1 Accept yourself right where you are 2 Making filling yourself up a priority 3 Make caring for yourself a priority 4 Change how you talk about yourself 5 Make that one necessary decision to honour who God made you to be

As a child of a strict, religious, narcissist, I was taught over and over that self-love was a sin!! Learning to see myself through the correct lense is LIfe changing and its wonderful to drop the weight of shame and self hatred. ❤

I’ve had enough of self hatred. I am taking a stand. I accept myself for who I am. I have to embrace the love god has for me.

We have stopped building people in exchange for building ministries! This is what I do as a biblical counselor and I am glad to see someone on YT teaching practical and applicable truth!

Where have you been all my life? This has been my issue and I kept trying to talk about it with everyone, pastors, counselors friends… Finally Thank you I googled why is it difficult to receive Gods love and there you were

@user-sb8pr5to2u

Жыл бұрын

I googled the same thing 😔 but man this blessed me 🥹

I want to love and accept myself the way God does.

I grew up in an orphanage with every possible abuse and thought that is why I reject myself and feel and look for rejection I’m amazed that this is shared far and wide Everything you say is right on There are not enough words to express my appreciation I am sharing all your videos with everyone

Dude you’re awesome. I can already feel the difference watching this. I’ve been following Christ for about a year and I believe this is where I’ve been struggling. Being too hard on myself. Jesus died when we were yet sinners. So we must embrace that by accepting where we’re at and not comparing. Yes goals and striving to be better is important, but loving ourselves where we’re at, just like God does, then the getting better at things are just more grace gifts and an exciting journey of change in the name of love!

@marktdejesus

5 жыл бұрын

JB that is so wonderful! Well said! Keep it up!

@nyokabigsby5205

4 жыл бұрын

I completely agree. You can't perform for Gods love

@Trumpet222

3 жыл бұрын

I totally agree. These videos are changing my mind about so many things.

You give me hope to overcome this thing! God bless you Mark

I feel that everything you are saying its truth!!! I have struggled with ocd and generalized anxiety disorder since I was a small kid. I just feel so lonely sometimes. Its sick. I know that I am a good person but definitely I dont love myself. I wasnt ever a religious person but since yesterday I feel that I want to believe to god and christ to heal me from this hell that I am living. Please pray for me!!! Amen 🙏

@angelal7733

Жыл бұрын

Ina,I’m praying your in a better place in knowing you’re loved. 🙏🏼💜

@sanhara2747

Жыл бұрын

So happy for u. Believing in jesus is so awesome. But it doesnt mean life will be all sunshine and rainbows. Humans are imperfect. But the difference is we have hope

This is what I've been realizing God has been revealing to me and I have finally gotten to the point of being sick and tired of being sick and tired of my self loathing and being hard on myself. My poor eating habits, people pleasing, lack of joy, decrease in everyday happiness and mentally beating myself up has caught up with me. And what's worse is that I've let it leak out and I know people can see glimpses of it now. These past two months were waves of such strong discouragement like I've never felt before and finally these past few days have just been tears and outcries (I barely cry). I finally get it, and I'm thankful that you, brother Mark have gone through it because I have never heard it explained. I'm going to continue to watch any and every video you have that speaks on this. It's all questions I've asked God before but I now know that because I've reached a rock bottom, He's waiting for me to get over myself and let Him build me up.

Thank you it seems so distant for me to love my myself and receive the love of God. Please pray for me I believe that if I receive this that I can help others as well. There is hope in Jesus! Amen.

Lord, every self hatred in me I throw under your feet, Christ his feet, in the name and blood of Christ. I wish the same for those in need, in Jesus name and blood as well, amen. Annelies.

Lord knows that I needed this. Thank you for your obedience.

Mark, I'm glad you said what you said. I'm in a toxic relationship and have been wanting to get out. My struggle is that it's my wife of 25 years and I still have 4 children at home. The 3 oldest have left BECAUSE she is toxic has many narcissistic tendencies! IDK how to go about doing it. I really need to find a counselor who understands toxic people and narcissism. Talking to people who don't understand it, they just scratch their head and say, Well, ask God to help you through it and see what God wants you to do. I believe in doing what God wants. However, I cannot let a toxic person keep ruining my life and my children's lives!

I tell you, making the commitment to work on loving myself has been life-changing! Your book just arrived this week. These 5 action steps are so powerful! I encourage everyone- take action today!!! You are so worth it! God loves you so much that He gave His best for you. Loving yourself will give you permission to give your life fully to Him; unashamed, because you know He accepts you. Thank you so much for this message! I cry today because I am free. Free from the destruction that hate wished to produce in my life. Free to be loved completely by God and by myself.

Have to love myself out of this toxic marriage!!! We can never ever speak about fixing anything he just sits there in hate and has no spark for fixing anything and just hurts everyone around him.. And fills his voids with alcohol hate and neglect, he just wants to stay in his apparent self fullfilling selfish bubble. Im just so use to performing although Im miserable and I am totally use to putting all my wants and needs on the back burner.. Really hope God helps me see this through.

this video is so underrated , I wish more people could watch it. Its amazing, and it is so true. I don't want to become toxic in the relationships that I have, and im so willing to change. how can I truely love anyone if I can't love myself.

Oh this is me. I have hated myself with not being wanted by my dad, having uterine cancer and being able to hear my own children, having rectal cancer and fearing and not enjoying food, regrets and on and on

This is IT. Right here. The core. The powerful reaction I kept having. Crying. Screaming. This is THE thing that must be healed by God. I have had so much radical healing-but this is the seed that is left. This just touched on my issues in the way no counseling, support group, or book ever has. Like a tidal wave as you kept talking. Here it is, what I’ve been waiting to find out. THE ROOT PROBLEM. Now I’m not sure what the next step is. That one thing you say to do. It feel afraid it is get out of my toxic marriage. like leave my marriage. I have a young son and don’t understand what is right to do. I know NOW is the turning point in my life and healing. It started 3 days ago. Something huge is occurring. And I know these videos-but especially this-is a huge part of it. (The other big thing that has been happening is worship like I have never experienced-including laughter-which I am finding it is healing by the Holy Spirit.

@lorieroe4657

4 жыл бұрын

flyingfreenow.com Help for getting out of a emotionally abusive marriage

@bernicerogers2383

4 жыл бұрын

I hope you didn't leave your marriage. May God change and transform your relationship and your family and be the glue that holds you all together and brings love instead of negativity and hate. God bless.

Thank you Mark. I realize that I hate myself and I am constantly beating myself up because I have been hurt by friends. I am glad that I don’t see them anymore. I definitely need to love myself and know God’s perfect Love for me.

I cant believe how much you were talking to me...from one thing right to another and then you said alot of people are angry....wow, this is amazing because i prayed about all this..i have felt rejected a good part of my life and a hot topic for me was people pleasing and when i started trying to correct that, i began over exerting that and just offending people....anyway your videos are a good start

YOU HAVE HELPED IPEN MY PHYSICAL EYES AS WELL AS MY SPIRITUAL EYES MY BROTHER. JESUS, HELP ME! GIVE ME A DESIRE TO WANT TO CHANGE AND BE HEALED!

Thank you for bringing together the Christian Faith and what people call Wellness but the truth is our faith is a practical faith centred on love. Thank you for diligently showing that in your teachings. May God bless your ministry.

I find I must listen to these teachings over and over again to let it sink into my spirit man. If you have thought a certain way all your life the change does not come over night and that’s ok.

I’ve always felt disabled, handicapped, inadequate because of self hate, I recognise this and want to breakthrough. If I achieve anything I life, at most loving myself 😮‍💨

I keep playing this over it’s changing me I didn’t realise I hated myself Note past tense I love myself more each day Amen

I was having a really bad day this morning and was just angry and upset. After I watched your video it all lifted off me and I enjoyed my day. You said exactly what I needed to hear, things I didn't know and things my heart knew were so true deep down. Thank you. God led me here today to begin a journey of change. God bless you.

@marktdejesus

4 жыл бұрын

Bernice that makes my day!

Thank you for allowing God to work in and through you to help others. Bless you.

@marktdejesus

4 жыл бұрын

Appreciate that Sandra!

This Is Truly An Important Teaching Of Value !!!😊

Love what you said..." Make a strong decision based out of the love, respect, and honor for who God made you to be and your potential." Working on it.

@marktdejesus

4 жыл бұрын

Awesome!

Thanks mark for the brutal honesty and great video I refuse to live with self hatred any longer and I am going to posture my heart from the perspective of receiving Gods love and acceptance right where I am and living out of that love and I’m gonna practice loving myself

This message is SO where I am right now. HOME RUN!!!!!! Getting the book!!!!! God be praised!

Great job Mark. I have been embarking on my own journey for several years and discovering the joys of self love. For the first time in a long long time I can say I’m happy. Your message encourages me to keep growing and to keep loving myself. Everyone needs to listen to this and apply it !

@darm1959

Жыл бұрын

Congratulations, praise God! I am very happy for you.

Love the Show. You and Melissa provide Biblical truth and practical tips on how to walk it out👍🏾👍🏾👍🏾

Love 💕 your ministry

Amen! Your passion is amazing and truly a fruit of loving yourself and receiving the Father’s love. Thank You and Lord bless you!

Great Message! “Reprogramming” our hearts with the Word of God is so important to a changed life. A renewed mind saturated with Gods Promises and Gods Character are essential to changing the way we think. I have spent most Of my life trying to “think” my way into a “new and improved” life. This has been unsuccessful. Gods Word is usually the last resort for most of us. Yet, God is patient. He will wait as long as it takes for us to surrender and realize the answers to a great life have been sitting on our coffee table for years. (Brush off your Bible and start renewing your mind) Isaiah 55:8-9 have been foundational verses to transforming my life.

Hey Mark, I want to thank you for your commitment to this ministry; I can't begin to convey to you how much this is helping me. There are so many things that you share that I believe are fundamental in having a healthy relationship with the Lord and seeing ourselves correctly. I appreciate your compassion and love expressed through these teachings and the constant reminder of how all of this is rooted in God's Word. My girlfriend, who is such an awesome person, shared one of your videos with me and I told her she didn't realize what she had done! Thank you Mark!

You are literally a Godsend this morning.I asked God this morning for a clear understanding of the difference between rejection and self rejection and I landed here for the first time. I know much of what you speak but life has drifted me from the Truth. Reset. With your help. I need to hear all of this again. Thank you.

wow, I googled heart conditions because I have been searching for what is this "yoke" around my life and this popped up, I've ordered the book, listened to several of the videos and over and over again, it's the response of self hatred and the retreating, the withdrawal, the symptoms, now I get to the root and make a decision. I give myself permission to love who God Loves which is the awesome me, today I make a decision to introduce myself to her. I know this is just one small breakthrough, but this was an answer to a cry out to God and He heard me. Thank you Mark, God Bless you and your obedience to be the answer to the problem, many of us are facing.!

Bubble bath with candle 🕯 so nice Also making a healthy soup for you like butternut squash or Betty Crocker tomato fennel soup recipe Wash your bed sheets every week in hot water

So true Mark. Thanks for the wisdom. Glory to God.

Thank you for loving us

Life changing !!! Thanks !

Amen! Thank you so much for sharing Gods truth to us. God bless you in your calling.

@marktdejesus

4 жыл бұрын

Thanks so much!

It's so clear when you explain it! Thank you so much!🌻

Yes am listening, thank you Jesus, can't wait for the next one

Amen, this is very helpful. Great points, acceptance, God's love for me is emense, regardless of how people treat me. Blessings to You and your family.

@marktdejesus

4 жыл бұрын

So good!

Thank you brother Mark this really helps. May the Lord Jesus help us, remaining and growing to use our gift's from God to help others. 🙏

Help me oh God, I’ve hated myself for so long 😢

Thank you...! This is so needed! God bless you...please pray for my relationship with my children. In Jesus name. amen..thank you.🙏🙏

@kchannel4299

4 жыл бұрын

Praying for you Sis

So blessed to have come across your channel . I look forward to watching all your videos . You have given me so much hope for my future !!🙏❤️

Thank you for sharing this very important topic. I have been struggling to love God, others as I love myself. In loving others, often I have been hurt by others and feel manipulated/used by them bcs I can not say "no" to others. I am tired and frustrated, Then I begin to think to love myself first (I believe Go inspires me). Love others as you love yourself. Loving ourself with the pondation of God's love should be the raw model/basic pattern for myself to love others , not the other way round.

Thank you

Thanks for your ministry. You're helping me tremendously and I'm learning that I can help my kids by sharing the message

@marktdejesus

3 жыл бұрын

That's awesome!

Wow!! Thank you for this

Truth!

Thank you!!!Kiitos!:)

Awesome!!!

Good stuff. 👍🏽

🔥🔥🔥!!! THANK YOU, MARK!!! WOW!!!🎯

Thanks Mark!

This was helpful... keep it up

Wow, I love this!! Thank you!! 💜💜

So glad I found your channel. This is exactly what I’ve been searching for and exactly what was needed. Glory be to God! Just had my wife buy all of your books lol I love you guys and I’m learning to love myself. Thanks Mark!

Great teaching!

Amen. this is so powerful, thank you!!

Amen

Wonderful, wonderful, stuff Mark. You are right on track with this. Very perceptive and insightful!! It's time to eliminate self hate and fully incorporate self love. Much Love to you my friend! God Bless Patrick ♥️🙏

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From Brazil Thanks

Thank you Mark. You are an awesome human. You are helping so many people out!! It’s like you’re speaking directly to me so many times!

Thank you so much. The head knowledge vs heart really resonated with me. Every video I commit to watching is a positive step toward dealing with these issues.

Wow be a loved kid ✝️

Relevant message in July 2022. Thank You!

This is awesome . Thank you so much. I have a question can you elaborate more on self care please ? Thank you

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Best thing in KZread, best ministry ever

This is so Good thank you God bless

@marktdejesus

5 жыл бұрын

God bless you too. Glad it was helpful!

You have seen God, that's why you can teach love

I have had people who I have loved, steal from me, disrespect my boundaries, not visit me when I was in the hospital, tell me I was too generous, etc. These were people who I thought I knew all of which claimed to be Christians. So, I am very Leary of the whole thing! At one point I called myself the eliminator because God doesn't want His children abused. No earthly father wants his children abused so neither does God. I go to God and ask Him what part in this do I play? Answer......too trusting, bad boundaries, not thinking enough of myself and victim mindset from years of abuse. I need to look at myself! And, I bought books like safe people and boundaries by Christian psychologists. No one is better than anyone else. Jesus blood was shed for all....that includes me and anyone reading this. Also, Cassandra Mack on u tube has a lot of good videos and she's a minister, a social worker, author and life coach. She also has church by phone every Sunday where you call a number and then put a pin code in and hear sermons and get prayer too. God is love!!!!!

24:22: "You're not a DOG!" xD That made me lol.

@jpadkins1988

5 жыл бұрын

Stephen Bassette it made me CRY and wail. I am 100 pounds overweight. It spoke truth to me like I have never experienced.

@OffTheCreamyCrack

4 жыл бұрын

@@jpadkins1988 I know how you feel, I'm about 80 lbs overweight. This whole video resonated with me. I'm great at "dieting", but could never maintain because of THIS issue. Everything about what he spoke has finally reached the root.

I have a rare ear disorder and tinnitus. My fear is going deaf. I cannot stew in my tinnitus and be deaf at the same time. I fear I won't make it. Please pray for me. If you can give me any tips, that would be great. I want to let go and fully trust Jesus but I am way too scared.

@jpadkins1988

5 жыл бұрын

Jennifer Salazar listen to the teachings of Derek Prince, especially about breaking curses off of your life. Miraculous healings ARE occurring.

What a minute! I didn't realize that my emotional eating was linked to feelings of not feeling secure🤯🤯🤯

Self hatred is debilitating

Thx Mark! Really enjoyed reading your Love God, Love Yourself book. I do have a question since I discussed with my brother in law (a Baptist pastor ) about this notion and he told me that us humans love ourselves by default. I don’t agree since I don’t think addictions and such are ways of truly loving oneself yet I couldn’t give him any clear biblical references on this. What are key scriptures proving the need for loving ourselves besides Mark 12:31 ? Thx a lot !

@marktdejesus

4 жыл бұрын

Hi Angelica, it's a common question, as many Christians see the term "loving yourself" as meaning selfishness. When people say we already love ourselves by default, it really needs some further thinking. We don't know how to love with God's love. In fact, if we are born into a default setting, it is more based on selfishness, lust and survival, not love. Those who say we already love ourselves, I ask them to look around. Are people really manifesting a genuine love that they cultivate in their life? The manifestations reveal that we love ourselves terribly by how we interact. In Ephesians 5 a man who loves his wife, loves himself. When you see a husband who does not treasure his wife, we can know that he struggles with self-hatred and his wife is on the receiving end of his inability to love himself. When you truly love yourself, it causes the flow of love you give out to others to have more depth and power. You give out of what you have received. Check out my other videos on this subject, as I address some of this issues in the videos there too. My wife and I also did a podcast series on loving yourself that will really help.

@marktdejesus

4 жыл бұрын

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@marktdejesus

4 жыл бұрын

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@LT-mt1tr

4 жыл бұрын

Thx Mark!

Yeah I do t know how to love. :(

So, how exactly do I do this? Give me some specifics! Will power doesn't always work.

@kchannel4299

4 жыл бұрын

Bubble bath with a candle and music

Do you have a podcast?

@marktdejesus

5 жыл бұрын

Yes it's called Transformed You. markdejesus.com

Do you have consultation?

Hi Mark. Is this book available in Kindle or Scribd? Or any other digital format? I tried to find it in Kindle to no avail so far.

Pastor Mark do you think we need to get off from social media?

@marktdejesus

7 жыл бұрын

I find its important to definitely take breaks from it. It's not always very authentic and it can be filled with a lot of negativity that is not helpful.

Are you saying to leave a marriage if one thinks it is toxic? I don't believe that is what the Bible teaches. I would refer people to Gary Thomas's book, Sacred Marriage if they feel they are in a toxic marriage.

I don't understand why Alissa broke up with me 😢

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Wooow I am mad at god for making me the way I am...

you can't fight the devil with a fork. LOL

Wow, Mark, you hit the nail on the head with this one. It is everything I have been dealing with. So glad that I have been able to connect with your ministry. 👍🙌