Enneagram Types 5 and 8 in a Relationship Explained

Here's a glimpse into what a relationship looks like between a Type 5 Investigator and a Type 8 Challenger.
We'll talk about what these types have in common, what specifically attracts each type to each other, what conflict looks like between them, and then conclude with some potentially helpful advice based on the enneagram theories discussed throughout the episode. DISCLAIMER: This is a general overview that cannot cover the complexity of each subtype & variation (e.g. a self-pres 8w7 with a social 5w4 could be very different than some of these general descriptions), nor can I cover how the varying degrees of each specific couple's mental/emotional health would impact so many of these patterns. So with that disclaimer out of the way, please feel free to share how these patterns do or don't play out in your personal life, all while keeping any combative disagreements to a minimum :) Thank you, and enjoy!
0:00 Shared Traits
2:39 Five's Attraction to Eight
4:52 Eight's Attraction to Five
7:26 Conflict
9:58 Advice
12:36 Rating
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-Written by Colton Simmons, but with all due credit to the Don Riso & Russ Hudson of the Enneagram Institute for their many books that informed the majority of the content contained in this video, as well as Richard Rohr, Helen Palmer, Claudio Naranjo, Oscar Ichazo, and the many major enneagram pioneers!

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  • @CaraVinh
    @CaraVinh4 ай бұрын

    I’m type 5, and I will meet type 8 next week! So excited but also nervous (I’m Indonesian he is American) Edit: I met him in Bali! We had so much fun, it was wholesome, and deep conversation, talk about philosophy, meaning of life, etc. Update: he is ghosting after a month😞

  • @majorbob7211

    @majorbob7211

    3 ай бұрын

    Great!

  • @CaraVinh

    @CaraVinh

    3 ай бұрын

    @@majorbob7211 thank you! 12h differences, we planning to meet again as soon as possible!❤️

  • @willow1698

    @willow1698

    Ай бұрын

    @@CaraVinh lol when did he ghost?

  • @CaraVinh

    @CaraVinh

    Ай бұрын

    @@willow1698 a month ago.. last conversation 19 April

  • @rcgrant82
    @rcgrant823 ай бұрын

    Ha! Very accurate. It would be nice to have a longer one on this (yeah, I’m the five) that digs deeper into the ways in which the two combine. It’s honestly the healthiest relationship I’ve ever been in. We have such great synergy, with the right amount of spark. Both of us want to progress in life and be the best versions of ourselves we can and that striving really pulls us together.

  • @YouveGotaType

    @YouveGotaType

    3 ай бұрын

    So you're the one that wants longer videos ;) Jk - I would love to make these wayyyy longer as it takes me so long to edit them down to this "bite-size" viewing experience. Glad to hear you're in the healthy space of this type combination!

  • @rebekahpedersen5878
    @rebekahpedersen58782 ай бұрын

    Yes on the meaningful debate! Married to a five for 15 years, and it can be such a treat. We’ve been able to accomplish way more together than I could have ever done by myself. He doesn’t box me in with things that don’t make solid sense. And he’s taught me instead of road rage you can memorize their license plate, 😂. It can be challenging when you both need softness and permission to be emotional, stress often strikes both at the same time so no one has reserve to be vulnerable around the same time. Fantastic video 😊

  • @YouveGotaType

    @YouveGotaType

    Ай бұрын

    Thanks for sharing! So glad you enjoyed it.

  • @duckduel5820
    @duckduel5820Ай бұрын

    “You’re smart; possibly smarter than me” -My 8 friend to me, a 5

  • @YouveGotaType

    @YouveGotaType

    Ай бұрын

    haha sounds about right

  • @danydanielle8522
    @danydanielle85223 ай бұрын

    I always say that 5/8 pairings are awsome, and ironically, very spicy even for 5s as you say. Great video!

  • @YouveGotaType

    @YouveGotaType

    3 ай бұрын

    Thanks!

  • @LaurenBradburyFarm
    @LaurenBradburyFarm4 ай бұрын

    Yay! The one I've been waiting for ❤

  • @YouveGotaType

    @YouveGotaType

    4 ай бұрын

    Hope it was worth the wait!

  • @LuisGustavoBD

    @LuisGustavoBD

    4 ай бұрын

    I could say the same about any video on a combination that involves Type 5 :P

  • @aridmcb
    @aridmcb4 ай бұрын

    How did I miss this one? 5/8 relationship here. Very accurate - good job! Curious about your take on how the 8's disintegration to 5 impacts the relationship?

  • @YouveGotaType

    @YouveGotaType

    4 ай бұрын

    I guess it snuck past those subscriber alerts 👀 and thanks so much! It's tough to sum up that disintegration connection, because sometimes it can be a source of empathy/intimacy, and other times it can be like the 8 trying to fix the 5 as a way of avoiding fixing their own "disintegrated" traits.

  • @wonderasaurus
    @wonderasaurus4 ай бұрын

    Can you make one for 5 and 3?

  • @YouveGotaType

    @YouveGotaType

    4 ай бұрын

    It's in the queue!

  • @jessicarich1506
    @jessicarich1506Ай бұрын

    Can you make a 5 and 6 relationship video please 🙏

  • @YouveGotaType

    @YouveGotaType

    Ай бұрын

    Yup, I'm doing all type combos :)

  • @LuisGustavoBD
    @LuisGustavoBD4 ай бұрын

    3:15 I refuse to acknowledge that True Detective has more than one season, no matter what you say. It has just the first season, in all its glory. Anything after that is not true True Detective (:

  • @YouveGotaType

    @YouveGotaType

    4 ай бұрын

    I have to agree with you on that. Especially after wasting 6 hours of my life on the newest season 🤦‍♂️

  • @LuisGustavoBD

    @LuisGustavoBD

    4 ай бұрын

    @@YouveGotaType I'm not the biggest fan of ascribing personality types to fictional characters, but just out of curiosity, if you don't mind: what types/wings would you say Ruzt and Marty are? 🤔

  • @YouveGotaType

    @YouveGotaType

    4 ай бұрын

    Again I agree with ya on not assigning types to fictional characters, but ironically I did do a True Detective short on their types here because I just couldn't help it: kzread.infoALRXMvPKuag @@LuisGustavoBD

  • @KimEvazians
    @KimEvazians3 ай бұрын

    OMG. I think I just met an Autistic 5. We are extreme polar opposites. My extraversion is 98%. He says his extraversion is 0.01%.