Why is Loving Yourself so Challenging?

Why does it seem that the subject of loving yourself is so challenging for so many? Here in this talk I give at least 5 BIG reasons why this is the case.
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  • @Not2008Me
    @Not2008Me3 жыл бұрын

    Wow these teachings are really blessing me because God showed me a dream where I was picking up my sword & shield preparing for battle. I looked fierce because I had an important journey, but before I got on my way 3 women appeared smiling at me. They seemed very wise...like they knew me, but I didn't know them and they very politely said to me "this isn't the journey...the journey is self-love". I was so confused when I woke up...I had this dream last year. I thought to myself I don't have time to be tryna love myself I've got ppl to help. I can't focus on me. However with God bringing me to these teachings I totally get it now. The prophetic dream is now clear because I constantly struggle with depression and seeing all of my flaws, but I try to move on and focus on helping someone else...now I will pray and take time to allow God in so He can heal my heart. I got a very high compliment from a friend last week..I was so caught off guard by the level of compliment I didn't call her for 3 days. I know there's work for God to do in me...wow. I can't even take a compliment. I must learn to love myself.

  • @rozgee3403
    @rozgee34033 жыл бұрын

    This is so paramount, until I just don't know what to say. Why isn't there 1M followers and subscribers, I have no idea. Mark, thank you!

  • @x_arnie
    @x_arnie Жыл бұрын

    This is definitely easier said than done. I have serious scrupulocity ocd that keeps making me feel like I'm empty inside and the only way to feel whole and loved and accepted by God again is to follow what my ocd tells me to do. It's not a joke, but I believe this too can be healed. Just wondering why God himself isn't helping. So tired... Whoever sees this gimme a short prayer, thank you.

  • @angelal7733

    @angelal7733

    Жыл бұрын

    Arnie,I’m praying for you. 🙏🏼💜

  • @flowbossandre

    @flowbossandre

    5 ай бұрын

    Just prayed for you hope you're feeling much better

  • @ladytemjad
    @ladytemjad4 жыл бұрын

    My Lord!!!! This message was for me! I am going through exactly what you described here. Burnout is real! And when I brought the issue up at church, I felt more condemned than helped. It was all me! I needed to love me! Not look for their approval or affirmation... love myself as God loves me. Wow! This will make me look at my whole life differently, especially in regards to how I do ministry work. I was sooo burnt out! THANK YOU 🙏🏾

  • @AnthonyMorales71
    @AnthonyMorales71 Жыл бұрын

    5 years later and I needed this so much

  • @joi4705
    @joi47054 жыл бұрын

    Thank you soo so much for sharing! A while back I was active in church volunteering where I could but still feeling off & like an extra in my own life movie. And the church I attended at the time told me that the cure for this was to pour more of myself out in service to others...needless to say, I’ve since moved my membership & lately God has been speaking to me through people like yourself & Matthew Stephenson to get rid of religion & allow Him to do a work on me in the area of self-love & self-esteem. I’ve been in church my entire life and was only ever told to just keep serving God no matter how I’m feeling on the inside. Im so grateful God kept me to this point and brought this info to me. Again, I can’t thank you enough for your ministry. I just bought Rejection Mindset, and after reading it I look forward to getting God Loves Me & I Love Myself. God bless you, your family & your ministry! Shalom

  • @marktdejesus

    @marktdejesus

    4 жыл бұрын

    Thank you so much Joi! This is wonderful!

  • @joi4705

    @joi4705

    4 жыл бұрын

    Mark DeJesus 🙏🏽😇

  • @ladytemjad

    @ladytemjad

    4 жыл бұрын

    Joi Todd same thing happened to me. God loves us! Unfortunately most churches today want their visions served to the detriment of the servers heart... care is not given to servers... we are told to ask for more grace. And we do. And then burn out and become bitter. We are to love ourselves... as God loves us. God doesn’t want us to serve burnt out! We have to be wise because people will pile stuff on us and if we don’t love ourselves, we say yes to everything! God bless you

  • @joi4705

    @joi4705

    4 жыл бұрын

    ayo majek yes, so true! I’m sorry you experienced this as well. But it definitely teaches you how to hear God for yourself & to nurture/appreciate your own vessel so that you can be a blessing to others. Bc ppl - even in church - will use you until there’s nothing left if you don’t set the proper boundaries. God Bless

  • @ladytemjad

    @ladytemjad

    4 жыл бұрын

    Joi Todd for sure!!! Thank you for your encouragement. I’m in a season of nurturing myself after burning myself out in the name of “pleasing God”. God didn’t need me to do anything... other than accept my accept ance from Him. Thank you Jesus for loving me as I am

  • @jodyfredrickson3443
    @jodyfredrickson34437 ай бұрын

    If I don’t do anything else in 2024, I pray by Gods grace, I will have taken this journey with you Mark, and know a deeper connection with the Love of the Father and myself. It’s all head right now. 😢

  • @donidan4894

    @donidan4894

    Ай бұрын

    @jodyfredrickson3443 Wondering if it is going better? Just discovered these videos and hope this helps my emotional struggle.

  • @VMorales923
    @VMorales9235 ай бұрын

    Amen GOD I CHOSE TO LOVE MYSELF THE WAY YOU LOVE ME 🙌

  • @davidbramlett8193
    @davidbramlett81937 жыл бұрын

    Thanks for your videos! They really are helping me through a trying time in my life.

  • @marilattimore

    @marilattimore

    3 жыл бұрын

    Same here brother!!

  • @cindyglynn2675
    @cindyglynn26754 ай бұрын

    I Love this video. So much, what the church needs to hear; and I need to hear. Father led me to your videos on receiving His Love for it has been the cry of my heart for years. Thank you so much for all you are doing with this message! Just wanted to add to the list of things that we do to ourselves: self-blame and self-punishment. 2 of my biggest hindrances. Many blessings to you and your family! I wanted to add to this what I heard in my spirit while listening and pondering. I heard myself as a child when being asked what I wanted to be when I grew up and I answered: "I want to be a Love-Child." (Giving away my age, Lol. But for real Father showed me that He was Listening and He Loved that and that He put that desire in my heart. And I felt Him so gently Nudge me and say that is the answer to what you keep asking Me:"What is my purpose and destiny." Wow blown away.

  • @lukebraganzajones1662
    @lukebraganzajones1662Ай бұрын

    I love you brother, and myself and number 1 our father in Heaven!❤ Thanks brother❤ godbless u nd your familia

  • @KetchupRanch
    @KetchupRanch3 жыл бұрын

    The depth of ABSOLUTE and total truth that you just spoke is mind blowing, Brother Mark. What you said right here is such a crucial message that every single person alive should hear. Kudos to you and thank you for sharing with us. God Bless You beautiful child of God.

  • @Mumsy_Soap
    @Mumsy_Soap11 ай бұрын

    Looking at some of your older stuff. You have come a long way. Thanks for 6 years of effort

  • @jaimemartin9366
    @jaimemartin93663 жыл бұрын

    I am so truly happy I have found your videos again!! You have always helped me Pastor Mark, more than you know. Thank you!! Jaime

  • @marktdejesus

    @marktdejesus

    3 жыл бұрын

    Great to see you here Jaime! Keep overcoming!

  • @joyh.729
    @joyh.7296 ай бұрын

    I’m loving your series in loving yourself! Please keep the vids coming!🌟

  • @judydyck4707
    @judydyck47073 жыл бұрын

    Mark , 😢 this exactly me , l know l am trying to hurt the people that hurt me , and it seems like it's an on going thing getting darker and more confusing . Thank you , for what you're doing!!!

  • @melissacochran5415
    @melissacochran54157 жыл бұрын

    words can't explain how much this video meant to me. i will definitely be sharing this. thank you so much for taking the time to post this

  • @kitchencapers7183

    @kitchencapers7183

    5 жыл бұрын

    amazing!!!

  • @margaretrobertson632
    @margaretrobertson6322 жыл бұрын

    I’ve been directing people to Mark God is so using him Thank you God thank you Mark

  • @randywright5564
    @randywright55645 жыл бұрын

    Awesome teaching! The Bible says that the truth will set us free. When we live by the lie that self love is selfish then we cannot even come close to freedom. Amen and Amen. Let the people of God get real! It’s uncomfortable to live like a machine always working and doing. Those are the things we value above human life so let’s at least tell the truth about it. We are uncomfortable with that lifestyle precisely because God loves us so much. He has to get our attention somehow to let us know we have it backwards. This is amazing and let’s keep this going together so that people may know the true love of the Lord!

  • @radvibes
    @radvibes2 жыл бұрын

    Mark...This one almost made me cry

  • @reneesimmons7384
    @reneesimmons73847 ай бұрын

    I truly appreciate this episode.Because this speaking to me in so many ways.When it comes to this love story.

  • @leeannchavers3343
    @leeannchavers33433 жыл бұрын

    This is all such a new way of thinking for me. It's like a whole new language! As I go through these videos I think I am starting to see, and understand. Thank you!

  • @charlabarnett6274
    @charlabarnett62743 жыл бұрын

    I have finally made the connection to God’s love thanks to all your videos and your book God loves me and I love myself. 40 years on this journey!!! I discovered the enemy teaches we must be accepted by man first (which never happens because man is fickle) then when man accepts you then you can love yourself because you have mans approval (false validation) and then maybe because man accepts you and you barley accept yourself only then maybe God will accept you. What a crock! The enemy keeping us from a relationship with God, ourselves and others. Feeding us a counterfeit for as long as we accept his message. God is Love! We are loved by God therefore we love ourselves and through that love we love others. That is God’s Love Relationship! Thank you! God bless you brother! Love you bunches!❤️❤️❤️

  • @annette4660
    @annette46604 жыл бұрын

    I love how honest and passionate you are! Thank you for this wonderful message. Great voice, too.

  • @marktdejesus

    @marktdejesus

    4 жыл бұрын

    Thank you!

  • @pamelaaseeberg1220
    @pamelaaseeberg1220 Жыл бұрын

    This is helping me so much. Thank you. I've never heard these points explained in this level of detail, so clearly and competantly.

  • @CLCooper777
    @CLCooper7774 жыл бұрын

    Thank you again Mark for another awesome teaching! God has given you with so much insight in this area; so needed in the church!

  • @mikegastmusic
    @mikegastmusic6 ай бұрын

    Fantastic teaching

  • @sharonarnspiger9180
    @sharonarnspiger91803 жыл бұрын

    AMEN! You have such a way of making things easy to understand, and you get to the point. I love this!

  • @dwaniaduhaneymillen
    @dwaniaduhaneymillen Жыл бұрын

    I'm finding these videos so helpful.

  • @Loved2024
    @Loved20243 жыл бұрын

    Thanks Brother Mark! So appreciate you and Melissa 💎

  • @marktdejesus

    @marktdejesus

    3 жыл бұрын

    Appreciate that!

  • @salparedo
    @salparedo Жыл бұрын

    Preach my man!

  • @Angie-AFB
    @Angie-AFB3 жыл бұрын

    Your videos have been helping me so much these past few days and opening up my eyes big time, praise God. I plan on purchasing your books 📚 Thank you so much for your help.

  • @tee5096
    @tee50965 жыл бұрын

    Thank you.This is true and I needed this. Hope to get the book soon. God bless you

  • @5457kj
    @5457kj4 жыл бұрын

    This is true. However, you need to look at why and heal the root?

  • @karendallas8377
    @karendallas83773 жыл бұрын

    THIS was the best yet !! ❤️

  • @Tabby.cat2
    @Tabby.cat24 жыл бұрын

    👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾 well said!!

  • @PM-tk3se
    @PM-tk3se4 жыл бұрын

    I love this

  • @elbalopez5001
    @elbalopez50014 жыл бұрын

    Amen great word I love to speak , and hear about love

  • @karenduey9675
    @karenduey96753 жыл бұрын

    Thank you.

  • @Trumpet222
    @Trumpet2223 жыл бұрын

    This is so helpful.

  • @Quinnfan10
    @Quinnfan104 жыл бұрын

    Mark DeJesus, thank you for letting God love through you so much, and sharing the message of healing He has placed in your heart! I really enjoy your videos, and they speak to my heart so often! I am a Catholic, and definitely can see how many Christians can struggle with living a performance based Christianity. They give, but they do not how to receive! I believe you are a correct in pointing out how many people are burning out, because they struggle with loving themselves as God loves them. However, I would like to point out to you the scripture passage Matthew 27:26 of Jesus dying on the Cross, in response to your comment about Mother Teresa Syndrome. Jesus experienced the same feeling of abandonment as Mother Teresa did. This long state of feeling abandoned by God is called the Dark Night of the Soul. I would encourage you to read more about her life as well as the Dark Night of the Soul from St. John of the Cross. Many Christians who are on fire with the love of God experience this as they grow in union with Him. Here are some of the final stanzas of Mother Teresa's spiritual canticle, her response to her Lord and her dark night. These lines form a final prayer of self-oblation, an act of faith in which she makes herself a total gift - to share in Jesus' Passion and in his burning thirst for souls: "For my meditation I am using the Passion of Jesus. I am afraid I make no meditation, but only look at Jesus suffer and keep repeating, Let me share with you this pain! If my pain and suffering, my darkness and separation, give you a drop of consolation, my own Jesus, do with me as you wish. I am your own. Imprint on my soul and life the suffering of your heart. If my separation from you brings others to you . . . I am willing with all my heart to suffer all that I suffer. Your happiness is all that I want . . . I have begun to love my darkness, for I believe now that it is a part, a very small part, of Jesus' darkness and pain on the earth. I want to satiate your thirst with every single drop of blood that you can find in me. Please do not take the trouble to return soon. I am ready to wait for you for all eternity." Source: www.catholiceducation.org/en/faith-and-character/faith-and-character/mother-teresas-long-dark-night.html Keep up the great work! Prayers for you and your family!

  • @jessicarivera4952
    @jessicarivera49522 жыл бұрын

    Thank you!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!blessings to you and your family:)

  • @deborahjaniak7531
    @deborahjaniak75314 жыл бұрын

    Excellent word!

  • @ladydonna37
    @ladydonna374 жыл бұрын

    This is SUCH a good teaching!!! Listening this morning... I've listened before in the past but wanted to tell you that this is SO good & so helpful! Thanks for sharing your teachings here like this! I hope many more will hear this & receive...

  • @octaviaroman8113
    @octaviaroman81132 жыл бұрын

    Thank you so much! I thank God I found your videos, such a blessing to my life right now. God bless you and your family🙏🏾

  • @aprilrose2389
    @aprilrose23894 жыл бұрын

    Wow! Amazing! Ratifying my current situation, decisions, attitudes, in my life. Thank you Lord!!!!

  • @elittleproductions
    @elittleproductions3 жыл бұрын

    This is so great!

  • @marilattimore
    @marilattimore3 жыл бұрын

    Wow this was so helpful I going to get this book!! God bless you

  • @bcaprichos2
    @bcaprichos23 жыл бұрын

    When the student is ready, the teacher will come. I bought The Heart Healing Journey the other day. It is truly anointed, this work. I've been having epiphanies one after another...it's a little scary but I'm going for it. Thank you, Mark for following the passion that God put in your heart! We love you, and keep up the great work!!!

  • @artemis6624
    @artemis66243 жыл бұрын

    God bless you🙏 Your videos are a gift from God🙂

  • @jamesjohn1850
    @jamesjohn18503 жыл бұрын

    That was powerful! I would put it in the category of: last days prophetic word for the church and all humanity! I know I needed this and i have a great desire to know this and then share it with so many that like myself are “doing church” and still not receiving the love of the Father or loving themselves. Once again Lord bless you amd yours

  • @gunpowdertea2553
    @gunpowdertea25533 жыл бұрын

    I just ordered your book on Amazon. I have been in counseling for years. Thanks for your investment in my journey of health and Holiness

  • @goldenrulebanner2896
    @goldenrulebanner28964 жыл бұрын

    I am getting this! Keep up the good work! Thank you!

  • @marktdejesus

    @marktdejesus

    4 жыл бұрын

    So happy!

  • @victoriaelliott9449
    @victoriaelliott94494 жыл бұрын

    Thank you Mark, a much needed word. I appreciate your enthusiasm in teaching how desperately we need to love our selves, and I agree. But my big dumb founded looming question which has me stupified into a frustrating burden is, HOW?? How? How do we accomplish this? Help. Please. Thank you.

  • @CLCooper777

    @CLCooper777

    4 жыл бұрын

    Hi. I just saw this question and although I am by no means a Bible scholar, I believe God has blessed me with some spiritual insight over the years. So, in answer to your question, I think it starts with knowing and believing you are who God says you are, fearfully and wonderfully made, a masterpiece, a precious jewel, holy and dearly loved, the righteousness of God in Christ, the head and not the tail, more than a conqueror, etc.. All scripture, please Google, sorry I don't have time to give reference. If God says we are worthy of love, who are we to disagree. See yourself as loveable, because you are!

  • @amygoff4127
    @amygoff41274 жыл бұрын

    God took my gifts from me, so I was a bit confused about the gifts not being taken, even if your heart is not right. I had allot of gifts that only operated by the Holy spirit and then I fell from Grace and lost my gifts. It was a drastic change for me.

  • @SquidCena
    @SquidCena2 жыл бұрын

    How do you have self love?

  • @eliyang4432
    @eliyang44323 жыл бұрын

    How do you stay in that love? There’s times when I received but to remain in that.

  • @keilana6
    @keilana63 жыл бұрын

    Totally isolated in relationships & from church. Thoughts are stuck in intimidation. How to get support & counseling without $ resources?

  • @OratileKeppler
    @OratileKeppler Жыл бұрын

    How do you recieve His love?

  • @kdogW-iw6oq
    @kdogW-iw6oq Жыл бұрын

    What does love actually mean? What does it look like? This is a difficult concept for me to understand as I grew up in a very abusive household.

  • @marktdejesus

    @marktdejesus

    Жыл бұрын

    I have a whole series on that.

  • @kdogW-iw6oq

    @kdogW-iw6oq

    Жыл бұрын

    @@marktdejesus TY. Just found it ☺️

  • @silent1234mm
    @silent1234mm4 жыл бұрын

    How can I love myself ,,if from childhood I m born disable

  • @marktdejesus

    @marktdejesus

    4 жыл бұрын

    Good question. Would you mind emailing me? mark@markdejesus.com

  • @edwardking1312
    @edwardking13128 ай бұрын

    The last days - end times - end of the age was 70ad. That’s what all the New Testament writers believed and wrote - The insanity of end times propagaters is so ruinous and out of context.