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When she said, the point of marriage is not happiness, that hit me... deeply. SubhanAllah... growth.

@bricoyassin8711

11 ай бұрын

The world is not comfort and happiness. The world is patience, examination and work. You must learn patience with the poor husband who works hard to save money. Some girls only want happiness, then happiness. Happiness is only in heaven

1- unrealistic expectations 2- high standards of one life 3- make a realistic goal 4- strive for life of closeness with Allah 5 - achievable goals that set to make Allah happy with you 6- growth with your marriage 7- marriage is test for everybody 8- be whole before get married, don't depend for your happiness on partner 9- Make yourself up for prayers before marriage 9 - work on your self esteem n self confidence before marriage 10- work on your mindset to see good in others n that's how u ' lol see good in your marriage 11- my spouse should know what I need ? How?

@goofus4362

Жыл бұрын

Thank you so much for this 😊

@kolsumakobita9887

Жыл бұрын

Thank you

@hungarysucks67

Жыл бұрын

Wait, where's the part where I get my 72 virgins?

@kerimhey8170

Жыл бұрын

Barakallah feek

@fluffymountains

Жыл бұрын

number 8 is so important.

I am about to get married in 6months. And I am nervous and I am watching all islamic advices on marriage. Seeing so many unhappy marriages and failed marriages there's alot of overthinking and nervousness.

@shyxpretion7429

Жыл бұрын

Here is an advice from someone who went through marriage nd divorce. 1- just like the lady said don’t have an unrealistic expectations because the moment u do u will be disappointing ur self resulting in not trusting or respecting ur spouse. 2- communication is the key to a happy marriage like really at least 2 hours a day spend it just talking to ur spouse nd vis verse, about ur day, ur dreams, wat piss u off from him/her. 3- never sleep until u fixed whatever problem or fight u had (apologize if ur in the wrong there shouldn’t be egos in marriage) 4- be open about intimacy nd ask ur spouse wat they like nd wat they r comfortable with, this is part of not having unrealistic expectations 5- marriage is a contract between 2 parties to form a family so u should 100% understand wat is ur duties nd ur rights. 6- if u had a problem u couldn’t fix in ur marriage NEVER involve ur family or their’s, go to a marriage consult or a therapist especially if one of u has depression or something. Always seek professional help

@donabdi4098

Жыл бұрын

One thing is to never take advice from someone who has had a failed marriage, every marriage is different, but take advice from someone who has a successful and long lasting one

@shyxpretion7429

Жыл бұрын

@@donabdi4098 for ur info all the things I mentioned r some of my biggest mistakes in my “failed” marriage. I do not shy away from admitting my mistakes nd correcting it. Btw i remarried nd living ma best life 😉

@vertexloons5163

Жыл бұрын

We’ll tbh communication is the key in all except of marriage let it be before or after

@Manu-bobo

Жыл бұрын

@@shyxpretion7429 thank you. Good advices. God bless you

Controlling my standards made a big difference in my life when dealing with my parents. I understood them a lot more after I realized I held them to a high a very high standard that wasn’t fair to them nor was it attainable by them. It made much more happier with them.

@tililaait-jeddi8920

Жыл бұрын

Totally agree. The moment you understand your parents are humans like and entitled to their own mistakes your whole view changes.

@allafra8829

Жыл бұрын

This

@briraabid1523

Жыл бұрын

but my parents have really high standards for me . like whatever i do it's never good enough. And they always tell me to do more. this makes me really disappointed and sad . and i don't know how to tell it to them or how to make them happy .......

@zehrashah7178

Жыл бұрын

I am suddenly at peace. I had issues with my sister. I am able to move past her flaws. JazakaAllah and stay happy always. (Ameen)

@Gihad97

Жыл бұрын

@@briraabid1523 The way I dealt with this with my parents was to tell them one on one that their standards were too high and how it made me feel. I was miserable being under so much pressure and I told them that. I can't be perfect, I make mistakes, I'm human like the Rasool (PBUH) and the Sahaba. If the Sahaba and the Rasool (PBUH) can make mistakes or not be perfect, then so can I.

1) You have to be whole before you get married. 2) Your happiness is your responsibility.

Due to my physical health I was told I’m not good enough for marriage nobody will accept/ wanted me so I was never really supported or helped by mahram guardians This destroyed me completely And I’m “ expired” now actually marriage Only green card use Abuse Proposals are being pushed forced my way Just praying Allah forgive me have mercy on me and grant me jannah tul firdus in some hopes Allah will bless me with a spouse in jannah

@alhamdulillah4502

Жыл бұрын

may Allah bless you the best thing in dunya and akhira my sister ❤️

@fahimahossain7482

Жыл бұрын

In shaaaa Allah, Allah SWT will grant you the coolness of your eyes in this duniya. Ameen. ❤

@ia6410

Жыл бұрын

Ameen

@aj__love5919

Жыл бұрын

Allah (S.W.T) planned the best for you alhamdulillah ! Until then focus on Working in your confidence and also being Comfortable with your yourself. Someone great told me that if you focus on yourself Allah (S.W.T) will handle the rest and Wallah it’s true♥️ you do your part and Leave the Rest to Allah (S.W.T). My Duas go out to you and you will prosper and look back at this difficult time. This is your test and you will In Sha Allah pass it!!!!!!

@y_wintersnow

Жыл бұрын

May Allah make it easy for you ✨ send you hug

"Happiness has little to do with your life circumstances, and it has much more to do with the way you think about your life circumstances" 07:38 . Beautifully said

@MUISHAGGY572

Жыл бұрын

Yes! "The happiness of your life depends upon the quality of your THOUGHTS" - Stoicism

6:30 is real a gem 💎 to be noted and applied to the rest of life . " We shouldn't do a good deed just with intention to please each other, but with the intention to please Allah, we will never regret even if we are not rated well for the deed"

"My spouse should know what I need" I laughed too hard at that one. Lots of mind readers out there.

This should be titled misconceptions of marriage the title doesn’t match the video

@shamaimran2741

Жыл бұрын

How

@charlesm5146

Жыл бұрын

There is more than one way to formulate things. I understand the specificity you are trying to get but understanding the misconception or problem is what’s preparing you. Let’s not point fingers or jus the quick to correct. Allahumma Barik!!

@filhanislamictv8712

Жыл бұрын

The title is a question not an answer

@shamaimran2741

Жыл бұрын

Yes I need righteous campanionship I want to go muree someone help mefeed good food in hotel alone it is not possible

I’m not getting married anytime soon but I love watching videos like these😭

@Ikraamahmed254

Жыл бұрын

same here😂

@wxjihx

Жыл бұрын

lol me too XD

@NightWarrior972

Жыл бұрын

Same

Whenever anyone's hate pop into your mind ... just sit back and think of good deeds he/she did to you.

great speech by the sister. will save this in my playlist whenever I need a reality check about marriage 😅😀😀

@vinaizzanurika5627

Жыл бұрын

Same here! though I watched this once today, after some days I might worry or expect too much about marriage again. This is a gentle reminder I have to watch it over and over to keep it in mind

Marriage and entrepreneurship are similar. You will never truly understand it unless you get into it 😂

@nia4025

Жыл бұрын

Exactly

@Anon-xz6hu

Жыл бұрын

😅😅😂😂

@awakenthegreatnesswithin

Жыл бұрын

@@Anon-xz6hu 🤣

Masha ALLAH, but no signs I'm ready to get married.

@ryeofoatmeal

Жыл бұрын

.... same 😅😂😭😭

@AishabintIdris

Жыл бұрын

Manage your expectations 😉

@muhsinashihabudheen7337

Жыл бұрын

😂😂

@itsnevertoolatetolearn4875

Жыл бұрын

😁😁🤣🤣🤣

@Usman-tf3hj

Жыл бұрын

Man , Same

I truly feel ready for marriage. Please pray that I find a spouse soon iA 🤲 😢

@balqees6272

Жыл бұрын

Ameen inshallah same too but my family keeps saying I’m too young 🥲

@Hunredbandz

Жыл бұрын

@@balqees6272 How old are you

@balqees6272

Жыл бұрын

@@Hunredbandz I’m 20 😭

@Hunredbandz

Жыл бұрын

@@balqees6272 Sad. 20 is a girls prime they should let you get married

@balqees6272

Жыл бұрын

@@Hunredbandz ikr 😭

point of marriage is peace ,thank you for this video 😊

This video is 3rd time in my recommendation does it's mean Allah is trying to prepare me for marriage 😊

@rahealgulzar7962

Жыл бұрын

Same here...getting signs every now and then...😊

The marriage won’t bring you happiness but it will bring you a huge faith

@monaayyaz1508

Жыл бұрын

This is 100% truth.

@thebacheafghan

Жыл бұрын

Hapiness is not the goal for muslims.Peace is.

My husband divorced me despite all my concessions and sacrifices. I tried to reconcile but he didn't want to acknowledge my efforts and he gave up on our marriage but al hamdulillah 'ala kulli hal. May Allah Bless Him. Please keep us in your duaas. Allah Is the Greatest ❤️

@achmadmeyer2573

Жыл бұрын

Same i think its time to move on in life i know its not easy but we relaize that what comes around gos around you dont put on the same shoes you had on

This, this right here is a completely new perspective on perfectionism ! Wow JazakAllahou khairan ! Never thought of it that way!

your voice is really calming. I think everything you said can be applied outside of marriage as well, and on an individual level.

Make dua for me get married 43 years have anxiety

@fahimahossain7482

Жыл бұрын

In shaaaa Allah Brother. Allah will grant you the coolness of your eyes and soul. Ameen.

@muhsinashihabudheen7337

Жыл бұрын

May Allah bless you to get a pious spouse..and make you both in love and harmony forever🤲❣️

@sidali2590

Жыл бұрын

@@fahimahossain7482 jazakallah

@sidali2590

Жыл бұрын

@@muhsinashihabudheen7337 jazakallah

@muhsinashihabudheen7337

Жыл бұрын

@@sidali2590 آمين وإياكم 🤲❣️🫂

" يَا أَيُّهَا النَّاسُ إِنَّا خَلَقْنَاكُمْ مِنْ ذَكَرٍ وَأُنْثَى وَجَعَلْنَاكُمْ شُعُوبًا وَقَبَائِلَ لِتَعَارَفُوا إِنَّ أَكْرَمَكُمْ عِنْدَ اللَّهِ أَتْقَاكُمْ إِنَّ اللَّهَ عَلِيمٌ خَبِيرٌ" [سورة الحجرات:13]

All the broader aspects of getting married are very well expalined in this video.

I am so happy following your islamic study. Alhamdulillah. From cilacap indonesia

Although we shouldn't completely depend on our spouse for happiness, but we cannot deny the reality stated in verse 8 of Surah AlNaba that we were created in pairs an so in order to fulfill our complete purpose, we should try and get married.

You have to be whole before getting married.. Awesome MashaAllah ❤

i think this is one of the most important factors ,high expectations , trying to put equality or more and more rights inspired by new values and ideologies, not understanding and realising how marriage really worked and works, comparing it with relationships shown in some TV show, and things like that . also some people are just afraid to even try, because they think too much ,it's natural to think like that considering today's time,but if you didn't even try because of fear then how will you know if it'll work out or not . one problem is people make marriage a very very big and expensive event so if something wrong happens they can't easily get out and even if they do get out they can't think of marrying again , just keep things simple , non expensive ,easy .

Beautiful! Alhamdulillah I’m glad this was recommended to me 😁

BarakAllahu feeki Sister. Beautifully put together 💖

This is the best video on marriage in Islam I have watched .May Almighty Allah bless you abundantly.. Jazakhallahu Khairan.

Macha'allah , that made perfect sense ! Baraka Allahu Fiki.

Quite right sister - unreachable standard !

Wow, you broke all of my misconceptions. I was thinking about being married because of these misconceptions.

conclusion : you gotta be whole firstbecause they wont be your second half lol

@MrSalah-Brit

2 ай бұрын

Is this sarcasm?

JazakAllahu khair and the background is gorgeous

Salaam. I really needed to watch and listen to this. Thank you so much. It really is time to re-condition my brain.

best one yet changed my views in instant.. Allah (SWT) knows best does best ..

MaashaAllah very beneficial. I was waiting for more. It ended and she seemed to still be talking ❤

A little shift in your perspective can add contentment and sense of gratitude in our lives🌸👍

جزاك الله خيرا أستاذة سارة فعلاً نفعني الله بك أحسن الله إليك جزى الله خيرا كل القائمين على هذه المنصة و على هذا العمل. جزى الله خيراً كلَّ عاملِ خير.

الَّذِينَ إِذَا أَصَابَتْهُم مُّصِيبَةٌ قَالُوا إِنَّا لِلَّهِ وَإِنَّا إِلَيْهِ رَاجِعُونَ (156)

I took many notes, thank you!

So educated so calm so strong, Allah blesse you, I learn alot from this

With all due honesty, as a divorced 39yo guy, I am not really ready to get married again and I doubt if I'll ever be. For some reason, it just feels like it's something more than impossible. This is just my case though. Marriage is good, it is Sunnah.

@Millielai12

Жыл бұрын

Every time you think about it (the divorce) make doa Inna Lillahi Wa Inna Ilayhi Raji'oon,O Allah reward me for this musibah and replace it with something better. In sha Allah instead of scared or losing faith , you will get Mercy from Allah and something good from Allah. Allah knows best.

@erimozata5120

Жыл бұрын

@@Millielai12 thank you

@khizzard_069

Жыл бұрын

May Allah make it easier for you

SubhanAllah i got the main point 🙌🏼 ❤️ Salam from Bangladesh 🇧🇩

Much needed knowledge about realistic marriage! Kindly share more content on pre- marriage preparation,what kinda of spouse to look out in today’s world in Islamic perception!

This is great. I'm so thankful to you dear, May Allah SWT give you reward for this I this world and hereafter. I'm truly truly thankful to you.

MashAllah very beautiful & beneficial message there. Thank you

MashaAllah sister Sarah Sultan jazaki Allahu khairen

Very Enlightening for me. Thank you

"Unrealistic expectation" can also be how people will try to get you to accept nonsense or that baseline human decency is unattainable. I've heard it said that it's unrealistic to expect that a potential spouse observes the 5 pillars or it's unrealistic for a religious person to also have *a* job. These are both incredibly realistic and a baseline ask at that. This talk really needs to flesh out this topic a bit more so that people are clear on both extremes and what actually is a reasonable expectation because alot of people are trying to manipulate others and alot of people are getting conned. Let's look out for the community.

I think you should update the title from "Signs You Are Ready To Get Married" to "Expectations you should have from the marriage". I clicked this video by the intention to getting key points from the said title. Instead, I got something else.

what I understand is that: to learn swimming we don't just do it by reading a book/listening to a lecture, we actually have to practice in the pool. That is, although we try to improve ourselves and expectations, we only truly explore ourselves from within once we get married, then we explore ourselves to better ourselves together one step at a time and take our time to discuss each topic thoroughly and enjoyably 🥰

@saltymangoparty

Жыл бұрын

i didn't hear that at all lol. I heard more "work on yourself before you get married, so you can be good in marriage."

@Winchesterosteve

Жыл бұрын

❤ I am single 36 years old and 178 c and 77 kg , I have new home and work , I really looking for marriage and relationships and serious woman her age under 35 years old and

Through your lessons I have recently noticed I am a naive kid ! Thank you for your informative content

So many gems! ❤

Realistic approach is the best

Really eye opening video and very practical too mashaAllah. jAk.

May Allah reward, protect and bless our sister and Sheiykh Waleed Basyouni! ❤

Marriage is the relationship between a man and a woman which is individually unique just like the face. Each couple is also unique relationship.

Assalamualikum, may allah accept our all good deeds and rewards us pious spouses who will be coolness of our eyes! ameen

I needed to hear this

Allahamdulliah, i cleared all my misconceptions,thanks so much...

that was fantastic thankyou

thanks, very good insights.

Content of heart ❤️ alhamdulilah.

"If I get married, I will be happy" married people in audience 😂😂😂 I'm happy n find a peace in my marriage ..alhamdulillah

السلام عليكم ورحمة الله From my humble experience of searching online, I think that as a practicing Muslim who's really not glued to this Dunia, those standards that are essential, you should never lower them. You're looking for something rare?, that's why you should strive and be patient and make Du'a sincerely in stances in which Du'a is mostly acceptable.

Great speech Ma Sha Allah.

Nice explanation and I hope this works for me.

Jazakallah khair sister i feel so content now🥰

Aslamoalicom Dear Sister Thanks for your excellent topic you have been selected to expose this information about great relationship between cuapule. Keeping forward Allah bless you always and your family aswell.

JazakAllah khairun Kaseera for Very beneficial Points mentioned.👍 Infact these points are sensed as Foundation/Base to Build Any Marriage- Relationship On. Sister Sarah , As always A pleasure in listening & learning. BarakAllahu feeki 💐

Sister You 100% right. But todays reality is No Money No wife. I am 32 & I have no house and money, also I might have other physical issues. May be it will never fix. I am mentally prepared to live rest of my alone. it's difficult to live like that and fast rest of the life. I wanted a normal life. I have problems also feelings. I Quite,

@justtheaesome6058

Жыл бұрын

Women typically do look for wealth in a man when looking for marriage.

@begnazaraxmadjonov4501

Жыл бұрын

@@justtheaesome6058 so what should people do who haven't enough wealth to get married ? Not having much money means that you can't marry? Or why girls are more about money than personality although they are Muslimas?

@justtheaesome6058

Жыл бұрын

@@begnazaraxmadjonov4501 I don't know I'm not a scholar

@begnazaraxmadjonov4501

Жыл бұрын

@@justtheaesome6058 I asked just your opinion, what do you think about that ?

@nuuhaa3294

Жыл бұрын

Wishing you the very best. May Allah make it easy for you and grant you a righteous wife.

very beautiful!

Yes. Iam. Ready. Insha. Allah. Kheyr.

I owe you one, i appreciate it..

Jazakallhu khairan ✨

I love listening to her 🌸💕

Thank you for this.. I’m so anxious to find someone.. in the end keep just hurting myself.. May Allah ease all our affairs

@AlMaghribInstituteTV

3 ай бұрын

Ameen!

May God bless us the Umma ❤

respect your partner stayfriendly with partner and talk to her or him when your not agree with him dont break thier trust stay loyal to each other give space to each other dont say abusing words

Thanks

SUB'HAANA ALLAH...!!!What a great speach,advice,knowledge and i must say a mixture of all psychological, physical and spritual contents...hats off to you sister...must listen by all wheather you are parent,child,spouse or a simple human being .....

Yes am ready and waiting for the right one InshaAllah

@waldahsulaiman6525

Жыл бұрын

Me 2 inn sha Allah

@ashwaaaqbae

Жыл бұрын

InshaAllah sis may Allah give us a good spouse

@waldahsulaiman6525

Жыл бұрын

@@ashwaaaqbae Ameen

@filhanislamictv8712

Жыл бұрын

Allah bless you and your future marriage

Super advice

The problem I have is that I’ve realized that I’m not ready for marriage but I’m already married.

@user-youdontknowme

Жыл бұрын

Oof

@Millielai12

Жыл бұрын

Then beg and pray to Allah that He has shown you your flaws and correct them. Beg Him for help by being not knowing anything and only He Knows(that is Haq). In sha Allah He will guide you.

@dudelikeseriously8418

Жыл бұрын

Don't think that way. Allah is the best of planners. You got married when it was best for you and you should focus on growing. Allah ease your situation and grant you Barakah in your marriage.

I didn't watch your video till end but i gave you like and subscribe, because of the way you are wearing (your Hijab).

Thank you ♥️

You're always ready to get married when you have a lot of money. Without money no girl in this world will marry you. That's the harsh reality and we should accept it. Nothing other than money will make you eligible for getting married, that's what I have experienced so far and I'm single at the age of 33. If I don't get a lot of money, I'm afraid, I'll die single.

@razamughal4582

Жыл бұрын

What rubbish, if you were not full of yourself you would be married by now. Lower your standards, go find a woman starving to death in a village and then i DARE YOU to come back to me and say ‘she rejected me’.

Yes I'm ready for marriage

Good job

My husband is my best friend. 🤍

It's been 10 years and I just really hope to get married now. I really hope I find a friend soon 🙏 💛

@Anon-xz6hu

Жыл бұрын

may u get a good one

Thank

JazakaAllah khair sister Sara.

JAK - beautiful couple of points I liked: 1 - Marrying to get closer to Allah ( by staying away from Haram relationship ) and for growth ( Khalifa on the earth) 2 - Not everything on the social-media is ideal (or correct info) for all the situations for all couples: "she" posted on the social-media "husband is bring tea on the bed before he goes to work :):) or never asked her to make him bf when going for work :) :) " and later on found out the couple going through divorce :( :( because of having spousal abuse at home.

Excellent video. Misconception she mentions are great! one of them is : You don't marry to become Happy. 😆