Oh man, this one is right on the nail. I hadn't realized how much I actually do feel fear until you described my experience word for word. I especially feel on the fact that deep down, if I did fail, I'd be proving those buttholes right, I think this has a link to why their voices are still at the back of my head and then the comparison happens, which is completely unhealthy. AND on how acceptance and approval is conditional was just cherry on top, it wasn't until I started doing good in school that no one gave me the attention, so it is true that self-worth for me was very conditional to success. Trying my best to overcome this, still on shaky road but still trying. Loved this video, please keep it coming Trina! I also loved that you call those who belittle or bully us as buttholes, Imma start calling them buttholes now lol. Thanks for sharing these videos and for helping to bring these things into us INFJs attention. Not sure how I can do step no.2 but I'd try step 1 and step 3 (though step 3 sounds scary). Can't wait for your next upload! And It'd be great if you could talk about INFJ on moving on (or being stuck in the part) or even INFJ on comparison.
@trinabrettnell
2 күн бұрын
The buttholes voices echoed in my head for so many year and then I too would start comparing. Such an unhealthy circle and it is hard to break but it is very possible. This may sound odd but another thing that has helped me is silently to myself, thanking those buttholes. Having gratitude towards them. Gratitude because if it wasn't for them, I wouldn't be who I am now. They created a strength and a resilience within us that is so powerful and for that I am grateful. Thinking of them in this light helps simmer down their negative voices that were constantly playing in the back of my head. I'm curious, have you ever tried a healing meditation? This has been helpful for me.
@trinabrettnell
2 күн бұрын
And those are some great content ideas, I have added them to my list and I'll start creating 😀, thank you 😊
@saraheleena7076
6 сағат бұрын
@trinabrettnell I’ve been trying meditation it does help but sometimes when I’m overwhelmed I really get into a dark space and it’s super hard to pick myself up again and it’s a cycle that I honestly can’t break. That’s a good way of going around those voices, perhaps a little bit of reframing could help
@saraheleena7076
6 сағат бұрын
@trinabrettnell can’t wait for it :)
@AymanMehrab2 күн бұрын
You're right it's losing control of our environment that bothers us the most and the thought that we have do it again is tiresome. We say INFJS are perfectionsts but is being a perfectionist even a thing? It's exhausting. Also, the time and hardwork that we put in makes us fear if the result didn't meet our expectations all the hardwork and time got wasted.
@trinabrettnell
2 күн бұрын
And INFJs do not like to waste time. 😁
@AymanMehrab
2 күн бұрын
@@trinabrettnell You're right
@naturelover128419 сағат бұрын
What is feel like I have to have an explanation ready because people are such prosecutors I was just sitting on a pier alone and Grandma came with her grandson and needed to know if I was camping alone and where I was camping and she kind of was vague about where she was staying I don't understand why people have to make you feel vulnerable about something like that when it shouldn't matter. All I can think of is their whole reality is through someone else
@trinabrettnell
16 сағат бұрын
I understand how you felt. But I think, often times, people don't even realize they have made us feel that way. I think most, especially if they lack empathy and are low sensitivity, have no idea that their words, tones of voice and questions can be taken wrong and be hurtful. I think they are oblivious to it.
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Oh man, this one is right on the nail. I hadn't realized how much I actually do feel fear until you described my experience word for word. I especially feel on the fact that deep down, if I did fail, I'd be proving those buttholes right, I think this has a link to why their voices are still at the back of my head and then the comparison happens, which is completely unhealthy. AND on how acceptance and approval is conditional was just cherry on top, it wasn't until I started doing good in school that no one gave me the attention, so it is true that self-worth for me was very conditional to success. Trying my best to overcome this, still on shaky road but still trying. Loved this video, please keep it coming Trina! I also loved that you call those who belittle or bully us as buttholes, Imma start calling them buttholes now lol. Thanks for sharing these videos and for helping to bring these things into us INFJs attention. Not sure how I can do step no.2 but I'd try step 1 and step 3 (though step 3 sounds scary). Can't wait for your next upload! And It'd be great if you could talk about INFJ on moving on (or being stuck in the part) or even INFJ on comparison.
@trinabrettnell
2 күн бұрын
The buttholes voices echoed in my head for so many year and then I too would start comparing. Such an unhealthy circle and it is hard to break but it is very possible. This may sound odd but another thing that has helped me is silently to myself, thanking those buttholes. Having gratitude towards them. Gratitude because if it wasn't for them, I wouldn't be who I am now. They created a strength and a resilience within us that is so powerful and for that I am grateful. Thinking of them in this light helps simmer down their negative voices that were constantly playing in the back of my head. I'm curious, have you ever tried a healing meditation? This has been helpful for me.
@trinabrettnell
2 күн бұрын
And those are some great content ideas, I have added them to my list and I'll start creating 😀, thank you 😊
@saraheleena7076
6 сағат бұрын
@trinabrettnell I’ve been trying meditation it does help but sometimes when I’m overwhelmed I really get into a dark space and it’s super hard to pick myself up again and it’s a cycle that I honestly can’t break. That’s a good way of going around those voices, perhaps a little bit of reframing could help
@saraheleena7076
6 сағат бұрын
@trinabrettnell can’t wait for it :)
You're right it's losing control of our environment that bothers us the most and the thought that we have do it again is tiresome. We say INFJS are perfectionsts but is being a perfectionist even a thing? It's exhausting. Also, the time and hardwork that we put in makes us fear if the result didn't meet our expectations all the hardwork and time got wasted.
@trinabrettnell
2 күн бұрын
And INFJs do not like to waste time. 😁
@AymanMehrab
2 күн бұрын
@@trinabrettnell You're right
What is feel like I have to have an explanation ready because people are such prosecutors I was just sitting on a pier alone and Grandma came with her grandson and needed to know if I was camping alone and where I was camping and she kind of was vague about where she was staying I don't understand why people have to make you feel vulnerable about something like that when it shouldn't matter. All I can think of is their whole reality is through someone else
@trinabrettnell
16 сағат бұрын
I understand how you felt. But I think, often times, people don't even realize they have made us feel that way. I think most, especially if they lack empathy and are low sensitivity, have no idea that their words, tones of voice and questions can be taken wrong and be hurtful. I think they are oblivious to it.