Michele, you are amazing. The quality of your advice is unmatched! Thank you for being so awesome.

When I am triggered, I feel worthless. Replaceable. Sorry to be heavy, it’s just the truth

@pietmorrison5285

4 жыл бұрын

I am accustomed to working alone and I need no help from psychology. I will not spend a prolonged time waiting.

@zengrenouille

4 жыл бұрын

Worthlessness, self-loathing, and white hot terror . . . They've definitely gotten fewer and farther between for me, but I've been in a flashback since late this afternoon. This video was just what I needed today.

@EsotericOccultist

4 жыл бұрын

No need to be sorry, we appreciate your honesty.

@kalaniprice1007

4 жыл бұрын

Emily Conway agreed

@Mushroom321-

4 жыл бұрын

Yes, same here.. it's tough.. 😒 It helps to have "it out" . For you, for "us". I feel worthless in those times , defeated, inadequate. But when im not triggered i feel Empowered, strong, conquering, Assertive, valued, loved, forgiveing of self & more to other peoole. 😼❤🎉

Y'know what's even harder is experiencing emotional flashbacks when you're sick. I tried to meditate this week and I realized I couldn't focus because my head was pounding like crazy and I could not do it until I took some pain medication. This pandemic sucks so bad. But I will not give up.

@lesleygarvs4640

3 жыл бұрын

Try to rather boil water with menthol or another oil. Carefully place your pretty face under a towel and absorb these vapors. It s more natural. Or you can throw the air through your nose as hard as you can 10 times each time or as you can. Thanks🌹

When I have flashbacks now I just roll my eyes all the way to the back of my head and have to laugh at how ridiculous that all was.. I had PTSD FOR SURE for some time but I think it's turning a corner. Therapist says I'm very resilient. Thank you for this video though for all of those struggling. I only feel super emotional if I read old messages but I had to to send them to the police after the attempt to end my life. Just unreal...

@kalaniprice1007

4 жыл бұрын

Kirstin Frosheiser I’m so sorry. Has things gotten better for you?

@jme9875

4 жыл бұрын

How did you break FREE from PTSD???

@lisam.4458

4 жыл бұрын

...still going thru it...hope you can destress. .it takes a while

I remembered to talked with compassion to myself today, Michelle, as I went to the supermarket and returned without the main thing i went to buy. This inner dialogue, as you say makes a huge difference. Thank you!! 🌹♥️

This is one of the best videos on how to deal with CPTSD I’ve seen! I love that you are also putting out free content that’s so helpful. I appreciate you. :) You go further than pinpointing the problem and it’s origin. You’re giving us a step by step solution with realistic expectations. Thank you. ❤️ I’ve been dealing with emotional flashbacks my entire life without knowing what they are or why they are happening. I’ve been slowly putting the puzzle pieces together by watching a looot of youtube videos and I’m so delighted that you are giving me a very clear plan of what I approximately figured out! I have asked quite a few therapists about this issue and none of them explained this to me. Thanks again!

Thankyou so much for sharing! I really needed some clear cut directions with examples of what to say to myself to sooth myself and to integrate myself. I had no idea what to say that is loving and compassionate to myself since I've never told myself such careing words!

Your voice alone calms me down Michele thank you

My therapist told me about Kristen Neff's book Self Compassion before I even realized I had CPTSD, it was so helpful and helped me begin getting past the CPTSD before I even knew I was dealing with some of the symptoms.

Hi Michele. I'm glad to see you're doing well on your channel. I'm happy to see it growing. I only wish the best for you. You deserve the best for the the work you do, helping people out. Again, you have a great heart and I thank you. You make me believe that there are still good women in the world. Love, Raz @}~~~}~~

@sonnyca

4 жыл бұрын

Red pill only takes you so far. At some point a man has to grow up and develop emotional intelligence. It ain’t easy but it’s gotta be done!

Thank you for this video! I actually managed to stop a 3-day emotional flashback during this video, thanks to your advice.

@aliciamull4882

Жыл бұрын

That is so painfull! I know these three day Longs, in so much emotional pain that it is Impossible to describe

This is great, I think one of the best things that you can do is learn as much as you can about mental illness and narcissism. This also will help you heal it was what I did was to learn to put it all together. Best wishes

Thank you Michele for this video! I really needed this.

Thanks for the video Michele 🙂

I love and appreciate all your videos. This is tje video ive needed. Its great to finally understand whats been happening. I will keep watching as much as needed until I can Integrate and am fully healed. Thanks

Yes.. thank you.. your advice is spot on... thank you so very very much

Wow. Thank you so much. I am going to start implementing these things right away. I'm so glad I found you!

This is very practical advice and I truly appreciate every bit of knowledge received through your channel.

Awesome information!!! So necessary to learn the BEST process to effectively heal ourselves.

This video is gold, thank you so much

Thank you so much. I needed to be reminded of these simple steps that I forgot. Thank you for helping me to get back on track and begin my healing process once again. I have bookmarked this session to watch again and again. You are such a blessing--- thank you.

Thank you so much. This is really helpful.

Amazing videos thank you so much ❤️you helping so many people like me , I’ve passed this on to friends too

Michelle, thank u so much! I have been suffering so much! I took your advice and took professional help to heal from Narcissistic PTSD. I have been practicing what you have said. Even my therapist was suprised how quickly I was able to resolve this issue. I really have to thank Jesus for letting me know your channel and all the content.

I am having trouble reversing this, I find that guided sleep hypnosis and meditation helps so much too! It is hard not to think something is wrong with you or criticize yourself. thank you for making this it feels so much better to hear it from another who understands.

You’re an angel!

Thank you for explaining how to do the steps. Many tell you the steps but not how to execute them. Thank you Michelle. You calmed my morning before work. 🙏🏼

@FromSurvivingToThriving

3 жыл бұрын

Thank you for sharing that - you made my day!!! I'm so happy the tips helped you - that's what it's all about =)

Thank you, Michele

Thank you again!

Thank you so much!

Amazing video as usual!!! I feel that to deal with emotional flashback, it is important to maintain a global feeling of safeness. Using a previous tip given by Michele, I feel that asking myself "HOW am I safe now [as an adult]?" when triggered is HELPFUL, since the subconscious becomes busy at searching for proves that I am safe (which is the actual truth), instead of feeding the sympathetic reactions. Also "HOW am I an adult, in the present?" (reconnecting to sensorial inputs of the present - for persons including myself having trouble with time identification)

Thank you. Greetings from Copenhagen

" liked"!! I wish there was ❤ icon That is a "savedy mentality" icon. THANK YOU .🎉 It's creepy how this was reccommended as i needed it. 😺 I do love how you explain things Michelle!!

Amazing. This has helped as Ive been in an accident.

Am thinking more on a topic of paired associations(programming-conditioning) and triggers from my memory start to arise such things. I remember that from childhood was all the time told that saying-formula - paired association having that implication happiness mean danger - so was told that IF YOU LAUGH(are happy) TOO MUCH THEN SOON YOU WILL CRY (imply on coming danger after being happy). Direct association laughter and crying, happiness and that something bad is coming that will make you suffer and make you cry. That imply that to laugh to be happy is dangerous, and every time when you happy that there danger near buy, which hits you and hurts you, something dangerous is coming. And people around in narcissistic family and Co exactly act that way, if the see me happy they out of envy and competition do try their best to how they say to put me back on my place (place of misery, suffering and unhappiness), do hurt me to destroy my joy and happiness to make me suffer and cry. Also seems that injunction- saying(conditioning, paired association) imply that happiness is allowed very little, just in tiny bits only in very small amount, in small bits, ether way they will abuse and they will tell me that I show off, that I forgot my place, how can I be happy when they are not happy for example. So seems direct association with happiness(laughter) and pain-suffering(crying). Seems that can affect and trigger my panic attacks, flash backs when I feel happy, when I’m doing good, have success, enjoy life, get my needs met and so on. And seems that also make me self-sabotage, sabotage my progress, success, happiness - because of that paired association - good equals bad, laugher(success) do cause crying - I do not want to cry hence should avoid being happy, successful, laugh (laughter is expression of happies). For example success in my any endeavors cause happiness, laugher, joy and smiles(happiness) and that triggers anxiety that something bad is coming my way (harm that will cause me to cry). Deep topic, thank you for a video and help.

Thank you 🌹❤

Thank you ❤️

So helpful.

I'm broken beyond repair and am probably going to file for ssi in the future. Im never going to have a wife and kids and a normal family life or anything like that. Im glad you were able to work though what you went through and have a normal life but for some of us that's never going to happen. Is it okay to accept that and stop trying? I just want to withdraw from society and keep to myself.

Dealing with that a lot lately even though I left...😳😔😞

Thank you

I'm at the point in my recovery where I really needed more information on this topic. I started realizing a few weeks ago that I am going back into depression and I'm not progressing with my symptoms and emotional regulation is a constant issue for me now.

Very interesting topic and video. Thank you very much. About triggers - some ploys narcissists do use. There for example one of that bothers personally me a lot. Did anyone else encounter such ploy from narcissists that any time when you try to assert yourself to put boundaries, narcissists start to claim that you too pride full, that you have too much pride and that pride is bad (even start to appeal religious dogmas or anything like you do not respect authority figures, any crazy rules and law they invent on the fly and so on), boundaries and individuality is bad all to downplay to put you back under their thumb, to make underdog back, to maintain their superiority and superior position of top dog? How to deal with all that and defuse such tricks and ploys and toxic behavior?

In regards to shame, you made a statement (I think) that Shame was one step above death???...something like that...I tried pausing the video and lost my place. It was one of those light bulb meaningful moments for me. I just want to make sure I understood you correctly. Thank you. I'm so very thankful for these videos.

Hi Michelle, can you do a video on how you count your meridians?

Thank you for the content Michele. I am looking for a follow up video you spoke of last month at the end of "Why Toxic Parents.." saying next video is How to Handle Toxic Parents. It does not appear to be available here anymore is there a platform I can find it? If not please consider revisiting that topic and have a blessed day.

🥺🥺🥺😍😍😍😍😍♥️♥️♥️♥️♥️♥️♥️♥️♥️ Thank you for what you do

Michele so true, exactly. My dad is narcopath/sociopath/bad man. Narcs are all the same gaslighting, triangulation, stonewalling etc. Us victims have to stick together.

I feel like mindfulness was ruined for me by my old therapist who acted like the reason I was suffering was because I wasn’t meditating right even though I was suffering from trauma. I felt like I could never do it right, which makes me not want to do it.

You are a beautiful angel.

Don't give up.

I wonder if any of you have ever tried it but yesterday I tried holotropic breathwork for the first time and I kind of regret it. I fell in a huge emotional flashback. I haven't been in a so strong one in months. I feel stuck in a timeless dimension and agitated. I realize that in the past I was constantly feeling like this. Only in the last months I have learned that that's a past emotion and learned to stay in the present more.

I randomly get up from sleep n hav bad memories pouring in & it hurts so bad. I self blame, how had I let this happen to me etc. Is this flash bk too ? Cant breathe, stomach gets knotted up n hard.

I'm a handsome guy, with good morals. I'll be okay with or without a woman. Love, Raz @}~~~}~~

@angelapellino617

4 жыл бұрын

Everybody is beautiful in his own way..But non everyone had good morals. Keep your head up and your heart strong .. ;)

@EsotericOccultist

4 жыл бұрын

I like the way you think Raz

Question! Can you recommend a book for ptsd from something other then childhood abuse but something that happened with a spouse to cause PTSD ? I've tried just googling it on my own but got tons of books with mixed reviews and really trust your input the most! Trying to be vague lol sorry if it's not a clear question! 💙💙💙

You look great Michele

@soulburning2000

4 жыл бұрын

Shut up prude.

@soulburning2000

4 жыл бұрын

@KZread Police and it is you're not your dumbass.

Hey Michele I want to do one and one coaching with you. How do I sign up?

Is my right hand put upon my chest on my left hand on my stomach but it is my right and started to move and I start to feel nervous for my chest

What if after you start feeling you emotions and doing the work, the triggers and flashbacks become more frequent? I used to worry that one would come up every few months. Now I feel like I’m constantly trying to soothe myself through one of them.

I have a problem because getting attack problem I like easier to react putting up a defense quickly cuz I know that the person going to see a lot of hurtful things against me wish is my husband

❤️

What is the 'fawn' state in the fight or flight response?

Thank You Michelle, you have been so thought full, I am so Impressed with your manner Your honesty, you are v e r y Special, I pray God will make You Completely whole again Is my prayer for You, in Jesus Name Amen, 💜

Dissociation has taken over my life. I am completely unable to function and do basic tasks. Memory impairment 100% a part of it as well. I am honestly terrified of myself because I actually feel stuck. This could be the obsessive compulsive IT coming out coinciding with the symptoms of complex PTSD and borderline personality disorder… I wanted to post this in case anybody could relate… I’m so embarrassed to even say this but one example is that I’ll be sitting in my car parked for hours and hours and hours and in my head I’m thinking about all the things I want to accomplish etc., slowly, overtime things obviously got worse, this extreme absence of functionality and identity has Affected every aspect of my life: work, family, friends, soon to be divorced etc. I have an identical twin and I know I post all the time. But Michelle get so many comments maybe she’ll come across this randomly and has something to say about the research done with the association and memory impairment etc. It’s like I am just there. I honestly can’t explain it because I never understood the concept of the out of body like watching your self type of explanation, but My mind has taken over for the worse and I feel completely debilitated. There was a research study I watched a lecture on from Yale University about this topic. That’s all I could find but I brought some validation and sensitive real nice to what I was experiencing. Trying to explain to my ex-husband where I was for eight hours coming home at 4 AM with no answers, blank stare on my face etc it’s so very frustrating and confusing.

@natalie9884

4 жыл бұрын

And honestly trigger or no trigger this just happens. No matter what. I know with all my triggers are and I spent a YL in inpatient and outpatient treatment. It’s really really scary.

@aliciamull4882

Жыл бұрын

I can relate but i do feel destroying emotional pain on top of it

I wish you d stop marketing yourself in the middle of the good info you provide and thank you.

I think eating a healthy diet is important for healing the brain.

I still have nightmares over my ex.. but mens problems dont matter in this state culture.

@mommamandadawn9004

4 жыл бұрын

Wdym state culture? I'm living the nightmares.... ♡

I’m going to be 100% honest right now: certain types of people are triggering for me and you are triggering for me. Of course it’s not your fault. Your videos are necessary for me to listen to but I have to look elsewhere to not be triggered.

I'm realising my biggest trigger is this woman !

@candicejaid6107

4 жыл бұрын

@Cheetah Car exactly what I said something about how she talks and what she chooses to say really triggers ME

@lunargixx6867

4 жыл бұрын

@@candicejaid6107 lol

@staceyjones8591

4 жыл бұрын

Mike. Mad she busted you as a troll buddy. Troll on son and get some councelling

@andymoar939

4 жыл бұрын

@@staceyjones8591 Mike again. lol, I was just thinking that too.

@evanjeweiboi5660

4 жыл бұрын

What is it she does that irritate you? Surely you know what you think?