Don’t die before your actual death, just because you lost your loved one. Don’t build an altar for your pain, heal because you deserve a healed version of yourself

@polinahgatawa

Ай бұрын

I love this!

@leratoleshaba5625

Ай бұрын

Easily said than done. Time, time, time heals!

@Miss_Zimm

Ай бұрын

❤

@thobekankuna1524

Ай бұрын

Don't Build altar for your pain. 😢

@mantlamapompo-shai5660

Ай бұрын

That’s very profound ❤❤

I lost my mom while still at varsity. She died in my hands. Life happened, God prospered me. As I type this, I’m holding an Honors degree in Early childhood development, busy with my Masters in Educational leadership. On top of that I work in China. I’ve also worked in the Netherlands. In 2022, I obtained an award for excellence in primary school teaching from the Gauteng Department of Education. I chose not to build an altar for my pain! I got busy with bettering myself to make my late mom proud and today when I look back, I’m still amazed by the grace that kept me. Praying for those reading this. May you tap in the same grace that I experienced ❤

@motheowalerato701

29 күн бұрын

❤❤

@marcellem

28 күн бұрын

"I chose not to build an altar for my pain" - A WHOLE SERMON!!!

@sirinaAtakora

26 күн бұрын

I lost my mom two weeks ago, she died in my hands tooo. I’m going crazy it’s so tough for me. My mom suffered in life she should have stayed a little longer. I don't know how I'm going to overcome it. I'm insane😢😢😢

@boitumelomfene9813

26 күн бұрын

@@sirinaAtakora I’m sorry for your loss. I know the emptiness that comes with the loss not to mention the trauma that also affects your behavior towards others on daily basis. No words will make sense at this moment. I don’t know you or your whereabouts, but I believe that prayer knows no barriers. I will mention your name in my prayers so that God grants you the strength. 💕💕💕

@DaleneSechele

23 күн бұрын

@@sirinaAtakorastrength to you. Grieving is a process, so be kind to yourself on both good and bad days. It takes time. The pain heals with time.

Not only does she narrate a story on grief and healing but also gives us a glimpse on the power of love

I love how she recognises God’s hands in everything, even in grief

I could watch her the whole day. Authenticity, and the command of her voice.

@joginahlesetja3550

Ай бұрын

The Authority in her voice 📍

Guys I like how she still calls him love. They must have had a beautiful love story..

The interviewers are such good listeners,they gave Mme Lilokwe an ample time to narrate her pain and grief so beautifully 👏👏 She's well spoken i must say

I came running from Tik tok, first time here and moving in.Greetings everyone🙌

@thandiwengcizela8380

Ай бұрын

Me too. Hello neighbour

@ncumisabungane4630

Ай бұрын

Same❤

@manassehsammatemba959

26 күн бұрын

Me too, came from tiktok

@janetnjirammadzi4964

23 күн бұрын

I came straight from TikTok too. Her voice is so calm and soothing. I have learnt a lot from her story.

@itsjayden9971

11 күн бұрын

Welcome Home Chomi's ❤

“Pain can be addictive…. Don’t be committed to pain so much that your own healing doesn’t stand a chance…” felt!

@MissKT26

Ай бұрын

This is actually profound,

@phumisibeko2631

4 күн бұрын

I saw this part of the interview on tik tok a few days before my mom’s passing, and it stuck with me then. Little did I know it was setting me up for what was to come. Gods timing!♥️

She oozes dignity, elegance… I don’t have the words ✨🫶🏽 I love her

❤😢 "Do Not Build An Alter For Your Pain, Your Healing May Cost You, There Are People Who Are Benefiting From Your Pain, Heal Either Way"🫂😭❤️📍 This Hit Home!!

“Pelo e bohloko eka u tlailisa.” 🙌🏾. Aus Kgopedi embodies WISDOM. I walk away A DIFFERENT PERSON after watching this interview.

@ntombimgwena8451

Ай бұрын

She does hey. Hyo😢😢

@janetnjirammadzi4964

23 күн бұрын

This is exactly how I feel

Mamfundisi is so well spoken. ❤ Nkare nka mo reetsa the whole day. Being loved like that is something else. 🥹🥹🥹

Shout out to the main interviewer, your expert ear and gentle probing, brought out this authentic conversation 🙌🏾

I remember when Kgopedi changed her greeting from "I'm Kgopedi wa Namane" to "I'm Kgopedi Lilokoe". My heart for her😍

@MunchMaila

Ай бұрын

Agh I used to love that greeting. I am Kgopedi wa ga Namane, & this is..."

@thehumbleabode4293

Ай бұрын

Right??? Was legit thinking the same thing 😊

@kitsontuli2713

Ай бұрын

I remember that too. Her and Mapaseka Makoti, b4 she was Mokwele

@boitumelomogashoa7501

Ай бұрын

I remember this very well ❤

@user-yh9yr6di9q

25 күн бұрын

Me too hey,fell in love with her ever since❤

God is faithful even in situations that don't make sense to us. All things work together for the goodness of the Lord. I lost my mother at the age of 7 and my father at the age of 9. Got adopted by my aunt an uncle, my Aunty passed when I was 12 and uncle at 21. I lived in grief for years and years and God healed me in totality. I can testify of God walking with me in patience.

@redibonemohlamonyane6239

Ай бұрын

❤‍🩹

@boitumelobuthelezi8960

Ай бұрын

♥️😊

@yzs7618

Ай бұрын

❤❤❤

@MissKT26

Ай бұрын

❤❤

@motheowalerato701

29 күн бұрын

❤❤

Ohhhh my, this is exactly what happened to my wife in 2021 December... covid really tested our faith, till this I'm yet to be back at church because Sabbaths are no longer the same😢

@elizermutai3370

Ай бұрын

God's Arm will continue to hold you.

@DrUnatiDrMHealthCorner

Ай бұрын

🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾🫂🫂🫂🫂

@damarismohlabe1645

Ай бұрын

So sorry my brother. May God give you strength...o sa le teng le lehono❤

@user-lk7vl5gu7f

Ай бұрын

" Don't build an Altar for your pain" 😢

@NokonwabaDulungana-zv8rt

Ай бұрын

May the lord touch and heal you 🙏🏻

OH man, you're taking me down a painful memory lane of 20 years ago with a 6 month and a 9 years old. God will see you through, and those little people will grow like a small mustard seed where birds of the earth will take rest. Through God, I am now a queen, careerwise all-round mercy. Those little people are now graduates making waves in their own careers, too. I chose not to marry again and focused more on this God. All is well. Our God is the God of widows he has a soft spot for us. I am a living testimony.

@motheowalerato701

29 күн бұрын

❤❤

@hlengiwedube1163

29 күн бұрын

Amen 🙏🏽

Lost my mom during Covid. November 2021. Four years later I am still struggling. I have listened to ted talks, sermons and read so many books on grief. none come close to how much I related to this episode. Listening to Ms Kgopedi has been so cathartic. Thank you. When she said "dont build an altar for your pain" I teared up, Ebe thetha nam. Thank you so much for this episode. It is exactly what I needed.

As much as this is about grief, but this episode has renewed my faith. There's a song by Donnie McClurkin, STAND. She stood in her faith and never wavered. Thank you❤

Dont build an alter for your pain...Yohhhhhh😭😭😭😭

The deep breaths she kept on taking in between at the beginning. She is strong but it's still painful.

@duduzileboemah6722

Ай бұрын

⁰

I am getting goosebumps listening to the story of how they met.

It’s been 13 years since I lost the love of my life, my grandma. She never got to experience me as an adult and all the things I have achieved. All other loss just awakes that sadness. 😢

@motheowalerato701

29 күн бұрын

❤❤

This reminds me of my daughter's situation. She lost her husband in 2021. Their son was only 3years old. My son in law was a pastor My daughter never lost her faith till this day.

@motheowalerato701

29 күн бұрын

❤❤

Can someone please tell me why am I crying 😢...thank you so much for the interview ❤

@siphokaziluzipho4197

Ай бұрын

Tell me about it my love.

I lost my dad 2 weeks ago 17 March 2024💔. All this suffocating love is stuck inside, making my chest tight. I started seeing a psychologist and she said "Grief is just love... with no place to go." The sadness feels like a big wave, crashing over me again and again. It feels like I'm drowning in a sea of sorrow, with no end in sight. I can't even imagine the pain stopping. The hollowness is like a giant weight holding me down. A constant reminder... My heart is empty. Yet full of love. This deep love for my dad. That has no nowhere go💔. I can't wait for the day I'm okay like you🙏🏽🙏🏽

@nosiphontlabati3638

Ай бұрын

"Grief is the price we pay for love and attachment " Lost my dad in January it still hurts but we will pull through dear

@judithnamawejje2619

Ай бұрын

God gat you 🥰

@yaliwebentele8929

Ай бұрын

My chest is so tight I thought I' need a physio but it's not helping ,it's only that I'm grieving my son loss in 2018 and my mum passing in February 2024,so all these are packed in one heavy load I'm praying for healing

@chikaabtwn2244

Ай бұрын

God will get you through, I lost my Dad in 2020, it still hurts but now the grief has become bearable.

@motheowalerato701

29 күн бұрын

So sorry sis❤

The wisdom Mme Lilokoe carries is a blessing to us

A lesson I am taking from here is to be intentional ❤

It took time for me to eventually watch this...I think now im ready. I buried my mom last month. She lost a battle to cancer, I had not healed from losing my brother and now mom. Yhuu but Kgopedi explains it better,you really made me feel better, its like you read my script...nkane kept me going when it all didn't make sense and everyone was saying haai girl you are strong and I asked, what should I do? Im the only daughter and the eldest, I had to bury mom. Im so greateful for our church NCFI, man they held us when the world was spinning, when family turned on us. I thank God for grace, honestly its going to be a long journey

One thing i learnt is Grief is also informed by the relationship one had with the departed , I believe her amazing story of love with her husband must be crucial in this healing journey. She was loved correctly and that gives her the strength to be . She dropped nuggets of wisdom , spoke so poetically and ever so real about her experience. She is amazing , love from Botswana. ❤❤❤🇧🇼

I watched it right from the beginning until the end in one go. I cried so much because I was reminded of my own journey with grief. Loosing my Mom is still one of the most traumatic things I have ever gone through. I really didn't know how to deal with the pain and I overshared so much with people that later used my pain against me. Thank you for bringing Aus Kgopedi....she is an amazing woman,May God continue to be with her and her babies and give her incredible strength❤❤#GriefIsnotLinear

@polinahgatawa

Ай бұрын

When you say traumatic. I know exactly how you feel.

@mphoseduma1948

Ай бұрын

❤

@tebom9456

Ай бұрын

The over sharing part... Soooooo true. Snap I thought I'm just seeing my own things

@sinoxolopapu6178

Ай бұрын

I lost my Mom last year September. It isn’t easy I must say. Some days are better than others but God holds me together. 🥺 May God strengthen you too sis. 🙏🏻

@tebogomatshabe7871

Ай бұрын

May God strengthen you.❤

Came running from tik tok to listen to this gem and I'm so glad. No words to describe her really❤

I'm struggling with grief still. Today was worse. Missed my late dad. 12 years later.

@elizermutai3370

Ай бұрын

I am sending my hugs to you.

@leratosebetoane8333

29 күн бұрын

I woke up missing the love of my life( Grandpa). I miss him everyday, esp on days where I have no 1 to turn too.

@motheowalerato701

29 күн бұрын

❤❤

Pain does something to a persons body. I felt that…

@hlengiwedube1163

Ай бұрын

😢

@emilymuse5907

Ай бұрын

It does…

"...when your partner has promised forever..." I felt that because when your partner dies, your hopes, plans, dreams, promises, your whole future dies. 😶

@motheowalerato701

29 күн бұрын

❤❤

😢😢 8 years since my baby daddy died still feels like yesterday....sudden death of a 33year old guy full of life leaving his family & for me to raise our daughter alone thank God his family is still very much involved from all aspects of her life we still visit them etc...gs it makes it makes it easier but haaa it's journey & half to heal

@connymontsho

Ай бұрын

Sending you comfort sisi,i can't imagen your pain.

@motheowalerato701

29 күн бұрын

❤❤

@mukami12

22 күн бұрын

Partner died at 36 leaving me and our daughter behind.. it’s been 3 months and I just can’t see a way forward and the his family have been terrible. On my healing journey

"I had no plan, love forever was our plan"😭❤

Kgopedi story is painful but please invite her again

@basie_gama

Ай бұрын

I need her back.

@Morwa330

16 күн бұрын

Yes. But next time not about her pain but life in general. She is very smart and well articulating

I did not know I needed to hear this. Grief is earth shattering.

I can't stop crying 😭😭 am really struggling with my mother passing 💔

@MphoAngel30

Ай бұрын

She passed away in 2008 and to this day it feels as though it happened yesterday..pain so fresh..God help us😢

@zanele6431

Ай бұрын

You and I both😢

@busisiwehlekiso8542

Ай бұрын

You and I, and it’s been close to a year💔😭

@khethamabaso2898

Ай бұрын

Me too, it been a year 😢

@motheowalerato701

29 күн бұрын

❤❤

What a beautiful soul. A fountain of wisdom and strength. "Don't build an alter for your pain...Heal"

I love her. What a woman! I feel like I know her even though it's the first time I see or hear about her. She has a beautiful love story that many people don't have. I wish to that people can learn to be kind to those who are grieving. It was an emotional episode. Ursula and Bonga were supportive, that's a better word that I can use. Please bring her again. She is articulate and knowledgeable. Her presence can be felt

Im back to watch again, I need to hear this again🥺

@glendagallieboy1738

Ай бұрын

Same!!!

@_thabimatsepe

Ай бұрын

Same❤

@lebo_molets4266

24 күн бұрын

Im here for the third time 😢😢 I needed a reminder

A woman point 5 She is ball of fire I love her She is too powerful Thank you guys the interview was really good ❤❤❤

I lost my son Dec 2024, i was so calm, still calm and i can only thank God for that, i remember talking God when doctor told me he is leaving he was battling cancer, i felt each and every organ inside me moving up and down, worse part i felt like my heart was just sitting on my throat, and i remember praying saying God i don't know what's happening please give me strength, strengthen my faith and may i trust you on this journey i am about to embark on, that was it, grieving is a rollercoaster indeed but with God its doable

@motheowalerato701

29 күн бұрын

❤❤

@ntombisono1021

29 күн бұрын

All I can say is, I relate to your pain,can't say a lot incase people who rejoice on our pain are reading this💔💔

@alettaphalatsi477

27 күн бұрын

@@ntombisono1021 Thank you, i get you 🥰

Wow i just love how many people held her hand in her darkest hour of her life.❤❤❤

Love her so much best news reader very much well spoken woman of God❤

Talking about the guilt, I can relate. I blamed myself for the cancer that took my husband. How I have no answer. But I held on the hem of His garment. Here I am, enjoying the honey of my new marriage. God is good all the time. Jeremiah 11:29 kept me going.

Unabantu Bakho Thixo Ngamaxesha onke Ubagcina Ubanceda Ngamaxesha onke! 🙏🏿🤲🏿🙌🏿🙇🏿‍♂️

I lost my mom April last year, the past year has been the hardest for me. I couldn't even pray. April this year, same weki lost my mom I broke up with the father of my child whomst I held on dearly because thought he's the only person I have left. Surprisingly during that pain God stretched his hand I found myself drawn back to God praying more, praising the Lord and I've since accepted that my mom's gone. Life goes on. Sometimes God uses pain to reveal himself to us

I’ve always respected Kgopeli ! Oh man , what a gem we have been gifted . She has always had such amazing words to impart and this time , she not only touched but healed my soul . Thank you for this and if you see this Kgopeli , know that you are love and are loved ❤

Yhoo guys, ho bohloko maan... But we grow through pain.. Love & light to Ausi Kgopedi and everyone who lost their loved ones through any form of pain, be it death or breakup, pain is pain and its also mercy. ❤❤

Thank you for this interview. Kgopedi is on another level, the authenticity, love and empathy that we easily give to others can do amazing things if we give to ourselves as well. I'm one of the relatives who didn't know what to say to her when the news broke. I remember sending flowers to her house a week later and forgetting to add my name on the card....I guess I was also devastated that I couldn't think straight. Lots of love to all who needed to hear the story of loss and know that we most times don't have it figured out.

Yho! I will LIVE! 🙌. I'm encouraged. I lost my husband in October 2020, and I'm learning how to live. 💙

@liselihlebelebesi8308

Ай бұрын

Thanks Mamoruti

@yzs7618

Ай бұрын

❤️‍🩹❤️🤗

@motheowalerato701

29 күн бұрын

❤❤

"The are things we do not move from" oooh this😫

Love Kgopedi. Such a beautiful interview. May she be covered in strength and God protect her little ones. First time watching this channel and I'm subscribing after this interview....

Powerful and healing message🙏🏽, even for those who haven't yet experienced grief in the form of death but have been living in grief (depression) most of their lives. May it be well, with our souls💛🙏🏽

@motheowalerato701

29 күн бұрын

❤❤❤

Oooooh My word Ursula and Bonga this painful and healing 😢😢 I lost my father 2016but it's still hurts but to hear this is healing

@motheowalerato701

29 күн бұрын

❤❤❤

Sending love and light to everyone who lost loved ones to Covid-19 🙏❤️

Umfundisi Lilokoe umhlaba awoneli... Ngxesi Mamfundisi

I'm a widow my husband passed over 2021 July 01 that was a very very painful experience journey for me I stopped praying coz he was all I left with my brother's passed over and my father too died same year I gained strength by your incaregeng words of wisdom thanks a lot

What an incredible Woman she is!!! just her voice is healing!!!! Love Mommy Kgopedi!!!!

So glad to bump into this channel and specifically this video today. My baby would have turned 5 years old yesterday. I miscarried when I was 2 days away from reaching 27 weeks being pregnant in 2019. I thought I was good and healed but this milestone birthday broke me in ways I didn’t think were possible again. Grief is so strange. It never goes away, I guess we learn to move forward with it. The pain is different everyday. I remember in 2019 when I was getting back into my “normal” life and I was laughing at something and I quickly gathered myself on some “you can’t be happy, you are grieving”. I know it sounds crazy but going through grief has made me empathetic to people who lose their lives to depression and sometimes lose their minds because nothing makes sense.

@vanessa_bukasa

Ай бұрын

I'm sending you so much love during this time of your baby's 5th birthday! I see you and your pain, I lost my baby boys at 26 weeks. They would be 4 years old on 6 April ❤

@tumelo2758

Ай бұрын

@@vanessa_bukasa Thank you so much Sis. I’m also sending you lots of love 🌸 and Happy Heavenly Birthday to your babies 🥳🥳

@sekgabimasobe9690

Ай бұрын

Tumelo I lost my son in 2003 when he was 8 months and I know what you are talking about. Time does not heal we learn to live with the pain unfortunately. On the 26th July he will be turning 22 years on the other side

@motheowalerato701

29 күн бұрын

❤❤❤

@tumelo2758

24 күн бұрын

@@sekgabimasobe9690 I'm so sorry love. May God heal our hearts hle. This journey has been the toughest i've ever walked. I don't wish it on anyone.

I haven’t experienced grief of a close loved one, but I’m one of those that have ‘died before my own death’, and definitely ‘built an altar for my pain’. Sheeeebaa…this episode makes me want to LIVE! Mme Lilokoe is wisdom personified ❤

@motheowalerato701

29 күн бұрын

❤❤

I love she narrated her story so calmly, her story is more like my story, I lost my partner also in 2021. I envy her strengths. She is so strong. All the way from Namibia🇳🇦🇳🇦🇳🇦🇳🇦🇳🇦🇳🇦🇳🇦

@motheowalerato701

29 күн бұрын

❤❤❤

Let me watch, I have been struggling with grief since 2000 when I lost my mom at age 11. Now I want nothing to do with funerals, I don't know how will I support my wife when she loses her parents. 😢

@LM-he7eb

Ай бұрын

Askies

@nthatisidimema9084

Ай бұрын

Pls seek counseling...it's not weakness seeking for help.

@Leratosimango

Ай бұрын

I still can't do graveyard...thing..I go to funeral but avoid going there...

@motheowalerato701

29 күн бұрын

❤❤

I'm listening for the second time... Well spoken Mommy.. Your voice is so captivating... It's like someone else's... It's so pure and Godly 🌹♥️

I am fresh into being a widow… but I saw me in her. She took the words right out of my mouth 😢❤ yoh haai inde lendlela

@nokwazimoloi5230

22 күн бұрын

Phephisa sisi, sending love and light to you ❤

39:05 the guilt...omw😢 Thank you Ursula for this🙏🏽

This channel popped onto my TikTok feed. The guest’s voice (discovered here her name is Kgobedi) sounded so familiar so I was curious to know more. Thank you for sharing such a beautiful and moving story of a journey through life: love, loss and grief. Excellently done content.

Watch your tongue while you're at it. When you're in pain you don't know the line.. if you're not feeling your steps, you'll tend to overshare... it's ok yo shut up..💖

Let’s clean up house so we can do the “forever “ on a clean slate 🥹🥹🥹😭😭. The love one desires

I’ve watched this episode twice, what a powerhouse. She kind of reminds me of my late friend and I don’t know why

Shoooohhhh😢....my Heart. May God continue to hold you up❤

"Ha maatla afela, you hold on to nkane" I felt that: one of my life's mottos. This was so powerful in many different ways..Thank you Mme Kgopedi and Ursula. Love❤ & Light

I'm glad I got to put a name to a face ♥ lovely lady, very insightful Episode

Wow, very humble, Now I understand why she is saying she is surrounded by love, such a humble soul.

This is very empowering and has definitely made me feel super-comfortable in my grief and it also confirmed that I really need to be kind, gentle & patient with myself during this period. Thank U so much for sharing Ma' Moruti. Stay blessed.

I love this woman with all my heart...I need a Kgopedi kind of a friend,woman in my life. She's so authentic,so grounded. Love the way she loves,both in friendships and her love for God and the people of God❤❤

@carolnkumane5763

Ай бұрын

Me too😢

@matseliso3344

Ай бұрын

Same here... 😢

"Don't die before your actual death just because you burried your loved ones" 😭😭

I needed to hear this conversation.it’s been 15 years since my mom passed and I think I stopped living and created an altar for my pain,grief is something else .😔I cried my heart out during this interview and I didn’t know I needed that so much.Thank you Mme , for the first time I have let go and allowed my mother’s beautiful soul to rest in peace.❤️

Jehovah Setshabelo Sa Ka.....my all time favourite ❤

What a beautiful episode, this woman is such a gem. As I'm watching this, I realize how much void (besides the heart break) my husband would leave if he were to die, the way he does so many things in our household that I don't have to worry about. Man, I don't appreciate him enough 😢. This was a beautiful episode I must reiterate!

"and hold me together." I love Kgopedi so much. Thanks for the interview

What an amazing woman, so solid and genuine. I lost my mother in 2003 and life has never been the same. Thank you for sharing your story Sisi. ❤

@motheowalerato701

29 күн бұрын

❤❤❤

Thank you for bringing Kgopedi! I've loved her from day one... she's those ousi who will be forever in your corner. Her energy is beautiful, through and through! She really honoured her husband in this interview. So beautiful. It feels selfish to feel sorry when she's telling her story with so much passion, hope and life. It's so beautiful!! I want a love like that... obviously I need to cultivate a great attitude like her. Thank you Kgopedi for the lessons! You are amazing, forever! P.S. Promoting this as far and wide as I can! Really good interview!!!

Yhoo this episode felt like a hug. Nothing happens without a reason. Im not much affected by grief,but I've learned the importance of community and how its ok it is to just keep quite when you have nothing to say. UmamKgopedi i wish her many more shinny days and all those affected by grief❤

Your honesty Mma Moruti about how nonlinear and unpredictable the process can be is both comforting and enlightening. It's a reminder that everyone's path through grief is unique, and there's no 'right' way to heal. Thank you for sharing your experience and for shedding light on the fact that it's okay not to be okay, and giving ourselves the grace and time to heal. Your courage in sharing your story is a beacon of hope for others. Your message underscores the importance of seeking support and finding strength in vulnerability. Thank you for your vulnerability and for making others feel less alone in their journey.

I give thanks to God for this interview . This has helped me heal so much in ways I can never be able to explain . Kea leboga🙏🏿

Eish bra, I felt the betrayal of him lying lifeless, and I had to continue with the small kids and not knowing what to do. Why didn't you fight for us 💔

Ijoooo I love Kgopedi tlhe. I know God will keep & heal her. One day I will meet her, give her a warm hug & tell her myself how much I respect her.

I'm so happy with Bonga's questions Bathong

Such an eloquent woman. So sorry for your loss Sus❤🙏🏾

Its so true what she said, there is a sense of guilt one feels when their loved one passes..my sister passed 7 months ago and I have not properly mourned her because I feel like I could have done better by her, I feel so much guilt.

@AsaMPodcast

Ай бұрын

Condolences ❤❤I know how you feel and I feel exactly like that was too. My mother passed away 5 months ago and the guilt 💔But I know our moms loved us, and they wouldn’t want us to feel this way. ❤

@ntsoakimosese5381

Ай бұрын

The guilt last 2 years for me, it was debilitating at times. But it passes. With time you realise you’re abandoning yourself in the process of feeling guilty over the loss, how you’re handling the affairs, your relationships with other people and other things. I learnt how to look at myself as 2 people in one, me and the other me that I needed to take care of. By taking care of her, i reaped the benefits as well. I started showing up for my self, holding my hand checking on myself, telling myself I’m proud of myself and everything I needed to hear. But I couldn’t have done it without therapy, I won’t lie. My therapist got me through.

@motheowalerato701

29 күн бұрын

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Cried from beginning to end. The way she narrates her story 🥺

The way this whole interview had me in tears 😢❤ Kgopedi is so eloquent and sharing her heart with us is a truly a privilege. I wish her love and strength

WOW she just reminded me about my own healing journey I love what she said Heal

Thank you for sharing, Kgopeli!You are wonderful! ❤️

A conversation i didn't know I need to hear. I felt her story and had so many chills. She is such a strong woman and i love her honesty and vulnerability. And when she continously calls him LOVE. You can tell, she will carry him with her forever. Thats the once in the lifetime love. In the future, can we unpack grieving people you lose because of circumstances but still have to live with knowing you can never experience them (or experience them the same way as in the past) because there is no room for them in your life, or they have no room for you in their life. I find it hard to grieve a person who is still alive, but things can no longer be patched up, in varios spheres of life, from friendship, romantic r/ship, colleagues, family/relatives, even your children moving on with life because they are adults. The worst part about grief is its lack of timing. You could be trying to sleep, in a bathroom, in a boardroom in a middle of an important meeting, you can even be triggered in a resturant trying to finish your meal. I dont think we as the society have the skills of how to give or hold space for a person grieving. People are always to quick to tell you it will be okay or give you solutions, when all you need is to let the pain go through you. So sorry for the lengthy comment. Love always❤

@theconversationcapital

Ай бұрын

In this house! We welcome lengthy comments

@redibonemohlamonyane6239

Ай бұрын

"The worst thing about grief is lack of timing." I fet that deeply.

@nompumelelomashimbye2895

Ай бұрын

Grieving people, you were once close to. It hits hard, one minute I am certain that I don't want anything to do with them, then I miss the times we were close. Sadly, if it's family, it somehow makes everyone uneasy,including the children.