Emotional Eating: Here's What You Need to Know - with Marc David
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Emotional eating is more and more of a concern these days, and there doesn’t seem to be an easy answer when it comes to best understanding it, and how to let it go. But when we say "I'm an emotional eater," what does this actually mean? As humans, we experience a constant and ever-changing flow of emotions all day long, so it makes sense that our feelings will be there when we're eating, too. Dynamic Eating Psychology shows that the way we relate to our emotions can have a big impact on what we choose to eat and how our body processes our meal. In this illuminating new video from IPEtv, Marc David, Founder of the Institute for the Psychology of Eating, offers some unusual and unexpected insights to help us work with emotional eating in an effective and empowering way.
Want a sneak peek? Read part of the transcript below:
Greetings, friends. Marc David here, founder of the Institute for the Psychology of Eating. Let’s talk about emotional eating. I want to tell you what I think you need to know about this topic.
Now, you know emotional eating is a concern for so many people. So here’s the question: what is it? Why does it happen? And what to do about it? So how to nail this down in a few minutes or less.
So people will self-diagnose as emotional eaters. And really when somebody says, “I’m an emotional eater,” what they’re saying is, “I’m doing unwanted eating that’s driven by unwanted feelings.” I want to say that again. When people self-diagnose and say, “I’m an emotional eater,” what they’re saying is, “I am doing this unwanted eating behavior that’s driven by these unwanted feelings that I don’t like.”
Now, here’s the thing.
I want you to think about this. What’s the opposite of emotional eating? Unemotional eating? What would you do? Sit there and just be a machine and eat? So here’s the thing. We are beautifully emotional creatures. Emotional eating means you’re at a party and you’re sitting down and you’re eating with friends. And you have love. And you have nourishment. And you have warmth. That’s emotional eating.
Yeah, emotional eating might be your birthday dinner and you’re in celebration mode. There’s emotional eating. Emotional eating might be, “Yes, I come home. I had a bad day at work. And I’m stuffing my face with food because I’m all stressed.”
Now, check this out. We are emotional beings. It’s almost impossible to eat without emotions present. Now, what happens is so many of us, we don’t experience the full complement of emotions in our life. And when we’re not experiencing the emotions that I feel when my loved one, when my partner, when my parents, with the challenges of life, the good emotions, the hard emotions, when we don’t really embrace them and feel them and metabolize them, emotions around food symbolically become more important. We put all this feeling and energy and emotion into our food, thinking it’s going to make us feel good.
So what I want to say is we use food to regulate our emotional metabolism. I want to say that again. We use food to regulate our emotional metabolism. Feel bad, have food, feel better. It makes perfect sense.
So what I want to say to you is if you emotionally eat, it’s okay.
I know it’s a challenge. But I want you to know a lot of people define themselves as emotional eaters, but they’re really not. Meaning, if you’re eating poor quality food, you’re going to hunger for more because your body wants nutrition. If you’re artificially dieting and you’re not getting enough food, you’re going to be driven to eat because the brain is screaming for nutrition. It’s going to make you eat.
And then you think, “Oh, my goodness. I’m an emotional eater.” No! You’re not an emotional eater. What happened is you have not enough fat in your diet, perhaps, or not enough protein or not enough nutrient density. And then your body screams for food.
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Does anybody else just try to avoid food, but then when you eat 1 thing it feels like you've ruined your whole day and end up eating 5,000+ calories anyway
@Psychologyofeating
5 жыл бұрын
Thanks for sharing so honestly with us here. Remember to be gentle with yourself on this journey. You might like to check out this IPEtv video here: psychologyofeating.com/food-hunger-and-life-hunger-whats-the-difference-video-marc-david/
@stephaniei9126
4 жыл бұрын
All the time
@destinixshakur
4 жыл бұрын
Yep that's me
thank you for this 😊 I suffer with emotional eating. I see eating as my friend & it takes away my sadness or hurt I love this
@Psychologyofeating
8 жыл бұрын
So glad you enjoyed this and remember to be so gentle and loving with yourself on this journey! If you are ever looking for more support feel free to check out our Graduate Directory for a coach that can further support you here: directory.psychologyofeating.com/
I’m emotionally eating right now...😢
@Psychologyofeating
6 жыл бұрын
Thanks for sharing so honestly with us here and remember to be gentle with yourself on this journey. You might like to check out this IPEtv video here: psychologyofeating.com/food-is-a-doorway/
@xerilaun
6 жыл бұрын
same ;;
@Psychologyofeating
6 жыл бұрын
Thanks for sharing with us here. If you are ever looking for more support, feel free to check out our Graduate Directory for a coach you can work one on one with here: directory.psychologyofeating.com/
@Porter5habazz
6 жыл бұрын
Nurse 7Love I just finished eating. this depression is overwhelming. 4am smh
@armeme8101
6 жыл бұрын
Same.
I'm not a stress eater... I just have an unbreakable bond with food.
@Psychologyofeating
7 жыл бұрын
Thanks for sharing with us here Ashlyn.
I eat when I'm bored and stressed.
@Psychologyofeating
6 жыл бұрын
Thanks for sharing so honestly with us here Shawnay. Remember to be gentle with yourself on this journey.
@shirleymeador9956
2 жыл бұрын
I do too. I was so thin in high school. I did the opposite. Thanks for sharing 🌻🌻🌻
@snowqueen24
2 жыл бұрын
@@Psychologyofeating I'll keep that in mind.
Sooooooo how do we stop emotionally eating though???
@Psychologyofeating
6 жыл бұрын
Alicia, you might like to check out this IPEtv video here: psychologyofeating.com/whole-body-eating-video-emily. And if you are ever looking for more support, feel free to check out our Graduate Directory for a coach you can work one on one with here: directory.psychologyofeating.com
I emotionally eat do to Sadness Depression Anger Anxiety Body image disorder
@Psychologyofeating
5 жыл бұрын
Thanks for sharing so honestly with us here Akeyo. Remember to be gentle with yourself on this journey. If you're ever looking for more support, feel free to reach out to any of our coaches on our Graduate Directory here: directory.psychologyofeating.com/
Today I decided to not eat emotionally due to sadness so I grabbed a huge cup of water and started watching these videos. Thank you for this
@Psychologyofeating
6 жыл бұрын
Awesome Amanda! So glad this could feel supportive to you.
Congratulations, sir...that was the most truthful,realistic and respectful 5 mins addressing to people with eating disorders ...🙏🙏🙏
Darn.. I had hoped you would address how to identify which unmet need is driving the emotional eating. I know I eat when I need comfort but I’m not sure how to meet the need for comfort in a way that doesn’t mean eating when I’m not hungry. While I love your intention I don’t feel that your solutions or messages are all encompassing. Hope this message helps 💞
@Psychologyofeating
6 жыл бұрын
Rebecca, you might like to check out these IPEtv videos here: psychologyofeating.com/symbolic-substitutes-video-emily-rosen/, psychologyofeating.com/3-types-of-cravings-video-by-emily-rosen/ and if you are ever looking for more support, feel free to check out our Graduate Directory for a coach who you can work one on one with here: directory.psychologyofeating.com/
I love you guys and how passionate you guys are about your work, it just makes me so happy.
@Psychologyofeating
8 жыл бұрын
+Amber San Thanks so much for your kind words and thrilled you are enjoying our videos!
This is the best video on emotional eating I have come across, thank you for this!
@Psychologyofeating
5 жыл бұрын
So glad you enjoyed this!
Thank you for further explaining this issue.
@Psychologyofeating
2 жыл бұрын
So glad this felt supportive.
Thank you for this. My councillor has told me that I have anxiety and depression and that's why i turn to food, for comfort.
@Psychologyofeating
6 жыл бұрын
So glad this could feel supportive to you and remember to be gentle with yourself on this journey. You might also like to check out this IPEtv video here: psychologyofeating.com/symbolic-substitutes-video-emily-rosen/
thank you for this...so much i wasnt dealing with
@Psychologyofeating
8 жыл бұрын
So glad you enjoyed this and remember to be gentle and loving with yourself on this journey!
I appreciate it!
@Psychologyofeating
Жыл бұрын
So glad you enjoyed this!
this really helped me!! thanks a lot
@Psychologyofeating
8 жыл бұрын
+Darla Thrilled you enjoyed this!
You made me feel so much better about this. I have had a bad relationship with food since I was very young. I never really understood it but listening to this it's given me a little bit more understanding. When it comes to something like this, I considered talking to a councellor as it is effecting my mental state and my confidence in myself. Do you think it could help?
@Psychologyofeating
6 жыл бұрын
So glad this could feel supportive to you! You can definitely explore talking to a counselor and feel free to check out our Graduate Directory for a coach who can further support you here: directory.psychologyofeating.com/
It's informative and helpful
@Psychologyofeating
15 күн бұрын
So glad you found this supportive! 💜
ty this was helpful
@Psychologyofeating
6 жыл бұрын
So glad this could feel supportive to you!
"We use food to regulate our emotional metabolism." - I love that. So true. It seems like most people I interact with who call themselves emotional eaters are trying to diet, like you mentioned. I've personally found that when I learned to trust myself and ditch the dieting mentality, I was freed! Thank you for this wonderful video!
@Psychologyofeating
8 жыл бұрын
So glad you enjoyed this and thanks for sharing your insights and wisdom here! You might also enjoy this IPEtv video here: psychologyofeating.com/the-nutritional-value-of-trust-video-marc/
@kaleandcupcake
8 жыл бұрын
Thank you, I will check that one out as well!
this is. real thing good info
@Psychologyofeating
2 жыл бұрын
So glad you enjoyed this!
Hello! can you please make a video on emotions and what each feels like and how I can deal with each. I know I have emotions but I don't know how to deal with them because I don't know how to label what I'm feeling , so I hardly ever get things resolved and left in the past
@Psychologyofeating
7 жыл бұрын
Thanks for reaching out! Feel free to check out these IPEtv videos here: psychologyofeating.com/psychology-symptoms-4-psychological-types-video-emily-rosen/, psychologyofeating.com/what-is-emotional-metabolism-video/, psychologyofeating.com/strange-things-that-make-you-gain-weight-emotional-constipation-video-with-marc-david/, psychologyofeating.com/emotional-eating-heres-what-you-need-to-know-video-marc-david/
Hi Marc David, Great point of view on this subject. Thanks! GGG
@Psychologyofeating
8 жыл бұрын
+Go Getter-Girl Thrilled you enjoyed this!
I have found your work and I am so 😊. Finally something I resonate with. Marc I read an article you wrote about food and guilt which was fascinating. I am trying to challenge my orthorexic tendencies, do you have any tips or videos you can recommend to deal with the guilt I have every time I eat something? my 'mean girl' over analyses and criticises me which is so tiring but I'm trying to let go of her now ☺ thank you so much!
@Psychologyofeating
8 жыл бұрын
+Blanche Darwin So glad you found us! Remember to send send yourself so much compassion on this journey. You might enjoy checking out this IPEtv video here: psychologyofeating.com/what-is-orthorexia-video-emily-rosen/ and if you're ever looking for more support feel free to check out our Graduate Directory for a coach that can support you here: directory.psychologyofeating.com/
I’m stress eating right now thanks
@Psychologyofeating
6 жыл бұрын
Thanks for sharing so honestly with us here and remember to be gentle with yourself on this journey. You might like to also check out this IPEtv video here: psychologyofeating.com/food-is-a-doorway/
Hi Emily and Marc, I am a huge fan of the both of you and I want to firstly start by congratulating you for all the good that you have done. I have some questions I would like to ask. Firstly, I am unsure whether I have a food addiction or not? Or maybe I simply just have self control problems. You see whenever I am around food ,especially processed foods, I have a hard time controlling myself my mind and body. I just go into auto pilot mode and I eat excessively. I also eat when I am feeling upset, ashamed, disappointed, stressed... It leaves me not only feeling worse because afterwards, not only does the original emotional issue remain, but I also feel guilty for overeating. I also get food cravings, I know I dont need to eat it, that my body does not require it but my mind just overpowers everything... I have read a few articles and watched a few videos on how to overcome food addiction but I still do not know how to overcome this, to the point that I feel like giving up on myself but at the same time I know that breaking from this food addiction/emotional eating cycle is too important to me. You see I am really trying to be eat clean and lead a healthy lifestyle but all these old bad habits are just impeding my success. I have the discipline to workout for one or even two hours everyday but this battle that I am facing right now is a hard one. I dont believe in starving myself, I believe in the "eat better not less" philosophy. I am really trying to feed my body with real and whole foods so that I can treat my body with love and respect. I really hope you can help me with this, maybe recommend some videos or specific podcasts to listen to.
@Psychologyofeating
8 жыл бұрын
+Amber San Thanks for reaching out and sharing so honestly here! Remember to send yourself so much compassion and love on this journey with food and body. You might enjoy checking out these #IPEtv videos here: psychologyofeating.com/food-addiction-made-super-simple/, psychologyofeating.com/symbolic-substitutes-video-emily-rosen/ and if you're ever looking for more support feel free to check out our Graduate Directory for a coach that can support you here: directory.psychologyofeating.com/
thank you so much. that is super helpful. Will you be running your 'Transform your relationship with food' course soon? thank you x
@Psychologyofeating
8 жыл бұрын
+Blanche Darwin So glad you enjoyed this and found it helpful! Any questions you have about our programs feel free to email us at info@psychologyofeating.com and we can support you there!
What I eat does not define me.
@Psychologyofeating
6 жыл бұрын
Thanks for sharing with us here Shawnay.
Good video 👍
@Psychologyofeating
8 жыл бұрын
+faiza dalvi So glad you enjoyed this!
is hiding with people to eat at the middle of the night and restrict calories and save calories tip midnight to eat my night munchies while relaxing at bed is called emotional eating? do you need to take Lexapro or anti depressant medicine to be relaxed?
@Psychologyofeating
7 жыл бұрын
Thanks for reaching out! Anything that we potentially hide form others is something that can have a lot of power around it and can be explored to see what that pattern has to teach you. You might like to check out this IPEtv video here: psychologyofeating.com/symbolic-substitutes-video-emily-rosen/. You can explore and discover what would support you on your journey in feeling relaxed and these things can include yoga, meditation, deep breathing, physical movement. If you are ever looking for more support feel free to check out our Graduate Directory for a coach that can support you here: directory.psychologyofeating.com/
A little TMI...I emotionally eat when I'm PMSing. I want to eat everything in sight, even if it doesn't taste that good! 😝😂
@Psychologyofeating
2 жыл бұрын
Thanks for sharing so honestly with us here and you're not alone in this experience!
When j eat it makes me feel better cus im taking care of myself. I dpnt eat when im Stressed or depressed
@Psychologyofeating
5 жыл бұрын
Thanks for sharing with us here.
👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽
@Psychologyofeating
8 жыл бұрын
+J Leena So glad you enjoyed this!
I emotional eating because my mom said she love my older brother-most and his birthday if before my birthday there trowing his birthday party and for my birthday she not even buying me a cake but I won’t be on earth longer 💗💗💗💗
@morganreid1037
6 жыл бұрын
Karen Martinez 💔 so sorry, Karen. You are wanted and sooo worthy of love. Your mom has wounds and wrong thinking she needs to heal and correct. You are a gift
@Psychologyofeating
6 жыл бұрын
Thanks for sharing so honestly with us here Karen. Remember to be so gentle and loving with yourself during this time. If you are ever looking for more support feel free to check out our Graduate Directory for a coach you can work one on one with here: directory.psychologyofeating.com/
My sister is an emotional eater. After we argue she goes to eat a bowl of fudge.
@Psychologyofeating
2 жыл бұрын
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5 minutes?! can i eat cake and cry or not?, all i wanna know
@Psychologyofeating
6 жыл бұрын
Thanks for reaching out here and remember to be gentle with yourself on this journey. You might like to check out this IPEtv video here: psychologyofeating.com/symbolic-substitutes-video-emily-rosen/
Just found out my partner is cheating so onion rings and pizza are comforting me right now
@Psychologyofeating
2 жыл бұрын
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