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Brother sounds hurt & heartbroken... may Allah make it easy for him.

@ahmerkhan6809

Ай бұрын

rather then consoling him ,as the brother sounded broken - the shk started to attack him on how he found out.

@-Professor-paradox-

27 күн бұрын

​@@ahmerkhan6809agreed with every word you said

This brother sound so broken and devastated , he clearly said his requirement is a virgin so this woman shouldn't have proceed the marriage, may Allah relieve his pain and help him Ameen

@Halal_Dan

2 ай бұрын

Ameen

@tevaz5001

2 ай бұрын

It sounded like they hadn’t talked about it before getting married.

@ukraineforever5102

2 ай бұрын

I agree, just if man stated that this is his principle to choose a wife, doesn’t he have right to find a wife that would respond to his requirements? I mean she could just say possibly that in some way she doesn’t respond to his requirement, one of few, without detailed disclosure. and then ask if he is ok with it and agrees to proceed. I feel that his right to chose a wife that would respond to his requirements is broken. Hasn’t he truly said that this is important for him? Especially if he cares much about reputation etc. or his consciousness won’t allow him to find peace with her after she unveiled this information. And of course in Quran said that it’s better to keep marriage, as it may be better for spouses than divorce, even if it’s challenging, they may learn to adopt after all and improve themselves. And Allah knows best!

@aleatar

2 ай бұрын

@@olegnurmagomedov750 Allah SWT said in Surah An-Nisa (4:148): “Allah does not like that evil should be uttered in public except by him who has been wronged.” Also, Abu Huraira reported that the Messenger of Allah, peace and blessings be upon him, said, “Everyone from my nation will be forgiven except those who sin in public. Among them is a man who commits an evil deed in the night that Allah has hidden for him, then in the morning he says: O people, I have committed this sin!..." (source: Ṣaḥīḥ al-Bukhārī 6069, Ṣaḥīḥ Muslim 2990). It's not about us and our feelings, or the scholars. Allah SWT and His last Messenger, peace be upon him, *commanded* everyone *not* to reveal the sins we repented from. If we reveal them, it is *then* when Allah SWT will not accept the repentance. May Allah SWT forgive us all.

@therealmuhhafiz

2 ай бұрын

Disgusting 'man' for having this disgusting requirement. Questioner is not a man. More a maggotigay than a man.

May Allah make all the Virgin Sister marry all the virgin brothers

@ibrahim_-_-_

2 ай бұрын

ameen

@zakifarah603

2 ай бұрын

@@olegnurmagomedov750this is very fair and will lead to guilt free lives.

@nathangrey6236

2 ай бұрын

@@olegnurmagomedov750 ameen

@bilqisnjama1387

2 ай бұрын

Amiin

@therealmuhhafiz

2 ай бұрын

Good job, shaytan's helper drone. Well done with a stupid dua.

Sheikh, this is the kind of advice which will lead honest guys who never committed zina to seek a single life. This brother clearly wanted someone who was virgin, just like him, but he was deceived! Marrying someone divorced is not an issue, but getting someone who committed zina before but said that she was a virgin before marriage is a DEALBREAKER! Brother, I can clearly see you you're in pain, I completely understand it, I would suggest you to seek a 2nd marriage to someone who is as pure as you are looking for. At the same time if your present wife is remorseful and good to you, keep her as well and do justice between your 2 wives. This is what I would do, 100%.

@Fini111

2 ай бұрын

I never understood this perspective, but after reading alot of comments here, I understand why men are so upset, she basically lied about it when he asked her. It's like us sisters who say our preference is a man man who won't do polygyny and will only marry us, how would we feel being lied to down the line when he went to get a 2nd wife? It would break you and never trust him again! He could have walked away at the beginning if he wanted polygyny but chose to trap you with lies. I 100% get the upset now. Took me a while until I could see it from a female lens.

@LasagnaplaysWoo

2 ай бұрын

​@@Fini111 I mean you understood and it's okay but wouldn't it be better just to think straight? Like you want a virgin man but he lies and stuff because Zina is never equal to marriage. But I understand your point

@istiak.hossain

2 ай бұрын

@@Fini111 sister marrying upto 4 wives is permissible and granted to males by ALLAH SWT, females should refrain from jealousy as they have much less physical demands comparing that to a man, this is the level of IMAAN a woman should have. While zina is completely HARAM and not granted by ALLAH SWT and a punishable offence in ISLAM. So how about not comparing these 2?

@zenastronomy

2 ай бұрын

​​@@istiak.hossainit's comparable. her example is fair. both are requirements made on the prospective spouses and in both examples the spouses lied deliberately. the wife in this story did not do zina after the marriage, it was done before. so that is a separate issue between her and Allah. the issue here is between her and husband, marrying through deception. which is bad.

@NoName-bt6xd

2 ай бұрын

​@@istiak.hossain the prophet ﷺ said the vow which has the most importance to be fulfilled is the vow which makes intimacy with a woman permissible. Imagine if a man said yes to a marriage condition which he doesn't intend to fulfill and he does break the condition later, if the girl knew this from beginning, she wouldn't accept him and will see someone else and hence the intimacy won't be halal bcs there won't be marriage from the beginning, it's a very serious vow, and asking the man to be in monogamous marriage for a marriage condition is a valid condition

Of course that wouldn’t be fair, someone who stayed pure throughout their whole lives and this was revealed to them

@ismaelhadjeris2905

2 ай бұрын

That’s why we learn with scholars and don’t take our morals out of Islam. He explain it well. Their is not such thing as « virginity » but only not married women or divorced/widow women. Above all, when Allah forgive sins, he purifies us and it’s like we had never done it, so she is « pure and chast » again, no matter what you think about this.

@ratthasaksoobden7016

2 ай бұрын

Isn't Islam about going through trials on earth and getting everything that's "fair" on judgement day and onwards? Why are you complaining? I'd personally rather have a repented person with a past (who will support my future in paradise) than a person with clean slate who is about to commit sins and never recover from it later on.

@Gggh691

2 ай бұрын

@@ratthasaksoobden7016 then thats your preference, go with it then. If you get STI’s then thats on you. Whatever has happened in the past, cannot be undone nor can it be unchanged. That history remains with you forever no matter how much you hide it.

@ratthasaksoobden7016

2 ай бұрын

@@Gggh691 I gave an intellectual islamic reply before stating preference. If you are unable to reply to it just say so, or "if" you are not muslim then my apologies be with you since those points are for muslims only. - STIs can be tested for. - Yes, history remains. (If you are a muslim) Would you refuse to accept some Sahabas just because they used to kill muslims and can never undo it?

@Gggh691

2 ай бұрын

@@ratthasaksoobden7016 the Sahabas had to kill in order to spread Islam or else it would not have spread to orher continent’s. Islam was spread through the sword. Why spread islam violently? Is it not a religion of peace? Surah Al-Baqarah (2:191-193): "And kill them wherever you overtake them and expel them from wherever they have expelled you, and fitnah is worse than killing. And do not fight them at al-Masjid al-Haram until they fight you there. But if they fight you, then kill them. Such is the recompense of the disbelievers. And if they cease, then indeed, Allah is Forgiving and Merciful. Fight them until there is no [more] fitnah and [until] worship is [acknowledged to be] for Allah. But if they cease, then there is to be no aggression except against the oppressors." Surah An-Nisa (4:89): "They wish you would disbelieve as they disbelieved so you would be alike. So do not take from among them allies until they emigrate for the cause of Allah. But if they turn away, then seize them and kill them wherever you find them and take not from among them any ally or helper." Surah At-Tawbah (9:5): "And when the sacred months have passed, then kill the polytheists wherever you find them and capture them and besiege them and sit in wait for them at every place of ambush. Is your religion peaceful?

I get depressed by seeing this types of video and get a heart ache. I sometime ask myself ''for whom I'm saving myself?" also "will i get someone like me?" -don't attack me, I'm just a 21 years old introvert man from a middle class family who doesn’t have any female friends both in real life and social media(didn’t have any female friends either in the past) let alone any haram relationship. I don't want to get in any haram relationship either in the future. May Allah protect us form zina.

@Adanakana1298

2 ай бұрын

Brother it’s quite simple I’d suggest, as sheikh said, if she is righteous now and is a good Muslim, don’t worry about the past. I agree with this, there is no way for you to find out without interrogating her, but what you can do is see the good in her. We all have some forms of sins in our past but if Allah can forgive us then why can’t we forgive each other.

@purplelove3666

2 ай бұрын

God told you to not have sex till marriage,that's why you are saving yourself ,don't you know the punishment for zina ?

@ambitiousmuslimrecordings3451

2 ай бұрын

The way I overcame these worries is this: I have to let my desire for Allah’s reward and heavens transcend my masculine urges to validate a seriously stated statement such as the one in question. If she vows to me at the time of marriage that she is pure, then I believe her. If she is lying, she will receive on the day of judgement what Allah wills. If I am hurt by it, then I trust that Allah will compensate me for her withholding the truth from me, and He is the Most Just.

@Anonymous-on7tb

2 ай бұрын

​@@purplelove3666 exactly that's why im controlling myself. That's the answer i give myself. But my hopes always crashes whenever i see videos like this and realise that there is a high chance that i may get a wife who Isn't like me in the days of adultery(nowadays)

@Anonymous-on7tb

2 ай бұрын

​​@@Adanakana1298 the problem is i hold grudges(in mind) although i may not show it. Also truth comes Out one day. Will you be able to see your wife in a good way if you eventually find out about her past especially when you were the only one who didn’t have any connection with a woman let alone a past(haram relationship)? I Have seen many examples in our country and an example from a close relative. There is an increasing number of muslim girls who had all the fun before marriage(also did hijab) and later marry a man of their parent's choice and live a normal life . I also saw many examples of girls who are from conservative Muslim family and Their family thinks of them as pure and innocent but in reality when they are at school,College,University they are having fun!(one of the example is one of my cousins!) My point is : I don't mind a revert muslim woman and i aldo understand a divorced Muslim woman but i Don't want someone who in spite of being from a muslim background, was in 1 or many haram relationships! Lastly i Don't think some one with a past can be a good mother and an ideal woman because in some conversation in front of me about marriage(before or after) i heard and saw women(my relatives and neighbours) say " people do haram relationships before marriage(It's fine) and It's okay if they don't do it after" Do you think those are ideal father/mother of Their child even though they are somewhat practicing Muslim?

I think this brother should divorce if he feels like cheated on. He wanted a virgin wife, and was a virgin for his wife, I don't think it's fair on him to ask him to accept her, he wanted a virgin wife, it was his only requirement.

@MissCane9

Ай бұрын

He said that according to Islam, his wife had actually transformed into was a new woman. and to close the lid and on the past. Bit He also said it was his call.

Even the sheikh who is giving this advise would not accept a woman like that. He's probably a girl dad, or he believes since he's already married to a pious woman this cannot happen to him

@floki5182

9 күн бұрын

Yes he's got a few daughters. Maybe that's why he gives out these opinions. Not trying to see the pov of the man.

It is clear that most people siding with the man, are young virgin men who are protecting themselves for marriage, and most people who are condemning the man are people who are currently living her "mistake" I hope Allah gives you the strength to avoid that sin you are doing, instead of trying to rationalise and defend it

@Big-gp9bi

2 ай бұрын

Nope, most of the men are following kufr red pill/incel ideology.

Imam al-Ghazali on the Three (03) Advantages of Marrying Virgins: 01. Virgins tend to love and feel close to their husbands, strengthening their marital bond. In contrast, women who have enjoyed men before may struggle with differences and develop a dislike for their (present) husbands. 02. Marrying a virgin often deepens a man's love, as it is a man's nature to somewhat detest/dislike/loathe a woman who has been touched by another man. 03. The virgin does not yearn after the first husband, because, in general, the surest love is that which is engendered with the first loved one. [Ihya Ulum al-Din, book 12: On the Etiquette of Marriage, page 90].

@taimurahmad

2 ай бұрын

very true the csholars mention it us better ti mrry a vrgn

@kopashamsu9913

2 ай бұрын

Engaging in physical relationship with a non-virgin woman is akin to homosexuality, it's called "homosexuality-by-proxy". In a practical sense, the woman is just acting as a "middle man" between you and all the previous men she slept with. The entire premise is disgusting and vile.

@mayg7415

2 ай бұрын

The feminists won't like this one

@herohiralall1340

Ай бұрын

Nice bro May ALLAH bless us a Good virgin Spouse and Make us People of Al Firdous

@thalai143

Ай бұрын

I am bookmarking this, scanning this as pdf, printing this in A4 and pasting it throughout my city coz I felt all of this subconsciously

I think people are missing the point here - It's without a doubt that Allah is the most merciful, the most kind and most forgiving. If she has repented from her sins, then this is already a great step forward. This is a woman that many men would consider for marriage and she is totally okay to marry 👍 That's not the issue. The issue is the fact that she deceived him - He stipulated virginity as a requirement for marriage and she told him she was a virgin, whilst she isn't - This is lying and deceiving. This is most likely why the brother is hurt so much, you can literally hear the pain in his voice. Also, don't equate women who were married and lost their virginity that way to women who committed zina and lost their virginity that way - One is halal and pure, the other one is haram and filthy. Finally, just because she has repented and become a better person since then, doesn't mean you HAVE to marry her. You don't owe her marriage (before marriage obviously) And one more point I should add, is that repentance from zina doesn't bring your virginity back. Wallahi, I am a flawed human being. I am not sinless. I make mistakes too. Maybe, just maybe, my thought process is wrong and shaytaan is getting a firm grip on me and my mindset regarding marriage (which I am already struggling with enough as it is). If that is the case, then by all means correct me. I still have a lot to learn about Islam. I am 18 years old and would like the opinions of others too so that I may learn and benefit from them. JazakAllahu khairan and may Allah bless you 🤲

@TAHTAWYu64

2 ай бұрын

i agree with you brother and in case you put a requirement in the contract that she must be virgin and no one was alone with her then by all means it`s your right to decline such marriage or if you already married then to divorce her and give her all her right bec u fear god. and we as men we are known to have الغيرة so we will get angry and reject anyone who even looks are our women whether mother, sister or wife in a wrong way now imagine the thought of your wife that other men slept with her in a haram way, for me that would not let me sleep at night.

@amrihan1

2 ай бұрын

You are supposed to lie in the case of sin, as the sheikh mentioned in his video. If you reveal ur sin you will not be forgiven. That is not how it works.

@muazunais2378

2 ай бұрын

This is why I think that no man should sign away his rights like now there is a trend where Muslim women has conditions that he can't marry more than 1. If the husband ever found out something like this then he has the option to marry another and if she doesn't like she can divorce and return the mahr and there's no loss for him. Cuz you can't trust no one women are smart nowadays we aren't in the 19th century anymore they know how to take advantage pretty well. I'm not saying all women are untrustworthy but a considerable percentage now is so be prepared so you won't feel sorry about it.

@KernelMarine

2 ай бұрын

@@amrihan1 respectfully, lying is only permitted in 3 cases - this does not fall under those cases. Infact, this would fall under deceit - this sister could have easily told the brother that she's not virgin (either due to marriage, rape, or zina or whatever else) and that's that. Does that fall under exposing your own sin? She should hide her sins, but not deceive other people. There is a difference between the two and if you say that you can lie in the case of sin, then present proof. Because as far as I can remember, sheikh assim tackled a similar point once and he explained how it is prohibited to expose your sins, but to also lie.

@waqar5727

2 ай бұрын

We are assuming she repented even Sheikh but it didn't seems she repented instead she shamelessly revealed to him about zina not with one guy but with many.

May Allah safeguard us from these types of women

@hilalmanzarfaridi1888

2 ай бұрын

Allahhumma Aameen Summa Aameen

@mymuslimthoughts6903

2 ай бұрын

And what about men?

@OxwinMilitary

2 ай бұрын

Ameen

@ittosleftnut954

2 ай бұрын

@@mymuslimthoughts6903 why would he mention men? Are you assuming that he’s a homosexual?

@olegnurmagomedov750

2 ай бұрын

@@mymuslimthoughts6903 May non-virgin Muslim men get to marry only the non-virgin Muslim women. Are you happy now?

Just divorce her She should have told in the beginning

@TheKluxi1

2 ай бұрын

@olegnurmagomedov750 what you mean? I don't understand your English. Btw, I don't have a wife, don't assume

@muazunais2378

2 ай бұрын

This is why I think that no man should sign away his rights like now there is a trend where Muslim women has conditions that he can't marry more than 1. If the husband ever found out something like this then he has the option to marry another and if she doesn't like she can divorce and return the mahr and there's no loss for him. Cuz you can't trust no one women are smart nowadays we aren't in the 19th century anymore they know how to take advantage pretty well. I'm not saying all women are untrustworthy but a considerable percentage now is so be prepared so you won't feel sorry about it.

@mohammedtufail2912

2 ай бұрын

Virginity should not be anybodies need this man himself is very greedy I also committed many things in my life when I was in wrong way how could be a person be a good if his requirements are this much deep even Allah azzawajal had forgiven her then who is this person portraying himself as victim. People crying by the fact that she lied should so he should divorce shows what their thinking abilities and respect to opposite gender who will say that is your requirement is Virginity so okay I am not Virgin please marry other if I was in her place I would straight away would have slapped him and sent him to his house it's better to find a man without Virginity who as repented as the lady here herself did than to marry this psychopath and those who are asking that repentance doesn't brings Virginity should fear Allah you will still get 70 hoor in jannah are so pure that no jinn and ins ever touched them nor even saw them as Allah himself said this in Quran majeed this are for those who don't wish such nasty things asking Virginity and judging other's have some brain.

@StudyStudy-rm3in

2 ай бұрын

Ig u haven't watched the vedio properly..thats what sheikh explained for. She can't disclose her sins other wise her sins won't be forgiven

@arshiasalma1133

2 ай бұрын

But why. Did she disclose later, that too with multiple men

This is a very specific situation. I like his response but I also understand the man’s feelings. He was a virgin and wanted that too. I’m a firm believer in being with someone who is on the same level as you. She was extremely wrong for deceiving him. I don’t blame him if he wants to divorce her.

Doesn’t matter if she’s spiritually clean; she’s still physically not a virgin and I cannot have that

He should forgive her and get a second wife😂

@ya766

2 ай бұрын

My Allah find something or someone that will mock you the way you are mocking our religion. I hope you ask for forgivenes.

@whozhio7878

2 ай бұрын

@@ya766 I'm not mocking I'm a Muslim

@ya766

2 ай бұрын

@@whozhio7878 getting a second wife to punish the wife Allah choose for you is not really forgiving.

@whozhio7878

2 ай бұрын

@@ya766 it doesn't have to be for punishment

@sickboy2917

Ай бұрын

I totally agree with you 💯

This Sheikh is without doing a great job for the ummah maa shaa Allah, but at this point I disagree with him! We r not saying that she can not be cleaned from her past, it's about the honor of her husband and his feelings. I would never marry a women with such a past, sorry but how could I live with her or have children and maybe out of nowhere there comes a guy who was her lover before???? I could not breath in peace.... Women (most as we see) nowadays lost their modesty, and yeah first and formost the hijabis who put tons of make ups, tigh dresses ect... and you go on and marry a women with these conditions??? May Allah forgive us all, I am just a brother who is trying to do his best, but I have my standards as long as they are not against Islam!

@infj5196

2 ай бұрын

True. Another significant fact that many people seem to forget is, even if Muslim men want to marry Christians and Jewish girls, Allah command us to marry chaste virgin ones. Not former fornicators

@SoldierOfAlIah

2 ай бұрын

I agree with you strongly as do a lot of us brothers in the comment section

@starryeyes.469

2 ай бұрын

what about men when they muslimen keep luring around and looking at non mehram women . you all just mention about women's hijab none of you mention about men's hijab to lower their gaze.if it's obligatory for her to cover then its obligatory for men to also perform covering of eyes its mention in Quran. Allah has command both equally to do so .

@Kratosgamingop

2 ай бұрын

Everyone has opinions. And I do agree with sheikh due to many strong reasons.

Almighty bless you Shykh May Allah bless our marriages and Almighty grant good spouses those who are waiting to get married Aameen

@MNA-di8hy

2 ай бұрын

@@olegnurmagomedov750 Олег успокойся, зачем одно и то же пишешь везде

@olegnurmagomedov750

2 ай бұрын

@@MNA-di8hy Вы бы чувствовали себя хорошо, если бы ваша жена оказалась шлюхой?

If this shouldn't matter, then why wpuld one have to look at character and akhlaq of the person before marriage? And why are Muslims advised to protect their chastity then? If past can be just ignored like that. Everyone could sin, not reveal it to the future spouse bcz they already repented to Allah.

@taimurahmad

2 ай бұрын

You are not understabding. The girl who commits this is adviced to not deceive or chest her future spouse and scholars say that non virginity is a defect that you mist expose especislly if there is requirement from the man. And this would not be exposing sin because she could be previously married if she isnt a virgin doesnt mean she is comitting zina. However it is different if he assumed she is a virgin and went along with the marriage and the marriage has already happened in this case. Therefore sholars say if he finds out then they advice to keep the marriage as there is sincere repentance involved. Ofcourse the cuoice id still his as he csn divorce for any reason

Bro you can legally marry another woman who is a virgin alongside her

@OxwinMilitary

2 ай бұрын

why not just divorce

@zabih21705

2 ай бұрын

@@OxwinMilitary bro try to understand it from her perspective as well She made a mistake in her past from which she has repented. And now if he is divorcing her for her past mistake (from which she has repented) how saddening and irrational it would be. I understand the man's pain as well but we have to look at things from his wife's perspective as well. So what I am trying to say is the man can legally get married to another woman and this will hurt his wife even more

@OxwinMilitary

2 ай бұрын

@@zabih21705 the brother clearly said he wanted to marry a virgin, the women shouldn't have reached out to him despite knowing the conditions. She deceived him.

@zabih21705

2 ай бұрын

​​​​​@@OxwinMilitary first of all islam encourages us to be forgiving but still if the brother wants to revenge his wife he can get married to another woman alongside her and this will hurt her even more because her husband would be in relationship to another woman in present and she was in relationship in past

@imperfect_subject

2 ай бұрын

@@zabih21705 Marrying a virgin and disregarding those with a past (even though repented) is about preference, not forgiveness. Sorry, but I can reject her for her looks which isn't even her own doing.

While I understand it will be a calamity for the girl to get divorced and for her family, and she may not find a partner again, or she might even go in depression commit more sins... that is not the business of this boy. This man made it clear he wanted a clean, muslim, virgin girl. He did not get that, instead got decieved. He is now extremely hurt and this will no doubt haunt him. A pure man who is afraid of being backstabbed can never trust his partner once decieved especially in sexual context. I know I could never trust her again. So why should he? Allah is all forgiving, yes, but this man is not Allah and he has a choice to make. I will support him with whichever decision he makes, both a reasonable decisions, to divorce or not to divorce. Only he can weigh in the concequences of and act accordingly. This woman, has made a big big mistake in her life. Multiple mistakes and threw it her whole good life away. I can only cry for her misfortune, even though it was her own fault.

@MuhammadFaisal-np7tc

2 ай бұрын

The sister never tell her husband in the first place she made a world biggest mistake in life i think sister is very crying after seeing her husband asking question to sheikh assim al hakim.And sister's mother also cry she should never tell her past.

We’re not merciful like Allah swt we can’t forgive like Allah swt. If the brother is upset go divorce her there is no problem at all.

@imperfect_subject

2 ай бұрын

It is not about forgiveness, it is about preference.

@hanmashuji5340

2 ай бұрын

@@imperfect_subject that was about the statement when the sheikh said Allah forgives shirk why can’t we forgive

@imperfect_subject

2 ай бұрын

​@@hanmashuji5340 Yeah, I just saw it, but what I mean is, virginity and that like could be classified psychological attractiveness. Even though the person repents, I can choose to reject her as I can based on her looks.

@boss69-so2zs

2 ай бұрын

@@hanmashuji5340 All forgives it but we arent Allah..

@mayg7415

2 ай бұрын

It is not our job to be merciful like him, that is why he is our creator

So its ok to concel, lie, and manipulate? But not tell the truth to your eternal partner in marriage? Or am i misunderstanding?

@OxwinMilitary

2 ай бұрын

feminism

@Bmuslim27

2 ай бұрын

You should never reveal your sins to the creation. You need to conceal your sins from us because that would then be a mercy of Allah upon you. Abu Huraira reported: The Messenger of Allah, peace and blessings be upon him, said, “Everyone from my nation will be forgiven except those who sin in public. Among them is a man who commits an evil deed in the night that Allah has hidden for him, then in the morning he says: O people, I have committed this sin! His Lord had hidden it during the night, but in the morning he reveals what Allah has hidden.” Source: Ṣaḥīḥ al-Bukhārī 6069, Ṣaḥīḥ Muslim 2990 Grade: Muttafaqun Alayhi (authenticity agreed upon) according to Al-Bukhari and Muslim

@Bmuslim27

2 ай бұрын

Umm Kulthum bint 'Uqbah (May Allah be pleased with her) reported: Messenger of Allah (ﷺ) said, 'The person who (lies) in order to conciliate between people is not a liar, when he conveys good or says (something) good". [Al-Bukhari and Muslim]. The narration in Muslim added: She said, "I never heard him (she meant the Prophet (ﷺ)) giving permission of lying in anything except in three (things): war, conciliating between people and the conversation of man with his wife and the conversation of a woman with her husband".

@OxwinMilitary

2 ай бұрын

@@Bmuslim27 she should've never went ahead with the marriage when she knew the brother wanted a virgin. This is clear deception and trickery.

@queendomlive

2 ай бұрын

​@@OxwinMilitary*islam

You wont care sheik, but this man cares!

@profa1084

2 ай бұрын

@@olegnurmagomedov750 past sins are past, repent and seek forgivness. My Allah proctect us from Zina and other sins Amin.

@mohammedtufail2912

2 ай бұрын

​@@olegnurmagomedov750 Virginity should not be anybodies need this man himself is very greedy I also committed many things in my life when I was in wrong way how could be a person be a good if his requirements are this much deep even Allah azzawajal had forgiven her then who is this person portraying himself as victim. People crying by the fact that she lied should so he should divorce shows what their thinking abilities and respect to opposite gender who will say that is your requirement is Virginity so okay I am not Virgin please marry other if I was in her place I would straight away would have slapped him and sent him to his house it's better to find a man without Virginity who as repented as the lady here herself did than to marry this psychopath and those who are asking that repentance doesn't brings Virginity should fear Allah you will still get 70 hoor in jannah are so pure that no jinn and ins ever touched them nor even saw them as Allah himself said this in Quran majeed this are for those who don't wish such nasty things asking Virginity and judging other's have some brain.

@StudyStudy-rm3in

2 ай бұрын

Then it's his prblm! he shouldn't have prblm as Allah has said that. Just likewise you ex Pect women to be satisfied with 4 marraiges. Bot every thing Revolves around men bro

@StudyStudy-rm3in

2 ай бұрын

The only bad thing about the women is she should have backed from marraige if the men had put the requirement before marraige

@Gggh691

2 ай бұрын

@@StudyStudy-rm3in why did she try to hide it beforehand? She knew it was wrong. Also she isn’t a virgin so there’s chances of encountering STI’s

Sheikh its about jealousy!!! A man would be hurted if he comes to know that his wife isn't virgin. He will feel jealous all the time!

@kopashamsu9913

2 ай бұрын

It has nothing to do with jealousy. It's about disgust and it's completely okay to feel disgusted in engaging in physical relationship with a non-virgin woman, like many other disgusting things that exist in the world.

Here in France, muslim guys (from north africa) was raised like "you can sleep with women like you want". But when it's time to get married, the first createria is "she must be virgin". Horrible, sounds hypocrite Allah get married virgins people together 🤲 We don't know why this guy is heartbroken. Only Allah knows

@taimurahmad

2 ай бұрын

this guy said he was virgin bfr marriage...

@san18384

2 ай бұрын

@@taimurahmad you're right. I put subtitles. She told him "multiple guys". Why did she tell him this? Is it true? Or for getting him nerves? Allah ahlem

@MuhammadFaisal-np7tc

2 ай бұрын

@@san18384 why she told him she is not a virgin.

@san18384

2 ай бұрын

@@MuhammadFaisal-np7tc you're right. Why people don't respect allah's rules ? I don't understand when you're muslim

The woman broke his trust, sheikh said "whatever he decides is best known to him and Allah"

@mohammedtufail2912

2 ай бұрын

Virginity should not be anybodies need this man himself is very greedy I also committed many things in my life when I was in wrong way how could be a person be a good if his requirements are this much deep even Allah azzawajal had forgiven her then who is this person portraying himself as victim. People crying by the fact that she lied should so he should divorce shows what their thinking abilities and respect to opposite gender who will say that is your requirement is Virginity so okay I am not Virgin please marry other if I was in her place I would straight away would have slapped him and sent him to his house it's better to find a man without Virginity who as repented as the lady here herself did than to marry this psychopath and those who are asking that repentance doesn't brings Virginity should fear Allah you will still get 70 hoor in jannah are so pure that no jinn and ins ever touched them nor even saw them as Allah himself said this in Quran majeed this are for those who don't wish such nasty things asking Virginity and judging other's have some brain.

Correct me if I'm wrong. In my opinion, I wouldn't care if my wife was previously married, once or twice. I could care less if she is perfect in religion and manners at present. But if she slept with men outside of marriage, its very no no for me. Im a virgin, i expect her to be chase just as i do. Guys, Please tell me your opinion. How can i have a mindset like a real man.

@NE-ib4jd

2 ай бұрын

That's perfectly reasonable.

@Alperen14226

2 ай бұрын

be jalous over your women folk at home, its fard for us men so that we are not considered a dayouth, and also if you are a dayouth allah says that he wont even look at your face on the day of judgement, so feel jelousy over your women.

@Bmuslim27

2 ай бұрын

My dear brother, Why care about anyone’s opinion? Abdullah ibn Mas’ud reported: The Messenger of Allah, peace and blessings be upon him, said, “The one who completely repented of sin is like one without sin.” Source: Sunan Ibn Mājah 4250 Grade: Hasan (fair) according to Al-Albani May Allah bless you and grant you one or 2 pious wives.

@khantzaw5376

2 ай бұрын

@@Bmuslim27 i was only talking about how i feel brother, im not disagreeing with sheik nor giving fatwah. and ameen. for you as well.

@assiabee6901

2 ай бұрын

You are completely right, the man should make it clear from the start this is what he wants. If she lies and says she is chaste and then later reveals. Well the issue isn't the fact she commit Zina, it's the fact she was deceitful. This is why it is so important when seeking a partner to ask around. I did this and my husband did the same. My friend knew a girl who studied with him, so I asked what he was like at Uni. He did similar. You cannot just go by a few meetings. You have to do background checks beforehand! If the man is a man who commit Zina and wants someone pure this is a different story and double standard. But pure men are for pure women.

Sheikh nicely told him at the end that it is halal to initiate a divorce. But reminded him to exercise mercy and have a forgiving heart. There's 2 main issues to be addressed. 1. The brother was lied to on a matter that was critical to him. And he had every right to ask what he right fully deserves. 2. Women with a history of multiple partners usually carry emotional baggage and comparison syndrome that she will be projecting on to the husband. It can severely affect the relationship if she does not take the marriage seriously and sincerely repent from her past. Considering the above, if moving forward with the marriage, would disrupt or even destroy any sense of mental peace of the husband. Then maybe its best both part their ways. Looks like theres no children involved so this issue has been made wayyy less complicated.

@AdamFirdaus-wm2xm

2 ай бұрын

@@olegnurmagomedov750 it would only not let you sleep if you were not a real man. Our mothers the wives of the prophet were almost all previously married. Does this disturb you as well? Audhubillah fear Allah

@olegnurmagomedov750

2 ай бұрын

@@AdamFirdaus-wm2xm So you can sleep with the thought of your wife being naked in front of other men? You can fall asleep soundly knowing that other men have touched your wife all over her body? Are you even a man?

@olegnurmagomedov750

2 ай бұрын

@@AdamFirdaus-wm2xm I find U disgusting. I am sorry if you feel hurt.

@amexvr

2 ай бұрын

@@AdamFirdaus-wm2xm yes married, not zina. Big difference

@olegnurmagomedov750

2 ай бұрын

@@AdamFirdaus-wm2xm You are not a real man. Good luck marrying an opened and touched woman.

Our Rabb said he Created Spouses that we may find Peace. This Guy has lost his peace. He deserves a better Wife. You can feel the hurt in his voice.

@mohammedtufail2912

2 ай бұрын

Virginity should not be anybodies need this man himself is very greedy I also committed many things in my life when I was in wrong way how could be a person be a good if his requirements are this much deep even Allah azzawajal had forgiven her then who is this person portraying himself as victim. People crying by the fact that she lied should so he should divorce shows what their thinking abilities and respect to opposite gender who will say that is your requirement is Virginity so okay I am not Virgin please marry other if I was in her place I would straight away would have slapped him and sent him to his house it's better to find a man without Virginity who as repented as the lady here herself did than to marry this psychopath and those who are asking that repentance doesn't brings Virginity should fear Allah you will still get 70 hoor in jannah are so pure that no jinn and ins ever touched them nor even saw them as Allah himself said this in Quran majeed this are for those who don't wish such nasty things asking Virginity and judging other's have some brain.

@therealmuhhafiz

2 ай бұрын

He lost his peace because he is not grateful with what Allah has provided him. He is not a man. He is a maggot.

So I can sleep with multiple woman now and change after marrying? Sounds weird to me

@azertyqwerty5946

2 ай бұрын

What do you suggest? Suppose someone slept with 100 men and now she wants to do Tawbah, are you saying she can never marry after Tawbah? Are you the one deciding who can be forgiven and who can't?

@zenastronomy

2 ай бұрын

​@@azertyqwerty5946i suggest you MUST marry that women with a 100 men body count. and if you are a women, then your son MUST marry her.

@azertyqwerty5946

2 ай бұрын

@@zenastronomy It's clear that you didn't understand what I was saying. Perhaps you should put your ego down reread OP's comment. OP was asking CAN I sleep and change after marriage. He never asked MUST the man marry her. Obviously the answer is no, he does not have to. But that was simply never the question.

@zenastronomy

2 ай бұрын

@@azertyqwerty5946 it is clear you didn't understand op through his bad typo

@azertyqwerty5946

2 ай бұрын

@@zenastronomy What typo? You can't make things up.

Well spoken and good to know that sins should not be revealed that Allah has forgiven.

@tracywillow5359

2 ай бұрын

Ya, you are right. It’s best to hide your past and the things that made you the person you are from your life partner. Seriously!!?? 😂

@luluwachedjari3299

2 ай бұрын

Some girls are born without virginity, some lose it through falling or sport when they were kids…….virginity is abstinence otherwise men would also have a physical evidence but they don’t have any because this is also one of life’s trials: hossn dhan

@CheaperAccount-bf7dq

2 ай бұрын

How is she forgiven when she already disrespected her husband and is destined for hell? I suppose only men can be "forgiven" and they don't have to bring up anything from their past.

@tracywillow5359

2 ай бұрын

@@CheaperAccount-bf7dq lol…. Yes, if I were her I would pray to become a man so I could be treated as a human.

@ambitiousmuslimrecordings3451

2 ай бұрын

@@olegnurmagomedov750​​⁠brother, with all due respect, what Islamic qualifications do you have that make your counterpoint to respected sheikh Asim valid? Wouldn’t it be wiser to believe and follow the opinion of an accredited scholar over someone who isn’t an accredited scholar?

May Allah preserve me from such women,even if the sins is between here and Allah and Allah has forgiven here it’s hard tremendously hard to look at your wife while remembering that many others man had gone through here (in a haram way ofc) . It’s really take a very low iman to do such things multiple times, but Allah is mercifull …May Allah forgive here and grant here a husband whom can bear that …and may Allah protect us from such sins Man or Female .

The man has every single reason to divorce, this is similar to the situation where this same imam said if a man promised not to marry a second wife before marriage and goes ahead to do it after years of marriage the wife has a right to go to court and divorce. But the husband who made virginity his 1 single requirement before marriage is betrayed and deceived, and some hypocrites are telling him to have taqwah? For a woman who deliberately lied to him, only to later reveal this 2 weeks after about how she has slept with not 1 or 2 but multiple men in the past. If this was a sister who had a condition for none polygamy before nikah, only to find out that the husband had 2 wives already with multiple kids would we tell her the same? And polygamy is sunnah while Zina is a major sin. I hope Allah corrects most our thinking on this site and keep us on the straight path as Muslims, before westernization lands some of us in jahannam

if the man can forgive thats better, if he cant then he can leave. . peoples life peoples choice. you live for Allah ,make him happy. if the woman has repented, Allah will bless her regardless u divorce her or not

Someone goes to a car dealer to buy a brand new car. He pays with his hard earn cash. Might even be in debt at the end to get his brand new car. On the day of delivery, they send him a used car with dents on it. Would you ask your money back?

@ElyziumPrime

2 ай бұрын

Right, The main issue here IMHO would be the conditions from the start not being met. And of course woman is not a commodity! 😅 Thanks for pointing this out and I hope my comment does not get interpreted the wrong way.

@tlo4ed540

2 ай бұрын

a woman is not a vehicle, a vehicle doesnt have the ability to regret and repent from their sins

@Alperen14226

2 ай бұрын

@@tlo4ed540 you dont get the point, he means to say that if you say that you are a virgin, but arent, thats just deceit in broad daylight

@nak.lanang

2 ай бұрын

@@tlo4ed540 lack of IQ to understand analogy 😳

@Gggh691

2 ай бұрын

Of course that is basic knowledge, who would want to keep someone like that. That would be totally unfair. Someone who is a virgin but he ends up with a girl who is not? That is not fair, would the girl have any STI’s? It’s common sense, who would want a used up sl@@g

If a man has protected his virginity and he wants a virgin wife- it’s absolutely forbidden for a woman to lie to him ann claim herself to be a virgin, it's an act of deception. The woman did the wrong thing sheikh, don’t downplay the mental devastation the guy is going through; fear Allah. Whether the guy should divorce his wife? It’s upto him. No one has the right to tell him that he shouldn’t divorce his wife and all. If he thinks it’s unbearable for him to deal with it, he should divorce her.

Brother if you can't trust her divorce her. It will just create more problems in the future. A marriage without trust is hell. Past matters.there is no way a person who was clean all his life be able to trust someone who did it with not just one but multiple people. Especially if he or she is a born muslim and not a revert

@shadowstorm5261

2 ай бұрын

Exactly

@shadowstorm5261

2 ай бұрын

@@olegnurmagomedov750 it will only be a downward spiral leading to abuse or divorce. its better if he takes the divorce and marries multiple women

@muazunais2378

2 ай бұрын

This is why I think that no man should sign away his rights like now there is a trend where Muslim women has conditions that he can't marry more than 1. If the husband ever found out something like this then he has the option to marry another and if she doesn't like she can divorce and return the mahr and there's no loss for him. Cuz you can't trust no one women are smart nowadays we aren't in the 19th century anymore they know how to take advantage pretty well. I'm not saying all women are untrustworthy but a considerable percentage now is so be prepared so you won't feel sorry about it.

@mymuslimthoughts6903

2 ай бұрын

​@@shadowstorm5261this non Muslim is here as well?

@taimurahmad

2 ай бұрын

​@@shadowstorm5261mymulimthiugjts is the accoumt "women of jannah" the one who denied obediemce to husband. She changed het namr

Why you are even questioning. If you find she is not virgin than leave her divorce her . Allah will not hate you or give u punishment.

Very well explained and great advice by Shaikh Asim 🎉🎉❤❤

JAZAKALAKAI Sheikh

I get what the Sheikh is suggesting that you base people on what they currently are in the present but at the same time if this would happen to me I would feel so devasted and cheated. I m not claiming that I m the most pious man on the earth but it my right to choose whom marry and I would like be with a person who holds same value as me

Wow! Totally unexpected but well thought answer! ❤

Hi I need help on a question. In England there is a scheme called P.I.P ( personal independence payment) this is for people who have disabilities or old people to help them with everyday costs. There is no riba or contracts. And everything is done truthfully. I have given evidence of my disability and they give me money every month to help out. Is this permissible in Islam. Jazakallah

rather then consoling him ,as the brother sounded broken - the shk started to attack him on how he found out. whats wrong with you

It matters. Going with multiple partners can give diseases.

If we let this type of behavior slide. In future many women would do this and then ask forgiveness(Allah will forgive but probably bot their spouse). Like so if we let men slide for these Sins they did in the past many more men will do this and then say they have become good today. And I think if it broken him to much if he feels betrayed he shouldn't stay with her

The advice that you give the people is so good. May Allah bless you multiple times.

May Allah make all the repented people meet each other at least they'll understand each other and may accept

@accursedrepugnant

14 күн бұрын

!!!!! youu’re righht!!!

Betrayed that she was not a virgin? ..... No worries! Marry a second one who is virgin, easy. Man up🤗

@FattestCatInThePlnt

2 ай бұрын

That is not easy as you think, the brother here mustve loved the sister as his first love.

@sickboy2917

Ай бұрын

​@@FattestCatInThePlnt now he will make love with another wife.😊

This is a wise way of thinking but I believe there is nothing wrong if he disagrees and divorces.

@khairulkamal5454

2 ай бұрын

@@olegnurmagomedov750 how can you say the past matter even if he/she has repented? Can you say the same thing to the companions of our beloved Prophet saw? Can you say those thing to Umar ra who before embracing islam, he torture the believers in Makkah? Allah is the Most Merciful and Forgiving. As the Prophet Saw say, all sons of Adam ra sins, but the best of them is those who repent.

@AdamFirdaus-wm2xm

2 ай бұрын

@@olegnurmagomedov750 “whatever” so what do you say about the companions who did evil before they became muslim? Or are you trying to avoid this because it goes against your whims and desires

@arifalam6968

2 ай бұрын

​@@AdamFirdaus-wm2xm they were not Muslim that time.tell me name of companions who commited Zina after becoming Muslim, But here she is Muslim and committed Zina with multiple persons.

@yusra3198

2 ай бұрын

​@@olegnurmagomedov750 I understand your point but people flipping because you are being selfish and trying to be above God. If Allah can forgive, so can you. Because you are literally nothing in front of Him. Always remember brother, when you become adamant on such things and say this publicly which might hurt someone. Allah shows you and this may happen to you. May be you will get a wife who is not a virgin but you wont know. So please be respectful and forgiving and pray to Allah in silence. Not publicly announcing it, debating it and hurting other. Be a good muslim. We Muslim women also NEEED our husbands to be respectful to other people, specially companions of Prophet (SAW). Be a good muslim first. May Allah guide you.

@muazunais2378

2 ай бұрын

This is why I think that no man should sign away his rights like now there is a trend where Muslim women has conditions that he can't marry more than 1. If the husband ever found out something like this then he has the option to marry another and if she doesn't like she can divorce and return the mahr and there's no loss for him. Cuz you can't trust no one women are smart nowadays we aren't in the 19th century anymore they know how to take advantage pretty well. I'm not saying all women are untrustworthy but a considerable percentage now is so be prepared so you won't feel sorry about it.

The same happened with my wife and I. At first I was upset but now I have accepted it and we are expecting our first child.

@MuhammadFaisal-np7tc

Ай бұрын

Why you accepted

@user-kw8nq1se9z

Ай бұрын

@MuhammadFaisal-np7tc She is a very beautiful women. I am not handsome so I could never imagine getting a girl like her ever again.

@MuhammadFaisal-np7tc

Ай бұрын

@@user-kw8nq1se9z I understand but I have a question that why did your wife commit adultery and why did she hide it from you and how did you behave when you found out? Because if I find out that my wife has committed adultery, I will never be able to forgive her.

@asiyaasaeed8437

25 күн бұрын

@@user-kw8nq1se9za win win situation

@yobro6053

22 күн бұрын

@@user-kw8nq1se9zI respect the honesty lol kept it real .

It will break my heart, I am a virgin if I found out my wife was not, it will make me angry .

Nobody is perfect. Listen to Sheikh, ya akhi. It was all in her past and so long as she has repented, tried her best to getting close to Allah while being a good wife, don't ruin your marriage. Maybe your understanding & forgiveness will make her love & respect you more. Or at least, may Allah forgive your mistakes too because of this.

@cinto1394

2 ай бұрын

​​​​​@@olegnurmagomedov750 it is a test for them. Surely, the decision is up to the husband. It's just unfortunate that the Shaytan will win again. You let the shaytan messed up with your head if you played that sin which you didn't even witness. Na'uudzubillaah. Please watch your language, "inserted into your wife"? Is that how you see women? I hope that's not how you see a divorcee/widow. Once he divorced her, will he marry a virgin when he's no longer a virgin himself?

@muazunais2378

2 ай бұрын

This is why I think that no man should sign away his rights like now there is a trend where Muslim women has conditions that he can't marry more than 1. If the husband ever found out something like this then he has the option to marry another and if she doesn't like she can divorce and return the mahr and there's no loss for him. Cuz you can't trust no one women are smart nowadays we aren't in the 19th century anymore they know how to take advantage pretty well. I'm not saying all women are untrustworthy but a considerable percentage now is so be prepared so you won't feel sorry about it.

@MS32942

2 ай бұрын

@@olegnurmagomedov750i feel sorry for how many times you replied to these idiots who married hoes. You should not have to explain yourself

@MS32942

2 ай бұрын

Mate you’re a simp!!! You are obviously a broke unattractive man who repels women so now has to settle for someone sloppy seconds. Its what all broke boys do. So go and enjoy your used bicycle but don’t force us to join your misery wheel

@olegnurmagomedov750

2 ай бұрын

You were right. I used extremely harsh words for women which I should not have used. I am deleting all my comments. May Allah bless you and may Allah forgive me.

This is wrong. She will always compare him to her previous experiences whether in bed or with money or with looks and height. If she willingly tells him what is the problem with him leaving. He is a virgin not a playboy. He deserves the same.

@user-dx1qv4yz5i

2 ай бұрын

Ew no; If she truly repented she'd hate everything about what she had done, and would feel remorse from it, and would make sure it never happens, so much so she'd put a greater effort in guarding her chasity, not all women are how red pill takers claim they are. Not saying those women don't exist but our religion doesn't go by ' guilty until proven innocent'.

@striveinallahspath400

2 ай бұрын

​@@olegnurmagomedov750 not all young Muslim men. But Muslim Men who have controlled themselves only for their wives and not any promiscuous man seeking a virgin when you aren't one yourself

@abdiqafarhashi8604

2 ай бұрын

​@@user-dx1qv4yz5iok, what do you want him to do, stay and resent his wife forever. No intimacy, no happiness for both of them. You know divorce is halal right, no one has to suffer

@user-dx1qv4yz5i

2 ай бұрын

@@abdiqafarhashi8604 no youve got me wrong;marriage like that can only be fruitful( after what seems to breach of trust) unless Allah makes it so, I'm not against the man divorcing for this. I was more so irritated by you're statement( I know you meant good but you're kind of painting a picture of women of that past universally being as shameless as what you've stated; they exist but aren't necessarily the norm). In the end you have to look at her current character( because in Islam her past is only for her and Allah to know, unless she lies deliberately, but trying to find out with innately invasive questions isn't the way to go either; for prying into someone's private matters, let alone their past, is deeply shunned), does she genuinely look like someone who would guard her chastity currently, is she pious, kind hearted, and is in general an obedient wife? If no then there's not much that can prevent a divorce, if yes then think harder about the choice you intend to make.

@user-dx1qv4yz5i

2 ай бұрын

@@abdiqafarhashi8604 give it a week or a month and see if it things work out, if not atleast you knew you walked out of something you don't have the power to fix. As heartless as it may sound, let him wait a bit and see if there's any possible positive change in that marriage, if not then there's truly no reason to suffer further in that marriage. Trying reconciliation is not out of weakness but patience but was never made an obligation nonetheless, in the end the man knows his condition better than most of us, so let us pray that he makes the right call ( whatever that may be)

What a wonderful and enlightened answer

Sheikh I totally disagree with you faithfulness transparency is very viral in before marriage. From my experience I had same situation later ended with divorce

Great Answer Dear Sir....Really loved your answer💜💜

@TheSusulove

2 ай бұрын

Subhanallah, what a good response!!!! Brother, have patience, and like the Sheikh said, if she ticked all the boxes alhamdulillah, if not, the ball is in your court. May Allah grant you sabr.

If this is the case then if a women has slept with 20 men for example however she has repented after and became a practicing women then would it still be okay to marry her? I mean it’s the same thing as what sheikh is saying here.

@azertyqwerty5946

2 ай бұрын

Yes you can marry her.

@M4.71

2 ай бұрын

@@azertyqwerty5946 what I was trying to get at was the sheikh is saying quite ridiculous things

@azertyqwerty5946

2 ай бұрын

@@M4.71 He didn't. He never said it's forbidden to divorce. He was advising him to forgive her. But it doesn't mean that there is anything wrong with marrying a woman that has repented.

@justanaverageenjoyer8494

2 ай бұрын

​@@azertyqwerty5946 but you wouldn't marry girl whos been used 20 times , stop lying 😂

For a practicing Muslim man & woman, if a virgin means unmarried, it indirectly means he/she didn't commit Zina.

@imperfect_subject

2 ай бұрын

This is the opinion of some scholars, but I disagree with that.

@aqifmahmood2939

2 ай бұрын

@@imperfect_subject u disagreeing doesn't matter cause U r not scholar.

@imperfect_subject

2 ай бұрын

@@aqifmahmood2939 If some scholars say this, this means there are also other scholars who disagree with that.

@MuhammadFaisal-np7tc

2 ай бұрын

@@imperfect_subject give me name one scholar that disagree

In Quran Allah says bad women are for bad men and bad men are for bad women.

Sheikh Al-Hakeem, he is my role model and that is how I used to give lectures

This is a problem nowadays people are so stupid to expose their past sins and make problems for themselves. May Allah forgive us

@m.r.1445

2 ай бұрын

​@@olegnurmagomedov750 yet it is not allowed to tell him about it

@thanks_man1268

2 ай бұрын

But at the same time, they can't be deceitful like how she was.

@AdamFirdaus-wm2xm

2 ай бұрын

@@olegnurmagomedov750 it is absolutely prohibited for her to expose her past sins. For you to claim otherwise requires you to bring forth evidence for the exception. Islam is based on evidence. Not the feelings of men or women

@Rayan-id3gk

2 ай бұрын

@@AdamFirdaus-wm2xm yh, but the question from the guy in in the video is that the women exposed that sin herself without him pushing it.

@AdamFirdaus-wm2xm

2 ай бұрын

@@Rayan-id3gk yeah thats exactly why i said its absolutely stupid and disgusting to expose your sin like that when Allah has already covered it for you. The brother obviously s the right to divorce her as the sheikh said. Its his marriage

It's his right, to divorce or keep her. But he don't have to disclose she wasn't virgin. He seems devastated and broken. Brother may Allah forgive your sins and provide you better rizq

What a great answer 👏 In the end divorce is not a sin If you can't move on than divorce is right there And I ask Allah to protect us all

Forcing an innocent man to marry an experienced woman is like ruining his life forever. Even in islam in marriage contract you have a right to ask about previous encounters.

I am not a scholar or anything. I don’t think he would be sinful if he divorces his wife. But if she is a decent woman now and he forgives and moves on, he will be rewarded for this. Yes her past may not be clean but your past may not be clean either. Maybe you never committed zina but you may have done other things. If Allah chose this woman for you. Try to understand the hikmah behind this if you divorce her and bring sadness and pain to many people too, you may be punished for that too. You gotta understand her situation. You agreed to marry her that means he has other good qualities. If she doesn’t have anything beyong her beauty and virginity then you got what you deserved in the first place.

@Alperen14226

2 ай бұрын

you do understand that if he knew she was like that that he would have never even considered marrying her right.

@imperfect_subject

2 ай бұрын

The Prophet advised us to marry virgin women.

@they1lm4z

2 ай бұрын

@@Alperen14226 yes but it is inappropriate to ask her that question and it might be risky for her to share this. It would bring shame to herself and her family. We all hide things that we feel embarrassed. This is a tough situation. I would feel sad and mad like this brother for sure. But I also like to emphasize with the sister as well.

@they1lm4z

2 ай бұрын

@@imperfect_subject have you ever read that the prophet and his companions ever asked a women whether she is virgin or not before marriage? I have never heard that.

@imperfect_subject

2 ай бұрын

@@they1lm4z I don't think, you have to ask her directly. You can make virginity a condition of marriage for example.

Someone is missing the point here... She deceived him, end of. Hw can they establish a healthy marriage on a big lie. She didnt hv to say hw many partners she had bfr but at least to tell him that he wasn't the first.

The guy has a point and the sheikh has a point. The guy feels ashamed and broken because of the shame of knowing someone else has seen his wife's body and has done stuff with her and might have her pictures... (assumption based on how those relationships usually work) And assim al hakeem has a point that his wife could/has repented and that she shouldn't of told him her past

@beanhole123

2 ай бұрын

Its a bisaed pov. The brother clearly meantioned he wanted a untouched women in the contract. So she should of simply not married him.

@sickboy2917

Ай бұрын

How do you know she has repented??? Are you speculating??

Allah is Allah. He can do anything such as forgiving anyone. But we are mere creation of Allah. We cannot forgive the way Allah does.

Have a 2nd wife who is pure and religious and dont leave the first one This way, if you care for your first wife, you will have her, love her, protect her. And you will also have what you wanted in a wife before marriage.

@nathangrey6236

2 ай бұрын

Good Idea but these so called feminist would be like: Islam says you shouldn't judge your wife but start crying if men take 2 wives

@salad3955

2 ай бұрын

I dont know this brother so I cant judge his wealth but lets be honest in todays world even having 1 partner is expensive imagine having two and having to provide for both and being fair

@mymuslimthoughts6903

2 ай бұрын

​@@nathangrey6236yet another stupid comment by you. According to your logic, since all Muslim women are doing zina, men need more tha one wife? I cannot stand jahils who make sujood to red pill ideology

@TheBrucelei

2 ай бұрын

It’s only a good idea if you are able to provide for both wife financially and sexually and be just. If you go to any scholars to seek advice for second wife, they will ask about your income first. Most men want to have many wives but they can’t even feed them properly or rent a separate house for the second wife since both of them cannot live in the same place.

@mymuslimthoughts6903

2 ай бұрын

@@nathangrey6236 may Allah protect our sisters from you, ameen.

Honestly speaking it’s a very weird predicament because If she doesn’t reveal she is not doing any haram or wrong as spouses don’t have to tell each other about their past as explained by sheikh. If she reveals regardless of the condition as in this scenario she is in trouble. Either way it’s up to male how he feels about her and it totally depends on him whether he wants to stay with her or divorce her, but it is not that easy. Bottom line, they have to work it out, if they love each other and love conquers all.

If I kill 10 Million people, if I repent I also cant expose my sins because its haram and I will never tell it to anyone. Heads up for the good advice sheikh! 💪🏻

Thats the right speech shaykh

Bro leave her

@Leon-S_kennedy

Ай бұрын

no it's not right what you are saying maybe she has repented and that will make her feel bad if he leaves her sheikh is right we must forgive in Islam

@sickboy2917

Ай бұрын

​@@Leon-S_kennedy she has repented and Allah has forgiven her but not the man .

If women can have requirements then men can have it too. Especially today where there are many, men and women alike who used the command to conceal your sins to commit zina and other sins. At this point, what are the different between those Muslim and Christian? Nothing, except the Christian doesn't need to conceal it because zina has become so normal for them. If you're truly and sincerely repent then good, praise be to Allah, but if you concealing it just so you could get married because you already done everything then know that your intention will be judge accordingly. Don't forget that the Glorious Quran said that fornicator would only marry another fornicator and it's forbidden for the believers.

@Alperen14226

2 ай бұрын

that is until they repent and get the punishment they deserve, from then on they are not seen as fornicators as far as I know, but you can ask this to a sheikh just to be sure

Well said Sheikh

All of you busting Sheikh chops, Stop and listen. The Sheikh answered him with sound knowledge that can be backed by authentic hadith. He then went on and gave detailed explanation. In the end the Sheikh told the concerned husband, in the end (meaning: after all I have said to you, after all the sound proof), Brother the decision to keep or divorce your wife is yours to make. What is wrong with that? He gave sound proven knowledge, advice and leaves the decision to him. Come on people, Listen and comprehend. Stop being so sensitive

@Iammuslimah06

2 ай бұрын

@olegnurmagomedov750 IMO....the fact that she let the husband believe she was a virgin is the problem. The marriage was based on a lie. If the husband knew she was not a virgin he may not have married her. He was deceived. Is the marriage even Halal due to the dishonesty on the wife's part🤔? She could've simply told him she's Not a virgin and give him the chance to marry or not marry her....heartbreaking for this Bro

@zenastronomy

2 ай бұрын

because no one walks away understanding the terms and conditions written at the bottom of the page. ppl understand based on the impression left by the bulk of the video. sheikh basically white knighted and killed this guy. maybe ruining his life. imagine this happens. guy goes home and follows the 90% of sheikhs video. stays married to her. has children. then finds out she slept with so and so all these ppl he knows. it eats him up inside. he's sad and unhappy. which makes her sad and unhappy. so they constantly argue. she makes disparaging remarks about how other men aren't like him, maybe her friends husband etc. he takes it as a dig, when it isn't. this repeats. they divorce. children are traumatised by broken family. when a quick and easy solution is divorce her now, as they have only recently married, and they have no children. he goes and marries someone else, who knows he's a divorcee. so no one thinks he's a virgin. she goes and marries again, and her new husband knows she's not a virgin either. they both potentially live happier lives. without trauma or deception.

@MuhammadFaisal-np7tc

2 ай бұрын

The sister never tell her husband in the first place she made a world biggest mistake in life i think sister is very crying after seeing her husband asking question to sheikh assim al hakim.And sister's mother also cry she should never tell her past.

@shahadomar8680

Ай бұрын

@@Iammuslimah06 The sheikh said, she’s not allowed to say her past sins, whatever did she do, it doesn’t matter if she repented to Allah. She didn’t deceive him because that was something he shouldn’t question her from the first place. If he knew she wasn’t married before. That’s something she shouldn’t tell to anyone, and It was wrong of her to tell him about it. Wether a man or a woman doesn’t matter both should not tell about their past sinful life and that should be between them and Allah no person is allowed to know about these private stuff even if they lie in order to hide it.

@user-ts4cr6jx8i

7 күн бұрын

@@shahadomar8680 she decieved him into believing she is a virgin.he didnt ask if she was a virgin. he said his requirement was a virgin.he didnt do nothing wrong

Some brothers who mistranslated the ayah from the Quran please go and read it again and understand.

Yes, but if she lied, it breaks the marriage contract and it's haram

Sheikh is all correct here no rude dont judge by comments.

@nazneen790

2 ай бұрын

@@olegnurmagomedov750 if the boy is the true muslim then he will respect her repentance and accept her as his wife for the sake of Allah . That's it end of conversation

@muazunais2378

2 ай бұрын

This is why I think that no man should sign away his rights like now there is a trend where Muslim women has conditions that he can't marry more than 1. If the husband ever found out something like this then he has the option to marry another and if she doesn't like she can divorce and return the mahr and there's no loss for him. Cuz you can't trust no one women are smart nowadays we aren't in the 19th century anymore they know how to take advantage pretty well. I'm not saying all women are untrustworthy but a considerable percentage now is so be prepared so you won't feel sorry about it.

@user-ue4fh5mv9s

2 ай бұрын

@@nazneen790perhaps you are okay with having a wife who enjoyed her youth jumping from men to men and when she realized she is getting old she settled for this poor guy and played with his life

@olegnurmagomedov750

2 ай бұрын

@@nazneen790 Nope. No true Muslim man with Gheerah would accept such a wife. You are delusional if you think woman with colorful past can get away with it.

@nazneen790

2 ай бұрын

@@user-ue4fh5mv9s correction needed she doesn't realized she was getting old she realized she has done wrong and repented to Allah swt.

Now I see why Sheikh Aseem is disabling comments in his own channel. Because of "wanna-be scholars" like these who think they know better. That being said the brother needs a 1 on 1 session, face to face with a Sheikh and discuss the issue. A proper counseling session where all the stories are told in order to find a solution. A question and answer session like this will not help him in this situation

@junaidrashid9439

2 ай бұрын

​@@olegnurmagomedov750past is past if she repented but if she will do after marrying you then leave her. Coz you're accountable for her after marry otherwise you will be a Dayooth.

@zenastronomy

2 ай бұрын

sheikh gives bad advice. one size fits all answers without looking into the details. that's why so many people get upset with his videos.

@mdmoshiurrahmankhan2296

2 ай бұрын

​@@zenastronomy this fucking sheikh tells that women can make a conditions in marriage but a can't give conditions.

Masha Allah, beautiful answer sheikh. May Allah bless us with the best of spouse.

This is strange advice. Allah is perfect and can overlook such acts, humans are flawed and innately jealous and cannot do such a utopian thing. If a man done his due diligence prior to marriage such as having a clause in his criteria that fornication is a deal breaker. doesn't have double standards and finds out unwillingly that he was decieved.. do what you got to do, get the divorce but never expose or shame her further

If she lied to you, divvorce her

@zuleykha2012

2 ай бұрын

Go get an education

@AbdulazizKider

2 ай бұрын

​@@olegnurmagomedov750 brother why are you everywhere repeating the samething? Even the Prophet(peace be upon him) married divorcies so why are you insistent on this? As the original comment said my advice would be if she lied to him he should divorce her, otherwise then he should listen to Sheikh Assim's advice. Anyhow even then if he were to divorce her it is not a sin on him

@iamakhilmohd

2 ай бұрын

​@@zuleykha2012calm down feminist 🤡

@Call_me_sameer05

2 ай бұрын

​@@AbdulazizKiderbrother prophet saw married widow who were married to the husband and that's halal they can be in relationship after marriage. But in brother's case his wife was in relationship with many people before the marriage which is absolutely haram.. do you understand what I mean..

@AbdulazizKider

2 ай бұрын

@@Call_me_sameer05 my comment was specifically meant for him. I am not comparing the Prophet's wife's to someone who committed Zina. The person I replied to is stuck on marrying virgins only. Read his other comments and you will understand what I mean. He kept on saying things like if someone else has entered her already she will compare you to them and so on, and this applies to divorcies as well. By the way nothing wrong in wanting to marry virgins only, but his comments are just a bit out of line.

Very bad advice. Why are you bashing him? It was his condition. He was lied to. If he keeps her, it is good of him but don’t force it on him. If he leaves her, the sin is not on him. And Allah knows best.

Shk. didn't answer to the point. He didn't percept the question of the Guy and gave answer like a common formula.😢

What the respected Shaykh says here is partly right and partly wrong. Forbidden to disclose the secret sins of any man. In the same way it is forbidden to cheat people. If a person wants to marry a woman, who has not touched any man before marriage and no man has touched that woman. That woman did not reveal her physical beauty to any man. That man has that right it's his personal choice. You can't force him to marry a woman he doesn't like. But if a woman marries a man who lies about herself or conceals the truth, then it is definitely cheating. Because that man does not want a woman as his wife whose beauty has been enjoyed by any other man. The same is true for women. If a woman wants to marry a virgin man, that would be her best choice. That Allah can forgive people's secret sins if He wills is a different matter. It is between Allah and that person. But when it comes to marriage. Then the matter is about likes, dislikes, love and loyalty between two men and women. The respected Shaykh, knowingly or unknowingly, has confused two different issues.

I think he wasn't sad because she was a non-virgin rather he was sad that she committed Zina. Honestly I've seen men marey divorced women( 2 times) happily. But they don't like womem who Commited Zina(even if it was only with one man). He felt betrayed bcz he had to commit and marry her meanwhile she gave it to a man who didn't even consider to commit

@purplelove3666

2 ай бұрын

Well don't some of you men give to women without being committed to her or her being committed to you? It's Haram both ways,put your ego down!,it won't benefit you

@infj5196

2 ай бұрын

​@@purplelove3666 what nonsense are you talking about? Pure virgin men deserve to marry pure virgin girls. We dont want used and loose products

@Alperen14226

2 ай бұрын

@@purplelove3666 do you even read what you are implying, did the brother say that ONLY women do this, but we all can aggree that if someone has certain requirements, he deserves to not be lied to and get what he himself is, if someone is a pure woman, why the hell should she be with a men who has slept with multiple women, think about it like that for once, would you have been happy if your husband had done somethign like that with someone else

@MuhammadFaisal-np7tc

2 ай бұрын

@@purplelove3666 shut up liberal leech moran feminist.

@mayg7415

2 ай бұрын

​@@purplelove3666another feminist spotted

The comments section is very telling of the true believers and the cherry pickers. The command of Allah is above your ego.

@Little-sv5ql

2 ай бұрын

Allah never commanded to cheat or lie or have haram relationship.

@nathangrey6236

2 ай бұрын

The command of Allah was to not commit Zina as well. Why did her ego go above and commit zina?

@MS32942

2 ай бұрын

You married a hoe then 😂😂😂😂😂

@mahdiyyahmahomed7716

2 ай бұрын

Very well said. People's egos will be their downfall

@MS32942

2 ай бұрын

@@mahdiyyahmahomed7716 tough. Deal with it. There are plenty who are still virgins and fertile. Why don’t you marry a homeless man smoking crack?? Come on marry him? Swallow your ego.

Telling someone and telling someone whom this interaction is relevant i mean a wife and husband can see these things about eachother.

Pray to Allah and ask Him to guide you in deciding this particular matter.

The man doesn't want to be considered as a dayooth yet this sheikh went hard on him. While failing to enlist the scholars who had the similar stance. Fear Allah, Sheikh!

@Little-sv5ql

2 ай бұрын

He fears Allah more than you, therefore in the end he specifically said it is upto that man.

@titan_fbg4816

2 ай бұрын

He is isn't a scholar he is just a councilor.

Only wrong thing she did was exposing her past sins

@IM-hh3wk

2 ай бұрын

She should've concealed her sins but not married him and made an excuse not to marry him because she knew he didn't want to marry a non Virgin

I think these issues often stem in arrange marriages when families sometimes force their children to marry someone. Maybe the sister is not very religious and comes from an upbringing where they were merely Muslim as a label, then if you get married into that family while being righteous yourself then you feel cheated. Sheikh always assumes the that all his followers are extremely practicing but in reality I am willing to bet it’s a whole spectrum. If this is the case then the sister should’ve been honest.

she lied before getting married but why shk being more judgemental towards the caller ?

Dear Brother you can marry a second wife who is a virgin ,or you throw her out the window divorce her and then marry a good wife who is a virgin

Divorce. No need to think about it.

@sickboy2917

Ай бұрын

Noo bro. He should keep her and also marry another girl 😊

I know where sheikh is coming from I agree what he says but I don’t like when he is bashing the brother for it