I needed this so much. As a young 21 year old woman,I put myself through way too much pressure seeing peers far further than I am in life on social media. Thank you for these conversations, I've learned to be grateful for what I have because I'm not willing to sacrifice anything for a bag.

@theconversationcapital

Жыл бұрын

We are so glad you could take away something from the episode! You’ll one day be where you want to be ❤️

@simnikiwemajiki8265

Жыл бұрын

Keep it like that chile! It’s not worth it

@redeemablesoul

Жыл бұрын

Your path is different my skat...trust God

@samukeloradebe6633

Жыл бұрын

I came to the comments to type out this exact comment. I have now subscribed. I need more of this energy from women in my life. Thank you ladies ❤❤

@tshieetsosephula1495

Жыл бұрын

You're a smart young lady and as long as you're on the right path, you'll end happier and further in life than any of those that are busy selling themselves ❤️ 😘.

The hunger is on a different level… As a junior attorney hungry for success and growth. The sadness of senior advocates at times wanting to take advantage of that, it’s even scary to ask for help these days

@simphiwexashe1182

11 ай бұрын

You don't want to say Junior attorneys and Senior attorneys?

@simnikiwemajiki8265

11 ай бұрын

@@simphiwexashe1182 oh haibo Sim there was no need kodwa cause clearly you not familiar with practice. In practice Attorneys and Advocates interact all the time in matters. Usually when an advocate is briefed in a matter most law firms would prefer the junior attorney to work with advocate. What I relayed in that comment was a personal scanerio not even limited to me alone. Now you have me having to explain myself. Wow

@simphiwexashe1182

11 ай бұрын

I do have a legal qualifications just like you and I didn't want you to explain yourself it's just that normally I would hear that junior attorneys are ill treated by their seniors in law firms, but I get what you said regarding the briefs. Sorry for your experience I do sympathize with you

No wait, who's the girl with the short hair and red lippie? Mama you're so pretty🥺🥺❤️

Thank you so much for this conversation. The moment you can't figure out what these people do to get to where they are, its the moment depression kicks in,the self doubt...and by the way you don't learn anything from pictures of nice breakfast, the vacations except being envious. From now on I am going to be more intentional with my social media.

@yolz555

Жыл бұрын

So true

As a homosexual young female🥺, I relate.. Because the pressure of being the funder of the relationship is weighing me down and makes me feel like I am not trying enough. I'm just 21 and I am student funded by NSFAS for heaven's sake. Sometimes makes me feel like love is an expense😢

Umjolo has openly become a trading system, yes mostly a transactional somewhat supply and demand basis-game. When as a man, lust is a main attraction to a women, she has all the rights to also get what would be a suitable remuneration for her which is in truly speaking, money and the spoils that comes with it.

This lady is so deep in every conversation.

I love this conversation because it gives a deeper insight into this issue. I think you should expand it to the impact it has on children born from these types of relationships.

@karabotsotetsi1301

10 ай бұрын

Yoh you just tapped into something that we don't take note of, the kids born from these transactional relationships. Yoh, I'd love to hear conversations around it we never hear of such

I really miss shows like home affairs..

@natashamtila3035

Жыл бұрын

They really opened my eyes to a lot growing up and helped instil vital life lessons till this date. I am always looking for good programming for my kids now to ensure that these conversations continue to be opened up in the home

Oh Jackie,you're such an intelligent woman.I never get tired to listen to your interviews.I wish I could afford young girls an opportunity to listen and learn from you.Ill never forget your book launch in Portshepstone

The line isn’t blurry though, it’s purely transactional. What gives rise to these conversations is buyers/sellers remorse. At what point does “help” become “control”? Everybody should take accountability for the relationships and transactions they enter into, don’t change the narrative or claim manipulation after the fact. And most importantly, think for yourself don’t be a follower.

@sweetmarsie

Жыл бұрын

💯

@FateOfTheElephant

Ай бұрын

I find that it’s usually people who are no longer able to engage in the system they helped to propel that comeback and criticise the very system, for instance a young pretty girl who has aged and not as “desirable” or the guy that losses all his money and is also not longer “desirable “ and feel some type of way about not having access

Jackie you have answered the questions I've had ukuthi why why is our society super dysfunctional the way it is...lack of rehabilitation 😢😢

We really need rehabilitation as men.

@nomxhosapekani7966

Жыл бұрын

And we need more circular programmes, because those few that exist are mainly religious based and are very judgemental, that's why it's hard for men to open up.

@sibusisocharisma9948

Жыл бұрын

And religious people say the grooming of this comes from secular narrative which I kind of agree not put one the point you make that as a person of faith myself I do agree that religion does close doors of communication regarding such issues.

@_thee_miss_tia

Жыл бұрын

I agree! I really think that's where the healing and reform of our societies lie. There's a huge gap here!

Crazy obsession with money

@nomxhosapekani7966

Жыл бұрын

Not to mention mother who literally tell their girls to comeback home with Amavuso "money from spending the night with a man", yet we keep saying man are trash and ignoring the women who enable this.

Sho, this speaks to a lot of our societies dysfunction, esp the last part of the convo. 80's kids us, were raised by very sick very strict parents who taught us taught us to keep our heads down and work in our little corner, we inherited and developed other illnesses - lack of confidence etc- that we are now raising our 2000 kids with. It all comes to a head because ma 2000 live in a very fast paced info age that the 70's & 80's parent is constantly catching up on. Mind you all the while each generation gets better at hiding these ills and things that matter and even better yet at being rebellious and loudly outlandish. It's a mutating cancer. However; by being self aware, teaching emotional restraint, meditation, therapy and such we can allow for vulnerability and conversation about the traumas we carry and slowly begin to heal our little corners to impact the greater canvas. We see it in social media where the admission of one's fears etc heaves a massive global sigh that 'hey me too' and open conversations begin on any topic.

You put light on so much.... Thank you...

Loving the channel.Brain stimulating.😍

This was a great conversation, thank you 💟

Very interesting conversation, educational, inspiring, insightful and informative video. 👌👌

Keep up the good work Jackie your truely an inspiration 👏

I am hear for Jackie ♥️

just got introduced to Jackie. love these conversations especially as a new uni student

Been a minute missed these conversations

Wow Jacky I'm learning so much.

You are so beautiful hle ausi☺️❤️

Great show Ursula... So proud of you my honey.

you uploaded this 3 days after my birthday. I found your channel tonight and im in love with the depth of topics, nuanced intellect in conversation, and most importantly the grace and poise you carry with your voice, gaze and body language. in the most non-weird way, I could stare at you for hours cuz the way you speak is intensely attractive and not to mention you're pleasant to look at... I think im in love with you 🤣

you are such a great host. Definitely subscribing to your chanel

Having a blesser is selling your soul to the devil ,giving in then expecting in return ( especially material things )😢

Haybo why I am only discovering your channel now? 🥺🥺🥺

Yoh Jackie 🌺

We are sad as human beings...we as a COUNTRY are 💔

I finally found your channel 😍😍😍😭❤️🙌

@theconversationcapital

Жыл бұрын

Welcome hun 🤍

@phumimabanga962

Жыл бұрын

I found it today...have subcribed as well.

Dope🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥

The is also a " Ghost lady " speaking as well 😂😂.... Anyway great talk👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽

This Jackie lady is quite in intelligent

Siess!

You're very pretty. Im cutting. My hair tonight. Jack she is the best in Africa. I like her.

I love this channel.

The saddest thing that I see from this whole culture is that these people who are doing these things are women who are suppose to be goddesses that raise a nation of children kodwa just look at what is important to these women? Imagine how thier kids will be? Imagine the principles that they are learning and picking up from this culture? We are creating such a sick society just because of materialism its really disgusting. There are so many more important things in life kodwa ke everyone makes their bed they will sleep in it. As a woman who is a blesses you should expect that your daughter will one day date someone who is 20yrs their senior and there will be nothing you can do because you feed her the posion.

How does one connect to Jackie's publishing company?

@theconversationcapital

Жыл бұрын

Info@jackiephamotse.com

@kaurmoyoucoyatzin3047

Жыл бұрын

Thank you very much. Have a blessed year

I hate !!!! that fact that we need to listen and learn these things. I hate it because these things are so basic, just basic morals, and people are talking about a greyline. Anyway let listen because we are parents and we must understand why people do such madness.

What’s wrong with ricoffy and jacobs 😂😂😂

@musamoomooschemistry1526

Жыл бұрын

Apparently it's too cheap😂😂😂😂🥴

@moe_ramz

Жыл бұрын

@@musamoomooschemistry1526 The pressure 😂😂😂

@thembangwenya7563

Жыл бұрын

Entry level 😂

@Mabrrrr

Жыл бұрын

😩🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣

In the UK, a sugar daddy is what she describes a blesser to be

Eish bafwethu...the era of modern family, where now certain lifestyles are imposed on the kids at home by the parents or relatives...oh and social media

There's something I am struggling to understand on the point of our men suffer from the things that happened in the past. What about the men from Dubai what's the story there? Are also suffering history to treat women this way. I think humanity all over the world is somehow the same. Who is responsible to rehabilitate?

@johnmpandaguta3289

Жыл бұрын

Dubai is a fundamentalistic Arab nation built on male chauvinism thus what's happening with Dubai...it's basically a heaven 4 patriarchy

I blame capitalism

I wish I can get a bleser. But I'm a celebern

@Mowizzy1

Жыл бұрын

What is celebern? Or you mean celibate?

As a Zambian lemme just state that the dating culture in South Africa is extremely inflated and outragously materialistic. Out here as a 29 year old guy I can manage to easily get into a relationship and hardly spend anything on my partner other than the occasional dates and birthday reasonable gift.

Her idea/definition of sugar daddy is wrong. It's well documented. Maybe in a South African context you can argue for it but even then its a stretch

You look like zandi nhlapho

@gracekavei5120

Жыл бұрын

She does.

p̷r̷o̷m̷o̷s̷m̷ 💘

It creates delusion, sad generation 😢😢😢

That lady commenting behind the scenes needs to know not to speak louder than the guest.

@sindiswangati7620

8 ай бұрын

she's so irritating

@Liya_Nyengane

5 ай бұрын

I was thinking about that. Uyaphapha

Can the lady who is the host not talk too much we need to hear her guest telling the story

I like girls today are just scary