Mayaaaaa this is wonderful and raw and painful and beautiful. Whenever I tell your story to anyone they’re like 🤯 so the fact that you’re making such amazing strides despite it all is truly inspiring. You are taking care of business and I’m glad you’re letting us know that it doesn’t always look neat and shiny

@Memkoh

2 жыл бұрын

Shan, you are such an amazing friend! I still remember your sleepover episodes (OGs know this) and I look at both of you now, married, with your new family and both mothers and I’m just like wow! Love the strides you are making and even better to see you supporting each other from miles away. I hope you know that you inspire us, Maya and Shan. 💖

@shamelessmaya

2 жыл бұрын

It’s so messy! But I’m doing it. We’re doing it! 😩🙏🏾✨

@n.g.l.

2 жыл бұрын

@@shamelessmaya girl nah you’re blessed! Blessings always start out messy but finish strong! 🙏🏽💪🏽. I fr thank God for your success it’s truly inspiring ❤️

@stephanierodriguez9769

2 жыл бұрын

@@Memkoh Well said! Such powerhouses! OMG the sleepover episodes!!! 💗🙌🏽💗🙌🏽

@lisajenkins7692

2 жыл бұрын

I need to find a clique with people like you in it!

First of all, 40 WHERE?!😍 Maya, continue being the shameless woman you’ve always been! We admire your vulnerability and openness to share your life with us. You are an inspiration!💕

I so needed this., I believe I’ve been depressed for a long time 😢, 55 years of age, no hubby, no kids , on disability (several auto immune diseases) had to leave my home & career in CA because of being sick 🤒, moved back to CT with parents while taking care of them., the camera 📸 has saved me however I’m still feeling it, definitely going to talk with someone

@shamelessmaya

2 жыл бұрын

You got this! One step at a time!

@hendrick32

2 жыл бұрын

Sending love to you! Stay strong!

@ADivaForLife

2 жыл бұрын

@@shamelessmaya .. thx 🙏🏽 🥰 you lil Sis 🥲

@anndavis9764

2 жыл бұрын

I move back to CT too! It's a learning curve coming back. I also have the RA and OS diseases. Stay present, involve, and pray.

@ADivaForLife

2 жыл бұрын

@@anndavis9764 .. thank you so much ❤️‍🩹😍😁

This video is giving be the push I need. I’m pregnant, from Atlanta, moved to Philly, living with a man for the first time, my ex being murdered, it’s a lot of rollercoaster emotions but my daughter deserves happiness and stability

@vazyvas4712

2 жыл бұрын

🙏🏾 sending you love, peace and strength

@no2cheese

2 жыл бұрын

So sorry to hear about your current circumstance...just remember that your situation is not permanent, even though it feels and looks so; this too will pass and you will be great again. Give yourself some grace and patience. Cheers

@Memkoh

2 жыл бұрын

Sending you warm, fuzzy hugs. I pray you are surrounded with all the family and love you need. It will get better.

@ososandi

2 жыл бұрын

Bless you!!

I never knew my depression could be triggered by life changes until a couple of months ago, when I was managing a new job, relocating to a new state, being newly married, and looking for a house. Had a whole breakdown in January, and actively recovering. This video was validating and so relatable. Thank you for being so honest and transparent about your journey.

@MaiyaJade

2 жыл бұрын

WOW that’s exactly what happened to me. I was triggered by life changes, the stress of managing everything at once. I hope things have got better for you💜

@la54578

Жыл бұрын

Same!! I hit rage, needless to say. But again, actively recovering. 🙏🏾❤️

I understand you SO MUCH! Not feeling like yourself , not knowing who you are is very common and normal during postpartum, happens to me every time, and not living in your country, with your family during this time is SO HARD. But it gets better, you eventually find your new self , and its even better! Maya 2.0. 😉 Love you girl, you are doing AMAZING!!!! (And I also understand the anxiety of the big 40. Im 37 and I think about ir all the time😂… cause i feel like im 27 still😝)

@ashleygomez4526

2 жыл бұрын

Sascha no puedo creer que estés aquí 💕

I’m very spiritual and believe that saying scriptures like “I can do all things through Christ who strengthens me” gets me up 😤😤😤. Incorporated this bc I suffered from severe depression and I went through a journey of rebuilding with God. Best wishes you’ve got this. As long as you have breath in your lungs and a tomorrow you’ve got another chance! 🙏🏽🙏🏽

@Memkoh

2 жыл бұрын

Thank you so much for sharing this. I was speaking to a friend recently about how I think we all need “battle verses” and you have yours. It’s nice to see someone else incorporating this. Your comment just taught me that it doesn’t only have to be a verse for challenging times, but we can have one to motivate us to get work done. 🕊

@n.g.l.

2 жыл бұрын

@@Memkoh sis it’s a battle for our souls and the word of God is a weapon, in fact it’s quick and powerful and sharper than any two edged sword (Hebrews 4:12). Literally when I don’t say it I’ve noticed that I’m more anxious and frustrated. Best wishes on your walk with Christ 🙏🏽

@Memkoh

2 жыл бұрын

@@n.g.l. thank you 🙏🏽😊 also holding onto “As long ad you have breath in your lungs and a tomorrow you’ve got another chance.” That blessed me. Be well.🤗

@MSHARLEYDWOKEAF

2 жыл бұрын

So true. It was God that healed me from depression. First by telling me to stop calling it "my depression". Likewise, with any other illness. He cannot remove anything we stay claim to. God is Good. 😉 💙🙏🏾💙

@n.g.l.

2 жыл бұрын

@@MSHARLEYDWOKEAF preach! We are eating the fruits of our words, and I stopped calling it depression and starting speaking the word of God and positivity over my life and eventually my perspective changed. Amazing!

Man Saga looks like her Dad. Hey Maya❤❤

Maya you are not alone. I have two 6 month olds (first time mom) and I just turned 40 a couple of months ago while going through so many life changes. Also I am an aspiring writer too! Sometimes I just break down from all the stress. It is easy to feel like we’re alone. Thank you for sharing my sister in Christ.

I moved to Sweden 3 years ago and I can tell you that I have not met a single international person here that has not gone through a period like you're currently going through, including myself! I hope you know that you are not alone! And I love how you are focusing on the baby steps, that's also what helps me get out of the downs of life. All my compassion for you ❤

@michellezevenaar

2 жыл бұрын

Adding a remodel and a baby just makes it more intense! Thankfully winter is almost over! That should help too! Alot of my expat friends got a sun lamp and extra vitamin D to help with the winter sad.

@zahraleila8780

2 жыл бұрын

@@michellezevenaar Yes I have been taking vitamin D relentlesly. People do not realise jut how essential this is when you live in Sweden 😅

@michellezevenaar

2 жыл бұрын

@@zahraleila8780 in most of Europe it's a necessity especially if you have dark skin or grew up somewhere with alot of sun. Vitamin d make such a huge difference! The oils work really well!

@Kimi-wo4nc

2 жыл бұрын

Listen to your auntie! Women have given birth, and raised children for centuries and will continue to do just that. First and foremost, don't be so hard on yourself, you are wonderful 😊 stay in the moment and love on you big time, all day, every day. Both Saga and Max will benefit from it!!!❤️❤️

@zahraleila8780

2 жыл бұрын

@@michellezevenaar Didn't know about the oils, gonna look into that!

I had my now 5 year old at 39. I was extremely stressed and a worry wart but believe me, it's gets easier. Especially once they become a little independent (walking). Keep moving forward ☺️

@shamelessmaya

2 жыл бұрын

I am so looking forward to her gaining independence

I’m not a mother yet so I can only imagine the whirl wind ur feeling. Just remember Maya .. YOU inspired ALOT of ppl to be shameless and go after their dreams. Myself included. It’s all within you ✨ .. enjoy the moment/ride. Nothing is forever.

I remember feeling the same way after my first child. I cried for months and I felt like my husband didn’t understand why I was always sad. I realized that I need to find myself because I got lost in becoming a mom. So I started making me a priority and making time for myself. My advice to every pregnant friend or family member I tell them that you need to find time for yourself because as beautiful as motherhood is it does take a lot of you to do it. I now have two boys and after my second I created a nighttime routine that allows me to have time for myself at the end of the day. You will get through this. You are strong and amazing!

Transition is hard but you got this ! One day at a time! One step at a time! And Chile u not alone … as a first time mom we all loose ourselves … but there will be a day you find YOU again ..make sure you incorporate your self care! Think of it as a puzzle .. everything will fall into place! We love u girl!!! So glad to see you back

@pennylee5180

2 жыл бұрын

kzread.info/dash/bejne/pYGey9KSdZXcqag.html She reviews the Never Alone book from the Daily Grace Co. It’s pretty good. Recommend watching, especially if you struggle with depression

@celiamartinez3

2 жыл бұрын

Definitely agree as a 40year old mom w three kids ❤️

Maya, thank you so much for making this video. Our stories are eerily similar as I myself moved to Sweden (from Toronto!) 10 months ago to be with my Swedish partner. It's been a very, very challenging experience. I feel lost, scared, overwhelmed, tired, and depressed all the time. From trying to learn the language, to adjusting to living with a partner and finding a job, I feel like I'm carrying the weight of the world on my shoulders trying not to let down my husband, his family, my family, and most importantly--myself. Your public candidness helps me know that I am not alone and further validates my feelings. You know, when you voluntarily leave everything behind and start fresh, you can't help but feel responsible for your own feelings of sadness and dysphoria that come along with it. Thanks to you, today I have vowed to make a list of my own and start taking care of myself for real. From one Toronto gyal to another--I'm so proud of you and everything that you've become. I've been following you since your NY days and it's super inspiring to watch your journey. Keep it up. Sending you so much love and lycka till!

This is so relatable. I was married to and moved to Germany, far from my family and had to learn a new language and became a mum! It is a lot, you lose yourself and as a older mum from immigrant parents we want to instill consistency in our kids and make our mother proud. We don't want want to complain, that being a mum is hard because we saw our mums doing it and they never complained. They stayed fit, they had 5 different jobs, cooked and cleaned, raised kids and still had time to socialize. Bottom line you are you, take what you can and make it your own and I know more than anything, even if you are 40,50,60 when it is your first child you just want your mother around you. It will be OK it will get easier babies do not stay babies forever and they will adjust to your schedule later on instead of you to theirs.

I am 38 weeks pregnant and going through the same thing. I am currently living in a foreign country, pregnant, without a partner or any member of my family by my side. I do believe that some consistency would help a lot, but it just has been hard to get there. Thanks for your videos because they do motivate me to keep trying. I do feel blessed for meeting people during my pregnancy that I now call friends that have been there for me

@shamelessmaya

2 жыл бұрын

🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾 I feel for you ✨ It may get harder but it will get better

@michellezevenaar

2 жыл бұрын

Just remember that after baby is here to actually take all the help people offer! Best tip i got was to make a plan right away when people offer. Like if someone offers to bring a dinner ask if they can make a specific thing and see if you can already plan when. The more details the higher the chance of it succeeding. Also if you can get a cleaning lady, or grocery delivery it will help soo much! Organise it now! I immigrated a long time ago to Europe so my family can't help and my husband family can't unfortunately. Some friends live in the area but most live a few hours away. The first 2-3 months are the hardest so see if you can get friends or family to xome stay with you then. Even if they are just doing laundry and cooking dinner it will be a huge relief. Hope you have a smooth delivery.

@misscmontinat3837

2 жыл бұрын

I send love yourvway. You will be ok.continue to surround yourself with good friends. 👍🏾. I had severe depression for 7 straight years. Save yourself.

I can relate to this SO much. When my son was 6 months old , i gave up my career as an LA realtor because my husband got a great opportunity in Detroit…in the middle of COVID we relocated. We knew no one in the city. It has been so hard adjusting but i can’t imagine throwing a language barrier on top of it all. We’re also renovating our new home as we live in it. You are NOT alone and you’re already on your way to a happier place. It took me a about 7 months to even realize i was experiencing depression. I have no doubt you will be more than okay! Take it day by day. This is your own unique journey, please give yourself GRACE. Give your body GRACE. I started waking up earlier to stretch, meditate and/or workout before my husband and our son. GAME CHANGER! Only con is, i knock out super early now. But the peace i experience throughout my day, having filled my cup is priceless! Blessings to you love! Xx

@vlaptiste7476

Жыл бұрын

I too can relate I gave up my teaching career, had my first at 40, moving to the USA from one state to another then also there were my hubby's mean sisters who were nasty to me. I broke with post partum depression no one believed until the doctor confirmed. I took a risky trip back to my parents in the midst of the pandemic and sitting on the beach and just enjoying nature is where my healing begun

Oh my goodness, bless your heart! As a mother of 6 I go through this yearly! Please continue to take care of yourself and I will pray for you. ❤️

@annettetheresiabrown

2 жыл бұрын

I’m there right now... trying to combat the urge to just curl up in a ball and hide

Man I felt this one! I literally cried with you. Im originally from NYC now living in Georgia…. A very very remote part of Georgia. I gave birth two months ago and it’s been sooooo hard… not motherhood but motherhood-ing alone has been real 😩. I’ve definitely been in a funk myself so thank you very much for this video. It’s comforting to know that I’m not alone and that things have been looking up for you so they will absolutely look up for me as well. Blessings to Maya!

I connect with all of this so much, Maya! Moving to Sweden, having a baby here (I now have two), becoming a mother/wife, learning Swedish, navigating a different culture, while trying to figure out who you are. It is a lot. Thank you you for sharing your story and for sharing your tools and resources for getting through this transitional period.

I totally understand what you mean about needing consistency. The last two years I’ve gone through school where semesters were 3 months long and my schedule was constantly changing. I feel like I’m craving consistency and I’m just starting to be able to get that again and it’s so much harder than I thought. My thoughts and prayers for you and your family during all this transition!

You got this Maya! One thing that helped me figure out who I was after my world fell apart was journaling everyday. I got really in tuned with my thoughts. It allowed me to express my needs, wants, and heartache. Then after doing the steps my therapist recommended like developing some sort of routine, listening to audiobooks, working out, and just doing what I love…I found the best way to really hold myself accountable was to post on my ig stories to my close friends list and fall in love what I was doing by creating reels and tiktoks of my day. When I felt down all I had to do is look at the person I had become and keep striving not for likes or attention but for myself. -Love all the way from Chicago 💕

Gosh, you are so beautiful inside and out!! I literally teared up with you because this hit home and felt so relatable. Hang in there, the best is yet to come 🙏🏽💕

Giiirl your Swedish is already soo good!! 🙌🏾 Learning a new language is not easy plus you're a new mother and you're living in a new country with a different culture 😖 I've experienced the overwhelm of learning Ghanian whilst being in Ghana and some days I would just want time off

@shamelessmaya

2 жыл бұрын

you understand the language struggle! but we just gotta keep doing it!

I feel you, I’m turning 40, I was big on routines as well, but I’ve learned in the past for a few years to go with the flow of life, and to remind myself that there’s no such thing as perfection. I need to be my best self for myself. Thanks so much for sharing your journey.

I completely understand. Feel like I’m going through a similar situation in my life. You putting this out there is really helpful and giving me that extra push. Ur a great mom and take it one step at a time

Maya…you are right there, where you should be. Reduce it to this: (say it to yourself) I am a new wife. I am a new mother. I am in a new home. I am in a new country. I speak a new language. And now, I’m moving into a new decade. That is a lot of ‘new’ stuff going on at one time. The first thing you should focus on above all else: forgiveness. Forgiveness, of yourself. Allow yourself to stumble. Allow yourself to not be perfect. Allow yourself to be inconsistent for awhile. Allow yourself all the space and breath to be the ‘you in flux’…in transition. Self-forgiveness, or not holding on to personal guilt about where you think you should be, is so important in this space of your life. Something I learned when I turned 40: it’s a decade where you become more confident, but not because you are doing everything perfectly at 40, rather that you embrace this space of self-forgiveness and develop a type of unapologetic bravado and acceptance about your own shortcomings. And you’re willing to see the journey ahead and laugh at yourself a little bit if you stumble. You have such a great support system in your partner Max, and his family and your new home, even as it’s in transition. I will be 52 in a few weeks and I can definitely tell you that as a woman, every decade brings you closer to your authentic self. I think men embrace that earlier on, but for women, that wisdom of self becomes stronger at 40 and then 50…and talking with my mom and seeing her journey…it keeps getting us closer to that spiritual well of all that is womanhood. I’m not religious but consider myself a very spiritual person (we all carry a universal energy inside of us that we can tap into) …and the writings of Pema Chodron, a Buddhist nun, have touched spaces within me in a way that I found immensely healing. She’s written a lot of stuff on how to meditate and find your center, but the titles of a few of her books called out to me simply because the titles seemed like doors that I wanted to walk through. Here are a few: ‘Start Where You Are’, ‘The Places That Scare You’, ‘When Things Fall Apart’ and ‘The Wisdom of No Escape’ (each of them is a very thin to the point volume). The first year after a baby is born is when they’re doing so much growing. And all of that growth is like a proverbial pair of pants where the hem has to be let out every single week. There can’t be perfect stability in a place where growth is happening…you have to let it go left and right and up and down; successful transition requires the balancing act of strong roots and space for growth. You are exactly where you should be right now Maya. Take some deep breaths and walk head up into your 40th. You got this!

@shamelessmaya

2 жыл бұрын

Thank you 🙏🏾✨ I’m re-learning to ride waves…this time giant waves 🌊😩

I found the thing that works for me is having a community or being apart of something bigger than myself. I am a military spouse and it is a bit stressful uprooting and moving around the globe every few years. I pray that your guardian angels continue to watch over and guide you through this journey. I know you don’t need validation but you are doing an amazing job. You are holding down your family, working renovating a house and I am sure many other things while trying to take care of yourself. You are amazing. Whenever you feel overwhelmed try and remember that you were created by the most high God and nothing is impossible. Stay blessed love!

Hey maya! New follower from Shan’s video collab you guys did. I’m a first time 26 old mom. My baby is two months, I’m newly married, living with my in-laws while we fix our credit, husband is working 24/7 and becoming parents has been tough on us. I’ve felt so discombobulated 😕 I feel I’m supporting everyone else’s routine/ needs mine are last. Thank you for sharing! ❤️❤️❤️❤️ by the way you look incredible!

First thing I did when I got myself out of a depression pickle was not claim it as my. WORDS are everything. You're stunning, honest and such a revolutionary in your own right. May the Goddesses and Gods smile on your journey. Your hair is goals ❤️❤️❤️ I had to add this... Us women have to start just focusing on one thing at a time. Quality over quantity. You have a small baby and when you find that flow, don't put pressure on yourself. This mindset is far more detrimental. You take 5 steps forward then 10 steps back. There is no time scale as everything is working in alignment with yiyr bigger plan and sometimes, we don't even kkow what that is and it's so for a reason because knowing us, humans, we'd want to start working on that too on top of all we have to do. Be easy on yourself lady. Break those cycles we may have seen our mums do. Business is not success, success is life itself

I don't know if you'll ever see this but I went through this. Same situation, different place and vitamin D really helped me a lot.

Give yourself grace Maya🤗, it takes time to find your rythm in the middle of this "organized chaos". But it's worth it.Sending love and a warm hug all the way from France.❤

Mya! I’ve been following you for years! One of the things I have always loved about you is your ability to enjoy the ride. I am a mental health therapist and a mother and a wife etc so I feel your pain. The best thing we can all do is take definitions off the table and realize that we control our own narrative! You definitely have the grace for this period of your life so trust in God as you continue on! Lots of change takes time it took me two years after I had my son to get used to mothering etc. remind yourself your doing amazing daily and relax! I missed out on the first year of my sons life thinking about all the issues I had and it’s time I won’t get back. Sometimes the best this you can do is lay down! Lol all the best Mya! God bless you and your beautiful family!

You were going through multiple big life-changing events. Of course, you are going to be overwhelmed! I am so glad you are sharing this with us. I hope every new mother who either is going through postpartum depression or has other stressors will eel, they too, can come out of it as you did! Big thanks!

Maya!!! I am so inspired by your vulnerability and honesty. You are one of the best people I’ve ever known and I am always always always cheering and praying for you, Max, and Saga. ❤️❤️❤️

Try not to be hard on yourself, it`s difficult when there is a lot going on. Sometimes it helps me to just ask God, what should I do next regarding the flow of my day? No detail is too small because God cares for everything that affects your life. You may have to do that repeatedly all day long but at the end of the day you will feel refreshed! 1Peter 5:7

@ExtendedStudent4Real

2 жыл бұрын

Amen!

Maya, I stumbled upon your channel 3.5 years ago when I had just moved to Sweden for my masters. I've followed all along and when I saw you're moving to Sweden I got so excited even though we've never met. It gave me some sort of comfort to follow this journey with you and see you ace it (as you've always done) esp as a fellow WOC. Depression is real, especially transitioning to a whole new life as a woman over 30 in a new country, and Sweden especially. I went from having a stable professional career back home, to finishing my master in 2020 and then covid hit. Bundle that with language challenges (especially in my professional background where it's necessary to get a job), living in a small town, being a black woman, not having friends, struggling with my faith with no spiritual community, working min. wage jobs while still trying (and hoping) to grow professionally!! Whew! 🤯🤯🤯 It's been a roller-coaster! But we keep on moving and trying, giving up is not an option. You've got this girl! The language will come, living with someone/people who are native speakers makes the process faster. That, plus the classes, and making sure that you speak it at home and outside even when it's easier to switch to English helps. You journey is already so inspiring. One day at a time. Glad you've already found something to get you out of your mind into your body. Everything will work out. Lycka till! 🧡🧡🧡

I remember your turning 30 video. You got me through some of my toughest times. Always appreciated you on this app. One of the few last real AF people on this website. Thank you for the open vulnerability and honesty. It’s an little ignorant however I am blindly faithful in you doing the absolute best for your self and your family. Enjoy this crazy new adventure... this seems so much like you cause your videos STAY having an “wonderful surprise in life” moments.

Hi Maya, Ive been watching from waaay back. What I love is your transparency . The first thing in healing is realizing that there is a problem and getting to the root of it. I will say prayer, journaling or yoga may help on your road to wellness. Your daughter is absolutely beautiful, Praying for you, Be blessed!

Congrats! Beautiful family. Lots of transitions and you’re so strong and inspirational! Thanks for sharing your journey

Consistency and habit building were my only news years resolutions this year. The pandemic had me in a loop. I find that setting both daily and semi-weekly habits really helps. Like ballet class every Tuesday, and I put it in my calendar (with notifications). Using my calendar and making and “errand” event with a running to do list has helped me too! Love your channels 💕, we got this!!!!

SO extremely PROUD OF YOU!!! Yeah, its a lot. Even having a baby can change you, let alone a new country, culture etc. Take your time, find your pace (baby steps) and it will all fall amazingly into place. Luv you!

I can relate so much to this. Have been having a difficult third pregnancy, moved to a different country 10 years ago but still mentally adjusting to the colder climate lol, trying to take care of two kids, no family around etc. I’ve felt like this before with completely different circumstances back in the day and am learning that happiness really is an internal state and happens through the consistent habits you mentioned. It’s not easy at all but it’s comforting to know we’re not alone in this. Thank you for sharing and being vulnerable. 🌷

I FEEL YOU... Thank you for your willingness to be open and share. I'm working my way through as well. Stay ahead of the depression by continuing to do what you know works. Habits. Developing new habits and being faithful to yourself. Struggles.😔☺

10 years and I still love your vibe !! Keep going Maya being a mom is an excuse, I look up to you 🙌🏽😍

Wow, thank you so much for this! As a first-time mom I 100% relate to everything you mentioned.

You rock and you got this! Cut yourself some slack. You have been through a lot of life changes. You inspire me and that’s why I’m still here. You are courageous! 💕💕I never comment but today I had to.

Thank you for keeping it 100!!!! I just had the same realization that I need to focus on being consistent! I appreciate you soooo much. You choose to share the hard truths of your circumstances and it's so relatable and helpful

I felt this video so hard. I feel like I'm still in a stage of transition and that's 9 yrs after having my girls. I appreciate your honesty because it is hard to get back to feeling like yourself again. I personally started having a monthly to do list and focus on one thing at a time. I think as mothers it's really hard to remember we need to sow into ourselves in order to sow onto others. We need to give ourselves grace more often and just start.

I love you Maya so much!! You are one of the most, if not the one and only, the most genuine and authentic and raw person out there on the internet! Thank you for sharing all the process and the struggle you are going through and the ups and the downs! Despite of it all, you are still there, loving and caring for your beloved ones, running a business and your family, and being here with your community! And your inspire us all a lot! God is with you always!

Oh the struggles and self questioning of new motherhood! Good for you Maya for exploring what your needs are and grabbing onto a little more control. I’m 25 and 23 years postpartum but work with many new parents through my Birth Work. I send my clients over to your channel many times as I feel you and Max give raw and honest depictions of what early parenthood can really look like! Thank you so much for being you and sharing parts of your life with us. Big Fat Mama Bear Hug to you🥰🥰🥰

Maya- speaks Swedish Me NOT knowing any bit of Swedish: You’re doing so good, girl!!!

I am keeping consistent habits by having a habit tracker in my journal. I started off with simple habits like drinking water, saying a prayer...etc that I know I can accomplish. Then I keep adding on. It has helped this mama of three. I understand how you feel. My husband and I made a dramatic change in 2017 a year after having my 2nd child. I went through a lot in the last 5 years. I'm now getting to know myself again. It takes time, you'll get there. You got this Maya!

You have accomplished so much. Keep Going. We're rooting for you. You've got this Maya! May God continue keep blessing you and your family. ❤

Gosh Maya, I freaking adore you. I haven’t been keeping up with KZread and the people who have inspired me or those who I just enjoy watching because life happens as you know. I know that you had started a family and I love seeing that for you. I know that was a huge change for you because I would watch you in a time where I needed someone to teach me to be shameless!! Your video popped up on my feed and i was like omg I miss her what has been up with her !!!. Thank you for being so raw and vulnerable because I relate to you so much. Thank you for being you. 🫶🏼

Thank you so much for sharing this and your journey into motherhood. I needed to hear this. Consistency is key. But, I can only imagine being in another country and language. I love your transparency and rawness of the reality of becoming a mother and stepping into motherhood.

I hope to be half as put together as you at 40 ! You are amazing, Maya. I’ve enjoyed following your evolution at each stage. ✨

When you’re ready it be fun to see a video like “ speaking Swedish for 24hrs to my husband”. It’s hard being consistent because sometimes I have a good streak going then boom nothing for weeks. I need a system in place that helps me with that. The one thing I do consistently is wake up between 7-8am, give my cat bath tub water/her food, clean litter box, and go back to bed 😭😭🥴😵‍💫

This video was so therapeutic on so many levels! THANK YOU SO MUCH 😊 I’ve been doing this exact thing, small positive steps and slowly but surely it is alleviating the depression 🥲💖 thank you for letting me know what I am doing is more than good enough and that I’m not alone 🥰💛

You are getting up there beautiful! I remember you had your apartment back in the states and you cut your hair all off and you had staff working for you…. Now your life has changed so much and you are growing so gracefully!

Luv your positive energy along with your transparency Maya!

Mother to mother, you're still glowing. I used to watch you before I became a mother and afterward, so to see your journey is amazing. You are right on time and doing phenomenal! "Mamas 40!" What a line filled with two major blessings 💜🙏🏼

Mayaaaaaaaaaaa !!!!!! I love you and when you said all you want is consistency I FELT THAT !!!!!

Praying for you. I love you girl

You are definitely in my prayers. Any therapist will tell you that the number of stressors/life changes you've had in the last couple of years could lead anyone to a breakdown. You've had SEVERAL moves, gotten married, gained a new culture and a new language, lost familiar people (friends/family), had to adjust to an entirely new set of people, changed between urban and rural, AND had a new baby (which brings a new schedule). You've gained love and support, but lost regular contact with almost everything that was familiar to you only a few years ago. PLUS so much of this has occurred during a pandemic! The fact that you can even talk rationally about it shows that you have retained an extraordinary amount of resilience. You can give in to the stress when you need to (cuss, cry, talk, pray, etc.), then give in to joy. The most important thing, though, is to TAKE CARE OF YOURSELF!!!! I can't emphasize that enough. Work, work out, cuss, cry, relax, play, pray and SLEEP!!! I know that's tough with a baby, but relaxation (which is different from sleep, but the way), play and sleep will carry you a long way in the journey to balance. And know that others love you and are praying for you, too. I promise you... you are enough. It DOES get easier, but it takes time; don't rush it. Love you!❤

Sending prayers!!! Taking care of yourself and beautiful family! 🌞❤️🥰

Give yourself Grace Maya ! You got this 💕

Thank you for your transparency, I’m not a mother yet, but I have a lot of friends who are and you are not alone in how you feel and what you’re going through. From what my friends say it takes time to find your groove. Again I appreciate your openness to share your journey. This will help me in the future when I become a mom☺️

I do understand. For me it was having to "stay" in Canada. It has been 5 years now, it took me 2 years to now get used to (going from no sleep New York life to too quiet Montreal) as it was sudden and had to basically start over. Praying was the first thing, patting myself in the back for the "little steps" I was doing. I miss the fast-life but I did pray for stability, so here I am. Staying Real and being honest with ourselves is the BEST thing we can do. Thank you for sharing that side, but as usual, remaining Shameless 💖

Maya so good to see you sharing your life experiences with us. I'm proud of where you started and watching you evolve over the years. I can totally relate to you in this video. Continue to move forward, one foot in front of the other and soon we will reach our goals and desires. Also, congratulations on becoming a mother and that's a rewarding process all by itself. I will left you and your family in my prayers as I pray for myself and family.

You are doing a wonderful job as a new mom and wife. You are learning how to manage multiple scenarios with family life and are succeeding in making it all work. I had my first child at 39 too. It was hard trying to take care of myself as well and the family. I'm a taurus too. Perfectionist. Overwhelmed by everything not going as I expected, "Oh man the depression!" Before I knew it my child was in school. Ugh, it doesn't stop there. Every stage has its complications. Staying focused on the positive things really help. Communication is key. It's important to stop every so often and look back to see the beauty and changes in the moments shared. You are doing great and learning how to recognize the moments when you need some air. You and Max work well together. Keep finding ways to make sparks happen.

I understand and can relate sooo much!! I used to have a really consistent routine before I had my son. He came in very difficult circumstances and I has been very hard for me to adjust (which Im still struggling with). And now that we are expecting our second child, I feel like my world is tumbling down.. Thank you because I really needed to know that I am not alone and that I can get better. Be blessed and keep inspiring us ❤️❤️

Maya you look amazing. I’m proud of what you have accomplished and 40 you got this 💪🏽

Thank you 🙏 your video is just what I needed today. Every time Im feeling sad or lost in myself. I watch your videos. You are always teaching me something new. Again thank you for up lifting my day. You don’t know how much your videos help me and many other people. A loooooong time supporter from before you moved to New York. Thank you and bless you and your beautiful family 💛💛💛💛💛

Yes mama 🙏🏽 i can so relate!! You are so not alone. The “Who Am I” question is indeed very strong. I feel for me personally part of the identity/transformation intensity was because I had my daughter in my mid thirties and felt settled in who I was before i had her and then bammm all of sudden now being a new mom and im questioning everything and confronting layers of healing all over again. Big exhale. These are powerful healing times though. You are so held and guided by Creator. Keeping you and your beautiful family in my prayers. So much love

I‘m not a mother but in regards to the habit tracking, after going through tons of apps that would stress me out and big planners that I never had with me when I needed them I now use a tiny pocket planner that I always carry with me in a fanny pack (even at home). I’m using printable inserts from Etsy for yearly habit trackers, master to do lists and monthly, weekly and daily planning and I do feel like this has helped with my mental health! To me it feels much more motivating than using apps, the used pages make for a nice keep sake and somehow it clears my head more when having everything on paper rather than on screen :)

Hi Maya! Been watching since you were in NY! Thank you for opening up. I believe I've been in the same boat since this pandemic began. 6 months ago, I started using MyFitnessPal to track my calories and making sure I get exercise. Since then, Ive lost 25lbs! I still have quite a bit to go but I've been keeping track of my weight with a little white board calendar I put on my wall. I've never stuck to something this long as a goal so it's been very encouraging. The white board calendar really helps remind me when I wake up what I have decided to prioritize. Additionally, I have other goals but if I get too overwhelmed I won't do anything because I'll be stressed about everything. I am learning that everything should be prioritized including your goals so you can incorporate them into your daily life slowly. Patience is so important when you are making any changes to your life. My health is my most important goal right now so I'm taking the time I need to make healthy habits a consistent part of my life for the long term. Wishing you and your family the best! ♥️♥️♥️

As a FTM also this is so relatable! Sending you so much love. ❤️❤️

We love you Maya. I’m 46 years old. I moved from New Orleans to Houston. New Job, New House, New Friends. So…I’m with you. Sending prayers 🙏🏾

You're doing so well Mummy. Everything about your life has changed so drastically in such a short time, FOR THE BETTER, you are taking it like a champ. They say the only thing constant is CHANGE and that is accompanied with teething problems, always. Giving yourself time to go through the emotions (as you are, evidently) is a brilliant approach to surfing the tide. Life begins at 40! Keep it up Maya, tap on the back. Lots of love

I really needed this video. Ive been feeling very depressed lately and I need to find myself again. Im going to start writing things down and try to work out again. What you said about consistency is so true. I need a routine again. A purpose

Still rocking with u. Thanks for being present no matter where u are.

Mama Maya you are so inspiring and seeing you do the work is always a reminder that you're inevitably going to find the journey is going to ebb and flow but you are powerful and wonderful amongst the challenges. Give yourself grace because having a baby is such a game changer and I've got two that keep me on my toes, ALWAYS also 🧚🏽‍♂️ your reminder to embrace the body you have earned in giving life is so helpful. May your mind find peace in the process of redirecting your rituals. My biggest habit that I find helpful is making sure I take a vitamin, something so small yet a chance to nourish myself when it feels almost impossible with putting kiddos needs first all day 💞 much love

Yes!!! I’m always doing the same thing. Just waking up and not following a plan, and wasting so many days not doing anything structurally productive at all!! The To Do Lists help a ton! But now remembering to pick up the To Do List is also another task!🤦🏾‍♀️🤦🏾‍♀️ I relate to you so much Maya! I’ve been watching you over 10 years since I was like 14 yrs old omg! 😂😂 But I’ll never stop you’re an amazing human being, Love you! ❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️

You Are going to find your new rythme Maya! Life is so good when a woman finds out how strong she is.. then surprises herself and becomes even stronger. Woman, in a constant state of rebirth... let 💓go

To say I can relate is an understatement! Well done for it all. It’s all going to be worth in the end. And on the days we can’t try harder, we try softer…consistently. Everything that changes aches. And when the dust settles, you will see how much this journey will inform your creativity, your writing…your joy. May you continue to strengthen yourself & build a wonderful new village around you. Upwards and onwards I hear all the Mama’s cheering ourselves and you on. Thanks for the inspiration. X

100% get where you’re coming from. I had my first child in 2020 and it’s been 🤪 to get back to a satisfying routine. I definitely had postpartum depression. I’m pregnant now with my second and this time I have many tools in place. I joined a mastermind for other female entrepreneurs. I hired a therapist, acupuncturist, and I regularly go get prenatal massage. I even hired a personal assistant JUST to help me be accountable. It sounds like a lot because it is. Motherhood is a HUGE transition.

It’s like you were speaking for ME!! I am a new mom too and most days I am running on autopilot. Plus I miss ME. Where did she go? I love the consistency/baby steps advice you gave. I’m going to try! It does feel better knowing we aren’t alone in this. ❤️

I so get it ! I’m learning Swedish since September, once a week , and speaking it is soooo difficult and I speak Dutch, English, German , a little French and now Swedish. So totally understand and a your new mom and living in a foreign country! RESPECT!!!! And renovating your house too?! 🤯 Don’t be to hard on yourself please. Sending much love & respect from the Netherlands 💚🌿🌷

The transition is really hard! I don’t have kids but my twin has 3 and i helped her raise them especially when we were younger. But the great thing is, you noticed something wasn’t right and you decided to make it better.. you got this. I will definitely start writing things down that i need to do and put up little reminders cause I know i have my days! But i want to be and do better. Thank you so much for posting this! I love you girl!

@charmainephasoana6850

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I have a twin sister as well, we are 22 turning 23 next month (April) and she's already had her second baby

@Teababii1995

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@@charmainephasoana6850 awww congrats to her, me and my twin will be 27 in may!! Our birthdays are kinda close thats cool! Happy early birthday!! ❤️

You're my new bff in my head. So much of what you said resignates with where I'm at in life lately. I find that when I'm overwhelmed with ideas, I put them in my notes or documents app in my phone so I don't lose them, but also so my mind is less flooded lol

It’s ok SHAMELESS!Be patient the best is yet to come!

Maya, you’re awesome and doing great! Thank you for always inspiring me

Life is really hard and I can’t imagine as a new parent/wife/emigrate, but you’re journey is unfolding exactly how it should be and it’s so inspiring. I just relate to you so much on things like needing consistency, having many goals and always looking for habits/ways to improve oneself. Your almost double my age but it’s like looking up to a big sister I never had and I can learn from during each video. Since 2013, I love listening and watching you do you boo!! So you got this and keep going! Btw when you’re in a better place I’d love to see you do a reaction video to your old KZread vids.✨

Thank so much Maya for sharing your journey! I've been subscribed and looking at your videos for many, many year and I love how much growth and passion you have in each stage of your life. You've helped me to be me, stay true, and live shamlessly with my authentic self. 🙏🏾💛 Like yourself, for me to get out of my head...I definitely need a routine and schedule for my over all goals in life. While practicing being intentional and grateful going through the process of making small goals to get to my bigger goals. 💯

Yaasss!!! You go boo, love you, and glad you are posting about this. Keep Going!!

Give yourself time everything will fall into place. You have been so inspirational to so many.

Maya, I can’t wait for you to bless us with an episode of you speaking Swedish for 10 minutes straight. I rewatched those parts a few times, you looked so happy as your new language rolled off your tongue. It’s great to see you are pacing yourself and consciously working towards getting Maya back. Love your sticky notes idea by the bedside. You are doing great, mama 👏🏽👏🏽 Your story is so inspiring, everything in God’s time.

Baby steps have saved my butt a whole lot! I used to have the "all or nothing" mindset--if I can't get it ALL done and done PERFECTLY, why start? I don't do that anymore. Kudos on your workout and language learning goals! One foot after the other!