I found myself thinking about “clutter is a postponed decision” again & again. I find that since watching, I’m making more of my dreaded/ postponed choices which is leading to action. Glad I watched, and am watching again.

@chandramembaca1168

2 жыл бұрын

I don't not quite understand. Does what she mean decisions concerning with stuff (tidying up/decluttering)?

@juliawashburn675

2 жыл бұрын

That's is so true... clutter is postponed desision. You didn't take care of it when it was brought in now it's clutter. I understand that it doesn't work for everything.... But things like piling up junk mail on the kitchen table... for sure...

@sorayayaya754

2 жыл бұрын

@@chandramembaca1168 not only that, mental clutter also

@s.p642

Жыл бұрын

My clutter happened in one day when I took all my things out of storage and moved into a small home that has no storage space. I've lived like this for 10 years! When I look at all the mess in my house it is so overwhelming that I never know where to begin. I've asked friends for help also. A friend who wouldn't help me, is no longer a friend.

@catherineclinton911

8 ай бұрын

@chandramembaca1168 Yes. You get bills in the mail & whether you open the mail or not, you don't want to deal with them so you just stuff them somewhere. Something breaks, e.g. a lamp, and you don't decide to toss it, donate it, try to DIY repair it or take it to a lighting place for them to repair. You don't make a decision or get around to whatever you think you want to do, so you stuff the lamp somewhere while you make do with another in its place. You pass the lamp that is taking up space wherever you put it, and as time goes by, every time you see it, you feel guilt. You take a trip and when you return, you want to put the suitcase away but you don't feel like dealing with the contents, so that becomes a pile on your bed or wherever you put it, thinking you'll get back to it soon.

"Clutter is postponed decisions"- Story of my life!

@tamarajessup1398

6 жыл бұрын

Esther, I postpone and procrastinate to a pathological degree, it seems. I feel more attachment to some objects than I do to some people. Living with a stepmother who brutally punished me for wrong decisions, no matter how small, for over six years resulted in my being afraid to make decisions. I just allowed life to happen to me and trusted others to direct my life until I was in my thirties and found myself living in a place I loathed trying to build a relationship with my young daughter despite her paternal family's determination to make it impossible. Becoming a little more spiritually grounded in my early thirties helped a LOT, but I let go of my faith to embrace a troubled man who, thanks to multiple strokes and zero motivation to recover, became the focus of my life in ways that were mostly unhealthy, not only spiritually but mentally, emotionally, and physically. Clutter helped me to feel both anxious and needed, even though I didn't take care of the need by managing the clutter. I didn't tell my husband-to-be about my long history of mental illness, so when I had a psychotic breakdown eight years into our marriage he wasn't prepared at ALL. Our relationship lasted for over 20 years and although he told me about many of the traumatic experiences he'd had so I'd relate to him better, I kept mine from him because I was sure he couldn't handle it. His death on Veteran's Day 2015 of inoperable aortic valve stenosis was actually a RELIEF because I could FINALLY stop worrying about him...something that I realized, too late, would have improved our marriage considerably had I done it early on. Relief became guilt that was so overwhelming that I couldn't even grieve. I'm a little better now. I'm grateful for this presentation. My spiritual life is improving. I have friends who love me and tell me that I'm making AMAZING progress. I'm processing emotional clutter by writing. My physical clutter is less severe than it's been for over 30 years; I don't bring ANYTHING into my apartment unless I'm SURE it brings me joy. And I'm accepting that I deserve a better life and making decisions accordingly. I hope you do the same.

@unconventionalforager6389

6 жыл бұрын

Tamara Jessup wow, many people including myself can relate to your story. Death/divorce is a relief in many ways, however the person makes the decision to move on going forward. I state it that way because some move on going backwards, a strange at the phrase may seem. Thank you for sharing. You aren’t alone. Glad you are doing much better!

@yasminzaman9746

6 жыл бұрын

Need to keep focused !

@elsagrace3893

6 жыл бұрын

Esther well change that! You made the story of your life. You aren’t a victim.

@Linusrox123

4 жыл бұрын

Interesting about decisions, because hoarders (as many but not all clutters are) have an area of the brain where there is never stimulus - the anterior cingulate gyrus. This is the seat of decision making.

"The Quality of your life, is determined by the decisions you make."

To me, the mental and emotional clutter is not just a result of a ‘postponed decision’ but an ‘inaction’ also from not taking the time to Reflect on the fear (that’s causing the clutter) to then Make that Decision to Take Action. Once the action is made, Clarity will then follow. Putting down this self note for my future reference.

I’m doing the “FlyLady” method. Scheduled small amounts daily. Then 15 minute “hotspots”. And don’t beat yourself up if you don’t get to it. Just get to it next round.

@caroljames7381

3 жыл бұрын

Exactly wright 👌 don't beat yourself up you get through it bit by bit

@susanbehring8309

3 жыл бұрын

I like what she says too

@contagiousintelligence5007

Жыл бұрын

My method is not doing anything until it’s bothering me

I just put away all of my summer clothes, and they all fit in a medium spacebag(well, all but 4 pair of jeans.) We live in an RV so space is minimal. Getting anything new means getting rid of something else if there is no space. Before we moved in 6 years ago, we got rid of probably 90 percent of our belongings. It was VERY liberating! Now I'm working on my emotional clutter. That's been liberating too. I'm finding that a simple life really doesn't have space nor desire for clutter.., literally or emotionally🙂

I stumbled on this today. Our lives mirror each other so much it brought a tear to my eye. My father was diagnosed with pancreatic cancer and died shortly after. One of my children struggles with mental illness and suicidal thoughts among other things. I also had a major surgery within that time frame. Place some other stressors and Covid on top and it’s been very hard. I am always trying to declutter my mind, my life, and my stuff. Thank you for your encouraging words. It’s also just nice to know I am not alone in my experiences.

@kerrythomas

Жыл бұрын

Kari you are definitely not alone! I’m glad it was encouraging. 😊

@karilove6710

Жыл бұрын

Thank you. And I just realized we share the same name too! Blessings.

'change is the result of action and action is the result of decision' loved that

Emotional and spiritual clutter arise from unresolved issues, postponed decisions.....clutter not only creates overwhelm, but procrastination, guilt, shame, fear even depression...

@elsagrace3893

6 жыл бұрын

Smita B so actually Postponed Decisions is what cause overwhelm, depression and all that.

@jomontanee

5 жыл бұрын

Wow, so thought provoking saying.

@sevenrue4754

3 жыл бұрын

Very thought provoking exactly what i came to this video for

I decluttered this weekend. Took a lot of things to Goodwill. I have a walk in hall closet that I can actually walk in now.

@Soo_Blessed

5 жыл бұрын

Soooo envious I'm trying dont understand why IT IS SO HARD

@duallinguallady-aishaahmed1812

4 жыл бұрын

Sandra L. Moralez, don’t try! Before you go to sleep, or when you’re relaxed, close your eyes and imagine yourself carrying out the tasks you have been putting off. It helps, when you start doing it, it becomes as second nature. I hope it helps.

@dishadhouliyan5190

3 жыл бұрын

@@Soo_Blessed What is your date of birth

@rebeccajamir1835

3 жыл бұрын

@@Soo_Blessed hñjll⁰

@lifewiththedahls4708

3 жыл бұрын

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Clutter is Postponed Decisions...........absolutely brilliant! That is fear/guilt manifested. I am on my minimalist path. And, the changes are absolutely worth whatever one goes thru.

@lisab6443

Жыл бұрын

Good job! How is it going?

@deborahstensvaag2033

Жыл бұрын

It’s a marvelous explanation on many levels!

@OK-wb1dy

Жыл бұрын

@Karen Sinclair : thanks for the encouragement !

@quietowl1246

Жыл бұрын

Absolutely I have been downsizing for the past 10 years. I’m now in a static and I’m determined to love clutter free. The less I have the better I feel ❤

I've watched countless tedtalks, this is the first & only that's made me cry. It hit me on every level, it's like she knows me.

@almonmayze5678

5 жыл бұрын

mewendy1 hope things are better. That’s exactly how I’m feeling at this moment. I see myself in so many examples here.

@jomontanee

5 жыл бұрын

Hi, mewendy and Almon, my heart goes to you guys. I really want to embrace you and give you emotional support from afar. (I live in South East Asia). You can do it, you can overcome your fear and cluttered life. YOU CAN. Lots of love from Thailand.

@isaaca6445

5 жыл бұрын

mewendy1 Me too!

@OrangeUp

3 жыл бұрын

Didn't make me cry, but was good.

So I was decluttering my watch later vdos and this was there. Glad I saved and finally watched it. Thank You!🙏 Namaste.

We spend money on things, then feel like idiots when thinking about throwing it out. So to avoid that pain, we keep the loss.

I loved this so much!! So much so that half way through the speech, I went and lit a candle I have had for years!!!

@maryprice8458

Жыл бұрын

Congratulations 🎉 that's awesome!

This video got me to get up and start cleaning up while listening to it 😅

@sandramosley8716

4 жыл бұрын

Anna Wood same here

@vivianp5962

4 жыл бұрын

I know right. 👍

Absolute "TRUTH" to what you have said as I am a single male in my late 40's and I am single, no children and never married. Life is about "choices"!!!! Make the right ones...

“Don't put off until tomorrow what you can do today.” -- Ben Franklin.

@TSunshineful

5 жыл бұрын

If it doesn’t need to be done now, it doesn’t need to be done.

@samanthavanscoder9536

4 жыл бұрын

@@TSunshineful that about tomorrows dinner?

@lisaryherd4685

3 жыл бұрын

George Wills Absolutely, this is my biggest problem, but so hard to change!!

@kashbash9645

2 жыл бұрын

"Don't put off to tomorrow what can be avoided altogether."

Just like an oil change, you must declutter on a regular basis. It has to be a priority. Otherwise your life will always be a mess.

@lisaryherd4685

3 жыл бұрын

John Dyer Wow, that is an amazing statement!!

@deirdremorris9234

2 жыл бұрын

Correct!!!

@teresalanahan1089

2 жыл бұрын

YES! My husband is a mechanic/automotive technician (new definition, same job). I can't wait to share your analogy with him! Both of us are becoming very complacent about our procrastinating, and the paper work just keeps growing.

@JTDyer21

2 жыл бұрын

@@teresalanahan1089, yep less mess = less stress

@paigehodges

2 жыл бұрын

That’s a great analogy!

10:08 "Change is the result of action and action is the result of a decision."

Excellent. I would also highly recommend Mel Robbins Ted talk on how to stop screwing yourself up. It is really really excellent. Nothing to do with clutter except how we view what holds us back. I watched it several times, and something finally clicked in my brain about what I was saying outwardly and inwardly. And I have been working very diligently for the last two or three months in the house. And it is showing. If you add all these other Ted talks with it, you can do quite well. Anybody in here that has a one-word answer, DHD. ABC D. Whatever. Is obviously a perfect person. But for the rest of us humans that aren't, it's more than a one-word answer. It is digging deep to find out what is hurting you the most, taking stock of what you can do, and being able to put 1 foot in front of the other to change it. Blessings to all of you. Have a great memorial day weekend. This makes four years since my mom died on memorial day weekend. And instead of feeling sad, I am feeling very positive now. So take care.

@iamkatiejenkins

5 жыл бұрын

Gail Remp, I realize it has been close to a year since you posted this comment, but I just wanted to thank you for sharing your lovely perspective as well as the helpful tips. I'm seriously off to go watch the Mel Robbins video right now! Your approach is not only motivating, but it's super refreshing! And it's obviously creating results. Please take good care and I'm sure you're continuing to flourish and just knock this one life out of the park!!! :-)

@carolgeorge6409

Жыл бұрын

Great talk! Also . Watch Mel Robbins you will love her. Life changing

"Clutter is postponed decisions" Love it!

Loved 'Give God something to bless'! It motivates me when I am stuck.

I listened to this 3 times, and took notes. Thank you!

@angelassocalledlife1747

Жыл бұрын

Lol. Notes are my clutter!

@BC-vh2ol

Жыл бұрын

me too

My Kinrgy instructor shared this video with our full moon class today. I am really grateful she did because I have been in the process of purging, changing and moving things around my apartment and house. I have also been doing a lot of emotional and spiritual purging too. Forgiving in silence and with love. Moving my needle forward to getting healthier mentally, spiritually and physically. I agree that most of what I have kept everywhere have been postponed decisions and the more I let go, the more I feel clearer and less tied down. Thank you for this talk. I really needed to hear it today.

@kerrythomas3004

Ай бұрын

Please thank her from me for sharing.

this is so helpful for someone with borderline personality disorder. I’d never heard it so clearly put, “clutter is postponed decisions”

Oh Kerry. I get this. I, too, developed a heart issue when my beloved grandmother, more like a mother to me in many ways, passed away, then I lost a planned and very wanted pregnancy in a traumatic way involving emergency surgery, and our dog of 13 years passed away, all within 6 months of each other. My heart broke, like yours, figuratively and literally. I dug my way out but it's been uphill. Thank you for this.

@mobk9774

6 жыл бұрын

What a nice human you are gary. God Bless you too.

@ranabadri6777

6 жыл бұрын

Woman of a Certain Age .. Hoping that you are making progress moving on from a difficult period in your life. You will get through this because we are all stronger than we realize. Sorry for your loss

@conquerthechaosllc3284

5 жыл бұрын

I avoided reading my comments for a long time, lol, but yours made me want to reach out. I hope you are doing well!!

Wise advice.... this one is worth watching perhaps even a few times to drill it in...

One of the most helpful TED talks I have heard.

@conquerthechaosllc3284

5 жыл бұрын

Thank you!

@briza2022

5 жыл бұрын

Conquer the Chaos, LLC, Welcome. Wish you much love and health.

Thank you Kerry, I’m exactly like all the types of clutter you talk about and I’m still paralysed with my situation, I look at my home and all this clutter and walk out of my home and don’t want to come back, but hopefully after watching your video I can get my mindset into starting to clean up my clutter

@jacquelinegiesbrecht5801

Жыл бұрын

Maybe the Videos of clutterbug help you.or the minimal mom

My mental clutter is too many bookmarks and watch later videos.

@kimberlyrosssegovia203

6 жыл бұрын

Kontinent I agree with the watch later, good one!

@nerisac637

6 жыл бұрын

Same here but I create playlists instead of putting them all in Watch Later. As for bookmarks, I just screenshot the articles I like, using the multi page screenshot function and created folders for those screenshots as well.

@justme7585

6 жыл бұрын

Kontinent - Same here, lol.

@corinneb9790

6 жыл бұрын

Kontinent. I’m guilty- I don’t have enough hours left to live to watch all of those videos I saved.

@corinneb9790

6 жыл бұрын

Nerisa C I need to figure out how to do that with my iPhone

Thank you TEDx Talks, for posting this video. Thank you Ms. Kerry Thomas, for sharing your knowledge and experience regarding clutter. God bless us all.

Loved " Give God something to bless" "peace thank you " this woman is amazing she speaks life changing and words

an ORGANIZED life is the Best life.

great insights on the underlying causes of clutter.

Thank you so much for this moving speech! Short, sweet and full of so many golden nuggets of truth.

Decluttering and with Kon marie💗💗 method definetly clarifies and open up the mind

Your talk inspired me ~ Thank you!🙏

I keep planning to spend half an hour per day clearing or sorting a pile of paperwork, and unused items in my apartment - - - must get around to starting that tonight and make it a daily thing - one area at a time

@summydots

4 жыл бұрын

Do that! Do that! Do that! Anyone reading, you too. I have a family holding me captive and keeping me intoxicated with various drugs. Make me unconscious and harass using different means. In short, they literally snatch my time & breath. My day is one-third of what yours is. Your half an hour is just 10mins of my waking time. Your week is seven days, mine is just 2-3 days. I can't emphasise enough that we take time for granted, especially when it's available to us by default. If you must de-clutter for 30 mins to move forward, do it. And now that you've read this, you're cursed and you've a responsibility towards me. To live it up for me too. No pressure, but you've been given a life, don't let it pass you by.

I’m so glad you made the DECISION to make this video. It was the push I needed. You make a difference.

@conquerthechaosllc3284

5 жыл бұрын

Thank you so much Sherri.

My postponed decisions: staying at a job I'm burned out from and unhappy with, not moving forward in life. I will work on my real estate course, get a RE license, leave my current job/obtain different part time job while working in RE the other part time. My home is pretty clutter free except for my clothes in my bedroom closet. I will work on it.

Such wisdom in an easily understood format! Lots to ponder on in the coming days. Thank you!!

one of the best I've watched

This is great advice for anyone! I have so many levels of clutter. I need to organize it all into baby steps so I know how to fix it, otherwise I just get overwhelmed and stay stagnant.

@carolgeorge6409

Жыл бұрын

Me too❤️

@jacquelinegiesbrecht5801

Жыл бұрын

Clutterbug and the minimal mom have some really helpful Videos on how to start

She definitely conveys emotion in her talk, and it reminds us of our power to change as it simultaneously allows the feeling of "sinning" and missing the mark and the guilt that can disable action. I actually came into the video with a bit of judgement and now I have to say this is one of the best TedX videos I've ever seen. I'm working on a technology interface(app ecosystem) to allow humans to reconnect to natural law and natural interaction and reset/reconnect that attention/ dopamine /hormonal circuitry that has been hijacked by commoditized social networks. We are cluttered with concerns, and made impotent by our borrowed fears. I am dedicated to deep wealth solutions, and Kerry Thomas hit on so many of my motivations in this talk. She also poignantly hit how my arrow of intention has sinned, and I'm sitting right now in Bali in a room with far too much clutter, typing on a computer with far too much clutter and appreciating how she tied it all together in this moment..

@aniwtada

5 жыл бұрын

Lol can I sign up?

I loved her talk, especially that we think more stuff means more fun. And especially that everything comes down to a postponed decision. And "give God something to bless". Great talk.

Mine is Fear of Failure. :/ so much stuff ive missed out on and could be doing right now.

Thank you for your honesty and words of wisdom Kerry. I'm a minimalist, but I've always struggled with physical clutter. I seem to do better with emotional and spiritual clutter, but I know they are all connected. "Let go and let go" seems to be a mantra that helps and also funny enough flipping coins to help me make decisions, even big ones. In Deep Gratitude.

I love what you said about Spiritual Clutter. Spot on!

I'm a new fan of this woman after hearing this. Great talk Thanks! 😊

"Give God something to bless." Great input about taking action for mental and emotional clutter and awesome quote.

This is eye-opening! One of my favorite Ted Talk!

Kerry Thomas was so good I am going to replay this every morning. I need to unclutter more than stuff in closets and around the house.Thank you Kerry Thomas. You're my new best friend.

literally the most life-changin ted talk for me

I listened to every word Kerry said. Thank you. Among the clutter in you tube, this talk of Kerry was a game changer.

@conquerthechaosllc3284

5 жыл бұрын

Thank you!

She has a very relatable way of telling her story and giving sound advice.

Thank you for sharing your experience and wisdom. Well said and explained. Simple enough to apply. Make the decisions and move forward.

This resonated for me. Peace as a deliverable is amazing outcome.

Absolutely awesome, I need to watch this often, as I try to muddle through my clutter. Thank You, much appreciated!

What a lovely lecture, thank you.

Great honesty and talk. Thank you.

Just what I needed to hear to get that room and studio and many other things DECLUTTERED! Make the decision, declutter and get unstuck...

Thank you for this talk.

this my most informative message from TEDx. Glad someone talked about this

So true. It inspires me to think deep about me myself

I appreciate her humility in the speech. She did not come across as talking down to her audience. Kudos!

Just what I needed right now! Thank you! God bless you and people like you sharing such ideas!

@nirmalapersaud7589

6 жыл бұрын

.

without forgiving yourself you are not free to go ahead and fulfill your dream. THANKS for sharing this! and thanks for boiling the huge problems down to the single decisions... decisions are powerful and if we make them, we rule them. if we do not, they rule us. THANKS! This is a great speech. And yes. I am happy for you that your apartment is immaculate!

I used to be sympathetic, emphatic, compassionate, whatever you like to call it - supposedly a human virtue. I decided some years ago to declutter this feeling and not to mix with people who expect sympathy and mercy. I'm much more refreshed now. Instead, I show these people how to fulfill their life by demonstrating it with mine. I don't talk/preach to them. I only show it.

@rachelsweets

5 жыл бұрын

Love this

I love that Blouse, very pretty and you too💝 Thanks for your Time and Knowledge, it Has given what I need to get started😘

Needed this ! I change homes every 7 years and reboot myself, and it's coming up soon and although I feel overwhelmed to the task, I can't wait

@mariehatton2991

6 жыл бұрын

Noshville your homes?

@elisafrye2115

5 жыл бұрын

Noshville n

Thank you for explaining exactly how I felt, I was so overwhelmed sbd felt no one would understand and you explained it all perfectly ❤

@caroljames7381

3 жыл бұрын

I get by now my breaking things down each day, so long as I sort abd do tasks each day it makes it easier and reward myself with a cup of tea 🍵 , coffee or nice to eat instead of compulsive shopping to overwhelm me again with more stuff

@carolgeorge6409

Жыл бұрын

Agree

great advice and insight -saving to watch again and again as necessary to take action

Excellent presentation, thank you Kerry

Thank you 🙏🏻 I could really use your help, everything in my life is a big mess, there is clutter everywhere but no one knows it but me.

@teresalanahan1089

2 жыл бұрын

My heart goes out to you. I hope you are in a better place 🙏

Oh thank you. I am so glad to hear that I am not the only one with computer clutter.

I'm enthralled by this piece. A book I read not long ago with related themes offered profound life lessons. "A Life Unplugged: Reclaiming Reality in a Digital Age" by Theodore Blaze

@conquerthechaosllc3284

Ай бұрын

I will have to check that out!

Definite decisions need to be made to remove clutter or postponed decisions. Actions give God something to bless. It will give you momentum. Quality of life is based on the decisions you make. Have peace!

The part about cluttered iphones makes a lot of sense. When I truly listened to some of the songs I had, I discovered that I didn't like them anymore, never did, or they made me feel emotionally like I didn't want. So, I deleted over half my large song library. The criteria for keeping the ones I kept was "does it make me feel good". Now, there are a few that make me feel sad, but those are ones that are written to do that.

Beautiful talk, thank you!

Really interesting talk, made me look at clutter from a different prospective, I never viewed my email clutter (3000 odd of them) as clutter before. I recommend giving this talk ago.

Powerful and helpful for me at this moment. Thank you

thank you 🤗

Thank you so much for this insight and inspiration!

Recuperating from total knee replacement and found this in an email. Plan to watch again when I can get to the den and put some of it into practice.

Lovely little talk.

This was great! Precise. Informative. All the dislikes must be from people who were triggered about their unwillingness to let go of their clutter. It is so very liberating to declutter! I am down to my beloved cat, laptop, and what fits into 3 big suitcases but I am still gonna give more stuff away. If I can do it so can you! xoxo - j

@carolkd4018

Жыл бұрын

What a short list of your keepers, with the cat at the top! 👑🐈

This was right on time and on repeat!

I loved this talk! I took away several quotes, I love the focus on decision making

@conquerthechaosllc3284

5 жыл бұрын

Thank you!

Superb learnings! One of the better Ted talks.

Wonderful presentation..... I was very impressed with the helpful tips and common sense approach to declutter our lives.. Thank you for your kindness and inspiration. I believe that depression can be a result of indecision also. I have a hard time decluttering clothes that I know represented a nicer time in my life. I will try to move forward and leave (downsize) the past!

Why does this only have 590K views?!

I watched three times so I could take it all in. Revelatory for me. I feel a paradigm shift in my thinking. Can’t wait to see what postponed decisions I tackle first.

Thank You, Good Starting point. You said Everything in a Nutshell.!

I want to thank you for your talk. I'm grateful. This may have just touched on why I always feel overwhelmed and helpless in changing it. It was starting to bring on depression. I couldn't figure out what the down feeling were. Now I do. Thank you again.

@conquerthechaosllc3284

5 жыл бұрын

You are so welcome Karen!

Thanks Kerry, your talk carried a great motivational message to me, thanks very much!

@conquerthechaosllc3284

5 жыл бұрын

You are welcome Dave!

thank you!

I agree in many points for I was in there and felt it, and need to do something about it NOW!

Needed this! Thank you so much.

Thank you for showing me how to see the clutter in my life. GOD BLESS YOU. I now know what to do.