Feeling feminie shouldnt require you to mimic another ethnicity. I appreciate her honesty with the lady in the purple but saying black people cant grow hair or grow fast is ignorant. When i was in the army damn near everyone was telling me my hair grew fast because i went to the unit with a bob and months later i was able to put it in a bun

@kawaiikenyal1633

4 ай бұрын

I feel like a lot of black women neglect their hair and not take care of it properly. I have also been guilty of this. People put on a weave and wig and go. So people don’t have good scalp health or know how to keep length retention. All the women in my family have long hair. Long thick hair. We need to be honest we do a lot to our hair. We do different styles and sometimes heath isn’t at the forefront. I feel like we have been conditioned to think oh our hair in a negative light . Everyone hair grows at similar rate it’s a fact no one’s hair grows faster than another. Length retention should be a focus if you want to see a difference. Shrinkage is a good sign of healthy hair. But people will believe what they want but that lady is projecting her insecurities and self hate. A lot of black Women don’t feel the same as her. I love to see the coils and curls shorts or long. People really need to check themselves and their own bias. I don’t understand why they post these videos about their self hate. They really need to seek love and talk to a therapist this is truly sad. It hurts to see women feel like this

@spiritualinsiderr

Ай бұрын

@@slicksweet1that is untrue & false. Hair grows no matter what you do unless u have a medical condition or a deficiency... the “issue” is decades of misinformation about our hair which has lead to terrible length retention. We aren’t educated on how to properly take care of our hair types. Not every hair type can handle constant heat, perms, tension from ponytails etc. We need to baby our hair but the way we treat our hair causes our hair to break.. it’s not a problem with hair growth, it’s retention. Please listen to a licensed cosmetologist & educate yourself.

Normalize expressing your thoughts with a therapist instead of social media.

@ExoticalsUnited

4 ай бұрын

Exactly ! If I felt this way about myself I wouldn’t be on social media at all honestly

@AprilHarmony9

4 ай бұрын

Social media has been the best thing and the worse thing for this community. You're looking for help and sympathy in the wrong place (the internet).

@smalltv459

4 ай бұрын

literally...(#covering face)

@7mariposas775

4 ай бұрын

I come from a different perspective in a different frame of mine with this due to the fact that I don’t really think that they’re seeking therapy through the Internet. Anybody with the brain and that has been on the Internet within the last 20 years knows that this is definitely not a place where you should sensitivity down And expect that it’s going to be respected by the general public. I feel like they’re just giving space to speak to problems that most unambiguous black women do feel now I don’t like, however, the fact that they absolutely hate light skin or mixed women because it doesn’t make sense from that aspect. The ones who done all the torturing to them Are black men, but they absolutely refuse to name them as the culprit. I feel like the confessions are therapeutic to them, and for other women that look like them and it’s good for them to get it out about themselves, but I feel like they need to do that and then move on and express themselves in a way that make them appealing to different man because of a certain race of men absolutely hate you and tell you every day, my thing is, why won’t they just move on and there are plenty of other men that will date them if they look feminine and stop being angry all the time

@aishashiddat1038

4 ай бұрын

It’s sad and their trauma is valid, but it is not ok to bully and generalize MLS ppl. No one can help what color they are. We need healing in the black community.

That woman talking about demelanization for her son actually is so scary

"I feel more feminine with hair that mimics another race of people" WHAT?! 🤔🤔

@AnAdorableWombat1

4 ай бұрын

She’s being honest for once! This is how 99.1 percent of these women feel

@ExoticalsUnited

4 ай бұрын

i mean at least shes admitting what a lot of them are actually thinking. so now that thats off the table, i want them to stop calling our hair cursed or making fun of exoticals with type 4 hair.

@ProudtobeLightskin

4 ай бұрын

@@hitsugayatoshiro3331Right. Most of them lie and act like they have self love but their actions show the opposite. At least these ones are telling the truth openly.

@AmaLoveGoddessTV

4 ай бұрын

I honestly like type 4 hair but only if it’s shoulder length or longer

@theyellowleaflassie5757

2 ай бұрын

​@@ExoticalsUnitedThis is sooo true. I only wear my 4c hair and ive had women(black) tell me quite plainly that it simply isnt attractive. Side note, the mayowa girl is a classic example of dying your skin blue then being offended by all the extra looks you get. Girl, what is that hairstyle?!!!

Natural looking hair textures are sooooo much more flattering on unambiguous black women. It would be SUCH a relief and such a revolution for them/us to start embracing the enhanced versions of BLACK beauty. I feel like 4c hair is only “ugly” when it’s struggling to blend with an opposite hair texture. More Gemini when it’s longer, but not ugly when it’s short.

@thegiftofgabby5581

4 ай бұрын

*more feminine

@ExoticalsUnited

4 ай бұрын

Omg that’s such a good point . The “ugly” part isn’t the texture itself, it’s the mismatch with the bone straight textures or trying to get it to do something that it doesn’t do naturally. I’ve noticed that the straighter styles only seem to look good on 4c relaxed hair (which is still technically not “natural” I guess.) but you’re right. Their complaints usually come from trying to get their hair to do something that it doesn’t do on its own . for example with the shrinkage, isn’t shrinkage HEALTHY and something that it’s SUPPOSED to do? Like bounce back ? but I’ve noticed a lot of them don’t want to wear shrunken styles (I wouldn’t either tbh so not judging).

@thegiftofgabby5581

4 ай бұрын

I absolutely agree. Everyone would win easier if they compete in their own lane. I genuinely find type 4 hair to be gorgeous and flattering on both UABW and ABW. But yes, shrinkage sucks! We should get weave extension textures to match and lengthen our own hair, not to make it struggle to fit something it’s not. I have 4c hair, and I’ve been saying this since middle school. Usually those kinds wigs are more expensive and harder to maintain than straight ones though, but the payoff may be worth it. When I see an UABW wearing fake type 1/2 hair, I don’t think “she looks feminine” I think “that’s obviously fake” and I wish they realized that.

@sophiam9886

4 ай бұрын

Lol!😅 I was so confused about the "Gemeni" part when I first read your comment. Then I read the responses and I saw that you noted it was a typo.😄

@AmaLoveGoddessTV

4 ай бұрын

@@thegiftofgabby5581I like 3c type wigs either black or colored on me. I feel like it makes me stand out from the typical uabw wearing a straight or body wavy wig.

That woman with the biracial son is mortifying to hear

@lester2588

4 ай бұрын

Yes!!! 😢 I felt very uncomfortable and sad for her.

As a multiracial bw those videos of uabw talking about how they hate their skin or they hate their hair or calling themselves ugly really make me sad.

@ExoticalsUnited

4 ай бұрын

I know smh

@emancipation1

4 ай бұрын

yet they want to spread their unambiguous features they don't like to ambiguous bp or non-black people. why pass your features to others when they don't like it??!!! why should my phenotype be reduced? my uniqueness is washed away mating with them.

@Hintedbymarina

4 ай бұрын

same

@sashaedwards3745

4 ай бұрын

Same, I feel so sad hearing this!

@deliritori

4 ай бұрын

It is sad. But, here in the US racism and colorism is profitable under capitalist patriarchy. As a light-skined abiguous BW, I can't begin to imagine being told from early childhood that your appearance, something you really don't have any control over as a child, is completely unacceptable. The only message you hear is that you are flat out ugly, even from your own family, the ones who should be supporting you. How can that not do some major damage to your sense of self. Frankly, I think it takes a special kind of strength to overcome a lifetime of social abuse like that. I'm not saying it is a good thing to pedalstalize "proximity to whitness" but I can understand how it can become a coping mechanism in this patriarchal, white supremacist society.

Honestly, they need therapy. I think it’s a problem that the lady in the bob wig generalizing black women as a whole just because she has a major inferiority complex. I also noticed the ones who feel this way try to self project their issues onto the one’s who are content with their hair texture and features. It’s really sad.

@Demthorshie

4 ай бұрын

The lady with the bob bothered me too. There's a lot of UABW who can grow their hair out long, I wasn't here for the generalizations.

@urstrulii5932

4 ай бұрын

Yeah. But I didn't take it personal because I just didn't

@MissTeaq

4 ай бұрын

I didn’t take any of their thoughts personally either, however that line of thinking has been so embedded into the psyche of black people worldwide because anti-blackness and the delusion of white supremacy is a global phenomenon that didn’t arise with the imposition of American chattel slavery. They don’t have to impose any of their deviant biases against the “other” when they embed it into society so thoroughly that we do it to each other more severely than they could ever hope to. This is why self love and acceptance is a revolutionary act in and of itself. So even though it isn’t something I take personally, I know it still has an effect on how people treat and relate to the group that I exist within which is Black American Women.

@BreaneNic

4 ай бұрын

@@Mimi-ht6xr this response from you was a reach. It did not bother me in the way you think. It is sad and speaks to a bigger issue especially with black women who think like her. Her self esteem is low and she is misinformed about hair care since she is generalizing most black women.

@yellaninpoppin9919

4 ай бұрын

I don't think she generalized anything. She said nothing but the truth and has billions in sales to back her claims. Most UADSW are ashamed of their hair. Period. Most are not content with their texture of features and she has the right to voice it. I think BW just get embarrassed and want to keep things quiet. I just saw a campaign to pull down an ad for a straightener because the BW in the ad didn't brush out her 4C hair, first. I've also pushed kinky straight, and curly texture wigs as my family works in Black hair and the sales vs straight or Brazilian curly didn't sell.

Omg that lady with the biracial son saying she has to thin his lips and bleach his skin because he's getting darker and she doesn't like that is scary 😢 Jesus take the wheel.

@yellaninpoppin9919

4 ай бұрын

And sadly he's going to chase non-MLS Women and BW he finds beautiful because his mother doesn't want him to bring home anyone that will make his offspring look too "Black".

I MISS my Mother, she's the same complexion as these UBW. And she had SELF ESTEEM and was fun to be around, old school PROUD of who she was!!! She's been gone for 20 years and l still have some of her friends reaching out me via Social media. I know she would shake her head at these women.....

@Jane_Toussaint23

4 ай бұрын

True, I know a lot of dark-skinned uabw who are confident and have high self-esteem and don't even mention colorism. RIP to your mom, btw.

These women need therapy and to get rid of social media. Maybe touch some grass too. My heart hurts watching this💗 And to the lady saying black hair doesn’t grow, I wish I could tell her that hair loss and hair supplements is a market for everyone. Men, women, moms, people over 40 etc

@7mariposas775

4 ай бұрын

I really hate to say this, but even if they did get the therapy that they needed and got rid of social media, it’s not going to change a thing. Because as heterosexual women, you want a man and women in general typically want the men of their own ethnicity, and when they’re telling you, it’s ugly and putting them out to the world, as well as other people not liking it because it’s so drastically different from what they’re used to, you’re not going to feel pretty. And that’s why it all comes back to this, not being a thing about an ambiguous black woman, disliking, light skin, or mixed women because of women doing harm to them but Because of their likeness to perceived less blackness, which is praised by black men. This is a male centered issue that they refuse to call out. They continue to hate ambiguous, black women and mixed women because of men but they will not say that.

@rykie8081

4 ай бұрын

Yes, they do.

The woman saying natural hair doesn’t grow long is lying (and probably lazy). I know of several people who have natural hair down their backs myself included

@tishinahoneyblue5355

4 ай бұрын

It’s definitely a sign of love and care for yourself. In Africa women have so much hair and most black women I know have long, thick, and heathy hair because they are healthy. The truth is a lot of these women don’t like their own faces and are seeking male attention from men who watch poem and don’t even really like women😂

@ericatheempress6698

4 ай бұрын

Same it's so ignorant my God father is black and his locs are almost to his knees

@harumiayame8586

4 ай бұрын

I am concerned she would be the type to hate on those with her preferred hair type.

@LaFlor718

4 ай бұрын

I don’t have her texture or exact racial makeup, so I won’t use myself as a full on example, but I’ve known many many fully black, dark skinned black woman with gorgeous hair. Long, thick, shiny type 4 hair. Honestly atp I don’t know any ubw with short, dry or unhealthy hair. The one thing I’ve noticed with them and myself, eating tons of dark leafy greens and actually taking the appropriate supplements on top of drinking water. The American diet isn’t healthy for any race or group of people and I’ve noticed personally when I eat my cultural foods and food from other cultures, my hair always looks it’s best. I think falling in love with your own texture and eating aside variety of healthy foods will help this poor woman out.

@ras3024

4 ай бұрын

Curly hair takes a while to look as long as straight hair, but that's because it's growing in a different shape, not because it doesn't grow as fast. She was talking nonsense

I could never understand what it’s like being an uabw. I imagine that it’s extremely difficult to navigate this world. But I also believe that they are the solution to their own problem. They need to course correct when it comes to their image and representation. Asians did this and now everybody is finding them attractive and wanting to look closer to them in appearance. They used social media to market themselves as desirable and it worked. Uabw and uabm need to fix their image. Instead of talking about how they hate their skin and hair, how they think being with “Brad” is the solution, and blaming ABW and MLSW, they need to promote themselves better online or people will continue to treat them the way they treat themselves.

@skankhunt-zo4fm

4 ай бұрын

👏 now that video of our “hair” not growing is not good representation. They’re making it no easier

@Mstorrance

4 ай бұрын

So true. This was what I always thought. Instead of complaining rebrand your image. Make yourself appealing.

@cynt1908

4 ай бұрын

This is why channels like Chrissy’s exist. That is her goal - to improve the image of dsbw. I just wish it didn’t have an antagonistic tone sometimes . As an African woman, it saddens me that there is so much division in the AA and mixed community of women.

@BeautyRevolutionist

4 ай бұрын

@@cynt1908I actually used to watch her, but they way she talked about and blamed lighter skinned women for everything really put me off. Her tone and messaging were damaging and caused further divisions amongst us. EU is very inclusive and a safe space for women to discuss these things without putting other women down. You know who, could have benefited UABW without crapping on other women in the process.

As a black woman … watching this hurts. I wish the system was different. However, that doesn’t mean you can torture me as a light skin black girl with 4b/4c hair either. Maybe the systemic hate for Afro black hair will come to an end, but when I had my 4c/4b hair out at its TWA stage, I felt beautiful. I just had to have laser focus on how I felt about myself and if guys didn’t want me (and they didn’t) I was okay with that. Still am btw, now I have long curly clip ins. Lol life’s about doing the best you can with what you have. ❤

@ExoticalsUnited

4 ай бұрын

Exactly ! If you don’t have one attribute use another ! Or be like me and switch up your look 😂 as long as none of us are making fun of others or calling people ugly I don’t see a problem.

@AleciaAntoinette

4 ай бұрын

Facts!

This really hurt my heart to watch. Just as someone who loves BW so much, I hated seeing the level of self hate in this video. None of these women are ugly or undesirable, but they honestly believe these things about themselves. It doesn't help that there's a lot of self-hating men and women in the BC that say this sort of stuff and believe it. This is just heartbreaking.

"I hate colorism as a black woman" **reinforces every chance you get**

@ExoticalsUnited

4 ай бұрын

This !

@rykie8081

4 ай бұрын

​@@rediettadesse2828she's also ignoring self care with them dusty dreads. Looking like Cynthia from rug rats.

@Mieka-nh1uc

4 ай бұрын

@@rediettadesse2828no, I disagree, she’s very anti-lightskin/exoticals, someone can say a exotically is beautiful and all of a sudden they are anti-dark skin/colorist. Make it make sense

@michellemarshall4710

4 ай бұрын

@@Mieka-nh1uc RIGHT! It’s like them gaslighting us when we want to lose weight. We’re fatphobic.

@michellemarshall4710

4 ай бұрын

@@Mieka-nh1uc EXACTLY

I have a better understanding of why UABW gaslight MLS/MGM women. Their self-hate is sad to watch. I am not going to allow their self-hate to affect me. It is best to place yourself in spaces where your valued and respected.

1:17 idk about that. My hair gets pretty long. My mom and gmom and aunts too. Low manipulation and a regular hair routine and baby your hair will grow … unless you have a disorder or disease that disrupts your hair growth cycle.

@sojuprincess

4 ай бұрын

So true . Stick with a style and leave it alone. Your hair will grow even faster.

This is depressing. They are their own worst enemy, all through school I saw groups of unambiguous black girls with tons of girlfriends, making awesome grades and having unity. I longed for what they had and here they are obsessed over thinking the grass is greener on the other side and convinced light skinned women are out to get them 🤦🏽‍♀️ it’s really not that hard to be feminine, speak gently and dress lady like. That really has a huge effect on how you are perceived….even with type 4 hair.

@heyyyyyy2546

4 ай бұрын

Even when you are soft and feminine and naturally friendly they perceive it as being fake. Growing up I had to hear how girls who were kind, soft spoken, or outgoing and friendly were fake which confused me because how can you say you wanna make friends or be seen and when someone literally SEES you and wants to be friends you perceive it as being fake or soft because you don’t wanna physically fight with them.

I’m a black woman with 4C/4b hair..it’s about top shoulder length.. very THICK and beautiful. I love my hair BUT.. I do think I look better with long hair period! My braids are usually to my butt and my ponytails are the extra long Janet Jackson ponytails. Due to my body shape.. very very curvy.. longer hair looks great on me. I don’t hate my hair at all and if I do wear weave it matches my hair texture. I do what makes me feel good and look good! So I completely understand the First Lady’s talking point. Other women who say you don’t need weave or makeup are just too insecure to experience with all the enhancements and try to make it seem like women who get them hate themselves… don’t work on me.

@DOLCEKAYEXOTICAL

4 ай бұрын

Yes preferring long hair regardless of texture is normal for most women

This literally proves why we are targeted. It makes me sad and scared at the same time. At least they were honest enough to admit it

@HappyGoLucky874

4 ай бұрын

I feel sad too and I feel sorry that they feel this way I understand now why they treat us so badly but I am also a little more afraid knowing how deep the jealousy is.

@ExoticalsUnited

4 ай бұрын

Exactly. This video was made after only going down the rabbit hole for about two hours. I was able to find countless instances of internalized self hatred, I can only imagine what else is out here on tik tok and KZread

@oncode7735

4 ай бұрын

Right. They’re lying if they say that anger isn’t being placed on women they wish they could look like

I would cry but they said, LIGHT SKIN TEARS don’t matter! 😂

@ExoticalsUnited

4 ай бұрын

😂😂😂😂

@michellemarshall4710

4 ай бұрын

😭

@Mstorrance

4 ай бұрын

😂😂

@Luxelife07

4 ай бұрын

🤣

@munirayussuf8558

2 ай бұрын

😂😂😭😭

How they could broadcast their insecurities to the world on a daily while claiming they are the most desired phenotype/most imitated and try to bash us mixed race exotical women is confusing. How are they not ashamed or embarrassed is beyond me. They need serious help. It’s pathetic

@sophiam9886

4 ай бұрын

Exactly!

@renatapereiradeoliveira3035

23 күн бұрын

💯

The way the lady with the biracial son talked honestly makes me sick to my stomach. And the funny thing is, if patriarchy didn't exist, none of this would even be an issue.

@ExoticalsUnited

4 ай бұрын

So true! Also I feel sad for him because he can’t give consent . He’s gonna be forced to be white passing because that’s what his mom wants . I’m also curious as to what would happen to him if he gets older and a bit darker

@Kaydee-haiku

4 ай бұрын

how can she look at her young child and think it’s ok to pass her insecurities to him? what if he loves himself smh

@sydneykeith6059

4 ай бұрын

@@ExoticalsUnited Yes, she is passing all that self hatred unto him . I fear for that child.

@lreneewell9154

4 ай бұрын

Yea. I hope that child will eventually grow to like his natural features regardless of if he gets darker or not

@Mstorrance

4 ай бұрын

​@@user-wq7hd4id7mit will be so fun to witness cause they love saying that biracials with black moms are better

That lady talking about black hair doesn’t grow is uneducated & has internalized all the negative things anyone has ever said to her as a young dark skinned girl. I’m sending her love, I could’ve been her if I didn’t make an effort to unlearn.

This is sad and exhausting at the same time. It really hurts my heart☹There's so much healing to be done here. Congratulations on 17K subscribers, doll! 💞

if you feel prettier wearing weave , do it , but don’t stereotype a whole race just because yo hair don’t grow, or you think u look ugly with natural hair. bffr. she is projecting her unsecurities onto an ENTIRE race 💀💀

This is so sad. A lot of black women can be jealous of other races of women, but imagine living your whole life having people tell you directly or indirectly that you're not good enough. I don't know how I'll feel I were treated like that.

As a BM, I feel like these stories speak volume because it is a reality that if you live/grow in an environment with people that don't look like you, don't have your hair texture, or feel like you are less worthy because of your features, you should expect to feel internalized self-hate. I'm still going through this phase atm.

KZread is boring when you don’t post🥲

@ExoticalsUnited

4 ай бұрын

Awwwww ❤️ well I’ve got plenty more videos coming 😈

@CaramelPoppin-zg8hr

4 ай бұрын

I think we are becoming spoiled 😂

@aeclotic

4 ай бұрын

@@CaramelPoppin-zg8hr we are😂😂

@LaFlor718

4 ай бұрын

We gotta start checking out these other exotical channels more because I am totally spoiled on the daily uploads and they do motivate me to clean my house lol.

@sillygoosearoundtown

4 ай бұрын

Right

The self hate in the black community, specifically in uabw is so sad. I’m lost for words.

@AnAdorableWombat1

4 ай бұрын

I feel zero sympathy for them anymore. Instead of going after those these created colorism, they bash us because we are light skinned, mixed, have keen features, 3c hair, etc

@CaramelPrincess1990

4 ай бұрын

@@krazyjnva2up2down55 funny? Grow up.

@yellaninpoppin9919

4 ай бұрын

When too many of them cry wolf who has any compassion left? They instead use anger towards us vs having honest conversations so we can understand and stand up for them. I don't GAF no more. @@CaramelPrincess1990

@CaramelPrincess1990

4 ай бұрын

@@c0deinebrxt first I’m hearing of this 🤔

Not even batman will beat this information out of me. People getting too comfortable on social media

0:58 She respectfully needs to SPEAK FOR HERSELF. My hair is at bra strap after a buzz cut 3 years ago, and with a better diet, it's growing even faster soooo like 💁‍♀️ Will continue watching now 🌸

@ExoticalsUnited

4 ай бұрын

Right, so many of them speak on the same things (in a negative way) to the point where they’re sending a collective message without even knowing it . We don’t want to be associated with these messages .

@yellaninpoppin9919

4 ай бұрын

That's precisely her point, though. She's admitting that it takes BW 3 years to go to brastrap length and 1 year for Non-Blacks. It's due to shrinkage and obviously curls vs straight hair. Mine is the same length 4A with a bit of 3C, natural for 11 years, just relaxed but again, I knew it would take me 7 yrs at least to get it where I wanted it at its natural state. I left it alone but also didn't care for it at all. It grew, but in a desert, lol.

I was wondering why monoracial black women didn't embrace that song by Mary J. Blige called Good Morning, Gorgeous. Is this why? Now I see why I get trolled and gas-lit when I've made compliments of dark skin and 4C hair in the past. Smh...sad. Edit: This is giving me flashbacks. On this rare occasion, I hung out with my twin aunts (monoracial black women). They are medium brown skinned and look like Diana Ross...NO KIDDING! But, they came and got me and we went straight to the beauty shop. They started trying on some wigs and said something to me about my hair and I told them how BEAUTIFUL I thought they were and it convinced them to not even buy wigs and we left! They really are super pretty...lol.

@TOMFOOLERY334

4 ай бұрын

That's really sweet we need to practice that more instead of picking each others features apart. I wasn't insecure about my nose till someone pointed it out as If it's a bad thing to have a broad nose

Airing their deepest insecurities for the world to scrutinize in the name of "building a community" but now it's their brand and they have to maintain it or else they lose their subscribers.

This is sad, but I’ll get on social media and within two seconds see uabw dissing us. They really make it hard. This is eye-opening, and I must commend the woman talking about wigs and not feeling feminine because at least she was honest about how she feels and considering 90% of black women wear wigs I’m sure this is how they feel too, but they don’t want to admit it. I also find it odd they see mls women as otherworldly creatures or something. It’s almost like they don’t even see us as an extension of them because we are all black. Maybe I need to stop looking at them like that, as an extension of me… It explains many of my encounters with them. It’s weird how you just never know how someone perceives you, how they wish they were you, and you’re just living life minding your business probably failing classes, can’t pay your bills, can barely afford gas… I mean idk… As long as you’re alive, you’re life will never be perfect, and that goes for everybody.

@ChampayneCole

4 ай бұрын

It’s silly to assume this one self loathing woman is the reflection of an entire group when ALL women wear hair enhancements/wigs or use treatments for their desired look. Most women who identify as having 4B/C consistently let it be known their hair takes more effort/product to manage. It’s not rooted in self hate for every BW.

@Exoticlightskinn

4 ай бұрын

@@ChampayneColeAh ok you’re triggered because you wear wigs too. A hit dog will hollar. If you wear wigs over 90% of the time then I’m definitely talking about you and agree with this woman when it comes to bw hating their hair. She wasn’t lying and the first step is admitting. Like she said, black women lie a lot and i definitely agree with that. You’re too silly to be honest with yourself.

@Exoticlightskinn

4 ай бұрын

@@ChampayneColeahh ok, you’re triggered because i see you wear wigs. Well, a hit dog will holler, but my stance doesn’t change. I like how you said it’s silly for me to generalize, but in the next sentence that’s exactly what you did, and frankly, i don’t know women who wear wigs, etc. and I know women with the hair type you mentioned. Some of us like our hair. Some women wear wigs for fun, or to avoid dying their hair or to change style, but if you wear wigs 70%+ of the time then yes, you do hate your own hair, not yourself like you said, but your hair type. I definitely believe that without her having to say it. That, my hair is difficult, is an excuse y’all all seem to use. I mean, but hey, if you love your wigs so much then just wear them I don’t have an issue, but it lets me know you dislike your hair, and again, my opinion will never change because we flaunt what we like. I genuinely used to be confused on why black women constantly wore wigs, and why y’all spend so much money on hair that doesn’t grow from your scalp, but she put it into perspective for me. It never crossed my mind y’all disliked your hair type.

@yellaninpoppin9919

4 ай бұрын

Bullcrap. 90% of it is. The end. @@ChampayneCole

@yellaninpoppin9919

4 ай бұрын

Stays in a wig. Probably glues it down and neverrrrr wears her hair out unless it's in weaved up braids. They love telling fibs. They just don't like their dirty drawls aired out for the world to see. You did not generalize at all. My family owns a bunch of Black hair stores and those silky textures sell out like hot cakes meanwhile I've tried pushing kinky straights and afro textured hair in the stores and it's crickets! @@Exoticlightskinn

That was hard to listen to. My sister is dark skinned and I’ve heard her say similar things. We favor but she’s always admired my features more than her own. I had no idea it went this deep and it’s very sad 😢

This is so heartbreaking! I think the lady at the beginning of the video has a beautiful face smooth skin and thick full lips🌸 Unfortunately, she would never receive that coming from me.. One thing i noticed is that she mentioned what MEN think ... that is the root of the issue with a lot of black women... These freakin dudes.. Black hair does grow.. The American diet, too much manipulation, heat, chemicals and wigs! Black hair has a tight curl which makes it shrink... In the days when afros were popular, women had thick long full heads of hair, but because MEN no longer thinks thats cute, women don't want any parts of it!!

Now I know why they really hate me ,I embrace my naps and I’m light skinned 😂. I Love my natural hair , it takes discipline and dedication …but what doesn’t.

All women really need to figure out how to care for their hair HEALTH. Wash your hair, don’t put it off for 8 weeks cuz what the fuck. Learn how to cleanse, condition and nourish your hair and two simple hair styles. I think that should be the bare MINIMUM for hair health. If all women with textured hair could do this, they would be comfortable with seeing their natural selves. I’m not even saying don’t wear weave, wigs, braids but treat your natural hair with love and kindness. Treat it with kindness so that you have something on your scalp after the wigs, braids and ponytails. Also with Mayowa, she says that curly hair has never not been accepted. Like girl, were you not around in the 2000’s???? Everything was press hair and weaves! As a CHILD, i felt so isolated with my 3c hair. The media showed silky hair and all the black women around me had relaxers. Yes, my hair is accepted NOW, but curly hair was not in 20-25years ago 🙄 the curly hair community, WE pushed for our curly hair to be more accepted and normal.

One thing I’ve noticed but have been too scared to admit is a large portion the black American community has a “crabs in the bucket” mentality. Everyone is trying to get what they need but at the expense of others. Like there are some huge systemic issues that are wreaking havoc on black people that requires the community to band together and support each other to fix it. But there is so much infighting and animosity towards each other that nothing will ever be accomplished.

@oncode7735

4 ай бұрын

Sad reality

Wow just wow- As a mgm/lsbw this is getting to the point where that uadsbw have a deep rooted self hatred towards themselves and it’s going to take therapy for them to truly love themselves and their skin. It’s lowkey sad that uadsbw will wear our hair texture and will shame us for embracing our hair type whenever it’s 3a or 4c. MLS women will always embrace ourselves no matter what men or society say about our beauty. Idk if therapy will even heal the dissatisfaction of uadsbw looks and status in society😕🤦🏽‍♀️

@amri5096

4 ай бұрын

I feel like your comment is really dismissive of UABW experiences in terms of how white supremacy and proximity to whiteness influence our culture. Many of ABW make it seem like UABW's self- hatred and internalized anti-blackness come from nowhere. Let's just be honest about the fact that most ambigious, bi/multi-racial people (especially women) are preferred over UBW within the Black community and larger society as well. So, it makes sense that if you have the "preferred" aesthetic for a woman, you would naturally have a higher self-esteem. Ambiguous Black women are the standard of beauty in the Black community. Therefore, the environment is helping to build your self-esteem. If the tables were somehow turned and unambiguous Black women with Black features, tightly coiled/kinky hair and dark skin became the standard; ambiguous looking people would struggle with the same insecurities and self-esteem issues.

This is so sad that society made these ladies feel that they can’t be beautiful. There are many beautiful dark skinned black women Gabriel Union and Tika Sumpter are some examples…these ladies need to work on their femininity and do some inner healing

EU, you know they will come for you after posting this. It reveals their hypocrisy and deep self-loathing. This was a great analysis btw and you didn't even have to talk.

My heart hurts for the lady @1:55 who genuinely thinks black hair doesn't grow. Dark skinned west Africans grow thick, long hair. This lady doesn't know how to take care of natural hair. The lady talking about demelaninzation process scares me. She has an impressionable biracial son. She will teach the son to hate himself too.

My heart truly breaks for these women. It has to be hell to live inside your own mind when you have socially imposed self-hate. Despite any past treatment (disrespect I no longer allow), these are still MY sisters (as a 81% black woman) and it sucks to see them struggling so bad because as a woman feeling beautiful is HUGE and to feel like you can never really achieve that is devastating. Relentless self love is the only real solution. It may take a lot of inner work and time but it is worth it. I hope these women learn to embrace themselves.

@ExoticalsUnited

4 ай бұрын

Yea I agree . Self love is the only solution. Not projecting onto others . Notice how a lot of these women began hating themselves because other unambiguous people in their own families would say certain things to them.

This saddens me. I didn’t know it was this bad. What is really upsetting is that Black women actually believe that straighter hair looks better on Afrocentric features. It is a delusional mindset, and Black women have been gaslit into believing that concept. Afro hair looks best on Afrocentric features. I did my dissertation on African American Body Image in 2007. Believe it or not the research showed at that time that Black women have the higher self-esteem in regard to body image in comparison to their White counterparts. The research did indicate that body size is not problematic with us; however, it did show that when taking facial features into account, we fall short in self-esteem. I can’t help but wonder if more access to the general public through social media is causing this. I don’t remember self-hate being so problematic growing up in the 70s and 80s. I hope these women stop airing their dirty laundry and seek therapy. It isn’t a good look.

@ExoticalsUnited

4 ай бұрын

Right, it’s causing their collective image to go down. And you’re right- even if I’m buying extensions my first thought is NEVER bone straight hair, my first thought is curly hair that matches my texture

@LynetteDenise

4 ай бұрын

@@ExoticalsUnited, definitely not good for image!

Black hair does grow. Some of these women just don’t have the love for themselves and patience to care for it. Besides it being costly to maintain. But it definitely does grow. Idk why they think that of themselves.

@ExoticalsUnited

4 ай бұрын

Exactly . And I refuse to let the self hatred from the unambiguous community travel over here . We’re not having it .

@ItzSaya

4 ай бұрын

Yeah I’m still watching the video and the more I listen to these women I’m just like ugh just stop it already. Get yourself together and stop feeling sorry for yourself. I see so many beautiful black woman and I’m like that’s goals. They just need therapy.

I’ve seen way too many people with long 4C textured hair. Yes, it takes like two years to go from bald to beyond shoulder/bra strap but put the work in.

YESS- the thumbnail and the other girl thats ALWAYS TALKING ABT 'pretty privilege' and how she doesnt have it- honestly make me cringe. its a VICTIM complex. Not everyone has to bow to you or find you attractive. I dont get asked out most of the times, i know im attractive and it DOES NOT bother me!

@MissTeaq

4 ай бұрын

I’m middle aged now so being past my prime means I have no expectation of attention (and tbh I wasn’t too fond of it in my prime). One of my good male friends explained that he thought I didn’t get approached because I looked like I could see through any game they were trying to run… Sadly most men only associate with women they HAVE to, family or professional. If it doesn’t involve sexual gratification, many men have no interest or desire in connecting with women. That understanding helped me get over so many insecurities. Although I wasn’t being rejected in the traditional sense, it was still Gods protection as they say.

I haven't even watched the whole video. Got to about minute two. I am literally SOBBING.

I get that many women feel like they just prefer how straight hair looks. But I need us to understand preferences don’t just fall out of the sky. Could it be that black peoples entire history in this country has had them exist as the embodiment of everything bad and wrong. Our ancestors were kidnapped and forced to build a country whose benefit to them is negligent at best. We have been constantly told that every unique thing about us that makes us US is bad, negative and unattractive. Yet we still believe our desire for any hair texture other than our own is a preference. And the reason it’s not just your business is because we live in a society. And everyone’s thoughts, ideas and behaviors have an effect on everyone else. This is why it’s important to think about as our beloved ancestor Malcolm X asked us “Who was it that taught you to hate your hair texture, features and skin tone?”.

@ExoticalsUnited

4 ай бұрын

right. i honestly dont care what others do with their hair as long as they dont make fun of mixed black womens hair, and as long as they admit to themselves that our hair is beautiful in the mixed community too.

@yellaninpoppin9919

4 ай бұрын

They weren't kidnapped. They were sold and bought by UADSM African Chiefs who also hated our skin and hair even back then which is why slavery expanded out of Africa in the first place. BM never loved Black Women period and sold them. When you don't want a child, you put it in foster care or adoption. Let's not blame everything on White Men and slavery when Africa is where it began and still is an issue.

@sophiam9886

4 ай бұрын

​@@yellaninpoppin9919 Period!👏

Notifications squad!!

The comment about growth in relation to femininity is a bit silly to me. You dont need extremely long hair to look soft or feminine. I sound a little heartless but, thats a you problem.

@ExoticalsUnited

2 ай бұрын

Yeah that’s exactly what I said . Halle berry amber rose and Rihanna are feminine with short hair so why is it that suddenly DSBW with 4c hair aren’t ?

I am obsessed with this channel all the way from South Africa🇿🇦🇿🇦🇿🇦

This is so hurtful for as a young black girl for watch, but I the same time I don’t blame them for how they feel it’s just been internalized over time

I wish UADSBW saw themselves the way I see them 💔They'd never think or say these things about themselves. I wish they'd decenter men, heal, and come back to being my sisters again. I don't hate them. I hate their attitudes, how they see about themselves, and how they treat everyone else. Great video EU!! 💕💕

0:59 i wish women w type 4 hair could collectively unlearn this bc it’s SO harmful snd untrue. i can only now accept having short hair bc i actually know it has the potential to grow now because i focused on how i can improve instead of ruminating on evidence that my hair type doesn’t grow long when that just isn’t true. it took me so many years to unlearn this and i understand how ppl get to this point but it generally comes from years of improper haircare and not focusing on the most important things: -avoiding heat -consistenly moisturizing -keeping hair detangled -and likely stretched (to prevent tangling) -sealing ends with oil -scalp massages -nourishing diet (protein, zinc, iron, biotin, etc) -excercise (for blood flow) -being extremely gentle and patient with our hair -knowing how to to recognize split ends -drenching hair in water before styling -using a clarifying shampoo -drying with t shirts and microfiber towels -using products that are good at defining hair -not relying on post shower products for moisture AND SO MUCH MORE. women with type 4 hair just need to collectively increase our hair care knowlege and implement it to the next generation and i know girls with type 4 hair will be walking around w long healthy hair and knowing how to take care of it from birth.

i respect theblackshea. at least she is blunt about how she feels. not trying to blame others about her reality. if more dsbw did this, maybe we can get somewhere. all of these social media jargons colorism/texurism/features/preference is exhausting. just accept your look and be like women from the 80s/90s who admitted to me "chile! I can't stand getting up in the morning doing my hair"!!! at least women from the past were honest!!😌

@ExoticalsUnited

4 ай бұрын

Right ! Honestly I respect women who admit to themselves what their problems are or what they think is “prettier” than their phenotype. I don’t have an issue with that. I only have a problem when someone wears loose textured wigs then calls women ugly or mediocre who were born with loose textured hair .

@emancipation1

4 ай бұрын

@@user-wq7hd4id7m they always have to have the first right of approval about everything. they have to have the last word all the time. they almost prove black men are right about them.

Black womens hair in the “4” category grows at the same rate but it splits & breaks at the ends quicker/easier. Yes it’s harder to keep it from happening but black people’s hair absolutely does grow. “growth oil” is a marketing gimmick name. It’s one of many products that can aid in keeping the hair healthy and strong enough to not break at their typical “terminal length”

While I feel for them I just have to ask, now that this nuance has been provided what happens next? We can’t possibly fix this situation for them. A woman admitted to forcing her mixed child to be white passing. That’s the community I’m fighting for. The mixed and ambiguous children who are having this self hate pushed on to them. We can’t force black people to love themselves at the end of the day, no matter how heartbreaking all of this is because there are so many mixed children growing up right now who will also have issues and they’ll need a community to turn to that understands them. This is the self hate I refuse to allow my child to go through. Question is, when will the black community put their foot down and make the same decision?

@ExoticalsUnited

4 ай бұрын

right. hat happens next over here is that we separate ourselves from this mentality and create our own community that doesn't associate with this mindset. thats why i ban anyone from the channel who talks crap about any type of hair style

This is so sad to witness… all the black women around me have long 4c hair. My mother, my friends, even myself. I don’t live in the US and it’s clear when I go on holidays that the American diet on average is not good for black womens hair skin etc, not even just black women, but all people. It’s very unsettling to see the woman in the purple shirt simply chalk it up to, black women not having long hair on average, especially when to be honest, her wig doesn’t match her natural phenotype

Im grabbing the popcorn. Exoticals United started a bomb with this one! 🍿🤪

@ExoticalsUnited

4 ай бұрын

😂😂😂😂😂

That was incredibly hard to watch and listen to. Yes I've heard alot on KZread but the fact that they are saying this on Tik Tok (a platform that my generation and even the next generation tends to be on) is further perpetuating the deep rooted hated that many UADSW have. Yes, I understand a few things-- especially how some BM make them feel b/c some of those brainless morons was "comfortable" enough to say certain things to make about women darker than I am, like I was supposed to be ok w/ it. No, alot WW (alot but not all) don't care what BM say about any BW b/c they feel a sense of security w/ what BM say but I don't (when my hair is long and straight, I look slightly more ambiguous and I'm aware but certain things are said to me too and then the guys wonder why I put distance between us), I can't w/ BMs who talk like that b/c if we get married and have children....if he's dark, more than likely are children will be dark and to see the type of self-loathing the young generation has about themselves, I can't deal with a husband who could possibly make my future dark skin daughter feel like she is less than do to how he feels about UADSW. Non-MGM/MLS women don't look at things like that but those of us with this phenotype who have been to the BWE spaces and hear them project their anger onto women like me, it's enough to make me cautious about who I partner up with.

This is so sad [I have a few points of disagreement with some of their points, but just listening to their experiences and what’s in their heart, it’s sad). the so-called colorism activists should’ve been spending more time actually healing this rather than striking against lighter skinned people.

@ExoticalsUnited

4 ай бұрын

Exactly! Clearly there’s a lot of inner healing that needs to be done instead of accusing US of bullying them and being colorist. Or calling us animal names and expecting us not to respond .

This honestly was heartbreaking. There were so many attractive dsbw in these clips, but if you don’t believe it, no one can change how you feel. I have dealt with some issues from other women for having a loose curl pattern and I knew it was deep, but I had no idea just how deep. But the women looking to bleach her son and herself is insane! That scared me tbh

It's not internalized but externalized.

The woman at around 1:00 talking bad about black hair, triggered meee. I was at the Dollar General one day last year, minding my own business, when this darker skinned older lady (around 60 ish), looked me dead in my face and told me she loved my hair (4a shoulder length) which was fine. I told her thank you, then I told her I loved her braids she had put in also. When I tell you she damn near screamed... "Naw, my hair aint pretty like yours so I never wear mine out. " now mind you, we are the ONLY black people in this busy store and I bet they heard her from all the way in the back. The people stopped what they were doing to stare at us and I was sad for this lady but also angry. I told her to NEVER talk down about her own hair and that I would give her my number and we could discuss what she could do better to grow her hair, since I have type 4 hair myself. It hurt me to me core to hear her talk like that!

That lady in the purple shirt is beautiful! And I bet she would look even better with her natural hair. I’m happy they’re starting to call out other dark skin people! They were always the ones picking on each other!

3:35 Mufasa’s hair (main) was fabulous af.

2:10 when they had me with this stupid mindset of " Black hair doesn't grow"... I was upset because at the the time I thought I had 4C hair (it was just very Dry 4B). So, one day I stopped crying and bitching and moaning and I told myself that I am not cursed. My heritage doesn't exclude me from having long hair. Actually, it more than includes me. I got fed up and instead of reciting what they told me " Black hair will never ever grow." " Sorry babe, you just gotta deal with your1 inch afro lol." I told myself that " I have the long hair genes. It might be true for them but I AM THE EXCEPTION TO THE RULE." I only said it to make myself feel better because I always wanted a ponytail that moved every time I turned my head. That's all wanted. Now? My hair is midback length😙✌ Don't let them spread their cancerous mindset to you. They are only there with their hair because of cancerous self talk. " This nappy thing." Can be a " Cute poofy cloud." " This short mess." Can be a " This growing plant. You are gonna be long one day baddie." Guys it is LITTERALLY about perspective. It breaks my heart hearing this but, at the end of the day, it's a self created hell.

@hiniewinie

2 ай бұрын

Also, I've had women ask me " Girl who told you you have "long hair genes"? The doctor?LMAOOO" Yes. I am the doctor that told myself that I have the long hair genes. It was me. I was the one with the audacity.

There are so many gorgeous dark skin black women and i have pintrest image boards with darksin models, decentering men needs to be their priorty. I know what it's like to hate your features you start looking up to people who look nothing like you. I became envies and defeated because i didn't look like the women on tv and in magazines.😅

chile!!!! when i tell you i neva clicked so fast!!😩

I wish they would stop minimizing themselves. It’s heart wrenching. 🥺 Society’s beauty standards should NEVER be their go to for self validation.

This is so sad. Self hate is literally killing our soul and essence we need more self love therapy is needed

Queen of receipts!! 👏👏👏👏

I have noticed that everyone else (other racial groups) ADMIRES black women’s hair, except black women themselves. It’s truly heartbreaking ❤️‍🩹

It KILLS me to know that these black women hate themselves so much 😢😢

@briolivia

4 ай бұрын

Pro- blackness is a facade

@rykie8081

4 ай бұрын

It's black men's fault

@mariamay5763

4 ай бұрын

At least we know why they attack us soo much now.

@freeworld2275

Ай бұрын

@@rykie8081 Clown!

Can you make a part 2, if possible?

This was so heartbreaking to see and hear. So much pain and resentment in these women’s eyes. I wish they would get help in self acceptance in spite of what people tell them instead of taking out on other women. That doesn’t change anything.

The lady in the lavender shirt needs to visit some of my family members who have type 4c, very coarse hair. My cousin and my grandma who is 86 years old has hair that grows like a weed.

Gluing hair on your forehead and relaxers is why your 4C hair ain't growing.

@sophiam9886

4 ай бұрын

From what I've heard and seen, many of them were doing much better with their hair when they were relaxing it. I remember the 90's and bl¤ck women had longer hair with all of their edges intact, too. Seems like this new wig era is what destroyed their hair. They no longer wear their own hair out, so I don't think they're taking care of it the way they used to. Plus, that glue is ripping out their edges. Just my perspective.

@rykie8081

4 ай бұрын

@@sophiam9886 Those relaxers contain chemicals that increase cancer by 40%. Lye is dangerous. It damages hair over time. That's why I went natural.

The majority of the time, these people just don't want to do ANYTHING to their hair, so you can't get mad that it keeps breaking off if you are LAZY! 🤦‍♀️🤦‍♀️... No one wakes up and walk out the door. We all do something to our hair, jeesh!

@AprilHarmony9

4 ай бұрын

That's exactly how I feel too. I know UABW who feel that nothing at all can be done to 4b/4c natural hair and/or they just don't know how to take care of it. The fact that so many BW don't know what to do with their hair outside of a wig or hair extensions or even a relaxer is saying alot.

@AleciaAntoinette

4 ай бұрын

@@AprilHarmony9My mom was like this so I know exactly what you mean

@CaramelPoppin-zg8hr

4 ай бұрын

@@AprilHarmony9 It says they don't want to take any time to learn their hair. Most of those people probably have short hair because it keeps breaking off from all the constant manipulation. You have to care for your hair, not get mad at it... KZread has way too many videos on how they can care for their hair. If it bothers them that bad just cut it off or flat iron it to keep it short and stop giving up the stink eye when we are at Walmart trying to buy some hair conditioner 😒.

@bamafencer12

4 ай бұрын

Let's be real though, taking care of type 4 hair is a lot harder than other hair types. We can't just roll out of bed like white girls. It takes a lot of time to do it. I'm neurodivergent and a gym rat so it's much harder and I feel cucked some days by just having type 4 hair. I can't just go for a swim, then wash my hair, and eat dinner at home. No it's a whole 2+ hour process with my hair. So yeah it does suck.

I love who i am , not because im LS , because i chose to not worry about what other people think while taking care of my self herbally 😎

May you please make a video about light skin exoticals with insecurities picking on brown skin exoticals please? It has happened to me way too often. Lighter MLS make comments and say things to me unprovoked. I’m MGM, dark caramel brown skin, almond eyes, tiny nose, little pouty lips, 3c hair, and I have a humble hourglass shape. I’m very feminine in all of my ways, and other MLS women who are lighter than me love to pick on my feminine ways as if it’s something to laugh at. They accuse me of changing my voice, wearing weave, and being fake when I eat salads. Some have commented on my “extended” vocabulary. It’s really unfortunate, because we can all be super cool if they weren’t so insecure. It’s almost as if My presence bothers them. What is that all about??

@kalynpurple9239

4 ай бұрын

lighter mls often belittle and bully darker mls. As a person of mixed race who is tan, I have personally experienced this cruelty. It is devastating to be targeted by lighter mls who share the same racial background, but feel insecure and try to make me feel inferior. The emotional wounds caused by colorism can be lasting, and we must work together to heal these divisions.

@romcomgirly

4 ай бұрын

@@kalynpurple9239 I’m so sorry that you experience this as well. We could really be a blossoming mixed community but there are things we need to fix. We share similarities, we are all so beautiful (major head turners!), but I do feel the hatred from lighter MLS women when darker MLS women are sharing the same spotlight or getting a bit more attention. We could truly link up and be great smh. One day.

@ExoticalsUnited

4 ай бұрын

yes, please send your storytime into exoticalsunited@gmail.com and i will tell it.

@ExoticalsUnited

4 ай бұрын

@@kalynpurple9239 yup, and i check more white passing MLS people in my family just like how i will check someone darker than me. please email your story to exoticalsunited@gmail.com

@rachellebrown333

4 ай бұрын

@romcomgirly I think it links back to what @ExoticalsUnited touched on in another video...some mix girls are used to being the STANDARD LOOK so when you come along more browner (despite being MultiGenMix) they assume you are just another hater that's darker than them or believe you are BLACK GIRL ACTING MIXED. There is a stigma that you can't be black & introverted/ blackish & ultra feminine anybody brown or darker is supposed to be 100% extrovert all day every day or hypersexual (Jezebel on roids doing the most for male attention 😡😡😡). I have seen this rivalry more with HISPANICS incl those of carribean heritage but in reverse... you get picked on for being more sporty & less sexy, or even when you reveal you are vegetarian all of a sudden they question your roots ..WHAT YOU MEAN YOU DON'T EAT POLLO 🐔?? then it's a long list of criticism of how you won't get married if you can't cook roast 🐷 or 🐄 etc I'm glad more darker tone MGM women 🚺 are speaking their truth now but some females love to cling to stereotypes.....I hope you share your story so we can learn more of your culture & unlearn the bias we have about MIXED PEOPLE & "what they should look like or how they must behave" THIS IS WHY I LOVE DOJA CAT!

What was wild for me was finding out the woman having the self hate campaign is a life coach !! 🥴😫 She should surely take a break from social media and do some healing. She projected every negative thought she’s ever heard shared about BW due to her having internalized it.

This painful to watch. N my hair grow. Ion know what she talm bout 😭🤣

Everyone has insecurities but it cannot be healthy at all to wallow in self-pity and self hatred. I taught my daughters to love who loves them and its like those BWE channels put too much energy into people who do not like them. If someone doesn't find me attractive, I dont need to do a deep dive to understand why. I don't operate from a scarcity mindset.

0:12 a watched a few other videos from this woman and she’s literally so sweet like I hope she learns how to love herself eventually 💗💗

Maybe its b/c i don't have (and never will have) Tiktok, but im just surprised at how many videos there are like this. 😮

yikes. this is crazy to listen to. and some of these situations i don’t wanna sound mean but may be an attractiveness issue too.

Exocials...... LOVE YOURSELVES PLEASE!!!! ❤

Omg. The black woman with the mixed son that is about to change her face and skin color is sad.

I do think slowly dark skinned beautiful women are being represented in the commerical industry on the tv for beauty adverts, fashion also different sizes. I am seeing it! It’s beyond important! Unfortunately it’s happening this way, by celebrity White men marrying dark skinned women is also breaking racist mind sets - which is annoying that it’s happened like that, but good ! As it’s challenging bad mindsets

Ngl, part of me shaved my hair off the first time was because I got tired of ppl questioning why my texture, if it was actually real, and why was it looser than theirs. It made me feel bad but now, my hair has grown back thee exact same way and this time I take true care of it and love every bit of it. I hope these ladies and any ladies watching know their hair is beautiful regardless.

Whew! Exoticals, we must unite.

People need to stop seeking validation from other people. Love yourself first; show up for yourself first; accept yourself first, pat yourself on the back before anyone else does or before you expect anyone else to. These 'woe is me' content they keep creating is not going to help. Also, race and skin colour seems to be a big issue in America.

18:53 this girl is gorgeous.

Black women go through too much

I love my natural hair and I think highly of natural hairstyles...."A lion could never be a cat"...Why don't ppl accept how they are?...Sure, some things you can fix but you cannot interfere with biology...Fix your mind