I don't care if he does or doesn't miss me . there's nothing that I miss about him . being abused by a narracist messes with your mind , body and spirit. I'm on the road to a better life without him and that makes me happy

@livingnow7017

10 ай бұрын

Well put...same with me! 😊

@gloriachapman5618

10 ай бұрын

Same here. Best of luck and happiness to you .

@sarahwoodward8250

10 ай бұрын

Well said! Chin up , head high ❤

@angelaeastwood3938

10 ай бұрын

37 years and wished I never done any I have been physically. mentally and verbally abused was an over the top empath. They are selfish evil people I couldn't care less about mine. I longer truma bond people please or try in my marriage its all fruitless they cannot be changed or reasoned with. they are children in adult bodies they have major tantrums with violent anger issues they have two personalities and treat you however they feel. I no longer love or care. They do not care about you. Or wanted you to have a great life I know I've had the experience of it all I'm getting wisdom and working on myself now.

@nessauk2786

10 ай бұрын

​@@angelaeastwood3938yes adult child that adult grooms us.

Just go no contact and forget them. Move on with your life.

@astralpx

9 ай бұрын

Affirmative, only choice. They dont care or ever will.

@MrProfessional777

9 ай бұрын

Easier said than done... There are different circumstances that may tie you to them. Like sharing a child, which is a hornets nest and they will weaponize the court, lie, and manipulate. The court will become "battle ground". This will continue for 18+ years.

@seanlehman244

9 ай бұрын

100 percent. You will never have a healthy life with them.

@jjmack6563

9 ай бұрын

I went no contact and he went berserk. I was stalked, harassed and tormented for a year. The police didn't prosecute. It was absolutely horrific.

@rosemontoya3656

9 ай бұрын

ABSOLUTELY…IM SO HAPPY NOW! I CHOSE ME💖

When God delivers you from Evil don't go back.

@Jay_Z.

8 ай бұрын

Amen!

The sooner the narcissist is kept consistently in the REARVIEW MIRROR, the HAPPIER YOUR LIFE will become and evolve. SERIOUSLY! Do it for you. Do it for your children if you have them.❤🧡💛💚💙💜💖

@anoushkamarcin

10 ай бұрын

YES 🙌🏽 thank you for your encouraging comment 👆🏼🙏🏼😊

@mmnde12

10 ай бұрын

The worst thing is my children still have to meet this monster because he happens to be the sperm donor aka the guy I married and had s3x with. This is the heartbreak I guess I’ll never get over.💔

@DarkMetaOFFICIAL

10 ай бұрын

its seeming to be impossible to do, like my only choice is if aliens remove my memories or hey maybe elon musk can do it

@DarkMetaOFFICIAL

10 ай бұрын

@@empoweredfreedom01 teach the kid as much as humanly possible constantly. my mom did for me and it stayed permanent i wont be corrupted. they tried too. oh man. my fam was sadistic, looking back. thinking about the fact that they would propagandize and brainwash us against other family to do evil. it never worked on me. i have faith in you. u have to get to him before they do. mentally. probe their mind, communicate, impart the good values, explain things even if they dont understand fully, they will start to. keep going.

@janedoh123

9 ай бұрын

sadly i don’t think that he would see it past checking his own image in the mirror

They replace you easily and eventually find someone to put up with their crap.

I pulled the mask of my narcissist, then she discarded me. None of this happened after the discard and it never will. Once they know that you know, they are gone forever.

@JoeHill-yy9fw

10 ай бұрын

Not always... stalking could happen for example, remember that there are many kinds of Narcissistic Personality Disorder or NPDs or people diagnosed with certain kind of narcissism. Examples: covert, overt, grandiose, malignant, sadistic, etc, etc.

@wayneelliott1180

10 ай бұрын

Mine has stalked and smeared me for five years. I haven't acknowledged her at all in four years. Some narcs will hunt you for life.

@kimturner2105

10 ай бұрын

I would say you are lucky... @artluvr6170 i walked away from a full on narcissistic boss (no relationship at all but I worked hard and earned him millions while he did not pay my sales commissions) He is mad as hell, tried to send me to prison by accusing me of his own tax fraud crimes. Used his LE friends as flying monkeys, tied me up in the court system for 5 years. It cost him nothing but I lost my health and my house. So, in the end I kept my innocence, but he sure wanted to f over my life...in his eyes he is still angry because i did not go willingly into the horrible fate he was still dictating for me.... months after I walked out.....not my first trouble getting away from a brutal narcissist but it will be my last.

@kimturner2105

10 ай бұрын

@@wayneelliott1180 YES... i was born in the midst of them... in my life I attract them like bees to flowers... they have become worse and worse... some of them still show up... i keep things friendly enough and give them a little and slip away kindly... some narcs when you expose them could kill you ... I've seen it and come close to that fate. Don't expose them, fade them out as silently as you can with little fixes of you in between to keep yourself safe until they move on by their own choice. Don't share anything important to you with them. Keep it all on the surface.

@lj6871

10 ай бұрын

This happened with me but some narcs they will try to keep you in devaluation but still have you there to extract negative attention which fuels them, whilst they are idealising their new supply ( which they think you don't know about ). They don't get rid of you as they are still getting something from you so they keep you both until they make a decision who to keep as primary supply, then discard. Its horrendous. Unless you catch on and discard first which is what I did

ALWAYS the victim, ALWAYS right, and absolutely UNTEACHABLE. If you are fortunate enough to get away from these crazy making idiots you my friend are truly blessed in the greatest of ways. Keep driving and NEVER l@@k back for the win.

@truthfulpatriot9129

10 ай бұрын

“always the “victim”,always “right” and absolutely “unteachable””…..when I read This ,I got Chills…..you Are Right on the Money…..WoW…..thank you🙏 ps: they’re always “unreachable” as well

@romy3582

10 ай бұрын

🙏🙏🙏

@silviamaslarova5995

10 ай бұрын

Spot on!

@MariaSocorro-

10 ай бұрын

No…..way not to come back your life much better to deal w/them . They a liar , manipulator , gaslighting , being “FAKE”, lack of emphaty and kind a pure evil person acting like a nice person but just being a big time “ FAKE” person .

@skepchica

9 ай бұрын

​@@truthfulpatriot9129They're demons.

Yes, that is exactly what my ex is doing: playing the victim and blaming me for everything

@susanbrown2909

10 ай бұрын

Yes,it’s never their fault…insensitive freaks.

@susanbrown2909

10 ай бұрын

Yep cos they have a inferiority complex that’s why.

@elizabethjimenez9729

9 ай бұрын

They do that so they don't ruin their reputation so therefore cheating or moving on it will.not affect them

They're playing games to control you. It's a power game

@anoushkamarcin

10 ай бұрын

YES 🙌🏽

@sabrinapetersen5358

10 ай бұрын

It's a mind game for the narcissist and other narcissists too! Beware of flying monkeys behind narcissistic people 's back! They can pretend to be your friend and sadly do something wrong with your stuff behind your back!

@anoushkamarcin

10 ай бұрын

@@sabrinapetersen5358yes this is a very valid point. Be aware of their connections, they will use them to get information on you 😢

@janebraun4482

10 ай бұрын

Yes, when you are baffled by them, then you realize it is all about power and control. You might feel very down and vulnerable, that is good for them, so they think, but oddly they fail over and over again with people, they just hurt themselves.

@sabrinapetersen5358

10 ай бұрын

What it is really is a mind game to make us victim believe in all of their lies and Deceit and it's their lack of honesty in the first place makes us feel like nothing around them this is why us victims are nothing then their supply then someone that they really loved, these awful dishonest people are like Energy Vampires and they will feed off your own bank account and or any thing that you have it is of yours and they will claim all of it as their own! No conception of real friendship or real love or anything no conception of right and wrong either you have to find out how to solve your own problems with these awful dishonest people and then leave them alone for good!😮

Getting away from a malignant narcissist can be dangerous.... be careful and keep yourself protected with silence, secrecy and do not confront them.

@Test-wi5pt

10 ай бұрын

I tried that. I think if they are a malignant narcissist, there is almost no way to leave them safely. They will likely have been stalking you. Whatever I tried clearly hasn't worked. Get help and advice from police etc and get it early.

@kimturner2105

10 ай бұрын

@@Test-wi5pt yes, I absolutely agree with you and it is too true sadly…. I should have added that it usually takes years of doing this before they leave you alone…. The last narc was an ex boss… I was a very hard working cash cow… (no relationship) when I’d had a gut full of bad treatment (8 years) I walked… so months later after I kept up with no contact, he tried to send me to prison on false charges, yes stalking, hate and smear campaign… still on the edge of my life, but the silence and secrecy is getting me there… ps it’s been 5 years since I left and due to the cost of lawyers ( he used his LE friends so no problem for him ) I have just been forced to sell my house. Malignant narcs take years of patience to escape… no more… been on this wheel for too long. I can tell you already know all this. Blessings and love to you, beautiful soul xx

@Xen-AM

10 ай бұрын

Facts. Still being stalked by one almost 2 years after meeting one. If he ever finds me in person, I am in some deep deep trouble. Extremely dangerous.

@JasmineBliss

9 ай бұрын

Applys to All narcissists

@skepchica

9 ай бұрын

​@@Test-wi5ptThe police are absolutely useless. I was denied a protection order twice, even though the manager of my apartment went to court and testified about how fearful she was because shed caught him breaking into the apartment dozens of times-- it wasnt until my roommate's boyfriend woke up by chance in the middle of the night to go to the bathroom, and opened my door (which he would NEVER do) because he said he got a bad vibe and a cold chill. The ex had been sitting on top of me chocking me for about 2 minutes. He apparently broke into the apartment and fell asleep in the closet. I had no clue he was there and went to bed after work. I was so shocked being woken up in my sleep, but he positioned himself where I couldn't move or get the air to scream. Had he ignored that feeling, Id be dead. They finally allowed the restraining order, but he broke in three more times, but of course would be gone by the time they arrived. I even asked what good was the 50-b? Best case scenario I couldve thrown it at him and if Im lucky, he would've gotten a paper cut. He was even calling threatening me from jail on a recorded line, which they said they could see the number but said they werent allowed to access the recordings but said I could pay an attorney to get them, meanwhile he only had a 48 hour hold for choking me. I ended up leaving the state. All the police will do is "solve" the crime after youre gone. Leave.

Do not react, say nothing, keep yourself far and unreachable. You will find peace for sure.

I always like to think that losing us forever is what finally breaks them. 🙂

@skepchica

9 ай бұрын

It doesn't. They were broken long before they met you. They hate themselves more than anybody else possibly could. Their punishment is living in their own skin.

@MrColdchillin81

9 ай бұрын

@@skepchicaeveryone they’ve ever known has shown them they are worthless. You can’t possibly destroy them more than they were destroyed before they were teenagers. You’re just the most recent person to do it again. Bravo

@Peace_and_Love_777.....

9 ай бұрын

​@@MrColdchillin81..... I agree with you 100% .... but... how much time can one give before they say enough is enough? I am 42yrs old and lost 23yrs "trying" to not give up... BUT, now my kids are old enough to hear and understand and read the room... that is when enough is enough for me.

@skepchica

9 ай бұрын

@@MrColdchillin81 More likely since early childhood. Just to be clear- I'm not being mean spirited, I'm being honest. People need to understand what they're dealing with. They probably only understand hate, because it's the only emotion they grew up knowing-- but however sad that may be, it really doesn't matter. It stops being sad when you understand they're so manipulative instead of changing what they don't like about themselves, they'd rather create a character to lure vulnerable people to meet their needs, then discard them when those needs are met, or a person of more benefit comes along. They are perfectly content living in that circle of toxicity. They see how bad they hurt people and it bothers them none. If you genuinely care about them, they just resent you for it. I hope that wasn't an attempt to empathize-- they'll drown you in your own tears then blame you for making them do it.

@jeaniesevon9227

9 ай бұрын

Wow I just found your site and I have been 4 months free from a 9 and a half year relationship with a man who I really didn't know was narcissistic and manipulative to the degree he is until I've been able to listen to people talking about these behaviors and he has been having issues with his family feeling like his mom and dad didn't love him and all the stories I have heard yes he's a whiner poor me poor me he's always the victim he's always saying lucky me when things don't go his way and I've tried to be supportive because I was not really truly understanding narcissism and I have witnesses manipulation around me and other people people so finally he set me free back at the end of June and then I hear he already has a new victim and supposedly he knew her from before so I'm thinking wow he really cared about me didn't he. He did but he didn't we've had some great fun times but man when he turns around he is not a nice man he's very abusive verbally and emotionally spiritually and a couple of times physically with me so I'm glad to be done I am so happy to be free and listening to your information today has been more freeing for me on all levels I am so excited for myself to be free of that negativity. I hope to hear more of your shows just to help keep me going and being aware when someone else comes into my life any signs they're out

Oh, she tried her hardest to leave me a broken man, but she never really knew who I was and just how strong I am!!

@FadeToBlackLLC

10 ай бұрын

Same, never let her see you sweat. Hold your head high and keep moving forward.

@firsttbone

10 ай бұрын

​@FadeToBlackLLC I finally broke free and have been no contact for over 3 months. I'm getting better, living my best life, and trying to put her and all that behind me!

@FadeToBlackLLC

10 ай бұрын

A lot of use are going through similar things. Stay strong and keep moving forward. @@firsttbone

@viewerwatching5712

9 ай бұрын

Yes

@firsttbone

9 ай бұрын

@JSmith00 sorry you had to go through that! I got hoovered back in amongst 1 year ago, and that took me 7 months to get out and it took all my strength to do! Thank you, I will. You take care of yourself as well 😊🤗

Some of them become dangerous stalkers, but most probably become deflated, since no contact hits their core wounds of rejection and abandonment.

What he feels, thinks or even realizes about me is none of my business. ! My job is to make sure I am whole , healthy and healed .. I am responsible to make sure I see beautiful again 🌺

So sad, too bad! What the narc doesn't know about me is? When I'm done I am done!!!

"Destroy" is their catch phrase. In reality they are destroyed themselves by the darkness in their soul.👺

@thaistomp

9 ай бұрын

They're gonna be in for a big surprise when they take their last breath... Hellfire.

@christinemanigian209

9 ай бұрын

@@thaistomp So correct!

exactly what I did to the ex-narc GF 10 months ago, kicked them out, blocked on social media, blocked her phone number and went complete no contact. She wasted enough of my time...have not heard a word and I don't expect to hear from her...hopefully, I'll never hear from her again. On the topic of her smear campaign? who cares? people will know over time who they really are, it's a ad nauseam cycle they'll never break from their pathetic lives. I live in peace now & am a better version of myself. That is all that really matters, isn't it?

Realising I had finally defeated them was one of the finest moments in my life, it really is ❤❤❤❤❤

Narcissists are very likeable, believable and are experts at gaining "flying monkeys" to watch you and send reports about you. It's best to separate yourself from EVERYBODY they have impressed themselves upon. They'll even try to come to you in dreams. The break ups are those of nightmares when you finally rebel. Leave quietly if you can

@fairpoet81

10 ай бұрын

Dreams, yes. 🤔

@irielion3748

10 ай бұрын

Humans have dreams, nothing new there

@bellefemmehairsalon5217

6 ай бұрын

Dreams yes. Flying monkeys yes. Not playing whatsoever

I had been love bombed in the past and this second time a round I wasn’t gonna be fooled. The trauma dumping, everyone is against him, mirroring you, making rude jokes and calling you sensitive for reacting. The excessive texting, triple texting when you don’t answer. Blowing up my phone or sending excessive love reels/tik toks not respecting boundaries when you set them. I was the one that DISCARDED HIM 😂 boy bye ! I’m still trying to recover even tho I only talked to him for a couple of months. It does mess with your mind because you miss that person you thought they were. Empathic people need to be careful it’s like these narcs know who to target. I blocked his number and he reached out via fb messenger Saturday “I miss you so fkn much” 🤢🤢🤢 no contact babes stay away!

@robertswift6101

10 ай бұрын

they are very dangerous to empathic people...i am a survivor,,,some are not so lucky

@joeyjo7553

10 ай бұрын

@@robertswift6101 yes very dangerous! And unfortunately that is true. I’m just glad more people are talking about it so those who don’t know can finally see who these people really are

@blingblingdazzle

10 ай бұрын

💪👍

@fainitesbarley2245

10 ай бұрын

Having empathy is normal for humans. Narcs keep charming/lovebombing loads of people and then pursue the ones who respond. We need to learn not to be initial responders. They really do mess with your emotions. Even a few months is enough to leave you struggling

@joeyjo7553

10 ай бұрын

@@fainitesbarley2245 I 100% agree 😓

In the end they will pay the price. Just move on make new friends and make a positive plan for the future 😉

@dianagarrison3138

9 ай бұрын

They pay the price daily for not having you.

@skepchica

9 ай бұрын

They pay the price daily just being them. No one hates them more than they hate themselves. They have to play a character to trick people to even like them in the first place.

@thaistomp

9 ай бұрын

@@skepchica Yup, and in time, their outward appearance starts to resemble how rotten they are on the inside. When a narc female loses her beauty, she's powerless...

@skepchica

9 ай бұрын

@@thaistomp When you look inward and fix the part of yourself that allowed you to want and believe you could fix a broken person, instead of wanting someone who loves you-- their outward appearance will repel you. You'll recognize them the second you put eyes on them. If they happen to have outward beauty, it won't mean more than what color of shirt they have on. We're not the ones that are broken, but we have battle scars. They see us coming. It's a matter of us getting the healing we need to recognize them.

Thanks for this educational reading. I am overwhelmed at how these people move around in society with NO conscience whatsoever. I have been educated and feel the urgency to protect myself from such evil minded individuals. God bless. ❤

@Msewell073

10 ай бұрын

I think thry should be on a registry to be accessed by others to arm themselves

@guyreid8692

10 ай бұрын

Interesting comment. No conscience is the variable overlap they sometimes have with psychopathy.

@joanndeck4315

10 ай бұрын

Evil minded and mean spirited!! Yes …no conscience , it’s so difficult to believe when first waking up…but then you realize it’s very much real and true ….

@lindac6919

9 ай бұрын

Our nation and government were created by misogynist and narkys who kept women and "other races" as chattel. The Founding Fathers weren't all light and love... they didn't want equality for all. They created a nation where themselves and their sons would always be top dogs in their new country, instead of B Players in the Old World.

@gillb9222

9 ай бұрын

What I hate is that they get away with it over and over again with no consequences

They move on fast. They need to secure their next supply and never think of you. Understand you are an empty soup can to them. They never dwell or think of a soup can they tossed a few weeks ago so why would they think of you? A narc is like a wild animal, just worried about its next meal. Just eating and shitting their way through life. So don’t think about them, just focus on your goals and totally let them fade to black. After all they are doing the exact same.

They were addicted, then developed a massive tolerance to us. Once gone, that tolerance drops to zero, so addiction comes back, stronger than ever. Remember they can not get therapy for their addiction.

@anoushkamarcin

10 ай бұрын

This is very true they cant get therapy for their addiction because they are not self aware

She had me completely fooled until she got triggered. There was an immediate reversal from being loving to being distant. She gave me the silent treatment which then triggered me and it was over. It was fun while it lasted. Silent treatment is a huge red flag for me as I find it controlling/manipulative and I will not tolerate it. May it be so for all of you as well.

@yellowdayz1800

10 ай бұрын

Narcs don't get triggered. They have no empathy and it effects their central nervous system.. Narcissistic are all about chaos and games.. They do not get triggered. Maybe at the thought that the people know who they really are. You doubtful dealt with a true narcissistic person.

@OneWhoKnowz

10 ай бұрын

As you should ❤

@meljohnsony2k

9 ай бұрын

Exactly fooled me as well for so long. Scary how fake they are

This message is for pre-narcissistic trauma survivors. As a survivor it's awesome being a demon slayer😊finally, that triggers & exposes all thier weakness they try so hard to hide instead of seeking the Holy Spirit deliverance they need.

@tarasanders8978

10 ай бұрын

Well said

@ruthiecastro9519

10 ай бұрын

True

@donsdons1228

9 ай бұрын

Nice ❤

@paulreints2279

9 ай бұрын

Narcissism is a demonic spirit. No doubt about it.

@user-cr8to2uq9r

9 ай бұрын

YEAH,YEAH YES YOU TELL THEM 🙏

After I got over the anger and heartache, I only felt sorry for her. She was damaged early and severely WAY before I got to her. Died alone in a nursing home, our kids having put her out long before that. What a tragedy all around.

Thank you. I needed that! I spent over 2 and a half years trying to combat a vicious smear campaign. The narc hacked my cellphone and even approached the new guy I was dating and repeatedly smeared my name. He even showed the new guy I was dating intimate pictures of me and made it appear that I was a prostitute. The new guy ended up standing me up on dates & ghosting me. I'm alone and date less, and the narc has someone in his life, along with a brand new house but I don't care I will remain no contact for life and focus on myself and my son. Although the narc has all those things, he continues to spend a lot of energy trying to keep me single and depressed. (I'm not going to let that happen, by the way. I'm loving being single and narc free!) By the way, I am far from being a prostitute I guess the narc is projecting on me what he is. I am a hard-working single mom who tries her best every day to take good care of my son. It's sick that narcissists are allowed to abuse people this way without going to jail. Stay safe, everyone! 🙏

@janystangroom8407

9 ай бұрын

😢Thesame happening to me right now after being abused for 15 years and now 4 years divorce and this horrible devil 😈 have coming back 5 months now to do damage 💔 to my self and my 4 angels but mostly to me ,this is pretty similar to what I am experiencing right now 😢😢slandering me up and down horrible names calling well you name 😢 what a horrible narcissists of a devil individual they are 😢😢totally agreed with you why the leave this horrible people to do so much damage and they're at larger,they should indeed be in prison paying for all the damage thatvthey do to vulnerable people they are simply predator,😢😢😢

@dclarke1896

9 ай бұрын

@janystangroom8407 Stay strong and safe invest in as much security as possible until you can get away from that loser

A battery🔋 without power will not operate. Don't feed the ego, save or salvage your sanity. SERIOUSLY 🕊️

They hate it becuz in the beginning when you discard them they are caught off guard and haven’t groomed another supply. Other than that they don’t care. It’s beyond bizarre behavior. They have a server mental illness. Do not look back just RUN!👈🏻

This is 100 percent true! My ex narcissist. I blocked him on all social media accounts and phone. He created a total of 7 Snapchat accounts to get my attention. Specified that he was not trying to get me back or even cared to be my friend, but it killed him to know that I blocked him and that I won’t be there for him. After I blocked him… again… He then started emailing me. Then started to use kinder words, like I’ll always love you, you mean a lot to me. In hopes that I will be more lenient this time. Again he specified, I’m not here to get you back and we don’t have to be friends. But if something bad happens to me, how will you ever know. It was all about him… So yeah what did I do? Told him hell no and I don’t ever wanna speak to him. Ever. Which btw killed him. He hated how “rude” I was when I was just being direct bc he clearly can’t take any hints. Then I blocked him bc he just kept saying over and over, I wanna see your growth from a far pls don’t block me. Tf ? NO!!!!

@joeyjo7553

10 ай бұрын

That’s crazy! It’s mind blowing how similar they all are. Wait how did he get your email? I always wonder when people say “ I blocked him everywhere it he emailed me 700 times” just curious lol they are crazy 🤢 😥 I’m currently no contact with mine but he keeps trying to message me on the socials. sorry you had to go through that

@mc7530

10 ай бұрын

@@joeyjo7553 hey Joeyjo! We were together for almost 3 years so eventually he was going to get my email. Just didn’t think he would use it. Forgot about blocking him on that. But yeah he only apologized towards the end on email, hoping I would unblock him. And when he apologized he said “I’m sorry for doing XYZ but I mean you did ABC.” It was always a but you did this too kinda thing. A spin off to find a way to point fingers

@mc7530

10 ай бұрын

@@joeyjo7553 I am sorry about yours too. I promise you it does get better! Stay strong! And when you miss your ex. Write down all the messed up things they’ve done! And remind urself!

@johnnycorn7225

10 ай бұрын

I hate that sick stuff, STILL going through it occasionally after telling her no way 8 years ago, yes 8. Still has to know and probe, weirdos to the max.

@hashh2019

10 ай бұрын

do we have the same person? i have been told these exact seeing growth from afar, what if something happens to him n how will i know. are you in dallas by any chance?

They move on to their next supply that they had been prepping during your devaluation without giving you a second thought ( oh ok maybe one)

@anoushkamarcin

10 ай бұрын

Yes they sadly do this to us all… it’s heartbreaking 💔 but please know that they will NEVER change and do this everyone they meet 😢

@lj6871

10 ай бұрын

@@anoushkamarcin Yes this is absolutely true. It's an awful experience to live through 💔

I was really surprised that he kept trying to salvage some kind of bridge or "friendship." But stuck to no contact because I knew it was a face-saving effort on his part. He wanted our friends to think the best of him. He tried for months but I never broke no contact. The friends who knew me best believed me. The friends who were more like him believed him. That's how these things go.

They will trash your reputation. Say hurtful thing such as "I've been having an affair the whole time". Try to trash finances....

@anoushkamarcin

10 ай бұрын

Yes this is exactly how it is. They want to ruin you because they feel you deserve to be destroyed, so that they look like they have come out on top. It’s a mind game. EGO

It still hurts no matter how much I understand her.

@derikuk2967

9 ай бұрын

Time and space are great healers. Never go back. Move on and follow new dreams.

Being a big source (as I was) and after the break up, the feeling of "does the narc miss you" is normal. Everyone wants to know if they ment something to the other person, the narcissist. With time, distance you will notice that zero contact is the best way, children with the narcissist? As little and boring contact as possible (grey stone) and only about the children. Zero contact is absolutely best for you! The narcissist hates it but that's their problem. As times goes you will notice that the narcissist is nothing else than a clown and you feel better without the narcissist.❤ Life is wonderful without the narcissist after you have healed. Before, you will go through hell emotionally, 😢 very hurtful but after... lovely ❤❤❤ Thank you for a very good and interesting video. 🙏❤️🙏 Sorry for my grammar or spelling, not my first language 😬😔

My sister in law moved on from me after I helped her & she has lighted me . I did everything for her & she took advantage of me & discarded me like trash & we haven’t spoken to each in 6 months. She dose not care .. narcissists don’t care who they hurt . After their needs are met they throw you away .

They’ll stalk you like an obsessed weirdo

@skymeadow7762

9 ай бұрын

Ugh yes

@happyheart8888

9 ай бұрын

yes

@janystangroom8407

9 ай бұрын

and harrast you not stop,stupid individuals 😒

@peachmelba1637

12 күн бұрын

Mine just texted me at 3.30 am THIRTEEN YEARS SINCE WE LAST MET 🤬

There is only one way to deal with them: GO FULL NO CONTACT. Ignore their smear campaigns. Also be always on the lookout. They will try to hurt you, your loved ones, kids, pets etc.

The moment you realize 75% of your circle have been neurodivergent narcissists, including family; Of that, 20% psychopaths... but you are the empath 🤮🥶

Blimey, the timing couldn't have been better. Met my ex in a supermarkt, telling me how much he always loved me and how I wasn't perfect either. Telling me how much of a b*tch I am for 'suddenly and for no reason' abandoning him. Oh poor poor thing. I don't think I've ever been so happy since I left.

@claudiacanales2662

10 ай бұрын

For “no reason”. Take utter delight in the fact that this person is FUMING because you left….and don’t look back nor engage in any way.

@irielion3748

10 ай бұрын

He isn't fuming and he isn't angry. It's a game, another mask. He's hoping she falls for it, reverse hoovers herself and plays the game again.

Yes think about you and your children’s mental health and move forward. Being with a narc husband and taking the abuse is like having a full time job ! Leave and start your healing journey and enjoy your freedom ❤

Spot on. So much harder when it’s your mother but 2 years later and not looking back. Reclaiming your life is not easy but with therapy and resources like this that reaffirm and validate what you already know is the key for sure. So empowering. We all deserve to be the main character in our own lives, not a pawn in someone else’s. Thank you for these videos.

@nightbrite2595

9 ай бұрын

I’m debating is I should cut off my mom as well. Since I left a bit over 3 weeks ago she has been hoovering like no one’s business. She’s even turned my siblings against me as well. I only really appreciate my dad’s texts and calls. She guilt trips, gaslights, and sends mean messages. Been trying to ignore them, got advice?

You can't have a healthy relationship who is in an abusive relationship with themselves. It will inevitable become am abusive relationship for anyone close to them.

I bumped into her at the store. She ask if I wasn't gonna talk to her. I shrug my shoulders and said what for? She hurried out the door shaking her head. Never to bother me again.

The fact that videos on narcissism get allot of views so quickly, it means that allot of people are going through this. The victims are as many as the perpetrators. That is not an encouraging estimate. Only someone that has been victimized by a narcissist can understand this topic.

This coming January will be 3 years since I've spoken to my sister. Her intense passive-aggressiveness, along with other mental and emotional issues, has completely burned me out over the years. I'm past caring what my family thinks of my going, basically, No Contact with her. The last time that I saw her, and I knew in my mind and heart at the time that it would be the last time that I would EVER see her again, I felt an unbelievable sense of relief. It was a surreal sense of relief...that it just "had" to be this way. Bliss. (A 3,000 mile distance between me and my family certainly made it easier. This is a case whereby "changing geographics" DOES work!!

@allenbanks3986

9 ай бұрын

Thanks for this. I just separated from my dad. Over the past two years it was revealed that he’s a huge narcissist and has always been one. I wrote him a letter telling him im renouncing our father-son relationship. Now my younger brother has come out just like him and today im letting him go as well. It’s the best thing I’ve ever done ✔️. No turning back ❤

@skepchica

9 ай бұрын

Its really the only thing you can do. I also had to move-- Im still struggling a bit trying to start over but the trade off of regaining my sanity is well worth it.

I said to them before I told them off about their abusive toxic behaviours, and let them know that I am gone, after they told me they were stringing me along and they also told me they were not allowed to see me any more, and the next day they continued on like they had not said anything at all. They kept the abuse and devaluation and did not even stop, I got to the point, that I cut them off completely for life. I no longer care about them at all any more. I think it is more important to heal and live the best life you can ! They really need to suffer knowing that no one wants them around any more. The smear campaign they tell others, is just sickening...

Nothing replace you until the next supply constant repeat 💯

Not all narcissists are spouses , mine has a title of mother , which she is far from , but witch fits her well . I don’t have a mommy problem, I have a narcissistic monster problem. Blessings to you all🙏🏼🕊️ Go no contact and don’t look back .

@landlice48

9 ай бұрын

I know this position all too well.

@therooster6104

9 ай бұрын

@@landlice48 🌹 we are many unfortunately, blessing’s to you 🙏🏼💖

My ex just misses the fun he had with my ignorance of his abuse. Nothing else and never will be anything else or another reason

Vindictive is an understatement

He doesn’t care if he lost me. He’s mentally, and financially destroyed me and he knew what he was doing. It fed his ego to destroy another human being. Now I’m here building back my life and identity after wasting 10 years

@thaistomp

9 ай бұрын

Damn 10 years with a narc? Ouch.

My narcissist ex went for option B: smear campaigns and child custody battles. She even sabotaged my daughter’s secondary school applications to try to force her into a state school near her. But I saw that coming and got a court order. Now she’s going to one of the best secondary schools in the country with a bursary, which is well-deserved because she worked so hard preparing for the exams that would change her life for the better.

The Narc wants you back in the movie that they are running in their head. Yeah, you messed up, and went off script last time. But, they have a new role for you, and are ready to get you back into that movie. It’s amazing how they will do this. Let them run their mouth. They’re going to do it anyway. Remain No Contact. Do not give in. Be happy in you’re new life without them. Don’t fall for it. They won’t change. They burned that bridge with you, and they would love to do it all over again. Be strong and keep them kicked to the curb.

I had a mother who I dated 14 years and her sociopath malignant narc daughter in my life. Living hell. My GF the mom would become her daughter when talking to her between wars. The daughter murdered her uncle as we looked on at hospice. He was fine. She poured oxys down his throat when he fell asleep. He never woke up. The police in Escambia county Florida didn’t even care. They conned men out of money I found out later. By now you may already think. This guy is crazy writing this. This was one day. I could write a trilogy novel over this. I almost was destroyed. I go to CODA meeting today. Saved my life

When you finally learn to leave them and all their wickedness behind and distance yoyrself more and more...you will be fine. What they "say" to others - doesn't matter. They are history. Anyone who will listen to them is not who you need to be around anyway. To even bother pointing the finger back at them is wasted time. If they are on your rear view keep going til you see a tiny dot and then go even further and be grateful you escaped that mess ! 😊

He did all of this 7:20 including triangulation, smear campaign, making himself being the victim and publicly telling people that I was an obsessed full blown BPD stalker 🙄🙄🙄. It’s really disgusting how low they’ll go. I knew he knew he had lost me but he was surely going to benefit/extract as much supply from his surrounding while it was happening (me walking). Now he’s miserable because it all failed…AND he still tried to hoover just to get another chance to try and devalue me again! 😂 They really are pathetic creatures. Love your work Anoushka. Thank you.

I been feeding this beast for almost three years and I'm getting sick of the games. It's hard caring about someone who is so difficult.

@ericjackson-nq4hp

10 ай бұрын

So long as your previously horrible and abusive remarks remain posted in the community - I am all over you Archimedes. No games, the work here is legit and you are troubling. Mind you, I don't give a rat's arse about you.

@JoeHill-yy9fw

10 ай бұрын

RADICAL ACCEPTANCE... understandably difficult

My ex fiancé and i broke up October 2020.. he actually broke up with me. He decided that, because I just asked him about an ex girlfriend that come and go to his house whenever she wants to, whether he is there or not. She has access to his house in Texas... this June 2023, after father’s day i reached out through email greeted him and he was touched I remember him and he unblocked me on messenger then we started talking again until we got back. Long distance relationship. This September 16 our last chat, then he went silent treatment, ignored my message and blocked me on messenger again. I truly believe he has narcissistic personality disorder coz of love bombing and blaming me for the break up when he was the one discarded me easily. Now im moving forward again. Will not look back and will never give a chance.. i wish him well.

Excellent video. You are telling the truth about these creatures. They are diabolical and and they are lost. Stay away Heal God bless.

#2 is exactly what my narcissist did… worried that my choosing to no longer associate with “her” would cause everyone to quietly ask, what did she do to him to make him shut her out of his life? So she put on a huge #2 campaign of lies to make me look awful… only a very small few believed her, but in the longer run, others clued them in. BTW it was the best decision to just walk away from that relationship…

I have not talked to my narcissistic mother in over 2 years. Lots of stress and crazy things ive hurdled over. Now she needs supply and is callling all of my wives relatives and she doesnt even talk to them on a regular basis. She also stooped so low as to have my grandma (her mom) hand deliver a letter to my unanswered door on easter sunday, in a box with childrens gifts to try and coax them into how awful my wife and i are. Its insane. Im staying strong and will never give in. Ive pushed past hell. Now my mold is the mold i would like to achieve. Peace and love. ✌️

@harpsailorharp6716gg

10 ай бұрын

stay strong x x I too am ignoring my narc elderly father after he has tried to con money out of me . But hiw do you cope with the guilt of not being around to help a elderly person? I hate my father but he struggles health wise and financially he is very poor .so I worry daily about him but he is poison??

I helped him bake every Christmas and made huge cookie trays for him to give his friends so he could look good. I got no credit for anything. This Christmas he is on his own.

Wow. The sheer number of people affected by this… This horrible stuff happening to so many men and women, makes me think that is a silent struggle for thousands. I am free because i realised what was happening, studied, read articles and watched videos for months, years. She moved abroad and after almost 8 years of abuse I am doing the right thing, gray rocking, silent, no contact. Worst times are when she comes back to see her Family and still stalks me at my house, watching My family. I devaluate that but already told her the next Time, I’ll call the police. But I’m being successful to the point that I know that she finally knows i know. I’m on to her and she knows it. She knows it wont be never again the same. I’m no longer here for her. I am no longer available to be drained out of my life. Because that’s what they are: real live vampires. They only want us for “food”. We are mere containers for “their” supply.

Hello team. I don't miss this people I am so happy man enjoying my life 🎉😊

Yes my ex was trying to get me back into their harem so called friends and I forgot I hadn’t blocked her on TikTok she is blocked now …she has never tried to connect after she def got the point. When I say I’m done I’m done !! Pisces ♓️ when we done we are done! Gone with the wind, swam up stream and not looking to return to that pond.

I got divorced in Oct of 21 and I’m still going through drama with That Ex Wife and her toxic drama. One thing I have to say is KARMA. Yes it hits hard and you just can sit back and watch. They will create their own destruction. She’s done all the tricks in the book and I stay away as much as possible. I knew I wasn’t going back and now I’m just trying to help my kids realize they have to be aware of what isn’t right. I hope they don’t have emotional trauma when they get older.

@viewerwatching5712

9 ай бұрын

God bless you sir and keep you, don't look back. I'm going through the same after a 20 year relationship and marriage. I went complete no contact 2 months ago after our divorce and I'm healing with the help of God!

@klmitch26

9 ай бұрын

I filed for divorce after 19 years of marriage…and I’m still going through too…I pray daily..he has already done the smear campaign

@viewerwatching5712

9 ай бұрын

@@klmitch26 Keep seeking God, see these agents of Satan saw our light and our gift even when we didn't know it.

@FadeToBlackLLC

9 ай бұрын

@@viewerwatching5712 good for you

@FadeToBlackLLC

9 ай бұрын

@@klmitch26 she's been doing that to me any chance she gets. She cheated and then blamed me and still tries to make me out to be the bad person. Karma has bitten her so many times in the last two years, as they say just sit back and watch.

She'll live her life no differently than she did before meeting and discarding me. There will be no healing, introspection, or healing for her. I wish her well *Tee off*

I honestly don’t think I’ll ever be the same. I’ll be the best version of myself in my work and now I’m back living the do nothing but work & workout lifestyle, but I don’t see myself ever being able to give of myself completely ever again. I’ll always treat people well, but I now understand why many people tap out on the “Note Book” version of love. The combination of alcoholism, interactions with meds, & Cluster B personality traits is excruciatingly painful to watch & experience with someone you love…

i still love him...even though he broke me to pieces. every day is a battle in my head

@emmarae4322

10 ай бұрын

Trauma bonded.

@Colors5873

9 ай бұрын

You do not love HIM, you love the fantasy… you have a hard time with cognitive dissonance

@thaistomp

9 ай бұрын

@@Colors5873 She most likely does really love him. Most females love evil men.

I wonder what it is about me, that attracts a narc. I was married 35 years to what I found out is called a "covert". I didn't see any real problems at all with her or our marriage. When she sued me for divorce, I didn't even know that woman in court. The stories she told were unknown to me. My female lawyer said, "You see that Christian woman you love so much lying under oath?" I said, yes. She said, "That is the REAL woman you married! Wow, that hurt. I never got over her so I am studying this Narcissist stuff. I notice women coaches absolutely love to talk about this subject and sell books and private calls and stuff.

@chicagogal

9 ай бұрын

The fake 'Christian' narc's are by far, the worst. They have head knowledge of the Bible and know how to talk the talk, but they certainly don't walk the walk. They hide their true colors behind the banner of Christianity.

I went no contact with my baby daddy. The lack of empathy and not a single care does he give to the child and he accused me of blackmailing him to taking his responsibility. That's what made me go no contact. Like how dare you? Good riddance

From relationship it becomes a situationships

They feel nothing. He may try to punish me.

So flipping true! My recent ex is highly narcissistic but idk if he has NPD or not bc I'm not a professional and good luck getting most narcs to go into therapy to be diagnosed for one, for two I finally realized I needed to cut off all contact with him and block him on everything. It's quite interesting bc literally I keep running into him but in ways that he can't talk to me like ending up behind him in traffic or seeing him pull out of the gas station as I'm pulling up lol it's like the Universe is protecting me. Thank you Universe. He can't really smear campaign me bc well I mean he can surely try but I'm on too many media platforms and speak my truth so and everyone in my world already knows me all too well. All he can do now is watch me from a distance and envy me but you know I have empathy and compassion for him bc I know he suffers deeply suffers, I care very much about him but it is what it is.

This experience makes you different person .. I’m no longer the kind nice person I used to be hechanged that for me & he never gets away doing that … I’m a different woman now and I find it hard to attach the real me to other men .. I think I self sabotage myself with every man I meet…It’s a pity but I will work through it 😊

He told me that I should get checked for personality disorder such as bipolar disorder. I knew about projection but this piece became very clear by your video! Thank you 🙏

@marciasimpson8852

9 ай бұрын

Yes!!! Said my behavior is peculiar and I should check myself into the psych ward🙄

@thetraumainformedpt

9 ай бұрын

@@marciasimpson8852 wooow! Thank you for sharing! Again this is just their reflection on their own thoughts. I hope you’re safe and doing better ♥️

@cheyennemcginniss6164

9 ай бұрын

Bipolar is not a personality disorder; it is a mood disorder.

@gilliangiles7589

9 ай бұрын

I was told the same thing. But GOD intervened. Dat narc didnt kno who he was messing with. ❤❤😅😅

@thetraumainformedpt

9 ай бұрын

@@gilliangiles7589 I see you sister!!!! Sending love ♥️♥️♥️

Narcissist absolutely covet everything. Losing is not an option for them.

My narcissist husband is trying all types of techniques but I refuse to let him get a rise out of me anymore. The latest thing was not mentioning me as his spouse in his mother's obituary, and now it's the total silent treatment. It's so bizarre when I walk near him, he just looks down at his phone and will not acknowledge the fact that I'm entering the room and looking right at him. My love for him turned to hatred many years ago so we only exist together for financial reasons. It all started with his compulsive gambling and then I was a total idiot and trusted him with $60k of my own money (acquired before marriage) in the stock market and he's lost just about all of it. Any ladies looking for a young 68 year old roommate in NJ?

im trying to get my son off of my ex. watching the destructive behavior she does to my son, like triagulating me and him and gatekeeping him from me and my whole side of the family, truely breaks my heart for my son. to me this behavior is worse then physical abuse it will be with him until he wakes up from the spell. its the hardest battle ive ever been through and im a recovering heroin addict who was homeless and suicidal. ill take all that over dealing w her she complicates every thing and makes it 10 times harder then it needs to be. i go to court again on the 10th all prayers are welcomed and needed. i truely without any foubt believe this is 100% a spiritual battle.

Anoushka: I've been watching your videos for months now, and they are SO good and SO informative. I was nearly destroyed, psychologically & emotionally, by a young woman who I initally thought was a narcissist. Turns out she has Borderline Personality Disorder ("BPD") instead. I wonder how many others have experienced the same thing. Have you ever considered starting a series devoted to BPD? There are some similarities and overlap, but there are also many distinct differences. And the damage they do is just as terrible.

@anoushkamarcin

10 ай бұрын

Thank you for your comment and for your lovely feedback 😊 that’s a very interesting point I will cover the topic of BPD … thank you for the suggestion 👍

@Ken5244

10 ай бұрын

You're welcome. I'll look forward to that. @@anoushkamarcin

@ct00001

10 ай бұрын

Yes ckuster b as a whole, there is a lot of overlap. People also oscillate around over time and under different circumstances. No one needs that level of crazy in their life.

@DarkMetaOFFICIAL

10 ай бұрын

i need to figure this out bro fr i am trapped rn. i cant pinpoint her. she always surprises me, its the wild card. love is there. it fucks w her. she cant deal with it. i think its a battle of evil and good inside her. she has many symptoms of mpd and npd and also bipolar and abuse survivor

@DarkMetaOFFICIAL

10 ай бұрын

glad u got thru it man

I’m sorry I keep commenting but my break up with a narc is fresh lol YESSSS to your comment of them projecting. My ex narc started to say I was delusional and I had paranoia illness lol bc of the horrible things he has done and that I have pointed out to him. He repeatedly passed the book of accountability and always blamed me of his actions.

@ericjackson-nq4hp

10 ай бұрын

You need NOT apologise - we thrive here. You escaped a train wreck, we get it. Keep writing, reaching-out or whatever you feel you must do. Even scream if you must. Trust me, we get it. You're OK. So no more apologies. You're safe.

@mc7530

10 ай бұрын

@@ericjackson-nq4hp ericjackson thank you so much for the support!!! Moving on is tough bc it’s lots of confusion and just human tendencies and human emotions passing through during the healing process. But for the most part, I have a good grip now. Although was not easy!

@ericjackson-nq4hp

10 ай бұрын

I am glad you're here @@mc7530 Narcs can be almost devastating -- it is an experience which ushers in some pretty fundamental questions. So long as you hold it together I do not care if you have to scream in the street at the top of your lungs. I am certain you are worth a great deal. Thanks for sharing. I had a rough start too. I will see you around. Cheers.

The best explanation that I have heard. Thank you so much ! After 6 years with a sibling like that.

She does not miss me , she told me that it's not my time to come back to the marriage, she enjoys her peace and quiet but pressure me for finance, and is only nice to me when she need something, 😢

@michaelmich00

10 ай бұрын

Do not give her money nor attention

I surely have the worst narc ever…even the water coming from the tap at the wrong temperature was my fault,if ir rained it was my fault…he is the most vile person in devil form..I envy the person that’s never met him..yes getting out is the best move…but with out somewhere to go..or help it’s not that simple ,or if u have pets etc..thses vile men need to be taken n dumbed on a island together.

@michelebazinet9003

9 ай бұрын

Certainly hope you DO PROTECT YOUR PETS!!

My X left me for a rebound guy after a few years together. She will never find another best supply like me. My X down graded and I upgraded. Doing well and recovering from my X trama bond. Live life like it's your last day.

They move on to next one!

Spot on.

I noticed that narcissistic people are the most dangerous when they know they have lost you. Will step up behaviors that hurt you. Also as they age and are losing their narcissistic supply they panic and try to reestablish relationships with people from their past. Very sneaky. In this case you MUST not allow them back into your life if possible. 🤪🤪🤪

Spot on, great advice.

This is exactly my experience , thank u for this , you are so spot on.

100% agree, currently going through seperation from my wife who is a narcissists. I'm about to file divorce, it took me 9 years, pray for me.

You Dodged a Serious Bullet 💥

I told once my narcissist said " You know, I never lose anybody". So, I think he hoovers his supplies time by time, over and over again.

It’s gonna take awhile for them to realise you’re not there 😂I mean maybe even years , meanwhile you’ve healed and realised , done your studying and moved on.

2 weeks no contact as I found out my ex did something awful to my daughter and she kept his dirty secret for 8 years. He suddenly contacted me tonight to ask how our daughter is (we had one child together) he was angry and horrible asked how she was I said took a long time and hung up. But I'm wondering if police finally spoke to him today but don't think they can arrest him til my daughter does statement but she's more worried about him than herself. I have been so traumatized by him and knowing what he done to my daughter too at age of 4 has destroyed me. Not just a narcissist but pure evil. And yes new supply thinks I'm crazy.

GREAT PEP-TALK! THANKS 😊

@anoushkamarcin

10 ай бұрын

You are so welcome! 😊

Wow, perfect timing, just went thru this, thank you for explaining, I get it now, not looking back! 🎉