You don’t want a woman who’s a single parent because you don’t want to be a father to her children and you don’t want the baby daddy around because it upsets your ego? Bro just leave the single moms alone.

@5bandanaz

Жыл бұрын

ii shole juss came across this video & said this before ii seen this comment 😭

@JohannaD7288

Жыл бұрын

Yes.

@tay2579

Жыл бұрын

Yea that what he was saying

@AbrahamJHaskins

Жыл бұрын

He said he would prefer to not date women with children who aren’t his..but to answer the question presented if he did he would rather not deal with the other father dynamic.

@gigga693

Жыл бұрын

@@AbrahamJHaskins prefer not to also includes deny having sex with them. If not, he really means he wouldn’t date them but will use them to meet his needs. He’s admitted to sleeping with single moms in the past so still toxic.

Oh my gyosh, I LOVED what he said: "...there's entitlement when you're a present parent...."! HE IS SOOOOOOOOOOO RIGHT. That man put into WORDS the actual REAL TRUTH of that situation. Wow, that hit me hard. 'Cuz I DID this. I raised another WOMAN'S kids, but she was not absent by choice, she was deceased. The other woman having the problems was my husband's drug-addicted alcoholic sister, & his family. (Yes, BEYOND ungrateful. ) I held my ground, but they did enough damage to the kids before I was ever in the picture, so the kids are screwed up in MAJOR ways as adults, despite all I put into raising them. I LOVED THOSE KIDS LIKE THEY WERE MINE. Many times it seems like it didn't matter. He is VERY WISE to move into that scenario with great caution.....

He's correct in many ways. This is, however, where the mother needs to create boundaries and an understanding between both men from jump when she's in a serious relationship. Co-parenting can succeed for everyone, including the child, when there is an understanding and boundaries set and followed by all.

He has a point and I get it because I lived it. My children’s father would literally be an ASS just because those were HIS kids and he made it known to anyone I decided to date. He was a bully. My life did not get easier until I won full custody. I had real life baby daddy drama that many people don’t ever talk about. I’m glad the children are grown now.

@loranechinoingira75

2 жыл бұрын

I'm sorry you had to go through all that.

@loranechinoingira75

2 жыл бұрын

I'm sorry you had to go through all that.

@dugebuwembo

Жыл бұрын

But he was the father! My mother always made sure that there would NEVER be competing men within the ecosystem of our family unit because we already had a father and didn't need a step daddy as young children. She had relationships that we literally knew nothing about as youngsters because she was cognisant of the type of confusion that can be caused by the men entering her life. The sentiments in this video are disgusting! How can anyone condone the absenteeism of a father to their kids? This is a red flag 🚩 for any woman with children because this dude is operating based on his own selfish needs, he don't give a sh*t about the woman's Kids & let us remember that so much damage can be caused by temporary father figures in households around children... A father is for life & anyone who thinks its trivial for a father to be completely absent from his children's life shouldn't be messing with women who have children full stop!

@misscamara12

Жыл бұрын

Did your children’s father bring other women around your kids? Did they have a stepmom?

@TheResilient1

Жыл бұрын

I lived through that to people don't understand

My step dad never allowed my dad around. He was abusive and if my dad found out he probably wouldn’t be alive today.

He does have a point. It be those halfway present fathers that have the MOST audacity and don't want to compromise on nothin. Totally understandable why someone wouldn't want to deal with that 😂

@soloexperience

Жыл бұрын

Still the kids father, reason why the man above made more women then men so we all can have our own. Any dude who play step daddy is a clown idc if it work for you. We need to take the blame why women keep having kids. Ton of men wanna play step daddy

Rico is the definition of the kind of men you need to stay away from

@alisharo58

Жыл бұрын

😂🤣

@Ac3Badger

Жыл бұрын

Just say you like men who bend to whatever you want. You couldn’t handle a man who stands on his beliefs and demands he’s the leader of the household.

@LarennPBel

Жыл бұрын

HE WEAKKKKKKKKKKKKKKKKKKKKKKKKKKKKKKKKKKKKKKKKKKK

@gigga693

Жыл бұрын

@@Ac3Badger he doesn’t have to bend. He just shouldn’t prey on. To hand select someone you lowkey believe is unworthy of you only because their circumstance won’t challenge your ego is preying on someone. Because outside of their circumstance, he’d believe they weren’t good enough for him.

@Ac3Badger

Жыл бұрын

@@gigga693 bro what 💀 y'all love tying it to ego when it's really pride. Having pride to not even allow certain things to happen or not dealing with things you think are not for you. The women have the ego to feel entitled that someone would be honored to take care of her and her kid. I love how women egos are at an all time high and y'all try to flip it on men that it's our ego and we insecure. Y'all never even think once that there's a possibility you are a burden to a man because he should be grateful to even be talking to you.

Rico got dem control issues on lock 🔐 🤨

what happens when he has a kid, and split up from the mother, does that mean he will, not be involved at all with his kid??????????

@iamjasminenicole2244

Жыл бұрын

Doesn't he already have a child?

@misscamara12

Жыл бұрын

@@iamjasminenicole2244 Yeah, he already has a daughter and and I don’t think he’s with the mom either. So I wonder how that’s working out.

@yungbull1325

Жыл бұрын

Drop the kids off😑

His whole perspective gives abuser vibes.

@Prettyneece

Жыл бұрын

Don't he always 😅

@erikapayne9348

Жыл бұрын

I swear he gives I’m so insecure, I mean really you want the biological father out of the picture I don’t like his vibe. 2:24

@ddavis8988

Жыл бұрын

No man's ideal situation is to deal with the ego of another man in his house. Which is why many men choose to not even go into that situation. Avoid the drama.

@aquarianlapislazuli3663

Жыл бұрын

@@ddavis8988 but then some of y’all have kids with another woman and expect your girlfriend to deal with another womans who ?? Wtf byeee

@ddavis8988

Жыл бұрын

@@aquarianlapislazuli3663 Yes, some men do expect that. And that woman can decide to not deal with that as well. You're not forced to have to deal with it. You can exempt yourself just like a man could do.

A lot of you in here are taking what he said as "if I'm going to date a single mother the baby's father isn't allowed to have a say in anything and she has to cut him off" when that isn't what he is saying. He is saying that he only make the attempt if the baby's father is already not in the picture at all BEFORE things get started.

He’s right. There can’t be two captains to a ship. Most women shouldn’t criticize this bc most of them cite the baby mama as a reason for not dating men with kids. It’s not ideal to date someone with kids but it’s MUCH easier to do so without an ex involved.

The reality is this isn’t about the woman it’s the kid…. Yeah some parents are active you can’t just come in and change that🤷🏽‍♀️.. that’s that child’s relationship and the mom has to deal with him on some level.. his insecurities was showing

There's nothing wrong with what he said. He also said he wouldn't date women with children at all if he could prevent it. The issue is unless dad is gone from this earth or an abusive person on court orders, it can happen at anytime. day 1 or year 13. If he shows himself worthy a good mom wouldn't deny a father the chance to get right or make it right with the child.

His whole perspective is controlling, bc whether the bio father is involved or not, you don’t get your way anyway. He seems like he wants to spank a kid with no one checking him, hope he just sticks to child-less women. Also he gives feminine energy not being able to deal with a masculine man.

@Ac3Badger

Жыл бұрын

Didn’t say anything about spanking y’all love drawing your own conclusions instead of listening. I genuinely hate that people don’t use reasoning when they hear people speak. He doesn’t want another man thinking that they can run shut in his house. He said he knows how he gets in those situations. Self awareness. 2 masculine men are not gonna take shit from people trying to run things in there house, so if that kids dad also feels like he can’t be told anything what happens? Fighting. Women don’t ever think about the fact that men can’t have the petty back and forth that y’all have because if those men really standing on what they believe, it’s gonna end in a fight. Just throwing out trigger words like controlling and masculine without even understanding what your saying.

@the_shadow_healer

Жыл бұрын

@@Ac3Badger 1. why is an assumption that another man is "trying" to run his house 2. He's clearly a weak male, any real man would want the child's father in the child's life 3. It's clear he doesn't know how to communicate and he doesn't know how to set boundaries with the women he's dating so that the child's father won't even try to disrupt his house...so he chooses to the easy route and prefer women without any relationship to their child 4. It's very clear he has no strong elder men in his life to guide and teach him on how to deal with other men 5. He has zero experience dealing with masculine energy

@Ac3Badger

Жыл бұрын

@@the_shadow_healer you only said one valid thing. He chooses the easy route and deals with women with no kids. You making assumptions that he can’t deal with other men or communicate etc. Just like there’s baby mama drama, baby daddy’s be still in love with they child mom and can make it difficult for you. Why even take the chance of that happening when … you can literally avoid it all together?? That’s her baby daddy why should I have to communicate and get along with a man I don’t want nothing to do with just to be with a woman?? You do know when that kid goes to his dad house and tells him how his step dad run shit in his house, the dad can undermine everything the step dad says and now the child is forced to choose who he should listen to?? Maybe you never had a step parent. It’s literally 2 different environments. Some shit your step parent think is jokey joke funny could get you slapped by your real parent. So why even put myself in the situation where I’m doing that to the child.

@antg2183

Жыл бұрын

@@the_shadow_healerHe doesn’t choose the easy route. He chooses the smart route while you’re choosing the dumbass route. Who tf actually goes for single mothers if they have a childless woman option?

Where I'm from they say if you don't raise every child that isn't yours (biological) then those children will disturb the the kids you did raise.

You can just hear the insecurity in his voice on this topic. He feels threatened. Like he would really deny a child; that's not his, it's own father because he feels pressed about dealing with another male. Don't date a woman with kids then. The father will always be part of her life and that kids whether you like it or not.

@ahhshytson

Жыл бұрын

lol there is a difference between pushing the father away from the kids and talking to a girl who's BD isn't in the picture in the first place.

@Priceless889

Жыл бұрын

I disagree. He’s saying what he prefers. And he’s right.

@MaulmacabreDNA

Жыл бұрын

@@Priceless889 @Uncle Pluck As I said, don't date someone with kids then. Legit an unavoidable topic when dating someone with kids.🤷‍♂️

@jacobiedwards2955

Жыл бұрын

I didn’t hear that. Having another person who’s gonna question your authority style, the overall aesthetic on how you run your household is too much of a headache. Also at that point why would I want to take care of kids and pour into them if my teachings would be undermined?

@shugrutledge9049

Жыл бұрын

@@jacobiedwards2955 you better Preach!!!!

If y’all didn’t have the narcissist with the dreads i would have actually enjoyed this

@susan_sanya

2 жыл бұрын

A lot of things are wrong with his state of mind.

@juwanbyers3401

2 жыл бұрын

Just because a person has a difference of opinion doesn’t make you a narcissist

@amareb529

2 жыл бұрын

THANK YOU!! The fact that he can confidently say all of this out loud already tells me everything I need to know. He had my blood boiling but I had to sit through it because im only here for Kita to shed light and drop knowledge on them.

@r1mmyred79

Жыл бұрын

Shoe on the other foot u women wouldnt call him a narcissist.. u h03s learn new worlds n run with em

@alfredjones4925

Жыл бұрын

Guess I'ma narcissist because I date the same way

I’ve dated women with kids and never had that problem he sounds real weak and insecure as a man that has to try to control other peoples lives

@dugebuwembo

Жыл бұрын

This 👆🏿

@shonasaulsberry7461

Жыл бұрын

That part. 'Cause bruh, if the father is present, that actually takes the weight and control off of you. Which is what I would think most men want. To not have to be responsible for a seed that's not his. All he needs to focus on is his relationship with the mom, and he would just be a positive male role model in the child(ren)'s life, but not a father or father figure, as the child(ren) already has that. It's not like the child(ren) won't be with the other parent at times as well. So it really won't be that much interference or presence. All the parents need to do is have an understanding and routine. He sounds like he doesn't know how to co-exist, nor is he adaptable. I would think those are masculine qualities. But we all gotta have those traits nowadays to get along.

@FoundElement

Жыл бұрын

Light skin niggaz with glittery earrings 🤷🏾‍♀️😂

@Priceless889

Жыл бұрын

Just because that wasn’t your experience, doesn’t mean it can’t happen.

@misscamara12

Жыл бұрын

Did you actually marry a single mom and live with her and her kids? I think what Rico is saying applies if you actually established a household with that woman and are married and living together. “Dating” means nothing. Things get real when you actually establish a life together. When you are just dating her you don’t really have to take on a stepdad role or deal much with the baby daddy.

I feel what he’s saying though. I was in a 4 year relationship and there was that same dynamic he’s speaking about. BM wanted to dictate certain things and wanted to be privy of certain things that didn’t concern her. She wanted to always provide her unsolicited opinions. She called when she wanted and most of the time it was to act a fool or throw a tantrum. But I’m not one to tolerate that so it caused strained especially since the man in the situation shied away from confrontation. So he always felt out of place too because he had to display dominance that wasn’t necessarily in him and that made me look at him different too!

I fully agree with him. Why would I want another man telling me what I can and can't do in my house? This is why men without kids shouldn't date women with kids.

@NRenee111

Жыл бұрын

I don't understand this. How could another man tell you what to do in your home just because their child is there. They can make you aware of how their child is being raised and should be raised outside of that. What other control would that person have in your actual home?

@Que772

Жыл бұрын

That will only happen, if the woman allows it.

@gator7993

Жыл бұрын

So I dealt with a outside dad trying to run my home. The thing is women do not understand especially if the man doesn’t have any kids. If she does not deal with baby momma drama he shouldn’t deal with baby daddy drama. See men leave and think she will never find someone to take her with a kid or kids. And is hoping that this is the case. They do not care about what’s going on with their kid until another man comes in the picture. I have lived it. I learned how to shoot guns in the country at 8 years old as a young man. I showed a teenager the same way I was showed and his dad had a issue with it. He didn’t think he was ready?! Then started showing him how to drive and he got upset about that. However how can you try to tell me what to do in my home when your doing nothing. Now my father-in-law had a talk with my wife and said your husbands father was there let him show him what he knows and forget what his dad is saying. He didn’t want to start showing him how to be a young man until I was already on the job. So the other side to that is women get scarred by situations and I want a kid but she has shared with me her hurt and concerns. So should I leave her because she is saying she doesn’t want anymore kids? Normally it’s the woman that wants kids not the man. So now this is what I deal with. This guy would want to argue about weekends when we were dating he wouldn’t keep his kid. When he got married he wanted him around all the time because he then had smaller children and he is older. Now he is divorced he wants him around to watch his younger siblings. The problem is when he worships the ground that he walks on and they say don’t tell children about their parents let them see on their own. That’s a issue in itself. So now instead of watching how I do things you watch how your dad does things and believe that they are right when they are not. So at age 18 once he graduates he has 2 choices. He believes his dad should have but I shouldn’t be able to get nice things for his mom. New car he would leave trash in it. When his dad gets a new car look at what my dad got. So every situation is different ladies. If your kids dad was like that how would you be?

@gigga693

Жыл бұрын

@@gator7993 i think it’s important as the woman to set clear boundaries and have clear, healthy communication with the child and stepparent. Then go and have healthy communication with the dad. It takes a village to raise kids and everyone is the village has wisdom to impart. For example, you sound like a good man his father sounds problematic. But healthy communication and perspective can help your stepson take in both views and be more balanced. It’s not a negative that his dad is negative, yet involved. Sometimes we learn what not to be by watching unhealed people. But it has to be discussed in the right context. As a man, I’d say if you prefer women without kids because you have none that’s a healthy boundary. Stand on it. But don’t prey on someone’s tragedy because their other parent is dead or absent. Kids who have lost their parents come with their own set of trauma, issues, and disdain too. Picking a single mom only because her kids dad is dead or absent doesn’t guarantee a smooth sail for a stepparent. That’s why holding your general boundaries is healthier than setting prey-like conditions. If your spouse isn’t going to help lead navigation of the blended experience, then dont stay in that unhealthy dynamic. I also think it’s important to know whether or not a single mom who birthed a child in a toxic, traumatic relationship wants more kids upfront so that you can move along if y’all don’t want the same things. Most single moms know if they want more children. Did you agree to no kids and change your mind? Or did she say she wanted kids and changed her mind? Either way, I think if y’all aren’t aligned on that decision. Major conflict. I’d move along. But all in all, I think some single moms hold very healthy boundaries for their household and husbands. So either be open to the experience or closed off. But Rico’s preference is rooted in an unhealthy need for control.

He know his limits. Although I almost never agree with him when he is speaking. Simply because he comes off as a control freak and someone with an ego problem. He don't want any challenge around him. Periodt.

@ahhshytson

Жыл бұрын

Almost like most women in youtube videos lol

I feel like if you feel this way you just shouldn’t date women with kids because although I wholeheartedly agree which is why I do not date men with children for the exact reason; it does sound crazy to say out loud lol

Rico gotta grow up

@antgotguap6951

Жыл бұрын

You want him to “grow up” cause he doesn’t want another man being able to interfere with his family. Sound dumb asf 🤦🏾😂

@godwillbongani5240

Жыл бұрын

He is grow yall are just sensitive and hate the fact that he has standards what i like about Rico he has balls unlike most men on tis show who are people pleasers

where are the full conversations?

I'm currently dealing with this type of situation and honestly he's right. When I talk the child undermines what I say because of what their dad tells them. He doesn't even help out with the kid and when he does he only spends about $25-$30 every 2 weeks I'd say.Yet he still has some type of control in a household he doesn't even live in and honestly it's just not worth it anymore. When u date a woman with kids atleast pick the one who has a bd that doesn't care about who the mom is dating

@mysticalchemist9302

Жыл бұрын

Do the kids listen to their mom? Why she not telling them to listen to your authority. And if they ain't listening to either one of you send em with they Daddy.

My ex wife got remarried, and I never cause any problems with her or her husband. I call and I visited. You can co- parent with not any problem.

Brother you never have to. I have found that primarily it is the black man who cannot start a brand new exclusive Legacy with a black woman. Black men frequently have to inherit the legacy of someone else. And the reason why that's such a prolific problem is because there is no deterrent from recklessly and irresponsibly impregnating women and women allowing themselves to be impregnated

@MrQuitabee20

Жыл бұрын

Question is this statement your opinion to place blame only on the women? You do understand that children are not immaculately conceived correct? It does take a male and female to make a baby. Your post confused the mess out of me and I need clarification.

@justlurkin

Жыл бұрын

@@MrQuitabee20 maybe but there are a 1000 different guys that would probably want to sleep with you and most women out there and you 100% choose the one that it goes down with.

He doesn’t want a interference. He making sense If I take the responsibility I want the authority!

Im coo with the father being there long as hes consistently present level headed physically and emotionally moved on and we have a mutual respect for each other so it definitely depends on what type of person/bd he is

@gigga693

Жыл бұрын

🎯 and it depends on how well the mom helps establish the dynamic and how well she upholds those boundaries.

That just mean you soft u set rules. That’s it.

@godwillbongani5240

Жыл бұрын

What rules you setting it ain't your child so what boundaries you have

He said this my baby now 😂 I kind of see where he’s coming from depending on if the father was ever really present and active

@alisharo58

Жыл бұрын

😂🤣

Honestly, that’s fair. He loves himself enough to know how not to be the past version of himself. Why get involved in a situation that you already know isn’t going to bring joy and growth to you as an individual. This man is smart and many can learn from just this perspective alone.

@sheabutter1066

2 жыл бұрын

Dumbest thing I ever heard

@gigga693

Жыл бұрын

So now blended families can’t bring joy and growth? Such limited perspective and bigoted assumptions.

Totally understand ✔️💯

Yep, totally agree.

Mans too wise. You can tell this knowledge is from experience 🙌🏾🙌🏾🙌🏾🙌🏾

@sheabutter1066

2 жыл бұрын

He obviously doesn’t comprehend feelings emotions boundaries or anything like that he’s wise enough to know that simple fact

Good point

I agree with him 100%

Get rid of that dude.

@cephas5053

2 жыл бұрын

Nah he’s interesting

@K.O_DAGOAT_REACTIONS

2 жыл бұрын

Rico the smartest on the show. Everybody else scared be honest. Especially dude on the right. Its like people have to be politically correct now a days

If you think like this just don’t date no one with children. I’m a woman with no children and I prefer men with no children for multiple reasons. He sounds crazy. But that’s just my opinion on his thoughts.

That’s control

Facts. I can respect that.

I'm a Black woman and I 100% agree with Rico. I rarely do, but I find his honesty and his stance on his beliefs refreshing. I would actually enjoy chatting with him for a couple of hours on various topics.

I have children and when I date. He's dating me not my children. You won't even see my children. It takes several months for a man's representative. To take a hike so I can finally meet the real man I've been dating. Why would I introduce a man that I really don't know to my children. I do a background check ✔and a mental health check ✔. On any man before he meets my children. He also has to be a mommy approved roll model.

I am not a Rico fan, but his logic was hitting on this...put yourself in that mother or father's shoes...This is your child going to daycare, needing healthcare, clothes, shelter, food, calling someone else mommy or daddy...How are you supposed to feel or think? Years later and your baby is a teenager going through puberty and hormones are changing him or her. He or she is displaying rage, anxiety, being disrespectful, hitting milestones but they confide in the step mother or father and not you bc they are with him or her more. You tell your child they are not ready to date or football is too aggressive a contact sport and the answer is no, but this other person who didn't give birth to him or her says yes...I don't think I am going to handle that well at all...I totally get what he is saying!

I honestly do not care who the mother of my kids date. That is solely her situation. Even though we are not together, I left her as a husband but I did not leave my kids as a father. If the man she is dating has an issue with me wanting to be around my kids then just give me full custody of my kids. I will never try to control anything in her household. What goes on over there is strictly her business. This is one of the main reasons I feel that people with kids should date people with kids. I’m going to give y’all all the respect in the world but I’m going to be present in my kids lives. Just because I’m present it does not mean it will negatively affect their household.

@gigga693

Жыл бұрын

🎯

When you know your limits you commit to them & take them serious. Could he compromise yea but will he no & that’s fair

Definitely understand what he is say

My husband is great, and if we were not together, he would be involved, but not aggressive toward anyone, but I understand the guys' point of view as well.

@QueenMaaria

Жыл бұрын

Girl people get petty when your not with them anymore

@misscamara12

Жыл бұрын

@@QueenMaaria Exactly. Divorce brings out the worst in people.

I agree with him

i can agree..

So we got to download the app to watch a full episode cause y’all jus got shorts on KZread

Just discard dating with women with children all together and make sure you don’t have kids either … just saying 🔥🔥

Rico seems extra overall

As the wife of a man with kids, I 100% agree with this guy. I wish the mom was not around, helping him raise them would be better.

he wants to be the only man but it takes a whole village of men to raise a young man so what is he saying?

@godwillbongani5240

Жыл бұрын

Men are territorial by nature no man wants his child to be looking up to another man when he is around when you marry a single mom that child becomes part of the package deal thats why blended families are not ideal two bulls cannot stay under one household,a student cannot have two teachers

It's about what's best for the child.

I’m beginning to agree with this ..

INSECURITYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYY IS SHOWING N CONTROLLING AND TOXIC

Being a man that has been a stepdad to 4 kids that have 3 different fathers.. I understand his point of view 100%. You gotta live it to see his perspective cuz it aint easy when you’re raising someone else’s kids in your home but one dad is present another’s isn’t at all and the other one wasn’t there but now that you married to his baby momma he come around to be there for his daughters. Its a very complicated situation, personally I wouldn’t even be with a woman who has kids anymore and i have 2 daughter from 2 different women now. I don’t know how it is for women to be with someone who has kids already but i know my wife couldn’t even handle me having 1 baby momma but she has 3 baby daddies 🤷🏽‍♂️ i know somebody gonna read this and be like well why you with someone who has 3 baby daddies, cuz I’m not tryna judge anybody for mistakes they may have made in their past. My issue was im suppose to be the head of the home but yet it was always “my kids” this and “my kids” that.

@NRenee111

Жыл бұрын

But you said you also have two daughters from two other women so realistically you're in the same both as your counterpart. Unless you don't take care of your daughters. Neither of you should be saying these are my kids since it's a full on blended family. Adult's egos can really damage a child's home though if y'all are not careful with the energy and language you bring around them.

@gigga693

Жыл бұрын

So you wouldn’t date you? Got it. So basically you have different views on women with kids than men with kids. The jokes write themselves at this point.

Real fuckin talk

Yes he does

It makes no difference the restrictions are still there. They will always hold that little extra power over you and undermine. Been there done it. Seen a 100 times as well and so many friends have dealt with it. He thinks he knows but with no experience. He’s only just became a father. Another man’s child just doesn’t work 99.9% of the time for all you, not all police officers.

💕

i dont understand how man say u would have to pay bill if i wasnt here but when iit comes to kids use that same thing turn it to say they are taking care of your kid even if yall doing 50/50 and the father taking care of the child in all other ways smh seems like folks just want to use this to get something

He seems like he’s growing at a fast rate

I hope all the single moms speaking up let their kids continue to see the ex BF that they bonded with.

I completely agree with Rico. That outside input is mofo to deal with at times.

So basically what I just heard a man say is that he cannot put the wholeness and well being of his partners child above his fragile male ego?!? Did he actually just say he’d rather deny a child the love of their father because he doesn’t want another man’s influence over his own child in his household? He’s free to not date women with children. Preference is that. But underneath preference do we stop to assess the legitimacy or illegitimacy of how we arrive at these decisions? IMO his logic is very egotistical and selfish. He often gives off the vibe of toxic masculinity and fragility disguised as loud “confidence.”

@godwillbongani5240

Жыл бұрын

Nothing toxic about toxic yall just love men who are people pleasers and simps Rico and that other guy who is lightskinned with a beard are the only sensible people in this show i like how he has his standard and people hate that

@gigga693

Жыл бұрын

@@godwillbongani5240 toxic is denying a child the right to have access to their bio father because it hurts your grown feelings and challenges your ego. As I stated, his decision not to date women with children is legit. He has a right to his preference. It made sense when he said he wouldn’t want another man controlling his household. It got egotistical when he mentioned he’d prefer if the child dad wasn’t in their life. A healthy way of holding his boundary would be just not dating women with kids in general. It got unhealthy when he mentioned when he but the toxic condition of dead or a deadbeat on it. Love is mutual exchange of compromise. His logic says he can’t put the well being of a child before his ego. It’s safe to stay out the parent pool instead of wanting a kid to have no access to their parent. That’s how brokenness is formed and perpetuated. He’s not a “simp” which is good, he shouldn’t be. But he’s also not a healthy mate because he shows a lot of self centered values that aren’t conducive to partnership hence he’s always on the show talking about how much casual sex he has. That stems from toxicity, too. It’s about balance. Don’t shade simps but praise egotistical men. That’s wack.

@godwillbongani5240

Жыл бұрын

@@gigga693 i get that but honestly blended families are not families lets be honest can you co-father with another man though there is a saying that says two teachers cannot teach one student

@gigga693

Жыл бұрын

@@godwillbongani5240 blended families are families. Many blended families have a mix of children they don’t share blood with and children they do. Even in traditional families, moms and dads aren’t always on the same page about handling their children. They have higher probability of sharing the same values, but many struggle and clash on how to approach, correct, and instill those values. Many will discuss those differing opinions when said kids aren’t around. The same can be said in blended families. It requires commitment for the children and mutual respect and healthy boundaries for all parties. But those are values to carry in all relationships whether they are romantic, platonic, or professional. I still suggest people honor their preference. If you don’t wish to date someone with kids. Don’t. But honor that selection through and through and don’t selectively prey on certain population of people who aren’t genuinely your preference anyway. If you don’t like single moms, don’t have sex with them. Don’t try to capitalize control off her disadvantage of a dead/absent father. Just don’t date her. Why announce or imply that you believe single moms are undesirable, or burdensome, when you can just not date them with action? Why invalidate experiences by saying blended families aren’t families when you can just choose not to marry or procreate in one? My father, grandfather, coaches, and uncle cofathered me. It’s called humility. To think that everything your child needs for manhood will primarily come from you because you are the father is ego. My dad had the greatest impact on my brother. My grandfather had the greatest impact on me. That doesn’t take a way from my fathers impact. We’re just different. If my father allowed his ego because of title to stifle mine and my grandfathers relationship, it would’ve stifled my development. Does it matter where a child gets it from as long as they get it? Humans move with too much ego and not enough humility.

@godwillbongani5240

Жыл бұрын

@@gigga693 if only the world is that easy reality says something men are territorial by nature so if another is doing your job no way you cool with that but hey what do i know

I agree, I will not run off a father but I want to be the only Man that you learn from cause I have a lot to teach and pass on.

@gigga693

Жыл бұрын

You’ll never be the only man a child learns from. Dad or not. Children are humans who get to decide whose teachings they digest. It may come from uncles, coaches, teachers, mentors, etc. There are kids who don’t agree with half of their parents teachings. Your belief that you have lots to teach and pass on is relative. Others (including your own children) may think otherwise. Your comment in itself is egotistical, so I understand the agreement with Rico.

@ed3523

Жыл бұрын

@@gigga693 Yea no. I'm not close minded to the idea that my children will pick up from multiple sources and toss the ones that do not fit their parenting or life style. Often children turn to outside sources when their parents are trying to force a dated or one sided narrative that doesn't benefit them in the long run. It's more than just life I'm looking to teach, it's culture. Black Culture in it's totally.

@alisharo58

Жыл бұрын

​@@gigga693 👏👏

@josiahbutler2254

Жыл бұрын

i disagree brother! it takes an entire village

@ed3523

Жыл бұрын

@@josiahbutler2254 It takes a village to raise a child but the importance of a Father/Male Figure/Uncle/Grandfather in their lives. This can easily be googled or KZreadd to see people who lived that life with and without a father figure. Where it takes both parents.... every child specifically needs their Father at one point.

My ex told me this. 😶

Tell her give custody to the father

Have you guys ever watch Naruto? Dating a single mother is like having a pair of sharingans looking over your shoulder every minute. You say something to the child, all of sudden the mom suddenly walks by. It’s like having a boss constantly look at you every second. It’s super uncomfortable. I’m really turned off by this and the only way i will ever date a single mom again is if she’s from Africa and grew up traditional. I’m pro black so I don’t do the interracial thing.

thats real light skin energy..

Nobody knows what baby mama did to babydaddy that he had leave. That still is child.The stepfather going after the real dad. Think foot was on other shoe.

_I DON'T DEAL WITH SINGLE PARENTS_

Well it's not what's best for the child to have an absent father. That child will have abandonment issues among other things. I would not being a person into my child's life who would prefer this experience for my child so they're ego is satisfied.

U can tell a man his mental issues when he talks... he the type that'll let a female who play games with a child lead him astray n follow her word

I don't think I had a fair number of saying no to anybody I was in a relationship with when it came to having sex But in all honesty as a woman I have said no like at least once a month to no sex because of my period my cycle when I'm bleeding because I'm uncomfortable with having sex while I'm facing my time of the month during that week in that month 0:37

The baby daddy drama with the bums and thugs they usually have kids with want to cause problems because they have kids it's usually not worth it, paying for a child that's not yours etc etc

Nah i don’t usually comment but man me and my fam just went through this.. the girl I was with the druggy wasn’t there now I told the kid that’s you’re daddy, but I told him you ain’t gone play pop-a-dad round here nigga, either you in or out.. aye you ain’t got none to do with their relationship so stop going the extra mile it’s on him not you… but my cuz chose opposite being cool and shit and damn near had to beat a stupid nigga to death..and if it doesn’t work the kid suffers man.. shit ain’t right

He speaking facts

This isn’t a bad point though..😭

I don’t think he’s insecure it’s what’s he prefers! So if another man is saying he’s insecure you know damn well you wouldn’t want no other man calling and telling you what to do in your house.

@rainbeauxunicorn5237

Жыл бұрын

You and him have me laughing because that’s not even how it goes. A healthy coparenting situation doesn’t involve telling other households what can and can not be done. So the fact that THAT is what he’s worried about points to his control issues that point to his insecurities.

@godwillbongani5240

Жыл бұрын

​@@rainbeauxunicorn5237everything to yall is insecurity a man cannot have standard without being called insecure no wonder tgis generation has weak males who demand 50-50 with women you can no longer be a man without being told you are insecure which male in this world wants another men being a fatherfigure to his child like sometimes lets use common sense before we type with emotions

That's ridiculous though. So if that relationship doesn't work,then now you're out of that child's life also. You're better off dating someone without children.. Speaks insecure and control issues

@therdnationent.1136

Жыл бұрын

Then maybe more ppl should stop getting recklessly pregnant.

@lovegoddess2040

Жыл бұрын

@@therdnationent.1136 That goes without question however it still doesn't take away from my statement.

@gigga693

Жыл бұрын

@@therdnationent.1136 he has a child out of wedlock. So you’re talking about him, yet he has a no single mom preference. He doesn’t want another man involved bc he believes how he shows up in his child’s life is how other men do. Can’t see beyond his limited perspective and self projection.

he sounds like an abuser

Rico want only Sky Daddy Richie 😅 and I get his point at least he doesn’t discriminate women with children.

It's his PREFERENCE. A woman can prefer a man to not have kidd, make $500k, be 6'2", and have a 13-room mansion, but a man can't prefer to have a woman with no children? "Abuser vibes." "Controlling." "He has an ego." Please don't hand me that. Let this man have his preference and do not project your emotions because you're not what he desires.

@gigga693

Жыл бұрын

He’s a baby dad. The pot calling the kettle black. So don’t date single moms but help make single moms. Make it make sense.

No thank you. That's not how it works in a child's mind. Absolutely not. I would never date a man like that. I'll pay for my portion of the date and roll out. It's about how your woman co-parents with the child's father.

That’s his preference but he’s showing selfishness, controlling and immaturity. All things in a relationship will never be his way, I believe he needs to stay out of relationships he’s a spoiled MF and he’s the type that I tell my daughters to be leery of.

HE WEAAAAAAAAAAKKKKKKKKKKKKKKKKKKKKKKKKKKKKKKKKKKKKKKKKKKKKKKKKKKKKKKKKKKKKKKKKKKKKKKKKKKKKKKKKKKKKKKKKKKKKKKKKKKKKKKKK

I can't take this seriously 😐

How about ppl w/kids date ppl w/kids and then Single BLACK ppl w/NO KIDS date each other. But there are more BLACK PPL kids then NOT especially as you age. I'm 38 BLACK FEMALE and KID FREE....

Big surprise the control freak on the panel doesn’t want to walk into a healthy coparenting situation. Can we stop inviting him on the panel? Isn’t there ANYONE else available? ANYONE….🤦🏾‍♀️

@godwillbongani5240

Жыл бұрын

Nope we love Rico we are tired of listening to people pleasers at least Rico has standards and states what majority of men dont have the balls to state as much as his delivery iz wrong i support his point aint no masculine men wants to be competing with another man every man wants to be a hero to his kid two bulls cannot stay in house

@rainbeauxunicorn5237

Жыл бұрын

@@godwillbongani5240… 🥴so you rather listen to BS?? 🙄I see what kind of brain cells you’re working with and I don’t give energy to sub standard.

Nope hold tht man responsible. Be a dad. Im going to father another man and his kid at the same time. " As a Step Dad you have to prepare to father a man and a boy. Show them how to be a man " - Devorjae Dedmon Quote me

Dude in the brown shirt, Rico is it? He comes across as very insecure. He should put himself in the kids shoes. Its all about maturity. Every child should have a good relationship with their father even if the parents separated and moved on to a new relationship. It sounds to me like Rico is scared his woman may go back to her ex.

@godwillbongani5240

Жыл бұрын

Call it insecurity but every man thinks like Rico at least Rico has the balls to show it majority of men are like this almost every man is territorial

@SpiritualLifeCoach43

Жыл бұрын

​@@godwillbongani5240I get what youre saying. Most people 30+ have had a child. It's about a respect structure and maturity.

@godwillbongani5240

Жыл бұрын

@@SpiritualLifeCoach43 yeah i get that and you are right but at some point think about it dont you want a child to look up to you as a man every man wants to be a hero to his child now him looking up to another man complicates things i am not saying its impossible to find a compromise but most men are territorial they take care of those around them no man wants competition when it comes to his pride its equivalent to lions

@SpiritualLifeCoach43

Жыл бұрын

@@godwillbongani5240 If men want a woman with no kids or a virgin then they should practice being what they are in search of. Everyone is entitled to their preferences.

The girl in the red needs to stay on topic. There were too many unnecessary interjections.

@lroberts462

11 ай бұрын

It's so distracting at times!!!!

Hot take but Rico is always being insecure with his responses

Rico needs to be banned off of podcast 🙄he never making sense about life! It’s giving narcissistic vibes

Lmao! If you're not (Mature) enough for that situation! Do not get involved! Men better have good (Discernment) before committing to that type relationship! Because if a women see your insecurities! (Some) will play the Boyfriend against the biological father!

@godwillbongani5240

Жыл бұрын

Nothing to do with maturity its called boundaries people be using the word maturity to justify disrespect aint no man wants another around his household period thats why blended families are not ideal

@501Caution

Жыл бұрын

@@godwillbongani5240 Mature people solve problems! Disrespect comes from an emotional state. People want to set boundaries when it's too late! If don't want those issues don't date single mothers!

@godwillbongani5240

Жыл бұрын

@@501Caution dating single mothers comes with issues thats why Rico stated that when the father is present it becomes an issues no amount of maturity will prepare you to date single mothers dating someone without kids is a better option but most people are drawn by their emotions instead of logic but we handle things different some people can handle that

@501Caution

Жыл бұрын

@@godwillbongani5240 life experiences taught me to check my Emotions a long time ago! I also learned to stay in my lane. A PIMP told me once. Never let them see you sweat! When you check your emotions! You'll understand what to avoid!

@godwillbongani5240

Жыл бұрын

@@501Caution right about that