As a woman, I can say this is very true. The best thing is when the man is really *there* when he is physically THERE. Then, it also doesn't matter how often you see each other if the time you spend together is raw, real and full of communication (verbally or physically through touch)!

to hear a man explain the needs a woman has so clearly, so succinctly, just blows me away. thank you Anthony.

@callum7081

7 жыл бұрын

JEM it's just copied from the book the way of the superior man.

@mohammaditani228

7 жыл бұрын

Hubert cumberdale So what?! at least someone is sharing this useful tip for us neglecting its reference

@bonson9156

7 жыл бұрын

it's Tony though, he's a legend

@KevinCummingsFitness

5 жыл бұрын

Lol

@catherinebutera768

5 жыл бұрын

tony is a god

Yes - presence... and let's distinguish that really good presence has no agenda. It is a deep listening without manipulation. That is intimacy, which creates passion.

@Cybraxas

6 жыл бұрын

I totally agree, especially on the "no agenda" part.

@ianreed7605

5 жыл бұрын

The problem being is men often do have an agenda.....sex. That’s because too many woman use sex as a reward for good behaviour so men behave like a dog after a treat.

@JB-wb5gp

5 жыл бұрын

Men aren't women and because we want sex doesn't mean we are evil. You want me to listen to you and I want you have sex with me. If I walked up to you and said let's have sex, would you just take your panties off. I highly doubt it, so in other words I do have to be present with an agenda. Your not thinking about what your saying, you just don't like that sometimes thats the way it is, and it's not because of men it's because of women. As a man sex is important to me, I love sex, and there is absolutely nothing wrong with that because, you like attention and affection, so long as I get what I want, you get what you want. It's only fair and right.

@mikehunthurts3558

5 жыл бұрын

Leanora EmbodyTruth your point of view comes from solely what you want out of a relationship, starting not only with your needs first, but portraying our needs as evil. So, to reverse it, as a man you wrote this: YES - sex, and let's distinguish that really good sex has no agenda. It's deep sex without multiple dates of listening to her bull shit, that is intimacy. Nature 101 side note: without men having an agenda there'd be no humans. This is nature, and nature naturally has an agenda. Blame nature.

@chadkeech5030

4 жыл бұрын

The " agenda" is what makes men listen in the first place. It's not anything less or more

Your right..100% concentrate on the conversation not checking their phone and fb pages it feels like I'm boring....

@MarcoAshford

4 жыл бұрын

I was being 100% present, but my date was checking her phone and even trying to watch shows when we were together. All she cares is the next episode, how great the leading guy is, why I'm not as good as him... Glad I ran away before my wallet got ripped off.

Might have just saved my butt... So simple and over looked. Thanks.

@elarrayhesohit4479

6 жыл бұрын

Jesse Mccrea I don’t get it. What does this mean?

@chrismccaffrey8256

5 жыл бұрын

@@elarrayhesohit4479 Probably saved him from a confusing and agonizing situation where he didn't know how to be with his partner or what to do. The answer being, "Do nothing. Just be Present." :)

meditation and presence the key to a more fufilling life

@ozgursenturk11-11

3 жыл бұрын

And no woman around you👍

I agree that presence is important. What I've found in my relationship is that its all about the energy you give off. And the energy you give off all comes down to your thoughts. When I meditate on thoughts of certainty, self-power and caring prior to engaging with my wife, then my wife reads it as 'present', even if those thoughts aren't specifically about my wife (ex. I could be thinking about a time I cared for a sick family member). For some men, this isn't an important distinction but it was critical for me. If I just listened to my wife talk and honestly tried to understand she would read my confusion and effort in a wildly negative way.

...because when the man is present the woman feels -two magical words- important and safe!

@kevinkemp9862

9 жыл бұрын

Lidiya Homa The words I like to use are , Safe and Valued. So yes and yes

@anastasiosmoulios2955

4 жыл бұрын

yes when she is safe, she cheats on him. Thats life.

@atticus319

4 жыл бұрын

@@anastasiosmoulios2955 yup. When she feels totally validated and knows that she's got you 100%, she'll want adventure and excitement. Most women are to neurotic to be satisfied without drama

@armandobroncas4276

4 жыл бұрын

Fuck that noise!! ...

@daniellamoreno3616

3 жыл бұрын

Tis true.

I really needed this. I have been everything you described. I have an amazing wife who is begging me to just be there with her and I haven't been. I keep trying to do the things I think I should be doing but they don't work because I'm not listening to her, not truly. I'm just hearing what I think she wants. Amazingly, she just wants me, she just wants an honest, sincere, real husband. I haven't been that person. Truly, I haven't. Tonight, Valentine's Day with my wife sick, I have been doing the wrong things. Going forward, that won't happen. Going forward I see I just need to engage and be open and experience the love of being with this amazing woman. Tank you Tony for posting this, and thank you to my wife

@ChrisKsan

4 жыл бұрын

I know it's been 5 years, but I read your comment now and felt your situation deeply as it is nearly identical to mine right now. I have been really absent to my wife now she's completely exhausted of it all and wants to leave me. I'm trying hard to save our marriage, but I dunno exactly what to do and if it'll work... For now, I'm trying my best to be helpful and caring without smothering her (fearing that it may be too much opposite response at once and it might stress her and push her further away), do the things she said were missing and watching videos, content and searching for ideas to help us out and reaching out on how to reverse this and save our marriage...

You are absolutely 100% correct and articulated this in a way I've personally been unable to convey to my boyfriend for over a year now. I will be sending him this video!! Thank you so much for this wisdom and enlightenment. It has helped me identity that need that I've struggled with for years but felt I'm just too needy or insecure. I didnt realize this is a need among most or any other women! I hadn't identified this but now see it as a missing piece to my puzzle or shall I say trail of unsuccessful relationships. I believe its actually vital to my long term success in a relationship, and the key to my serenity and happiness .

This one expresses so much of what I've been feeling the whole time but didn't find the words for. Great video.

Yes Tony, I couldn't agree more. Presence is King, and the way to being treated like a King! Bravo for sharing, men need to hear this, and even more so practice developing their strength of presence!

I absolutely adore this man. He is on the top of my real men.list. Real men are rare in this world. Love making doesn't start in the sac, it's 90% of the relationship, sex is the 10% which is the bonus of the relationship.

@africacarey

5 жыл бұрын

I couldn't agree with you most

@jamestowey1183

4 жыл бұрын

Yes i agree

@shaytzafrir

4 жыл бұрын

Lol, your delusional and stupid , and I’m guessing your also single , right??

@titoli1

3 жыл бұрын

I thought my wife was dominant when I just realised I was so unstable and unreliable to she had to set up boundaries and safe nets for her own mental health, these boundaries did not make me feel OK. When I grounded in my self, realised my triggers and boundaries. I told her strait up what I don't like, She let go, became more submissive and it was up to me to save the relationship. That was the key, but if you do this as a man you HAVE to keep ur promisees because ur basically telling ur girlfriend to lower her guard and open up to vulnerabilities.

@hotstitch1

3 жыл бұрын

Brilliant!

Tony, you are 1000% right. The biggest thing that has mattered to me is for my men to have a listening ear.

This video could not have come at a better time... my wife and I have been discussing this very topic lately and this video totally drives the point home. I am committed to being PRESENT! Thanks Tony.

Very lucky I have lived with my partner 16 years. I love him more every day, we met only as teens. So true,, my partner said if there is a problem we fix it. And if something is not write we Allways say it's the situation and we try to resolve we love each other more than what we want for ourselves we choose to do it together and compromise we feel like we teach each other something everyday and bring the best out of each other and pray for each other everyday

My 6 month old daughter taught me the most valuable thing ... how to be present to the moment “

ABSOLUTELY! thank you for verbalizing it

100% agree! I was trying to figure out why sometimes I go off men and get angry when I am getting to know them when I was all in love mode not long before. It's exactly this because presence = value instead of meaningless words. Presence is decisiveness, it's the act of leadership. Not somebody who dosen't have a plan or know what they want it's I am here I am you man I choose you and right now in this moment it's just me and you and I demonstrate to you via.. this (act of service etc). That one act of service can excite a woman for days, but I too often come across men who are like all on fire one day and the next cold as ice for no reason other than their insecurites and fear kick in and they think they should back off and yet that is the very act that will cause their fear to come to pass. I.e me stepping out with somebody else who actually wants me there.

Tony, I agree 100%., Presence is the most important thing.

Thanks Tony. Your videos showed me that I was absolutely never present(it never crossed my mind, always in my own head) and now I am living a much happier life.

I agree. He is spot on!! Be present with her is key!!

Amazing!! Thank you. Much respect and gratitude

Thanks for hitting the nail on the head.

That's so true! Being Present with others….focused on the very moment we are with them!

Amen!!🙏 Spot on Mr. Robbins!

This is so true 👌 Tony understand Everyone so well

You have a great understanding, so helpful

Honesty like they taught us as a child is the best virtue !! 😊

Yup you can say that again 👏🏽tony

thanks Tony this is what we needed to hear both woman and men

Thanks for these video's Tony, you're amazing - making real change in peoples lives. Keep it up!

You are 100% on point with this message. My husband tells me since his always home his present and i keep telling him that's not being with me if you just in the house. I might of well be single and have a doll if you call this being present. thanks for this message i will share it with him.

@rustyspygoat4089

3 жыл бұрын

Why not do something with your husband that he also enjoys. Perhaps if you initiate fixing the problem you might get him to respond. If he enjoys gaming, exercising, watching series etc you can join him and be present in those moments with him. I'm pretty sure he will be pleasantly surprised and be more present with you

@samantharg4380

3 жыл бұрын

@@rustyspygoat4089 I'm the everyday planner nothing floats his boat.

@socrates9237

3 жыл бұрын

@@samantharg4380 suck harder, tends to work!

Great video Tony :) Thanks and God bless

Yes! It's so true! Be present. Even if he feeling 100%, show up and be supportive. I'd rather have honesty and possible hurt feelings briefly, than a lie that builds into resentment later. On either or both sides. It's a team effort for both people to commit to the team.

Wow, Tony. It all makes sense now. Thanks

Thanks tony i will try it my girlfriend loves what you do so she is so worth it

I'm a woman watching this, and I absolutely agree with you Tony. Presence or connection is the key to make a relationship works.

@ozgursenturk11-11

3 жыл бұрын

And money to make relationships to starts😨

Thank you for this video. I just had this same conversation with my significant other

Well, Absolutely. Thank you

I have never heard a man say it better. You fully understand.

So true. Even the attempt to be present is awesome because it replicates the next time and gets easier. Presence is key to connection. 💓 it is difficult to find someone REAL and speaks his truth! Stand up for yourself and let's work together!

Thank for this lovely message

Thank u! Thats exactly what I often miss and makes me upset. I send sage and u love 💜 and energy 💫

Touche'. well said and very important message for any relationship.

So true!!!! Tony Robbins👏

So this whole time I've been ignorant and ignoring the fact that yes I haven't been present, and somehow led me to believe she's just nagging all the time! 😑 my dear friend this helped me a whole lot but mostly for my one and only. Thank you Tony ! 👍🏼

@shangu85

3 жыл бұрын

Same

Thank you for this... it’s so true. Now if only HE would see this....

Thank You, Thank You, Thank You Sage and Tony! You ROCK!

@michaelbruno4608

3 жыл бұрын

Hello 👋 Deborah Lee Douglas How are you doing happy New Years

He made some good points to be fair, Ya Gotta love Tony. 💪🤟👍

Great talk thank you Tony.

Thank you Tony!

Absolutely correct

Fantastic Message. Thank you Tony for putting this message together.

@michaelbruno4608

3 жыл бұрын

Hello 👋 Anna suppler How are you doing happy New Years

so on point tony thx you

Yep...stop staring at the TV....watching movies on your iPad...or chatting on facebook...when your are with me in my company i would appreciate your absolute and total attention...Thank you Tony well said...

Absolutely! Tony, you are right on the mark! I left my last relationship because of presence. Presence means deep listening as well--really trying to empathize and understand your honey's POV.

@jamessmith62

5 жыл бұрын

I love u baby

@ChrisKsan

4 жыл бұрын

I dunno if you are going to read or reply to this, but I'm gonna try a question. Did your ex try to be present after you've decided to leave the relationship? If he would've prooved to be more present than ever for you, would you have returned to the relationship? My wife decided to leave me exactly because of my lack of presence, which I fully understand now in retrospect and I am trying hard to save our marriage...

@rustyspygoat4089

3 жыл бұрын

What if you became boring and neglected your man and hence why he was not 'present' for you? Perhaps you were the one who initiated the break down in communication, instead of assuming it was the guys fault.

@socrates9237

3 жыл бұрын

Bet it was money

@infinitydreamzz

3 жыл бұрын

Did you want him to understand with your POV or necessarily agree with it? One is presence, the other is submission.

This video is on point for sure..

It is so true ,In my experience when 1-I encountered a serious problem in relationship and didnt hope for a solution 2- I thought "I dont have the right to ask her for a lot of changes to my desire. 3- or when I told her several times about an issue and she didnt care)or 4-when I felt "I dont want the relationship anymore "and dont dare to say that . I gradually decreased my presence mostly unconsciously to 0. Now I know the most important part is going for the problems and solve not to escape from them or neglect them.

@hojoshua8425

4 жыл бұрын

alireza saatchi s I'd still ask you after 5 years of comment what do you think on number 2 is a selfie thing to do to ask of your partner or is a define thing to do not trying to save a relationship? There obviously there a balance to it like all thing, what I learn is not all problem need to be fix like John Gotten said 69% of the couple issue problem will never goes away. But you still openly realize and accept what part of you and how far is your expectation is unrealistic or is something you both can improve on or is just what is and nothing wrong with it. That a hard one for me Me thinking back what is the best outcome/pleasant result & feeling for both of you if you don't say it as much but still have lots of positive reinforcement there not need to push on anything. But if the effort is shown anyway is good enough to for what it is. Or if both of you can make the relation way more pleasant with a little more effort and make a relation stay together then is more than worth it.

This is so true.

Yes, I agree!

This is really on point❤

Thank you brother

This so true❤ can be with a man a feel like it's a roommate...no presence 😢

Awesome massage Tony!! Youngsters with cell phone in their hands need this advice!🙏❤️

@brbk4498

3 жыл бұрын

Message

Thank you Mr Robbins. I can't tell you how much I needed to be validated today! You are much appreciated. Thank you.

Yep! Presence and yes to the honesty...presence and passion...mmm!!!

YUP absolutely correct. Presence does not take a lot of time. You just really look into her eyes. Women want to be "seen". This is truth

Presence=true! I lived with 22 years with a man who was not present.....didn't care to be there for me. I now have a real man--a real husband, who loves me and is continually present. It melts me.

@elarrayhesohit4479

6 жыл бұрын

Linda Rodriguez Pitzen what presence mean?

@ChrisKsan

4 жыл бұрын

My wife wants to leave me now being exhausted with my absence and that I've basically ignored her in key moments. I deeply understand this now, along with the pain and am trying hard to win her back and save our marriage by being helpful, more engaged and present, watch videos and content for ideas and inspiration, reaching out. If it were you, roughly in this sort of situation and he would do what I'm doing, would you have continued your relationship with him? If he would have changed?

@thelistener8357

3 жыл бұрын

Yeah yeah yeah ofcoz men are always to blame.

@thelistener8357

3 жыл бұрын

@@ChrisKsan Let her fkn go. I promiss you she doesnt even know what she want in her life, she think she know it but non of them they do . They are full of headache

Best advice money can buy right here and most of you will let this fly right over your head and not realize the centuries of wisdom that’s being packed in this short 6 min clip ... if you don’t understand this and don’t watch this over and over until you do then you deserve what’s comming to you .

Thankyou Tony!!

You are so so so right! I have been dealing with this for a while. Sometimes I thought that is something wrong with me. But it seems that men also need to change their behavior. I think that both sex need attention and being present is essential.

Thanks Tony.

Thank you. ☺️

Touché Mr Robbins. Presence from a man is everything!

Well resumed Presence and honesty Woman detected so well And appreciate it

BOOM, love this

That's totally true 👍

Just shut down the volume and put the video at 2x speed to appreciate and see how effective Tony's body language is. Great video.

Lovely 😊 I agree

First time watching wow this is great advice

I love this so sos much and it is so true

Good words

I love you Tony Robbins!

Great vid. Spot on perspective, and so succinctly said. I think women have been trying to saying this for eons, but I think we took too long to explain it, and lost our male listener in the process 🤣🤣🤣 And Thankyou, I finally understand why I repel pleasers. I’d never thought of it like tat before!! Crazy :)

AMEN! Thanks for letting all the men know.

Awesome so amazingly true

100% TRUE!

IT IS SO SIMPLE. THANK YOU FOR SHARING!

Damn Tony, you the man, this had an effect possibly greater than you intended, as I started bring present, my relationship with everyone was enhanced, not just the intimate ones, truly ecstatic experience. Keep doing you👊💪

Honesty & presence is key. Focus on the now with me.

Loved it.

Meditation can help with this, Tony you're the truth man... Appreciate it

Yes, absolutely 👏👏👏

Spot on Tony! Love you ;)

thank you .

Great Content Thank You Tony Make decision Prese Right here with you 100% Hone

The best. Thank you

@michaelbruno4608

3 жыл бұрын

Hello 👋 Martha Roa How are you doing happy New Years

i lost my husband 11 years ago who had such presence it was an aphrodisiac. He had the special gift that in his presence he made you feel that there is only you in this world. Tony is right. And of course, our sex life was out of this world as a result, he took me from ecstasy to ecstasy. We were married 19 years and he never lost his interest toward me, and our sex life never got dull or passionless even with him having diabetes. He could just look at me and my knees weakened and buckled. He definitely knew how to focus his intention, to show always that he cared and loved me. I always said to him I wish all women could know this kind of love, the world would be in peace, and he should give a class to teach man the art of being loving and passionate, strong. caring, yet vulnerable and cry when it was appropriate to feel sad. He was all of that, a REAL MAN. Healthy, passionate good Sex does not start in the bedroom.

He did not lie … 🙌🏾