Parental alienation almost inevitably provokes anger. That’s
because anger arises when there is something we want that we
are not getting-or something we are getting that we do not
want. Targeted parents find themselves receivers of both.
Targeted parents are not getting what they want: love from and
access to their child(ren). In addition, targeted parents receive
much that they do not want, much that is painfully hurtful: loss of
affection from and even contact with their children, ongoing
criticism and blame, false narratives (lies) and accusations from
the ex-spouse, deceit, the need to spend money on costly court
appearances, unfair court judgments, and on and on.
This presentation focuses on what to do with your wild stallion of
anger. Learn to train your angry feelings so they serve you
helpfully instead of running wild and undermining your
effectiveness.
Susan Heitler, PhD, is a clinical psychologist. Formerly of Denver,
she currently lives in Israel. She has written over a dozen
blogposts for psychologytoday.com to educate the general public
and psychotherapy professionals about alienation. For a list of
these articles, scroll down in the alienation section of her
therapyhelp.com website. In her clinical work, her blogposts on
psychologytoday.com (which have attracted over 23 million
reads), and her books, Dr. Heitler focuses in particular on how
people deal with the conflicts in their lives. Her book From Conflict
to Resolution was the first to bring understandings of the art of
win-win conflict resolution into the general psychotherapy
literature. In addition, she has written a useful workbook for the
general public entitled The Power of Two. Related to the
workbook, her website features a module called
PowerOfTwoMarriage.com that teaches collaborative
communication, anger management, and conflict resolution-
skills that sustain both personal well-being and positive family
relationships.
Susan Heitler, Ph.D. 1410 Grant St., Denver, CO 80203 and
Raanana, Israel
Email: drheitler@gmail.com
Books, on Amazon Websites: prescriptionswithoutpills.com,
therapyhelp.com Marriage education program:
poweroftwomarriage.com