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@christianoronaldo623

7 ай бұрын

Too skinny is unhealthy too fat is unhealthy even too muscular (steriod) is unhealthy too tall or too short has a lot of downside and live less then normal people do. Too much of anything is bad but change what u can change and accept what u cant change

Being unhealthy is not beautiful. Period.

@ayandasperanza530

Жыл бұрын

Yet unhealthy skinny models are considered gorgeous

@ltlwatcher

11 ай бұрын

Should include roid up bodybuilders too. They too are dying.

@Antigone10

10 ай бұрын

​@ltlwatcher Yes! We are a society that tolerates excess, wether it is food booze steroids etc. Shaped by the algorithm, people are fed content condoning these terrible things and we have become too polite to tell people in person that they can make healthy easy changes to their lives for their own betterment and for society at larges benefit.

@AliceBunny05

9 ай бұрын

I wish more people in fat acceptance could understand this. It's the same if you go to any restrictive eating disorder communities that are not proana/mia. There will be plenty of people there to tell you that dying of anorexia or bulimia is NOT beautiful.

@gvss4

7 ай бұрын

@@ltlwatcherone doesn’t invalidate the other 🤷🏽‍♀️ both are dangerous. Both are self inflicted

It’s not fat shaming to encourage people who are morbidly obese to lose weight. Thanks for covering this sensitive subject.

@alijane6675

Жыл бұрын

Oh good! List your health issues for me so I can advise you accordingly!

@mmcs4973

Жыл бұрын

I disagree. There can be nothing more condescending or demeaning to a person who is morbidly obese than being "encouraged " to lose weight because however well intentioned, it is a judgment, and implies they are too stupid not to realize they have a problem. That's very different than supporting someone who has chosen the path to healing

@ms.frederique

Жыл бұрын

Thank you 😊

@alijane6675

Жыл бұрын

@@sixx9639 when you see an obese woman, you immediately think of their health? That is laughable. No, you don’t. You think they’re fat.

@BaiMengLing

Жыл бұрын

People who are encouraging obese people to lose weight are just as rare as rich people giving up all their wealth to live in a monastery! Human beings are NOT nice to each other, even though there are exceptions, ie. saints

My cousin was of the mindset to 'embrace her fatness' and she claimed that the doctors did not know what they were talking about with regards to her health. She was a know-it-all and thought she knew what was best for her. She died in her mid 30's at over 400lbs. Her glucose level was so high (600+) and they could not get it under control.

@chloewinfrey

Жыл бұрын

Bless her! Sorry to hear your story

@Sherbetlemons

Жыл бұрын

Goodness I'm sorry 💕😟

@kimberlyperrotis8962

Жыл бұрын

How very sad.

@SamCobb

Жыл бұрын

I worry alot about these otherwise very pretty girls who are that fat.

@traceyperfitt1231

Жыл бұрын

I'm so very sad to hear this, my condolences to you 😢

It is far easier to fool people than to convince them that they have been fooled.

If you're overweight or obese, please don't fret about losing weight overnight. I'm and RN and I know that doctors and dieticians recommend setting realistic goals. The first recommended goal is to lose 10% of your total body weight. For example, if you weigh 200 pounds, then your first weight loss goal will be to lose 20 pounds. Research shows that losing 10% of your body weight will decrease your risk of health problems SIGNIFICANTLY, especially cardiovascular health. This 10% weight loss will decrease the risk of hypertension, stroke, heart attack, diabetes, insulin resistance, fatty liver disease, and joint pain/damage (especially in the knees). It would be great if you could get a physical exam every time you achieve a weight loss goal. This way you can compare your numbers such as cholesterol, glucose, blood pressure, heart rate, liver enzymes, hemoglobin A1C, etc. Seeing these numbers decreasing 2-3 times a year can be very motivating and can help keep you on track with your weight loss plan.

@lizsahu9344

Жыл бұрын

I actually did this exactly. Losing 10 percent was a reasonable goal and I felt a lot better. I have continued doing this….10 percent at a time and I am so much healthier

@rebeccaw9656

11 ай бұрын

I've been doing this, and the way I've found to achieve this is with a fitness coach. I was 105kg back in November, I began weight training and put on nutrition plan with my trainer since December, and I've now finally lost my first 10kg weighing 94.9kg on Saturday. First weight loss achieved💪👊 and onto the next. I couldn't have done this without my coach, because there's this whole mental journey to unpack, and unlearn years of habits, and learning from mistakes to form better habits. The other thing about having a coach, is just being answerable to someone. Making a decision because you're tired or had a bad day, changes when you have your Saturday checking with your coach. I'm on a program with 1 weekly checking with my coach, and a weekly schedule of workouts on their app that I check off in my own time, during my workout. I also have to report to the headcoach once a week answering a questionnaire - assessing mental well being, water daily intake, sleep, problems, issues, wins, etc. I've found this to be a great level of hand holding, while also giving me the freedom to train to my own schedule. I have faith doing this journey slowly but surely is going to be the most impact full for life long longevity. Plus I already feel pretty good, and in much happier headspace. This is the best thing I have done for myself.

@whimsicalgolde

6 ай бұрын

Yup! My cousin has told me to take a plate and do smaller portions. I have been over eating for a while and it is a nice start, to get an idea on what to do. My cousin knows I fill the plate, so he said just a smaller portion size. This has helped a lot in how much I eat, slipped a bit but sticking to the smaller portions. This helps get the calories down since I been going over the daily calories each day which does not lead to weight loss, I do hard labour and only maintained my weight. So what I ate and lost balanced out. Now it is going up and down, so I need to be careful on only eating a meal no snacks. I worry less about not eating carbs etcetera. I feel better eating less, and my cousin said I look big does not mean I should eat big. This makes more sense to me now being older :D I went from 240 to 210, but my doctor sees it as 196 to 210. I gained weight during the year and went down, so that is a win for me!

@michaelharris8598

5 ай бұрын

Just lost 10 percent myself I feel so much better. Still have 60 pounds to lose to get to normal bmi

@Hardworking_Trucker

Ай бұрын

Finally some practical advise. Thank you

Thank you Frédérique. Fat is not healthy. In our quest to make everyone “feel good”, we are ignoring serious health issues.

@ms.frederique

Жыл бұрын

Thank you for watching x

@101Volts

6 ай бұрын

There are many "feeling good" ways around... I'm sure that smoking cigarettes, overdoing alcohol, and eating ice cream (and soda / pop / soda pop) too much all are part of it. You "feel good" for a season, and then the "sweetness" fades, and you need a bigger high to get the same thing because you're not as sensitive to it. I've felt it... Much. But my negative side was with video games and computer use at night, instead of food. Meanwhile, when I "fasted" on a specific video game for 3.5 years and then came back, I was not expecting such a rush. Though since then, what else happened but it got normal again? And overdoing it is still just as stupid, just in another way that harms a person.

@101Volts

6 ай бұрын

Oh, and *just remember: In the 1940s - mid 1950s, it was legal for Cigarettes to be advertised with Doctors and Dentists recommending them.* Cigarettes with "not one case of throat scratch." ... All while a *1937* film "Charlie Chan in Monte Carlo" had a side character say her husband smoked himself to death in his 40s. There were people who knew it then, too.

YES! The "Health At Every Size" movement and so-called Body Positivity has gotten extremely toxic and out of hand, especially in the United States, where it is getting increasingly rarer to see people at a healthy weight.

@jbhann

10 ай бұрын

In the United States, being healthy is being labeled as _"white supremacy"_ by those on the left.

Thank you for doing this video, there is a huge difference between body positivity and denial of reality. No pun intended.

Nearly18 yrs ago I broke my patella (Knee) and had to have physio in hospital swimming pool to teach me how to walk . Then I graduated to the gym to complete my rehab. No person who was overweight ever got further than the swimming pool exercises as their weight was too much for their shattered bones, so maybe they never learnt how to walk again. It was this experience that taught me that being overweight could seriously damage your health .

My heart goes out to those with these challenges. In the USA obesity is the #1 preventable health risk. Children included.

@anushkaverma2203

Жыл бұрын

i think its second after cigarettes

@raquel5401

11 ай бұрын

It's not just the US anymore. China has the highest rate of new diabetes cases in the world. We need to stop eating all the processed crap that big food gets rich off of while we continue to have failing health at younger ages.

@amethyst1062

4 ай бұрын

No vaping is second

Thank you for talking about these topics!! People have become afraid to speak up, thank you for doing so!

How horribly do they treat women who are NOT obese like them? 🤔 That's very telling to me.

When excess weight affects movement, breathing, mobility then fat is a liability. That is not hating fat people, it is worry about their health and everyday living.

@Roxy0405

Жыл бұрын

Agree 💯%.

@101Volts

6 ай бұрын

When I was a young teenager in the mid 2000s, there was an employee I met in his late 60s or early to mid 70s at a hardware store. He was fat, somewhere around 220 - 240 pounds, and even _he_ was having trouble breathing as he was sounding hard of breath. I have no idea what his diet was, but if it was McDonald's even then, I don't think it was helping. I don't know if he smoked, to be fair - but he didn't smell of cigarettes.

I don't think anyone should be shamed, but this extreme level of obesity, I think ''body positivity'' is a rebranding of ''given up completely'' or ''too long of a road back to health now''. It's sad.

@misottovoce

Жыл бұрын

YESSS! You nailed it!

I will be happy when the day finally arrives when our culture decides to stop considering the highest compliment they can give a woman is "You're BEAUTIFUL!!" Women (and men) are worthy of recognition of SO MUCH MORE than their physical appearance. The Body Positivity Movement has twisted itself into advocating THIN SHAMING and embracing obesity, which is so wrong and unhealthy. I am a woman in my 60s and in recent years have worked hard to maintain a healthy weight to protect my joints, heart, etc. A few heavier women in my age group have seen nothing wrong with calling me a "skinny b*tch," etc. in an effort to shame me for not being "matronly" like they have become. What is WRONG with this culture that we think it's okay to kill ourselves by being OBESE?!!

@Justcetriyaart

Жыл бұрын

Same, I already know I'm beautiful and I can't control beauty trends. What I can control is working hard but rare I get the value noticed from my work....

@hotchicsf

Жыл бұрын

They are all just jealous. You keep doing you. Most of my acquaintances are very heavy women who are over 50 (heck, we are all over 50) and one is getting knee surgeries because her knees can't keep supporting their weight, and another has such bad back pain due to the extra weight she's carrying that she can barely sit or stand too long in one position. That is not beautiful. That is painful.

@Rjstratman

Жыл бұрын

I hear that! Maybe you should come back with “thanks you fat fu€k” It would be interesting to see that reaction. 😅

@misottovoce

Жыл бұрын

I could not agree with you more. However, the 'you're beautiful' compliment...isn't that what we first see and perceive? The rest, such as character, personality etc...are values we discover over time. Just my general thoughts. But, I agree with the thought that ENCOURAGING someone by saying 'you're beautiful, you're beautiful' and nothing more is toxic 'support'. A first concern for their health should be highlighted, IMHO.

@kimberlyperrotis8962

Жыл бұрын

We women are still judged 100% for our appearance, I’m sick of this.

Such an important topic and crisis. My daughter, after high school, gained 100 lbs. I’m so worried about her. She can now eat whenever and wherever she wants, and has difficulty controlling herself. Actually, she has no self-control. She learned in middle school “people have to accept me for who I am!” Um, no! They don’t. And it’s so unhealthy to be that overweight. 💔I’m heartbroken that she has done this to herself. And, I can’t force her to make healthy choices. DoorDash in the middle of the night. 😔

My uncle was obese. He died from a heart attack. He made to his 50's, but that's still young. He was a good guy. After his death my cousins lost a ton of weight.

Thank you for taking on subjects like body imaging, the dangers of influencers photoshopped images, distorted self love talk, adverting trickery etc…. We need more people like you speaking out and educating their audience on the dangers of being manipulated. We all need to live in reality to be physically and emotionally healthy. Keep it coming!

@ms.frederique

Жыл бұрын

wow thank you for your donation and encouraging message, love x

Overeating is a psychological issue- mostly. I had an eating disorder in my twenties and much of it was eating to "self-soothe." As I became emotionally healthy, I didn't need to binge and starve. Most of these women need to deal with deep seated emotional issues to lose the weight. A "normal" eater eats when they're hungry_ AND, stops when they are satisfied.

@crazyleaf257

7 ай бұрын

Yessssssssss yes yes yes yes yes yes yes and that is the biggest problem with the world today is on every front the left is celebrating mental Health issues!!!!!!! It's evil!!!

You are awesome and very brave(sad that being concerned for health is brave, huh?) to make a stand. Bravo! The support for a very unhealthy lifestyle choice is so screwed up. Thank you!

Hey Frederique, I’m enjoying your new channel content, covering current affairs is very smart, you will never ever run out of things to talk about. And I like that you always have a compassionate angle too, not here to just drag people ❤

@ms.frederique

Жыл бұрын

That means a lot thank you x

Ha, finaly somebody says something about that! For few years I see vids n pics on Insta of fat and obese women, some of them very young indeed. In underwear or doing weird moves. The most disturbing for me are the thousands of likes and comments like - Sexy, Pretty, Gorgeous, Fantastic...I was thinking it was only me, who find that weird and crazy...But I do like myself the vids n pics of obese ladies, who go hard on sports to lose weight, that is the real great and inspiring thing on internet! Merci beaucoup for speaking out also for me! ❤

Exercise, meditation, healthy food choices, portion control, sunscreen, avoiding toxins in my environment including drinking filtered water are some of the things I do to LOVE myself. I make a point to frame it as self-love in my mind as I do these things. I deserve organic broccoli. I am worth it! What we tell ourselves (our inner voice) matters a lot.

@stellapatterson9834

Жыл бұрын

Totally agree. ❤

@hiannahgus574

Жыл бұрын

^^^This!!!^^^ I eat well, exercise, meditate, etc. because I now love myself! I lost 1/3 of my body weight (60 pounds on a petite/small frame). I was pre-diabetic, had high cholesterol, and painful knees due to carrying the extra 60 pounds around. After losing the weight, I was shocked that I could run up the stairs easily! No more painful knees! Yes, loving yourself is eating well, lovingly exercising your body, and relaxing your mind. Well said, SugarBaby Angel!

Hello Frédérique! HEALTH is all! Great content! Thank you

A very courageous video...finally someone who openly and fairly speaks out about this subject. I can not believe that any obese to morbidly obese person is truly 'happy' and 'accepting' self. If they had a magic wand, I am very sure they would wave it to be a healthier weight. This trend to praise self obesity acceptance is for me toxic as you mentioned. I agree with your thoughts on this too. Everybody has a right to be the size they feel comfortable in, yes. But to give out 'pretend praise' to an obviously unhealthy person is not helping them. Talk to them about your concern for their health and shortened life. Talk to them about metabolic syndrome, insulin resistance. Once you reach a certain metabolic inbalance, it is no longer a matter of eat less...but a matter of a serious metabolic reset to save their lives.

I think cooking from scratch (use unprocessed fresh vegetables and meat) and avoid “ready to eat” products in plastic packages with added sugar, avoid soft drinks and fruit juice goes a long way to become healthier. What we have nowadays in the stores is so much fake foods (little to no nutrients). I think we just need to choose real food instead of this nutrient void “food”. That way - we are eating to satiety. Remember that your body is trying to tell you something, if you’re hungry after two hours, that means the food you ate had no real nutrition - so your body screams for nutrition through hunger hormone grehlin.

@crazyleaf257

7 ай бұрын

Yes!!!! And people need to go through counseling because people that eat themselves to death have a serious problem. It should be treated just like any other addiction!

@Hardworking_Trucker

Ай бұрын

The other thing that doesn’t help is the unhealthy nature of modern jobs. Sedentary office work with an “everyday is a feast day” type of mindset. For those of you who have ever been in an office environment, than you know what I’m talking about. Eat out at lunch everyday with your friends instead of bringing from home. Every birthday on the team needs to be celebrated! (With sheet cake and take out pizza in generous portion), to say nothing of all the trivial (just because!) reasons to have a full on potluck. Call centers are the worst. I also think that many jobs are intentionally designed to enslave and keep people fat/sick so that people HAVE to go to work (ie the medical benefits). Just my .02 cents

Israel Kamakawiwo'ole died of complications of obesity at age 38, was 6'2" and at one point weighed 757 pounds. He had the voice of an angel and the heart of a warrior for his people. Hawai'i misses him terribly.

@Sherbetlemons

Жыл бұрын

His over the rainbow song is my favourite 💕

@katherinesica3215

Жыл бұрын

I often wonder if anyone ever told him to lose weight…actually told him

@nunyabeezwacks1408

Жыл бұрын

@@katherinesica3215Did this poor guy not have any family, friends, or even fans who cared enough about him to help him address his morbid obesity? I'm guessing they didn't want fat activists to come and cancel them😟

@katherinesica3215

Жыл бұрын

@@nunyabeezwacks1408 …that I do not know. I do know he was well loved by so many. Seems to me they didn’t love him the person. Just his music.

I love all your informational videos. This was a wake up call that being so over weight is very dangerous to your health.

We really need to draw a distinction between "being "overweight" and being morbidly obese. These terms can't be applied in the same way, because God knows, social media has had a profound influence on weight, body size, individual body parts etc. One is a societal construct, the other is a serious, multifaceted illness, the biggest part of which is mental health, so yes, I believe it needs to be addressed, but probably best done by someone who has been there, and come out the other side.

@MsActor2009

Жыл бұрын

Well said! 👋

@keturah113

Жыл бұрын

I was about to write this. ❤️

@5DNRG

Жыл бұрын

BMI is best.

@SirPlainview

Жыл бұрын

Fat activists don’t seem to fully understand the difference between overweight and morbidly obese.

@AliceBunny05

9 ай бұрын

​@@5DNRGBMI dosent really work well for everyone. People who are muscular or people who naturally fall a little over one end (mildly overweight and mildly underweight) will be made to always stress over it, when what matters most is healthy lifestyle. if you have a healthy lifestyle and still fall a little out of the BMI range, you should be fine.

I totally agree with you that glamorizing being obese is ridiculous and I’m distressed to see obese models everywhere I look. It’s detrimental to health and sends the wrong message!

Ladies as a man. I have some big friends and one is dead and the other has fought cancer twice. Listen to the doctor and live

I have to agree with what you are saying. At 47 for me, I’m struggling with a hypothyroid and Hoshimotos. The hoshimoto attacks my thyroid. I gain weight for nothing. I eat very healthy, I exercise, but my weight dose not budge. These lovely women needed better support and truth, from their loved ones. There is always a chance and choice. 💕

@hiannahgus574

Жыл бұрын

I, too, have Hashimoto’s disease and had struggled to lose weight. Then I went on Weight Watcher’s, did reformer Pilates, and did 14/10 I intermittent fasting all together. It was a magical combination for me. I lost 60 pounds over 2 years. At age 66, I am now at a healthy BMI and the same size I was in college. It can be done!

@yisimlampiris-tremba2247

Жыл бұрын

That is awesome! I’ll have to look into that. Thank you, for the suggestion.

If you're morbidly obese, body positivity should not be your biggest concern, your health should be your biggest concern.

You need to eat an extra 3,500 calories (above what your body needs to function) to put on 1lb of fat. I just can't imagine the amount of food the ladies you showed in your video would have had to consume daily, weekly, yearly to become so morbidly obese. I do get very angry when I see young children that are obese, and to be honest I see it as a form of child cruelty as the parents are setting their children up to a life of ill health, early death. It is so, so sad. Education, education at a young age is very much needed.

Obesity is very sad and unhealthy.

I’m depressed with the 50lb weight gain from the pandemic but I always make it a top priority to lose weight and stay in shape. As someone who is overweight being fat is not where it’s at for your mental health

@mustang-sassy

Жыл бұрын

It's great to heaar from someone so in touch with themself...You got this so under control! 😊

@maryd3779

Жыл бұрын

I’m not skinny, I cld stand to lose some weight…but hey not obsessed abt it, more than ok with myself with a healthy self worth, cuz I’m the shxt! Think I’ll go have bkfast now! Mmmm bagel w/ cream cheese!

@ririmr4978

Жыл бұрын

I get it, being very unhappy at a job I hated too and gained alot of weight. Wound up in the hospital for 6 days with blood clots in my lungs and pneumonia. That was my wake up call, I lost 75 lbs it took 1.5 years. Whatever route you go, one thing that kept me going was on the days I messed up, I didn't beat myself up, tomorrow is a new day so I just started over, if I again messed up on that day, I started again the next day. Oh and I only weighed myself once every 3 weeks this way I didn't get discouraged cause I saw a loss, whether it was 1 lbs or 7 lbs.

The life restrictions that being heavily overweight put on people - they can’t be living life to its fullest or achieving their full potential which is sad as that’s not what life is about - thank you Frederique for the discussion

@ms.frederique

Жыл бұрын

thank you so much! x

In my late teens & 20’s I binged on fashion magazines. I compared myself to the stick thin models. I was thin but I was not the height of the models. I aspired to be like them but accepted it was not realistic. I eat healthy & exercise. Most importantly I respect my body and realize eating junk food does not provide the fuel necessary to lead a healthy life.

Hi Frederique, thank you for sharing this video. On watching the young obese woman, you could tell that she was suffering. It is vital that we have to look after ourselves, ie diet and exercise, there really isn’t any other way around it.

Thanks for covering this tricky topic. These conversations are not easy but they are so necessary

It’s not only the amount of food eaten, but the quality. Weight and obesity are so high now because the quality of our food is nowhere near where it was a generation ago. Also, “convenience” foods simply are not healthy.

Thank you for speaking the truth about the obvious. I completely agree with your assessment. We are living in perilous times where everything that’s wrong is right and vice versa. Keep up the great content!

You are a treasure for all of us!

@ms.frederique

Жыл бұрын

❤

@aimeerogers4542

Жыл бұрын

​@@ms.frederique people have lost their simple common sense. You embrace it. That's why it's important to hear.

I am so happy you posted this video. It is incredibly important to teach people the difference here. I have had this conversation many times. Especially with it now being so prevalent within the beauty community. Seeing obese women on the cover of swimsuit magazines makes me not want to purchase items from those companies because they’re just encouraging people to be unhealthy. It’s important to love yourself, 100%, then again, part of self love is knowing when you need to make changes. Thank you again! Love your content. 🖤

I won't celebrate obesity in anyone.

Thank you for addressing this issue. I was very heavy at one point in my life and I was miserable. People do treat you differently when your overweight. Like everything in life if you choose obesity then also accept not everyone will be accepting. In my case I was in a horrible marriage and through therapy I discovered food was my security and way of making me feel better. To each his own.

@nancysrios

Жыл бұрын

Is sad to see young people so fat.

It's really good to have people like you online, most are scared of speaking the truth. In my country this suicidal moviment is growing bigger and bigger everyday and most of the people don't say a word to not be cancelled. And when they do they get a lawsuit... it's insane how is wrong to say the truth. Thank you very much for your videos, people need to stop living in fairytale and wake up for reality.

I doubt those close to her like parents and family see it as as body positivity because they don't want her to lose her. All these people commenting on her posts don't have to live with the consequences.

@anaalves3658

Жыл бұрын

Absolutely true, it's like watching an alcoholic or drug addict 😢 you want them to wake up to the damage that they are doing to themselves.

People should take care of themselves . Being fat is unhealthy and shows you are not taking care of yourself!!! Too young to be fat 😢

Thank you Frederique for not being afraid to bring up such a sensitive subject. Totally agree with everything you said. I also think the current society should draw a line between “acceptance” and “unhealthy eating habits”. Instead of trying to comfort everyone and say it’s ok.

Keep telling the truth! A family member of mine died last week in her 50's after a lifelong struggle with obesity. 😔

@ms.frederique

Жыл бұрын

Sorry for you loss x

Drinking Red Bull is NOT healthy. 🤔 This is such a sensitive topic. I do deeply appreciate the message of body positivity. So much to say about this. 😢 So many have problems with weight loss surgery and that is so sad. Needing to use a walker bc of weight is tragic. Dying young bc of weight is horrific. I totally empathize with everything you’re saying. I agree 100%. AND… this is a deeply multifaceted issue that isn’t as simple as what you eat. I’m not claiming to know all the answers. In fact, just a few minutes ago I was glancing at a medical journal article talking about genetics related to weight. I personally think many people compliment overweight people to counteract all the extremely cruel comments. It feels horrible to be obese. I’ve struggled with my weight all my life. And, as I look back over my 50 yrs, I look at pictures of myself (and there aren’t many) where I think I should’ve been much kinder to myself about my weight. Now I’m going to say something educated that a lot of people won’t understand: I have a very serious and rare connective tissue disorder (vEDS) that makes managing weight incredibly hard. I have another rare medical disorder called MCAS that restricts and complicates diet, exercise, and my whole life!! Because of my very serious life threatening genetic condition with no cure, I am limited absolutely 100% to only walking for exercise and even with that, my heart rate cannot get above 122. And that restriction exists for me regardless of what I weigh. There are so many complications here, and no one wants or needs my life story. My point is-be careful how you judge “fat people”. You make think “all you have to do is..” but that’s not always the case. No one wants to be fat. And I for one don’t want to be shamed and ashamed every minute of my life. This is definitely a real issue. Health is my own top priority. And it looks different to everyone. I appreciate you for talking about this topic respectfully. It’s so emotional-especially to those of us who are obese. One last thought regarding the video clip of the woman who lost weight. I think it’s absolutely sensational to hear and watch weight loss stories! So inspiring!! ❤ But tone is everything. Think of it like this: To all those who spent years smoking then overcame that habit-how does cigarette smoke smell to you now? Some of the most critical people out there are ones who’ve been down the road and conquered. It seems like those people would be less judgmental and more encouraging. 🤷🏻‍♀️

@smarteam5920

Жыл бұрын

Yes, not just about caloric intake but societal influence, trauma, genetics, the govt for decades pushing the wrong kind of food intake due to industry lobbying, etc.

@Notperfecttonya

Жыл бұрын

@@smarteam5920 yes. Thank you. 🙏🏻❤️ I edited to add: we could even discuss poverty and low socioeconomic status as it relates to access to healthy food. There are just so many factors to look at. ☹️😢

@anaverran3040

Жыл бұрын

Unless you are a medical professional and the fat person is your patient, you need to take a step back and ask yourself if you are qualified to give advice about losing weight. I have never observed anyone lose weight as a result of unsolicited advice, especially if the advice is coming from someone not qualified to give it. What I do think is important is to provide support when someone has chosen to make changes that enhance their health.

@lewistracy3061

Жыл бұрын

Well said ..

I am 40 lbs overweight I am 66 and my goal is to drop this weight for my health and beauty. I recently joined a Gym , I stopped eating meat and grains, I know I will have success.

This is terrible but so true, Frédérique!!! Acceptance and glorification are not the same. Losing weight is really hard and as a slim person I'm clueless about the suffering involved but this unhealthy trend that glorifies obesity is causing a lot of harm. I lost a childhood friend at the age of 45. She just ignored her problem for ages and would not hear anyone in spite of all the difficulties and limitations she faced everyday. Her body couldn't stand such long-term abuse, new health problems showed up and eventually she passed away.

That's so bad when society is LYING to obese people. I am obese, and I don't respect people who tell me lies that kill me, I try to cut such people from my life.

Got a bigger tummy 35" at 5'4" around my waist and feel obese. From menopause, covid and stopped smoking all at the same time.

@renee6524

Жыл бұрын

You stopped smoking ! That is amazing. Best thing you can do for yourself.

@pattycake8272

Жыл бұрын

@@renee6524 yes. I quit in time for the price hike also. Lol.

Thank You Frederic to be honest. All of us we need talk clear about this subject. We need more people like you. Blessed!

This video nails it. Brilliant stuff. Your accent is wonderful too! Thank you! ❤

It’s so sad, thank you for speaking the truth.

Thank you for TASTEFULLY speaking on this. Healthy is beautiful ❤

Great video Frédérique. Thank you ❤

@ms.frederique

Жыл бұрын

Merci à vous 😊

Great sentiment re self love is taking care of yourself-including your body💛

@MsActor2009

Жыл бұрын

And self respect! ✊ Respect is classy!

@ms.frederique

Жыл бұрын

Absolutely!!

Thank you for being honest and calling that out. So much of the world is not being honest by saying everything and anything goes-which is not true. Your honesty is refreshing please keep it up. Kathy

Coucou Frédérique, super sujet qui nous montre réellement les extrêmes de notre société où on nous dit de faire du sport et en même temps Coca-Cola qui nous envahit par la pub et la malbouffe est reine....c'est n'importe quoi !!! Entre les skinny des défilés et les +size il n'y a plus de juste milieu .... Merci Frédérique 💪👍 Des bises 😘❤

The more i watch this it becomes more damaging to others i was one of those people who got in trouble for calling people fat and when i change my perspective on obesity it still gets in my head i felt like crying feeling sorry for those people as soon as i watched people dying its so hurtful

I note that many severely overweight people I have known do not know how to eat. So even though some of these women may have underlying disease that makes them very overweight, maybe for the rest education is the key. Part of the education must be as mikel.photoz says: value women for more than some concept of "beauty." I am in the same age group as mikel. and have never had a weight problem until recently. When I realized I was getting overweight, I began to learn about feeding myself. It is not a matter of "beauty;" it's a matter of health.

Being obese is unhealthy and should not be celebrated. Love yourself enough to seek medical help to get rid of the excess weight that is destroying your health.

Body positivity should be about accepting different body shapes and taking care of our bodies. It should not be a pro obesity movement.

Merci Fred, d'avoir touche a ce sujet assez sensible. L'autre extreme, c'est que la mode presente la silhouette "heroin chic" / anorexique qui n'est pas plus saine que l'obesite. On entend moins parle des deces et maladies lies a l'anorexie ces temps ci que, mettons, dans l'epoque de Karen Carpenter, par example. Tout a fait d'accord avec toi puis la jeune fille dans sa voiture qui explique que l'amour de soi est mieux demontre par les decisions positives en ce qui concerne la mode de vie. ❣du Canada

@-MEL16-A.O.C

Жыл бұрын

👍😉

@ms.frederique

Жыл бұрын

Merci beaucoup 😊

I feel so sad for people who can't even move about easily it breaks my heart for her and others trapped in fat, this kind of fat is hideous .

Where is Body positivity when you are having Health complications or when you die from your weight just like so many influencers in this community? They say love yourself but then they are silent when you are battling health issues and have died from weight-related health issues? I am so glad that I am on the weightloss journey! The FA can reject me and call me fatphobic because I lost weight and don't want to endure something that could have me die a quicker and painful death just like so many FA influencers that died under the age of 50. Tess holiday would have been the same age as me had she been alive today. She realized it unfortunately before it was too late because her body basically shut down on her because of all the things she was going through.

Dear frederique , Thank you for all your videos. Lots of love💞 and respect🙏 and greetings👋 from me🦋 in Amsterdam🐞 the Netherlands

Health = wealth

Merci Frédérique, (impossible de laisser un commentaire sous ta vidéo que je viens de regarder du coup j'ecris là)une fois de plus tu pointes du doigt un glissement de notre société où le monde tourne à l'envers....merci pour tes prises de positions ,j'adhère complètement !!!! Bises

Thank you!!!

If you love your pet, you give it what it needs to be healthy. If you love your kids, you give them what they need to be healthy. If you love yourself, you will give yourself what your body needs to be healthy. Anything else is abuse.

I managed to lose 50 to 60 lb since August of last year but then I went out of plateau on November through December because of hyperthyroidism and Hashimoto's and once I began treatment again and been eating my healthy diet I managed to lose more weight. I went from a size 20 w heading towards a 22 to now a size 12 heading towards a size 10! I don't have a problem with overweight or obese people but I do have a problem with them glorifying it because it is not healthy. Losing weight is not just losing your physical weight but adapting to a new lifestyle that is healthier and realistic for you. Being comfortable doesn't get you far and having you accepting the things that you should be changing and when you take that step that is the day you start moving forward! You are going to have setbacks but it's how you get up that counts and it also takes a lot of testing your body to see which diet and exercise is best adapt with you. But definitely change your portion size and don't eat a ton of sugars Breads and pastries in the specially fried foods and cereals!

If weight on your body is making you unhealthy, you need to lose weight. If you're a healthy weight, love your body whatever shape or 'faults' you think you have. If you're healthy you're beautiful, but if you're not healthy you're endangering your life, and that cannot be supported, even if that's what you want to do. 💖

wonderful video Frederique.. how I see body positivity should be - let's look at my example.. I had ears that were 90 degrees, they were sticking out.. for 25 years I had problem with that, could not wear pony tail like other kids, and as a girl that was problem, kids teasing, problem later with confidence.. then I started to think.. hey these are my ears.. I can hear on both of them, they serve purpose, actually I have amazing hearing.. and then gradually I started wearing hair up, and that to me is body positivity.. I was born with those ears.. they served me well but by aesthetics they are not acceptable by people.. then in my 30s I decided that I do corrective surgery.. and that is it.. love your body.

Excellent topic. I live in the USA and talking about weight is an issue. Obesity is number one issue in the USA. Being French I was never thin, considered chubby in France . Size 12. Here in the USA, I am considered normal weight. In reality I am overweight, I know that I need to lose some weight, which is hard with PCOS and pre menopause. Anytime I address it, doctors here laugh at me, just saying, "But you are great. Be positive about it. I want to lose weight not for my look but health !! Weight is an issue in America, and addressing it, is always because they think you are not positive about yourself. It has nothing to do with self-love. I just know that weight brings in issues for when you get older.

It is a big problem, hard to deal with it. Not healthy for sure!

Thank goodness someone is speaking about this

I put weight on and hit 74kg and went no that's too much, since then I've dropped 10kg with at least 7kg to go, hitting my 40's I noticed my body didn't respond as well as it did in my 20's

Brave lady addressing a complex problem. Thanks Frederique for not being afraid to explore this topic.

No one should ever be cruel to another person for being overweight. That said, the AMA must do a better job of educating people on the death rates of obesity. If we truly care about someone we should help them in their journey of losing weight!

If someone with a body quite, quite less than beautiful wants to like or even love her body, let her do so. It's none of my business - as long as you don't start flaunting this body in public demanding that everyone, including me, like your body. Sorry, but that is the epitome of insolence and unacceptable. Think what you like in private, but stop strutting like a peacock with a body that gives others the shivers. This new narcissistic "Me, My, Mine, I" Mentality is a sad product of our therapeutic-era. It is doomed to die a natural death for the simple reason that it can have no future. John Keats said, "A thing of Beauty is a joy forever, its lovliness increases, it will never pass into Nothingness.." But a thing far from Beauty will have the exact opposite fate. So, it's a waste of your time and ours to insist upon displaying what brings no joy to anyone :-) What we need today is a little modesty, a touch of sweet humility - which can be so charming in a person, and which is far more attractive and disarming than this over-confident artificial sassiness that is so completely out of touch with reality.

I always thought that body positivity influencers give you tips on how to do exercises that wouldn't kill you as a chubby person (because of the discs and knees), tips on clothing, etc. Since some people are chubby (disposition, illness, Menopause). ...) and tips like this would be great and helpful. Because even as someone who isn't really slim, you want to be reasonably fit and look good :) But all you see from these influencers is that they eat unhealthy things -.-

Oh my God, I totally agree with you. "Body positivity" can be soo dangerous. Phases likes "I'm not fat / obese, it's ok to be chubby, it's normal, etc." This soo irritate me, just because it's normal to have big overweight, it's normal to die young, it's normal to have diabetes like 20+ y.o... I'm very happy for you, for making this vlog and saying the truth. ❤

How can someone with that weight be body positive? It is called body dysmorphia.

@SueRosalie

Жыл бұрын

yes, no doubt dysmorphia works in both directions

Great video - these people are also incredibly self indulgent considering the amount of starving people there are around the world. We all have different shapes and sizes however this is extreme.

Body positivity is about being the best version of yourself, not the worst or an unrealistic version of yourself. Normally people who are morbidly obese have gone through something very traumatic like sexual abuse, severe parental neglect or poverty. It affects more than their health. It affects their hygiene and mood, too…

@Rosebud4u1

Жыл бұрын

That is exactly right! Its not about eating too much, its a wholistic approach.. the body is shielding its self, its a form of self abuse... Its so not easy, but you have to work things out & learn or reprogram yourself.. Im working on this myself.. the right way to think is its not about my body.. ftoo fat or too thin, but it should be about my health. Just losing or gaining 5kg can make a big difference. For overweight or too thin you really are putting strain on the body. For overweight people dieting doesn't work.. you need like a too thin person, a lifestyle change & workout why you are overweight... work out stress, abuse ect.. For me IF, & low carb with good fats & plenty of protein's is working for myself & its also helping a lot of others.. to not only lose weight, but lower cholesterol, put diabetes type2 in remission, lower blood pressure & help mental health & sleep! Cooking at home is the best... easy simple healthy meals, drinking mainly water, if out I might have a glass of champagne (LC) Less highly processed food, seed oils & no sugar... I had a real sweet tooth.. so this was my hardest, but now I can have a cuppa & not miss the sugar, occasionally a small treat like a bit of cake or pastry, not denying myself completely... these now taste super sweet to me, so I only need a bit! My go to dessert at home is greek yoghurt or whip cream with berries, or just a piece of cheese just to finish off my meal! I surprise myself now & feel proud that I can now if I want to eat one meal a day (OMD) mostly I'm 2 OMAD I now eat to live, not live to eat!

@MsActor2009

Жыл бұрын

It’s very much a 1st world problem, not a 3rd world problem. Junk food in 1st world countries is cheap, fast and easy to give to a child to spoil them when you don’t have time to spend with them! The child is alone and spends the evening with a big packet of chips for companionship and maybe a creepy neighbor next door who is giving them some sexual attention . In Africa, it takes a village to raise a child. Addictive things are readily available in the west. Food, drugs and alcohol. In Africa they are scarce! Highly doubt everyone you meet with obesity would tell you that they were sexually assaulted…

@pennypetrovic3682

Жыл бұрын

@@MiwaTamu Your right , all these people sound like Dr. Phil if your fat he said once you must have been sexually abused . I eat healthy my cholesterol is perfect , even a doctor asked me how I stay so healthy even iron a bit high all levels perfect. Some things are hereditary , my family all slim eat same as me even more . If people truly understood doctors would know how to solve fat but they don’t experts don’t know . Those morbidly obese I don’t know why they are but I wouldn’t say they must have been sexually abused. I’m tired of all the videos just showing clothes for perfectly slim people. Please why do t they show all these celebrities and models dying because they are too thin. Starving themselves

@MsActor2009

Жыл бұрын

At least Dr Phil is a licensed psychologist, so he would have experience working with people with food addictions. I used to judge morbidly obese people too. I thought they were all just greedy pigs who ate too much without caring, until I realized they usually have gone through something very traumatizing to get that big!. Doesn’t help we live in a society that glorifies fast food either.

@AliceBunny05

9 ай бұрын

​@@MiwaTamuthey didn't say abuse couldn't happen to anyone, they just said a lot of people who become morbidly obese have traumatic pasts, which is usually true, because many of them do have binge eating disorder. Trauma exponentially increases the chances someone develops an eating disorder. It applies to anorexia and bulimia as well, you will be incredibly hard pressed to find someone with either of those who has not gone through trauma as a child. It just manifests in different ways. People who binge eat or grotesquely overeat feel as if they have had no control in their lives, so that promotes them to push that mindset onto everything including food. Why would I try to control my life if I feel I've never had that ability. For people with restrictive disorders it's the opposite. I haven't had control in my life, and this is something I can have complete control over, and nobody can take that from me. Sincerely someone with anorexia. It is important not to keep a victim mindset, but it's just a neutral statement to say that people who end up on the extremes of the eating spectrum are often using it as a coping mechanism.

I wonder how do they clean themselves? There are so many folds 😮 they must have difficulty cleaning and drying their bodies 😬😬😬.

body acceptant wasn’t and isn’t meant for glorifying fat.

I’m from the Southern US and a majority of my family are obese, it’s actually interesting how that messes with your mind. I became scared of food and gaining weight and I started restricting and overly exercising. I dropped to 78 lbs (35.4 kg) and was placed in inpatient. The wildest thing is a lot of the people I met there with EDs also came from families where a lot of members were obese. It was like we saw what awaited us and we went so hard in the opposite direction that we still ended up hurting ourselves bc of food.

I feel like obesity is almost being glamorized. I wonder 100 years from now what the average body size/shape will be. Every decade it seems this changes. It seems mothers kind of use weight not lost after pregnancy as a status. Among my age group and those a little older this is my observation. Be healthy, focus on balanced diet and moving and try not to worry about what bodies are... I guess you could say IN. For example I have no butt and I'm totally okay with that. As a runner I think that is a good thing actually

Thank you for addressing this sensitive but very important subject. Obesity is not healthy; and, with very few exceptions, something that is in the power of the person to reverse.

Thank you Frederique, this is sooooo true!!!! And I do not think every body should be celebrated online!!!! For me body positivity is about celebrating healthy choice and embracing healthy looking women and men. And Frederique, I am sorry ,I live in the UK and men with their beer bellies need to lose weight as much as us women... I am very fit and lucky to struggle to put on weight (hopefully it will never change) but when I see men constantly judging women and not taking care of themselves I am fuming... My message: Men, watch out your beer bellies and work on it !!!

That first girl, was my age. We born the same year--crazy! Im not overweight however, nowhere near death or health complications. Crazy….

Great Video Frederique :)