I’m 40 and my best advice for anyone in their 20s is to take this decade to do whatever YOU want. Wait for kids and and settling down until at least thirty. I was single and had no real responsibilities until I was 30 and like you, I worried about the future, but now I’m so thankful I had that time to just figure myself out and hang out with friends and go on adventures. Keep doing exactly what you’re doing girl! You won’t regret it.

@kristymarie6065

9 күн бұрын

I agree!!!!

The fact that you are an introspective and self aware individual tells me you are doing just fine :) It’s 100% true that plenty of people are still trying to figure out life, regardless of age. Give yourself grace and enjoy the ride. Lean into your friendships and other support systems. Don’t be afraid to fail, but make sure you learn from mistakes. You are on the right track

I'm in my mid-thirties and I also cry on my birthday :)

Getting older/aging used to scare me too. I was so afraid that I wasn’t making the right decisions to set future me up for the life I might want. As I’ve gotten older I’ve learned that it truly doesn’t matter what present me does. Life has a weird way of twisting and turning and it’s impossible to predict what future you might want. I made a cross country move at 26 from Maine to Florida. I was so scared but I’m so grateful that I did it. The day I moved I told myself I would start living for present me and only me. It has been just about 2 years since I made that commitment to myself and I’m now the happiest I have ever been. On another note, getting old no longer scares me. People die young all the time and tomorrow truly isn’t guaranteed. If we keep planning for days we might not get we miss out on so much joy that exists in the present. Aging is such a gift. And finally, I struggle with the whole wanting kids thing too. I think this comes from societal pressure. I am quite certain I’ll never want kids but everyone around me keeps saying I’ll change my mind. I think it’s important to remember that you know yourself better than anyone else. Deep down you probably truly know if you want to be a mom or not and it’s totally okay if you don’t. If future you regrets it, you can always adopt. Heck people have kids in their 40s now. No shame in not wanting kids and no shame if you truly don’t know. I started asking myself what I’ll regret about not having kids. Every answer is so selfish like “I’ll be alone when I die” or “I have no one to pass the family traditions on to”. The day I can come up with a selfless reason for wanting kids is the day I will decide to have them 😂

@morgreeen

Ай бұрын

Thank you thank you so much for sharing all of this, it really helps. I appreciate it so much & am so happy to hear where you’re at 🫶🏼

Thank you for talking through your experience with this. I recently turned 26 and I am happier than I’ve ever been, but I am already grieving my 20’s. I think it’s often dismissed when we talk about it because people just brush it off since we’re still so young, but it’s such a valid feeling! We’re so lucky to have lives that feel so full we grieve them while they’re in progress, but I share your feelings❤️

I felt very similar at 26, inching towards 30 had me in all sorts of feels. But, I'm surprised I'm the first to say it (unless i missed it in another comment) 30's are absolutely amazing years. Feeling lost and confused and torn about life decisions is all natural in your 20's but in my 30's I feel like I found a different type of confidence that I didn't have before. A certainty of who I am and what I value that felt stronger than ever. I feel truly empowered in this stage of life (realized i didn't previously say, I'm 38) and it honestly has me excited (gasp!!) for what my 40's will bring! Specifically related to having kids, I think where your head is at is very natural. And you're very smart to be really thinking it through before making that decision. As someone who has known my entire adult life that i did not want to have kids I'll offer one piece of advice, ask yourself if you're making your choice based on what you feel pressure from society/family/ friends to do our if it is truly what YOU want. When I really answered that honestly I still stuck with my choice not to have kids but the difference was i stopped second guessing or feeling bad about that decision because I knew I was making that choice truly for myself. And maybe that question will make you realize that you do genuinely want kids, the goal is that it is what you want and not what you feel like you should do. Your feelings are 1000% valid, but chin up, there's so many beautiful things to come in life and you're already doing amazing!

I just turned 46 on Monday. I can't believe I'm 20 years older than you but I remember feeling EXACTLY this way at your age. Being in your 20s can feel so unsettling and I get it. Just listen to the universe and follow your gut instincts with everything and it will all turn out fantastic in the end. I can tell you are enjoying every moment so keep doing that and soak it all in. I did and now i can look back on it with so many great memories! I'm trying to do the same thing now so when I'm 66 I can look back at 46 and have even more amazing memories! Keep on shining your light and enjoy your 26th birthday!

As a 32 year old, and I'm sure everyone has different experience, but there is actually nothing special about your 20's in particular! You can have just as much fun, and freedom and youthfulness if thats the direction you continue to go and sometimes more. I think milestones like, moving out of your family home, leaving college or having kids can create a sense of 'before and after' but people can move or have children at 21 or 41. Experiencing life speeding up when you hit your mid to late twenties is a totally valid feeling, but my personal suggestion is to not think of this as 'the best years', the same way you wouldn't look back on high school as the 'best years'. They can be special in their own way, but it doesnt make your current phase any less significant.

Hey Morgan. Thank you being so honest about things no one talks about. From a soon to be 32 year old I've realized most of what I dreamt of for myself came from societal pressures. You take care of your body, mind, in a healthy relationship, and have the cutest dog, keep focusing on that and things will happen in time. It's hard moving to a new city and having to start over, in this regard you are far ahead of most people. As far as fertility goes, for most healthy women their ability to get pregnant doesn't go down until 35 so you have plenty of time. I think everyone, to some degree, feels inadequate but as long as you stay motivated to work toward your goals, big or small, you are doing great. Having girlfriends are so so important especially as we get older. I hope you are able to find people in your community that can help ease some of anxieties about the future. ❤

“Come unto me, all ye that labour and are heavy laden, and I will give you rest. Take my yoke upon you, and learn of me; for I am meek and lowly in heart: and ye shall find rest unto your souls. For my yoke is easy, and my burden is light.” ‭‭Matthew‬ ‭11‬:‭28‬-‭30‬ ‭KJV‬‬

I am 28 years old, single, and semi-recently moved to a new state where I didn’t know anybody (I guess it’s been a couple years!!)! I definitely can relate to a lot of your feelings! I just wanted to let you know that you are doing an amazing job! I have been watching your videos since 11/2023 and that is also how long I’ve remained consistent in my health/fitness journey! It’s like we’re doing it together :) you’ve totally influenced me into my red light, sauna blanket, magnesium and greens drinking era and I love it

I relate to this so much at the age of 30. Try not to live in fear girl, you'll miss what's in front of you if you do.

I’m currently 26… and the whole kids thing, we’re on the same page. I have no interest in having children right now but hope that one day I do? Idk why😅 but I still feel way too young. And selfishly, want to still enjoy my own life without them for awhile longer.

@morgreeen

Ай бұрын

This is EXACTLY how I feel

ive also thought about this topic as im 26 myself this yr. what ive taken out of it is that when i get even older and i still havent "reached my goals," i will be fine with it as long as i know what i want and im trying as much as i can to reach that. and this is not to just slack and be mediocre or lazy, but its bc ive been thinking about older people in my life that i know. and ive seen that not all of them are rich AF, not all of them are in jobs they actually want, not even all of them are earning money (housewife, and def nothing wrong w that), not even all of them are emotionally mature (not that this is good but it's also hard to improve if u're not self aware). but i see that they're living life, they're getting older, everything goes on regardless, and they do have good qualities too. so i thought, if i end up like them, do i live my life unhappily? do i take a look at myself and say "ugh, this is all i am/this is all i have"? or do i say "ok, ive gotten here. i have all these things"? and i choose to do the latter while i keep trying to be a better human being and keep trying to get to the next level. ive accepted i may never be "successful" but i'll never take things for granted and see the good that is already around me at every stage in my life. im normally not the type to compare myself in general but this certain topic made me do that but for a good reason. maybe this isnt the case for everyone, i think im just softer w myself and everything but this is what works for me

Boo, I am your older sis in this capacity, in my mind. ❤ 😋 Go get a therapist to start learning yourself with. I am 32 and in the midst of all the things you are scared of. I would usher you to learn to advocate for your passions. Life does get harder when you have a human to help guide. You are not alone in these feelings. We got this.

Girl, we’re the same age. I’m turning 26 in June…listening to this I’ve found it reliable in almost every single way. I mean, we have to take life for what it is and do what makes us happy. It’s as simple and as hard as that. Anyway, love you! Your content is my safe space when it comes to lifestyle and fitness ❤️ you’re amazing

Thank you for being real and vulnerable on the internet. I am 29 and have been struggling with this since 25 as well. None of my friends experienced this so I have always felt like something is wrong with me until you said exactly how I am also feeling. People in their 30s and 40s always give their advice but it’s not always as easy as it’s said. It is very bittersweet because as sad as it is, I am also able to do things I would have never thought I would do, even 5 years ago, like travel abroad alone, etc. You also have a significant presence in my life, as I’m sure you are for others too, so thank you again for sharing the good and the bad with us. Happy Birthday! ❤

You’re not alone. I turned 26 this year as well and have had similar thoughts and feelings. I’m adding this to my list to come back to finish watching, but if you’re interested in some guidance and encouragement - Dr. Meg Jay’s book is great! She’s also on the Art of Manliness podcast for a recap. It’s called The Defining Decade. You’re doing great, Morgan. 👏🏻

its hard to know what to do in this life but i hope its love that pushes u to do things and not pressure :)

Such a relatable video 🫶🏻

Totally love your channel. The feelings you share just makes it so real n genuine ❤❤❤

I relate so much to everything you said, growing up I wanted nothing more than to be an adult, be married, with kids and in my career. Now at 27 I barely know what I want anymore, the idea of kdis sounds so scary but the idea of not having them sounds also scary. I feel like im on a time crunch? but the other side of me is unsure if I want kids, because I LOVE the life I have now and I love being able to do whatever I want and be selfish with my time. I dont know what career I will end up in and that terrifies me because I should have it figured out but who knows... life is so weird lol it was nice hearing your thoughts because I felt so seen and heard. we are all just doing our best and figuring it out together ❤

Sooooo relatable, especially the having kids part 🫶🏻 thank you

I'm right there with you - I turned 27 this year and I'm constantly swinging between loving this young carefree moment I'm in and having a lot of anxiety about the future. I'm just like you in that I don't feel financially stable enough for things like houses and kids, and I'm in a career that is on extremely shaky ground right now. I feel like I need more time to figure it all out

Thanks for your honesty and transparency! So refreshing to hear

That was an honest person struggles did good and happy mother day yesterday

Wow. Morgan you just put everything that I’ve been feeling since my 26th bday into words. I relate 100% to what you said and I got super emotionnal yet I felt so much less alone. I didn’t know I needed to hear that today and I feel better now so thank you very much for your vulnerability and transparency. Love you

You are young girl!!! Enjoy it!

Good morning Morgan happy Tuesday morning and I loved your vlogs and you are amazing Supporter and I'm proud of you

I don’t cry on my birthday but I definitely cry every new years 😂 I’ll say as someone who stressed and was so anxious about not having kids at 25 and now at 31 still don’t have kids(something I want more than everything) it’s not worth all the stress to still not have them yet. It’s my desire so it’ll be. I’m working on releasing control over my life and letting it happen. Continue trying ❤

I'm almost exactly 10 years older than you, I feel the same way about my 30s. It goes by so fast...

Excellents questions . Thanks for the tips

Congratulation on the vídeo👏 and I wish a great day 🌞

You should definitely start a podcast! It’s so hard these days to find a good clean wellness podcast! Would absolutely love if you did😁

I’ve been watching you for almost a year now! First, thank you for the inspiration you’ve given me to just try a little harder each day to be a little better 💓 Second, I’ll be 28 on the 20th of this month. I’ve been married for 4.5 years, and I have a sweet 11 month old son. I believe that everyone should do what they feel called to do! I believe you’re doing that right now. I also believe that sometimes things change, we have different experiences, and we can start to feel called to do other things at different points in our lives. I was against getting married at 23. Super against it. But at one point, I felt my heart change, and I get to be with my best friend everyday. After getting married I wanted kids right away! And then, my heart changed. I didn’t want kids for a while. I felt like maybe I’d try college. I learned a LOT! But I ultimately didn’t want to go the traditional route. At 25, I felt lost and confused. I just went back to work and tried to understand what I wanted. At 26, my heart changed again. We felt like it was time to start our family. It was a challenge, but it worked out. Now, I’m almost 28. I still want to learn and grow! I’m starting an apprenticeship in July ☺️ I’m so sorry you’re feeling these feelings, but you’re capable of doing the things that will be best for you, and you don’t have to do it alone 💓 happy early birthday!! By the way, I still feel like I’m 18 somehow?? I definitely don’t feel like I’m two years away from 30!

@morgreeen

Ай бұрын

I love and appreciate this so so much 🫶🏼 what an incredible & beautiful journey throughout recent years 🥹

OMG Morgan before this video I didn't know we both are so alike, we have the same age and I'm an emotional person too, crying for every reason possible and people around me even giving me tags on it. Don't worry, there is someone like you here and you are not alone. I hope just knowing that helps you. Would like to be your friend!

I'm 34... I don't feel differently. It's all the same to me. Only thing that made my life different was kids.. lol However my partner is always in his feelings about life and the future. I don't really understand but I guess people worry about different things

I feel like you just read my mind

I got pregnant with my daughter at 29 and I still thought that was too young lolol and I'll be 31 next month and I'm not even close to ready for a second child yet. You have PLENTY of time to decide all of that at only 26 :)

I so thought you were older in age but with a young looking face. I'm 28 on 12 June this year and I feel happy about it.

Hi Morgan, I loved the vulnerability of this video. I just want to let you know how much Jesus loves you and how much he wants you to know him, and that when you decide to live in his will you won’t have to worry about your plans for your life bc he has an amazing plan for you. I’ve been watching your vids for a while and You are such a beautiful person inside and out truly and I say this with the upmost love and compassion 🤍

I totally get what you're feeling...I turn 30 in august and for the first time in my life I have baby fever and want to get married all at once...my clock has been ticking very loudly in my ears lately.

me, turning 30 in a month: well this is depressing 😂

I just turned 28, same feeling. I don’t want too live too fast but neither too slow. With a pinch of I’m not where I wish to be at this point. Although I’m on the way 😅

If you’re struggling with getting older.. just see it this way instead- be happy that you get the chance to get older, having another birthday. Not everyone get that chance.

Oh, and don’t worry about your 30s or even your 40s. The best part is you do stop giving a crap about what people think of you. It’s glorious. 😂

26 didn't bother me but I felt 30 when it hit. I was happy but I felt it

26 is so young. Yes, as a 35 year old I can tell you it does sound silly :)

Hello Morgan 🙋‍♂️

I was more fit in my thirties than I was in my twenties

Lean on the Lord, girlfriend ❤️ I’ll love to send you a Bible if you don’t have one!!

I’m glad it’s not just me🥲 I’ll be 24 on the 17th & I have no idea how to process my life, my mom was also diagnosed with breast cancer and has surgery the day before my birthday and now I feel like my life is on pause but also put in fast forwards at the same time

@morgreeen

Ай бұрын

I am so so sorry to hear that. Keeping you and your family in my thoughts & prayers ❤️

@Jess71508

Ай бұрын

@@morgreeen thank you sm🙏🏼🩷