I’ve been to a lot of Therapy with Counselors and spent time, money...my effort and it was not as helpful as one week practicing the Daily Practice! Thank you Anna!

@user-bs4nr8jk9n

Ай бұрын

I feel the same way.

@Muck-qy2oo

Ай бұрын

True. Spirituality helped me way more than anything else.

@anna_ulrike

Ай бұрын

I agree, the daily practice , the writing method. I am so grateful ❤

@GrammaMellow1

29 күн бұрын

its Biblical...the woman with the issue of blood...I ain't preaching or giving a sermon...just referencing. The BIBLE. KJV Disregulation...Blood...Genetics? why..what where when then...what..that...translation...bring it forward to what we know now about anatomy and physiology and the endocrine system...and the chemistry that surges..and hormone and storms..can't string two sentences together...sucks...like being lost in your own mind...JOURNAL..to go back and look is affirming...spiritual and mental trauma results in invisible illness..until that recessive gene switch gets flipped...good or bad..stuff happens...we all have facts of life but everyone wants to gaslight us...and discard...and more wackadoodles then the one before. DSM ICD whatever number we are on now...

I think a big problem is CPTSD is STILL not recognized in the DSM. So it’s every therapist doing their own thing. I’ve had this talk with my own therapist and he said most get very little training in trauma.

@r_and_a

2 ай бұрын

extra frustrating since it *is* in the icd which many insurance companies use for billing codes

@reneelibby4885

2 ай бұрын

This is so true

@CC-xn5xi

Ай бұрын

​@@r_and_aICD is what?

@misspatvandriverlady7555

Ай бұрын

Yep. I got an M.Ed. in counseling (theoretically to be a school counselor), and we barely touched on neurodivergence, trauma, abuse, OR addiction. Just all the different flavors of “anxiety” and “depression”, over and over again. Maybe a little mania and psychosis. As if this stuff is all mysteriously inside the person and not a reaction to the environment! 🤦‍♀️

@l.5832

Ай бұрын

Here in Canada doctors don't recognize PTSD or C-PTSD. I was diagnosed with anxiety and depression and I don't think that really fits.

NO, I did not have good results from therapists. So disappointing, it actually made things worse.

@reneelibby4885

2 ай бұрын

one person really made me a lot worse. they were hurtful and I've had other therapists so I know it's not me just reacting to feedback

@leopardchicken

2 ай бұрын

My last therapist assigned me a workbook that goes back over the abuse AGAIN. I know what the trauma is but how do I stop the loop of the unhelpful pattern? She was pushing CoDa as well which works for some but I don't agree with the principals of the organization.

@koelkastridder3388

2 ай бұрын

Same. Just hit me in my abandonment wounds again when they said I was too much of a complex case for them ..... Hope you find a different way to heal that suits you ❤

@PaperParade

2 ай бұрын

I’ve had good ones and bad ones (one that literally tried to convince me the leader of the cult I was in was a good man and it wasn’t a cult…lol!). What helped was managing my expectations of what they can do for me. They can’t heal me, but when I need to process something out loud with another person, they’re a good resource. Wishing you all the best in your recovery ❤️‍🩹

@stevensawyer5924

2 ай бұрын

I've been with this new therapist for a year in attempt to repair the damage from the previous therapist of two years for childhood cptsd that turned out to be a covert narcissist. Lost my life savings along with my ability to trust.

I spent thousands of dollars out of pocket on well over 10 different therapists over the years from 1980-2011. Not one of them understood C-PTSD or narcissism back in those days. I was spinning my wheels. I got more help from my 12 Step program and John Bradshaw books than all those high cost doctors and therapists. And also Pete Walker author of Complex PTSD: From Surviving To Thriving, has been a God send for survivors of C-PTSD. He has a web site too that is excellent. And now with YT and all the great Doctor channels it’s been a game changer. Thank you for shining the light in the darkness for us Anna. You have been very very helpful!

@jenniferodegard526

Ай бұрын

Pete Walker - yes! So validating, such practical help for managing "emotional flashbacks"

Therapy has been INCREDIBLY helpful for me. I have an amazing therapist who's very knowledgeable in CPTSD and uses a variety of different therapy approaches (EMDR, internal family systems, DBT, hypnotherapy and probably a few others I forgot) that she mixes up based on what I need in any particular moment.

@georockstar09

2 ай бұрын

Me too! IFS was mind-blowing for me. I was the one who initiated it on my own but my therapist guided me through it.

@rowanstarling3816

Ай бұрын

I've been in counseling, short-term 30-minute sessions since November. It has been helpful. This is the 7th time I've down therapy. She referred me to Trauma Therapy. I've met this lady once and I connected with her right away. I believe it's all about timing. I was not ready for the past 24 years to heal, but now I am. I do a lot of healing on myself which helps me re-regulate when my mind spins out... I'm just not going to let dysregulation control me. I'm in control, and if I get dysregulated, I work really hard and use all my tools. I refuse to live in fear of my fears. I deserve happiness, joy, love, peace and harmony.

@debbiemckenna5

Ай бұрын

@@georockstar09 What is IFS?

@NN-re7cy

Ай бұрын

​@@debbiemckenna5 Internal Family Systems

@georockstar09

Ай бұрын

@@debbiemckenna5 parts therapy, Internal Family Systems. You treat your self as having multiple sub-personalities, and when we are traumatized, a lot of these subpersonalities get locked away by other parts, so this form of therapy works directly on the parts of you that were traumatized and stuck in the past.

That description of the shunned baby sounds very much how my mother described me. Growing up, she completely ignored me and sometimes pretended I didn't exist. I imagine when I was a baby she also ignored me. I remember her telling me that she'd just put me in the crib and she could just walk away, me never demanding anything of her. I wonder how long it took her to 'train' me to do that? Not normal for a baby and as far back as I can remember I've been terrified of abandonment.

@Bluzephere

Ай бұрын

Hi, I recently contacted my 83 year old aunt who is the only person still living who was around at the time I was a baby, and what she told me left me in tears, I knew I was abused as a child and a teenager but for some silly reason, I believed that my mother must have loved me as a baby, but no she didn't, she left me in a cot and only picked me up when I needed to be changed or fed and even then, not that often, my aunt told me I always had a dirty nappy and I smelled bad. I can really relate to your abandonment issues.

@Hawaiiansky11

Ай бұрын

My malignant narcissist mother said some 'off' things after I had my first child. She started with, "It's not a doll, is it?" Number one, SHE is not an IT. Number two, I never expected a baby to be like a doll. (but apparently, malnarcmom did??) . She also got really upset with me because I held my daughter too much, stating that when malnarcmom babysat, she wasn't going to hold the baby all day! Then, I watched an old 8mm home video (no sound) where my sister (4 years older) was standing near a bassinet with me in it, a chubby little 6-8 month old (I'm guessing) baby. I was crying. My sister stood there, uncomfortable, seeming unsure what to do. Nobody comforted me; the video just went on and on, my sister looking down, then up at the camera, looking uncertain while the baby just lied there wailing. The scene reminds me of the movie "Ferris Bueller's Day Off" where they go to the museum and Cam stands staring at the painting A Day in the Park, hyper-focused on a small child who appears to be crying.

As a teenager, some of the therapy "treatment" I received was extremely traumatic. There was a complete lack of understanding of the narcissistic abuse I had endured growing up or what was causing my symptoms. Sometimes therapy could feel validating, but often it felt like a replica of the abuse from my home, where I was seen as "bad". Ironically, I sometimes check in with a therapist I have seen on and off for over thirty years. Just last year she diagnosed me with cptsd and she is finally starting to understand. I am in my fifties now. It is hard for me to understand how the psychiatric community could be so oblivious for so many years. Medication never helped me. Having a proper diagnosis is helping me immensely. I am starting to have more compassion for myself and take back my narrative. Thank you for addressing this issue.

@ChefCT63

Ай бұрын

I'm glad it's working for you. This gives me hope. Blessings to you.

@CrappyChildhoodFairy

Ай бұрын

Glad you are here. Thank you for watching and taking the time to comment! Nika@TeamFairy

I'm 70 and have been on a journey which gave up on the medical system a long time ago. Autism is a major part of the self discovery. CPTSD was earlier. Non competitive movement is what makes a difference. Walking, cycling, dancing definitely. Diet too makes a difference. Anything competitive is damaging. Walking by the sea, feet in the water, is probably the best thing ever.

@endTHEhegemony_Today

Ай бұрын

Audhd, here and Competition averse is the story of my life. I was always treated like it was a flaw in me or meant I didn't try. It makes me feel so vindicated that you experience this too. I will never guilt myself or let anyone guilt me over not taking interest in competition ever again. 🖤💜💙💚💙💜🖤 Thanks for your insight!! I hope you keep getting lots of opportunities to walk along the beach!! 🖤💜💙💚💙💜🖤 Much Love!

@joannahediger7820

Ай бұрын

I agree that the competitive obsession in modern life is insanely damaging! Even for those not challenged by CPTSD-consider the fact that there is one winner and everyone else is considered a loser. It’s madness. Non competitive movement heals. But even when dancing purely for pleasure and self expression so many people say they struggle with self-consciousness and self criticism from being criticized and judged growing up. That is a form of abuse deeply rooted in our culture. Good luck to everyone struggling to be human! ❤

@Hawaiiansky11

Ай бұрын

Your comment reminds that while I love swimming, sometimes it feels good just to 'wade' in the water up to my ankles and allow it to lap at me for several minutes.

@elizabethweaver5029

Ай бұрын

Amen❤

I use medication in combination with EMDR. Two months of EMDR and my fiance broke up with me because the post session was paralyzing and i was so often dissociated. It's been about 4 months of EMDR with no changes in medication and my emotional regulation is getting back on track, my frequency of mental breakdowns has reduced and my instincts of self preservation are kicking back in. Before the trauma reprocessing, i lived everyday like it was my last bc i thought i was one breakdown away from ending everything. I feel a purpose for myself (still a work in progress) and i take little steps to improve my self care like physical exercise and healthy eating. I find expressing myself creatively has greatly improved my sense of purpose.

@Shadow_Lurker968

2 ай бұрын

placebo effect

@sjwho

2 ай бұрын

​@@Shadow_Lurker968 if it works, it works

@thetallesttallesttree

Ай бұрын

@@Shadow_Lurker968 I don't want to knock down OP, it's not my place as an outsider to say I know their experience better than they do, esp. based off of one paragraph. They are doing better now and that's what's important. Likely they are better off without a fiancé who can't stand by them through the rough patches. But from my own experience, I understand why this might look like placebo effect, or sunk cost fallacy. Sometimes things get better because the therapy is a requirement for accessing other resources, like housing or time off work. Or just telling people that they are in therapy means they are treated with more compassion and support. How much of the benefit is from the actual therapy, and how much of it is because the client has reached a point on their own where they are able and ready to heal?

@yolyonyoutube5008

Ай бұрын

I was extremely cautioned against EMDR. I’m so sorry that you weren’t fully made aware of those side effects or the intensity of which they could get to.

@nycjanedoe

Ай бұрын

I'm glad you are feeling more stable and supported now. I had been practicing multiple intensive forms of daily and spontaneous meditation for _16 years_ when I did a year of EMDR. I had commited to working the ACoA 12 steps and really doing the homework. Meaning: I had slowly cultivated the capacity to sit with the most excrutiatingly painful and terrifying experiences - in my body and in my mind - without fear, shame, or judgement and with surrender, love, and respect BEFORE I tried to process the complex traumas from throughout my life, beginning in infancy. It is my sense that the time in therapy was relatively smooth and ultimately productive because of the work I did before it. From observation: fear, shame, and judgement compound experiences of the effects of trauma. If we aren't yet able, or don't feel safe to observe and accept these human experiences - if we fear them - we will feel less safe processing them. And all of that is natural. It's human and it's universal. My path to recovery has been a road through several levels of hell: I'm still on it. And on the other side of each level of hell I've chosen to walk through there has been greater understanding, more self-love and respect, and healthier, clearer, more resolute boundaries. You are finding your own way. And that is all there is to do. Let no one tell you who you are or what is right for you. Only you can know that. Edit: I want to add that recovery from complex trauma has been a return to self, a return to love: a coming HOME. Being in my body - _STAYING_ rooted in it and _feeling_ through it - is still complicated. It has helped to find things that feel like unstructured play. Easy, delightful things. Or even just the suggestion of them. Things that enliven my curiosity again - or for the first time! 🙃 Things that feel playful. It's been so important in bringing balance to the rigid, the routine, the clinical stuff. And especially to the processing. And done safely, in a space that feels safe to have them, they are still helping me to come home.

My daughter graduates next month with a BA in psychology. She already regrets her major. Her minor is in criminal justice so she plans on getting a masters degree with an emphasis in criminal law enforcement. She doesn't agree with the way psychology has trended in just the last 4 years as she earned her degree. She says the professors are now the crazy ones😮 especially when it comes to child psychology 😢 Be careful who you chose to guide your treatment or the treatment of your babies

@Zoleankico4267

2 ай бұрын

I’m sorry she invested so much time and money in it. But SOOOO GRATEFUL, that she sees the bs they are pushing as therapy!! I hope she finds her place in her minor, but unfortunately that area is quite corrupted too. Sad world we’re in these days. I wish her and you all the best. 💖

@PaperParade

2 ай бұрын

What trends specifically? I’m very curious to hear more

@gretchenpressman4811

2 ай бұрын

Thank you for sharing her insights and experiences.

@gretchenpressman4811

2 ай бұрын

I'm so grateful you shared her experience and insights.

@cillinodonnell8729

2 ай бұрын

Who decides who is crazy and who isn't?

I'm a counsellor in UK working from a Humanistic perspective. Thank for your wonderful videos! I help clients live with their cPTSD symptoms - I can't 'cure' them, but I can help them show more self-compassion, work round triggering situations and cooperatively problem-solve managing cPTSD symptoms. Most of my trauma clients have had a lot of CBT/DBT, a lot of advice, many have done the rounds of psychiatric meds. When they come to me they are disillusioned - one told me they'd 'failed' at therapy, but there is invariably something they can do which improves their quality of life and it's invariably the client that comes up with that 'something' not some all-knowing therapist.

@user-jh8sm2ph5e

2 ай бұрын

If possible, would you be able to leave some contact details on here - however vague - I am from the UK. Cptsd therapists/specialists seem to be thin on the ground here.

@karenamiger8027

2 ай бұрын

😂 really

@Jo-whoknowshowmany

Ай бұрын

I'm in the UK too, Midlands, but can get to the NW.

I was shunned and scapegoated and ostracized by my mother but in my early 20s I didn't have the financial means or courage to move away from home. The stress got too much and I was sent to a psychiatrist who did CBT. He was talking way over me and even now, 40 years later, I don't know if he was diagnosing ME or telling me what he thought was wrong with my mother. In my traumatized state I could not understand the scientific psycho-babble. He also had no comprehension of narcissism. He told me at one point just to laugh in the face of my mother. Anyone who has lived with a malignant abusive narc and is relying on that person for shelter (I was paying rent), knows it is not a good idea to laugh in their face. The abuse would increase. Even now when I go to the only counselling clinic I can afford, I find myself just getting more upset as I have to re-live and recall the trauma that is upsetting me.

@markmattingly2929

Ай бұрын

Instead of relive and recall restructure the sentence take out recall and relive and replace them with 2 positive words or and include I as much as you can let's try. ( I realize I may recall uncomfortable situations but I will not relive them I will place a stronger focus on reducing my emotions that say yes when I say no PTSD is a very stubborn thing to duel with unless your ready to place yourself in the moment and use your awareness while the mirror is looking back at ya!! Hope this will assist the fight your fighting remember your the champ!!!just you!!

@Hawaiiansky11

Ай бұрын

So sorry that the therapist basically re-traumatized you. I was recently challenged by someone (a response to advice I had provided) that you need to "stand up to" your abuser. I did do that, and she amped it up so that I was literally tortured, threatened, attempted mrdrd, and ended up having a psychotic break, more than once. At age 15. So no, you don't "stand up" to a narcissist. You get as far away from them as possible, and gain your strength before even imagining coming anywhere near them again.

Im learning ptsd isn't what i have but complex trauma. For most abused child victims

@Hawaiiansky11

Ай бұрын

I've learned that the difference between suffering a single trauma v. a lifetime of it, is whether you have someone 'safe' you can turn to afterwards. When you have no one, or worse, have a dysfunctional family who piles on the abuse by proxy, you have no chance of being healthy while in that environment.

@jenniferodegard526

Ай бұрын

Thats Cptsd

I am a therapist with a lot of my own trauma. I have also experienced some talk therapy making it worse. My suggestion to anyone listening is this: do not give your power away to anyone, not even your therapist. You are allowed to question them- if they don’t have room for that in session, then they are not safe to work with. I personally have chosen to never work with a therapist who has not done their own therapeutic work and always ask if they are open to me challenging them. That said I totally understand peoples hesitation. I had to seek a lot of my healing outside of traditional therapy. I am even getting trained in unconventional methods like family constellations. Like Anna, I had to try a lot different things to cobble together what works for me ❤

@joannahediger7820

Ай бұрын

The last psychiatrist I tried told me that ‘many people who have been neglected in childhood become histrionic’. In a follow up session, I told him calmly and clearly that I found that term to be very negative and didn’t feel heard. He immediately got defensive and said he ‘needed to feel free to say what he thought without considering every word a thousand times’. Such a display of overreaction seemed to me a clear sign of a narcissistic injury. Not to mention the reality that a therapist should welcome that kind of clear and honest feedback from a client and should indeed consider what he says to a client. The man had been recommended, had a CV with impressive credentials and charged several hundred dollars per consultation. Honestly, I wonder that this kind of ongoing malpractice, which costs tens of thousands of dollars per client in addition to the harm they do, is allowed to continue! We should really all be part of a huge civil lawsuit holding the medical establishment accountable for negligence and harm! Good luck to everyone here! ❤

@Hawaiiansky11

Ай бұрын

I think that's so hard, especially if you are new to therapy, because speaking for myself, I have been absolutely DESPERATE to find a leader, a guide, someone older than me, who can help me, due to feeling abandoned by both parents and all my older siblings in my times of need. Some of us trust no one; I trust too much. It's not easy to 'take back your power' when you so desperately need someone-andyone-to simply make it okay.

@zeenuf00

Ай бұрын

In the end, only God could help me. And I'm not exactly religious.

@searching-for-truth

Ай бұрын

​@zeenuf00 what did u do?

I found IFS to be helpful for me with traumatic experiences, but journaling has been a true lifesaver.

@ajasen

2 ай бұрын

IFS and psychedelics both held by daily spiritual practice. def helped me. not necessarily appropriate for everyone.

@CrappyChildhoodFairy

Ай бұрын

If journaling serves you, you may also like Daily Practice. It is a good tool to help with getting regulated. You can try it in the free course: bit.ly/CCF_DailyPractice Nika@TeamFairy

I can tell you that gaslighting does not help.

@tomtbi

2 ай бұрын

Agreed... Gaslighting can make symptoms worse...

@r_and_a

2 ай бұрын

including self gaslighting which can be common with c-ptsd 💚

@misspatvandriverlady7555

Ай бұрын

This is fine. I’m fine. Everything is FINE! 🔥🔥🔥

@r_and_a

Ай бұрын

@@misspatvandriverlady7555 my mom always said fine = f'd up, insecure, neurotic & emotionally unstable 🤪

@aspiringrootwoman24

Ай бұрын

​@@r_and_athat's a great acronym

Ok. Currently, therapists are actively training in new therapeutic trauma centered techniques. The trauma field is changing, as therapists are learning to treat the thinking, emotional & physical dimensions of the brain, mind & body. There is hope.

@JenSell1626

Ай бұрын

If I found a few independent schools of thought, I could go with ones feel on for me, I’d say great, the more options the better. When they are all speaking at each others’ workshops under different foundational names, I stop feeling like I’m choosing between different schools of thought. Also when you find a new method learn who taught them and you are usually two steps or so from the same old personalities. It is hard to feel like there isn’t a game being run on you I did hear Neurofeedback was back, so we have just rebooted from the 70s, when Scientology begat EST and Herbalife was Amway

@mariabarnes9197

Ай бұрын

@JenSell1626 It's true-- spokespersons do travel around, as they should, sharing or promoting their experiences, research, theories, etc. to others. Whatever the particular school of thought, researchers & or students are then free to conduct research to determine the validity & efficacy. This is to build a reliable body of work highlighting pitfalls, & targeting solutions. Having personally seen the changes in thought, & technique, over time, having attended conferences updating both, it's a for sure thing, progress is being made.

Talk therapy doesn’t help me. I tend to just vent, and prefer to have the person listening agree with me

@mariabarnes9197

2 ай бұрын

That is what a support group does-- not individual or group therapy.

@lovejoy71422

2 ай бұрын

​@@mariabarnes9197so where do you find it online support group? Face to face not just typing information in? Any and all information would be appreciated, have a great day!

@ebd123

2 ай бұрын

That is not therapy. Please find someone who will actively listen but also teach and guide.

@misspatvandriverlady7555

Ай бұрын

@@ebd123I’ve done well to find someone who focuses on my life without bringing their personal problems into the room. I heard about a divorce, an abusive stepfather, health conditions that weren’t my business, a tragic backstory; I had a few act like they could provide therapy when they knew they couldn’t and one that firmly steered the conversation away from talking about my mother and towards talking about my depression 20 YEARS earlier! I have found ONE that, so far, consistently listens and provides helpful feedback! ONE!!! Out of probably ten total?!? 😑

@IdaKiss

Ай бұрын

The trauma affects the memory, and the amygdala, and the relationship between the trauma triggers and reactions are not conscious. Real trauma therapy basically is not an intellectual exercise.

I'm a trauma therapist, LCSW using advanced IFS and EMDR. These therapies have been profoundly beneficial for clients who entered therapy with severe mood dysregulation, interpersonal issues and poor self esteem.

@jamesyoungquist6923

Ай бұрын

What's a good way to find an effective local trauma therapist?

@jenniferodegard526

Ай бұрын

Yes, totally different from the old psychodynamic stuff, that helps you to understand why you are the way you are, but does little to help you recover.

I cured my emotional dysregulation by talking to myself using self-validating statements. I just did it really intensely for a few hours about all the things that had ever happened to me that I still had pain about. I told myself everything I always wanted to hear from someone else. It was a huge emotional release. After that I did it any time that kind of pain would come back up, and after a few weeks, I really didn't have any dysregulation and haven't since.

@SunsetterJ

Ай бұрын

You are great! I have also started the same recently based on the advice from my therapist, and to practice especially in front of the mirror. After that I also started, just like you, at every moment possible, whenever, wherever to fill my head with those "I am .." statements like "I love myself, I respect myself, I honor myself..." also in the mirror I say with the sweetest voice possible, just like I was telling to my dog "I love you baby, I love you to heaven an back, you are my treasure, you are my sweetheart"...It really, immensly helps and changes me. So, whoever reads your comment, I would really like to reccomend the same. IT HELPS! IT TRANSFORMS! It works!

@cheryldailing1294

Ай бұрын

💗​@@SunsetterJ

@shiny_x3

Ай бұрын

@@SunsetterJ That's a bit different than I meant. I didn't say, "I love you", I said, "Your feelings make sense". It heals the sense of gaslighting that invalidation brings, which is what ends the dysregulation. What you are doing is fine too, it's just a bit different.

@frizzyrascal1493

Ай бұрын

@@SunsetterJReally careful with that advice. While it has worked for you, people with CPTSD tend do have a lot of internalized shame and hate. Saying "I love you" to yourself in the mirror, when that‘s not the case, is gaslighting yourself.

@SunsetterJ

Ай бұрын

@@frizzyrascal1493oooo😮I see! Yes, in that case that is validation of all feelings and acceptance - it is ok to feel what I feel. That feels good.

The Bidy Keeps the Score. My first day in therapy i saw the title and wept. Bought it. Lost it. Bought it again. Its not therapy but its compassionately walks through so many dimensions about effects and treatments of trayma.

@CrappyChildhoodFairy

Ай бұрын

Glad you enjoyed the book. It is a good one indeed! Nika@TeamFairy

EMDR is great! I did 4 sessions and it helped tremendously. If I try to remember one of the most devastating times in my life it's now a fuzzy picture somewhere off in the distance. It no longer lives so close to my memories.

I've been through enough traumatic events in the last 40+yrs to do 5 Tony Robbins events and I've seen atleast 6 therapists in the last 15yrs..And I only had one that truly helped me..I felt like I was being gas lighted, talked down to and wasn't being heard...I went from being in a wheelchair to walking 19 miles,losing 150lbs and healing an autoimmune disease..I started studying buddhism,meditating,Journaling, drastically changing my diet and watching videos about trauma and brain injuries, and it has brought me out of the darkness of CPTSD... CCF is a beautiful lighthouse for those lost in the darkness of CPTSD.. TY GUYS FOR ALL OF YOUR HARD WORK THAT YOU PUT IN TO HELP US THAT FEEL LOST AND BROKEN..

@HappyCat1111

2 ай бұрын

That’s amazing! Congrats on putting yourself and your healing first. I hope you continue to gain health, strength, and your true self in your recovery journey!

@user-jh8sm2ph5e

2 ай бұрын

That's a nice success journey. All the best my friend.

@MakeDoo

2 ай бұрын

You are inspiring. Thank you.

@CrappyChildhoodFairy

2 ай бұрын

Yay! Happy story!!! So glad you are here.

@kmjansen

Ай бұрын

What is CCF?

Craniosacral therapy is what truly has worked for me, it actually made me quit hearing voices and got rid of trauma related physical pain in my nervous system. It's a huge deal to me. My craniosacral therapist uses many somatic and and sensorimotor techniques to assess the trauma on a body level. This also works for preverbal trauma. Any somatic technique helps. The most of the trauma is stored into the body, and the vagus nerve (fight/flight/freeze responses).

@WithWingsOfAngel

Ай бұрын

Also, being vegan made me much worse. I had chronic fatique, even though I was trying to do it right. Sometimes it's just better to put yourself first.

@user-zo1fr1vk8e

Ай бұрын

The safety of light touch, the presence of self with therapist, the space being held, with sensitivity to subtle change, opening up.

I may just have been lucky, but I've been helped by both meds and therapy. I had a nervous breakdown 7 years ago & definitely finding the right therapist and psychiatrist was a long journey. Both are very well versed in treating CPTSD & helped me figure out what usually dysregulates me. I also do EFT & hypnotherapy & acupuncture. The last thing my psychiatrist has added about 18 months ago is micro-dosing psylocibin & that has been very very helpful. I wish the best for all of us ❤ in our recovery. I don't live in America btw.

@marcellusrobinson1465

2 ай бұрын

I agree. For me too it was a combination of both meds (Prozac) and a good therapist was what did it for me.

@marcellusrobinson1465

2 ай бұрын

I agree. For me too it was a combination of both meds (Prozac) and a good therapist was what did it for me.

@yugopolis861

2 ай бұрын

I was asking myself if it is specific for the USA health care system. I'm living in Europe, my therapy was very strongly focused on my everyday life and many solutions to get better quickly - which is what Anna always talks about and says it's unlikely to be delivered by the therapist. I talked about my past but mostly to give a context, after that my therapist was coming back to the present time by any memory I was bringing up. I only got medication when my symptoms were so bad I couldn't work in therapy anymore and the clear goal here was that I was on it as short as possible.

Writing is the only thing from the dysregulation bootcamp that I did not keep because it makes my CPTSD just as worse as talking about the past. Most therapy didn't work, but I gained a lot from meditation and mindfulness.

@aslannette

Ай бұрын

I turned to writing as a child because I had no one to talk with. I'm 62 and writing is all I've ever done because I've never trusted anyone and could not afford therapy. As time passed, I noticed it had become an addiction, ie: in my youth I felt much better as I wrote, but as I aged, I wrote of the same things over and over again, feeling worse and worse, caught in a loop. It wasn't until last year, after stumbling upon The Crappy Childhood Fairy that I learned of CPTSD and began to use The Daily Practice that I found relief when I took the step of tearing my writing to shreds and throwing the shreds away. Now, I've stopped writing because it traps me into looping. EVERYTHING else within the Daily Practice has pulled me back from the edge. THANK YOU for sharing.

@DMKarinZeeland

Ай бұрын

Thank you as well. @@aslannette

@IdaKiss

Ай бұрын

Instead of writing about your traumas, write down sistematically the situations, stories, relations which were positive. It makes a great difference.

@DMKarinZeeland

Ай бұрын

Great that that works for you. It would not for me.@@IdaKiss

@IdaKiss

Ай бұрын

@@DMKarinZeeland It works for my clients. I am psychotherapist, and work with patients with traumas. You might try it, and then decide if its good for you.

I think that everyone has to find their own way of dealing with their trauma. The talking therapy can be really helpful for someone who couldn't talk about their experience as a child and was never listened to, believed or validated for what they felt and experienced.

@Anna_Stetik

Ай бұрын

I'm seeing a psychologist now, doing the talking thing. She has been helpful in listening and telling me that I am validated to feel how I do because I was not 'given what you needed'. I just wanted to be heard, and she hears me. I also realized how hard I was on myself when she answered every time I 'apologized' for even being there. Examples: 'You must be sick and tired of me coming in and all I do is whine about my past.' 'You must be exhausted after our sessions. It's nothing but negative.' 'You're probably going to need a therapist after dealing with me.' She handles it wonderfully. In an extremely gentle way, a way I've never been given, she makes me realize what I'm doing, and tells me that nothing of the sort is true. It can be extremely difficult in talk therapy. I do miss appointments sometimes because I just don't have it in me that day, but she is so patient with me. I'm going to keep going because nothing else mentioned in this video has ever worked. Your comment is 100% correct. For those who have never been listened to or validated, it really does help.

@drAnnaSobczak

29 күн бұрын

@@Anna_Stetik Thank you for sharing your comment.

Sometimes I feel like I’ll never be able to have a normal life. I always have something or other that hinders me from progress. I’m almost 27 and still can’t hold down a job. No degrees. If given the time and space I can be very productive, but time doesn’t wait for me and I just keep falling back while everyone else is moving along. I feel like an old car sputtering along a highway, and everyone is racing past and some people honk at me because I’m going so slow… given maintenance and repair I can do better but that costs money that I don’t have. So I just keep sputtering along.

@CrappyChildhoodFairy

Ай бұрын

We understand as few others can! A free tool that can help is the Daily Practice. If you want, you can try it here: bit.ly/CCF_DailyPractice -Frida@TeamFairy

@Hawaiiansky11

Ай бұрын

A friend once gave me this wise advice, "Never compare your insides with someone else's outsides." Just because it LOOKS LIKE they are 'racing past' you, that doesn't mean they really are. One of the symptoms of C-PTSD is not being able to 'seal the deal.' In my case, I have a tendency to go 90%, then just stop. Quit. Give up. Self-sabotage. I have learned that it is because as a child, I was punished if I ever 'out-shined' my narcissistic mother or her Golden Child...so I would purposely step back and out of the limelight, because 'my place' was in the back, where light couldn't reach, away from any sort of praise.

EMDR therapy, CBT therapy, meditation, weaning off sugar and going on a low-glycemic index diet, hot yoga and finding a better community of friends who also prioritized health and wellbeing were the turnaround for me. There's also that recent bestseller book by Stephanie Foo, "What My Bones Know" which really helped in understanding C-PTSD for those of us with an Asian background.

@JenSell1626

Ай бұрын

She was a speaker on one of four “Tiger Talks” put out by the Longmore Instatute here on KZread, you may enjoy them.

Two other important books about CPTSD: "The Myth Of Sanity," by Martha Stout, and "The Body Remembers," by Babette Rothschild.

@r_and_a

2 ай бұрын

thank you for the suggestions 💚

@BigSky000

2 ай бұрын

@@r_and_a You're welcome! Your work is invaluable.

@helenloughrey7660

Ай бұрын

Martha Stout’s book, The Sociopath Next Door, is also helpful in explaining /exposing traumatic stressors.

I’m exhausted Too exhausted to try to make sense of everything let alone be suceswful Over it “treatment” since childhood. I just want to live to my potential 😢 Appreciate your videos ❤hank u

I was very, very lucky to find a therapist who was in childhood trauma herself and walked me through healing my inner child by guided imagery. It was complex and she got me calm enough in a safe space to talk to and promise to protect and heal my inner child from my main trauma using my current feelings and thoughts as the older self. Hard to describe but it worked because the brain doesn’t know time and space.

@carylgibbs6094

Ай бұрын

I have a very similar story. ❤

Gardening has really helped me. When my son was kept from me I took to gardening. Even though a part of me was hurting thinking how he'd enjoy the raspberries I planted, the plants just have a soothing effect. It's a living tapestry with endless detail that keeps changing, and so it's very easy to get caught in the moment, even when troubled thoughts arise nature somehow is soothing. I've been inspired by natural farming, not having a fixed outcome or expectation. I spend time literally just watching the grass grow and seeing the interplay of plants, what to keep, prune or butcher. After my last heartbreak vigorous excersise became to strenuous for me, I needed to preserve my energy. I've taken to sauna and swimming. Keeping my breath under water for a lap has trained my body-mind to avoid anxiety panic and staying in the present moment, by telling myself everything is OK, one step at a time. I also recommend cranio sacral therapy. It's very gentle non intrusive and allows the body to balance and release deeper emotions and physical trauma stored in a profound way. Ear acupuncture NADA has helped my nervous system balance, it's very affordable some do it for free. I'm looking deeper into acupuncture as I had a good session that worked on balancing my heart energy.

@jenniferodegard526

Ай бұрын

I agree about gardening. Helps to regulate the nervous system (soothing).

I'd say medications saved my life. After my childhood, I couldn't function normally, sleep or focus until I was prescribed it. I took it for two years and it reregulated me and allowed me to be stable enough to focus on my therapy.

@AS-xl9gb

Ай бұрын

Same. Happy you're doing well

You're so right about the therapists...I went through 4 therapists in the past 2 yrs and was so frustrated, depressed. I found that my emotional waves were getting bigger and I couldn't control what was going on. My girlfriend walked away in January of this year. My inability to work through my DA behaviour drove her away...and now, now I finally found a therapist who truly knows how to help. EMDR, Somatict therapy. I'd also recommend Bowen msssage therapy...I'm seeing results. but I can also say that sometimes I get so mad that it's so hard to find therapists who really understands Avoidant dysregulation...so grateful that you (and Pete Walker) can articulate what really happens to Avoidants...so many ppl think we're terrible ppl who don't care...I just want to know what it feels like to live day by day as a normal regulated man. I know there is no quick fix (I tried to do that, and it blew up my relationship), I know it is lifetime work, but thank you for being one of the few who has good advice for Avoidants who are truly committed to healing.

@deanporter5882

2 ай бұрын

Bowen has been a really good treatment therapy

@Ewa19750928

Ай бұрын

@@tamsintarshish3905 I had cranio-sacral massages for my somatic symptoms and trauma stored in the body and it did help.

@CrappyChildhoodFairy

Ай бұрын

Glad you are here! Nika@TeamFairy

@jackiemcdonell1737

Ай бұрын

What is Bowen therapy?​@@deanporter5882

@Hawaiiansky11

Ай бұрын

The man I loved more than anything in this world, IMO had avoidant personality disorder and quite possibly paranoid personality disorder. He was an amazing guy, but had a very bad habit of kicking me out of his life for good, making me believe he hated me, only to call me up weeks, months or years later acting like nothing had changed, and seemingly expecting me to rush back into his arms. I was totally up for it for years, but then one year (after he had triggered me inadvertently), I had enough and told him to stay out of my life. There is a lot more to it, and part of the reason he was so hostile with me was (1) his father / upbringing cause him to believe that all women were scheming harpies hell-bent on playing games with men and (2) my own malignant narcissist mother was a scheming harpy hell-bent on convincing him that I was playing games with him. It was really sad. He did a lot of things that made him seem like a jerk, but I believe I knew him more deeply than others, and understood him on a level most people did not. Unfortunately, while we did try again 20+ years later, because I would not fall breathlessly into his arms declaring my undying love for him before even agreeing to meet up, he refused to meet with me in person. There is a lot more to it, but I won't bore you with the details. My own trauma caused changes in me and legit amnesia, which I'm sure he interpreted as my lack of caring about him. I believe he kept tabs on me over the years, as I look back on it now. He went home to God in 2017. The sad thing is, because of my upbringing, I believed that he hated me and looked down on me as not good enough for him. As I think back on our interactions knowing much more truth now, I realize it was just the opposite; he hated himself, and believed that he was not good enough for me. I pray you heal enough to find someone who can love you as I loved and still love him.

Please note- in many many cases, side effects from psychiatric drugs do not always go away. Please acknowledge Akathisia, PSSD, … the list of harm from these drugs is very long- even when no longer taking. Please also be aware to Always taper off psych drugs very gradually… you may suffer withdrawals that may mimic what the drug was initially prescribed for-Don’t taper every other day… you’ll risk harm to your system. Thank you. Please insist on informed consent from prescriber before taking psych drugs and do some online research, find those with lived experience . Thanks. ✌️

I found my guy bestie dead after 16 days. It was one of 6 deathes i experienced in 8 mos. Its been a hard road back with talk ifs and emdr therapy. I founx drugs worked for me since i went undiagnosed until this year. Thanks for ykur reviews of treatment.

The crappy childhood fairy team is so lovable. Thank you all who have worked together in this team. Its so unselfish and valuble for us with ptd, cptsd and other. Sending love to you all❤

Talking therapy didn't work did me, retraumatising. Anti depressants helped in the short term when I was desperate and my head was soooo fast. What works for me - lower sugar, lower fast carbs, hot yoga, stretching, exercise, cognitive hypnotherapy, somatic body work with breathing, just trying Safe and Sound Protocol for nervous system work, meditation, cranial therapy. Salamander nervous system reset exercise on KZread. Work in progress!!!

As a childhood war refugee, my problem has been finding trauma therapists that have dealt with that kind of thing. Anna's comment about the merry-go-round of treatment really resonated

Dear Anna , if your team or you yourself read this , *please be careful with this ice bath thing* ! It can cause heart attacks ! A quick medium cold shower or a warm to cold shower is great no doubt about it , but watch out for the ice version ! It carries the same danger as jumping into a cold lake unprepared , can lead to cardiac shock / arrest ! As for Wim Hof , please consider at least over a dozen people have died doing the hyperventilation breathing IN WATER , they seem to pass out and then drown ( and yes , sadly one can drown in a bathtub ) - once again please be careful , *DON'T practice Wim Hof breathing IN WATER* ! Otherwise a great video 👍👍 , you mentioned a lot of helpful stuff. For me , the ever problematic sleep routine & cold shower in the morning ( every day ! ) are the foundation , but so hard to maintain as a dysfuntional person. 😞 As a man - shaving facial and trimming body hair , and keeping finger & toe nails short , as well as dental hygiene , is also quite important. Having a minimalist interior , or decluttering ones home. Changing bed sheets and towels at least once a week. Taking out the trash preferably a bit too often. Journaling , healthy nutrition , exercise , love that you mention stuff like dance ( unfortunately most men are dismissive of it ) , importance of touch / massages. I personally would keep away from Guru related stuff like Wim Hof , Transcendental Meditation and Yoga - i prefer non-esoteric secular stuff. Too many gurus out there preying especially on vulnerable women. Combat sports for men like MMA , BJJ , Boxing , Wrestling , Kick Boxing but also sports like American Football , Rugby , Ice Hockey , Water Polo , Australian Rules Football , etc. I would not recommend as the injury risk is simply too high , especially for traumatic brain injuries / concussions / CTE , dangerous skin abrasion infections on dirty gym mats etc. - but also for the fact that one is going to meet a lot of hyper aggressive straight up psychos ( with unresolved issues ), who take pleasure in injuring others. You listing so many things , I felt at one point narrowing it down to the top 7 oder top 10 most helpful techniques would have been better , at the end I felt a bit like your perfectionistic side , wanting to list / mention everything out there , took over. I feel you , I often times share the same problem. All the best from across the pond ! P.S. i am so sorry about you had to witness your friend's traumatic death 🥺😞

@triloization

Ай бұрын

What a good list. I hope I can follow this

@Hawaiiansky11

Ай бұрын

A guy I dated was hooked on Wim Hof and was doing it in the shower, and about passed out! He could have gotten very injured. Wim Hof might be great for short-term temperature tests, but IMO some simple deep breathing and, as you suggest, a cold burst after a warm shower can lift the dopamine without shock to one's body that the WH method can do.

@tk80mufa5

Ай бұрын

@@Hawaiiansky11 👍🙂

In the process of "professional"help for the 6th time now. 4th psychologist. Never received real help but advise to: chase my own dream, change up my relationships I should go back to university at 36 (being a high school dropout, i would need to have a 3-4 year pre-education to even be able to apply for a 4 year University course) Mate, i told you 1000 times i already have a hard time focusing on a one hour meeting and you think a 7-8 year commitment will save me? Hoping for change while my scepticism reigns supreme as all i have received are big fat invoices and a bigger headache

Well said Anna! I am a licensed therapist & I totally agree with you! 💞 I really appreciate your videos, perspective, & advice. Therapy can be helpful, but understanding our nervous system, HRV, & flooding is soooo key!! Thanks for sharing your wisdom & experience! You are deeply appreciated! I have referred clients to your videos! Thank you!!! 🙏🏻🙌🏼

I’m 70 . I have just, like right now, come to the epiphany of the reality of my very early traumatic childhood. You are correct about medication when the dysfunction is caused by Operative Conditioning . Pavlov trained his dog(s) to drool at the sound of a bell. I was trained to sympathetic nervous arousal from all directions. Begs the question as to whether Operative Conditions can UNTRAIN the dog from drooling at the sound of the bell. Eureka, thank you a million times and a thousand blessings upon you and your house.

No I have not get help professional for cptsd they only suggest medication. That's why i have chronich deseace but I am recovering and you are one of my helper ❤

@dharmaslife

2 ай бұрын

Meds did not help me. Maybe because they didn’t change my major life circumstances- the reason I’m depressed.

@Zoleankico4267

2 ай бұрын

@@dharmaslife Because they don’t work! They’ve already proven, and mainstream media has reported, that they do not work the way they originally thought, and that they don’t know why they work sometimes, (That suggests that its in the mind). Yet doctors still PUSH them, like no other! After my own terrible experiences with many medications, and some god awful counselors; combined with what we’re witnessing in the US today, that these mental health meds, are actually causing the crisis we have in this country! It’s scary to watch my adult children take all of this crap, knowing what I know. I wish you all the best!

@Heyu7her3

2 ай бұрын

​@@dharmaslife they help with softening the intense emotions, but yeah. medicine won't get you out your circumstance so there's no value in thinking they do. actions (from you/ others) change the circumstance

Great episode! I dissociate and get foggy a lot. I have found that martial arts was most effective, since I have a collapse/submit trauma response. Hot yoga has also been incredible in getting me back into my body and into the present. I am hoping that DMT will become available as a psychedelic therapy since it has such amazing results, but not everybody can afford a trip to the Amazon with a shaman. I’ve seen people use the keto diet to help with severe nervous system deregulation but I haven’t found much research.

After 50 years of pain, I had amazing results with a therapist who worked me through the PICT program. I understand myself now and I love my inner child soooo much. I had to work my ass off to get here but it was so worth it.

I didn't feel better with talk therapy and medication in a significant way, but now I'm working with a somatic experiencing practitioner and it has been absolutely life changing. I don't have panic attacks anymore, I can hold a job, I'm way calmer and feeling less dysregulated

@angelisa368

Ай бұрын

That’s great!!! Is there a certain somatic practice/treatment that you’re working with??

@GetOfflineGetGood

Ай бұрын

@@angelisa368 My therapist doesn't like to tell me about the modalities and stuff, we do end up doing a lot of talking but she won't let me just have a panic attack in her office, she's like actively teaching me skills while we're talking to help me regulate myself. She does some like "object lessons" and some body sensitization stuff.

Wait, do I use a different part of my brain when I write? NOW I understand why talking is noticably more difficult since I had a stroke, when my ability to write hasn't changed at all. I also have childhood-PTSD and I'm very enthousiastic about writing, first journalling, but later writing real stories. If you like writing and you have your own story to tell, you can play with fiction and non-fiction, using the feelings you yourself have somewhat recovered from, being painfully honest about those experiences and be open to sharing what you learned. I noticed that you absolutely NEED to do part of your healing before you start to really do this, but once you get to that point where you feel safe enough to write about your own trauma inbedded in an otherwise made up fictional setting where you can also let your creativity loose and on top of that create the setting you wish you had before (and that others in your position need)... It's the best thing ever, really. Oh, and a healthy body, enough exersize, the right food, enough fluid, enough rest/sleep and enough fresh air and time in nature, those are great too, a pet, if you can care for one and I personally would really love to try acceptance and commitment therapy to add to writing and a healthy life style...

Wellll... I assumed talk therapy was just my therapist getting intel on my childhood background, which she did along with journaling, so that when we did EMDR, she had all the info she needed to guide me through the process. Also, talk therapy (at least the way my therapist did it) didn't make me relive my trauma (because I had already journaled about it!) but it DID help me immensely to talk about what I THOUGHT about the trauma. It made me realize for myself why it was messed up by allowing me to express myself. E.g. my dad slapped me as a punishment for various things, and talking about how I felt about being slapped made me rationalize that he could have implemented other much more appropriate methods to discipline me. That little breakthrough made me finally identify other trauma instances and say "this could have been done differently". Then EMDR changed my behavior dramatically as I tackled my childhood PTSD, and other people noticed my greater openness. One final thing that really works that hasn't been mentioned in the video is working on Internal Family Systems, where you basically (through meditation) "meet" your inner traumatized self and talk to it and reintegrate it into your true self. IFS basically gets down to the source of "emotional dysregulation" - i.e. that dysregulation serves a purpose and has a source rooted in trauma. That dysregulation helped you survive in childhood, but now you've outgrown it and need to unlearn it. Not by shunning it but by lovingly calming it down. I wouldn't have been able to do all that without the help of my therapist. What didn't work for me (sorry) was writing about my fears and resentments. Tried it once... it just actually made me think about my fear and anger and put me in that state and I felt yuck afterwards. I journal about other things.

@georockstar09

2 ай бұрын

But I won't deny that it's hard to get a good therapist straight off the bat. I have a friend whose therapist put her on meds for feeling upset about a very normal thing to feel upset about, and I'm like, aarrrgh!

After a lifetime of educating myself I still just don't know what feeling normal is supposed to feel like. I just can't get the 'people in my life' thing right. I have recognized being a 'hybrid person' has caused me great damage. I am 2 people, me and the one I created to get away from everyone. My family only sees the the latter and when around them the dissonance has just become too much and I reached that point of No More. I am a couple of months into having walked away from that noise. I made a choice and chose me and the hybrid can no longer function. But I just feel like the wiring is irrevocably nonexistent.

@Hawaiiansky11

Ай бұрын

Ana is amazing. I also like Patrick Teehan, Jay Reid and Rebecca C. Mandeville. Check them out!! I'm working through John Bradshaw's "Homecoming" book, which, while dredging up a LOT of pain, has also helped immensely! It might be time to start spending less time with the family, as many of them may be unwitting minions / flying monkeys to the primary abuser. How you feel when you're with people and how you talk to and about yourself after spending time with them, tells you a lot about how safe or toxic they are! Listen to YOURSELF. Your body speaks truths even when your mind tries to hid that from you.

Writing and journaling helps me alot. Talk therapy also helps me.

I've brought a lot of people to your channel. The go to understanding CPTSD. The meditation therapy helped, I mixed elements of it with things I found that helped. I literally had 40 years of intense trauma it will always be with me. I won't find love. I've gave up when I realized it western women are not that into me. When I gave up on relationships it took some pressure off. I won't have a "dream" life, but I'm stable. For that I'm thankful.

I’m a retired C-PTSD psychotherapist. Have been saying since the 1980s, C-PTSD is brain damage. A few years ago researchers using PET scans were able to ‘see’ where the trauma misfiring happened in the brain. The problem with psychodelics is they increase availability of serotonin. For the 20% of survivors who have serotonin syndrome, psychodelics can be fatal. I developed a combination of treatment techniques that resulted in 75% recovery. Many that you have mentioned here.

@tablescissors67

Ай бұрын

Thank you for saying this. It has become so trendy, especially among the rich and elite, to casually suggest or insist that such drugs are a panacea - particularly for self-prescribed trauma and Complex B disorders (not necessarily diagnosed).

I've tried everything, have had all these symptoms for years.. I used to be distegulated for days to weeks at a time, and now only for an hour or two. What helped is emotion code (quantum healing) and inner child healing and reprogramming past memories into positive ones, as well as lots of energy healing (not reiki).

I have worked through this for years with therapists for years. It doesn't help to go back over it. I don't need that. I feel as though the trauma is trapped in my body and somatic healing may be beneficial?

@iloveFreedom.

2 ай бұрын

I feel similar. Oh God music and singing has seriously helped me / soundsgreat!!😅

@emac1286

2 ай бұрын

EFT tapping works fabulously

@leopardchicken

2 ай бұрын

@@iloveFreedom. Who knew something as simple as music and singing would be so helpful. Happy you found something that works for you.

@leopardchicken

2 ай бұрын

@@emac1286 I will look into this, thank you. Do you see a practitioner or just solo?

I am starting EMDR starting in 2 weeks. I have tried CBT did not work for me. 1 excellent thing that Really helped my brain reregulate and I felt more alive then ever was TMS. Very expensive but worth every penny. Everyone is different and whatever helps u go for it!

@AS-xl9gb

Ай бұрын

Tms?

@caoillainn

Ай бұрын

EMDR works.

@debbiemckenna5

Ай бұрын

@@caoillainn Thank u for this comment. I am really praying that it does. I am tired of living or just existing at 53 yrs old. Please pray for me. Thank u!

Your videos really turned my healing around - just having words for things …

@CrappyChildhoodFairy

Ай бұрын

You're welcome! What you've just said reminded me about one of William Shakespeare's quotes: “Give sorrow words; the grief that does not speak knits up the o-er wrought heart and bids it break.” Nika@TeamFairy

Psychiatric therapy increased my si attempts. Mixed in there were irregular boundaries, multiple meds, and re-traumatization from the md and hospital staff. Understanding the evolution of my ptsd (thank you, Dr. Van der Kolk) and taking over my own treatment plan, and the help from the child therapist for my son, I quickly found a path through my personal hell. That particular therapist forced me to confront my issues by modeling various ways to look at them without a timetable, and by accepting me where I was at.

So grateful for this channel. Been life changing. Thank you! ❤

High intensity interval training in the form of skipping and kettlebell swings is my go to.

This explains so much of my experience with CPTSD. I have been fighting through a dense fog even on my good days. Watching your videos, I recall conversations that I’ve had with friends and with my therapist, and the pieces start to fall into place. Thank You for this valuable insight!

@CrappyChildhoodFairy

Ай бұрын

I'm so glad the channel has been helpful! -Calista@TeamFairy

Talk therapy and medication got me though the first 50 years. Very very effectively. Through talk therapy I was able to dismantle the myth of the perfect mother and begin my career as a musician and instructor with confidence. Also I was able and lucky enough to figure out healthy intimate relationships and marry a fantastic partner. In the last decade unresolved stuff like anxiety especially stage nerves reappeared and now I'm working in the somatic, re regulating, breath work, inner child modes. I still need to talk plenty. Medication stopped after menopause. Just didn't need wellbutrin anymore. Very thankful for all you KZreadrs. You provide great information. However.... The active ingredient in EMDR may not be the eye movements. Completely unproven. There are many other elements of EMDR therapy which cannot (or have not yet in any convincing experimental setting) be separated from the use of the eye movements.

Can't tell you enough, how much I appreciate all your work here on YoutTube Anna. 💕

Fantastic idea for this video, dearest Anna. The list is immense. And the enormous number of therapists who do not have the slightest idea of what CPTSD is. And the number of therapies that don't work: emdr sent me to the hospital twice. Then I read Bessel Van der Kolk who advises against it for us. Nothing, nothing that touches trauma works for me and I go into freeze inmediately. And the worst are those so-called professionals who say they know what they are doing. And I still haven't heard the whole video. Thank you for this video, it is so necessary. Love you allways and forever. 😍😍😍

@jimenaffpp

2 ай бұрын

The havening technique helped me a lot and today I did it again after some time, it works very well with fear. And EFT as well helped me if is not the clinical EFT that makes you go to the trauma. The Daily Practice have helped me a lot as well, specially for anger and when I was very disregulated. The Pennebaker techniques made some profound changes as well. What about hipnotherapy? I did RTT and it was a huge disaster. Great video, Anna, thank you, thank you and LOVE 😍😍

@Heyu7her3

2 ай бұрын

Dysregulation doesn't necessarily mean it's *not* working. For instance, there are a few times where I've experienced fully processing a trauma through my body. Each event happened unprovoked, consisted of crying profusely for hours, & my mind giving me images or even spoken words for past experiences that I'd thought I was fine with. Afterwards, I was completely fine with the repressed traumatic experience.

@jimenaffpp

2 ай бұрын

@@Heyu7her3 I appreciate your comment. My case is very different. I am very sorry for what happened to you. I send you a hug of good and delicious wishes from Spain.🌻🌼🌻

Thank you for this post.

EMDR saved me from the traumatic memories and the constant shadow of death mourning type of feeling. But it's your videos which helped me to take charge of myself and understand my symptoms to change gradually.

That was so eye-opening about how a baby will dissociate if it is not comforted 😭 I have graduated from cognitive dissonance to just dissociating until I can deal with it later

Anna, you're pure gold. I'm finally understanding what's happening and happened to me. I guess cptsd is shamely ignored by the official practice and they're making huge mistakes diagnosing. I'm amazed of how much help you can get from videos like yours. Meditation is working for me. Thanks so much

Thank you. Such a good collection of tools for healing⭐️

I had a lot of deficit based therapists, they caused more harm than helped anything. Strength based therapists a d advocates made a huge difference in my life. They helped me understand the dynamics of interpersonal violence abd reframe my negative self thought and talk. EMDR helped a lot too. Recently, neurofeedback brain training was life changing without the invasion of sharing the old harms. Medication wasn't hugely helpful and came with a lot of shaming and blaming.

Exercise and nutrition focus has helped me immensely. Very interesting regarding the leptin point. I'll have to research that more!! Thank you!!

This is great Anna. I have had similar experiences to you. Thanks so much.

@CrappyChildhoodFairy

Ай бұрын

Glad you are here! Nika@TeamFairy

I did a ketogenic diet for 6 months and my depression and anxiety was much improved. Also, I notice that the more sugar and carbs I eat, the harder it is for me to stay "level"

@beautardyartist

Ай бұрын

Correct.

@IamStreber

Ай бұрын

Agree. Nutrition is a factor too. Wish I would have payed attention with that in my 20’s.

@billiehanne1205

Ай бұрын

Completely true. I had sugar addiction before. Now I cut gluten and sugar, do a 24h dry fast once a month and I’m finally getting a handle on myself. I’m still addicted to the internet to numb myself / regulate myself and working now to replace screen time with movement

@breg9476

Ай бұрын

@@billiehanne1205

@beautardyartist

Ай бұрын

@@billiehanne1205 congrats.

Oh, this is such a relief. While therapy is kind of nice- who doesn't like to vent about their problems? It did nothing in the long run. And meds just gave me a stomach ache.

@simonebeaudelaire5059

Ай бұрын

The worst though was EMDR. I tried that once. Free associated myself into a screaming meltdown. I did NOT feel better or released or anything afterwards. I did find out that on a subconscious level, I was blaming my mother for my abusive relationships. Yeah, sure. That's helpful. Then I got to be embarrassed about losing my cool as well. Nopity nope nope. Not doing that again.

I could write a book about this subject, but don’t worry, I won’t do that here! No, therapy, medications, groups, rapid eye movement, hypnosis, nothing has helped with CPTSD, and some made it worse. Medications helped with the anxiety and helped to make me feel more “normal” and able to carry out my day, but things never got any better, it just masked what I would have to solve later in life.

@janicestevens8469

2 ай бұрын

Actually, writing has been the most helpful for me.

@CrappyChildhoodFairy

Ай бұрын

Great! If you haven't already, try Daily Practice. It is the technique (based on writing and meditation) that led to Anna’s own healing, and she uses it to this day. bit.ly/CCF_DailyPractice Nika@TeamFairy

@janicestevens8469

Ай бұрын

@@CrappyChildhoodFairy -I have been doing the daily practice for about a week. I’ve never meditated before (tried it in the 70’s and didn’t get it) but it’s something that really brings a lot of comfort to me.

@IamStreber

Ай бұрын

Keto/ and fasting helped me. I was over weight and I did it to lose weight and found the other benefits, so I am sticking with this. I did fall off the wagon but I am getting back on because I know it worked for me. I never felt like I did before that an energy calm, that’s the only way I can describe it.

Thanks Anna, you were the start of my healing 🎉🎉🎉❤❤🥰

@CrappyChildhoodFairy

Ай бұрын

Wow, I'm so happy to hear that! Thank you for being a part of our community :) -Calista@TeamFairy

Seems counselors want to keep you stuck in the pain. I have learned more from your channel and Dr, Ramani. Thank you!!!!!!!

Thanks for sharing this new (to me) information. A new path to consider and I can do myself 👍

My insides feel cold and like they are collapsing. Its like i have an extra organ in my chest that vibrates with my anxiety. Christ.

@sorkiemernie

Ай бұрын

“Extra organ” good one

@Hawaiiansky11

Ай бұрын

I recently learned that 'shaking' is our body's way of 'shaking off' stress. It might be a good thing!

I like having a therapist as part of my support system bc I don’t really have support.. talk therapy does something for me-but I def feel like I get more healing from KZread and just taking action in my healing(meditation, working out etc). I’ll take all the tools I can get lol

Eternally grateful for your content Anna and the fact I came across your channel some years ago. This was an exceedingly informative and helpful video, thanks once again for all you do there so many out there that need your guidance. ❤

@CrappyChildhoodFairy

Ай бұрын

Thank you for being a part of our community here! Nika@TeamFairy

only thing that has ever worked for me is physical exercise. 3-5 x a week. I went through so many therapies and this single thing helped me more than any other therapy.

I began my journey with PTSD, my therapist didn’t know about cptsd and I had PCA therapy it was nice to release the pain I had been holding without knowing however it’s had me stuck for 10years constantly trying to get myself out and kept relapsing. It’s the most excruciating pain feeling you are always failing at everything in life. I’ve lost so many people from being misunderstood but I guess they weren’t meant to stay around…

@CrappyChildhoodFairy

Ай бұрын

Glad you’re here now. We are all rooting for you. -Frida@TeamFairy

I had a terrible experience with therapy. My therapist thought CPT would be the most helpful form of therapy for me and my trauma, but if anything it traumatized me even more.

Neurofeedback was a radical game changer for my cousin's son.

Wonderful video. YES! Writing attacks the brain in a very different manner than talking does. The writing is very effective in any trauma. I have used the DP of your channel. I also did the 4 days consecutive writing that Huberman discussed in his podcast the Huberman lab about 3 months ago and it has been shockingly effective. Thank you!!

Another lovely video x

Fabulous presentation. I share several of these directive techniques with my clients not so much from my formal training which was less directive, but likewise because of personal experience results. Sharing what has worked for the therapist, while being mindful that clients experiences with the techniques may vary, is appropriate use of self. I am glad to hear that newer research evidence is also proving these directive techniques useful.

Great video. Thank you!🙏

@CrappyChildhoodFairy

Ай бұрын

Thanks for watching and taking the time to comment! -Calista@TeamFairy

Therapists need to be honest about what works and what doesn't. They also need to LEARN what works and what doesn't. If it's tied to their livelihood and the rules with which insurance works it will never put us first. After 20 yrs of trying, within 45 yrs of suffering, I'm exhausted from seeking help and being tore up. And I'm running out of will to try or care.

@Hawaiiansky11

Ай бұрын

Please read my first post in this thread. There are many things you can do alone for free without a therapist, which can at least calm your nervous system for a bit!

God Bless you, Anna ❤ Thank you for making this video. It is so hard to work on this to begin with and then when you try to communicate with others - they point at you and say your position isn’t valid because you appear to be dysregulated. Well if I’m doing everything I can to get help - how does it help me when I’m being judged by others for not being “fixed yet”? There’s still a big stigma that exists where people assume if you don’t take the traditional approach you are not doing it right or that you’re negligent when that’s simply not the case!

Thank you very much for your work and kind heart.

@CrappyChildhoodFairy

Ай бұрын

We appreciate you here! Nika@TeamFairy

You are the best therapist I have ever found in my life other than myself ❤

@CrappyChildhoodFairy

Ай бұрын

Anna is not a therapist, but we are so glad you find her resources helpful. -Frida@TeamFairy

The sooner that you can stand apart, separate, from your mask which we all wear the quicker things will move along. Just watched a great video on Peter Sellars struggles. He appeared on Sesame Street years ago and wantd to appear as a character. Kermit the Frog asked him "why don't you just be yourself?" Sellars answered, I paraphrase, "well really there's no me. I had him amputated years ago." Sellars died not long after but I think his insight is gold in the right context.

Thank you!!

Thank you for this video. ♥️🙏

Thanks Good Info.

Thank You! This is useful information!

@CrappyChildhoodFairy

Ай бұрын

I'm so glad the video was helpful! -Calista@TeamFairy

Your channel is very interesting. I subbed a month or so ago. I was engaged by the idea that my default tendency to isolate was at all harmful. Believing then that I was certainly not helping myself, I started to "default" to whatever was going on around me. This is appearing to be exactly the behavior I need to be more regulated, or at least bolster my state of regulation. Strangely simple, and I am not fighting it. I can still dysregulate, but I am not as unmoored by the feeling. Now if I decide to isolate, it is because I want to, and I do not feel like I NEED to. Not saying this should be easy, just accepting that I must have been ready, and the right suggestion presented in the right way at the right time was very welcome. Thank you!

@fratt41

2 ай бұрын

I should mention I am 57. Been kind of a wreck since about the age of 7. Started seriously isolating in my 20's.