Fighting the Spiritual Battle for Your Marriage - Jason & Tori Benham

Jason and Tori Benham struggled with conflict until they realized marriage is a spiritual battle. Fighting together for their marriage rather than against each other transformed their relationship. Tune in to hear practical tips about working through conflict, overcoming destructive thought patterns towards your spouse, and reigniting godly jealousy for your husband or wife.
Get the Benham's book, Beauty in Battle: bit.ly/3nquZq5
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  • @durranpotter3248
    @durranpotter32482 жыл бұрын

    Driving this morning and this was God's perfect timing, my Wifey and I had a tough argument yesterday, and this morning I was reminded to fight for my marriage not against it, the defeated devil hates marriage and wants to cause Division between marriages. Fight with God's truths

  • @BitsyBee

    @BitsyBee

    Жыл бұрын

    "Fight for my marriage, not against it," great summary, thanks!

  • @ambivertical

    @ambivertical

    Жыл бұрын

    Well done brother

  • @susanogletree3899

    @susanogletree3899

    Жыл бұрын

    Amen!

  • @kelsey7411
    @kelsey74112 жыл бұрын

    This woman has put into words exactly what I struggled with. Feeling so lonely at home like we were living completely separate lives and my husband was doing just fine without me. It made me feel normal to hear that I’m not alone in this. Thanks for sharing

  • @focusonthefamily

    @focusonthefamily

    2 жыл бұрын

    We're sorry to hear about your marital struggles, Kelsey. Thanks for sharing with us that this broadcast meant so much to you. Know that we'll keep you and your husband in our prayers. If you’d like to talk with one of our counselors (at no cost to you), call 855-771-HELP (4357) weekdays between 6 A.M. and 8 P.M. (MT). May God bless you with His grace and peace.

  • @Psalmtwentyseven

    @Psalmtwentyseven

    Жыл бұрын

    I agree with you. My husband is a truck driver and he is driving across the country most of the week and I feel like we are going down opposite and parallel paths when we should be going down the sane path TOGETHER!!!😪😭

  • @annwilson3941

    @annwilson3941

    Жыл бұрын

    When spouses family suffer from lifelong trauma , death of mother, alcoholism.. and sibling jealousy’s.. the turning on the partner .. devil won ..such destructive powers Not this time Kick Satan out!!!!

  • @endtimesareuponus8930

    @endtimesareuponus8930

    Жыл бұрын

    We find so many Americans are too materialistic. Hence they hold onto the material or pride and ignore others.

  • @Erin78G

    @Erin78G

    Жыл бұрын

    I haven’t heard her speak yet but this is me exactly!

  • @8Demetra
    @8Demetra Жыл бұрын

    The Lord taught us many years ago to stand back to back and fight the enemy, not each other!!

  • @rebekahguilder602

    @rebekahguilder602

    Жыл бұрын

    Amen!!!

  • @KathleenHundley

    @KathleenHundley

    Жыл бұрын

    Smart!

  • @vanessaaimee6008
    @vanessaaimee6008 Жыл бұрын

    Im fighting in prayer with hope and faith to restore my marriage. My husband moved out a year ago and immediately filed. I still can’t comprehend how he went from loving me so much to nothing. It’s been so hard for me and the kids. Please pray for us. I’m praying for all marriages.

  • @focusonthefamily

    @focusonthefamily

    Жыл бұрын

    Thanks for sharing, Vanessa, and we’re sorry to hear that you are experiencing difficulties in your marriage. We realize you are hurting. Please know that we'll be praying for you and your husband, asking the Lord to bring healing and hope to your situation. Also, we have counselors here who can listen and pray with you. Here’s the contact info: bit.ly/2ItKdoE. In the meantime, our website contains some information you might find helpful. If you haven’t already done so, we hope you’ll visit our “Marriage” channel [bit.ly/2zG1Oq6]. Our resource list [bit.ly/3KU15nL] may be of interest, too. May God be your source of wisdom and strength in the days ahead.

  • @jemimahhezekiah218

    @jemimahhezekiah218

    Жыл бұрын

    May God restore ur marriage, dont stop praying...God s faithful.

  • @nelvawood1895

    @nelvawood1895

    Жыл бұрын

    🙏🏻🙏🏻

  • @standalonelandclearingllc

    @standalonelandclearingllc

    Жыл бұрын

    Praying for restoration. My your prayers be in allienment with God's will

  • @barbaramurphy124

    @barbaramurphy124

    Жыл бұрын

    @@focusonthefamilytDrrDrRddrRESrdRerrs As f

  • @Psalmtwentyseven
    @Psalmtwentyseven Жыл бұрын

    Please pray for my marriage. I just want SOOOOOOOO BADLY for my husband to love me GOD'S WAY with His agape UNCONDITIONAL love and to have a heart of compassion for me; and I want to be able to talk to him about ANYTHING and EVERYTHING. We will be married 33 years this coming January and because he is a truck driver and he is driving across the country most of the week, we are separated more than we are together and I REALLY REALLY REALLY wish he would see what his job is doing to us. We hardly see each other and we hardly talk to each other and I KNOW this is not the way it is supposed to be and this is NOT God's plan for us. PLEASE pray for us.

  • @focusonthefamily

    @focusonthefamily

    Жыл бұрын

    Thanks for sharing, friend. Please know that we'll be praying for you and your husband, asking our Heavenly Father to give you insight into the ways you may express love and patience with each other and enable you both to serve one another in love. Also, we have counselors here who can listen and pray with you. Here’s the contact info: bit.ly/2ItKdoE. In the meantime, our website contains some information you might find helpful. If you haven’t already done so, we hope you’ll visit our “Marriage” channel [bit.ly/2zG1Oq6]. Our resource list [bit.ly/3KU15nL] may be of interest, too. May God be your source of wisdom and strength in the days ahead.

  • @Psalmtwentyseven

    @Psalmtwentyseven

    Жыл бұрын

    @@focusonthefamily Thank you SO VERY MUCH!! I REALLY APPRECIATE it!!!

  • @jenniferwhiten1884

    @jenniferwhiten1884

    Жыл бұрын

    16:40 the enemy has our marriage - I know it’s because I am drawing my husband closer to the lord and we have been serving and reading scripture - now he’s attacking us turning us against each other . Please pray for Jennifer and Scott . And that we would fight together . Thank you. I’ve tried everything . ❤

  • @Psalmtwentyseven

    @Psalmtwentyseven

    Жыл бұрын

    @@jenniferwhiten1884 I am sp sorry. But I want you to know that I am praying for you and your husband.

  • @bethmiller6827

    @bethmiller6827

    Жыл бұрын

    If he owns a cellphone, there is no excuse for lack of communication. Set up at least one time every day you can have a long conversation. Work together to make your marriage better.

  • @sbg4ever120
    @sbg4ever12011 ай бұрын

    How you see the battle determines how you fight it! Life changing words of wisdom! Thank you 🙏

  • @gulfreensunny109
    @gulfreensunny109 Жыл бұрын

    I'm recently married . This broadcast help me to get to know more about marriage. Need prayers for a blessed and awesome marriage life . Blessings

  • @endtimesareuponus8930

    @endtimesareuponus8930

    Жыл бұрын

    How are things going?

  • @s.i.williams2876
    @s.i.williams28762 жыл бұрын

    Loved this conversation! Blessed! May we seek to honor the Lord with our marriages and make Him Lord of our battles. ❤🙏

  • @kimacker8594
    @kimacker85942 жыл бұрын

    Thank you for reminding us how that our marriage is so important and we need to work at it everyday.

  • @discipleofchrist5217
    @discipleofchrist5217 Жыл бұрын

    I'm going through a battle in my marriage as the Lord has woke me from a dead sleep & equipped me for the storm I was heading into in my marriage. It's been almost 4 years now since the storm started & and it's only getting worse. I just ordered my copy & I look forward to reading it. I'm currently separated "taking a break" for the 8th or 9th time in the past 3.5 years after 27 years together and were both 41 with 3 amazing children. I pray this book will give me some insight to healing & dealing with the storm in my merriage on even a greater & deeper spiritual level 🙏 Thank you so much for the great information & I could not agree with you guys more.

  • @jerrysinclair3771
    @jerrysinclair37712 жыл бұрын

    It is not the wedding RING that gets married couples thru struggles, but it is the suffer-RING

  • @endtimesareuponus8930

    @endtimesareuponus8930

    Жыл бұрын

    And suffering will get much worse. WEF promises "you will own nothing..."

  • @yaderblen2890
    @yaderblen28902 жыл бұрын

    We need to preach more about the spirit of unity in the Church, home and everywhere. Let's us set the world on fire with the peace and the love of Jesus Christ. Amen Hallelujah ❤️

  • @endtimesareuponus8930

    @endtimesareuponus8930

    Жыл бұрын

    We think it's preached enough. It just needs to be CARRIED Out. People need to Choose to love.

  • @aurorao.8594
    @aurorao.8594 Жыл бұрын

    Focus on the Family should do a book with those stories counselors hear and how they guide people that call their counselors. Thank you for another great program 👌🏼

  • @maranatha2033
    @maranatha20332 жыл бұрын

    The ring that keeps you together is not your wedding ring, it's suffe-ring.

  • @mytreasuredcreations

    @mytreasuredcreations

    Жыл бұрын

    So true. I've been married for 21 years. Every time we go through a season of suffering and struggle, our marriage gets better. At first we struggle, then we remember we are supposed to draw toward each other. We pray as we struggle and we become more intimate. God's ways are higher than our ways. 🙌

  • @endtimesareuponus8930

    @endtimesareuponus8930

    Жыл бұрын

    @@mytreasuredcreations and things will get worse cause WEF promises "you will own nothing...."

  • @valerisjeanruthesther2041
    @valerisjeanruthesther2041 Жыл бұрын

    Thank you Lord. Thank you so much, I really need to hear that today.

  • @lottieduncan6300
    @lottieduncan63002 жыл бұрын

    Thank you for this, very timely. FOTF ministries has meant so much to us over the years!!

  • @jameswhite9448
    @jameswhite94482 жыл бұрын

    Wow! Extremely valuable, inspiring and challenging! Worth repeat viewings!

  • @elmyvaldez6034
    @elmyvaldez6034 Жыл бұрын

    Im about to get married and want a Holy marriage I know trials will come but will overcome with the Holy Spirit

  • @bonnieketterman6542
    @bonnieketterman6542 Жыл бұрын

    I was watching ur video it was a real blessing it really helped our marriage

  • @chikamsonwamara
    @chikamsonwamara2 жыл бұрын

    Thank you so much for this video. it really blessed me so much!

  • @jerrythompson8337
    @jerrythompson8337 Жыл бұрын

    Our spouse is there to complete us, not finnish us off.

  • @NathanWesleySmith
    @NathanWesleySmith Жыл бұрын

    Awesome job guys! So well done. Loving the Beauty in Battle Podcast as well!

  • @juliejustus6878
    @juliejustus6878 Жыл бұрын

    The best comment I've ever heard about spouses not having an argument is their not being honest with each other. You have 2 people who might have different directions or opinions your going to argue

  • @mariceladominguez84
    @mariceladominguez842 жыл бұрын

    Such a beautiful message! Wow.

  • @nurseliz1973
    @nurseliz1973 Жыл бұрын

    Needed to hear this tonight 😇

  • @felicitysoyi6096
    @felicitysoyi6096 Жыл бұрын

    Wow! This is amazing, so much to learn.

  • @thepuma77
    @thepuma772 жыл бұрын

    This is encouraging. 10:35 just wow! amazing lesson! Thanks so much for sharing your wisdom bro. 🔥🔥🔥

  • @d2suarez
    @d2suarez25 күн бұрын

    Thank you

  • @favourenyi8440
    @favourenyi8440 Жыл бұрын

    Whooaaaaah! So apt! I love the work y'all are doing. Pls keep it up..

  • @focusonthefamily

    @focusonthefamily

    Жыл бұрын

    Thanks for your kind feedback, friend. We're so glad this broadcast encouraged you. May God bless and guide you.

  • @hajahkalobwe9915
    @hajahkalobwe9915 Жыл бұрын

    Thank you so much

  • @kimberlylewis2669
    @kimberlylewis2669 Жыл бұрын

    So relatable thank you

  • @gabyestrada3334
    @gabyestrada3334 Жыл бұрын

    I will search for it in audiobook

  • @HisRichBlessings
    @HisRichBlessings Жыл бұрын

    Please pray for our marriage

  • @focusonthefamily

    @focusonthefamily

    Жыл бұрын

    Hello, Tina. Please know that we'll be praying for you and your spouse, asking our Heavenly Father to bless your marriage and comfort you daily with evidences of His great love and compassion (Lamentations 3:22‐23). Also, so that we might come alongside you and offer assistance, we invite you to talk with one of our Christian counselors (at no cost to you). Here’s the contact info: bit.ly/2ItKdoE. Grace and peace to you.

  • @endtimesareuponus8930

    @endtimesareuponus8930

    Жыл бұрын

    We will. Please focus on other people's needs. That'll help. Bible tells us to love our neighbor as ourselves.

  • @MariahFan09
    @MariahFan09 Жыл бұрын

    All of these people in this video are so sharp

  • @pamelav.5699
    @pamelav.5699 Жыл бұрын

    🌈🌟💞🦋🌻ThankYou Very helpful!

  • @Animelovinbean
    @Animelovinbean11 ай бұрын

    I really really need help I’m a pastor please pray for my marriage

  • @johndurham8965
    @johndurham8965 Жыл бұрын

    Exactly what she talked about is what my Ex-wife did to me when I deployed and would come back. The resentment built a wall and lead to other bad things. She eventually filed for divorce when I found out about her affairs.

  • @BitsyBee

    @BitsyBee

    Жыл бұрын

    Great reminder to be aware of that resentment and check it. Thank you.

  • @debbiestrang7774
    @debbiestrang7774 Жыл бұрын

    Let her answer the question!

  • @ariadnehendricks9529
    @ariadnehendricks9529 Жыл бұрын

    Wow 💜

  • @jamesmunyaneza2494
    @jamesmunyaneza2494 Жыл бұрын

    Help me in my marriage🙏

  • @annwilson3941
    @annwilson3941 Жыл бұрын

    Fight right!!! I believed this until a band of brothers and a sister They were the force and now,,, family fractures all

  • @elizabethgacau6472
    @elizabethgacau6472 Жыл бұрын

    Double like

  • @juliejustus6878
    @juliejustus6878 Жыл бұрын

    As much as I enjoyed this! It didn't really help me because, my husband isn't saved and I completely alone

  • @standalonelandclearingllc

    @standalonelandclearingllc

    Жыл бұрын

    You are not alone the rest of us Christian are in agreement that we pray for his salvation.

  • @amaliacorral4727
    @amaliacorral47272 жыл бұрын

    Amen👍

  • @vickiyoung5190
    @vickiyoung5190 Жыл бұрын

    I think an interesting question to ask these couples Is, "Did you have an argument on the way here? Or as you got ready this morning?"

  • @jessyjonas4988
    @jessyjonas49882 жыл бұрын

    The western church is in for an awakening But it must come to separate Wheat from tares

  • @endtimesareuponus8930

    @endtimesareuponus8930

    Жыл бұрын

    Americans are too spoiled.

  • @toddkeeran3479
    @toddkeeran3479 Жыл бұрын

    My Father is always at his work, and I, too, am working. We must choose to do God’s will. Ask the Father if his teachings were spoken through Jesus? Then turn to Jesus and abide in Him and he will reward you for what you have done. Blessed is he who does not stand in the counsel of men but delights in the word of the Lord. Pray that our flight will not take place in winter or on the sabbath. Seek our Father and His understanding. Ask that his Wisdom lead us in his path of righteousness. Knock bless you Father for blessing us with your Son and name Jesus.

  • @blakepreston9108

    @blakepreston9108

    Жыл бұрын

    Dude well spoken!

  • @jessyjonas4988
    @jessyjonas49882 жыл бұрын

    When a preacher from the pulpit Speaks with admiration of a Sharp shooter killing the enemy 😱 The only enemy of the Christian is The devil

  • @gemcyr7710
    @gemcyr771011 ай бұрын

    Story of my life except that my husband cheated on me too

  • @cokefishtail
    @cokefishtail Жыл бұрын

    Please lord pray for marriage on brink if divorce give us strength wisdom lord he lives for world he is saved long time ago lord gi e us direction and power in your name amen

  • @zhannalicious
    @zhannalicious Жыл бұрын

    So the husbands neglect the wives and then somehow they have to learn to be strong etc I can’t even finish watching this

  • @aneber1811

    @aneber1811

    Жыл бұрын

    This podcast is really wise for healthy, reciprocal relationships where there are 2 involved and dedicated partners. It is wise. Part of identifying wisdom is knowing when to apply it. You don’t apply this to consistently neglectful or abusive relationships. So if you are neglected, guard that heart and filter this information.

  • @beauhendricks2074

    @beauhendricks2074

    Жыл бұрын

    @@aneber1811 what its a false accusations charge of domestic abuse? I believe it's just a way for her to steal from me

  • @endtimesareuponus8930

    @endtimesareuponus8930

    Жыл бұрын

    Do you neglect others?