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Oh my god. I've listened to a lot of people speak on this subject but you hit it dead on the head. I met my wife 34 years ago and she has never met her father. After going through he'll with her I finally decided I couldn't do this anymore, I found out she was pregnant. We both were young and she didn't have a decent job or a family she could depend on so I decided to stay. The next 20 years of my life was a constant roller coaster of good times and times of her cheating or trying to cheat. One I'm the love of her life and the next day I don't pay her any attention. She constantly needed to be validated. I stayed because we had a total of 3 children, I couldn't raise them on my own because I worked. She was always a good mother just a terrible wife. Finally, we went to a counselor and things have been going ok for the last 10 years. I do love her but it has definitely been a battle.

This is wholly resonant. A lot of clarity in here and was much needed as I've been left in a cloud of confusion.

@RelearningRelationships

6 ай бұрын

🙌🏻🩵

Really needed to hear this today

@RelearningRelationships

11 ай бұрын

Stay strong

Spot on. My father left when I was 8. I attempted to see him in my early 20’s (i idolised him and embroidered his absence so as to make him appear better than he was). He stood me up. I’ve only ever had destructive relationships with men and eschewed those who genuinely cared for me (weird). I’ve been single for years and shall stay that way for fear of closeness for fear of abuse.

@micklyons8858

Ай бұрын

What do you mean by "he stood me up"?

@sararichardson737

Ай бұрын

@@micklyons8858 he was a no show. He didn’t come to meet me.

Very well said.

You forgot something not all women with daddy issues seek validation some of the become the opposite they become hyper independent and have very strong boundaries. At least that is what I myself as a woman feel and experience

@RelearningRelationships

2 ай бұрын

In the case you mention that would refer to a woman that has healed from daddy issues.

@Amateracu1991DFFOO

27 күн бұрын

Or at least that's the image you wanna project out into the world

@rg.1111

27 күн бұрын

@@Amateracu1991DFFOO project? No because I literally don’t want any help of any man sometimes. I have achieved most things all by myself. Some days I don’t even desire male validation. Everyone experiences it differently.

Humans sense of what is a good man or a good woman is flawed. Everyone labeling one another and looking at it all on the surface. With 50% divorce rate and half of the other half miserable yall people are lost yourselves. Keep your eyes on yourself. This all is a spiritual battle

@ibnebatuta4868

4 ай бұрын

True

so good thank you very much

I don’t have any of these things so I guess I don’t have daddy issues. Thank god.

This video is so on point 👌🏾👌🏾 especially point 5 is recognizable I have dated a women recently with All these issue’s. In All of my next dates the 1st thing i need to identify is do they have daddy issue’s

8:07 13:39 18:00 19:42

just broke up last week with my gf this video made me moved on so fast... all of the 5 signs are spot on

Golden advice and you explained it really well. I appreciate it. Is there a way I can contact you about a question I have, I'd like your advice on it. Keep Safe.

@RelearningRelationships

2 жыл бұрын

Shoot me a DM on Instagram: @relearningrelationships

Thank you for this video! I have dated several women with daddy issues. It has become very common in the USA unfortunately, and I am often confused about how to show compassion for these women in a way that makes the relationship run smoothly and peacefully for our hearts. This video really helped me to summarize many experiences I have had and hopefully will help me to be more attentive in the future.

@RelearningRelationships

3 ай бұрын

You are so welcome!

7:20 I strongly disagree.....What say you?🔥

Again, great video.

Excellent presentation!!!

@RelearningRelationships

11 ай бұрын

Thanks

My daughter’s father had always been in her life although we had split up when she 3. He met someone else when she was 11 years old and she seemed determined to come between and sadly she did. My daughter is so emotionally scarred by this rejection and struggles with relationships. I don’t know what to do to help her. It breaks my heart to see what he has done. She has not seen him for 6 years when he sent her a cheap card and nothing else for her 21st birthday. She is his only child. I can’t comprehend how he could just walk away from her.

Wow eye opening for my now ex of 3 weeks. All bang on tho she was always saying she loved me but only when in bed! Think I let her down and then someone in the background came in had to walk away from that! Asked her but she denied it. Very bad childhood with her dad who beat her mum so explains so much. Didn’t wanna leave and wanted to help and still love her but what can you do ? Great vid Thank you

Listening to 1:18 tears me up as I know how important these qualities are in our children. It feels like accepting an important mission and wanting to do your best.

I am sad to find out that the woman I love has daddy issues because I had high hopes for us. Now I don’t know what to do because she is very unstable. Things make more sense to me now, but my future with her seems to be destroyed and that sucks and hurts. Thank you for sharing this information. I think I need help to cope with this problem because I don’t want to lose her but I also don’t feel like I have a choice either.

@jackthere

8 ай бұрын

At least you're able to make decisions on your own terms. I hung on and it was a recipe for pain. I wish it were different, but these issues persist. And they destroy love.

@nina-raedelong158

6 ай бұрын

Maybe suggest going to couples therapy with her to help her get stable? The counseling isn't for you, it's for her to become more stable and then your mind will be at ease that you can still have a future with her.

@svartvist

5 ай бұрын

Like a festering sore, the sooner the infection is excised the quicker and less painful the recovery. Marriage is a venture where both are seeking an opportunity to serve the other to bring them greater happiness. Daddy issues is a sinkhole, which if she ever does recover from is unlikely to include you in her metamorphosis.

@georgesontag2192

3 ай бұрын

Same with me. I have spent 10 years with a woman that I thought had trust issues. I figured i can work on trust. No its Daddy issues. She hates her father and she is taking all that frustration out on me. I am a good man. Their is no solution to her problem.

When i was 10 years old, i had a crush on a 35 year old man, when i was 17, i dated a 35 year old man, when i was 30, i dated a 35 year old man, when i was 40 i dated a 35 year old man, now im 53 and im still attracted to 35 year old men, i think i just have a favorite "type" of guy and its 35 year old men, ha😄

@RelearningRelationships

Жыл бұрын

I’m sorry to hear that.

@MetaPhysStore0770

Жыл бұрын

@@RelearningRelationships ha! Your so funny😄 no worries! I will die someday and the 35 year olds of the world will be safe again😆

Simply....... Thank You ❤️

@RelearningRelationships

4 ай бұрын

You're welcome 😊

Just keep going until she ends it. Tell her you enjoyed her company and say good bye. Let the next guy figure out the mess he is getting. Figure its a blessing.

I fear abandonment. Ive had mostly great men until my now ex that was abusive. So some issues

I thank you for your insight. I'm the older man being chased by this woman half my age. I see the symptoms now. This is really helpful.

@RelearningRelationships

2 жыл бұрын

You’re welcome mate

@AnemosFPV

Жыл бұрын

Woman love older men because of confidence. They don’t give a shit about age. If you have your life together and confidence you can date any woman you want and they will love you for it. Other then that, he is right about daddy issues in woman.

@RelearningRelationships

Жыл бұрын

Women most definitely care about age. An Intelligent women with morals (20) would rather choose a 25 year old man shs can grow old with as supposed to. 45 year old man. Do women like older men? To a degree, so long as they are old enough to grow old with.

@AnemosFPV

Жыл бұрын

@@RelearningRelationships woman don’t care about age. Just look at DiCaprio, he is 60 dating 25 year olds

@RelearningRelationships

Жыл бұрын

If you’re talking about immoral women with no standards then of course that specific woman will put herself in the position for a meaningless, transactional relationship. However, moral women with integrity find it disgusting. Even my girlfriend has stated that it’s utterly disgusting and sad to see stupid women go for older, lustful men.

This video and more should be taught in schools.

@svartvist

5 ай бұрын

No, it should be taught in families where it is germane.

Sir your points are 100% logical 🙏

I have a woman with major daddy trauma issues that has escalated in dramatic fashion in what I think is a midlife crisis. I have hopes she finds healing in this transition and finds god again. But it’s been the most chaotic and destructive thing I’ve ever witnessed in the downfall of a woman. We are married with two kids. Just hanging on to see if she gets thru it.

Mine has repressed it all and is covert avoidant. Drives me fn nuts. We are so toxic. Tired of being tested by someone avoiding and hiding from life and her past. She projects all her negative self beliefs all over me and the children. Sick n tired is an understatement. She’s a victim and I’m no damn hero that’s for sure. Tried to point her to the good father we all have as he healed me from my mother issues. Same just different. Your spot on my man! No change for her lifetime of change for me. Weakest link wins

Hi. i am maried, i finaly made lot of progress about many of this characteristics but now im stable in a relationship with one man my pb is my emotions, i cant control myself when something upsets me i become disrespectfull and agressive. Dont know how to change that. If you have advice

@RelearningRelationships

Жыл бұрын

Get right with God. Live according to his Will for your life. I recommend you check out Lori Alexander on KZread & read her boob “ biblical womanhood”. She has good advice for women!

As a woman. The ending made me feel like trash. Like no one should love me.

@RelearningRelationships

7 ай бұрын

Embrace womanhood. Re- learn how to be feminine. Come to Christ. Prepare for wife hood and motherhood and you’ll get yourself a good man for life

Sir pls talk about INFATUATION v/s LOVE

@RelearningRelationships

2 жыл бұрын

I’ll do that in a future video :)

Bro This guy knows what hes talking about!

@RelearningRelationships

10 ай бұрын

Thanks

Older guy and have dated woman 15-20 years younger than me. They all had daddy issues. The thing I noticed is you have to set boundaries for these woman. There biggest fear is their boyfriend/father figure leaving them. You can not allow them to push you around. I was always looking out for them and for their best interest. They crave the stability of a father figure and someone looking out for them. I talk to most of them still today. Strange that they almost all say the same thing “you looked out for me” , “gave me great life advice”, “always there for me”. Father type roles. Never really thought that they needed me to heal from shitty fathers.

@RelearningRelationships

2 ай бұрын

You’re dating women 15-20 years younger than you. What do you expect?

@MrWoowootila

2 ай бұрын

@@RelearningRelationships the woman closer to my own age are more screwed up. You will learn this when you get older. Why would I want to date an uglier woman with a worse attitude. Daddy issues is wide spread with today’s screwed up families. It is like saying do not date blondes. If you know how to train them, it is not a big deal. You see millions of dog training videos on KZread, but not as many women training videos. Yeah poor me, I have dated some hot women who were 15-20 years younger that simply needed some training. My male friends tease me about. The conversation usually goes something like; She’s hot. Yes. She’s young. Yes. Daddy issues? Yes. Followed by them laughing. Really pisses off older women.

@user-hu9xz6lw9x

Ай бұрын

I think you have daddy issues..

That is a girl I exactly married and I have six kids now with her two Affairs on me we are trying to work on it again is there any hope?

@upsidedown4734

2 жыл бұрын

No. Protect the kids though. Handle things with Grace.

@RelearningRelationships

2 жыл бұрын

You had six kids with her and she betrayed you twice? Send me an email privately.

I have a panic attack everytime someone mentions relationship/marriage. I find 1000 reasons not to be with the man because he is going to hurt me the way my dad has been hurting me and my mom. My dad lies, cheats, neglects, yells, gaslights, and psychologically abuses me (the same way his parents abused him). People judge us because they don't know how painful daddy/mommy issue is. It's very painful nomatter how much we try to heal ourselves.

@RelearningRelationships

2 ай бұрын

It’s painful. But past a certain point you can’t live in the past or you miss out on life. Go out there, heal and find good people!

IMHO Number 4 is by far the most important. By a landslide. The amount of women in horrible, horrible even life threatening relationships and being completely in love with said "Bad Boys" is staggering nowadays. Is incredibly common. Way too many sad stories to count.

I only hve mommy issues. I love my dad to bits..which why i will never date old men 😄

@Ana-rb7ws

Жыл бұрын

Glad to hear your comment. I love my father to bits too. As I’m getting older, I’m realizing what a great father he was. I wish I had him for longer in my life.

I felt that was highly insulting that you really just said to stay away from women with daddy issues like they dont deserve to be with anyone

@RelearningRelationships

6 ай бұрын

The point is simple. If a man has taken the time to heal from his wounds and work on preparing to be a husband x then he deserves a woman who has also overcome her issues, so she can be present and capable of receiving love from a man. It’s not your fault if you had a dysfunctional father, but it is your responsibility to recover, grow and learn from it to be a better woman.

@tylerz7569

4 ай бұрын

​@@RelearningRelationshipsamen

You described my ex wife to a T

This is funny no father figure then later 5,10,20,30 yrs later after marriage they’ll say they been abused and the husband is a narcissist and want a divorce

how about dads that passed away

Give up on your love just because he/she has daddy issues sounds so dumb. Typical loser ideology. Therapy, working on emotions, reading books on daddy issues can help so much. I hate this video cz it showed everyone as nice but people with daddy issues under such a negative light.

@user-hu9xz6lw9x

Ай бұрын

Why the headache ,I just can pick a woman with no issues.. but i agree with you.

“As a man you’re straightforward” “masculine father” oh Jesus Christ🙄🙄

Many fathers would have been excellent had they married the right person. Disrespectful spouses play a large part in fathers’ absence and straying. Ironically many of these mothers are the product of daddy issues themselves.

Good fathers make warrior and strong women who can stamd tall proudly in any difficulty and strong women solve issues and lead, they are not submissive

@RelearningRelationships

4 ай бұрын

Good fathers create emotionally stable daughters that grow up learning how to distinguish between good and bad men, so they can accurately choose a good, trustworthy man they can learn to depend on. They by no means create a woman that leads”. lol. That’s what weak fathers and bad mothers create.

@ibnebatuta4868

4 ай бұрын

@@RelearningRelationships Damn!!! you are misguiding people to create weak women The kind of hypocrisy and conspiracy your mind has is impeccable You want monopoly in leadership İt reminded me a character in a show, though it was fictional but it fits your meninism or whatever it is, Just that it was your female version She wouldn't let her sons even set foot in the kitchen, because it didn't belong to men, it was only for women Let's consider the kitchen leadership here and just reverse the genders, your point of view is same And upon all of that you are trying to manipulate things Let me tell you, strong parents create strong daughters Weak parents create weak daughers Educated parents create educated daughters Spiritual parents create daughters with wisdom and spirituality Parents who are leaders create a daughter who is leader, the one who selflessly protects her people, who take risks for her people and their well-being and conquer those risks She doesn't hide behind anyone when the time comes, she faces everything like a tigeress İn short, she isn't spineless Great parents don't create coward and spineless women Strong mothers create brave daughters and leaders and good fathers provide strong emotional base to daughters so that she can choose good man instead of someone who desires to be the head or at top Damn!!, the internal desire of humans to feel powerful and on top of others I understand you why you are so manipulative, don't like woman as a leader because it doesn't make you feel on top, it's kind of when one ex-topper student in class doesn't feel good when other student takes first position in place of him İt's not just your fault mate, it's the nature of humans, they fight with each other to get first position, to dominate, even they fought big wars for just this America destroyed middle east just because to stay being super-power İt's not your fault that way, buddy But let me tell you one thing, just don't be manipulative, *don't stoop that low, man* don't use manipulative tactics by ignoring the brave, wise and leader mothers and good brave and just fathers who create a wise leader, fierce warrior and tigeress as a *Daughter* The daughter with high pride and self-esteem, the selfless sacrificing and risk taking spirit for her people, solving problems of her own and her people with intellect,courage and strength, that's what a true leader is Not the one who want to become leader so, that opposite gender follows them and submits to them The bigger leader you are, the more humble you are actually So, the men who are crying on internet about men being leader and women as submissive are hypocrite, power hungry, shallow bastards who don't know the depth of life, the depth of personality, pride and leadership in women

@ibnebatuta4868

4 ай бұрын

@RelearningRelationships Damn!!! you are misguiding people to create weak women The kind of hypocrisy and conspiracy your mind has is impeccable You want monopoly in leadership İt reminded me a character in a show, though it was fictional but it fits your meninism or whatever it is, Just that it was your female version She wouldn't let her sons even set foot in the kitchen, because it didn't belong to men, it was only for women Let's consider the kitchen leadership here and just reverse the genders, your point of view is same And upon all of that you are trying to manipulate things Let me tell you, strong parents create strong daughters Weak parents create weak daughers Educated parents create educated daughters Spiritual parents create daughters with wisdom and spirituality Parents who are leaders create a daughter who is leader, the one who selflessly protects her people, who take risks for her people and their well-being and conquer those risks She doesn't hide behind anyone when the time comes, she faces everything like a tigeress İn short, she isn't spineless Great parents don't create coward and spineless women Strong mothers create brave daughters and leaders and good fathers provide strong emotional base to daughters so that she can choose good man instead of someone who desires to be the head or at top Damn!!, the internal desire of humans to feel powerful and on top of others I understand you why you are so manipulative, don't like woman as a leader because it doesn't make you feel on top, it's kind of when one ex-topper student in class doesn't feel good when other student takes first position in place of him İt's not just your fault mate, it's the nature of humans, they fight with each other to get first position, to dominate, even they fought big wars for just this America destroyed middle east just because to stay being super-power İt's not your fault that way, buddy But let me tell you one thing, just don't be manipulative, *don't stoop that low, man* don't use manipulative tactics by ignoring the brave, wise and leader mothers and good brave and just fathers who create a wise leader, fierce warrior and tigeress as a *Daughter* The daughter with high pride and self-esteem, the selfless sacrificing and risk taking spirit for her people, solving problems of her own and her people with intellect,courage and strength, that's what a true leader is Not the one who want to become leader so, that opposite gender follows them and submits to them The bigger leader you are, the more humble you are actually So, the men who are crying on internet about men being leader and women as submissive are hypocrite, power hungry, shallow bastards who don't know the depth of life, the depth of personality, pride and leadership in women

I think this conclusions are totally wrong, i became a coodependent because i have an narcissistic father, so the reltionship never was a good one between me and the hero of the family., also, I am never looking for guys who are older than me they could remember my parent .Even my family advised me to marry an older guy, but I was not able, they were drinkers, smokers and players.One of my coleagues dated that specific older guy, the person brocked all at her flat nd she was beaten and provably her relationship with her father was better .

I have all those but i'm the type that closed off and never dates and stuff. Does that mean when i find someone i'll be a bad partner ?

@RelearningRelationships

Жыл бұрын

You said it yourself. You’re very closed off. Tell me more about that?

@calvinlandry03

Жыл бұрын

Are you doing any work while your single ? Why are you wasting your time and not building relationships ?

Thanks for sharing so much knowledge. But somehow, I'll not be able to see this video under a very positive light. People with daddy issues aren't red flags. There are so many people who have Daddy issues but they want to be with their better halves and have a better life. They want to work on themselves and get these issues resolved but they don't know how to. Someone who has daddy issues is already a victim of situations that they didn't even create. Regular people won't even understand their battles. You should make a video on " how to resolve daddy issues". I particularly didn't like how you projected people with daddy issues in this video. World needs to be a better place for all.

Women are going for older men because the younger men these days are all in their mother’s basement

A big age gap is 20 plus

@RelearningRelationships

Ай бұрын

A big age gaps is quite frankly, another over 10+. It’s weird and dysfunctional.

@MarkusSteiner-x3l

29 күн бұрын

@@RelearningRelationships Aristotle wrote the best age for a man to get married is 40 and a woman 19.

@RelearningRelationships

29 күн бұрын

@MarkusSteiner-x3l you’d be okay quit your 19 year old daughter marrying a man old enough to be her father? Quite disgusting. You should go and ask 19 year old women what they think of that

@MarkusSteiner-x3l

29 күн бұрын

@@RelearningRelationships If he’s a high value respectable man, sure.

@RelearningRelationships

29 күн бұрын

@MarkusSteiner-x3l if he were high value at his age he would have already been married with a wife and kids, not going for women half his age.