Loved this nugget: The #1 predictor of happiness in a relationship is being happy solo before the relationship even started.

@mamamuzic

2 ай бұрын

Truly the best, #1 prerequisite! I'm working on feeling happy and complete with myself, and not dwelling on loneliness.

@nettynette8697

2 ай бұрын

Yes! 100% correct!

@LaurieGerber-vc8jh

2 ай бұрын

me too!

@LarryH914

2 ай бұрын

⁠@@mamamuzicp❤❤❤❤❤❤

Wow, she is good, she said more realistic things than other people that do “matching”. A lot of her thinking is exactly how I feel. I have been married for 50 years( 11/24/1973 ) but I hear young people complain, and their expectations are ridiculous, you are going to date a human, just like you, don’t expect perfection, it doesn’t exist. ❤ be yourself, and don’t THINK that you are going to change the person, 95% of times that person is not going to change. Marry who you like and not who you think you are going to change to become what you would like. ‼️‼️‼️

I watch too much true crime and I’m too tired to find a person.

@kristinwatkins2406

2 ай бұрын

Don’t Stop Believing!!! I was a first time 50 year old bride 👰🏻 ALSO found a man who IS a True Crime junkie lol 😊

@elizabethann8228

2 ай бұрын

😂👍

@minh-x1nguyen729

2 ай бұрын

@@elizabethann8228hi honey ❤

@CrazyCatLady1968

2 ай бұрын

Testify sister 🙌🏻😂👍🏻

@mchris65

2 ай бұрын

I don't want one enough.

Have good boundaries and stick to them. Sometimes we bend too much and we end up accommodating the wrong type of person in our lives. We then become so invested in making it work that we waste our time and resources on someone who is not worthy.

I think its important to give men that you dont initially feel fireworks for a chance. When i met my fiancee it was not immediate fireworks. I took it slow and as he revealed who he was he checked every box he just arrived in a different package than i thought he would. Thank goodness i had theself awareness to hive him a chance. Ive never been happier after 4 years in the relationship. Broaden the horizons

@blastoise65

2 ай бұрын

Very good. I am happy for you. I agree.....things come in different packages than you want them!

@debbiegreene7037

2 ай бұрын

Me too!

@nn7397

2 ай бұрын

Yes but she says give him.a chance by date 3. If 6 does not become an 8 then you let it go. Isnt that such a limited time frame to see if attraction will grow or if he checks your boxes? Just 3 dates? Please how much time did you give it?

@leelee-nr5my

2 ай бұрын

@@nn7397 i gave it longer but knew by date 3 he was a good solid person so i gave it the time i thought was right for me. I think we all know whats best for ourselves if we are tuned in! Wishing u best!

Chemistry is def important. If you’re not feeling that physical chemistry connection, you’re not ready to make a physical connection. Sometimes feeling strong in your own body image needs work before you are ready to share in a physical relationship. That’s a real lightbulb moment.

I believe a second date is needed. Kindness, sense of humour and someone who is happy and grounded within themselves. When you have these qualities you will come to want to share your hoohah.

Dominque what a great topic. After a divorce, several long term relationships that were all verbally & emotionally abusive, I decided to go to therapy to figure out why I couldn't be happy or find the right person in my relationships. When we finally came down to it, it had to do with my dad & how he treated my mom. After being single for several years my friends said you've been alone for a while now it's type to get back out there. I had no clue about online dating I wanted to meet someone by chance on the street or the park which doesn't give you many possibilities. I decided to go on Our Time & see what options I had. OMG I meet some crazy guys but funny enough the last one was the one. Courtney I was just like you, looking for a guy over 6 ft tall, who liked dogs, & spending time outdoors. Well Courtney to my surprise his not over 6ft tall, doesn't have the job I would expect, always had cats & I'm a dog person. Here I am now 7 years later with a man who has the biggest heart, treats me like a queen & loves my dog to death. So I guess you never know what type God has in store for us. Courtney keep looking I know you will find the right one. You are a sweet young woman and deserve to be treated like a princess if not move on to the next. Ladies you are both amazing and deserve all the best life has to offer.

Oh my gosh, the commercials you do! What happened to our old show? I miss it so bad.

@64Biina

Ай бұрын

This video is part of Dominique's podcast series, which is quite different to her regular tutorial type videos. The sponsors form a stream of income so that the business can continue. I hope that makes sense. 😊

Bring her again, Dominique, please! And thank you for bringing such as bubbling and knowledgeable dating expert. I agree with her, you should have your expectations, but they shouldn't be unrealistic. Also you shouldn't settle for a person with red flags. I like the 3 dates system and the fact of not accepting less than 80 in aspects such as the mind, heart, and connection.

This segment was so great! So many “gold nugget” take aways. Laurie is so spot on with growing up in an era of you serve the other person to the point of losing who you are. On my list was Tall, Dark, and Handsome. Believe me, I found Tall, Dark, and Handsome, and married after 2 years of dating, and literally, once the honeymoon was over, spent 24 years of married life being physically, emotionally, and verbally abused. I finally found the courage to break free, and I have spent the last 15 years trying to find myself again. This is for Courtney: You are a beautiful inside out woman, don’t settle for anything less than what you truly deserve. The heart ❤ of a man will radiate outwardly in the way he treats you, and wants to spend time with you and pay attention to you. Dominique, as always this podcast is so helpful for those of us over 50 that would like to be more intentional and feel secure about dating again. 🌹

I love what Joe Dispenza said. Make a list of what you want in an ideal partner and then become it yourself. The Universe is always matching you with what you put out. It goes to the 'would you date yourself' question.

@blastoise65

2 ай бұрын

This is very powerful.

@kirsteenwefit3153

2 ай бұрын

yip! and I learned love comes through self, not because of someone else, they are just the excuse to love. when I earned that, it changed it all. they become the cherry not the cake.@@blastoise65

@LaurieGerber-vc8jh

2 ай бұрын

brilliant, I have a lot to say on that topic too!

@kirsteenwefit3153

2 ай бұрын

really enjoyed your interview and I could sense some of the 'alignment' stuff. I love Joe Dispenza''s and Bob Proctor stuff. Please do one on aligning :) @@LaurieGerber-vc8jh ps it was interesting you picked out the free way of living that women are doing. I've sense this for some time. :)

Lori is naturally radiant and beautiful. I like how she is refreshingly frank. Love her style of communication.

@LaurieGerber-vc8jh

2 ай бұрын

this made my day!

Everything is so true here, I met my husband we went to the movies on the first date, didn’t feel any connection, at the time I as reading the book men are from mars women are from Venus, it said you have to give a person 5 dates, so I thought I would test this , the second date was so much better, third heaps better, then I thought I really like this person, he wasn’t my typical person to go on a date with. Now we have been married 21 years 💜 I don’t know what I would do if he wasn’t with me . 😊 🥰Maria from New Zealand.

@LaurieGerber-vc8jh

2 ай бұрын

that's so sweet of you to share, so hopeful for others!

@nn7397

2 ай бұрын

Thank you so much for mentioning the 5 dates. Laurie says 3 dates but I think that is too fast to decide since attraction can grow. No?

@LaurieGerber-vc8jh

2 ай бұрын

You just have to be careful@@nn7397 because after a hand full of dates people get invested and attached and literally more likely to overlook red flags and dealbreakers.

Dominique, your podcasts are the best thing you’ve ever done, in my opinion. ❤

8:46pm I am definitely over 50 and it was an entirely different world when I did date. I wanted to make the point of how you don’t really have to have interest in someone, so take a chance.. I had zero interest in dating the man who would become my husband. I only went out with him because 46:33 my girlfriend wanted to double date with his friend. After a couple of dates I saw him interact so sweetly with my three year old sister, even suggesting we take her for a walk. A couple of dates later when he came to pick me up I opened the door and hoo haa! Fireworks! We were married63 years before he passed and I miss him every day..

@blastoise65

2 ай бұрын

So lovely.

@LaurieGerber-vc8jh

2 ай бұрын

another hopeful story!

I am not single, so I almost did not watch... but what the heck, I'll hang out with Dominique and Courtney. Am I glad I did, ya'll had be laughing so hard !!! Plus, this has a lot of insight for all, single or married. Thanks , another great time 😊

The dating coach is phenomenal despite a bit crass. I hope Courtney wasn't too uncomfortable and didnt feel overexposed by being used as an example and even had her body parts highlighted and laughed at.

@Lucy-tz3uo

2 ай бұрын

I felt truly uncomfortable for Courtney and was amazed that Dominique actually crossed those boundaries.

The saying is true, when you quit or aren’t looking is when it’s going to happen. I’m happily married, but I’m guessing it’s especially tough when a lot of people work from home and you don’t get as many opportunities to meet people.

I got divorced at 50 and have not dated…15 years later. Was an older parent so raising my 3 boys by myself. So no time or desire! I take reasonably good care of myself but I just don’t have the courage or energy to date now that my kids are gone and I am an empty nester. I would lime someone to travel with as I approach retirement and I guess as an occasional companion. But even the thought of doing that is too daunting as the only option seems to be online.

@LaurieGerber-vc8jh

2 ай бұрын

saying it takes energy and courage is so true

Omg! I needed this so much today! You hit the nail on the head.

So much fun listening today! I’m 58 and on tinder and hinge. I had to redo my criteria also. I can totally relate to what Courtney is going through. ❤

Love this episode. Laurie's practical and honest approach sounds helpful to me.❤

Oh my goodness what an amazing show!!! Loved it. Laurie is so on point. How refreshing. Dominique great questions too. What a wealth of info. Thank you!

Such a beautiful guest, very helpful - thank you, both 🌺xxx

No dating apps for me any more all horrendous experiences . Loose the lists . I am happily single and if love happens then I’ll be doubly blessed ❤️

@LaurieGerber-vc8jh

2 ай бұрын

being happily single is key, bravo!

@leesh2684

2 ай бұрын

Same here age 60 👍🏼

This was so informative!! ❤

This was a great podcast!!! I enjoyed the perspectives! So many great takeaways

Wow this is by far the best video I've seen! I feel a sense of peace! Great analogies!

Love this!

Laurie is a gift!

Very informative. I do think faith is important value.

@LaurieGerber-vc8jh

2 ай бұрын

you are not alone!

@juliezerner2857

2 ай бұрын

Absolutely agree!

love dominique, she's so beautiful, but also you can tell she cares about her audience. miss audrey, she was beautiful. thanks for your videos. You are right if you do not have love, you do feel it.

Great interview!

Awesome podcast Dominique! I love how real she is in her discussions about dating, 62 here and yes back on the dating seen, these guidelines are very helpful ❤❤

@LaurieGerber-vc8jh

2 ай бұрын

so glad to hear, what are you current struggles with dating?

Loved what she had to say! I would really like something about how to navigate long term relationships as we go through midlife. Retirement or just slowing down and falling back into a life just about us again. No more career goals or kids to raise

@LaurieGerber-vc8jh

2 ай бұрын

agree, great topic idea for next time

Loved this !!!

One's religion in a marriage is very important for a happy/stable marriage. To pray together helps you stay together and on the same track. Plus it's a game changer if your husband accompanies you to Mass. Yes I'm Catholic and love my faith.

This was really entertaining and I liked her. Hope you have her again ..She takes real life and puts it in perspective with a sense of humor..Thank you once again.

Excellent! I learned a lot. Thank you❤

Love Laurie. I’m 50+ & my daughter is Courtney’s generation. That gen, men are into gaming & conflict avoid. That leaves sexy time as main focus. A dating turnoff is when that’s 1st priority or if men have baggage or come on too strong. I’m married & am glad not single. I hope men seek Laurie soon!

Laurie you’re amazing and so insightful!

@LaurieGerber-vc8jh

2 ай бұрын

thanks! what tips are you going to use?

Loved this video. So true what she said. Love doesn't magically. I met my 2nd husband and thought he was "nice" however I went out with I'm 3 more times and he seemed to get more handsome and interesting on each date. Third date was the kiss and wow!!!! That was it. So glad I seen him for a 2nd date.

@LaurieGerber-vc8jh

2 ай бұрын

that's such a hopeful story. For many people (not all) attraction can grow with familiarity/comfort.

Dominique what a great podcast i really this one . Had a bit of a chuckle 😅 at some but overr all wow great. You all the best

Some really good wisdom from Laurie! Wow! 😊😮

This was awesome. Thank you ❣️

This was awesome 👏🏻

I loved this woman she said a lot of really great things about!

@LaurieGerber-vc8jh

2 ай бұрын

what's your best takeaway?

Great podcast

Domonique, do not be discouraged . God has a special man for you !

Absolutely the best guest you have ever had! I loved every minute of this conversation. Too bad I am too old to use any of this info but I can sure pass the wisdom on to my kiddos.

@LaurieGerber-vc8jh

2 ай бұрын

are you sure, how old?

@susanulrich3965

2 ай бұрын

I'm sure, way old! But happy. Thanks for asking though.@@LaurieGerber-vc8jh

@susanulrich3965

2 ай бұрын

@@LaurieGerber-vc8jh Way old but it's ok. I'm happy.

@LaurieGerber-vc8jh

2 ай бұрын

@@susanulrich3965 happy is good

Great interview!! I’ve already shared with a few of my single friends🥰

@KidneyCancerAdvocate

2 ай бұрын

Me too

@LaurieGerber-vc8jh

2 ай бұрын

thanks!

Awesome ❤

Iteresting podcast. Thank you

this was one of the best episodes!!

Thank you ❤

I enjoy my single life. I love ❤ my friends male and female. My whoha is satisfied too.

OMG! So I’ll continue listening to her if she answers the question but one at almost 59 years of age, I don’t know if I want to date again I like the male and the flirtatiousness and then the being able to go home our separate ways But be able to meet up again. But my number one question is every facet of social media whether it is your personal social media platform whether it’s business whether it’s the dating apps every one of them even though they’re supposed to signify different things for different platforms seems to be a dating platform, and I really get tired of men reaching out to me on my business platform and I can’t help but be ugly about it! And the other concern that I have is, I have been catfish or scammed. I’ve not been stupid enough to give any man any money when they start talking money to me and sending it to them, I immediately lose them. This is the reason why I hate online dating, online meeting. I hope she has some advice.

I love it so much what really life things to talk about in this day and age. we all need help for sure. taking time and communication is key .God bless you all.

When I lost my husband of 45 years a year ago, I entered a new social class. I am no longer a part of any "group." I'm 77 and not interested in marriage. I had a good marriage, but I'm interested in a younger man. I tried a dating app, but the last photo I saw was of an older gentleman in a hospital bed. Can you imagine? lol.

👍 👍 👍 One of your best guests ever ❤. Great interview 🎉.

Greetings from Ireland 🇮🇪

OMG Dominique!!! Your guests have been just amazing. They have so much knowledge ad insight and helpful hints. You can always learn something! Thank you so much.

@LaurieGerber-vc8jh

2 ай бұрын

what's your best takeaway for your dating life?

@IRC1026

2 ай бұрын

To understand what parts of a "criteria list" are actually meaningful and which aren't. To be true to yourself to understand that after 3 dates, you will know if the persosn is right for you and don't go the "i can change them" route. @@LaurieGerber-vc8jh

Hi Dom! Fr Houston! ❤

This podcast was so needed in my life right now. I am thinking about getting to know someone and possibly moving on from my current relationship. The new guy checks off #1 and #3. I have to find out more about him. I just have to get up the nerve to go out with him.

@LaurieGerber-vc8jh

2 ай бұрын

we're here for you!

Needs to go on a second date! Give the guy a chance..

Where is the ❤ button! Thanks so much for being REAL

@LaurieGerber-vc8jh

2 ай бұрын

real is my favorite...I am trying to teach it, to daters!

Love this…just want to know..if you not on dating apps…can a woman go alone for a meal..alone to say sport events…how would it look if you going alone to places…to see if you can meet someone..even if you do have the confidence to do so …

@LaurieGerber-vc8jh

2 ай бұрын

yes go alone or with a female friend.

I love your videos and have been watching for over 2 years. But find my self honestly turning it off a lot due to the new length of the ads

@vera214T

2 ай бұрын

I understand what you’re saying, this is what I do. When it’s time for a commercial I go do something like put the clothes in the wash or let the dog out to go potty. I know Dominique’s commercials are a source of income so I let them run to support her. If there’s one that’s outrageously long I have to respectfully skip it. ❤

I like the natural meeting on the streets of New York. 💃🏻🧿

This sounds like way too much work. Why can't anything be easy. I seem to struggle with everything these days, weight, food, costs, dates...everything. I don't think I even know what I want anymore. I know sad. But I'm laughing too.

Love your glasses!! Can you share the brand name?

To both of you girls… God is getting your man ready!!❤️❤️❤️❤️

True silly story i came put of the store driving a scooter cause my knee is bad and im a chubby 70 yr old woman not looking for a man. A 28 yr old latin lover came up to me and ask if i liked younger men? I burst into laughter after he told me he loves older women!!! I said " im poor and old honey but he was fine with that " He says " He was only looking for fun!!" I cant stop laughing and have zero interest in a baby!! Lol

I am a widow. Three years now. We were married for 40+ years. What advice do you have for me? Thank you! Thank you ladies! I have sent you a message via your website, Laurie.

Hi,from Germany

Kortney is so beautiful

Hilarious 🎉loved this one hoo hah 😂

Topic on peptides. Ozempic ,Semiglutide for weight loss .

Would love to hear Courtney and Dominique's thoughts after all that. Have you been dating Diminique and Dominique communication is something you focus on, maybe some day when you feel comfortable can you tell us what happened

A lot of good points. I would add: try Not to have dates thru media. There is a big disconnect. Its not human to human. Also, NO kissing on first few dates. A man will respect you a lot more if you dont allow/offer and physical contact. It shows that you respect yourself. You have to be your own gatekeeper. Its up to him to earn your trust while evaluating each other. No alcohol either. For too many reasons to list here. Did anyone mention God first before anything??? Ask God for your best match. When meeting, can you accept him "as is?" If not, you will never be content.

This process sounds all too complicated to participate. I’ve been a widow for four years and haven’t dated because I’m a woman of faith so that is my first criteria. I’m personally happy but would like a companion to go to plays and movies with.

If the guy is good and you like him, date him at least three times before you say no more. In personal experience the best lover I ever had was with someone I wasn't attracted to initially at all.

@LaurieGerber-vc8jh

2 ай бұрын

truth!

@montanasky2253

Ай бұрын

Good advice !!! Unless they did something awful in date 1 & 2, give them a chance

George Michael I absolutey agree 😍

Well Ladies. Let me tell you. I gone for broke. I signed up with Laurie Gerber. Wish me luck. Dominque, I think your ladies that are still hopeful need to sign up and get together to support one another. If that doesn't work at least get together for a good laugh. I can't believe that I'm still wishful, hopeful and just maybe a little brave.

@LaurieGerber-vc8jh

2 ай бұрын

so happy to have you in the group! Never give up.

I am tall (5’10”) so I understand my need for a tall man. But the requirement for a woman under 5’7” to have a man over 6’ is totally confusing to me.

She's good thank goodness got married when I did my husband was handsome and tall my life was so happy hopefully. My grandchildren. . met someone that will be intelligent and caring

@LaurieGerber-vc8jh

2 ай бұрын

are you sure? how old?

@LaurieGerber-vc8jh

2 ай бұрын

oops that was meant for the person below!

This is just my opinion. Both Dominique and Courtney would look so much prettier without so much unnatural makeup. How different she looks while gardening .

@JosieBearman

2 ай бұрын

Really?! Do you feel better sharing that? You know the courage a person needs to put their face and body on the internet?Sometimes sharing unsolicited negative opinions about someone's appearance is hurtful to them. This platform is about "flourishing" and supporting/encouraging each other. Neither Dominique nor Courtney invited comments about their appearance. Have some grace, compassion and maturity for crying out loud.

@user-yg4bv7io8e

2 ай бұрын

It was not meant to be negative but you certainly are negative and your comments lack grace, compassion and maturity.

Started to talk to a man I met on a dating site and he told me he was divorced and we had such a nice time talking for hours. Well next day I asked him if he was divorced and he said he has been living separate for 3 years and in his mind he was divorced. He apologized for deceiving me. What do I do?

@blastoise65

2 ай бұрын

Leave him! LOL

@tearose522

2 ай бұрын

Run! In the opposite direction. Deceitful about a very important topic. Who knows what else he’d lie about in the future? You deserve better.

@LaurieGerber-vc8jh

2 ай бұрын

great Q, people often lie about this-you were smart to ask again and he was smart to be truthful but it's not the greatest sign about that part of his character. The whys and the timing of the divorce matter and how he is doing in the other H categories...Spill

@joanne1468

2 ай бұрын

Run.

@sunflowers6172

2 ай бұрын

He was honest about it when you asked him directly, give him another chance. Try to find out his why, as to not getting a divorce. Could be religious. ❤

I have on HoneyLove right now and boy are you right. Its the one you don't rip off as soon as you walk in the dor.

I also want my George Michael!! 😂

Just read a comment on another video -- not Dominiques-- from someone nearing fifty who is struggling with life, feels hopeless, can barely manage to pay rent, and wonders if she will even make it to fifty. How to help someone like this?

@dominiquesachsetv

2 ай бұрын

Is there a way to message them directly?

It's not politically correct but book The rules absolutely works. Worked for me and my mother.

❤❤❤❤

hola from Colombia, can you put "subtitles" in Spanish? I want to understand every things Please. 🙏🏻

Dominique, what are you doing with your hair? Are you growing it out?

I’ve never heard of her

George Michael is the beautiful man! Victor Webster from Hallmark Channel is even better! He is my dream man.

What if your morality/Christianity doesn’t believe in the ‘hoo haa’ is not supposed to be important?

@tanyanikolic1863

Ай бұрын

Just be aware it is important to every man. If it's not, there's something wrong with him. It's not something I'm interested in so I don't date.

Way tooooo many commercials!