Ep. 320 | Identity Clutter (with

Joshua and Ryan are joined by counselor, podcaster, and author ‪@imcron‬ to discuss identity clutter and the outdated stories people tell themselves. Watch “Maximal” episodes of The Minimalists Private Podcast exclusively at Patreon. • The Minimalists Privat...
Questions answered in this episode:
00:00 How do you start rewriting your story when you feel overwhelmed and insecure about who you are and who you want to be?
06:27 What does the acronym “SOAR” represent?
07:38 What is “act as-if”?
10:20 How do you discover your true identity after traumatically losing your societal identities?
11:41 What is the difference between a role and an identity?
13:41 How can the Enneagram help us discover ourselves?
14:31 How do you define “personality”?
16:29 What is the role of self-awareness in personality and in identity?
23:46 How do beliefs become problematic?
28:51 How do I find peace with who I am?
30:10 How do you define “shame”?
36:04 Listener comments and minimalism tips.
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  • @dayday8332
    @dayday83322 жыл бұрын

    Asking someone what they like to do for fun tells you much more about someone.

  • @TheButterflySoulfire
    @TheButterflySoulfire2 жыл бұрын

    “Act as if…” this is new to me, but very profound. I will try it!

  • @sofianewton6927
    @sofianewton69272 жыл бұрын

    First time listener - very impressed. You managed to blend some amazing tools in one podcast! Bar is set really high - looking forward to more. Thanks.

  • @PinkSallyProductions
    @PinkSallyProductions2 жыл бұрын

    Great episode. I adopted something that I learnt from an Eckart Tolle book, to be happy, let go of your history (I paraphrase of course), it helped me to begin again and leave a lot of my trauma story behind. Thank you for having this conversation. Be well 🌹

  • @TheButterflySoulfire

    @TheButterflySoulfire

    2 жыл бұрын

    Thanks for sharing this.

  • @joena.
    @joena.2 жыл бұрын

    I have been inspired by your podcast. It has helped me from going from owning lots of junk, to owning few items that i truly love and use. It has helped me to see how i needed stuff because i didn't want to face myself. Thank you 💖

  • @michelleb6395
    @michelleb63952 жыл бұрын

    Mo Willems is my hero. I met his Dad in New Orleans and was able to get an autographed copy of his Dad’s book. I was mesmerized.

  • @KitChenBoyGOGO
    @KitChenBoyGOGO Жыл бұрын

    I really appreciate this message, cuz this is my biggest Achilles weakness 😬. It’s so hard to let it go

  • @AYMC14
    @AYMC142 жыл бұрын

    I have to say.... I learned something special about this one because identity is such an interesting topic to me, it goes hand in hand with being a Minimalist. I admire you guys, changing the format for the better everytime, I feel like if you are becoming a minimalist to understand fully this episode you have to go back and digest all the other stuff.... I love this episode, truly

  • @kolitiokada9825
    @kolitiokada98252 жыл бұрын

    My brain is a great story teller.....and sometimes the worst place to be is inside my head. When my brain is trying to rehash some garbage, I tell it "Really! How about if you think of something new and exciting?!", or "Ok, what do I need? What do I need to do to get back to the flow?"

  • @juliee5027
    @juliee50272 жыл бұрын

    Woosh that 40 minutes really just flew by 😲. This episode had great structure and flow as well as, balanced speaking time between you. Well done 🙌. I really feel that I gained a new perspective

  • @dreylane
    @dreylane2 жыл бұрын

    Loving every point made in this podcast. I can't get enough of Ian's logic and discoveries of the Self.

  • @jessicagonzalez1326
    @jessicagonzalez13262 жыл бұрын

    I LOVED this episode!! I'm all in, already downloaded The Story of You" and am taking an Enneagram momentarily. Boy oh boy do I need to rewrite my story, too long to elaborate here haha. Also, I'd go to The Minimalists' retreat in a heartbeat! Please do it!

  • @AwokenEntertainment
    @AwokenEntertainment2 жыл бұрын

    Always such mind-opening topics from you guys.. thank you 💖

  • @phyliciajoykloes
    @phyliciajoykloes2 жыл бұрын

    This has been a powerful podcast. Lovely chat. Thanks for sharing. 🤗

  • @d.zyned2thrive584
    @d.zyned2thrive584 Жыл бұрын

    All to often, I find that personality tests like the enneagram, rather than helping us develop our strengths, become an excuse for our weaknesses and bad habits, a box that we voluntarily put ourselves in to tell us who we are. The enneagram in particular is too arbitrary, seeing as though according to Claudio Naranjo, he developed the enneagram as we know it today through automatic writings while high on drugs. I read the book on the enneagram, I was super excited to have someone explain myself to me. I was disappointed when I came out as ALL of them, and each test told me I was a different number. It all made sense when I learn of it's origin. It's sort of like fortune telling...each number is broad enough to encompass everyone who wants to see themselves in any certain number.

  • @AA-jk9dg
    @AA-jk9dg2 жыл бұрын

    Very good talk guys! Greetings from Finland!

  • @remuswalks3192
    @remuswalks31922 жыл бұрын

    This is the best episode. Thank you to the whole team

  • @aleksandraswiderska3935
    @aleksandraswiderska39352 жыл бұрын

    Thank you guys! For all what you do :) for the knowledge, useful tips, sharing your experience and encouraging to change PS your podcast also helps me with learning english ;) wish you all the best in New Year

  • @barkerpoe9221
    @barkerpoe9221Ай бұрын

    We do “drag it” with us 54 years of therapy and finally understanding a little of the life lie I have been existing on autopilot with

  • @ianwatkins6202
    @ianwatkins6202 Жыл бұрын

    I love this channel and love all the videos ❤ Best wishes to you all! Ian, UK

  • @rcpinzonjr
    @rcpinzonjr2 жыл бұрын

    Great episode! Passed on the URL to someone who, in my opinion, really needs this. Whether they view/listen to it or not, is entirely up to them. I'm not going to hold their hand. This was definitely interesting. Already looking forward to the Maximal! Thanks!

  • @yzabellechrysilla
    @yzabellechrysilla2 жыл бұрын

    I feel like you guys have been watching my life these past few months through a crystal ball. This is the first podcast I’ve intently watched as I start to implement small changes in my life. But I’ve been following you guys for years now and even took your minimalism course about 5 years ago. But anyway, being that this is the first podcast episode I’ve tuned into - I wholeheartedly believe that there was a reason I felt that I should watch, and it’s just insane how the universe really works in our lives. I needed to hear EVERYTHING. Also, my enneagram is 8 and this episode and the book so happens to speak on 8. A coincidence? I don’t think so. Anyways - thank you guys for existing and continuing to be advocates for the minimalist life, not just in materials, but in everything. You are inspiring.

  • @sarahlockridge7879
    @sarahlockridge78792 жыл бұрын

    Fantastic! Just fantastic! I need to listen over and over.

  • @mynamejeb8743
    @mynamejeb87432 жыл бұрын

    as a kid i used to wish i live in a movie like experiences and story becuse the protagonist always figures out his problem along the arch and solve it making me believe that everything's will be fine in the end. As i got older, i still cling to this belief that ironically leads to me doubting myself more and not proud at who i am because life does not have a happy ending, it just continues until it ends eventually.

  • @garyanderson7058
    @garyanderson70582 жыл бұрын

    I need help doing this, rewriting my story of trauma, addiction and mental health struggles.

  • @GoGraceGo
    @GoGraceGo2 жыл бұрын

    Captivating episode!!! 🙌🏽

  • @michelleneuman579
    @michelleneuman5792 жыл бұрын

    This was quite interesting!

  • @carylmaluping9632
    @carylmaluping96322 жыл бұрын

    Thanks for this ❤️

  • @YanickFM
    @YanickFM2 жыл бұрын

    I'm an 8 on that personality test and just yesterday my boss asked why I was so pissed off 😂 I was fine though

  • @kennethbailey9853
    @kennethbailey98532 жыл бұрын

    Thankyo So Much.

  • @yasssqueen3063
    @yasssqueen3063 Жыл бұрын

    Damn! Great show!

  • @carlh-thehermitwithwi-fi679
    @carlh-thehermitwithwi-fi6792 жыл бұрын

    sometimes, crisis is a push for growth. The name of my story? "The Accidentally Overeducated Farmer"

  • @paccarcrap
    @paccarcrap2 жыл бұрын

    Where is this man? I would relish meeting with him.

  • @Pandorash8
    @Pandorash82 жыл бұрын

    Very interesting episode. I am going to use the, “Act as if…” move through my current health journey. Also, I deeply identify with Jonathan’s call. I lost my husband two years ago. The deep loss informs so much of my thoughts and behaviour, so I do feel it as a large part of my current identity. For that reason the “role” of widow is one I label myself with, along with being a mother to two young special needs children, because together they make up so much of who I am atm. I should imagine that in the future these roles will play more of a supporting act, but for now they are a huge part of me. I am still, underneath all that, trying to connect to who I am. But the pain makes it a deep dive. Though I feel it lessening with time and therapy.

  • @jamesmccluskey8055
    @jamesmccluskey80552 жыл бұрын

    I am watching the minimalist less is now documentary on Netflix.

  • @suzaraflores8753
    @suzaraflores87532 жыл бұрын

    Do you come to Miami? Or another city in Florida?

  • @jaqueline1
    @jaqueline12 жыл бұрын

    🤩

  • @lauraover7750
    @lauraover77502 жыл бұрын

    I would come :)

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