O.M.G this video was soooo good! I'm a type 3 and my husband is a type 5. You described the 5 so well. I really appreciate the side point you made about 3s "always have to look nice" and 5s look like slobs lol. I can honestly say that as a 3 I don't always look nice. When I'm at home my hair may be all over my head (or in a scarf) and I've got on yoga pants and a t-shirt. But like you said about your son, I have an inner confidence that tells me I'm still attractive so I don't care in that moment if I look "the part" or not. Of course when I go to church or social events I make sure I look good. My husband is the same way, in fact he takes longer than me getting ready lol! He cares so much about his haircut being right, his clothes being pressed out and even his cologne being perfect for his outfit/mood. As a 5 he puts a lot into his appearance and wants to be seen as polished and well put together. I'm so glad you mentioned that point because neither me nor my husband could ever resonate with the common mention that "5s don't care about their appearance". I love your videos Hillary, please keep up the great work, you're doing so well! 👏🏾👍🏾👍🏾

@enneagramandcoaching

4 жыл бұрын

I LOVED reading this! Thank you! And my 5 son is exactly like your husband! All of it. They so care about their appearance but you said it best...polished and put together. Thank you again for taking time out of your day to comment...it was a fun one to read 💛

As an MBTI Certified Practitioner trained by the Myers and Briggs Foundation, I can affirm that the MBTI is *not* about behavior. It is about cognitive preferences; that is, how someone processes information and makes decisions, and whether the locus of those cognitive functions are internal or external. For the Enneagram, one's motivations will drive behavior just as one's cognitive preferences will drive behavior - but the system is not *about* behavior. Hope that helps!

@Journey1968

3 жыл бұрын

Thank you for clarifying. I’ve been wondering what is the difference but never had a trained practitioner address it.

@jamessanders145

Жыл бұрын

I immediately jumped in my seat when I heard her say that. I truly appreciate her effort putting all this information out there but things like this are what cause the confusion and misinformation that plagues all typology settings.

@user-bl8xy6je8w

3 ай бұрын

You think it would be possible to put mbti into the enneagram..example entj are 8. Intp/istp 5? I tried to do this but sometimes I can guess the mbti but I m wrong with the enneagram.

@ecviets

3 ай бұрын

@@user-bl8xy6je8w There are certainly MBTI types which overlap more often (or less often) with certain enneagram types; however, there is not a one-to-one correlation between MBTI types and enneagram types.

I’m a type 5 that is super close to being a 9... so I am a much more “peace keeping” / “agreeable” version of 5 than most descriptions give. I also am always focused on being “polite” so that I don’t spend a lot of energy on unpleasant interactions.

@joaopedro-zm7dy

2 жыл бұрын

I'm 594 and used to think i was a 9 and almost thought i was a 4.

My son is a 5 and he doesnt do social media either. He doesnt have facebook or instagram. Great information! Thank you for sharing!

@enneagramandcoaching

3 жыл бұрын

Wow! It’s such a 5 thing!

@termitesc.aardwolf3644

3 жыл бұрын

I'm a 5 and I go on Twitter all the time to chat with others about cartoons.

@fleurdelacour491

3 жыл бұрын

Type 5 too and I go on Twitter a lot to talk about what I'm passionate of

Love love love your energy, warmth and enthusiasm as you share your knowledge about all things enneagram. I consider myself blessed that I found your channel and also that your younger son is my enneagram type 5. I listen to master teachers like Beatrice Young, Ian Cron and Suzanne Stabile but I resonate with your presentation style the most. Maybe it’s the energy you bring and the beauty of the warm bright happy room environment. Your channel is classy, intellectual, joyful and comforting all in one. As a type 5, my energy may be drained from the day causing me to feel a bit pessimistic especially after being so aware of my social interaction failings/limitations at work, but my hope is always lifted by your personality. So THANK YOU for pushing forward to create your channel. You make a difference in the world. Thank you again!!

@enneagramandcoaching

3 жыл бұрын

Omg. You have no idea how much your words mean to me. Such kindness. Brings tears to my eyes. Thank you for taking the time to write this. I absolutely adore 5s and get you guys at such a deep level. I’m so grateful for the tool of the Enneagram because I just think it’s been pivotal in understanding my son. Now I’m rambling...again thank you I really appreciate you! ❤️

huh, fun fact, I'm a 5w4 social and I mistyped myself for a long time for a 7. Turns out it's just that the last few years I haven't exactly been in a very healthy place. this... this was very enlightening. THANK YOU :)

Thanks. As a 5 I found it very interesting to hear the comparisons to other types.

@enneagramandcoaching

4 жыл бұрын

You’re so welcome!

I have a 17yr old type 5 and she sounds so much like your son. We’ve been totally into enneagram since we’ve discovered it a year ago!

@enneagramandcoaching

4 жыл бұрын

That's awesome!

I am a 5w4 and what cleared it up for me was the question where do you go during stress. I get confused, all over the place and nervous. I'm definately not clingy. I want to solve the problems myself and only ask for help if I can't work it out by myself. Thank you for valueble and interesting information. Keep it up! 🙂

My SIL had me take the test years ago and she thought I was a 1. I think I thought I was a 1, too. But I'm very much a 5 now. She says you don't really change types, but I don't think it is stress for me. I'm a loner. I've always bought books and have my own library. I hate being interrupted. There is never a day when I get enough time alone, including days when I am able to be around no one. I think people are overrated and don't see the point of developing new relationships when I already have more than I can manage. I don't feel like I'm arrogant, but people are intimidated by me. I have a kind of flat affect except around people I know and like. Listening to these possible mistypes makes me think, yeah, I am a 5. I really dislike emotional responses to difficulties that actually NEED analysis and thoughtful attention. I don't know why I thought I was a 1 before other than it was a time of my life when I was very involved in things in my community.

@enneagramandcoaching

3 жыл бұрын

Without knowing you but reading this comment you sound like a 5. Test don't always work. I don't even have my clients take them most of them time. My son (18 years old) took the test years ago and his top 3 were 1, 8, 5...the bottom of those 3 was the type 5. And after reading up on all of them he most definitely was a 5. You are doing the best thing by researching the types. Only you will really know :) Thank you for sharing!!!

I am looking forward to your type 6 mistypes video - I feel like I'm equally a 5 and a 6, but looking back to my childhood I was more of a 9 peacemaker so I guess my dominant type is a 6. I appreciate your videos 😊

I have been struggling for quite a long time if I am 4 or 5. I actually thought that I am 4 (4w5). But I started thinking that I may be 5 (5w4) and I found out that I am 5. When I first found out about Enneagram I thought that I'm 9 but I found out that I'm not. So yeah I'm definitely in withdrawn stance. It also helped me when I compared three triads (heart, head and gut). After some time I found out that I am just like 5 but I probably just saw myself as more emotional or calm person that I actually am. Your videos helped me a lot and this video also proved that I really am 5. Now I'm so happy that I found who I really am and thank you.

@enneagramandcoaching

4 жыл бұрын

Thank you for sharing your journey :) I'm so happy you've landed on your type too!

Female 5w6 sp/sx here. You absolutely nailed it. Thanks for including the arrows!!! Great job all around! Much appreciated. I’m Going to share this with those who don’t understand why I operate so “differently” from them, which frequently leads to misunderstandings and unnecessarily hurt feelings. Thanks.

@enneagramandcoaching

2 жыл бұрын

Awesome! Thank you!

I'm a 5 and when I was in elementary school my classmates started to be really fascinated in Facebook, Snapchat, they were making the accounts with fake birth dates becouse as I remember clearly you can't have an account until you're 13? Nevermind. I was thinking back then why are they doing this? I told myself that messenger, Facebook and all the other stuff doesn't make any sense until I have my friends phone number and didn't want to make an account even after 13 but somehow the social fomo (heh 5's social fomo heh) got me and I did it. Now I am more open to social media, but still I'm not using them too much.

❤️ Love how you discuss in stress and health, that really makes a difference in accurate typing :). Interesting enough (and not surprising) the majority of 5s I know initially took the test multiple times to be sure their results were accurate 😂 Many other E types take it once and they are satisfied. Not 5s!!!

@enneagramandcoaching

3 жыл бұрын

So true!!!! 😂

@pinggg331

2 жыл бұрын

Hang on I did took multiple tests to be sure..wow this is interesting.

@HighFiveFriend

2 жыл бұрын

@@pinggg331 🙌

@donotneedtoknow7541

2 жыл бұрын

I think I'm a 9, but I've taken many tests and multiple times. I'll go back and retake, switching a few answers I was iffy on to see if and how it alters my results.

@HighFiveFriend

2 жыл бұрын

@@donotneedtoknow7541 I’m cracking up at your profile name! Hmmmm 😂

Thanks Hilary, really informative video. I got a lot from it. Pieces of my puzzle coming together. Also, resonated with your son's experiences (despite being a 57-year-old woman). As a 5w4 I could never be interviewed off the cuff or on a public video, not even for my gorgeous wee mum. That would be an excruciating experience. At the least, I would need 3 months to process and prepare, know all the questions in advance and maybe then I would think about it. xx

After doing a fair bit of research into several types, I'm pretty sure I'm the 1:1 variant of the 5w4. I have a friend who is a type 4 (unsure of their wing or instinctual subtype, but I'd guess 4w5 and either sp or sx). He and I are very similar in many ways, but we approach problems from very different ways, even if we come to the same conclusions. My core motivation definitely lines up a lot more with 5 than 4 and seeing how I get incredibly scattered when I'm tired or stressed... My mom is a type 9 (strong w1) and this pretty much nails the differences. I'm very invested in keeping strong boundaries, good at saying no and overall skeptical and cynical about people, while she struggles with boundaries and saying no and is way more trusting of people than I am.

thank you for this video Hilary! 🙆🏻‍♀️💖🌺 i was pretty sure i’m a 9w1 but the more i read to confirm the more uncertain i became and i thought i could be a 5 because i love learning, can become withdrawn and i always found it difficult to say no to people. and while i was watching this video i thought i could be a 4 as well (almost wanted to cry because i stayed up last night and spent the entire morning trying to figure this out 😝) so thank you for explaining how to distinguish between a 9 and 5 so clearly because it really helped clear things up! 🥰🌺💖

@enneagramandcoaching

3 жыл бұрын

Thank you so much for sharing this! I’m so happy this helped you land on your type 🙌🏼

I’m a 9. I don’t feel like I fully trust people easily yet- I also assume the best of them at the same time.

Definitely helped! Thank you!!

@enneagramandcoaching

2 жыл бұрын

Yay!

*_Hey Hillary :) Great video!! Found you through Cathrin's comments section and wanted to swing by and show some support! Wishing you tons of success on your KZread journey ^_^_*

@enneagramandcoaching

4 жыл бұрын

I just checked out your channel too! Great channel! Thanks for the support!

@TimRoseOfficial

4 жыл бұрын

Hillary McCaskey Thank you Hillary! That’s very kind of you!! It’s a total blast isn’t it?? 😊

I relate equally to 5 and 9.

Thanks Hillary!

@enneagramandcoaching

4 жыл бұрын

You’re welcome! 😃

I love your channel, thanks for all the great insight. I’m new to the enneagram but believe I’m a 5w6-SP. I don’t resonate with every single thing that I’ve heard or read about type 5’s but then again my self-understanding/awareness could be better. I’m scattered and disorganised and a serial procrastinator, and pretty restless… (it’s like I would love to have order and be organised but reality says otherwise, lol) is that normal for a 5? Got so much to learn and discover about myself but so excited about it all.

Doggie cuteness!

@enneagramandcoaching

3 жыл бұрын

❤️❤️❤️

I'm trying to figure out if I'm a 5 or a 9 but I'm cracking up because of that 7 reading 5-7 books at any given time. That's very me! I get super bored just reading one.

I'm a type 5 and I mistyped as a type 9 before since I noticed that I trust easily.. it's not because i think all people are good, it's just that I can't see any motive for them to lie to me... welp, that's been proven wrong as I have been lied to before bcoz of a prank so now, I became more guarded and I don't fully trust a person anymore even if I don't see any motive Fool me once, shame on you. Fool me twice, shame on me :))

@joaopedro-zm7dy

2 жыл бұрын

Me too

I think I commented on one of your other videos that I thought I might be a five, but after taking an online test and reading about the five vs. the nine, I became sure that I’m a nine. I have to remind myself that we can feel like so many of the other types, except eight, I have never thought I might be an eight. I’ll be watching a video about another type and start thinking, “maybe I was wrong, this really sounds like me”, but then I remember, “oh yeah, that’s what I thought yesterday about another type, which likely means I was right in the first place - I am a nine!” 😂

@enneagramandcoaching

4 жыл бұрын

This is so good and true for a 9 LOL! I used to do this all the time.

@RandolphTheWhite1

3 жыл бұрын

I went through the same thing but backwards. I thought I was a self preservation nine and ended up being a five. I mistook my naturally small energy levels, that I actively work to preserve, for laziness. I'm also reclusive and awkward. I avoid parties like the plague.

I read that a lot of core desires are similar among all the types and core fear is the best way to determine

Any tips on how to know if i'm a 5w4 or 4w5 ?

Are tests for kids reliable..one daughter is 17 and 1 is 15. Thank you for your advise

I think the idea of 3's "caring how they look" has more to do with "how they're percieved as a person". I have a sister who is a 3 and I'm not going to say "she doesn't care about her physical appearance"...I'd say she care's about that at a normal level, but how she is perceived "as a person" is "through the roof". I am a type 5 and I too have a normal level of concern about my outward appearance. Not low but not excessively high either....but my concern over how I'm perceived as a person by others is also "average"....It's far less of a concern for me. Of course I want people to see me accurately, as ANY type appreciates recognition of "who they are", but I would say it's ultimately "more" important to me what I think about myself than how others see me. My 3 sister, not so. Others perception of her is clearly very important to her.

TY, 🥰 Yes type 5s are Self Aware Namaste 🕊️Peace 🤸 Shalom🐵

@enneagramandcoaching

2 жыл бұрын

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I thought I was a 5 but after listening to you, I think I may actually be a 1. I have the tendencies of a 5 to do so much research on useless things and to actually push down bodily needs, but if I'm tired, I'll normally push through it if I have something I need to explain. On top of that, a lot of the research I do reinforces my beliefs and what is right. So I really don't know right now

@Nikki-fx6yy

2 ай бұрын

Maybe 51x trifix? I know a 1 who does this exactly, but she’s also a Ti user on MBTI. Basically the core motivation of type 1 is to do what’s right, so if that’s your core motivation in life and not just in research you might be a curious 1. (Which makes sense cause when someone wants to know how to be their best self, they better research).

MBTI is NOT about behaviors, contrary to what Hillary said. It’s about thought process. Big five is the one that’s about behaviors.

@benben-dn1ck

2 ай бұрын

But is it not your thought process that makes you act/behave in a certain way?

@august8679

2 ай бұрын

​@@benben-dn1ck yes but the same thought process can manifest in different behaviors for different people

@benben-dn1ck

2 ай бұрын

Then that will make MBTI unreliable,i mean for example two INFJs may interact in a completely different manner(same thinking pattern but different manifestation).If this is true then what is the whole point MBTI?

I have taken 4 different enneagram tests till now and 2 of them typed me as a 1 and 2 as a type 5.😅 One of those tests was the kind that gives percentages of all the types a person resonates with and according to it my top 3 types are 1, 5, and 3 (1 and 5 about 90%, 3 about 80%). My MBTI type is INTJ and so I searched what enneagram types are INTJs generally identified with and the answers were 5 and 1🤦‍♀️ (more 5 than 1 though). That is when I started observing myself more. Now I am fairly sure that I'm a 5 but I don't know which wing and there are times when I feel like I am a 1. So yeah, quite confused.😂 P.S.- If its important, I'm not available on most of the social media platforms like FB, Twitter, Snapchat, etc. The only platform I use is Instagram and even there its all about the books I'm reading and very little personal stuff.

@enneagramandcoaching

3 жыл бұрын

5s and 1 can be be confused with each other. Surprisingly they have similarities. Thanks fir sharing. I’m glad you landed on your type.

when are you doing a video about subtypes?!😩

@enneagramandcoaching

3 жыл бұрын

I’m currently planning them. They are coming! LOL

Curious what you think. I'm either a 5 or an 8. I've been told I'm a smart person who likes learning things, however I've caught onto myself that I tend to learn things for the utility they have. I tend to be more goal oriented than process oriented. I'm an introvert, specifically my MBTI type is INTJ. I have some pathological rebellious tendencies. If someone requests something of me I can become even more opposed to doing it, even if I wanted to do it before. I desire a moderate amount of wealth, to live a relatively minimalist life without too many luxuries, but to have a good enough income that I'm free from having to depend on certain power systems. I desire independence and autonomy. I fear losing my autonomy. I fear being controlled by above, and therefore I'm very sociologically inclined, directing much of my studies to politics and solving political issues. My beliefs compared to most are pretty radical. I will propose ideas that others think are crazy, but through my own calculations, make perfect sense to me. I also have some Four-ish tendencies. I'm protective of my identity, sometimes I feel like I can't stack up to others in the ordinary world due to being so different (both physically and mentally) and this I think contributes to my strong desire to always go against the norms if I am to achieve a good enough living to free myself. Curious what you think I am. I'm either a 5 or an 8, but I feel I've got a strong 4 in my tritype also. As well as that, what's my instinctual variant? If you want to ask more questions because I haven't given enough information, feel free to.

@Redberryfarm888

4 жыл бұрын

Random viewer here jumping in... my guess is to consider if you are a 6 w 5 - self pres? ( Going by the words you chose and political issues...) Mentioning tri-types you could be a 6-4- 8 the Truth Teller... or the 5-4-8 would be The Scholar. (Or other combos depending on which triad your first reaction is out of.) Have you taken Katherine Fauvre's newest free test (version 6)? Shows your instinctual stacking as well. ~

@JourneyLT

4 жыл бұрын

I'll do that test and see what I get.

@JourneyLT

4 жыл бұрын

Awesome test, I've just finished it. My results were 8,5,4 Self-Preservation - Social, which is pretty accurate to how I felt already. Can self-preservation Eights be confused with other types, like Fives and Sixes? Maybe. I am an introvert, and Eights are usually seen as extroverts? Also I've been told by many people I could be a Six, but in every test I've done, I've never scored a Six, and if it measures all of the types, Six usually finishes about in the middle or slightly lower. I'm struggling to find much information on the Self-Preservation Eight, is it a rare type or something?

@Redberryfarm888

4 жыл бұрын

@@JourneyLT - I am no expert and have just watched a lot of Fauver's youtube 'hangouts' trying to learn more about it all. Katherine is an 8-7-4 and shares two of the same types with you though she is extroverted. The 8 is protective... is comfortable with anger (VS trying to avoid it or deflect it...)... and so forth. The 8 with the 4 will be a much different 8 than another combo of 8 would be. Not in a bad way - but perhaps a bit less edgy... more softer. The 8 -3-6 combo is most intense -the 3 moving outward ( All my own opinion here...) www.katherinefauvre.com/blog/tag-468-title-00-introverted-sx-8w9-with-the-846-tritype Yes - you can be an introverted 8 in my opinion. The 6 thing pops up a lot because it is commonly a hard one to type and a lot of people are a 6 think they are another type. (Your interest in politics just sounded like a 6 word/ cause to me... each type uses the same kinds of word choices according to Fauvre's research.) Your tritype of 8-5-4 in a self- pres first will look different than the same combo in a SO or SX. Kinda confusing, but we are all so uniquely wired. Also leading with the 8 would look different than the lead with a 5 or 4 would look like, but overall the same characteristics would be present. Then just to add even more to the whole wonderful puzzle - sometimes you will use your wings (perhaps the 7 ) and that shows up as another side of you at times. Hope this helped a bit ~ I listen to Fauver's youtube 'hangouts' with advanced class attendees from around the world... and glean a lot.

@enneagramandcoaching

4 жыл бұрын

Clearly Red Berry Farm has this covered! Wow. Loved reading all this.

I want the free test link pls

@enneagramandcoaching

3 жыл бұрын

I don't have my own test but here is a link to a free test :) www.truity.com/

Lol got type 5 96+%

@enneagramandcoaching

3 жыл бұрын

LOL!

I would love to see a video that can somehow get the MBTI and Enneagram together. I'm a five and I knew it since the first time I saw my possible results. In the MBTI I'm an ISTP. I wonder what's your son's MBTI :) I'm curious

@enneagramandcoaching

4 жыл бұрын

Oh that’s a great idea! Let me ask him what it is!

@KaMi-gz1il

4 жыл бұрын

@@enneagramandcoaching that would be great! =D

@enneagramandcoaching

4 жыл бұрын

My son is an INTP. :)

@KaMi-gz1il

4 жыл бұрын

Hillary McCaskey Omg! It totally makes sense! Thank you so much for asking him, Hillary! ❤️ It already means a lot you replied to my comment :)

@karbear04

3 жыл бұрын

I am a 5 and ISTJ. I used to be INTJ but since having a kid and becoming a MS teacher I became an ISTJ pretty consistently.

ESPecially...it's ESPecially, not EXPecially LOL. Oh goodness, I (a type 5) am working my way through all your type 5 videos and...every time! Hahaha oh goodness. It's like nails on a chalkboard hahaha. Sorry, not trying to be mean. I actually really like your videos so keep up the good work! Just had to comment on that one little part lol. Also, for anyone out there: It's not EXPresso...it's ESPresso. Just to clear that up =)

@enneagramandcoaching

3 жыл бұрын

Hahahahaha! This made me laugh! Sorry it’s like nails on a chalkboard! 😳

@karbear04

3 жыл бұрын

Dude, someone needs to watch Bambi and learn some life lessons from Thumper. Ms. Hillary, you were very gracious in your response! As a 5 I am probably gonna sit around and process how I feel about such a douchey comment for awhile. Thanks for your videos and sharing your knowledge!!

But I’m cynical and also spaghetti-like 😩