The good thing about nobody caring about you and your self-improvement, is that you don't have to care about anybody else and their self-improvement :3

@jacksonvalad8012

Ай бұрын

You should care about others, but what you are saying is true as well

@changobeatz7648

Ай бұрын

@@jacksonvalad8012I don’t care about other people. That’s a dumb thing to put on another stranger

@LostSoulAscension

Ай бұрын

@@changobeatz7648 Nah bro, the reality is if you go on long enough caring about nobody, then you will have no network of friends or people that you can rely on. People need each other, survival in humans was realizing that we are stronger together, not apart. It's taken me a long time to humble myself to this. You go on long enough with a pride thinking you can do it all on your own until you realize that everyone's succeeding together without you.

@changobeatz7648

Ай бұрын

@@LostSoulAscension I didn’t say isolate yourself. That’s not even remotely close to what I said

@keifer7813

Ай бұрын

​@@changobeatz7648 So you surround yourself with people you don't care about? Sounds even worse 😂

Hey dude I just wanted to tell you that you were pivotal in helping me quit weed. Your vid eloquently phrased almost everything I was experiencing. I appreciate you man, thank you 👊

@arnarn2827

Ай бұрын

same .

@iLuvHardStyle

Ай бұрын

yall both quit weed? got any left?

@DavidWhispers

Ай бұрын

@@iLuvHardStyle LOL it’s in the trashcan in front of Pavillion’s Malibu but they prob emptied it by now since it’s been a couple weeks. You’re more than welcome to it if it’s still there tho ;) (3 eighths of diff sativas, vape pens, two pipes. Cold turkey. True story.) energy levels through the roof. I ain’t goin back.

@skaylingop9673

Ай бұрын

Hey dude. I just wanted to tell you that YOU are pivotal in helping you quit weed.

@DavidWhispers

Ай бұрын

@@skaylingop9673 🙏

This talk is incredibly based, solid 9/10. Here’s why: 1. Honesty and Realism: The speaker doesn’t sugarcoat the truth about self-improvement. It’s tough, especially for those with significant challenges like addiction or a criminal past. 2. Individual Responsibility: Emphasizes that nobody cares about your self-improvement as much as you do. Personal accountability is key. 3. Avoiding Comparisons: Stresses the importance of not comparing yourself to others, which is crucial for mental resilience and focusing on personal growth. 4. Small Steps Towards Big Goals: Highlights breaking down big goals into manageable steps, a practical approach to achieving long-term objectives. 5. Persistence and Consistency: Self-improvement is a lifelong journey requiring continuous effort, not a one-time fix. 6. Addressing Demons and Old Habits: Acknowledges that old habits and negative influences will always be a challenge, showing a deep understanding of personal development struggles. 7. Self-Motivation: Talks about the importance of being self-motivated and finding personal reasons to stay on track, rather than relying on external validation. 8. Realistic Expectations: Makes it clear that self-improvement won’t happen overnight and requires long-term commitment, preparing individuals for the effort needed. 9. Encouragement and Hope: Despite the tough love, offers hope by sharing personal experiences and progress, motivating others to keep going. This talk is a masterclass in authentic, no-nonsense, sustainable self-improvement. 💪

@croissants1280

Ай бұрын

What GPT are you?

@AIPureProgress

Ай бұрын

​@@croissants1280 I made a ChatGPT agent to find the most based books on the internet, then made a brain essentially and created another ChatGPT agent and named it, Gigadad.

@myeyesaredrymylove

28 күн бұрын

What in the AI?

Self help doesn't talk about taking care of your dying parents and grandparents because it's too hyper specific n hard to speak to each person's situation, but moreso because that reality has nothing to do with chasing our dreams. This is the insignia that self-help has been industrialized to sell you on an idea, not the truth or reality we all face.

@JAAY2KAAY

Ай бұрын

Damn

@pspwilliams

28 күн бұрын

Facts!!!!

@jtowensbyiii6018

10 күн бұрын

Doesnt have anything to do with it? Fuck you it does, if you're watching someone slowly die while draining your every penny to keep them alive, that impacts you

I hit rock bottom a few years ago. I was married for about two years but my ex-wife (and her rich dad) dragged me through all sorts of cases in court for 5 years. Hookers and booze got me through it. Now, however, I’m single and happier than ever. I even retired early at 45. I hope this little story inspires other guys out there that it’s quite possible for things to turn around significantly given time.

@ChangeYourSocks

Ай бұрын

🎉 thanks for sharing

@SuperThisishowwedo

Ай бұрын

Does everyone need to go through their hooker phase?

@mothegoat6865

Ай бұрын

Glad your better now brother ✊🏿. Thanks for the inspiration. How did you retire at 45? I’m 26

@cristiancampechano2743

26 күн бұрын

Dam them piece of shyt rich dads don’t play

@CR-ij8qj

23 күн бұрын

Hookers & Booze, thanks chief!

This is the first time I hear anything from you. I don't know you you have never come up on my feet I do not follow you I've never heard of you and this is one of the realest conversations about doing a life pivot that I have heard in many many years. I'm looking forward to more. And yes I just subscribed. This is powerful.

It’s so nice having someone so relatable to give life advice. I’ll continue working towards my goals and staying on the straight and narrow

What he said in the last minute of this video is what the pursuit is all about. It’s the inner knowing that you are on the right track , with the right motives etc. because it’s creating a deep inner positive energy and confidence that even other people can subconsciously pick up - though many don’t even realize it , and they respect it.

Recent studies have shown the importance of getting proper nutrition and how it can even easily affect one's personality. Easily overlooked and a very common problem is simply having a vitamin D3 deficiency. For anyone having addiction issues take a look at your diet. It may help more than you know.

@BizarroLanigirod

17 күн бұрын

Agreed

I’ve been seeking out my goals for decades. Family responsibilities, having children makes it dmn near impossible to achieve your goals unless you have a strong family foundation, strong wife, and wealth that can be tapped into. Don’t have kids if you have goals and are the only one’s that they rely on. It feels horrible too not be able to care for them the way you want to care for them. Otherwise, just wait, get you poop in a group and build a foundation first.

Ive got my own flat and trying to grow my photography business and Ive stopped drinking for 2 years but yet I still feel lonely and empty inside..

@Sparkle-ey7iw

10 күн бұрын

Try Jesus 🙏🏽

What a great and accurate description of the process of self improvement, I appreciate your insight and straightforward explanation ❤

Dorian is one of the realist dudes on the internet 💯. I'm starting @48yo at a 1st time career in programming. I've screwed up a lot. I've definitely reached the point that I cannot get a job in something I enjoy doing. I have no other choice to start this or be miserable the remainder of my life. Getting ready for my BS job now. Not my career. Just a job. I am totally expendable and it's made clear at my job. They got me!! I must get out of this..

I like to hear you talk about these things, with simplicity and honesty. It's like listening to my older brother, if he hadn't lost himself in alcohol and drugs.

Not sure when and/ or how long this channel has been going but I’ve just discovered your channel (Saturday July 27th 2024) This is a very timely and poignant vid Many thanks for posting this, Dorian! 🙏🏿

Truth is a hard pill to swallow! Extra important to surround oneself with people who are a good influence - that for me has been the most challenging part of any change I’ve ever attempted so far. Also- what actually gives me a sense of fulfillment and purpose in life (aka “success”) might seem bizarre and unimportant to “others” whether they have their “s..t together “ or not. People prefer being able to categorize something as good or bad, favorable or undesirable… Even just stepping out of the norm will always inevitably provoke fear or jealousy in others and push their insecurities to the surface - unless they themselves have made such progress in the past and can relate to it … We are social beings and we need each other, but sometimes you just have to be the black sheep and not fall off the cliff with the heard … in the end, that’s just what Leadership looks like …

Man you really dropping gems, love your vids like this, been helping me pick up my life again at 29.

I want to extend my gratitude but saying thank you for your extension. Your words are felt and reaches to those who striving for a difference.... including myself. It is not only motivation but a reminder that though we are separate individuals but many of us as a whole - are carrying the same objective for better. Positivity is the encouraging tool that helps us to keep sight at the end of the goal. Thank you brother.

Another reminder on keeping up the good habits!🧚‍♂

Smart straight talk. Just landed on your channel right on, subbed.

You know what, I follow you long time ago but in the last year, you have been making really great stuff that make people think, that's better than programming stuff! Amazing your video you got me! :)

Your channel is so wholesome honestly. I want to see you succeed.

I enjoy your tough talk and truth coming straight from your heart. I relate well. "Nobody cares." is something I would tell myself and give myself permission to ease my suffering with beer and pot. No more though.Thanks, Coach Dorian. God bless you and yours, my brother.

This came at the absolute perfect time - feel exactly the same too - dealt with the whole jail part too - one day at a time and doing 1 thing everyday to get closer to the goalpost is the only way. All the best brothers

I've made so much progress in the last 5 years but recently got back into old addictions and bad habits trying so hard to get my self back on track , fighting my demons they don't give up

@micahrutland9021

24 күн бұрын

@@alleyesonmeino.c180 I keep doing drugs because I'm lonely and get bored. I really wish I could meet someone who cared.

You feel like a "proper" older brother that I've never had, thanks.

Absolutely, why most people never do leave their comfort zone. It's risky, scary, you have to keep a open mind, willingness to roll with the few punches along the way, have to have a lot of self confidence, sense of adventure, willingness to learn basic languages, cultures, to fit in, minimum of $1000usd for rent, food, utilities, etc. I know fellow Americans, their life is do miserable, but because, they are so hooked on booze, drugs, mental/physical health is so bad they will never move forward, even when someone promises to hold their hand the entire way.

This is the most powerful video I’ve watched in months

I wish my mom was more supportive but since my dad passed she totally switched up, you’ll be surprised how toxic and childish grown women can be, just have to grind and leave on good terms, at least it has helped me mature, but I wish I had support man. I can’t stop carrying the boats though.

@lolife1981

28 күн бұрын

Help people lift their burdens, but do not carry them.

@lolife1981

28 күн бұрын

Been there; Still there. It’s a challenge to your humanity and masculinity. In most cultures, Mothers are a seen as can’t do no wrong. Yet many do wrong and as you stated toxic af, childish, selfish, etc. So when you mention the challenges with her, most people will try to look down upon you because their dynamic is different. Do what you can. She is an adult. Decisions have consequences. Love yourself first, then others. Parents are not immune to this rule.

@jiffonbuffo

25 күн бұрын

Amazingly, I just scrolled a few comments down from your post and what do I see? People castigating a man who was married to an unsupportive wife. Wth

Thanks for the motivation. Thanks for having your channel.

27 year old guy here. Self taught dev, and been trying to get my first job for a while now. No luck, so I'm applying to minimum wage jobs in the meantime. Sucks thinking how it's come to this at my age. Most people at least have a good number of years in a chosen career path. My last min wage job, they were all like 18-20 and I was 26. It's so embarrassing

@DorianDevelops

Ай бұрын

You got to do what you have to do to survive, there's no shame in that! Just keep your head up and put food on the table by any means necessary but don't settle! We all have set backs but we have to keep moving forward to get to where we want to be!

@keifer7813

Ай бұрын

@@DorianDevelops No doubt, man. I plan to, for sure. I've just had a shift in perspective these last few years. I used to believe success was possible for anyone that was willing to put in the work, but now I'm confident that it's mostly down to luck. 100 people could work just as hard to get into tech, and only a handful make it. So my expectations aren't as high anymore. I'll still keep going though

@BeepBoop2221

Ай бұрын

Why is it embarrassing people switch careers all the time.

@keifer7813

Ай бұрын

@@BeepBoop2221 Because I'm still in a position typically held by high school/college kids

@jacoblong6258

Ай бұрын

@@keifer7813It’s only temporary!

Appreciating the clarity, thanks 🍻

Wow stellar job, breaking it down being realistic, inspiring, thank you !

Self mastery is like earning a black belt and even then its still not automatic. Repetition is king in all areas. Great truth bombs you dropped!

Fitness ones leave out so much stuff particularly about diet. All those fitness diets made me constipated and raises my cholesterol

Wow this is really good advice thank you ☺️

life's hard thanks for this video, I needed it

Finally someone said it. I never searched for excuses but always struggled to explain to privileged friends that we do not have the same advantages and possibilities in life. By privileged I do not mean extreme financial wealth but the most basic things like having both parents.

Very interesting, thanks

Good video man! Keep up the hard work on the sobriety.

Thanks for sharing

Great video man! Really good message

Inner demons attract more demons. The only person who can change us are ourselves. Personally i find it healthier for me to stay to myself, as those who are struggling will drag me deep into their energy.

Been trying to get my life together for the past 2 years... And still struggling :/ All the good habits in the world don't matter if your not constantly checking in with them. Very easy to start slipping into destructive behaviour. There's just not enough time in the day to do everything you need to do to stay healthy and learn to programme at a decent rate. Eventually your ganna have coffee in the first two hours of waking, skip that morning walk and get lost in reading the documentation while trying things out. 5 - 10 hours later, you realise you've not moved, not eaten, missed your workout... And you've only got 5 lines of new code.... BUT... it Works !!! Feels GREAT... Maybe you'll do this again tomorrow... You know you shouldn't.... Its hard not to :/ Once is fine... twice not great... 2 months, maybe there's a reason your overly emotional

thank you!

thank you

Addicts need the help of family, friends and professionals. Anyone serious about self improvement needs to let go of loser friends.

Awesome video.

Hell yea man, this is very helpful

i love these types of videos,, more brother.

What country you in now? This one looks different from the last video I saw you in. Good insights.

Love This Video

....or just relocate where it's cheaper for easier adjustment.

Thank you for this.

Youve got to look inward to resolve issues with the self, nature can help more than any shrink. Take it slow, nature rewards courage

@cosmiccomedy7394

25 күн бұрын

Terence McKenna used to always say nature loves courage. Fortune favors the bold.

great video man❤

Just found your channel. Good perspective

Creating new “you” is hard as f.

It's never been fair 😂

Great Vid

Also be very suspect of anyone trying to sell you self help based on "self reliance". Its a pathway that isolates you from other people , self help comes from community.

What if i dont wanna accomplish anything and i see thru the veil of achievement and ego?

I just want to get a nice girlfriend before the world ends. Ugh.

@haott95

25 күн бұрын

Well I wouldn't go for a modern western woman... You'll never keep up with their unrealistic delusional expectations. Get ya passport go overseas and explore what the world has to offer because the west is trash

@LfunkeyA

24 күн бұрын

that's pretty sad

помните пацаны, что изменять себя одновременно легче и сложнее, чем вы себе это представляли

Thank,s bro 👊🇳🇱👍

Good video. I been focused on this as well. The thing that's been taking the most time is addiction recovery. I been attempting to get sober from porn addiction I've had a lot of setbacks but recently have made some good stride I've also been trying to lose weight but that's been tough at times.

@BeepBoop2221

Ай бұрын

There's no such thing as "porn addiction".

@JackalGoldKick

Ай бұрын

@@BeepBoop2221 oh really? Google search,online study, science and statistics say otherwise. That's objectively wrong.

@BeepBoop2221

Ай бұрын

@JackalGoldKick I've read a fair amount of the literature it's not "objectively wrong" that's not how science works. The closest you can get is sexual compulsive disorders, which isn't "porn addiction"

@JackalGoldKick

Ай бұрын

@@BeepBoop2221 there is a such thing as porn addiction. Plenty of people have shared testimony of it and there experience and the negatives. I've experienced it myself it's given me depression,guilt,shame, anxiety,low self esteem ect. Its something that isn't possible to give up on willpower alone. It's done these same things to other people I know of too. If that isn't porn addiction then idk what it is but all I know is what the truth is and that's what matters. Some people just don't get it. It's very foolish to say this isnt a thing. Why would Kanye West or Lamar Odon talk about this being a addiction they deal with? Or thousands of others? Why does porn give me and many others who are addicted to all these problems? Cause let me tell you something. Ever since I gave up porn I've had less negative mental health issues,less depression, anxiety, guilt,shame, I'm more clear headed and I have more motivation and focus on things.

@JackalGoldKick

Ай бұрын

@@BeepBoop2221 the addiction is real to say its not makes zero sense. It's gave me anxiety, depression,guilt,shame,low energy and low self esteem. It's done these same things to so many other people I know with the same addiction. If it's not a real thing then how come me and others couldn't just quit it off of willpower? Explain that. Explain why Kanye West and Lamar Odon would both come out and talk against it and admit having this issue. Or Terry crews. Ever since quiting this addiction I've had more focus and more clear headed and I'm not lazy or unmotivated anymore and I have less guilt shame and anxiety and I'm not in a bad place mentally.

Whew! You are amazing! God sent this video to me and it's confirmation, thank you.

7:07 7:08 7:08 7:08 facts

Hey Dorian! Don't forget racism as a major stumbling block to gettin' your sh_t together.

@aaronaustrie

Ай бұрын

🤦🏾‍♂️

@Heavon1999

26 күн бұрын

Yep.

Thats exactly how I feel rn 🤦🏾‍♂️

Thanks a lot , for all your hardwork, I learned a lot , but I have a question, but when apply for jobs what kind of projects do I need for my resume ? do I need a project like a amazon or ebay I mean big project to get a job?

real good video

Real and based W

Johnny Sinns looking well

💯

No political party is going to save you but yourself.

The first step to improving yourself is being honest with yourself. At least respect yourself enough to tell yourself the truth. The truth is you might try to improve yourself but you're still going to suck. Now at least with my advice you still suck but you're honest and you respect yourself. Thank me later🤝🏼

2:46 ✅

What if you still fail or never make any progress at all? Would you still try in defiance?

@zueszues9715

Ай бұрын

Try to helping people Long enough you will get help too "They life , people life better when you better youself in it " That way , some time life make we forcus on one direction too much

@zueszues9715

Ай бұрын

1 magic trick Find a way to recharge youself that work If you can Quick charge youself everytime you down Then everyone else is not matter to you ,you can bring youself up alone Find that way that hobbies or action that work for you Boxing , swimming , drawing , etc whatever

good video

Me rn 🤦🏾‍♂️

Self Improvement is easy, what is hard is to become rich. Wanna life advice from a good man? Health, Fitness, Money. Anything else, Useless. Become hearthless.

Yo!

Bro you look like eminem

You say you are not religious but you quoted the bible at least 4 times without knowing

I think its wrong to tell people that noone cares for them. Thats total BS.

@bbenny350

Ай бұрын

You should elaborate, otherwise it just looks as you got your feelings hurt and you're just retaliating

@zugdsbtngizudsgbnudsdsoiu

Ай бұрын

@@bbenny350 cant answer... everything is deleted

@bbenny350

Ай бұрын

@@zugdsbtngizudsgbnudsdsoiu I'm sorry, what?

Weed doesn't kill you, but it may kill your pockets, which will kill your character Desperate people do desperate things

Doesn’t matter what age you are. IF U DO NOT HAVE FAMILY. MOM DAD GF BF FRIENDS. YOU ARE SCREWED

@GeorgieKiely

12 күн бұрын

You have to create your own family sometimes.

early !

I would love to pay to have a phone conversation with you.

one of my favorite new vids from you. Thanks Dorian!

More empty words. Lots of talking and nothing practical and actionable.