Dated a girl who literally was all that you described. Thought I could save her, that she just needed love. My Mother, family and friends all told me don't do this...proud and vain, thinking I could do God's work I didn't listen. I gave her everything and it was never good enough. She'd use God against me but when I brought up that she wasn't in line with God she said "why are you bringing God into this?". I learnt my lesson.. In the end I was left broken but Jesus used this to humble me and draw me closer to Him. God used this to make me realise how far I was from HIM. To anyone in the same place- REPENT and turn to God and HE can turn even a horrible experience into a blessing. God is good.

@mcgyver4129

Жыл бұрын

I had an experience very much like this. Although the girl I dated wasn't Christian at all. I thought I was meant to save her but ended up miserable in the end. But it did really put my faith in perspective. I've been Christian my whole life and never really had it challenged to that extent before. It made my realized how grateful I was to have God in my life and how it was something I wanted to maintain going forward.

@mariahmejia1679

Жыл бұрын

I had a similar experience as well but mine was about a guy God uses these situations not only to humble us but to teach us how important God truly is how much we need him pray and seek him in everything we do

@someonesomewhereoutthere1994

Жыл бұрын

@@mcgyver4129 Amen Brother. God is good.😊🙏🏼

@someonesomewhereoutthere1994

Жыл бұрын

@@mariahmejia1679 I concur Sister. Praise God!🙏🏼

@hsmfan071

Жыл бұрын

Exactly! God is good all the time! My husband dated a lot of girls before God helped us find each other. It was defiantly worth waiting for. 😊

As a currently single woman, I’m taking notes

@hamilton9651

Жыл бұрын

I don't need to take notes. I want to be by myself and prefer celibacy. I'm so broken the concept of a relationship is alien to me!

@dailyyt3227

11 ай бұрын

Understand the emotions and personality of people, you'll get what partner you desire and deserve, be in real life be practical and life is not like shorts or how people tell you , you have to explore life . I'm a aethist but I think nature is the only god

@hamilton9651

11 ай бұрын

@@dailyyt3227 Won't work. I was abused as a kid and am severely emotionally wounded. I can't even talk to other people except very generally, but socially no way. I'm past my prime now anyway, so I think it's too late.

@dailyyt3227

11 ай бұрын

@@hamilton9651 read my comment again and understand, I know it takes time to understand what I I'm saying. I think you should read psychology on human behaviour, then you will get my point .

@Therock-lw3np

9 ай бұрын

Just a heads up’s a lot of Christian man can be very toxic because they think that they own you please be safe

In other words : DONT SAVE HER, SHE DONT WANHA BE SAVED🗣️🗣️🗣️

@daydreamdirty

28 күн бұрын

Sad right? I wonder 🤔 if she’s one of those women who complains on TikTok aka TikSLOP about how she’s single?

I always have trouble with mastubting and not being pure. Please pray for me

@Bienave

4 ай бұрын

Joem I pray that you may be free from all sexual bondage that will never fill the void that only the nonjudgmental love of Jesus Christ can fill. May the Holy Spirit guide your way to freedom and healing because our Father is waiting on the door to dress you again with white clean clothes as you surrender your efforts in confidence and peace that only in His strength all sexual immorality is gone. I love you and if He did it with me, He can do it with you

@bonezbaaaby

3 ай бұрын

It's probably a demon. We cast it out in Jesus ' name.

@SkkyyC

2 ай бұрын

Yes it’s a demon. Cast it out by the authority of Jesus Christ. Not by your might or strength but by the spirit of God almighty. Maybe do a fast before you cast it out as well. While you’re there, mention other spirits of sin you might be struggling with. May the Holy Spirit lead you. I pray for your strength and protection during this task.

@kleptosepto1848

24 күн бұрын

TMI

Please pray for me, I’ve been changing my life for the better. I fix the relationship I have with my father, no longer having premarital sex and quit smoking weed and they gave my father last year but everything else happens at the end of this year and I’m still struggling with certain things. I’m trying to have a close relationship with God and I’ve been crying and praying every day.

@sarahwinchell3290

Жыл бұрын

Wow, I commend you sister!! Praise the Lord for your actions- I know He is so pleased with you. I will be praying!!

@paulrussell6495

6 ай бұрын

I am with you sis, the desire for sin is so strong, and at times, you feel you are praying and praying and no one listening, which is where I'm currently at. Never give up or give in. Keep knocking and asking, Satan hates us and wants us to give up. I'm never gona give up or stop asking

hmm..having a hard time with the "contentious with father" part because my dad is a narcissist who believes he never does any wrong. He's controlling towards my mom and manipulative. Kinda hard to have a healthy relationship with him and agree with his ego driven perspectives.

@paulrussell6495

6 ай бұрын

May he have an encounter with the lord and become a new person 🙏

Goodness, how God speaks to me even when I should be reading my Bible right now. Still finds a way to speak directly to me through people, thank you Isaac.

Love Jesus before love a girl! We’re on this together my godly brothers!

@Linkin-qb7fy

6 ай бұрын

Amen

@finkejdf101

6 ай бұрын

No we are not.

@Linkin-qb7fy

5 ай бұрын

@@finkejdf101 then how are you a believer? God says to love him over anyone else, that also includes more than a woman who will probably leave you but God never does. Maybe you're a woman that's why you said that 😂

Most importantly, don’t settle for a woman who calls herself “strong and independent” You avoid those types and you basically avoid all the bad qualities listed in this video

@ana-maria448

Жыл бұрын

Okay. I will call myself 'weak and dependable', so you will have to drive to see me and pay for going out. Let's see if you feel again threatened by those 2 words. 😅

@thenelsonbruhs722

Жыл бұрын

@@ana-maria448 clean the house and I really don’t have a problem with that honestly

Protect this man, he knows his stuff.

I’d say being agreeable is the MOST essential “personality trait for marriage” in women…because if you don’t have a wife that’s willing to listen, to discuss, to share her thoughts, to be kind, to be patient…basically, to be willing to SUBMIT…you really can’t be the best husband you can be 😕 Srsly, is this guy single?!

@luciacallahan5065

Жыл бұрын

Being patient and kind is not submitting. Both people must work equally hard to have a good relationship and happy life.

@wrenithilduincats

Жыл бұрын

​@@luciacallahan5065that's what the BIble means when it says 'submit'

@exbunkbedanimations7894

8 ай бұрын

bro is shooting her shot

Those are pretty good standards. Not unreasonably high and not too low. That is the description of a mature true christian woman. No christian man should settle for less.

I literally saw guys say they'll date the most immodest women just so he can tell her how to dress and act, otherwise there'd be nothing to be controlling about.

@callme_t

8 ай бұрын

Wow

As one who struggled heavily, and is still working on being contentious, don’t fall for us! We will simply exasperate and discourage you. Our Lord is gracious and surely I (and many others by faith I say,) are being molded into being trusting, submissive and respective to male figures. 🙏🏾

Thank you. I will wait. And focus on my own flaws till the day I meet her

i’m contentious with my father and it is one of my biggest weaknesses. I love him more then I can even comprehend and I take everything out on him. I pray for strength in controlling those emotions and please if there’s any advice share below. God bless you all ❤️

@cadenorris4009

Жыл бұрын

God is the advice. Spend time with him. Get to know him intimately, and he will change your heart and transform it. Continually seek after God, and meditate day and night on his word (psalm 1) and he will make you a tree of righteousness bearing good fruit naturally, without strife.

Oooh amen my brother in Christ! Amen amen Amenn thank you for this message, I needed this :).

I didn’t listen to Gods warnings and ended up learning it the hard way…

@Godiswith_HER

Жыл бұрын

Me too 😢

@KiwiPJMax

Жыл бұрын

Me three

I needed to hear the last two. My last relationship was full of both of us constantly unsatisfied with each other. I wanted a better body out of her, she wanted a voice deeper than her ex's. Everytime I met her I treated her like a lollipop that when I was done I just throw the stick in the trash. Above all, I was lost. So I never loved her because I never knew God and I wanted things to go my way because that's all I knew, ME ME ME ME ME. Women are a whole blessing from God and since that's the truth, then I no longer want to be in the place of the real designer❤️

Merry Christmas 🎄 I’m glad I came across the video I do want a girlfriend so bad but I need to love Jesus and love myself 🤞🏾

“…He is going to mold her, it is your job to be patient…” truer words have not been spoken.

So true. Thats why I always say, I don’t want a Rich Man. I want a Wholesome Man! There is a difference ❤️

Hello brothers and sisters in Christ! I'm just asking for some prayer - recently one of my sisters has started exhibiting symptoms of Alien Hand Syndrome, except she's had no trauma to her brain. I refuse to believe that this doesn't have a cure, and if the neurologist says we can't I believe God can. I don't know what's causing it but I know that somewhere deep in my soul it feels diabolical, every time I witness the symptoms I have an almost uncontrollable urge to just grab her arms as tight as I can and pray so I feel like it may be demonic? Whether it is or not, I refuse to believe it doesn't have a cure. Thank you for your time everyone, all glory be to God. 🙏

@ChillingBlank

8 ай бұрын

How is everything now?

Amen, keep on speaking truth and wisdom brother!

Amen! This is so true! We have to be careful when we date! God bless you, brother!

Amen brother, love God first before anything else.

I have a first date Thursday, we’ll see how it goes, we’ll see if it’s gods plan or not, I’m having some doubts because she’s not my denomination of Christianity and I’m not sure she is a practicing Christian. Pray for me brothers and sisters.

@memorybanda8025

6 ай бұрын

Hey,how did it go?

needed to hear this

Awesome video, thank you and god bless.

I needed to hear the patient part

Amen 🙏 This is amazing!!!

Good stuff!! 👏🏼👏🏼

Love this!

Don't settle!!!!

Thank you

Love it❤

Very well done 👏

You're going to be an amazing husband. God bless you.

Thank you for this reminder because my job to be patient. I am married and we are struggling very very hard right now, patience is extremely difficult. But God is still helping me in spite of all my failures

@reubenkriegel7639

Жыл бұрын

@H He wants me to lean on Him and be patient, rather than try things my own way and screw it up even more.

Thanks bro I needed this I get inpatient and try to settle for girls who care more about male validation then god. I need to trust gods timing thanks bro ❤️🔥✝️

If you're somehow offended by the very good advice he's just given, you are part of the problem and need to reassess.

I need no one except the lord. The world is temporary, but the lord is eternal. Praise Jehovah, amen 🙏

Literally my life right now. I don’t have Instagram , I’m always in the word of God I’m obsessed with Jesus, I broke up with my boyfriend cause we’re un equally yoked, I just restored my relationship with my dad a year and half ago.

Ive dated too many atheists and pagans… this vid may sound like basic advice but it’s true.

@Obi1Classic

Жыл бұрын

Indeed. Actual God-fearing men and women know they will be held accountable. By His grace and mercy, Yeshua (a.k.a. Jesus) brings us back to the Father.

I hope to find a woman that worships god and isn’t all that you described in the video. Excellent advice but in my generation, trying to find a woman like that feels like I’m looking for a unicorn sometimes 😂

Basically a sister that desires God, help you getting closer to God, and prioritise God. Very sadly nowadays I been saying the same things again and again to my brothers in church and my cousins who are Christian as well, many of them actually checking those boxes at the last, surely everyone has reasoning about “cause that girl …..” man don’t blame the marriage, blame the ones who were thoughtless of the truth when they seeking a company instead of God!

My only question is: what if the parents are abusive to her, and therefore her contention with them is justified? My girlfriend, a woman of God, is being abused by her father, something she’s pressed charges for, and something I’ve had to step in between for.

Study 1 Corinthians 7. God bless you!

It’s very hard to do these days, don’tcha think? A lot of women in my generation couldn’t care less about God, are hyperfixated on their baby-daddies, would rather be for the streets (as the women of this world say it), and would rather settle for bottom of the barrel when it comes to men. All of this from personal experience, and especially since I’ve tried so hard being my authentic self. Though I am dating someone of the same sex, there was sufficient reason, and it’s because I have dealt with way too much hurt from the opposite sex, which I have undoubtedly gotten *VERY* tired of. So y’know what? God help me if my choices have ended up failing me in the end, but chasing after lost causes & women who mock God only leads to inevitable failure. I’m tired of trying, and God bless me for getting out while I still could.

Amen ❤ Great advice!!

10k like. Omg true

As a women Im just over here taking notes, I struggle with different things then you mentioned and I know that (even though im only 14) they will hurt a future relationship. I want to start working on myself while Im still figuring myself out so I don't drag my feet around trying to be a good Godly Women when I can just work on myself while Ive got nothing much going on. No time like the present. ❤ 😅

Word

Imma die alone

Amen!!! Glory to Jesus

amen! I agree

We all like validation bro

Haven’t gone after anyone seriously since high school. I’m 23 now and am at a spot where I’ve learned to love myself and start working on my relationship with God more. I’ve got a long way to go but at least I’ve made more progress. Though since I’ve been on my own for so long I genuinely don’t see a point in a relationship at all now. Maybe God will change my heart, but then again I did pray he’d take the desire of a relationship from me.

Amen!! 🙏🏼

This is the kind of man who asks a girl what she was wearing when she got SA and is fighting against people with uteruses basic human right to decide what this person does with their bodies. Even though hee doesn’t have a uterus but some how thinks he has the right

@theotherbk1819

9 ай бұрын

Kinda hard to tell what the argument is but I'm going to say a dude gotta follow teachings of God first and foremost and I'm pretty sure he said that molding someone or forcing someone into what you want to be ain't the right thing to do. Pretty sure not wanting to get with someone who's got no self respect and has shown her butt to hundreds of random dudes on the Internet for attention is valid. If you're gonna be in a relationship ya gonna be bound to want your partner to dress appropriately or at least talk to them about a compromise or something. Just cause a lady doesn't want to listen to the opposite gender doesn't mean the lady is right. Well that's my thoughts anyway if ya think I'm wrong or hateful ya got the free will Jesus gave you to do so 👍

Women are held to impssible standards. My dad is abusive and not a godly man, and for men looking for this "perfect woman" that counts against me for some reason

I love how you talk about how God molds us!! Like, no one (except for Jesus of course) is perfect as we are, and everyone needs Jesus to sculpt us into the men and women of God we are meant to be. I heard this once and LOVED it: I think for singles it’s important to remember that rather than constantly obsessing over the person you are meant to be with, focus on the person you are. Ladies, rather than endlessly searching for your man, become the woman of God he is looking for, And men, rather than endlessly searching for your woman, become the man of God she is looking for. As a single lady myself, this can be really tough, and I get distracted way too much, but I know it is worth remembering and valuing!!!❤️

Thank you so much. I needed this

Amen!!

Amen!

In other words- Be alone than be with the wrong woman. Got it. (Standards matter and just being with anyone doesn’t make things better- only worse)

Real, Praise the Lord Almighty

you're doing the Lords work , yesterday i cried a lot , i'm a 26 year old virgin although i am not ready for marriage i asked god why he left me without any spouse and lonley , i think i'll fully trust lord on this one

@ModelingTabi

6 ай бұрын

same here. turning 26 in January

Take a look at the father first before you write her off for that one. Sometimes there’s a legit reason for the contention.

As a single Christian guy, thanks for the advice, but I'm not interested in dating and I'm also not interested in a relationship. I have went through so much Hell when I was dating (Like how I got accused of something I never did. That was worse than going through an Act of Congress and I'm surprised that I didn't get in trouble...) that my heart has pretty much turned into a heart of stone and has turned down the idea/thought of dating then marriage. I don't care to date any more. I don't care to get married anymore. Younger me wanted a girlfriend so badly (I was lonely and wanted a girlfriend badly) but me now being 19, I don't care to have a girlfriend and I don't care to get married and I've been like this for about about a year now. And I'm fine being "alone", I got my Father, my Savior, and my Spirit, 3 in 1, and that's more than enough for me. I've turned down many girls politely and I've explained to them that I'm not interested in dating. And these same girls still have huge crushes on me- it get's annoying sometimes if they make it obvious. If I even notice I should say... I've gotten to the point where girls can give off obvious hints that like me more than as a friend and I will be completely oblivious to it. Like I won't notice at all. I can catch on to many things pretty quick but when it comes to the idea of dating and marriage, you lost my attention

Being single is a blessing, you don’t have to worry about dependents. Also if you choose to be a eunuch, you get a greater reward, perhaps even something His Sanctuary. So either way single or married, both are a blessing.

My father is contentious with me: does that count? 😂

The hardest thing I’ve heard in a recent teaching was “would you want to marry a person who isn’t serious about the Lord or who isn’t content with Jesus alone?” That hurt bc, as a woman who is waiting, I don’t see any where in Scriptures where we see a woman going after a man for a husband. So it’s kinda left in the guys’ court. And I def don’t wanna settle for an Ishmael when God has an Isaac for me.

@calebpagan2226

Жыл бұрын

Nothing wrong with having the desire for marriage. Yes we should find contentment in Jesus, but that doesn’t mean we won’t desire companionship.

@sarahlarock9885

Жыл бұрын

@@calebpagan2226 nothing wrong with the desire in and of itself. But it still stands and boils down to this: even if you never got married, would you be satisfied with Jesus alone? I think many people get stuck when posed with that perspective. Nothing wrong with wanting to get married. God said marriage is good! But does one think a fulfilled life is in marriage? Or having kids? Etc… is it “Jesus AND this or that?”

@joshbalzer9749

Жыл бұрын

You might want to look at the book of Ruth. Ruth and Boaz both recognized the good qualities in each other, but Ruth was the one who pursued him.

@migzy4704

Жыл бұрын

​@@sarahlarock9885I don't know what you're getting at,but I don't think there's anything wrong with wanting to get married. God did make eve because he said it's not good for man to be alone. I don't know if this helps.

@pinkroses135

Жыл бұрын

You trust God to prepare and send him while you're submitted to Him and doing His will. It's not doing nothing but there is a degree of passivity that's part of the order. You really don't want to do the man's part for him or you will be carrying the relationship and end up resentful.

My father was abusive so there was definitely tension there. Does that mean my husband settled?

@Nick-ij5nt

Жыл бұрын

No, but you just need to acknowledge that the behavior of your father heavily impacts your perception of men and society as a whole. So long as you can realize that and not let it impact you in negative ways then you'll be fine. Daddy issues are real and they cause lots of problems for women. I would be fine marrying a woman that had an abusive father so long as it didn't cause her to lead a destructive lifestyle from those experiences.

@siarnaq5625

Жыл бұрын

Username matches up with the comment

@jinieroses8038

Жыл бұрын

You said it yourself, your father was "abusive." Two different topics.

@pinkroses135

Жыл бұрын

He said similar things about guys with their moms and sisters and I'm sure there are issues there as well. Dysfunctional families are the exception. Someone's relationship with the opposite sex overall or other mentors or whomever counts too.

@zeenkosis

Жыл бұрын

No contention is not about what the other person has done, it’s also whether you have dealt with the situation l. Most people have father issues of some sort but it’s whether you’ve worked to release it in you. Most people don’t get counsel on things, myself included because we think we fine. These things show up in our marital relationships a lot and with our kids. So if you’re open to counsel/therapy it helps bring awareness to HOW those things affected you to you don’t have to affect your future relationship too❤

I would add emotional maturity/availability, some domestic skills, communication skills, conflict resolution skills, some skill(s) that could bring money in, financial responsibility, childrearing skills if you want them. Submission (with an added on board facet if there aren't kids in the picture), which is really being receptive and putting the ball in your court while trusting God, having her own life or interests yet an ability to gel with you easily...and probably some others I'm forgetting right now. Besides putting God first. Women should have their house somewhat in order in their own way.

Question. What about music? As a person who really in joys louder more heavy sounds (slipknot, KoRn etc) what does the gospel say about that kind of music?

@AlastorAltruistGaming

5 ай бұрын

If I may, the Bible states that songs were meant for the Lord, and that music is holy & pure. Explicitly, listening to heavy metal isn’t a sin, as long as you listen in moderation. Like, balancing between heavy metal & gospel music. At least, that’s how I view it.

Wow wish I had heard and taken on board this advice 4 years ago. For those listening this really good advice. Don't marry a girl with weak faith and daddy issues.

Fax

Thanks for the advice man. Really needed some words of wisdom 🤜🏼🤛🏼

Amen

Im looking for a women who is a match for my mom. Kind, loving, headstrong, and playful. Thats it.

Amen to this!

Exactly

Jesus Christ loves you❤

Glory to God.

Jesus loves you ❤❤❤❤❤

I've just accepted that I'll be single forever. I'm sickly and underemployed as a result, not attractive, and shy. I'll make myself useful to my church by laying down a 4 on the floor beat to mediocre CCM for 30 more years, and then I'll die, buried by the grandkids of people I hardly know now. But after that is the good part anyway, I guess. :')

@jakeblitzcoffie4859

3 ай бұрын

Focus on God's love for you. People will always let you down, even your significant other. God's love is unconditional. Humanity's "love" is not. Remember that. Throughout the entire old and even new Testament, God choses people based on their hearts and not their appearances.

Also one more thing.. Which Bible says.. But he didn't say to not come off as sexist.. But nevertheless I will say it If a woman isn't ready to be submissive to her husband.. Don't go for her.. Ask her about this before-hand .. And make sure she is being truthful.. Examine the spirit.

@ElizabethUkeh

Жыл бұрын

Yes! And a man must be ready to love her wholely and even lay down his life for her

@joshuajames1998

Жыл бұрын

@@ElizabethUkeh I don't know of any man that wouldn't do that( lay down his life..a man considers it as his pride and honour to do that).. Mostly I have heard of women not being submissive and trying to rebel in a relationship But also even if the husband doesn't fulfill his part a wife should be able to change his mind into Christ like mind with her attitude and behavior.. That's what Bible says Also have u liked my comment? No.. Which shows u dont exactly agree to my comment, which might show ur friction causing attitude and character in relationship, I did say "might" I might get it wrong about u. After all u r a stranger to me. I'm guessing here.. What I meant is u might not exactly like doing ur part in a Christian ✝ matrimony

@ElizabethUkeh

Жыл бұрын

@@joshuajames1998 I know loads of men that can't & won't do that meanwhile they are lots of submissive and loyal women who are wives to undeserving men.

@joshuajames1998

Жыл бұрын

@@ElizabethUkeh u seem too young to know a lot of men. Ya u spoke half truth some men get very good Christian women even though they don't deserve it.. But where I don't agree is in the use of the term "lots"

@ElizabethUkeh

Жыл бұрын

@@joshuajames1998 lol I might be too young and unmarried but I have aunts who are married to horrible "Christian" men.

Yes!! Have discernment!!

7 don’t settles for women and 4 for men. How appropriate

What if I want to not have a wife/girlfriend. I'd prefer to be alone.

Finding one of those women in todays world, good luck

@memorybanda8025

6 ай бұрын

Hey Paul

Amen, That's what I'm talking about

Been praying that the Lord would help me in this area, and this advice is exactly what I needed. Thank you brotha!

I’m genuinely curious and wonder how I can respect my father in a Godly way. My father thinks he’s a prophet, but he is evil in character. He thinks it’s funny when people suffer or get hurt, he drinks to drunkenness, curses like a sailor, he’s violent, very abusive. When he divorced our very steadfast mother we worried he would hurt or kill her. I used to want to say awful things about him but now when he is mentioned I don’t try to disparage his name but I do tell people what he’s doing cause I don’t want to lie. I want him to be saved but I can’t talk to him, he’s a very scary man.

habla Señor

Straight fax

ya but stop making it sound like WE HAVE to get married to be happy

Marry a women who will obey you

@emilycooper442

Жыл бұрын

No, I'd prefer to marry a man who doesn't feel he has the right to command me like I'm a fucking dog.

Thanks for the great advice