced themselves that younger women are easier to deal with because they have less baggage. They aren't interested in allowing a young woman to come into her womanhood on her own. They won't even pay for tuition to help them get an education or start them a little business. They think a relationship is a dictatorship rather than a partnership. Their whole approach is predatory.

@E.P.7131

6 ай бұрын

​@@SherrieBumbrayHonestly, it's partly because of the bad women & poor mothers that ran the men off away from the family. It may be an over correction of sorts, just to keep some order, but I don't think the intention is malicious or to be a tyrant. Imagine of your mother, aunts, sisters, female cousins, girlfriends & wives have all undermined your manhood & challenged your masculinity since childhood. We're wounded and seeking healing from amazing African women that trust & want our leadership.

@SherrieBumbray

6 ай бұрын

@@E.P.7131 You all need to heal before you leave the US. You all are bringing your trauma to peaceful environments and completely upsetting the balance. Just like this guy in the video. He's only dated non American Black women. He's married to a young Afro Colombian woman, but he's gallivanting around Africa. The issue is him, not the women he prefers.

@E.P.7131

6 ай бұрын

@@SherrieBumbray I agree about the healing part. I've started my healing journey.

@SherrieBumbray

6 ай бұрын

@@E.P.7131 That is awesome! I pray that you find happiness within yourself so that you can attract the desires of your heart. Peace and continued guidance.

He sounds like a less paid Kanye 😂

Guy wants a child female, afraid of a mature female.

This guest sounds childish. In Africa men don't control their wives, they lead them. This is the reason these passport bros end up getting disappointed after arriving in Africa.

@NIO623

6 ай бұрын

It's mostly because their fathers were not present in their lives or married to their mothers. They do not have a true representation of husbands or fathers. It's actually sad to witness.

@chrisamoi8663

6 ай бұрын

@@NIO623 it's sad to hear them try to justify why they need a wife whom they can control.

@Soufside_Slim

6 ай бұрын

Same as Africans fleeing to America

I enjoyed this video, it is a conversation starter. I think the word "control" has a negative connotation with women. What men want is order, structure, discipline; we as men thrive in this kind of environment, and women see it as a threat to their freedoms, when it is really a form or protection. I have no desire to "control" a woman, I'm a leader and if she and I are not going in the same direction then she will not get the benefit of my protection & provision without accepting my guidance & instruction. American black men are tired of being treated like a buffet kr 'a la carte', we cannot be picked apart for women to take desirable parts, but discard & refuse the undesirable parts. All or nothing, and I'm prepared to turn the cold shoulder like Dennis Spurling and walk away.

Joan is becoming an DAMerican plant in Uganda😂😂😂😂😂

@anumekasa4439

6 ай бұрын

Yes she isTrying to fk bring herself down. With that thought.

@joanitamaaya

6 ай бұрын

What’s that?

The feminist and gynocentric fallacy is burdening men with responsibility/accountability without authority. That never works.

@caren_the_explorer

6 ай бұрын

While complaining about gynocentricity, they pursue it with ferocity. Go figure...

End of day Woman is a woman. As a man you pick who gets along with you, makes you smile, helps you meet your goals thru thick and thin with least amount of drama. Dont matter where that woman comes from.., Very simple logic ….

If you black men want to lead you have to earn it.. you have to show it on a global scale and naturally once you have earned our respect we will happily let you lead. But forcing your partner to submit before proving your worth we will absolutely not put our future and lives on your hands. Men of other races have proved their worth now it’s your turn…

I think the brother did good. His articulation needs some polishing but I get what he saying. He seems like he had some bad experiences and is currently in one now. Overall, I get it.

@E.P.7131

6 ай бұрын

Same here. I think as American black men we deal with a level of trauma & dysfunction and we have to heal and/or resolve those issues before heading abroad, otherwise we take that baggage with us and "over correct".

Continuously Running 🏃‍♀️ around the world 🌎. Maybe the problem is you

@bmizrahi1782

6 ай бұрын

The emoji should have been a male running

You don’t demand respect you command respect how you carry and live out your life . He listed off his degrees but are you book smart where is the level of common sense? Your actions shows leadership . Working together. Adam and Eve analogy is hilarious. Adam would listen to his instructions Eve would have been out there by himself . The 1st thing Adam did was blame someone else instead of taking accountability for his actions and choice .

Now you sound like marriage material Oshay. That other guy ummmm, someone actually married him? They obviously didn't vet him well enough.

Men do not be fearful stand on your words .. CONTROL!!!!!!!!

Men who are not good fathers will not be chastised by other men for his failure as a father BUT the these men WILL chastise the daughter for her failures. Failures that are sourced back to not having a good father to provide her with a roll model of how a man should conduct himself.

I think passport bros needs to fix their FBA women. that way they dont need to go around the world tryin to date other foreign "mens" women. Most tether men dont want to date FBA BA women. They stay at home base.

@justchillinhowichill

6 ай бұрын

passport bros are a small group of people . they just make the most noise. also, don't forget, passport bros are not just from the USA.

Wherever you go there you are!!!!

When black men start playing a role globally in running successful governments, leading great inventions, building nations, then they would have earned our respect and we will gladly submit! Until y’all start showing the world that you can build the world around us please sit somewhere and let us breathe. How about invent some planes or flying cars or something for mankind then we will respect you. Your greatest source of power will not come from controlling your woman it will come from building nations.. successful flourishing nations!!!

@NoExcuseENT

5 ай бұрын

Straight from the divestor handbook 😅. If white women are birthing leaders then why can't you birth them?

Wisdom is knowing that you don't know everything. Even kings have advisors. A good CEO will not automatically assume others can never be right.

Poor Joanita. 😢😢 girl you better get a work backup plan. I know you will snap one day listening to people like this often.

@joanitamaaya

6 ай бұрын

😅😅😅stop….

@abp4708

5 ай бұрын

listening is sexy. babbling and complaining is not

He speaks facts…Latin woman are not submissive as we think…but they are very nice but you won’t control them.

Being ambitious brings out masculine traits, because the work or business environment is competitive and aggressive, these traits are not desirable for a woman in a home, the man and kids are better off with a famine woman

@timothyokwi2909

6 ай бұрын

*Feminine sorry

Oshay was cooking 36:00-38.15 You know you need to make a clip out of that.

He's a fool. Pure and simple. "Pride goes before the fall", Bub. smh He has no clue what leadership is.

...don't bring this dude back, he's twisted in his thoughts and ways of archiving goals.

@Marcus-ut3hj

6 ай бұрын

Beta😂

@Adonis300

6 ай бұрын

Why shouldn't he be allowed on .... cause he disagrees with your views? ... nah let him speak his mind and you can disagree like an adult

@Knd238

6 ай бұрын

@@Marcus-ut3hj that was gross. Grow up

@Marcus-ut3hj

6 ай бұрын

@@Knd238 don't know what was gross you lost me 🥱🥱you think believe and live your life like you do, and I will live mylife how i do 🤷🏾‍♂️. There is a reason you have leaders and followers leaders lead and build create things run businesses create structure, then you have followers who are basically workers who are happy to just turn up and not add any value or be creative but then moan about situations but don't want to do anything about said situations 🫡there's levels to this, and my friend I am on the top level✊🏿👊🏿

@keithdavid1544

6 ай бұрын

Obviously it didn't work out for him in colombia so he puts an makes a ignorant statement

Hi Oshay!!!

A man who is confident do not have those insecurities. But I understand the math why😅😅😅

Leadership is about influence, not control. While African cultures (there are many) promote marriage it is wrong to say African families support the man (in a marriage) African families that are not evil keep both parties accountable. There is a balance as a husband, your family would keep you accountable through your uncles and elder brothers - and if you are a wife your family keeps you accountable through your aunts. He doesn't want a woman who is experienced, clever, and financially independent because she would see through the bullshit. A lot of red flags here, African women are wary cause it seems these passport bros are looking for trophies and African slaves.

@Chris-dv5sc

5 ай бұрын

Genesis 3:16 Unto the woman he said, I will greatly multiply thy sorrow and thy conception; in sorrow thou shalt bring forth children; and thy desire shall be to thy husband, and HE shall RULE over thee.

He's a little culturally delusional, as an ELDER iN AMERiCA, I remember back in the 80s, men from the northeast would go south to find a WiFE, because of some of the same reasons Passport Bros are traveling aboard, by the late 90's times had changed and so did Southern Women, So MEN began to travel globally because even American women outside your race were kinda similar, but folks would say iF you go aboard to find a WiFE, and bring her home, you stand the chance of losing her once she becomes Americanized, THiS was all before Social Media, now 10-20 years later and the Internet has made the world smaller, women globally have become more Americanized. That's only point number one.🤯

@dacommish23

6 ай бұрын

Sorry guys I agree with him...leave him be...he knows what he wants...and at his age, and experience he will see more than she!

@muchit3629

6 ай бұрын

That is true. The best odds is if you marry her in her country and live there or transplant yourselves to another non Western country. Any person will inevitably pick up on what those around them do. And we all know especially in the US , the women love love to gossip so no way a woman is staying traditional unless she is from some very strong cultures like Muslims, Asians where a woman has to roll like her family or people do. Even in those cultures, when women have a job and earn their own money , this idea of submission or being controlled goes out the window. The best is to just have a good relationship where you both support each other and respect each other. Some things are non negotiable. A man should not go on holiday alone if he is married and same applies to a woman.

@dacommish23

6 ай бұрын

@@muchit3629 agreed

He said what he said. He meant to say that word control, so he doesn't want her to think for herself. He has some insecurities.

Zimbabwean women will definitely fight in your corner 🇿🇼.

@broderickdoss6068

6 ай бұрын

One love for Zimbabwe ❤

How is he married and out here looking for a women. Lord have mercy... And dictating full control women are not property they need their own identity too.

As someone who works a lot and oversees a number of people at work, this level of control sounds excessive and a recipe for heart attack or brain aneurysm lmaooo. There needs to be some level of autonomy in my partner bc im not about to sit here and micro manage you after a long day of managing multiple work projects. When he mentioned CEO’s giving orders, in that context, they don’t really. They make executive decisions based of choices provided by their advisors. CEO’s don’t have time to come and tell you how to do your job. Team Captains don’t tell you what to do when the ball is in your hands. You need someone to make decisions too, especially if y’all got a family business or similar. You’re only one man, it’s ok to let your woman work too.

SHE IS NOT GOING TO STAY 25 forever.. she will gain wisdom over time and at some point she will mature to your level… it’s like being a parent and at some point your children will mature to the point where they are now wise and their input needs to be valued. If this man does not learn to evolve in this thinking he has now his marriage will not last. After 25 years of marriage she will feel unappreciated and disrespected and she will divorce you. There is an african saying that at some point our children grow to meet the wisdom of their parents. This man’s idea of molding a woman is one of oldest mistakes men make in marriage. It never never works in the long run. This man is insecure in his manhood

@NoExcuseENT

5 ай бұрын

🥱

He's a handsome man, but he is very immature for his age. Bless his heart.

@E.P.7131

6 ай бұрын

Why is he immature? For the gender roles statement?

@SherrieBumbray

6 ай бұрын

​@@E.P.7131 What about gender roles implies immaturity? I live in Africa. Gender roles are the norm.

@E.P.7131

6 ай бұрын

@@SherrieBumbray Nothing about gender roles implies immaturity. I was asking why you stated he was immature.

You can learn plenty from what comes off a man's tongue 👅 positivity or negatively.As an alpha mindset, learning discretion.

25:38 While I can agree that being a mother is hard, the whole “ being a mother is the hardest job in the world” thing is false, and one of the reasons why Western society is the way it is now… Love you, but caught you lacking Oshay!

Y’all making marriage look like a prison… this is terrible… I honestly think black men need to evolve in their views of marriage.. they are still stuck in the dark ages and it’s holding the entire community back.. we cannot progress with our men thinking like this..

He is giving me the Pdiddy vibe! Very evil and controling .

@bmizrahi1782

6 ай бұрын

That's extreme. Do not project your fantasies and insecurities onto others by making baseless accusations. That level of baseless slander is the thing that is evil

@maggien1119

6 ай бұрын

@@bmizrahi1782 nothing like slander , the words came right out of his mouth. He likes to have control over women and not in a healthy way . I hear " slander " 🤣 ok big guy , take me to court!

@bmizrahi1782

6 ай бұрын

@@maggien1119 My darling. The Courts of Heaven are always open. There is an eye that sees. An ear that hears. And He writes everything down in a book. Therefore do not judge others too harshly, but with a measure of grace.

12:37 , important line: ". . . if adam was controlling, would eve (have eaten) the apple ? "

@deborahlee63

4 ай бұрын

Controlling is the red flag.

@jondo3817

4 ай бұрын

@@deborahlee63 you say that because you are immature, dysfunctional, or some combination of both.

I thought he chose SA women for their beauty not their submissiveness.

@Knd238

6 ай бұрын

Sad to see 😖

Joanita sounded somewhat shocked & disappointed when she heard and learnt that the featured guest is a "Married" man...Sorry...! 😂

Thats right, come home brothas, mother AFRICA!

The worst relationship to be in is when you have a jealous partner.

Nice one

Fellas its also important to have your woman in a environment, country, settlement or culture of people who is like minded as you if you want llike this brother wants. Where is a happy environment and everybody has that same mindset that they willfully and with their whole heart loves the vill8age, church community that has land and housing, to create the proper atmosphere. Because this BEAST SYSTEM WE LIVE IN IS TOTALLY 100% DIAMETRICALLY OPPOSED AN IN OPPOSITION TO WHAT YOU BOTH WANT. Its not easy to find but do your best to get that type of environment and community of people Because you're going to be looked at as different and crazy, controlling and over bearing when outsiders from the outside look into your great world. And at any time the woman wants to leave. Let her Go after talking with her

@NoExcuseENT

6 ай бұрын

💯

I want to escape to South America... Guyana where I can find a lot of the black women! Instead of Latin America where the black women are few and spread out.

My wife and her girl friend went to Panama; I had no issues… Oshay, if a woman want to give away the pum pum; u can’t stopped. My wife is a woman; not some likkle gal..

@user-wy8bo1ys9b

6 ай бұрын

Your wife is hot isn’t she

@TRAVISJay-if8yh

6 ай бұрын

Yea because Panamanian just see u as a atm machine

@bmizrahi1782

6 ай бұрын

You let your wife go on a girl's trip 😂😂😂. Bro man up

@TRAVISJay-if8yh

6 ай бұрын

@@bmizrahi1782 notice they went to Latin America. Same reason why u have guys trip in Latin America. Sex

@Justin-wk5mi

6 ай бұрын

That you know of.. only takes 30 minutes

Business and relations are two different affairs, this Guy is looking for a woman to control.

That dude showed up to preach the manosphere greatest gospel &had Joanita shook.......😂 Keep preaching the gospel sir 🙏

@danielp5317

6 ай бұрын

She westernized too much and probably haven't even traveled to the west or U.S.A. Can you imagine how she could be a total westernized monster if she moved to the USA or the West. 🤢 Aww man

This guest is very interesting and in an ideal world, it would work out just fine if people respected the men and women who put their whole lives in their hands yet it didn't work out (the relationship) so these people ideally would want to split what they (both people) built with their now ex-partner whom they have now replaced with a younger or different version. However, this world is cruel and men and women get bitter in the face of betrayals, abuses, arguments, and neglect. So ladies and gentlemen, follow at your own risk and trust at your own risk. The world is littered with angry and betrayed people who trusted others with their lives and who discovered (unfortunately) that the world is a harsh, bitter, insecure, and untrustworthy place. Fool me once, shame on you, fool me twice, shame on me.

He didn’t know enough to properly understand who his Colombian wife was before marrying. How did his 2 degrees and 45 years of experience benefit him? Then, after one failed marriage, he has continued the same idiocy. Of course the 20 year old is smarter because they haven’t wasted 45 years making the same mistake again and again.

The guy is the best american guy i have ever had here that is why many don,t like his thought ,

I love That. Guy , he is. cool .

🤔 Kids raised by someone with ambition or not? Well it would be nice to have them raised, and two ambitious people might have a problem doing that 26:02 (that’s when TV and social media starts raising them)