As a 9, I laughed when you said, “often will laugh at my jokes when no one else will.” 😂

@twlahue

4 ай бұрын

True

@moonbeanification

4 ай бұрын

9w1 here and yep, I laughed out loud too 😂 Thanks Dr. LaHue

@LHM-fj7cj

4 ай бұрын

9w1… same😊!

@hawkk3866

3 ай бұрын

Same 😂

@joelpartain

3 ай бұрын

9w1: your jokes (and sense of humor) is awesome!

Not me loosing myself in learning about my enneagram. It is so pleasant to sit for almost an hour and listening about my problems that won't go away by themselves 😊 But hey, I need this information. It will help me solve my problems... Somewhere in the future.

@twlahue

3 ай бұрын

Well said!

9w1 here: what helps me tremendously is hanging out with 3s. Their drive to accomplish and be successful has a way of nurturing that sleeping energy within me. They seem to be more excited about me accomplishing my dreams than I am…

That's a great video. I'm 9w1, when I'm in a conflict, I feel like I'm not in control of myself. My voice starts to shake, my throat tight, tears about drop, and my whole body is shaking. And I don't feel comfortable when people see me like that. So that's why I often avoid conflicts. However I truly believe constructive conflicts are necessary to build up our characters and maybe going to the 9w8.

@twlahue

4 ай бұрын

Right

@jessicajohnson8773

4 ай бұрын

Oh I feel this totally

9w8 here. I really appreciate this motivation, thanks! 😁

@twlahue

4 ай бұрын

You're so welcome!

Brilliant as always! It always amazes me how insightful your lectures are. My husband is a very healthy 9w1. From my perspective as an 8w7, everything you've addressed is spot-on. It has worked for us well for over 30 years because it allows me to be the 'rocket to the moon' without my husband clipping my wings while allowing him to do what he came as a 9 to this planet to do. Enneagram rocks, and your Tom takes on it are my most favorite. Thank you for taking over Richard Rohr who's teachings were the reason for initiating my fascination with the Enneagram.

@twlahue

4 ай бұрын

WOW...Thanks so much! Glad you are on the TEAM.

I'm a 9w8 and was married for 32 years to a drama wife and kept the peace in my house the best I could, I fulfilled my husband duty. Now that I left I cherish my peace. I still help when I'm needed, but I do appreciate my own hobbies and my privacy! Glad to hear this channel

@twlahue

6 күн бұрын

It sounds like you've been through a lot, but it's great to hear that you're finding peace and enjoying your hobbies now!

Thank you for the work that you do, ESPECIALLY given it's not behind a pay-wall!!! Your videos have helped me tremendously.

@twlahue

4 ай бұрын

You are so welcome!

If I could trust that I will not be emotionally threatened or punished (silent treatment for example) I would take on the fear and start speaking up. The problem is that I’m surrounded by people who will not appreciate my strength and then I will be alone.

@twlahue

5 күн бұрын

It's tough when you feel like you can't speak up without facing consequences. Remember, your voice matters.

I'm going to need more ice packs for all these burns...growing enneagram 9 speaking.

@twlahue

3 ай бұрын

Hurts so good

This 9w1,had to go through a lot because of unconscious numbing.Got a hang of facing conflict and coming out from narc- partner.Feeling way better now.

@twlahue

4 ай бұрын

Awesome

Brilliant nuance in peace maker vs keeper. That really struck home Tom! At my best that's definitely what I do. PS I was lost for a whole minute after you said you want to CHALLENGE me 😱😂

@twlahue

3 ай бұрын

Awesome

Spot on. Thank you from a 9

@twlahue

4 ай бұрын

You’re welcome 😊

Tom, i am a 9-1. I have never understood myself as much as when I hear your commentary on the 9 type. It was like this person understands me and there are other 9’s out there and I’m not alone in my crazy idiosyncrasies. Thank you.

@twlahue

3 ай бұрын

Awesome

I find myself retreating from my conflicted marriage because my boundaries aren't respected. When I hear blame, guilt, shame, instant anger, false accusations I enforce my boundaries by checking out of the conversation. I don't see how to engage with this type of communication and maintain my mental health or not exhibit unhealthy communication of ky own.

@kellikakes81

3 ай бұрын

This!! I ONLY (well mostly) exhibit these 9 characteristics when THIS happens! So if there isn't anyone trying to be this way, I don't "fall asleep" to anything. In fact, I feel I'm one of the only people, in my circle, who speaks their mind, compared to some others (at least initially). But receiving pushback so many times, I'm definitely going to shut down IF I can't get away from you for whatever reason (spouse fits this category)

Woah. The narcotizing you described really hit home. There's a song by Noah Kahan called "Growing Sideways." The chorus sums up everything you described about us 9s: "But I ignore things, and I move sideways. Until I forget what I felt in the first place. At the end of the day I know there are worse ways to stay alive. If my engine works perfect on empty I guess I'll drive." It's easy to become stagnant if it means avoiding problems. I know I've become accustomed to growing sideways rather than moving forward 😕

@twlahue

3 ай бұрын

Thanks for sharing this.

I can totally relate I always have an underlying urge to “run away”.

Hi! Dr Tom~ Thank you for your videos. I just recently was introduced to the Enneagram and find your videos very helpful and informative.

@twlahue

2 ай бұрын

You are very welcome

This hurt. Alot. It was a punch to the stomach. Appreciate it. Hope I am motivated enough to do something about it.

@twlahue

3 ай бұрын

Awesome

Thank you for the freebie. 😃 I love this series.

@twlahue

4 ай бұрын

You are so welcome!

Excellent. Thank you.

@twlahue

4 ай бұрын

You are welcome!

9w8 here. I love your videos Tom. I really need change right now but I’m stuck in avoidance, very slothy. So much so that although I can watch videos about other types, lately I can’t manage to focus on any videos about 9s.

@twlahue

3 ай бұрын

You can do it!

It's true. I really need to deal with the dishes that's been sitting in the sink for the last week or so, but I would rather just work on my novel.

@twlahue

7 күн бұрын

It's always a struggle to choose between chores and passion projects!

Sitting! 🥰❤️

@twlahue

4 ай бұрын

YES

🎉 9w8. Narcotizzation through the gym and overeating. 8:48 😢😢😢 The struggle is real. I mean with the overeat part. Used to take drugs and alcohol. So, I guess the change is for better. Thank you for your videos. Gonna move on to the motivation part now. 🎉

@twlahue

3 ай бұрын

Thanks for sharing this.

If I’m going to speak up I automatically assume the relationship is over and even if it’s not I will make it be over

@twlahue

2 ай бұрын

WOW

Thank you Tom! Always such great teaching from you. I’m a 9 w/1 When you gave the example of, “hey I’m just gonna leave for the circus”. First of all that was hysterical and I laughed out loud. I will be listening to that part again 😂 I have a question about the different E. types and how they fit in with “doers and thinkers”. I, being a 9 and a thinking, would never decide to make such a big decision like that. Hey I think I’m going to pick up and join the circus or move to another state or start a business. A mentor of mine once said he believes there are two types of people in this world- doers and thinkers. So I’m wondering if I’m not only a 9-slothful AND a thinker, making it even worse 😭 Sometimes opportunities arise and I have to think about it so long to make sure it’s the right decision that the opportunity might pass before I decide “yes”.

@twlahue

3 ай бұрын

9w1 "The Dreamer"

Never heard of the word narcotization…

@twlahue

3 ай бұрын

Yes... The struggle is real.

Hi, I have a question. In the begining maybe a year ago, when I discovered the enneagram because of your videos I though I was a 9. After a while and searching more about it, then I started to feel that I was a 6, and now I feel like a 9 again. Is it possible to enneagram number to change, or it is always the same number forever. Maybe I just don't know enough about it still. I like to watch your videos alot. You helped through some of the most hard times in my life. Thank you :3

@twlahue

3 ай бұрын

Wow, thanks... My guess a 9 under pressure.

Hey Tom keep doing the biblical perspective on the Ennegram if only holy Spirit and Jesus lead you to do it and as the voice of holy Spirit tells you too do it and the voice of Jesus tells you too do it and on an on the biblical versions of the Ennegram sins please and thank you thank you Dr. Tom Lauhue!!!

@twlahue

3 ай бұрын

Got it.

Brilliant as always! It always amazes me how insightful your lectures are. My husband is a very healthy 9w1. From my perspective as an 8w7, everything you've addressed is spot-on. It has worked for us well for over 30 years because it allows me to be the 'rocket to the moon' without my husband clipping my wings while allowing him to do what he came as a 9 to this planet to do. Enneagram rocks, and your Tom takes on it are my most favorite. Thank you for taking over Richard Rohr who's teachings were the reason for initiating my fascination with the Enneagram.

@twlahue

4 ай бұрын

WOW...Thanks so much! Glad you are on the TEAM.